I wrote these for myself but figured I would share in case they are useful to others.

1. Courage is always more important than confidence. If you don't ask the answer is always no.

2. Make seizing opportunity a religion

3.Never allow yourself to care about someone more than they care about you.The sooner you let go of someone who is a waste of your time, the sooner you can find someone worthwhile.

1. Approach women as an exercise in curiosity rather than in anticipation of results. Have a "lets see what happens" attitude. See dating and approach as an experiment.

2. Ultimately its a numbers game. There is always another woman. Try to keep multiple options, avoid a crush or putting one on a pedestal.

3. Any given woman is using or manipulating you until proven otherwise. Guard yoiur heart, your wallat and your time and energy. If you get manipulated its your fault!

4. Do what you can, with what you have, where you are. Complaining about things you truly cannot change is useless.Change what you can step by step, small steps accumulate.

5. You prosper by meeting others half-way, no more no less. Ultimately all you can do is invite someone into your life.

6. Shoot your shot before it turns into a crush! If it does happen to be a crush, shoot your shot anyway, if it doesn't pan out, it forces you to move on sooner than later.

7. No response-is a response, albeit a discourteous one.

8. Ask women on an actual date and let that be the reason to exchange numbers. Ask for the date after a bit of conversation ideally. The better the conversation the more rapport you have and the more likely she keeps your date.

9. She expects you to plan the date-have a plan! Know where you are taking her. And once a date, time and location is established ask: " Do you prefer to meet there or be picked up?" The venues you visit together in one night the longer it feels like you have known each other.

10. Women that like you show up! They make themselves available and don't flake. Sometimes life happens to women too and they must cancel plans. But never ask a woman out more than twice.

11. Go for the kiss and be sexual or get friend zoned.

12. Leadership ambition and a positive attitude are the most attractive qualities a man can possess. Invest in developing these qualities.

13. Waiting 3-5 days between calls and text every time is free mysteriousness and non-neediness rolled into one

14. Never ask if she has a boyfriend. If a woman tells you she has a boyfriend just say: " If you're happy, I am happy for you". Its the non-neediest thing you can say.

15. A woman's interest can be raised as long as its better than neutral. But once below neutral its game over. Women are highly obstinate.

    1. If you ever happen to approach a woman who gets excessively defensive or angry, take one big giant very noticable step backwards. It diffuses, makes her feel safe and tells her you understand with body language.

16. Don't feel obligated to be exclusive unless she brings it up. And if you bring it up because its what you want it still comes off as needy. So leave that talk up to her. She will bring it up if and when its important to her.

17. Have something in your life you care about as much or more than sex/women or finding a relationship