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For some reason, I read this in Cathy Newman's voice.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen26/01/18 06:00 PM
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I read that and all I could think about was one of those really convoluted soap opera plots. That her "baby daddy" (what an awful term) is literally her neighbour suggests that she'll jump on any swinging dick. I read about these types of women, but always second hand, never direct from the mouth. One of the commentors: Number 1- Do NOT online date. Its mostly men looking for hookups, and you're more likely to pick them bc they have better photos etc so the nice guys get overlooked as boring Her…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen25/01/18 06:56 PM
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When the socializing can't break free the confines of the bar scene and alcohol there's an issue.
/r/RedPillWomen25/01/18 03:20 AM
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Boy meets a girl, he gets to know her as a single woman first and foremost, but they are NOT in an exclusive relationship solely for the reason that the concept of an exclusive relationship already means engagement/marriage. They date but they don't have a life together. They are still technically single even though they are dating. When the man feels ready, he asks her to marry him and then they build a life together because of the marriage. In a sense the relationship doesn't really happen unt…
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/18 11:52 PM
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Question - why do you spend time at bars? (From my understanding, bars are similar to restaurants, but more focus on alcohol than food.) I'm older than you and the last time I was at a bar was a couple of years ago, and that was only because I was forcing myself out. Maybe I'm just an old country girl, but I find it pretty sad that people can't find anything else to do other than spend money on booze. Don't feel rude declining shots. It's pretty tacky to constantly be doing shots and it sounds l…
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/18 06:31 PM
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Red flag. If he is a trper, be sure he is trying to get sex from you. That is their number 1 goal. Pretty much this. If you browse TRP, you'll know that they only want sex. You are likely one of many women he's trying to get with. He will pump and dump you. Especially when you say "We ended up flirting (and sexting even haha). He's saying we should meet up (and do it) sometime next month." We clicked instantly I'd say, messaged very regularly almost daily. We have a lot in common, we're on the s…
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/18 06:35 PM
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No worries! :) Sometimes I over analyze things and my feelings. Me too. Both good and bad but I think it can provide a lot of insight to your and other's behaviours. I think way too much about things but I've learned to be less anxious about it and have found it really helps in tough situations. Instead of flying off the hook in anger, I'm a lot more reflective: "I feel anger over this action because of these root problems." It’s my preferred way of eating, and now that I think of it, I felt a l…
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/18 07:33 PM
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Hormonal birth control threw me off for a while too. Changing my diet helped getting me back on track. I cut out all sugary snacks and my body naturally drifted towards a keto like diet. (I basically eat just fats and meat with a few complex carbs. It'll take me a week to eat a chocolate bar, it's just too much for me now.) This is what works for me; I have friends who thrive off more vegan centric diets. If you are in tune with your body, you'll be able to pinpoint what works best for you. If y…
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/18 06:55 PM
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For any female lurkers reading this - it takes an insane amount of dedication both on hours at the gym and hours meal prepping and understanding macros and caloric intake for a woman to get "big muscles". You don't turn into Iris Kyle by picking up ten pound dumbbells. It took her decades of intelligent planning and hours at the gym and drugs to get to where she is today. I've been going to the gym 4/5 days a week for about 45min+ each time for three years and I've only gained ten pounds of musc…
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/18 06:21 PM
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men like me were what was wrong with american society lol if I had casually mentioned on a date that "the last time I was at this restaurant was with one of my hookers" she would have ended the date on the spot and probably slapped me. He should have. After clarifying her sugar daddy comment, he should have enthusiastically said "oh wow! what a coincidence! I was here last week with Krystal! Maybe you know her?"
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen19/01/18 07:50 PM
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All that after ONE date. Clingier than styrofoam beads.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen19/01/18 07:42 PM
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What hamster insanity is this? The Projection Hamster. I'd put money that Mr Packer has a very large room, rent free, in her head. She can legitimately believe and state that he needs to leave her alone because she is constantly thinking of him. I love this subreddit, check daily and I've got to say that this is the most fascinating of what I've seen here. Kate Fischer {Tziporah Malkah} Interview The Project 1 February 2017 (James Packer comes up at 2:30, her reaction is priceless.) You've got t…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen18/01/18 10:00 PM
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Re: coffees, yes, I now do feel those spending habits are irresponsible, hence the arguing about it... it's because we had been mirroring the spending habits of those in our income bracket / our friends, and as mentioned, we usually have very high incomes. Where did he come from? You situation sounds similar to mine - my man makes a lot of money but also likes to spend a lot of money. For me, the reason is simple - he worked, hard, to get where he was (living and working in war zones) and has a …
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/18 07:06 PM
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I needed to find out more about this, and came across: Kate Fischer tells: “James Packer wants me back” She’s double her size, twice as happy, and wants ex-fiancé James Packer out of her life. The model formerly known as Kate Fischer has lashed out at her ex, billionaire James Packer, asking him to leave her alone – 18 years after he broke off their engagement and paid her millions of dollars to keep the details secret. “James Packer will do anything to continue to be associated with me!” she cl…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen18/01/18 12:34 AM
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Haha, okay okay, then. He's a brilliant 34 year old jobless man that can't help around the house and is so childish that he can't have a discussion without being emotional. So brilliant. Such strength.
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/18 11:56 PM
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Sounds like a smart loser. Smart that he's got a sugar momma letting him milk her and a loser because he's 34 years old and can't sort himself out. Here's the tough love: Lose him. He is a leech and childish and you are letting him walk all over you. Your therapist should have suggested that you try respecting yourself instead of pushing medication. Edit to add what your therapist should have also mentioned: It seems that you would rather deal with the aforementioned problems than face the prosp…
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/18 11:54 PM
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Perhaps you should unload him? He doesn't work or contribute to the finances, he doesn't help out around the house, he doesn't have sex with you, he doesn't find you attractive... What exactly does he contribute to the relationship other than angst and frustration?
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/18 11:34 PM
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It's a play that women will bypass completely fine men who are available because of their fickle and unrealistic criteria. Think about all the great men who get "friend zoned".
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen10/01/18 05:16 PM
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Not sure what fat injections into your butt will do for your hips. Your hips are bone, nothing you can do about your bone structure. Edit: THICK THIGHS & BIG GLUTES WORKOUT | Killer Lower Body Exercises!
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/18 05:12 PM
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brazilian butt lift Just go to the gym. A girl and now friend of mine from my gym had a flat pancake butt and now I think her glutes are bigger than mine. Honestly, many of the after photos of BBL look unsightly and the ones that don't, you could easily get better results (both looks wise and long term health wise) at the gym. ("Toned" legs and a firm butt, instead of two jello cups on two noodles.) http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-4184986/Abby-Pollak-s-butt-photos-impressive.html https…
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/18 05:58 AM
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Thank you. I'd also mention Melania Trump. Her and Donald remind me a lot of Morticia and Gomez. He being more colorful, her being demure and calm, just like Gomez and Morticia. Political leaning aside, he's definitely the boss in the relationship but she's no doormat and there's great respect between the two. "That's the rock" - Donald Trump speaking of Melania Trump. Donald and Melania Trump's 2005 interview as newlyweds {CNN Larry King Live full interview} (16minutes)
/r/RedPillWomen08/01/18 06:02 PM
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Morticia Addams.
/r/RedPillWomen08/01/18 03:09 AM
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If serious, and for those women who are lurking: do something about that frizzy hair. Go to r/Hair or r/CurlyHair for advice. Get a proper cut and style; I'd suggest something with bangs or side fringe. get rid of the choker or if it's a sweater, go for V necks. Also ditch the shoes. (Other than doing something athletic, shoes like that are usually worn by fat people in track pants that have given up on life. Do you want to be associated with that?) Look at books and websites on body types and h…
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen05/01/18 05:51 PM
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Along with what everyone else has said, I'll add: spend his money wisely. Do not insult him by ordering the cheapest item on your birthday dinner (happy birthday!), but don't also have a hay day and choose all the most expensive items. Graciously accept his gift of spending money on you, it will make him feel masculine. Graciously spend his money economically and it will make him feel like he's made a smart investment in being with you.
/r/RedPillWomen05/01/18 03:25 AM
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But I don't want to start gambling with attracting my version of Chad and ending up 30 and alone when the man in front of me can definitely be close enough. You'll lose that gamble. No one is perfect and you probably don't tick all of his boxes, especially with: I'm not in the best shape right now even if I'm of average weight and don't bring too many feminine skills to the table But you tick enough boxes for him to stick around and to allude to marrying you. You should give him the same. From m…
/r/RedPillWomen19/12/17 05:29 AM
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Not trying to insult as I'm sure he's a great guy. None taken and you'd have to try mighty hard to; I've very thick skin ;) Body wise, compared to the woman pictured, she's really skinny-fat. I'm built more like Jessica Biel with obliques and more back muscle. Face wise, I've no idea who I'd look similar to; I've been told often I've got that "unique" (not exotic) look. If I saw you in real life I probably wouldn’t think anything other than that’s a nice looking couple Thank you. My hamster star…
/r/RedPillWomen17/12/17 01:09 AM
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He's a pretty lucky dude. But why? He could easily get the same body frame with a girl who knows how to dress it and wears makeup and does her hair.
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/17 10:46 PM
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I'm mid thirties, though I'm often mistaken for late 20's. (My SO thought I was a few years younger, and would have guess younger, but he had hints at my actual age.) It's just odd that I get zero confident "I want to date you" approaches from the average man. When I look around at the couples most are evenly matched by SMV within a point or two. I'm 5'6, 125lbs, 19%bf with "toned" muscles, though I wear zero make up, typically have my shoulder length hair down and my fashion sense is... well, i…
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/17 10:37 PM
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A woman's SMV can be determined/estimated by the relative SMV of the males she is easily able to attract in a natural environment. I wondered about this as I attract the complete opposite of the spectrums. If I count in the last year men who have openly, full on, expressed their desire in me (opposed to men who are just "nice" and their niceness is no different to my male friends who are in happy relationships), I have homeless man who lives in the woods, a drug addict who gets so anxious he nee…
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/17 09:28 PM
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Expect to make some changes and reconsider your financial plans and remember to be flexible. Look at the financial situation through other people's perspectives and you will be able to make good adjustments. Thank you! My weekly horoscope had mentioned finances as well. Annd, with the season, I've been a bit spendy and not my usual frugal self. Life is weird. Thank you again and sorry for the late reply - been busy trying to stay out of trouble! ;)
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/17 09:14 PM
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I don't know how to make this happen with someone I'm sitting down to feel out if we'd be a good match? Online dating and blind dates are super awkward. I've done both and I hate them. Try to meet people organically - out in the real world. Smile, make small chat, etc. and allow him an open to ask more about you and get a number. If you do have an online profile, you can write something like "if you see me around, feel free to say hi". I did that and it worked okay and thankfully no creepers. I …
/r/RedPillWomen25/11/17 05:33 AM
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It is against reddit rules to 'out' someone by stating account A is run by the same person as account B. It's not the same as doxxing a person's real identity. That makes sense. I didn't see that in the content policy and have never heard of the term doxxing used outside of revealing actual identities.
/r/RedPillWomen25/11/17 01:00 AM
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Why is linking her main account doxxing but posting from the main account is not doxxing? I'm not sure how it would recreate the same problem as her main account wouldn't have the post in the post history, which is what she's worried about?
/r/RedPillWomen25/11/17 12:37 AM
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Perhaps just easier to have her link the other account, so that we have the information and she saves face against the Tolerant Left™?
/r/RedPillWomen25/11/17 12:19 AM
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From the removed post: I've contributed and lurked for a while but I recently made a separate account for this sub due to how judgmental people can be after viewing my post history. It sounds like she's posted her before on her main Reddit.com account and she gets harassed in other subReddits not here at RPW. So she's made a separate account just to post on RPW so that when she posts elsewhere, her RPW posts don't show up. I believe most people who post here do the same: a "main" Reddit account …
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/17 11:05 PM
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Welcome! My family members By this, do you mean just the women or the men too? First, don't give them kindling for the fire. Don't say anything about your boyfriend, good and especially bad. People like that are miserable and misery loves company so even if your boyfriend cured cancer, they'd turn it around to moan about how pharmaceutical companies had to lay off all their employees. If they get their teeth into something, you could try agree and amplify with just plain silliness: "Why, yes, he…
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/17 09:29 PM
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Oh! My thoughts are with you and your family. I hope all gets well soon. Thank you for doing this this month with all the hectic-ness. <3 My question if you have time - what do the next six months hold for me (life/relationship)?
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/17 05:42 PM
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I expect what I give. I am in great shape, I want my man to be in at least good shape. I'm punctual, I want my man to be timely; I'm clean and tidy, I expect the same from him. I am courteous to those who serve me (baristas, food servers, etc.) and I certainly expect my man to do the same. I make my own money and am frugal in spending it - I want the same from him. I can't be fat and slothenly and expect Henry Cavill to wait on my beck and call. Of course, this comes with a caveat. Relationships…
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/17 05:35 PM
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Hmmm, if you're deflecting you can either just respond to the non sexual parts of his text or if it's all sexual, I'd just ignore it completely. He could also just be textually inept. You could try and meet him in a public place and see if he's different in person.` How my SO texts and how he acts in person are two very different planets; actually, if I met him online and my only correspondence was through the computer, I'd probably wouldn't be interested in him at all. `I always planned these '…
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/17 03:08 AM
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he keeps turning the conversation sexual Examples please? I presume this is over text?
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/17 01:06 AM
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Welcome! Is there anything else I can do to move forward from my past and become a better woman? Thanks :) Become a better woman. That's it. Unless you have a time machine. Which, if you did, still do the above. :)
/r/RedPillWomen22/11/17 09:49 PM
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virginity doesn't mean anything special to a man Au contraire my good friend.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen22/11/17 08:30 PM
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Deciem has a range of products that aren't quite makeup, but sorta are: http://deciem.com/category/skincare/finishers (Find them on Facebook to ask them the differences if you're confused.) Also grab a Vitamin C serum. I've been using Vitamin C daily now and my complexion is a lot brighter and even. I've had people ask if I'm wearing makeup. I hear really good things about Timeless though I use Indeed's C24. (Indeed also has a blurring product too.) And of course, top everything off with sunscre…
/r/RedPillWomen22/11/17 07:20 PM
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Welcome to RPW and welcome to the USA! We're almost neighbours :) It's definitely hard to find red pilled folk over here. I'm pretty much on my own. Another good book is For Women Only. Like u/mrpthrowa said, if you are more submissive, then your husband will naturally want to fill the dominance void.
/r/RedPillWomen21/11/17 10:46 PM
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Yes, though I know from my own experience that a tight lipped BFF is worth their weight in gold. I have a few confidants that I talk to about my relationship, granted it's more me oriented than him oriented and it's helped keep my anxiousness at bay so that my SO gets the calm & collected me. :)
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/17 08:09 PM
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Citation please.
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/17 07:38 PM
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Outside perspectives don't see the whole picture, because they're only seeing it from your point of view (and just by the way you tell it). However, quality outside perspectives know exactly how you are and give it to you straight and not enable bad behaviour.
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/17 06:16 PM
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Welcome! I've been told I look "stoic." I hear ya. Plenty of people think I am unemotional, cold, distant, etc. Do you categorize people? I have a categorizing system with people: neutral friendly, friendly, actual friends, good friends, intimate partner. You start people off at the bottom and adjust where they with each category or level which has different access to "me". You could try something like that. Neutral friendly and friendly get warm greetings, smiles, and some personalized, but not…
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/17 07:43 PM
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This is exactly why they want refugees. They don't have children {or a man} to love and take care of, so they use the refugees as a replacement.
/r/TheRedPill18/11/17 05:19 AM
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u/Cardiscappa covered most of it (because she knows what's up) but I'll add these: Thank you! What I posted was draft #3 as I wasn't sure how detailed I should get. I think you did a great job on expanding what I wrote. :)
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/17 02:55 AM
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Be vocal: say his name, "mmmm!", "yes, right there!", so forth Don't starfish: A friend told me a story of him having sex with a woman and she literally laid on the bed with her legs open and her arms outstretched. My friend was so weirded out that he needed to leave. Actually move: Move your hips, squirm, run your finger tips down his back, grab his butt, stroke the back of his neck, kiss him, etc. Basically - enjoy yourself. Don't star fish, don't over think it, you'll be fine. :)
/r/RedPillWomen17/11/17 10:03 PM
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Oh. My. Lord. That is hilarious!!! xD
/r/RedPillWomen17/11/17 05:02 PM
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here will come a time when the idea of pining over this particular guy becomes mildly amusing at most. Yep. I thought this one particular guy was The One™. I was devastated when it didn't work out. He seemed perfect in every way - tall, dark, handsome, great body, "Alpha™", great job, driven, the whole works. However, I realized I dodged a major bullet as after I did my cry and ate my tub of ice cream. All the red flags that I missed became very clear. I'm very thankful for the whole experience …
/r/RedPillWomen16/11/17 11:46 PM
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The question remains, how can I get over this dude, romantically? Cry, eat one tub of ice cream and then get on with your life. It's okay to feel hurt and sad, feel those feelings, but move on with your life. Take this time to self reflect and build yourself to be a better person. Like the guys at AskTRP say, lifting is great because you get to release pent up energy and get yourself looking hot and sexy at the same time. Take this time to withdraw: read books, learn a language or a musical inst…
/r/RedPillWomen16/11/17 05:56 PM
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"How ambitious are you?: Ambitious" But not ambitious enough to clean your house or to put a modicum of energy into nice photos. Or to have post secondary education.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen14/11/17 12:00 AM
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Glad I could help! :) The cauliflower one is SO simple. I just brown a bit of onion, toss in the cauliflower, brown that and then add some water and a few cubes of chicken stock. Use the hand blender when it's all soft and mushy and grate some cheddar in there. (I always blend before the cheese.) I will also put in chunks of cheddar in so you'll get a big chunk of gooey cheese every now and then. I use this "rugged" cheddar from Scotland and it's so delicious. I can get two days' worth of soup f…
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/17 01:14 AM
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Thank you very much. The hot cocoa smells really rich. It reminds me of the "moose droppings" my mother would make. I wish I had some thick whipped cream to top it with, but I will live. ;) I also like "warm" music - Ludovico Einaudi. Experience is my favourite track from that album. I also like the Cafe Jazz channel. Edit: Oh! You can also get crystals to hang in the window to bounce light and rainbows. I think it looks really pretty and adds a splash of light and colour. You can get them cheap…
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/17 02:51 AM
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This is great. I love the mid century modern (Scandinavian) style with all the teak and try to have that style as my skeleton and work around it. I haven't painted, so my walls are still a off white, but I kind of like it with the wood furniture and accents I have. I always found pure beeswax candles are fantastic with a very gentle clean and sweet scent. I've upped my sweater game this year too. I managed to get some thicker, but not cardboard box thick, sweaters. Much more than what I would ev…
/r/RedPillWomen12/11/17 01:59 AM
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Congrats! And very inspiring. :) I have a Facebook with only a handful of friends. I use it mostly to get my news (I'm subscribed to several news pages). It's the only social media account I have. I have this account and a YouTube account that I'm subscribed to channels like Dave Rubin. I rarely use my phone outside of text communication. Even with just the three, I don't believe I have it under control; I'm addicted to information and learning and I find the Internet to be too easy to get lost …
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/17 08:46 PM
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(check out her Micheal Jackson routine, it's amazing!). WOW. !!! Not weight lifting, you might like Felix Cane and her pole dance routine. Iris Kyle also has a boyfriend. :)
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/17 08:38 PM
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crossfit There's your problem right there ;) I kid, I kid. There's plenty of guys that will automatically cross you off their list because of this. Do you feel that you would be compatible with them outside of that? Maybe, maybe not. There's plenty of men that will want you just because you lift though you might not be compatible outside of that. You do you and don't stop doing what you love because a couple of men may turn their noses up to you. If you have a feminine attitude and general femin…
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/17 07:24 PM
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Jealous! I live where it gets very cold and it's hard to find a balance between not freezing extremities off and looking nice. Most sweaters I come across are either tshirts with sleeves or so thick and cumbersome you might as well be wearing cardboard box. The new fashion with the sweaters with no shoulders just make me shake my head, girl, you gonna get damn cold. So I vote yes Make an effort! I do too! I just brought up that the opening post stated dressing "up to the nines at all times" whic…
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/17 05:30 PM
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Welcome! I really liked For Women Only. You can also check out this link list. :)
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/17 08:20 AM
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I'm slightly bewildered by why you had such a hostile reaction to my thread, Blunt, not bitter. Best to read my posts in a Vulcan voice. Again I never said anything about impossible ideals or a fabricated history that only ever existed in movies and television. Quote: "So, single women, if you want a relationship with a good man, are you willing to dress up to the nines at all times? Full outfit, hair, makeup to look stunning? " Dressing to the nines would mean steps above slovenly as well as st…
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/17 07:33 AM
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Hey! Sorry for not seeing this until now. Congratulations x2 ;) I wish you and yours a very happy and healthy pregnancy and births. I very much appreciate your response. I was raised that asking about finances was frowned upon. I understand it's a bit tacky to talk about in some cases, but it helps so that you can adjust your sails to keep going in your right direction.
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/17 06:37 AM
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So, single women, if you want a relationship with a good man, are you willing to dress up to the nines at all times? Full outfit, hair, makeup to look stunning? Are you willing to be receptive to his sexual advances and never turn to the "I'm PMSing" excuse? Are you willing to respect and adore him? Are you willing to go above and beyond to show him that you care? Are you willing to put yourself out there and take calculated risks to get a good man's attention? This is slightly ridiculous. If yo…
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/17 06:31 AM
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I understand you point here, but you need to remove the bulk of your last paragraph. Reply to this comment after you have done so and I will re-approve it. Why?
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/17 05:48 AM
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Every post about relationship advice assumes that women here are perfect red-pilled housewives, and they deserve much more than what they are getting. On the contrary. There's plenty of examples around that I'm not sure if you've actually read more than one thread here.
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/17 04:57 AM
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It's very frustrating to hear her be called a gold digger when she's anything but. I liked how Donald said that she's never taken advantage of his money and how neither said they are fearful of the other flirting or having inappropriate relations. I just loved how she said "when you marry a man like Donald, you need to know who you are .... he can rely on me sometimes." And with Donald's work "I don't want to change him... I want to give him space; I think it's very important to the relationship…
/r/RedPillWomen06/11/17 06:48 PM
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I would just like to know that this isn't going to be a deal breaker and that a not perfect woman who has occasional emotional instability can still be seen as wife material. That's up to your boyfriend to decide. No one's perfect. However, it's not pleasant to have to walk on eggshells. Again, on he can decide if he wants to "put up" with it.
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/17 10:31 PM
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The fights are trivial Why are you giving your time and energy to something trivial? sometimes his teasing hits a nerve/my ego Self reflect on why this causes you such emotional turmoil. Think on what set this off initially, usually something in childhood. Learn to stop being insecure about these {trivial} teasings.
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/17 10:25 PM
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Basically he occasionally sees this "monster" side of me Uhhhhh..... are we talking like screaming and tempter tantrums of a toddler? and I'm so afraid that because I'm not this perfect peaceful woman, he won't take me seriously. If you're rolling on the ground like a child that was told no to the candy at the check out, then no one will ever take you seriously. Are you tracking your period? If not, do so. I'm guessing a lot of your emotional instability has to do with your cycle. The period tra…
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/17 10:17 PM
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Congrats on your bun in the oven! How do you go about with your own spending? I like being able to splurge on skin care and clothing sales. I wouldn't know what to do if I had to ask to be able to do this (especially since you need to be quick with some sales,) instead of knowing how much I make and how much I have left over after everything is paid and deciding from there. With a shared account, I'd feel too guilty about wanting such luxuries that I couldn't buy anything. (I cringe thinking abo…
/r/RedPillWomen02/11/17 03:59 AM
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So happy you got better! <3 I do feel like everyone is looking at me When people look or talk about you, it says more about them than it does about you. Just remember that everyone has insecurities and what you see is only the edited version. Think of it like a Facebook timeline - many couples will post happy vacation photos to give the illusion that they're not wildly unhappy and in financial ruin.
/r/RedPillWomen01/11/17 10:43 PM
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Congrats on your weight gain. :) Why are you insecure? Do you think other people are looking at you and judging you? New flash: no one cares; people are too busy thinking about their own insecurities to nitpick yours.
/r/RedPillWomen01/11/17 08:59 PM
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I think it's not a coincidence that my mom's friend was suddenly afterwards intensely unhappy with her husband, they're constantly fighting now, and AFAIK have hired someone to take the light fixture down because they didn't want to look at it anymore. That's so sad. Regret on not vetting properly and despair for not stacking up. Hopefully this can be a learning experience for both to make towards a happier marriage.
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/17 07:28 PM
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I think it's pretty obvious in OP's previous post that he is not suggesting segregating flights on the basis of gender. I just find it funny that two opposing gendered people sitting beside each other on a flight will "likely build sexual tension". I can't think of a flight where I haven't sat beside a man and we'll either mutually ignore each other or strike up a conversation, no tension or touching involved. I think I'm pretty in tune with body language and desires, but never have I thought th…
/r/RedPillWomen29/10/17 07:39 PM
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Why the snarkiness? There is no snarkiness. It's fact that Muslim men do not like to touch women that are not their wife. You say so yourself: "The religious seem to be the only ones who have actual clearly defined lines." Acting like "a grown up" is the antithesis of "clear lines". You'll have to explain how you see acting mature being opposite of having clear lines. Additionally, my observation is that women tend to touch the arms of men while talking, far more than men touch the arms of women…
/r/RedPillWomen29/10/17 04:45 PM
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In that way of thinking, the line is drawn to even exclude handshakes. This is the West, not the Middle East. Where do you draw the line and why? Depends on the context. Man I don't like and I've never met before touches me immediately? I'm not really down with that. Man who I've know for a while wants to tell me something and is so excited that he reaches out and touches my arm? That's totally fine. What are your opinions on touch and seclusion with the opposite gender? I think we need to act l…
/r/RedPillWomen29/10/17 04:27 PM
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You disrespected him greatly. He wanted to provide for you, provide something you wanted and something he made and you laughed at him. You laughed and mocked him being a man. I'd recommend reading For Women Only. There's an entire chapter on respect. If you get the Kindle version tonight, you'll likely be finished the book by Sunday night.
/r/RedPillWomen29/10/17 01:40 AM
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Would I be better off by modifying the 5x5 program for my legs, doing more repetitions with a lower weight and doing everything else exactly as the program suggests? I'd stick to the program for the first month. I did only barbell work (45lbs) for the first month to get the movement patterns down. I'd go medium weight so that you can easily do the entire routine, but you don't fly through. This way you get an introduction to the compound moves and the actual routine so that then you have the fou…
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/17 05:59 PM
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For most men it is an emotional reaction to an analysis of facts. How is this different from ego? 1) Players. Therefore, all women who do or have done that are stupid/and or admittedly low value. Is it possible that these Players keep going to the same low value watering hole? I was reading a PUA's essay on the degradation of American women and he used a Nevada brothel as an example of low class women. A brothel. It's like going to the swamp at dusk and being surprised there are mosquitoes. When…
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/17 03:08 AM
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Can women tell when a man is a dedicated orbiter of many women? Are you referring to a Nice Guy™ ? If so, how do those men rate as potential mates? Supplicating Nice Guy™ makes my ovaries shrivel up. I need my friends and most importantly my mate to stand their ground. (Debate and banter is like foreplay to me.) I've had too many Nice Guys™ in my life and I hate it. Again, I don't want someone who will just roll over at the slightest chance of disagreement; I like to push boundaries and unless I…
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/17 02:42 AM
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It's often asked around here if there's a female equivalent to the red pill rage that men experience. Guilt? Many men will never come back and have walked away forever, but many more are open to a return to traditionalism. Reminds me of this blog post.
/r/RedPillWomen27/10/17 09:42 PM
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I would love commitment but it's not something that I have to have. Just make sure you keep your future self in mind when making decisions. I was adamant that I didn't want children in my twenties and almost got my tubes tied. I'm really glad I opted for an IUD instead, "just in case", as I'm now seeing a man I could very happily have a family with.
/r/RedPillWomen27/10/17 09:18 PM
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I'm glad I could help. :) even if lifting did make you bulky The nice thing about lifting as a woman is that it takes a really long time with absolute dedication to diet usually along side a sprinkling of pharmaceutical help to get bulky. You don't suddenly become Iris Kyle when you go from the 10lb dumbbells to the 15lbs.
/r/RedPillWomen27/10/17 09:12 PM
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I literally don't volunteer information unless they specifically ask. Smart. Don't give them ammunition. Like mosquitoes, they can only breed if you keep stagnant water around.
/r/RedPillWomen27/10/17 09:08 PM
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Hahaha, I get your confusion! Men want sex, women want commitment. So men trade their commitment for sex and women get the commitment they want in exchange for the sex they give. Looking back in history (usually with rose coloured glasses), everything was hunky dory with the sex<->commitment exchange. Now with the three waves of feminism, women have been giving the milk out for free, so men don't need to buy the cow. (As well, women these days don't seem worth more than sex because they generall…
/r/RedPillWomen27/10/17 09:01 PM
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Welcome to RPW. :) I didn't get a actual boyfriend and start dating until my early twenties. What I posted in another thread: Make eyes at him. Make eye contact and smile and look down and then look back up. Play with your hair when you look down. When done subtly it's really effective. When you see him, light up - smile, eye contact and you can even do a tiny little wave. What I do is bring my hand up close the shoulder of the same side and wiggle my fingers back and forth while mouthing "hi" w…
/r/RedPillWomen27/10/17 06:56 PM
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These men and many others like them seem to think it's a big deal and summarily believe the research that says highly promiscuous women don't do well in LTRs or marriage. Red Pill Women and other RPW commenters also state the overarching purpose of Red Pill Women is focus on being exceptional girlfriends, wives, and mothers. I am curious how being highly promiscuous is favorable to that end since the vast majority of men will reject high N-Count women. I'm not disagreeing with it, however I am d…
/r/RedPillWomen27/10/17 04:44 PM
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Modern society seems to forget that we didn't always live in an age of supermarkets. Humans have involuntarily fasted since the beginning of time.
/r/RedPillWomen27/10/17 04:16 PM
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knowingly they probably talk about me eats away at me at times Oh, yeah, they totally say things behind your back, good or not. You can't do anything about it, so don't worry about it. Try to live as truthful as you can so it gives them less ammunition. You are only responsible for your own actions.
/r/RedPillWomen27/10/17 04:11 PM
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Welcome and congratulations on your new marriage and wanting to be the best version of yourself! :) Weights. Heavy weights. You will not get bulky. Lifting heavy weights will boost your metabolism. Muscle requires more calories so if you consume the same amount of calories, your body uses more to keep that muscle going. If you're basic bitch'ing, then start with Strong Lifts 5x5. It's based around the core compound moves. It's a super efficient and you'll be in and out of the gym in no time. Aga…
/r/RedPillWomen27/10/17 04:09 PM
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We're all human and we're all a bit insecure here or there. I really want to explore how a man's ego deal with female partner count and if it's because of what I've already stated. I'm not insecure about my partner count and I feel that most men's count is much higher than mine, and maybe it's because I'm female, but I like that the man may have a higher count. It makes him more experience and knowledgeable and experience and knowledge in a good man puts me at ease. I don't know if it's because …
/r/RedPillWomen26/10/17 10:41 PM
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I think in days past you married young to someone in your immediate area who shared the same culture. Even if it was the worst sex you ever had, you didn't have TV shows, social media and "sex positive" surroundings to compare to and thus be unhappy with your situation; it just was what it was. Before, the young man who aspired to be a mechanic was a catch because you weren't exposed to ideas of that guy from 50 Shades and the fantasy that you too will have a wealthy attractive man to carry you …
/r/RedPillWomen26/10/17 10:31 PM
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This one might be a high value one so op might want to keep him. A high value man wouldn't have a child with a woman he's not married to and expect another woman to care and maintain a relationship with that child which is not her own and then get moody that he had to be reminded of his responsibilities of said child when he just wanted to have funsies.
/r/RedPillWomen26/10/17 07:01 PM
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The more people you sleep with the less likely the next one is going to be the best one yet. Yes, I know the statistic. Correlation does not imply causation. You could say that base jumpers are more likely to do other extreme sports; base jumping doesn't make one likely to do other extreme sports, but rather those who like extreme sports are drawn to base jumping. The same can be said for this stat. The people who are more likely to sleep around are probably not interested in long term or life l…
/r/RedPillWomen26/10/17 06:57 PM
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I got the feeling, around the ten minute mark, that a man's ego can't handle a woman having more partners than him. If the man desires to be the leader, than it's quite a blow to supposedly be leading someone who has more experience than you. Thoughts on this? I also wonder, (around the 18:30 minute mark) about the statistic that the more you sleep around the less likely you'd stick around in a stable relationship. Does this stat take into account that the bed hoppers perhaps don't actually want…
/r/RedPillWomen26/10/17 05:54 PM
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I don't have kids, but what I'd like is to be a stay at home mom and homeschool. I'm trying to learn programming so that I will be fluent if/when I have children so that I can do a few hours a day of contract work when they're sleeping/having play dates/in sports activities. I don't think I could it for years as I'd start getting antsy and want to have some outside world interaction. As long as my husband, children and home, in that order, are taken care of, I'd need to have a job to feel fulfil…
/r/RedPillWomen26/10/17 01:30 AM
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No worries! You just reminded me that I have this link list that has lots of vintage videos.
/r/RedPillWomen23/10/17 08:00 PM
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she made a snide comment about "it's because we might not be together anymore in January, right?" That poor man!! Oh boy, that's so cringey. In conclusion, sometimes it's good to hear other women complain because you realize how awful it would be to be a shrew! Quitting feminism was the best thing I did for my happiness. It's actually really hard and emotionally draining being a nagging shrew feminist. The constant oppression of The Patriarchy really stifles any happiness and enjoyment from your…
/r/RedPillWomen23/10/17 07:24 PM
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Welcome and congratulations on your engagement! I enjoy reading Notes From A Redpill Girl. That Stepford Gal has a blog too! I'd suggest picking up some vintage books. I love and collecting older books for both the style and the information contained in them. With them, you get a lot of that wholesome straight from the horses mouth information that hasn't been reincarnated by a modern writer.
/r/RedPillWomen23/10/17 07:17 PM
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Not to sound too Gen X Hahaha, I feel so old! I didn't realize there were literally apps for all this. (I only have Facebook, no other social media.) Thanks for all your tips!
/r/RedPillWomen23/10/17 05:38 PM
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There's definitely a language barrier. You can tell by the unusual word choice and sentence structure. I, and other posters, have never heard of PACS, which indicates there's specific culture and expectations that I, and other posters, don't know about.
/r/RedPillWomen23/10/17 04:07 PM
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Ah! Another good idea, thank you! He did request some explicit photos to which I replied in a more artistic fashion. (He loved them.) I don't take photos of myself, my Facebook literally only has two photos of me over several years, but I think I can work something out special just for my man. :)
/r/RedPillWomen23/10/17 01:00 AM
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Yes, I worry about this too. Unfortunately we don't get to talk often. I was hoping that text would still be okay because I always choose what I write carefully so there's no misunderstanding. I know with conversation, you can get carried away in it and mishear and when you think back, you can't quite remember what was said. For texts, I was hoping when he felt down, he could reread what I wrote and know that I do have faith in him, he's got this and we'll pull through. I even have specific emoj…
/r/RedPillWomen22/10/17 11:38 PM
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have you told him why? Did you give examples? This may be the missing piece. I know he's a good man and he acts dignified even with his injury. (He still worked out with a pretty debilitating injury). It's really hard to put into words what I know of his being/soul... you know when you meet someone and they just feel kind/wholesome/whatever but you have nothing to really base it off except for that feeling? That's where I'm at. he has to get up some point, accept his situation and decide to move…
/r/RedPillWomen22/10/17 11:28 PM
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have you actually told them, clearly, why you have that faith? Yes both verbally and over text multiple times yet he still doesn't get it. It's like pulling hen's teeth. He's had a pretty bad injury that's taken him for a loop (essentially ended his career, the only career he's known). He had to wait a long time for surgery and during that time was very depressed. I kept telling him that he's a good man and that when he gets the surgery he can start to heal, both physically and emotionally. He d…
/r/RedPillWomen22/10/17 04:59 PM
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You do realize there is a language barrier here? As well as a cultural barrier? With barriers you need to look at the forest and not nitpick trees.
/r/RedPillWomen22/10/17 02:27 AM
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Elijah Wood and Corey Feldman have been speaking about this for some time. Wood's speaking of how his mother protected him as a young boy in Hollywood really opened my eyes to how gross Hollywood is. I knew women would get solicited in Hollywood, just like any other place. It shouldn't happen, but it's just a negative part of being a woman. Men, too, have their own negatives to deal with. That's how life works. However, with the adult Hollywood actors, they could have said no, or have been astut…
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/17 06:17 PM
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I hate #HashtagActivism. If something so enormous happened to you that's still blackening your emotional psyche years later, you should have gone to the authorities. If it wasn't worth bringing up to the police or a superior at work, then you need to get over it. I had my breasts grabbed (honk-honk) at work by a customer and I went to my (male) boss and explained the situation and he dealt with that customer. I had a skeezy guy flash me his dick at another job and again, I went to my (male) boss…
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/17 04:58 PM
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I've had my breasts grabbed, have had a man expose himself to me, have had my body critiqued in front of peers and bosses in front of others and so forth and when that happened, I went to my superior so that the people in question were dealt with appropriately and most importantly will not do that to others. This will be harsh - but you need to deal with your own feelings. With regards to all the starlets in Hollywood talking about their abuse as a child yet not speak up - they are just as bad a…
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/17 04:10 AM
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Murder, theft and lots of other evil things happen. I don't believe you understand how humanity works as your ideal utopia will never exist.
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/17 03:56 AM
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I just want people to know that it's not okay to make someone feel like they're a sex object. Everyone knows this. That is why there are laws and prison sentences against sexual harassment, sexual abuse and rape. Rapists and child rapists are at the very bottom of prison social hierarchies because even hardened criminals know the above is not okay.
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/17 03:51 AM
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The problem with #MeToo is that it's all virtue signalling. All these Hollywood starlets saying they've been harassed, some as children, yet no names. Chances are these harassers are still employed in Hollywood and are still harassing others, including children. The other thing is that the whole Weinstein and the "casting couch" has been part of Hollywood since the beginning. There's been Weinstein jokes throughout the years and the casting couch has been mentioned in movies for decades. Elijah …
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/17 03:42 AM
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Glad I could help! Men love women because we can (or can be) like this, so have fun with it and make it yours. And I forgot to say welcome to RPW. :)
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/17 02:54 AM
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Make eyes at him. Make eye contact and smile and look down and then look back up. Play with your hair when you look down. When done subtly it's really effective. When you see him, light up - smile, eye contact and you can even do a tiny little wave. What I do is bring my hand up close the shoulder of the same side and wiggle my fingers back and forth while mouthing "hi" while at the same time do a gentle swing of my hips in the opposite direction of my waving hand. Think of cutsey girls in anime…
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/17 12:47 AM
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To see if RPW (vs "normal" women) recognize that how they are the persued sex thus have built-in sexual market value. You should check out the side bar and peruse a few of the threads. ;) Looks do matter, but you know what matters more? Personality. I was in a long relationship with a man well below my "look number" and what ended it was part do with his personality. If you want the rest, message me. My current man is, to me, the most attractive man in the world, though others may not think so. …
/r/RedPillWomen19/10/17 04:40 PM
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Yes! Though the Doyle book I read was The Empowered Wife: Six Surprising Secrets for Attracting Your Husband’s Time, Attention, and Affection.
/r/RedPillWomen19/10/17 04:21 PM
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What's the point of this? I'm not watching two hours of some guy droning on about how easy women supposedly have it. Edit: You, or anyone else from Incel are more than welcome to message me directly.
/r/RedPillWomen19/10/17 04:20 PM
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I'm not pretty a pretty girl Anyone with inner beauty can never be ugly. If I'm not ready, I'm not ready, and I don't need to "act" any way other than what I am. If a guy wants a girl who's ready to melt into his arms from day one, I'm not her, and I shouldn't waste either of our time trying to hide that fact. Spot on. I wish you the best of luck on your journey. It'd be great if you kept posting here or at least popped in with updates! <3
/r/RedPillWomen19/10/17 03:00 AM
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everyone has a limit And you're also not a doormat. Best of luck to you!
/r/RedPillWomen19/10/17 12:52 AM
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I think Lucy (the fitness vlogger linked) has dark but sparse brows too. When I read what you wrote, I immediately thought of that video that had just watched a few hours prior. Such a neat, "but of course!" idea. Hopefully it'll work for you. :) If every guy wants the shy girl, sounds like you've got it made! I used to hate my shy awkwardness, but if you're a pretty girl with a nice figure, I've found it's very much like catnip to cats. You learn to work it and not be afraid to "be you". I blus…
/r/RedPillWomen19/10/17 12:51 AM
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In one of the books I've read, I think it's was in For Women Only, but don't quote me on that - said if your husband says something hurtful, respond with just "ouch" and leave it at that. Of course pick your battles, but perhaps give that a try?
/r/RedPillWomen19/10/17 12:39 AM
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but this has literally been the first time I've actually engaged in the conversation! I'm honoured, thank you! Peer-aged men and women have demonstrated to me a shocking lack of morals or principles. People these days don't have allegiance to any principles, only convenience and ease. I'm sure with your background, you've witness this quite a bit. I came to RP via Roosh after years of feminism, so I've seen the very entitled slovenly woman who feels a good, but simple man, is well beneath her. I…
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/17 06:06 PM
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No worries! If you've dealt with men who are hung up on the number--even after you've divulged the truth--then I understand your disdain for the question. It was one man who already showed signs of distrusting whatever I did; him asking just added more kindling to the fire. I don't have disdain for the question, I think it's a good to bring up sexual history for health and safety reasons. I replied to another comment here, about the context of a person's sexual partner count. (Sometimes I feel t…
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/17 05:28 PM
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It's subjective. Some men would prefer a virgin, some are comfortable with only five partners or less. It's such a touchy subject, that mistruth is often spoken. The tricky thing is, which is better? N-count of 4, all one night stands or N-count of 7, all with men, vetted over several weeks, and with a relationship that lasted a few months to a year? That's why I think it's tacky to ask, because unless you get the context, it really means moot.
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/17 04:50 PM
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This is why RP men must give RPW relevant advice, and why extra care should be taken to be as clear as possible when explaining things to newcomers. I am a woman, you know this, correct? I have no idea what about my initial comment triggered that 1) I'm not female and 2) That anything I post is set in stone RP fact and not merely my opinion and experience on the matter.
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/17 04:45 PM
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It very much is! It's like your a close confidant in this weird, wonderful and bewildering relationship I'm in. I really appreciate your readings and it helps to confirm that I'm on the right road. I know these are just for fun, but there's been too many other weird supernatural and serendipitous happenings that all tell me the same thing. Spookyx2.
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/17 04:40 PM
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Hey, it's all a work in progress ;)
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/17 04:34 PM
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Both among readers of RPW and TRP, it's generally accepted that that n-count provides some insight into the prior sexual comportment of an individual. Absolutely. Two things can both have truth. It can be definitely an indicator of behaviour and it can also be tacky to ask. No matter what a woman says, 2 or 22, the man will not likely believe her, so I feel (because what I write is my opinion) that it's tacky to ask. It's a no-win situation. Browsing RP websites (not just the Reddit forum) confi…
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/17 04:33 PM
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I've posted my opinion before about this and have not had an issue with it. Edited for additional clarity. Will this be a continuous theme? I care not to walk on eggshells.
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/17 04:07 PM
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Spooky. Yup, we had a talk and he still needs time to go through and heal. May I be greedy and ask if your cards have any advice for me in helping him through this time?
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/17 03:50 AM
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I really appreciate it! I'm going to nick Heldenhaft's question for myself, haha - is there insight you're able to give me from my SO's perspective?
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/17 02:42 AM
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(just eyebrows because my natural ones are near invisible), Just For Men! I actually need to learn for when I finally do want to show interest in someone! I own shy and awkward. Just today a guy commented how cute I was being shy and awkward; it's very endearing to men. I also straight up tell them that I'm not used to being touched and it adds some nice sexual tension. Save it for the right guy and it'll all be good. :)
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/17 02:41 AM
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No questions (yet)! but just want to say thank you for this and your past readings.... scarily accurate!!!
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/17 01:11 AM
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If you act promiscuous, you will be seen as promiscuous. If you act chaste, you will be seen as chaste. I have a pretty high n-count, but guys always assume I'm a good little girl because I don't drink nor party, dress moderately, no {whore}make up (no make up at all), I'm flirty with words, but guys have a difficult time breaking into touch territoy. I get bashful and shy when a guy I allow a guy to get close to me. It's not rigid acting, but how I am naturally which gives me the aura of innoce…
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/17 01:05 AM
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Welcome! I don't think what you listed as possibly effecting you negatively are negatives. Those are what make you unique. RPW is not about creating clones that have no hobbies of their own and are only there to keep the home tidy and a warm place to put a penis. I lift weights, which could turn some guys off, but I've yet to experience any negativity from it. I will be taking muay thai later this year and I know my SO will love it and support me. (He likes a firm booty and nice thighs.) You wil…
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/17 05:07 PM
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Gomez and Morticia.
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/17 04:18 PM
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Congratulations! What a quirky and wonderful story. Wishing your husband a speedy visa.
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/17 01:09 AM
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But of course anecdote isn't science or statistics. Neither is RP ;) I brushed the pair bonding thing off as the wishes and excuses. (I want my girlfriend to pair bond vs she's had X partners, and is unable to pair bond, so AWALT.) Though, it's the only thing that I think of to describe my feelings towards my relationship. I just find my own journey and comparing it to the RP ideals just fascinating. Like mentioned earlier, I think most RP posters would say my n-count is far to high and with my …
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/17 11:04 PM
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I think I'm another exception. I don't have a high count, but it's certainly not low. I slept with my guy on the second date, within 48 hours of meeting him and I now understand what RP means about pair bonding. He must have done that one weird trick to make me his, because RP would say that my n-count would make me unable to pair bond.
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/17 09:50 PM
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Haha, you're fine. :) I have a friend, who with every new relationship, proudly proclaims he is The One™. It fizzles out a few months later. I get that and I understand that gets thrown around a lot. I know I can only speak for myself, but I will never find a man like my SO. Ever. They don't make that kind of man anymore. Well, perhaps on a planet of billions, there's a few copies, but finding those copies and having a mutual connection, would be very rare. Without getting into the details (feel…
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/17 08:59 PM
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This is the thing I hear people say often, but I personally can't agree with. I think anybody can find someone "better" if they put their mind to it. Absolutely fair, but I don't believe I could find another man with that body with his knowledge that's in the age range I want who is also single and who finds me to be incredibly gorgeous and in which I tick all of his boxes.
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/17 08:37 PM
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So glad to hear you're both on the mend. :) My SO travels a lot and is currently physically and emotionally healing for an accident and didn't want to negatively impact my life with him in. Lol. Just goes to show you - don't assume your insecurity is a deal breaker for someone else.
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/17 07:48 PM
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I'm so glad to hear I'm not the only one!! I think it's because I'm quite lean, tall and pale? It's really annoying when you're on the first date and you have this guy "taking the reins" and ordering the goat cheese salad for you. You just met me. I want that burger with the bacon!!
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/17 07:45 PM
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The other was a me thing, rather than a him thing. I realized that I didn't want to be with anyone else. I wasn't looking at other guys; I wasn't wondering if I was missing out by being with just him; I didn't feel like maybe i should keep my options open. I was never an idealist who believed that there was The One ... and I wasn't blind to his flaws at the time. They just didn't matter because the little hypergamy hamster had just stopped. I knew then that the relationship had actual potential.…
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/17 06:54 PM
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What was a time when you knew a relationship wouldn't work, nothing superficial, but a fundamental issue? Any time a man who is overly eager and quick to agree when I disagree and backs down and says I'm right. Debate is foreplay to me so I get nothing out of a man who won't stand his ground. Yawn. One man had dirty ragged fingernails and kept assuming my dietary preferences. Actually, I get a lot of men who assume things of me - what I eat, what I do for fun, ....what religion I am.... I had a …
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/17 06:31 PM
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https://www.youtube.com/user/gordonramsay !
/r/RedPillWomen15/10/17 11:20 PM
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I'm still getting settled into my home - lack of time, money and some skills really puts a damper on making it my own. I'd say my style is very eccentric. I have a few pieces that are over 100 years old mixed in with regular middle of the road furniture and some vintage youth. I get compliments a lot, especially from kids (the treadle is always a hit), about how interesting my place is. I couldn't imagine living in a sterile home decor magazine home. I feel a lot of the Pinterest pins are very b…
/r/RedPillWomen15/10/17 10:08 PM
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You're welcome. :) don't want to make things worse but I can't keep going with our relationship without understanding where this performance anxiety is coming from and if I should expect this level of intimacy indefinitely. My man has struggled with his impotence for years, maybe even upwards to ten years. He's extremely talented in the bedroom and because he's so tender and caring, and he knows I'm not putting PIV pressure on him, I can tell he's on the steps to getting over it. It may take yea…
/r/RedPillWomen15/10/17 07:15 PM
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We have not been progressing with regard to how often we see each other in a given week and he has not said "I love you" to me. I've been seeing my man for over a year and the L word has not been said. Like you, I am waiting for him to say it first (and I think you're smart doing so). What's confusing is that the way he kisses and touches me suggests he loves me too but I keep asking myself why the resistance in him to say it when I've been nothing but reciprocal in touch expressing how nice it …
/r/RedPillWomen15/10/17 06:29 PM
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Is sex the only negative in the relationship right now? The majority of the time he's gone down on me and I've been able to orgasm but there's this feeling of tension/being left hanging when it comes to intercourse. Do you go down on him? Do you know if he's having erection problems?
/r/RedPillWomen15/10/17 05:40 PM
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It's just a little rough at this particular junction in life. Been waiting for things to get better for a while, but it's almost done, and hopefully things will improve significantly after. I hope so too. <3
/r/RedPillWomen15/10/17 04:44 AM
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Yeah, he mostly wants me to be near him, so when I run off or try to be alone, he believes I don't love him. As a fellow person who needs alone time to recharge, I hear you. He may have underlying insecurities that he has to deal with because from what you've written, you sound level headed and caring, you just need space to recharge. You put up with some of this foibles, he can put up with some of yours. The only suggestion I can make, other than explaining you need alone time, is give him a ki…
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/17 11:45 PM
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You are welcome. our youngest is a very difficult child That's definitely hard, especially when it seems your husband is/was on the fence about having children. I have asked my husband if he believes I respect him and he always says that he does, he just always comments on feeling unloved. Do you know his definition of what being loved is? It seems you two are "backwards" in the sense that you feel disrespected and him unloved, but I would like to believe that being able to outline what you feel…
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/17 10:59 PM
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You're okay. <3 About a year ago, my husband told me he hates our children and that his life has been ruined because he had them. Do you know why he thinks this? Do you dote over your children more than him? Are they a financial burden? Did he want to travel the world and now can't because he feels tied down? Something else? He seems very overwhelmed and that could be a very probable reason on why he lashes out. Men also lash out when they feel disrespected. Respect is very important to men (mor…
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/17 09:44 PM
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My husband and I have been together 11yrs (since I was 17 and he was 16) and married for 8yrs. . I don't feel very confident that we're going to make it . our personalities are pretty compatible, which may make it easier to get to a better place once we can eliminate some of these stressors. . Honestly, at this point I'm terrified at the thought of looking for another partner I'm confused, do you want to divorce? Sounds like you have some issues that could be resolved. Would you want to talk abo…
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/17 09:04 PM
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now that he's higher value (he was full of potential, but that's harder to evaluate) You stuck with him when he wasn't high value and still loved him. That shows loyalty. High value men are (if not now, will quickly be) very aware of gold diggers. Gold diggers are drama. A gold digger has nothing on a more modest woman who was with him during his low period. Edit: My man is surrounded by young BBT's (blonde, big tits) that clearly fawn over him because of his luxury life style. I've never been w…
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/17 05:13 PM
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I find a lot of her talking points are very.... regurgitated. If anything, she's very introductory: a pretty face with inciting discourse that makes your peers uncomfortable. What I would think KISS would have been with parents of teenagers in the 70's. And I do agree that she seems to be collecting orbiters en masse, and that's not how you change female culture. This turns me off on pretty much all women. There's just something about the spotlight that they just need to have. There's putting yo…
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/17 05:48 AM
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Gage, an early-30s woman who says she “loves motorcycles” and is “love avoidant,” calls bullshit on caring too much in a relationship by citing all the things she “omg literally does not give a fuck about.” Sounds exactly what a feminist would write on their bio. It's the same as people who write that they love adventure, cooking and are drama free in their online dating profile - popular places for selfies only please, Kraft dinner with organic milk, and highly obnoxious. A lot of women will, a…
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/17 04:42 AM
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it's men who don't like me not being ultra feminist which is a little awkward. Yeah, that's weird. I think it's just pounded so hard into them that you need to be nice to women that they just spout the talking points. I have a few male friends that like who shoot themselves in the foot.
/r/RedPillWomen13/10/17 08:41 PM
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A lot of people I've interacted with get mean if someone doesn't have ultra feminist views. You simply just ask them questions. I had a girl that wanted to fight me over the wage gap and I asked her if it's legal to pay women less than a man, then why are men still hired? Play country dumb and they just deflate on their own. Nonsense like this needs to be nipped in the bud or before you know it your whole house is filled with termites and needs to be demolished. It also gives those who are on yo…
/r/RedPillWomen13/10/17 06:07 PM
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For the first time this year I told my SO black out NO! when he initiated sex. "Sorry honey, I'm really not feeling well, maybe in a few days after I get some rest? Thanks for understanding." My current SO hasn't seen me other than perfect, but I have a feeling he'd be really understanding and loving that he can be helpful. For you, I'd certainly be annoyed too! I hope you start feeling better.
/r/RedPillWomen13/10/17 05:20 PM
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women were still spending $4k on wedding dresses See, I just find that ridiculous and self centred. And I hope it doesn't sound like I'm criticizing the ring or weddings in general. I definitely didn't think that at all. :)
/r/RedPillWomen11/10/17 10:53 PM
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I'm just thinking about all the Bridezillas out there that go off the rails for their day to be perfect. I remember the girls at prom doing this in high school. The man is an accessory to their fantasy. The only thing I want is a ring to show that I am taken, that I'm his and only his.
/r/RedPillWomen11/10/17 10:35 PM
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Taking a moment to consider: would you want to marry this man if you simply woke up tomorrow and were married, is a good way to check in with yourself. Marriage that is about the wedding day doesn't forebode well for the couple's future.
/r/RedPillWomen11/10/17 10:11 PM
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I find it interesting that a lot of women whinge about their husbands not helping, etc. and I always wonder what she does for him. Is she putting out twice a day and she gets nothing but dirty dishes next to an empty dishwasher? It always gets me that these type of women want everything, but don't give anything to deserve it.
/r/RedPillWomen11/10/17 03:03 AM
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respectfully tips fedora
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/17 11:05 PM
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I was recently referred to r/datingoverthirty "Driver: "Why are you not married?" Me: sigh "Well, I took time to focus on my career and getting myself into a good place to be a better partner for the right guy."" ~ Nearly 40 year old woman Ouch.
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/17 01:54 AM
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Lately I've been more explicit about how much I respect and admire him. That combined with the non sexual touches should do wonders. You can also make him feel needed by asking him to help with some simple for him, harder for you tasks. Fixing something around the house, etc. or position myself for intercourse, he has a hard time staying erect. Who does the driving during sex? I'm usually very aggressive/assertive during sex but I allow my man to take the pace he wants. I don't expect PIV sex an…
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/17 08:03 PM
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It's spam. Looking at the post history, nearly all the posts are links to the same "gamEEs" YouTube channel. Basically just wanting views. https://www.reddit.com/user/CocaColaManager
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/17 05:34 PM
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Yup. My SO likes getting texts from me but says he's not sure how to respond to some of them. So I text him because I want to, not because I need a response. He appreciates that I don't hound him for X/texts a day and I know he appreciates them and me so I still feel settled in the relationship even with no replies.
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/17 05:14 PM
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My man has similar issues and what I do is not make it an issue. My actions show that he doesn't need to be anxious around me and that I don't care about his erection, I care about him. The first time we had sex his penis didn't to cooperate and he apologized and I only gave him a confused look and then jump cuddled into him were we then fell asleep. I actually took it as a compliment - here is this great intelligent good looking and accomplished man and he's afraid of disappointing me. What mak…
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/17 05:11 PM
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Haha, thanks! I corrected it now. Ha! That's incredible, my guy is 5'9" and also a ginger! If he can deal with me faults, I can accept his. Yup, this is a huge thing for me. I'm pretty hard on myself and I've got some hang ups and I love that he doesn't see any of it, but just someone who accepts him for who he is, and he mirrors that right back to me. I love how intelligent he is - knows multiple languages, and has travelled the world through the military, so just has oodles and oodles of knowl…
/r/RedPillWomen07/10/17 05:51 PM
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They can, however, miss the window for this level of success and hit the wall in that sense. If he's 35, working at a gas station, and he spends his weekend getting high with his buddies, women of value aren't going to want to date him and odds are, he's passed up his window to make himself into the man mentioned above. I think this is spot on. Physically, my SO is bald and what hair he has is near white and has a bit of a tummy but he's literally the most sexiest man alive to me. However, if yo…
/r/RedPillWomen07/10/17 05:39 PM
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! Love it! And it makes me love my SO so much more. Edit: Omgosh the $Bailout$ tag
/r/RedPillWomen06/10/17 03:58 PM
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I have a high SMV but a poor and unstable RMV due to being a typical blue pill woman for the first 2 years of our relationship. Have you tried reading some of the recommended books? I've read both For Women Only and The Empowered Wife: Six Surprising Secrets for Attracting Your Husband’s Time, Attention, and Affection. Both books are easy reads and may help you address getting your RMV up there. As for the therapist, I wouldn't concern yourself with her. You do you and be the best you can be. Th…
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/17 03:29 AM
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I love Deciem. r/SkinCareAddiction took me from three {expensive} products to this. I have/had dry skin, but I think it was just because my moisture barrier was ruined. My skin loves hyaluronic acid - Indeed Lab's hydraluron moisture jelly and The Ordinary's Natural Moisturizing Factors are great and I use both. I also found that NIOD's Survival 0 has been really beneficial to my skin. Some nights I can just put that on and be totally fine. That's never happened. Definitely start slow and just g…
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/17 02:12 AM
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Men are very visual creatures. It's just how they're made. Don't worry about it too much, be the best version of yourself, because he wants you.
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/17 08:28 PM
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Well, good thing ugly girls don't exist.
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/17 11:16 PM
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Yup, though in the body, she writes " I think I need to lose another thirty pounds, or at least lose some fat and gain some muscle." all while doing "a lot of walking". In subsequent posts, she explains she's eating around 1800 calories. If she was eating 3200 calories (or similarly high) and not breastfeeding and not just under four months after giving birth, I'd be suggesting something very different. I think what needs to be said has been said and OP has lots of information that she can pick …
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/17 08:14 PM
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Removed, but I would still like like to point out (publicly) that it is incredibly easy to become a personal trainer. I've seen a lot of pseudo science done by personal trainers and clients believe them because they are under the impression that their trainer has extensive background in the area, where as many times they do not. Crossfit is an easy example. I'm more than happy to reword what I've written so that it doesn't look like I was referring to rivertorain specifically, but that the overa…
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/17 08:09 PM
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Start with a 500 daily deficit and track how she feels and how quickly she is losing weight. 1-2lbs per week for women is safe and healthy weight loss. OP writes: I pump about 800 calories worth of milk per day, plus whatever energy it took to produce that milk. Since I only consume about 1800 cals per day, you can see I'm not left with much. And if you cut too many calories, your milk will dry up. link 1800 total calories - 800 = 1000. You're suggesting to a breastfeeding mother to deduct anoth…
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/17 07:47 PM
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OP states that she already walks a lot per day, so I don't know why people are telling her to walk more when she clearly states that she wants to gain muscle.
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/17 07:47 PM
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before you start telling a guy with a goddamn degree in this subject that he doesn't know what he's talking about. You are telling a breastfeeding mother who eats "two small meals a day" to eat less and move more. Edit: As well, you are telling her to walk, when she clearly writes in OP that she does "do a lot of walking" and here she writes: "I pump about 800 calories worth of milk per day, plus whatever energy it took to produce that milk. Since I only consume about 1800 cals per day, you can …
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/17 06:33 PM
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THAT IS WHAT SHE SAID, YOU GODDAMN KNOWITALL! No, she said the only way to lose weight is to eat less: "The only way to lose weight is to eat less than your TDEE. You do not have to exercise to lose weight. You should track your food with MyFitnessPal or similar and aim for a 500 cal daily deficit, which is 1-2 lbs per week." OP says: generally only eat two smaller meals a day, and do a lot of walking. I'm also breastfeeding. With the information given by OP, I don't think it's healthy to recomm…
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/17 06:08 PM
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Cardio isn't going to build muscle, which is what OP wants. Lots of cardio makes a woman's body look like this. Cardio has its place - as a cool down and nothing more.
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/17 04:26 PM
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A lot of people are recommending that I eat less, but at two meals per day I am already under eating for a breastfeeding mother. I am definitely not recommending you eat less. You're breast feeding a growing baby and your body is still putting itself back together from carry that baby for nine months and then birthing that baby. You seem to be knowledgable enough regarding calorie intake and I think you understand quality calories over quantity calories. How are your bones feeling? I understand …
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/17 04:21 PM
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The only way to lose weight is to eat less than your TDEE. You do not have to exercise to lose weight. The way you lose weight is by expending more than you take in. One can lose weight by eating the same amount of calories while expending more through exercise.
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/17 04:14 PM
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Welcome and congratulations on your little one. :) To be honest I don't even know what I should weigh at my height. To give you an idea, I'm 5'7" and 125lbs and am in the "normal" BMI range with about 18-20% body fat. I've just started a kettlebell routine 3x per week. I think I need to lose another thirty pounds, or at least lose some fat and gain some muscle. Good stuff. Lift heavy weights to get your metabolism going - build muscle which requires more calories to maintain = weight loss. You c…
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/17 04:31 AM
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I've got ten years on you and feel like I've only now just got my feet under me. There's always going to be someone better and more accomplished than you and you will never know when someone sees you and goes "gosh, I wish I had it figured like she does". We only see the edited version of someone, you have no idea the inner insecurities of them.
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/17 03:38 AM
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I like to please and I like to have a mission. When I'm left to my own devices, I can stay in my pjs until noon on weekends. If he says he wants a big dinner on Saturday night, then I'll be really happy to be able to do something, so I will start planning what to do when he asks. Come Saturday, I'd be up and out doing stuff for the dinner that night. Is that what you were looking for?
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/17 09:44 PM
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Oh, on the "getting people banned by leaving" I was trying to make an analogy, with society being the community and MGTOW being the person making drama. Ah, I get you. I wouldn't say that living a lifestyle for your own un-selfish benefit is drama. Western Society doesn't build men up, so why should men want to stay in a game with jeering teammates that will ensure they lose? As for the cases where the guy gets fucked over, I agree there are many cases, but I do not agree that it is in women's n…
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/17 08:40 PM
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I see a lot of the ideals of MGTOW as "women are out to get you". There is a level of hopelessness or assumption that the reason one should be MGTOW is that it is in women's nature to do the things that make dating not worthwhile. "All women are whores who just want your money and will leave in a moment's notice if you can't make any money." Unfortunately that does have a bit of truth. There's plenty of cases were the make gets just raked over the coals. I know a few personally. There is also a …
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/17 08:26 PM
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Is it a legitimate trend in society I definitely think so. Feminism 3.0 created the vacuum to which MGTOW responded. MGTOW has always been around, Tesla and Beethoven come to mind. I think it's become more prevalent with technology and the aforementioned feminism. I feel very blessed I'm not a lesbian as I wouldn't want to have to date today's women. (Heck, I don't even want to be friends with a lot of today's women.) I ask because I am practically, although not necessarily ideologically, Do you…
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/17 06:12 PM
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Welcome! There's a few black women that post here. It really doesn't matter what your skin colour is, just that you want to improve yourself. (And wow, what a journey you've had!) I thought there was a recommended reading list for books, but I can't seem to find it. There is a gigantic link list if you're in the mood. I have curly hair too and r/CurlyHair was a godsend. Hope you stick around! :)
/r/RedPillWomen30/09/17 06:12 AM
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Going to add to this: olive oil
/r/askTRP30/09/17 05:07 AM
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You are so welcome. My man is the strong silent type too: he's a lifetime military man! Create a 'safe space' for him, so that he knows you will listen and most importantly that he knows you will not judge him for revealing his fears. You will be floored when he starts opening up; men carry some pretty heavy burdens. I know my man ties a lot to his masculinity - his job, his body and his social actions (opening doors, etc.). His injury took all that away from him and I don't think women will eve…
/r/RedPillWomen30/09/17 01:58 AM
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Hello! I'm in a similar situation, though my guy needed surgery and recovery in a facility that was a plane ride away. I haven't been able to be around him much - he's been in a lot of pain and turmoil and feels emasculated and so he hermits. When I do see him, I'm always very positive, rush to see him, give him kisses, lots of touches and subtle and not so subtle hints that I find him really sexy and am open to sex with him, but with no pressure. (Like your man, sex causes him a lot of pain.) I…
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/17 11:22 PM
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I hear ya, I need a lot of alone time myself.
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/17 06:52 PM
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But he says that's what he wants. Then that's what he wants? If he says and do things that show he wants you around, then I'm not sure why you're thinking you're smothering him? Everyone grieves differently and each instance can be different.
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/17 04:48 PM
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Pretty much what u/Rivkariver has said. When I lost someone really close to me, I was really happy to be left alone to sulk in my room and have my favourite foods for dinner. When he plays video games, what do you normally do? Do you sit with him on the couch? Do you walk past him and give his shoulder a loving squeeze? Subtle touches of affection may be what he's wanting if he wants space, but not too much space.
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/17 04:00 PM
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It makes me wonder if (a lot of) women can't wrap their heads around the anger phase because they haven't experienced anything similar. However, I've not seen anyone talk here about that sense of 'waking up' in the same way. I used to read Jezebel several times a day, all while adjusting my problem glasses. (Luckily I never shaved half my head to match.) I loved Dave Futrell's writing and couldn't wait until the next update on his blog. Mentioning Roosh would cause me to clutch my pearls and loo…
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/17 10:16 PM
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The tools are the 'non-negotiable ideas' that form the core of RP thought. I've been mulling this over and still can't quite articulate, but I think my issue is that RPW doesn't have it's own culture; RP has AWALT, plate spinning, dread, etc. that, for me, doesn't jive with my female perspective. Which, then leads to my tool box is filled with male RP tools where I'm needing female RP tools. Again, this isn't a well formulated thought at the moment, but wanted to throw it out there in case anyon…
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/17 08:45 PM
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So what is exactly going to be happening going forward? Are we women guests here, expected to walk on eggshells as to not anger the TRP Gods? Is the nepotism behind the scenes going to continue? Is this a woman's space to discuss all aspects of RP? Or ? u/LuckyLittleStar
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/17 05:25 PM
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If this happens, please let me know as I would like to sub to it!
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/17 04:18 PM
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RP is a tool set, that can be adapted and used by both sexes, in many different situations. You just totally nullified everything you said previously to u/RubyWooToo: "RP consists of some very basic, non-negotiable ideas" link
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/17 04:16 PM
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It depends how you define growth. Good catch. I see growth as becoming the best version that you can be, male or female. Growth doesn't necessarily end in marriage. However, a well rounded person is a better person than a bitter person who believes the m/p atriarchy is keeping him down. I also think if no one sees the growth beyond the bitterness phase, it does harm to the movement. This is probably why Cassie Jaye had such a difficult time with The Red Pill because how reactionary people are be…
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/17 04:01 PM
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Thank you. I'm not knocking TRP or the anxiousness that goes on in there. It's part of the growing process - however, I worry that there's no growth (posted in the forum) beyond that. I worry that there's no men like you, loneliness-inc or Hunter or Roosh posting there to guide from the anger phase. MRP is even more depressing. So I think the hard core guys that post regularly are stuck in a rut and are nothing more than tales of caution for the males passing through. So in that sense it serves …
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/17 03:55 PM
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RPW in general is about understanding woman's behaviour and controlling it to create the best first mate/co pilot/wife possible. It's constantly suggested to keep n-counts low, be submissive to your husband and to respect your husband, etc. I have no problem with that and I adhere to this (since apparently my RPW-ness is being questioned). There's no self reflection over at TRP like there is here. The men in TRP don't say "well, if she branch swung, you need to up your game and get fit/be a bett…
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/17 04:11 AM
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Women are not being 'short changed' we are being given a wake up call. The most privileged and protected creature on earth is a woman in any first world country. Do you look at my post history? Why do you continually project these feelings of yours onto me?
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/17 03:53 AM
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Women are chided both here and TRP for AWALT. Men are excused both here and TRP.
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/17 03:31 AM
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Reading stuff like this makes me want to join WGTOW.
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/17 03:15 AM
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Not to mention Melania had her own established career before she met Donald. It really irks me that a lot of people think that she's dumb and that she married Donald only to get her citizenship. (I'm sure, as an intelligent fashion model, she had many avenues open to her.) I really like Melania and I can really empathize with her. I certainly wouldn't want to be in the spot light and have to constantly censor my life to avoid the really awful things said about my son, my husband and myself. It m…
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/17 11:11 PM
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Feminists rightly should be working to change that either by producing their own films or involving themselves in the current industry and changing it from within. But feminists don't. Feminists whinge and cry about inequalities. Feminist Frequency made quite a bit of money about telling others what they should be doing instead of funding the change they wanted to see. Feminists are not about women, but about who thinks like them. If they were about women, they would have been celebrating Sarah …
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/17 08:47 PM
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I'm hardly upset. If you can rebut any of what I've said, I'd be happy to continue the conversation.
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/17 08:23 PM
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I don't agree that the marriage is broken. Man fucks hooker sans condom and then has sex with pregnant wife right after putting the wife and child at danger of STDS. Man only tells wife after they go to to see the ultrasound. I also use the term "man" loosely. It may not be a broken marriage, but it's not definitely not intact. Saying that bringing a child into the world will "heal" the marriage is downright wrong. Children are not bandaids. Men often 'panic' at the realization they are about to…
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/17 08:14 PM
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I also know that having a baby will change everything for both of them. The emotional roller-coaster she will go through during and after birth will possibly allow their marriage to heal much more quickly. The love and bond they will both feel for the baby is going to snap everything into focus in a big way. A child is not a bandaid for a broken marriage or for a husband or wife who have trust issues. I am of the opinion this was a stupid moment of panic on his part Panic of what? Not boning a h…
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/17 07:59 PM
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The bias against women's competency is still quite real Are suggesting that feminism can punish people for wrongful thinking? (In your example of thinking a woman is incompetent.) as is violence against women. How many men's shelters are there in your area? we're trying to lower the bar for EVERYONE down to the shittiest guy, rather than raising the bar for everyone to what we expect from women. How, and what, do "we" expect more from women?
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/17 10:09 PM
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I'm 25 and I'm going to hit the wall so soon and I wasted my early twenties with an emotionally abusive man who dumped me after I supported him all the way through acting school. Don't sweat it. Hindsight is 20/20. The only mistake you can make now is not learning from the past. I've got nearly ten years on you and I get more attention now in my 30s then I did so called "pre-wall". Online dating sucks for everyone, but you may be surprised to find that traditionally "cute" women have a much hard…
/r/RedPillWomen23/09/17 02:54 AM
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It's part of the growing process. Feminism fought for women's equal rights. That was passed in the 60's. Then they had to find something else to fight about. And once that was acquiesced, on to the next thing. Then the next. Feminism is no longer relevant, so it has to continue to find more and more niche things to criticize, like man spreading and air conditioning. The ideology gets narrower and narrower to which you'll have people outcasted for wrong think (Laci Green) and those who are going …
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/17 05:24 PM
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Definitely. I find it puzzling that conservatives kick up their heels about this instead of creating competition that they love to talk about so much.
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/17 05:19 PM
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I don't have a problem with that. I have a problem with the general idea that men >> women when it comes to voting. (Which I see a lot in TRP as /u/Pink_182 pointed out. I know people who live in their vans, love socialism, smoke pot, and live pay cheque to pay cheque. I know others who are fiscally conservative, who run businesses (proper ones, not selling poorly made crafts), have worked and held their own. Which person has given to society more? Does it matter if they have a penis or vagina, …
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/17 05:18 PM
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I can't believe I had to click to accept watching this Wrong Think™ video because the YT Gods believe my mind too feeble.
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/17 04:23 PM
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If you're thinking back to the old days, plenty of men were not allowed to vote either. Only property owners were allowed to vote and some women were property owners. It was harder for women to own property, but those who did could vote. Black men couldn't vote until recently. This is such a flawed line of thinking. I hate this myth/misconception just as I hate the misconception that all men are more intelligent than women. Women hover around average intelligence, so that means half the male pop…
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/17 04:21 PM
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frumpy to sexy is sexist! sexy to fancy lady is sexist! romantic movies that women flock to see is sexist! clumsy Clark Kent to Superman is not sexist! Andy getting a full body wax to please women is not sexist! Steve Rogers is not sexist! The most captivating thought about these mental gymnastics is that I used to think like this and the double standards just didn't compute, at all. I'd link to the Barbie vs He Man picture, but my other post linking a meme got deleted. Also: Sandra Bullock has …
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/17 04:08 AM
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I guess you are implying that she downgrade and look for men significantly lower smv than she is if she has hope to marry. I was wondering if there were any easy fixes, like her fashion choice, posture reminiscent of Quasimodo, etc. that I could suggest. What about the fact that men who promise to marry her but just wanted to have a short term relationship with her. How can she screen them out? Her value is decreasing every time this happens That's really shitty. She could date multiple men at t…
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/17 03:59 AM
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If financial liability wasn't an problem, would you still want to marry her? Would you be okay with your brother or best friend marrying her? Why or why not?
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/17 02:36 AM
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Left leaning people tie what you say with your identity. Intersectional Feminism lays this out nicely. If you were a trans black woman in a wheel chair, what you say carries more weight than a cis het white male, even though what you may say is asinine. Trump/Hitler/Other Boogeyman nonbinary person could say the sky is blue, which is true, but they can't remove their feelings towards Trump/Hitler/OBNBP in a mature manner to agree or disagree as they see fit. This is why they go through your post…
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/17 04:21 PM
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A Taken In Hand relationship is a fully-committed wholehearted sexually-exclusive marriage in which the husband wears the trousers and is firmly and actively in charge (to his wife's delight!)—and he puts his wife and their relationship first. Putting her and the relationship first is the key to creating a marriage in which the man is in control in a good, healthy and sustainable way. Via: http://www.takeninhand.com/what.is.a.taken.in.hand.relationship I'm into kinky sex, but don't live the life…
/r/RedPillWomen20/09/17 10:47 PM
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He doesn't want a relationship because he wants to be able spend time together, go on dates, cook for me, take care of me, etc. Uhhh... isn't that a relationship? I guess he means he wants you physically there? Either way, it's not going to happen at the moment, so no use wasting energy getting upset about it. Sometimes I think he wants the benefits of a relationship without the relationship if that makes sense. Makes total sense. :) He knows what you're after, a relationship, not FWB, so I'd le…
/r/RedPillWomen20/09/17 03:39 AM
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I think there's a chance he's holding out hope that we'll go back to our old arrangement too. You did discuss your future with him, right? I remember saying you have jobs that would keep you apart, so he knows that to have a relationship with you, that there's going to be compromises - on both ends? My only concern is I don't know I can handle being a friend without wanting more or being offended if/when he finds someone else. Take that break. If you can, put his number on silence/no alerts. (I …
/r/RedPillWomen20/09/17 02:18 AM
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I would do exactly what you're doing. Unfollow on Facebook and stay friends and continue to do your own thing (gym, hobbies, etc.). I personally wouldn't reach out to him and if he reached out to me, be friendly but not overly so. Mirror his actions and emotions unless he escalates and you're not interested.
/r/RedPillWomen20/09/17 12:34 AM
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Congratulations on your baby! Have you heard of Madonna-Whore complex? It sounds like what's happening. He could also have issues being sexual (dirty) with you when you're carrying a baby (innocence). There's also this video, you might find parts helpful: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NEhSbUwHqFI r/DeadBedrooms may be helpful too.
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/17 03:54 AM
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I tend to be quite dainty in general and am very feminine. I really think that allows them an opening to express who they are: men. If you were chugging around with dyed armpit hair proclaiming fish don't need no bicycles, any sort of "toxic" masculinity is suppressed instantly. It's like the vulgar saying that beta-ness make women dry like deserts, something something men hide their masculinity.
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/17 12:44 AM
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I think you being more feminine traditional allows the men to fill the void, as they should, to be more masculine traditional. If you were a feminist harpy, they wouldn't be masculine - they'd most likely avoid situations with you.
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/17 06:08 PM
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I'd think there would be less room to drag out a directionless relationship Definitely and that's not what I was referring to. I can see this strategy not working out in spectacular ways as well (for example: rushing into something because you are hitting your 'age'). To play devil's advocate with your devil's advocate ;) , this is what I'm thinking about. Many women may stick with relationships because they're so set on their fantasy timeline that "I'm in this one year relationship with Dave Da…
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/17 04:47 PM
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I wouldn't say it's immature, but like u/MrsManue mentioned - when you have high expectations, you're going to be disappointed. We all have fantasies on how we'd like to have our lives, but reality doesn't care. If your fantasy is to be married at 25 and your boyfriend hasn't proposed to you and you're 24, you're going to start nagging/becoming a shrew, consciously or not. Or, if you dreamed of having a beach wedding since you were seven and your fiancé has the audacity of wanting a traditional …
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/17 04:40 PM
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Congratulations! I wish you two the best. :) Personally, I never understood women's need to have X by Y. As a child and young teen, I knew many girls that had their life planned out, marriage by X, kids by Y and I just can't relate. (Nearly all of them turned into absolute monsters during prom.) To me it seems really... superficial? to have such big things planned out when you haven't even met the man you're supposedly going to spend the rest of your life with. I can understand exclusively datin…
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/17 04:16 PM
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I would not reccomend wearing a much higher heel at your work, now or ever. Please realize that high heels aren't daily footwear This reminds me so much of the episode where Tea Leoni asks Dana how she runs in her heels. I can't find the clip of the two, but here's Dana nerding it out in the background: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BSbPdnlwg30 @ /u/stillmuddy : Definitely don't wear heels every day, especially at your job, you will end up like this. I am thinking some shoes with good traction…
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/17 04:04 PM
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Is being emotionally vulnerable the same intimacy as being physically vulnerable during sex?
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/17 04:21 AM
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if your SO had a female friend that was closer to him than you? How about his mother or sister? Is he having sex with his mother or sister? If not, then he's not really closer than with you, whom I'd presume he's having sex with.
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/17 03:55 AM
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I'm glad it was helpful! I'm in an incredibly similar situation as you are, though my relationship is a year long. A friend suggested saying that to my man as, like you, have no idea if I fit into his life. I wish you all the very very best and I really hope it works out for you two. <3 <3
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/17 03:21 AM
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How do you feel about asking him if there's room in his life for you?
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/17 02:44 AM
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I found out about it bc one of his buddies asked me about it when we were all out for lunch. He wanted to know if it pissed me off, I said no; he asked if I was sure??? Then he proceeded to pull up my husband's fb account and it shows what 'pages' he follows. I asked dude wtf would you do this, he said he was just curious. Yeah, this guy is a Grade A Shit Disturber. Keep him close, but do not trust anything he says.
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/17 07:36 PM
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It also works wonders when you put your hair in the half up, half down style, which seems to be another hair ambrosia, lol. Hair ambrosia. Hahaha, love it. I've heard that before regarding the half up half down. (I'll have to rethink my mullet stance on it.)
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/17 05:18 PM
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Braids have that timeless traditional femininity. I'm also told that men find braided hair styles to be one of those mysterious things that girls can just do. I really want in on that air of intrigue.
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/17 04:46 AM
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You are wonderful. Thank you. <3
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/17 04:15 AM
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I'm jeans and a t-shirt type, so this year I bought a few dresses and wore them. It's a start. I've always had a hard time dressing myself ... my style is all over and isn't cohesive. Though I don't really like cold weather, autumn and winter is when I feel most comfortably dressed because I can do jeans and a sweater in darker colours. I feel awkward wearing my traditional black, grey and navy when it's 35c out. The thing I really want to get down is learning to braid my hair. I either wear it …
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/17 02:53 AM
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I'm a day late, hope that's okay! Can I be greedy and ask two questions? 1) General "is the relationship progressing okay?" question. 2) I'm at a crossroads in my life (not relationship related). Location wise, career wise, everything wise. Any advice? I'm not sure if I should pursue something that will take a lot of time but possibly be very rewarding and open a lot of doors in the public sphere, or focus on something that may possibly bring in good money but make me a shut in homebody. Thank y…
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/17 02:22 AM
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I didn't find the books enabling at all. Laura Doyle, who wrote the Empowered Wife, is very much "RP" and is in the recommended reading list. I'm debt free and I want to keep it that way, so any talk of shared finances puts me on high alert and neither book raised any enabler red flags. The books more go on how to go about talking with your husband in a manner that will keep the family financially stable while not emasculating the him.
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/17 07:55 PM
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The bank called to tell me they would be freezing our account unless it was set straight ASAP. His brother told me about the bets. That's tough. I can't think of what else to suggest. I am frugal too and the thought of sharing finances with someone who does not share that frugality is scary. I have read two books recently, both that have financial sections and how to approach: For Women Only & The Empowered Wife: Six Surprising Secrets for Attracting Your Husband’s Time, Attention, and Affection…
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/17 07:25 PM
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He has not yet proven himself to make sound decisions. From my understanding you are married to him and have children? If this was a problem he admitted I would most likely have reacted more gentle. How did you find out? Did he tell you or did you find out some other way? Where you harsh with your reaction?
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/17 06:58 PM
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He could very well have thought "If this works out, I will be such a great provider for my wife and family!" Is this an actual gambling problem or a strong, yet poorly executed, desire to be a good provider? Is he averse to 9-5 "regular" jobs? Some men for various reasons (ego) don't want to work for The Man and rather be their own boss. This is a difficult adventure if he's not focused. Have you thought about less direct ways of talking finances? Men often don't like to be told directly what is…
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/17 06:37 PM
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And the six pack of course. Psft, only beta cucks have six packs. That won't even satisfy a HB4.5. Manly alpha manly men have 12 packs.
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/17 05:11 PM
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What is your definition of traditionalism? Therefore red pill women are not traditional, because these women want all the benefits of traditionalism but none of the drawbacks. Citation please. Men on the other hand have even more drawbacks present. In regards to RP? Can I get a citation for this too? Edit: I'm also happy to discuss over PMs or outside of Reddit if you wish to continue. :)
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/17 04:17 PM
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when we still had traditionalism, females didn't have rights. Wife beating was legal. Marital rape was legal because females were male property. Married women couldn't have property. Only men voted. Only property owners voted, so that left out a lot of men. Voting was for the upper class. What era are you referring to? 900BC or 1700AD's? It's very easy for women to claim to want to revert back to traditionalism, but will you also accept marital rape? Will you accept wife beating? Will you accept…
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/17 03:54 AM
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Thick skin. ;)
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/17 03:43 AM
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Your job isn't to impress him by being his ideal woman (any image of this woman you form is assumption and projection) but by being your best self. So eloquently accurate
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/17 01:51 AM
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RPW is meant to catch the sucker early on so you lot are smarter women for sure, You should stick around and read a bit more. and the government will back you and you keep the house. It's all garbage. Absolutely, it is garbage. I think alimony/divorce laws are horrible and I have male friends that aren't able to see their children because the judge favoured the mother sporting her low cut shirt. You might like this channel if you haven't come across it already: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AH…
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/17 01:45 AM
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A wedding is like a real life Instgram post with all the best filters. It's a day all about her and her every desire. Everyone caters to the bride. Why wouldn't a woman want that?
/r/askTRP13/09/17 01:37 AM
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Cause when you adapt your behavior to what is acceptable at the time, when the circumstances change you revert back to you original nature. Original nature in that all us wimmin will revert back to feminism 3.0 or revert back to original traditional family structures, which is what RPW is all about?
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/17 01:34 AM
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I always recommend Ross and TJ Maxx. I get a $90 shirt there for $12 and take it to my tailor, who fits it to me for another $12. Then I tip him $10 because he always bumps me to the head of the line when I need a rush job. (Not often, but it happens.) So for $34 I get a custom, tailor-fitted shirt. I like that. I like finding ways to spend my money efficiently and wisely (tailor tipping) and I find that attractive in others. I do try to keep the bacon grease off of it, though. ;) When the SO an…
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/17 01:22 AM
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You are very welcome. I hope you two all the best.
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/17 11:42 PM
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I've always had a particular "look" I find super attractive which I've had since childhood. (Think Drax from Guardian's or Teal'c from Stargate... not easy to find!) My SO now is the only one that ticks those boxes body-wise. I'm such a lucky girl! :D The thing that actually got me particular to a man's appearance and expecting "more" was going to the gym. It's not actually that hard to achieve greater than Dad Bod and if I can pump out ten full range pull ups, weighted or not, I want my man to …
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/17 11:40 PM
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Is he in the military? How old are you? Him? My SO swept me off my feet in a whirlwind and we had three dates in 24 hours. Then he told me he was leaving for a week. He came back, we spent another day together, he left for a few months (and told me that he turned down a six month contract overseas). He was pretty up front and clear, as clear as you can be with someone you just met (ie: not going into all the specific details) and always stopped what he was doing, I was the centre of attention, l…
/r/RedPillWomen11/09/17 05:54 PM
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Welcome! Interesting that you have him less driven and in the military. In my mind, those two don't mix at all. There's How To Vet A Man in the side bar: Part 1 , Part 2 , Part 3 that you might find helpful. I keep suggesting this book too, because I found a lot of "ah-ha" moments: For Women Only. My SO is military, the first military man I've ever known, and I find that he's very masculine and fits perfectly into the stereotypical masculine mold. I was nodding my head often reading that book, t…
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/17 05:59 AM
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Chad was a very good looking man, tall, fit, beautiful face. Very insecure but not apparent to a casual glimpse. (Granted I'm very intune with people and can pick up on psychological projection.) Complete narcissist, self centred, arrogant and was never wrong. If you bruised his delicate little ego, watch out for 6'1, 190lb muscled man child. Dating a Chad was one of the best lessons life has ever taught me.
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/17 05:50 PM
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I feel like everyone is having threesomes and really exciting sexual experiences, even married couples, and it makes me wonder if I'm repressed or just missing out. . We've only had one threesome (before getting married) and it was really good but we didn't want to keep doing it because we knew it could cause problems in our relationship. There's your answer for you.
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/17 04:37 PM
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I've been sleeping alone in my bed for three? years now. I have a 'boyfriend' though, long story, we don't see each other very often. We haven't had The Talk™ though with how he talks sometimes, it's very assumed that we're together. I know this isn't what RPW suggests, but I honestly need this kind of space to get used to the idea of being in a relationship again.
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/17 04:24 PM
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or as my grandma puts it, "blissfully ignorant of life, and unwilling to learn or adapt" Utter gold.
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/17 06:32 AM
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After I posted I kept thinking about your question and my answer. I can't remember where I saw it, but the 80's/90's was a different parenting style, "everyone child is special" and participation trophies for all. I think being raised in that environment definitely has helped feed what you're seeing in your college. Those kids were raised knowing they could do no wrong, no discipline, no sort of work ethic instilled into their being.
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/17 03:52 AM
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So Shellie does not bath, or clean her self properly (always smells like shit or like she doesn't wipe). I always feel like this is part of an actual mental deficiency, especially if the person excels in other areas. I know generally that a person that is incredibly highly functional in one aspect of their life, other aspects suffer.
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/17 03:04 AM
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could you try to help me understand why they wouldn't want to? Feminism. It goes two ways: 1) Why bother because you will never get anywhere because the patriarchy will ensure that you're always second class to men; 2) Womyn are strong and powerful and don't need no man because men are inferior so there's no need to do anything, you're a woman and you're entitled to anything and everything regardless (aka: The Pussy Pass™).
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/17 02:16 AM
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I would rather be single and that's why I had been single for quite a while. I could have easily settled, by why quietly cry yourself to sleep each night when there's another option?
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/17 02:06 AM
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I try to look good and dress conservative and feminine Do you act feminine as well? Do you look people in the eyes? Smile? How is your posture? Do you stand up properly or do you slouch? Do you shuffle around like Quasimodo or do you have a nice light step?
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/17 04:47 AM
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Thank you. This is what I gathered by browsing r/AskMen and other places.
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/17 03:25 AM
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-1 if you rely on other subreddits.
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/17 10:34 PM
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Don't ask, don't tell And I'm going to add: don't get yourself in the situation of the question. It's tacky to ask. 2 or 22, he's either not going to believe you and/or question everything about you and the relationship. I think my count is average and I only had one guy ask me my number and he always questioned my intentions, was incredibly suspicious of everything (where I was when he wasn't around) and controlling. Not someone you'd want to date or be married to.
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/17 09:32 PM
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Try reading some books. I really liked For Women Only. The Empowered Wife: Six Surprising Secrets for Attracting Your Husband’s Time, Attention, and Affection also had some good information. Laura Doyle, who wrote Empowered Wife, is often recommended for reading material.
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/17 09:29 PM
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Reading some posts on other subreddits, I think I have my answer, but would love you guys' opinion: Do men joke about marriage?
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/17 09:25 PM
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So scenario A then? For those who haven't read Rose Madder Norman Daniels is an abusive husband that completely isolates his wife from the outside world.
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/17 03:48 AM
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I can think of two scenarios: A) He is the real life version of Norman from Rose Madder. B) He sees your self destructive behaviours of drinking, sleeping and thinks your hobbies contribute to those actions and wants you to hang out with his family in an attempt to assist you not being buzzed on booze all the time. Which scenario do you think is more reasonable?
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/17 02:34 AM
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My pleasure. I wish you the best of luck. <3
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/17 01:12 AM
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Had it all my life. My jaw would constantly click, but now after a few years of sleeping with the guard, it no longer clicks when I eat. That piece of plastic is an absolute Godsend.
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/17 01:12 AM
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Yes, though I love hearing how they really want to make their relationship work. HMJB is hilarious! I had a good laugh with this one: http://i.imgur.com/z0Hjx1z.gifv Makes me less fearful of having children. (I have cats and I laugh at their misfortunes constantly.)
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/17 05:27 PM
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Love r/SkinCareAddiction ! However I have to ban myself from it because I've spent way too much on skin care the last two months!! I also love r/CurlyHair and r/CityPorn. I sometimes browse r/FemaleFashionAdvice, r/WeightRoom and r/Deadbedrooms
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/17 04:39 PM
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You let yourself go, he didn't. If you bought a laptop to watch Netflix and it ran perfectly and then six months down the road it refused to load Netflix, you'd be getting yourself another laptop. This is what he did because you didn't keep your end of the bargain. I'd highly suggest reading For Women Only. If you drank the feminist kool-aid, you probably also unknowingly disrespected your man; no wonder he pulled away. Men need respect more than they need love. The book is easy to read and I re…
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/17 04:36 PM
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Temporomandibular joint disorder, essentially I clench my jaw at night which gives me raging headaches the next day and it was really difficult to get going in the morning because of the headaches. A week with a mouth guard solved that. Also going to say: no electronics in the bedroom and no electronics 30min+ before bed. If I chat or watch on the Internet and then go right to bed I can't sleep at all.
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/17 04:28 PM
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I have TMJ so getting a mouth guard at night helped dramatically. I no longer had daily headaches. Also getting a lot of sun has helped me be a morning person. I'm also very lucky that I have an east facing window so the sun gently wakes me up well before my alarm goes off. (But I still snoozle until the alarm goes off.)
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/17 04:00 AM
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Men like to be the providers and taking on the responsibility of the finances of the family help them fulfill that role, so says the book. This may be the missing piece to the contentment in your marriage. (Hopefully it is, then you don't have to keep searching!) Another book that I really liked was For Women Only. There's For Men Only too and the author suggests that the guy read For Women and the woman read For Men and highlight parts that resonate with them and switch books. I've only read th…
/r/RedPillWomen04/09/17 04:19 AM
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Who controls the finances? As in, who pays the bills, etc? I just finished The Empowered Wife: Six Surprising Secrets for Attracting Your Husband’s Time, Attention, and Affection and there's an entire chapter dedicated to finances. The tl;dr of the book was to let him take care of the finances completely.
/r/RedPillWomen04/09/17 03:02 AM
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Dread as a thing. I see dread as purposefully making your partner insecure that you can leave them at anytime you see fit. Dread to me is very toxic and I personally would not put up with it; it'd be out the door quicker than a bunny. Also I went to Married TRP but it was get your wife in a collar week. Is BDSM some kinda RP thing? LOL I don't wander into MRP much. Submissive wife to her husband is a RP thing. I think most of the guys in MRP have shrew wives that are less likely to give sex so i…
/r/RedPillWomen03/09/17 07:17 PM
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Thank you very much.
/r/RedPillWomen03/09/17 07:11 PM
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Last month: 500 pulls ups - done This month: Ride as much as possible with the good weather Continue to read Plan future with my man or plan my future without my man (having A Talk™ later this month - wish me luck!). I'm wishing to relocate possibly next summer. I'd love to plan that relocation with him for the both of us. Work on my legs/butt in the gym, put together a lower body program
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/17 08:42 PM
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Sounds like renting is the best option for you right now. :) You can also check out these too, the more you know! Renting versus Buying a home | Housing | Finance & Capital Markets | Khan Academy, Is buying a home always better? | Housing | Finance & Capital Markets | Khan Academy & Renting vs. Buying (detailed analysis) | Housing | Finance & Capital Markets | Khan Academy
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/17 08:14 PM
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the first step in eternalizing my forever alone status. I think it is more your mindset than owning your own home. I own a house and I live on my own. Buying for me was the right choice because where I live the rental market is very unstable and you can find yourself without a place very quickly. I pay less with my mortgage, strata and property taxes than someone would for renting the same type of space, so for me it was a no brainer. The value of my property has drastically increased in the sho…
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/17 04:27 PM
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What is one specific trait (mental,physical,emotional,or whatever) that the men you dated,or your man in general find uncommon/rare/amazing That he can talk to me about really personal things without judgement. "I feel I can be myself around you", "You don't judge", "Few people are as understanding as you"
/r/RedPillWomen01/09/17 06:49 PM
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For example, picking up 'traditional female hobbies' just to increase 'feminity' like it's some sort of health bar. I agree that our environment shapes up our personalities up to a point, so it would make sense to engage in feminine activities to be more feminine, I find this so strange. I get more guys interested in me because I dirt bike and can get down and dirty without complaints and for the most part, know what I'm actually doing. I surprise so many guys that approach me when I'm on my bik…
/r/RedPillWomen30/08/17 05:15 PM
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TLDR: you're calling our his bad memory, and sending negative emotions. With great power (a good memory) comes great responsibility (don't make others feel bad for their bad memory) Yea, the last thing I want is to give him negative feedback. All of the posts have been very helpful.
/r/RedPillWomen27/08/17 04:27 AM
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What's CRS? I did a search and came up with Catholic Relief Services.
/r/RedPillWomen27/08/17 04:27 AM
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^ This. All of it.
/r/RedPillWomen26/08/17 03:46 PM
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Hahaha! I was on a bus and there was an elderly couple, like, really elderly, ahead of me and the husband kept pointing out everything to his wife and telling her about what it is, etc. She was so patient with him. I would love to end up like that.
/r/RedPillWomen26/08/17 03:45 PM
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I do my "yes I knows" with a smile, so I'll try cutting out the words and just keep the smile.
/r/RedPillWomen26/08/17 04:15 AM
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Haha, I'll keep that in my arsenal to sling out when appropriate. Thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen26/08/17 04:14 AM
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Sorry, I should have clarified. He has no history of performance issues (that I Know of), but wasn't sure if he could naturally have the stamina for what I like. Sounds like he might have been joking, like /u/girlwithabike suggested. I appreciate your real life examples and advice. I feel like there is a lot we can learn from those around us, and I appreciate you sharing with me. Thank you. I always feel after that it sounds like I'm trying to make the situation about me which I'm not. I hope th…
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/17 09:01 PM
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Sex is really important to me and I would say I have a high libido as well. The guy I'm seeing is older than me (mid forties) so would be under the same as your guy being not "as young as he used to be". (Thought I think 34 is pretty young for physical erectile difficulties?) The rest, his physical attractiveness, drive, etc sound similar to your guy. There have been problems in the bedroom and they may get better, or they may get worse. I honestly don't care. My guy has this dignity about him a…
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/17 05:01 PM
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I don't know how to properly quote You can highlight the text you wish to quote and then click reply and it'll copy the text and add the greater than symbol " >"
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/17 07:18 PM
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That's really nice of you and I would love these as a gift. However, do you know why she prefers to wear t-shirt & shorts? The Victoria's Secret pieces look nice, but I would never wear them regularly because: TMI time ~! Vaginas are self cleaning and they (or at least mine) drip often and the loose bottoms would be really uncomfortable because the discharge would literally just dribble down your leg. As much as I would love to wander around in such nice items all the time, it'd just be too unco…
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/17 06:56 PM
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I go through these waves where sometimes if I feel I'm not getting enough coddling, Do you track your period? Not only do I have monthly cycles, but they fluctuate throughout the year. Always fun! Having a tracker really helps me figure out if it's hormones or something else. (Surprise, it's usually hormones.) Perhaps watch some old, 1950's movies with women and see how they deal with situations. Rear Window is a good movie which has the stunning Grace Kelly. The Ghost and Mrs. Muir has Gene Tie…
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/17 04:39 AM
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I have a bunch of self improvement links in my link list here. /r/femalefashionadvice/ /r/Hair/ & /r/CurlyHair/ /r/SkinCareAddiction Braids And Styles Milabu I'm currently looking at trying to braid my hair, I love Milabu as my hair is similar length to hers, though I get really frustrated that my braids come out so uneven and lopsided. I know it's all practice, but if anyone reading has some tips, I'd love to hear.
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/17 04:19 AM
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How much value and care should we put into others perception and opinion of us? I love people's opinions about me because how I see myself and how others see me are very different and I like feedback for improvement opportunities. Not all feedback requires improvement though. Example - If I had a constant sour look on my face and unkempt hair and someone said I looked dour and haggard, I'd think to myself "Do I want the world to see me dour and haggard?" I don't, so I'd take that feedback and tr…
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/17 02:39 AM
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I like Simons.ca 's quality and that they have free returns and free shipping over $100. www.marksandspencer.com has free shipping and the dress I bought arrived in Canada from Britain in three days.
/r/RedPillWomen17/08/17 10:46 PM
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You are welcome! Gym or home, trainer or not, just make sure you go. I did P90X on and off for a few years and really liked it, though it doesn't have a really good lower body routine. However, if you can't get to the gym, P90X is a great introduction that needs little equipment. I'm sure you can pick up the DVD's second hand for fairly cheap. If you're familiar with the basic five compound moves and have a gym near by, then definitely do that. If you go on a regular schedule, you'll make friend…
/r/RedPillWomen16/08/17 03:48 PM
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/r/SkinCareAddiction & /r/CurlyHair - lots of natural black curls here absolutely rocking it. Depending on your hair type, these channels might help: Braids and Styles: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC8ouEGIBm1GNFabA_eoFbOQ Milabu: https://www.youtube.com/user/Milabu09 https://www.reddit.com/r/curlyhair/comments/3b0jly/is_there_a_curlyhaired_youtuber_you_follow/ Lift weights to lose weight. Weight lifting creates muscle which consumes more calories to maintain than fat. Weight lifting will giv…
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/17 04:08 PM
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She's 30 and miserable with "mental problems" stemming from her life choices. She's projecting her bitter unhappiness with what is wrong with her life on to your life. She is upset that you're younger and married to a man who wants to create a baby. She's unemployed, lives with her parents and needs alcohol to dull the pain. I would tell her this. I would also ask her why I would take her advice when she's alone, miserable, unemployed and still living with her parents at 30. Tough love is someti…
/r/RedPillWomen13/08/17 10:45 PM
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Similar situation to you! Seeing a military man and have far too much distance between us to be able to do things like cooking. What works for me was listening without judging. I just listen to his problems and if I feel like I have a solution or advice, I let there be a few seconds of silence between him finishing talking and when I respond. I think the silence is needed because he may not be actually finished with his train of thought. It also shows that what you're saying isn't reactionary, b…
/r/RedPillWomen11/08/17 04:38 PM
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Funny how we women are told not to do stuff like this because men don't want to listen, but instead fix. However, I'd think everyone needs just to vent without having to defend their position. Listening without judgement is a very worthwhile skill to have.
/r/RedPillWomen11/08/17 04:27 PM
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As of Friday, my boyfriend of a year proposed to me in front of all of our friends at our weekly dinner party. It was unexpected but exciting and the ring he picked is perfect! No advice, but wanted to say Congratulations!!!! Should I be planning this without him and only going to him if I need help or should I continue to try to involve him in the plans when he doesn't seem particularly interested? Okay, maybe a bit of advice - I'd keep him in the loop, but don't burden him with things he doesn…
/r/RedPillWomen10/08/17 09:29 PM
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http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=concern+troll
/r/RedPillWomen10/08/17 01:01 AM
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If professional therapy is not available/too costly, you might want to look in to Jordan Peterson's Self Authoring. Molyneux has a discount code that is available until the end of August: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1kdnmT_7gLE https://www.selfauthoring.com/past-authoring.html It would be particularly useful to complete the Past Authoring Program if you have memories that are more than about eighteen months old that still intrude upon your thoughts, or that still evoke emotion such as fear, …
/r/askTRP09/08/17 06:32 PM
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I'm a lone wolf, so I'm used to doing my own thing by myself. (Quality time and physical touch are my two top love languages, I miss him greatly but I've lived 30+ years without affection, I can go a few more months.) I text him often, once or twice a week, something flirty, sexy, expressing how handsome and masculine he is, how I miss his touch, smell and having sex with him. A few times we'll text back and forth often over a few days but mostly it's a text or two a week, sometimes many days or…
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/17 03:27 AM
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I think you're doing as much as you can. I'm in a similar situation: out of work SO with an injury. If we weren't a plane ride apart, I'd be doing the bj's, cuddles, sex, and keeping a happy demeanor as you are with your boyfriend. Just ensure you don't smother mother him are plant self doubt seeds (which a field will be sown). You might be interested in this book here: For Women Only. It gives good insight in the inner workings of the male mind and might ease some of your anxiety. :) https://ww…
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/17 02:44 AM
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I posted some links a little while ago, some you may find useful: https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/6kdhdq/link_list_rp_relationships_self_improvement/
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/17 04:46 PM
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Hi! I'm sorry for taking so long to respond - I wanted to make sure I had time to read through and not just a quick reply. I want to thank you so much for this; I truly appreciate it. It really is just the beginning of the work from home tech boom so getting in now is great! This is so lovely to hear. I taught myself HTML and CSS back in the day but then my family talked me out of pursuing further because "computers will be obsolete". It's one of my few regrets. You can play Swift Playgrounds wh…
/r/RedPillWomen06/08/17 05:20 AM
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Posting information that may be of use after reading this post: https://www.avoiceformen.com/men/more-than-an-orgasm/ Sex Starved Husbands: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pVpV1u6iSvM For Women Only: https://www.amazon.com/Women-Only-about-Inner-Lives/dp/1590523172
/r/RedPillWomen05/08/17 12:58 AM
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The locker room talk isn't meant for women, and the men there are working to improve themselves, just as the women here are. The difference is that both subs have to work on different things. I understand that, however I see a maturity in RPW that I do no in RP. If I saw more Hunter, Rollo and Roosh type postings, then it wouldn't bring the issue up. In MRP, the use of dread(purposeful flirting to garner jealousy) and cheating are viable solutions which I think are really disrespectful in a comm…
/r/RedPillWomen04/08/17 03:39 AM
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Welcome! I'd personally wait. I didn't get my first "boyfriend" until 16 and it was really overrated. I didn't seriously start dating until my early twenties and I definitely don't regret it. High school relationships are just full of drama and immaturity that I just couldn't be bothered. (That "boyfriend" ended up sleeping with my good friend and she was really stressed about it but I just lol'd and carried on.) I couldn't imagine what it's like now with the Internet and social media.
/r/RedPillWomen03/08/17 02:36 AM
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so it won't be too much trouble. Famous last words. :P
/r/RedPillWomen03/08/17 02:24 AM
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I truly believe in women learning to code in order for them to provide a better home for their families. DesireToKnowMoreIntensifies.jpg Can I ask which code you know? I taught myself HTML and I know CSS back in the day when Geocities and Angelfire websites were all the rage. I tried learning Java but it went way over my head. The Java courses I took were through edX.org. Sounds like what you have is a life goal for me - home wife and mother that can do a bit of meaningful and stimulating work w…
/r/RedPillWomen02/08/17 09:54 PM
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There's a monthly simple questions thread that you could post in. :)
/r/RedPillWomen02/08/17 07:29 PM
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https://stronglifts.com/5x5/#Quick_Overview Seriously, start here ^ It'll give you a really good understanding of the basic compound lifts. Compound lifts work multiple muscle groups which gives you more bang for you time. It'll give you muscle, adding curves to your body and tightening up places (after doing squats, my saddle bags disappeared and my thighs more slim). Muscle burns more calories so it help with weight as well. You will not get bulky, but you might get a perky bottom! http://stro…
/r/RedPillWomen02/08/17 06:05 PM
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Welcome! I'm glad you found us. :) I don't say this to be mean, but more out of concern that maybe these aren't the right kind of guys for me. I don't think it's mean. I think it'd be easier if you saw progression from RP, but instead it goes from the starting "anger" phase then the "bang all the women" phase and it just ends. What I see here is a distress phase, reconciliation and self improvement phase and then looking for a Captain phase and when we look to our mirror in RP, we wonder where w…
/r/RedPillWomen02/08/17 05:39 PM
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Not to be dismissive of your worries but I think this a non-issue for men. I can't think of a single instance where a guy I know dumped a girl because her family was crazy. Not one. Men don't do that. As long as your life is not a mess its not going to be a problem. TRP strongly advocates a strong father-daughter relationship and that a poor relationship with their father is a red flag (slut tell). @ /u/wsba910am - I don't have a good relationship with my family either and luckily they live very…
/r/RedPillWomen02/08/17 04:57 PM
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I'm using lists I found on Pinterest for ideas and inspiration. Thank you for sharing. I also want to start journaling again. I've done so before and I think it was really helpful getting things out of my head, giving perspective and keeping my neuroticism in check. I got myself a self authoring thing and want to do that, but for some reason I'm really fearful about it. (There's a discount right now if anyone is interested.) I have 470 more pull ups to do this month. I think I might add a squat …
/r/RedPillWomen02/08/17 02:30 AM
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The advice to bring your captain your problem refers mainly to problems such as a leaky toilet, garbage, light bulbs etc. Incredible. I've always thought "problems" meant all problems, not specifically physical issues. Same should be true for emotional morning breath. It's natural, it's part of you and he'll be exposed to it. My suggestion was to minimize his exposure to this side of you. If I didn't explain that explicitly in that post, I certainly did so in subsequent posts. I understand that …
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/17 08:15 PM
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Thank you, it'll be over the month so about 30 each workout giving me a buffer as I haven't done them in a while. I did similar last year and got over 500. I love pull ups. They're great for keeping my back in shape and I'd recommend them for anyone who wears heels or sits at a computer or otherwise hunched over during the day. Pull ups really help improving posture too. :) If anyone wants tips on how to do them, I learned at home with a pull up bar and a chair. Start with the chair close-ish to…
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/17 05:01 PM
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I'm not telling you what you're allowed or not allowed to do. It's a free country and you can do as you see fit. Well of course, that's a given. However, from your link: In sexual intimacy we need to display as much of our best selves and as little of our worst selves as possible. A guy who displays his insecurities or a girl who bawls her eyes out will have a harder time being attractive to their mates. (https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/51oknp/the_great_myth_of_malefemale_friendsh…
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/17 04:03 PM
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I very much agree with all that you've said, though I also really do love reading the men's replies. I find very interesting that more men post here than women over at TRP.. now thinking about now, I feel that perhaps RPW may be the more mature, less jaded and less reactionary place out of TRP & MRP which may lead to it being more inclusive.
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/17 04:51 AM
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Not sure if others can see this now /u/loneliness-inc that it's been removed/deleted. I had another question about this and how you're suppose to give your Captain your problems. How does this and what I posted earlier correspond with what you've written? How do you create a relationship with both intimate and emotional intimacy staying out of friend territory and always showing your best side?
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/17 03:13 AM
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No When a man and a woman go out on a date: they'll each dress up, scent up and be on their best behavior. In order to bring these two opposites together, each one must display the very best version of themselves. In friendship, you're safe to display your very worst. How then does a woman balance being open and vulnerable if she's not allowed to share her worst?
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/17 12:19 AM
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Give P90X a go. I did that on and off for a few years and really liked it. The big downside is that it only has one lower body day so you might get imbalanced (I did). And honestly, you won't look dumb if you're actually trying. The first few weeks I went into the gym, I told the guy at the front that the squat rack was broken because one of the safety bars was off it. He came down to look and as he was putting the safety bar back on, he said "you're pretty new to the gym, huh?" You're a woman a…
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/17 06:43 PM
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I lift weights 3-4 days each week and enduro (dirt bike) on the weekends. I've let myself slide a bit with the warmer weather and not going so August is going to be my booty and pull up month. I'm aiming for 500 pulls over the month to get back where I used to be. For booty, I have some imbalances I have to work on so it's a back to basics with my squat. :/
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/17 05:14 PM
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Browsing the 'tubes and found this great video by a favourite - Amanda Latona - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=x-0BgbAh2Zk
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/17 04:40 AM
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Adding here if anyone is interested: https://www.codyapp.com/category/yoga?ref=explore_tab_1
/r/RedPillWomen29/07/17 09:53 PM
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Seconding Strong Curves. Though, if you are new to the gym (outside of the treadmill) I would suggest a few months of Strong Lifts 5x5 which will get you familiar with the basic five compound lifts. You will not get bulky. https://stronglifts.com/5x5/#Quick_Overview If you go to the gym on a regular basis and have a semblance of a routine, the guys in the weight room will likely jump at the chance to give you tips and advice.
/r/RedPillWomen29/07/17 09:52 PM
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It's almost like they're attracted to me because I have my life together and big on self-improvement, so when I show the tiniest bit of weakness, they panic. It's almost like they use me as a trophy girlfriend. They expect perfection from me. I hear you. This is why I have such a hard time being vulnerable. As soon as I show that I have problems or am not perfect, I'm told to suck it up & deal with it when I just really want to be held.
/r/RedPillWomen29/07/17 05:23 PM
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I understand that men do have higher IQ readings compared to women Just nit picking, but this men be more smrt isn't actually true. Only half the men are smarter than women. Women's IQ clusters around the average of all the IQ's and on either side of that median is men, meaning that about half the men are less intelligent than women. would intelligence in a woman throw off the "protector and protected" dynamic? Not necessarily. A woman may be as smart as a whip, but not able to do things like pu…
/r/RedPillWomen29/07/17 03:18 AM
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I used to be constantly overwhelmed by how far away a "rich life" was, or as I once read, "the weight of all the lives I'm not living." You hit me right in the feels.
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/17 03:47 AM
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I would be more concerned about the fact that this woman got engaged to somebody she knew for four months then about the fact that she is considering a threesome. Yes, especially considering this: I don’t know much about their story but he lives in Cuba right now (where they met) and he is looking to move his business to where we live. Is he a citizen of the country you're living in? If not, it seems like he could just be using the marriage for citizenship/other benefits.
/r/RedPillWomen27/07/17 05:51 PM
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What's your ideal/dream marriage then? :)
/r/RedPillWomen26/07/17 03:35 AM
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What does your perfect marriage look like? Me staying at home to raise the children (homeschool), keep a tidy home and have the kitchen properly stocked. I think he'd want to do the dinner cooking and I will make the rest of the meals. Once the children are older, I would like to get a part time job when they are at sports activities or otherwise out of the home, but my first priority would be to my husband and home. If I could get as similar to Gomez and Morticia Addams I'd be so happy because …
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/17 10:40 PM
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I don't think I've ever called a man by that descriptive. He's the first man I've ever said "I love your chest, it's so raw and masculine!" as I brushed my fingers through his chest hair. (It really helps that his body is my ideal body; I honestly could not have built a better body if God gave me clay to sculpt from.) I will also tell him how safe his arms make me feel, which I think he really appreciates still being seen as "protector" while being in a wheelchair. Why does calling my man "manly…
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/17 08:19 PM
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That's very kind of you to say. I didn't say it to be a pity story, but rather just factual that I'm not able to see him and this is what I do to make it work. :) Oh, another suggestion is that if the home has simple repairs that he's not physically able to do, but you could, maybe have him teach you how to do so? And maybe do so in some safe, but skimpy outfit? ;) I hope your man has a very speedy recovery!
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/17 05:59 PM
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It's been theorized that this is a hormonal "feature" to encourage a change in partners if no children are coming out of the union. That's really interesting, but I'd have to say it wouldn't be true. Human children need quite a few years of parental care and it's in the best interest of both parties to ensure that the offspring reach maturity. Given that a lot of deathbed is with married couples with children would show that the theory is untrue. I agree that idleness in the relationship is neve…
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/17 12:50 AM
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My SO just stopped wanting it. Stopped trying. Once a month. That's sad and as I'm seeing really common. It's even more sad now that I'm learning that sex is very different for men than it is women (re: Voice For Men link). From what I read, right or wrong, it isn't hygene. It was brain chemistry. I was just saying that for me, my long term relationship ended because I couldn't physically stand being intimate with someone who doesn't brush their teeth or know how to clean their genitals properly…
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/17 11:48 PM
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Yes, and I've been there on the woman's side. I'm just wondering if it's just innate in women in general, or perhaps something else. Birth control and a lack of hygiene on his end (and overall un-respectable beta-ness) were the death of intimacy and then the relationship for me. As you stated, sex loss starts around 2 years. Is this where the genuine seduction like /u/radioactivities9 mentioned wanes? Complacency on both ends? Something else? This subject is of particular interest to me as I lov…
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/17 11:34 PM
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Yes, they speak about feminism though I don't believe they are "anti feminist" more so "common sense".
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/17 11:12 PM
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Okay, so it sounds like a feminist source managed to cover some RP basics? No. This is why I don't like summarizing as what I hear and understand is very different from what someone else hears and understand. Hopefully others will take the time to listen and maybe gain some insight.
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/17 08:22 PM
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It's a video you can have on in the background as you don't need to watch. I've been doing other things while listening. I understand wanting a summary, but what is important and stands out to me might not resonant with someone else and what seems mundane to me and skip writing about could be someone else's "ah-ha!" moment. It basically boils down to that men like sex and need sex and it's emotionally painful to be married to a woman who recoils to their touch. Women seem completely unaware (or …
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/17 08:04 PM
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I'm nearly in the same boat as you, but due to my SO's injury and needed recovery, he's a good plane ride away and I haven't seen him for a few months. I text him often about how sexy I think he is. I tell him of my problems/hard things I'm going through as he always replies with plenty of advice and assistance. If I have to send him something, like clothing, I put notes in the pockets. I also use the terms "masculine" "manly" and so forth in the most normal and non cringey ways I can. This one …
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/17 07:01 PM
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Getting it put in hurt a lot, but the pain subsided very quickly. The first few months I had minimal spotting, though my back broke out. I take zinc supplements (cheap and last forever) now which keeps my back in check. I love that I never have to remember to take anything, I love that it's non hormonal and it was $80 and lasts 5+ years.
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/17 05:15 PM
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Hormonal birth control messed with my sex drive as well. I switched to ParaGuard and haven't looked back.
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/17 04:26 PM
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If it isn't general neutral, isn't ithat sexism? No, because all men (especially white cis het men) have privilege + power and if since all men have privilege + power it's impossible for them to be oppressed or otherwise have injustices, like sexism, put open them. You should probably educate yourself so you won't be so offensive for next time. Please make sure you dress in spandex, bring a flashlight, paper clip and decoder ring (circa 1934) to be able to fully understand the piffle that comes …
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/17 10:01 PM
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Coincidence that I saw this today on Return of Kings: http://www.returnofkings.com/126156/new-amsterdam-law-criminalizes-the-act-of-unsuccessfully-flirting-with-women-in-public Woe is me, where have all the good men gone to?
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/17 02:14 AM
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Eye contact and a slight Mona Lisa smile goes a long ways. Stand up straight, avoid Resting Bitch Face. Don't shuffle around like Quasimodo. Do a few or all of these simple things, I'm sure you'll see an improvement in approaches.
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/17 08:11 PM
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Anal sex has been around since butts existed. I think it becoming a "thing" is recent and has to do with porn and social degeneration. Porn because it pushes the boundaries. Missionary sex is been there done that, then it's doggy and then that becomes vanilla, and thus starts the race to push boundaries further and further. Social degeneration due to things like Cultural Marxism and feminism. Push boundaries, again, of what was considered normal to a new normal. Rinse, repeat. I'll also throw ou…
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/17 05:20 PM
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Congratulations on your new home! It is all consuming- the house is pretty much what he thinks & talks about 24/7. There is a lot of work to be done and it is drowning him. I'm guessing when he saw the house, he saw the finished home that he wanted to create for you and now that he has this home, and is living in it, is so completely overwhelmed about what needs to be done to make it the home he wants for you. Depending on what needs to be done, don't show that it bothers you. If the walls are g…
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/17 04:41 PM
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I think the reason why I struggle with feeling for other people is because I also had my problems but I pretty much bottle up my problems and don't tell anyone, and deal with it myself. For example if I see a friend struggling to lose weight I start looking down at her because it was easy for me to control my weight, since I have discipline. Does that make sense? Hello Me. I get you and I've been there. What helped me was to almost rationalize the behaviour I'm seeing or look for something posit…
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/17 04:32 PM
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A sweet story (I think) from my grandmother: she let my grandpa hold her hand the night before they were married. Then she stayed up the whole night worried that he wouldn't marry her because she was "a loose woman." Utterly adorable.
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/17 04:52 AM
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(for me I can't live with a man unless we're married) - because I think it's immoral or "loose" I'm generally fashion conscious - how they could be so sloppy I am pretty successful for my age - I start looking down on people who are still struggling my boyfriend won't let me pay, he wants to be the provider - I judge her for thinking she's amazing because they are "equal" Sounds like a lot of psychological projection. You seem insecure with your own life and project those insecurities onto other…
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/17 04:50 AM
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I don't like guys going down on me, I'm an anal virgin and I am shy under bright lights. All the guys I've been with have been really understanding (though did want the butt sex!). I just explain that I'm shy and put it in "soft boundaries" terms. It's hard to describe, but I never firmly say "NO! You will never see me naked with the lights on!!!" rather, I ask for candle light or kiss him and say we can work on it. I think it comes down to not putting your foot down with a hard no.
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/17 02:08 AM
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It's incredible how this affects us. I was on BC and I had screaming fits, the whole gauntlet. I often wonder how much of this feminazi hysteria could be solved by just having regular hormonal cycles. It's also scary about how birth control is pushed through. This YouTuber, TD;DR has a series on Addyi: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLYidWJkKcvE-gIrouTsW0bGJ5vSsqBU6r
/r/RedPillWomen18/07/17 09:38 PM
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I have a copper IUD and I love it. For PMS, which I have lots of (emotional, physical), taking vitex-100-Caps) has been an absolute godsend. I take one in the morning and one at night starting at my ovulation and ending on my first predicted period day. (So 14 capsules in total each month.) I've been using period tracker deluxe for the last seven or so years and it's very accurate and helps settle me when I get emotional (calm down, you're just pmsing).
/r/RedPillWomen18/07/17 04:28 PM
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Plus it gets rid of my sex drive Well they do say abstinence is the most effective birth control ;)
/r/RedPillWomen18/07/17 04:25 PM
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Physically? Emotionally? Intellectually?
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/17 02:09 AM
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OP is "married ~2 years" and I think letting yourself go once you're in a relationship is pretty poor thing to do.
/r/RedPillWomen15/07/17 08:52 PM
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I have not (so far) seen any advice about how the dynamic can flourish when the wife is the more financially conservative and minimalistic partner, so I am looking for advice on how to handle it. This is my biggest worry. I have a modest income, live within my means and have zero debt. He's a bit more spendy and being a man, willing to take more risk. It frightens me beyond belief to allow someone to decide my financial future, go into debt or worse lose property.
/r/RedPillWomen15/07/17 06:35 PM
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Done! And added Detailed Oriented Beauty blog. :)
/r/RedPillWomen15/07/17 06:08 PM
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/r/SkinCareAddiction Gothamista | YouTube Detailed Oriented Beauty TO 27 product review & TO recommended routine Deciem.com // TheOrdinary.com + sunscreen. I switched my $60 potions for $5-15 The Ordinary potions so I have more money to experiment and more money to target specific concerns. I just added a chemical exfoliant (lactic acid) and vitamin C and have noticed a difference in just a week. Browsing through /r/SkinCareAddiction you will come across a lot of information on why sunscreen is …
/r/RedPillWomen15/07/17 05:27 PM
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sigh I had a response written out and she deleted the comment. Since I think it might be helpful for others, if they come across this, I'll post here: Not really, it always gave me butterflies when he texted back. But by now, it just makes me sad. I realised it doesn't come from him, it's because I texted first. We have a long distance relationship and I really value his opinion and I ask for it a lot, but I also get a lovey feeling when I see he replied. I miss him all the time, and he is an ex…
/r/RedPillWomen13/07/17 08:41 PM
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Have you thought about the reasons behind why you're clingy?
/r/RedPillWomen13/07/17 08:18 PM
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From a man quoted in the book: Guys don't like to talk through things on the fly. That is not comfortable, because I don't really know where it is going. I like to have a road map of what I've thought through and thus know where the conversation is going. I think for a woman, part of the joy of communication is the discovery. But as a guy, I don't like to discover things in the communication, because I don't trust that it will cover all the nuances I need to think through. So not knowing where t…
/r/RedPillWomen13/07/17 02:34 AM
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I recently read For Women Only about how the male brain works and what the woman can do (and not do) to make the relationship easier. There's one for men. I haven't read the man's one, but if it's as good as the woman's, it's worth maybe picking it up and leaving it around the house. In the woman's one, she suggests that the woman reads the "for men" one and the man the "for woman" and highlight parts that are relevant to her/him. Then switch books and read. I've got a bunch on my plate at the m…
/r/RedPillWomen13/07/17 12:54 AM
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My moods change around ovulation as well. I found that vitex helped with my PMS (moods, insomnia, night sweats, nightmares, dry eyes, the whole gauntlet) which I take twice a day (AM & PM) during my ovulation up to my predicted period start date. This is the one I take. It's under $10 for 100 capsules which would give you over three months' worth of taking which should be enough to see if it works for you. Of course, do your own research to decide if it's something worth your while. I don't refl…
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/17 04:18 PM
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P.S. I went to the pool by myself -- I was a little worried I was going to be the only girl in her 20's there alone, but I wasn't, and I had fun swimming around :) That's how you deal with rude girl friends. Glad you had fun! When someone says something rude to me, I treat them like a child that just told me the sky is blue and water is wet: "okay" I say. If a girl tells me that the dress I'm wearing is ugly, I simply say "okay" and continue on. If a girl tells me the dress is just fantastic, bu…
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/17 04:02 PM
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What do you expect from Cosmo? HUS is quoting from Cosmo and wrote after that: I’m not sure about that last one, what do you think? Would you be happy in a relationship with a nice guy who had little ambition and/or income?
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/17 02:26 AM
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Men often need space to calm down. They retreat so that they can avoid reacting angrily or make any kind of hasty decision. Adding to this, this book: For Women Only goes into detail about how and why men do what they do. According to the book, men like to fully think things through and being followed by their spouse (exampled in the book) makes them close down even more. It's a great and short read and may give some great insights on what men do and how and what you can do. The more you know.
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/17 12:54 AM
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Do you do any self reflection on your emotions? Do you know why you're anxious? Triggers such as being a small child and losing your mom in the store can cause issues in adulthood. Knowing and identifying what causes the emotions is a step in being able to control them. At 23, I was similar - very needy and clingy because I had past traumas that I hadn't been able to deal with. I needed someone to hold my hand constantly and if they deviated from Fantasy Them, I went into total melt down. Now, t…
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/17 10:56 PM
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Perhaps because we live in a society that puts men down and makes men feel guilty about everything they do so they don't know their own self worth? By the way just to clarify, the 8-9 woman also has wife material qualities, her status might just be higher (looks, finances, job position, social circle). Reminds me of this blog post: http://www.hookingupsmart.com/2017/06/15/politics-and-feminism/men-praise-intelligent-women-but-do-they-ask-them-out/
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/17 09:32 PM
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However, I have large thigh and calf muscles that only seem to be exacerbated by heavy lifting leg work such as squatting. I'd still do lower body, but just lighter and more reps. I'd then focus on upper body work to even out your bottom half. (I'm doing the same, just opposite of you!) Pull ups, overhead press, and bench come to mind. I personally wouldn't focus on losing the weight but rather readjusting my body composition. (Less fat, more muscle, like this and this.) For stomach, I'd recomme…
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/17 05:44 PM
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I have to agree. I have thick course black hairs which are perfect for laser treatment. I did both professional and at home with a Silk'n Flash & Go and could not be happier. https://www.silkn.com/flash-and-go/
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/17 04:06 PM
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Don't tell your number. It's tacky to ask and that would pop up a red flag for me. If you tell your number the guy will think you're lying (and as per TRP, double or triple what you've said to get your "real" number) or he'll think you aren't lying but the number you've said doesn't jive with the number he gave fantasy you and that will likely cause problems. It's a no win situation and the best course is not even to look down that path. What's the point of talking to someone for months if you d…
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/17 04:04 PM
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maybe I should take responsibility You're only responsible to yourself. You only have power over yourself. Or maybe, after I heal/fix myself, we can try to rebuild our relationship. I am so sorry to have read what you've gone through and I can only wish you a genuine and fulfilling healing. Do not go back to this boy, he doesn't deserve you.
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/17 02:54 AM
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No nail polish for me. I use argan oil on them and buff them so they shine. I keep them short and oval shaped. Not nails, but same area, I'm now using my face potions on the top of my hands so they'll age as nice as my face (hopefully) will... :P
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/17 01:20 AM
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A LOT of walking for perky butt and stream-line thighs. Weight lifting >>>> cardio If you want a perky butt, you'll want to do squats, glute bridges, dead lifts, Romanian deadlifts and lunges. If you want curves and be "toned" then you need muscles to build those curves and "tone". That means you need to lift weights and not focus solely on cardio. (See also) Weight lifting also boosts your metabolism because muscle burns more calories than fat. Weight lifting makes your bones stronger. Abs are …
/r/RedPillWomen10/07/17 09:38 PM
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I'm really good friends with a few and they've put in years into their profession and reflect on how most PT's only have a few months' of training. It's not just me, I've heard from other people and just looking at gym fail videos online is enough - especially the Crossfit ones which people pay exorbitant amounts of money for "trainers". The local Crossfit gym here is over $200/month compared to my $45/month gym. Sometimes the crossfitters come in to work on their heavy speed deadlifts. I've no …
/r/RedPillWomen10/07/17 04:43 PM
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Depending on your budget, definitely look into getting a trainer. I would not recommend a trainer. Most trainers have very little actual training (a few months at that), rarely know how to do the base barbell moves and will put their client on meme machines like the thigh adductor so they can "tone" their thighs.
/r/RedPillWomen10/07/17 04:19 PM
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Unless the guys are real assholes, they will go out of their way to help you. I knew no one in my gym and walked into the weight room and the guys' arms were bigger than my thighs. Now, years later, those guys ask me to spot their bench, take me under their wing with form checks, moves, additional information. The Pussy Pass™ is real, use it to your advantage. I started with Strong Lifts and then moved on to 5/3/1. Avoid the machines and learn the basic moves with the barbell first. You will not…
/r/RedPillWomen10/07/17 04:15 PM
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I just finished this book and I found it quite good: https://www.amazon.com/Women-Only-Revised-Updated-about-ebook/dp/B001E2NXBQ/
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/17 12:10 AM
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Do you think it has anything to do with the parenting style difference between then and now? Now a days it seems the parenting style is over the top: kids can't play on their own so need to be supervised constantly and just overbearing and nosy parents in general. Coddling children seems like it'd be really taxing. I just think back to The Wonder Years and how Kevin was constantly out of the house, doing his own thing. A lot of the vintage videos I watch also have the children going out and spen…
/r/RedPillWomen06/07/17 04:19 PM
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Sounds like you got it covered! Here's to your new happy home. :)
/r/RedPillWomen03/07/17 10:00 PM
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The man then said to me, "She never brings her wallet when we shop. She's smart; I'm the dumb one". But he walked away with a big smile. That's adorable. Seeing the woman who bought the plant at my job, and dad's fiance, have things that they "never" do, made me wonder if any of you red pill ladies have things you "never" do so that your partner can help you with them. Things you "never do" because it brings him joy to do them for you. So what are your "I never"s???? My guy opens doors and stand…
/r/RedPillWomen03/07/17 07:30 PM
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Definitely not expendable. I've sent you a message with more details.
/r/RedPillWomen03/07/17 05:42 PM
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Congrats!! Have you made space in your closet and dressers for his clothes? Emptied some shelf space for him to put his own books on? Does he like to cook and have lots of kitchen gear, if so, does he have space in your kitchen to put that? Does he have favourite foods or drinks, does your kitchen and fridge have that?
/r/RedPillWomen03/07/17 05:41 PM
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You're welcome. I hope you have a speedy recovery.
/r/askTRP02/07/17 10:54 PM
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/r/askTRP02/07/17 07:43 PM
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We don't text often which is fine and something I actually prefer. I know that men like to text only for sext and logistics and he seems to follow that to a T. (Probably reading that in one of the dating books I posted about below.) The first which was the last time I got my feathers ruffled over it he was really apologetic and said it was not his intention and that he re-reads my texts often. I feel childish, but I want to know that I'm appreciated. I don't feel appreciated when I'm the one tha…
/r/RedPillWomen02/07/17 04:17 PM
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Quite possibly, yes. He's incredibly traditional (he carries the items, opens doors for me, etc) and this injury has taken all of that and his job, the only one he's known, away from him. I've found some how-to-date type books of his which I had mixed feelings about but then came to the conclusion that he's probably so insecure about interacting with women that he went and bought books to try and fix it. He's older and I believe he's also suffering from what plagues older men in the bedroom. Tho…
/r/RedPillWomen02/07/17 03:41 PM
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Yeah, I'm in limbo here. He's gone silent before and I called him out on it and he was incredibly apologetic. He doesn't have a lot of relationship experience and this injury is very serious and has really hit him hard so I chalked it up to that but there comes a point where I have to stop making excuses for him. Not sure what to do; I don't really want to text him and playing the waiting game is silly but then I can't move on without a definite answer. :/
/r/RedPillWomen02/07/17 02:58 PM
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It doesn't work for me; like /u/AndyKane says, I think he's illiterate and/or don't think enough of me to warrant proper grammar and spelling which doesn't make me wish to spend time with him. It makes me wonder how TRP came up with that; did they do a study or did some guy do a field report and it just became part of the norm? I don't think any quality woman would appreciate poorly written texts, so she probably next's him and he think she's the flake. I just wish people would be authentic. Les…
/r/RedPillWomen02/07/17 05:10 AM
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This is a bit of letting off steam as well as a question. SO is a military man recovering from an injury a decent plane ride away. I haven't heard from him in three weeks. I'm a bit miffed as I always initiate the conversation and I feel really under appreciated and worthless at the moment. I don't know how to bring this up because I'm pretty sure this will hit him from left field as his texts are either playful/flirty or work related (which then turn flirty). I don't want to be high maintenance…
/r/RedPillWomen02/07/17 05:04 AM
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I do enjoy this aspect of dating initially - it's fun to pick out outfits that I know he'll like and know that I'm providing some visual variety for him that he'll enjoy. Oh, I love that too. I love all the butterflies and the getting to know stage... before I get semi-attached. I have no problem with them wanting sex, and I have no problem giving it, but it comes at a cost of not being a flake. I have standards for them and I uphold myself to my own that I think is appropriate for mine. (Exampl…
/r/RedPillWomen02/07/17 04:49 AM
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Since paying has come up quite a bit: http://www.hookingupsmart.com/2017/06/29/politics-and-feminism/paying-for-dates-is-getting-incredibly-awkward/ My limited experience is with mostly sex-centric guys. They wanted action and they wanted it yesterday. I haven't had issues with paying as they man usually paid, even with me offering. One guy who was burned by a divorce paid for him and I paid for myself. All of them where flaky in the commitment department. One was very domineering and didn't tru…
/r/RedPillWomen02/07/17 02:11 AM
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I feel this too. I've only said the L word twice and both times I said it first. This time I will wait for him so he doesn't feel pressured like the first guy. I want him to say it when he truly means it. It's been nine months with this guy and given how he is, could be another nine. Lol.
/r/RedPillWomen01/07/17 09:19 PM
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Oh, you made me lol. I few weeks again on TRP I was reading about texting women and they consensus was to purposefully have bad grammar/misspell so that they seem aloof and that the woman is more of an afterthought because he's so busy doing Man™ things. Cringeworthy either way.
/r/RedPillWomen01/07/17 08:43 PM
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Great information, thank you. I've just recently been introduced to the concept of Cultural Marxism. You could say I've been "red pilled" for about five years now; I been wanting to know more of the history of this 'downfall' of society as I thought it started with feminism and then branched out to intersectional feminism and the oppressive hierarchy that Stephen Colbert brought to the mainstream when interviewing Ketchup. (Also highlighting the well off bourgeois protesting with their smartphon…
/r/RedPillWomen30/06/17 04:53 PM
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I've been following him since the hubbub with the gender bill in Canada. Not until recently have I found shorter clips of his knowledge. His videos on his channel are hour+ long which is great, but his information is so dense that I find it very difficult to digest all in one go. I'm really happy to find channels that have taken clips to make the information less daunting.
/r/RedPillWomen30/06/17 04:41 PM
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Done! Definitely need more blogs like this!
/r/RedPillWomen30/06/17 04:37 PM
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This is where it gets difficult being a male contributer on redpillwomen. My guy side wants to scream at you to double down and stay with him through the tough times and 'if' he get's his financial act together you two will be not only stronger but he will be very inclined to marry you because you've shown loyalty and haven't nagged or manipulated him through the ups and downs. I love that RPW does have guys post because I love reading the other side and being able to adjust my actions according…
/r/RedPillWomen28/06/17 04:46 PM
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My gut tells me he finds me a little off/strange You could also think that it keeps him on his toes; he doesn't quite get you so you're a bit of a mystery to figure out. It can keep him coming back for more, especially if you're receptive to him. For me, I'm just honest and open and show with words and actions that I really like being around him.
/r/RedPillWomen27/06/17 05:46 PM
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Hello Me. I do the exact same thing. I get super awkward and go into this serene mind calmness around him where my mind goes blank in a lovey dovey way. I just call it like it is: "haha, sorry, I'm awkward because you're really handsome." My SO has said pretty much the same things as Joe and luckily for me, I go into business mode and just tell him that I'm nervous and I really appreciate his patience with me. And then snuggle into him.
/r/RedPillWomen27/06/17 04:17 PM
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Where our opinions seem to diverge I don't think they diverge at all because I agree with you here: A "true alpha", according to psychology, would be somebody who has a "strong ego" and expresses himself in many personas, "beta personas" being among them. E.g. my wife is dying in a car accident, the doctor tries to rescue her and gives me commands.. I'll be his bitch and do everything he says (beta persona in this particular situation). The OP (now deleted, so working from memory) was looking fo…
/r/RedPillWomen24/06/17 11:43 PM
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I honestly wouldn't worry too much about it. Think of it like walking - it's easier to walk on autopilot than to think about each individual stride. Definitely understand the definitions as it helps relay ideas, but don't think you need to be all one.
/r/RedPillWomen22/06/17 04:39 PM
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I think you misinterpreted what I wrote. A man(anyone) isn't always going to be the same person in all situations. At home he can be an alpha, at work, where he is not a superior, he won't be. He may be the loud alpha in his group of friends, but at a ceremony more reserved and quiet. If you work in an office environment, you're going to be more professional and conservative with your speech and dress; at a bbq, you're going to be causal. Of course a soldier can take the lead at any time. People…
/r/RedPillWomen22/06/17 04:32 PM
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I know I'm not Alpha, but otherwise, I don't really know what I am, and feel several descriptions sound like me. That's because no one fits exactly into one definition at all times. A military man may be the "alpha" at home but at work, he can't lip off to his superiors, so he would be yes sir beta. I wouldn't fret too much about what definition you fall under, you'll just drive yourself up the wall.
/r/RedPillWomen21/06/17 09:34 PM
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I help with the bills Sounds like he got a pretty sweet deal. RPW tries to avoid moving in before marriage as the man gets everything that a wife does except without the commitment that the woman seeks. He categorizes all women and doesn't see me as any different. I'd honestly move on, work on yourself and find someone who has his act together.
/r/RedPillWomen21/06/17 04:22 AM
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It sucks, but from your post, it doesn't sound like he respects you at all. Why did he get you to move in? Do you feel that he has control issues? A lot of "RP 'men'" care only about themselves, what they like and what they want and what they can get and don't give two shakes of a lamb's tail of what their partner wants. Learn from this and take the lessons with you. I'd next him and find someone who is higher value.
/r/RedPillWomen21/06/17 03:56 AM
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You've been together for five months but "also have been living together for a few months"? Who moved in with who and when did it happen? (First month, second?) I'd advise not to have threesomes with men, especially with such a short time together. I'd advise to get out as my red flags are waving with klaxons going off in the background. He sounds very manipulative and will use that against you and then drop you when he sees fit.
/r/RedPillWomen21/06/17 03:09 AM
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To answer your question: No. I feel like the type of guy I would love to date is unattainable Why?
/r/RedPillWomen20/06/17 05:12 PM
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I was worried this would get downvoted, but I do recommend reasonable shit tests / comfort tests early on in the vetting stage to get a handle on if he matches up to your expectations. It's a two way street. The better you develop yourself, the better able you'll be able to keep that man once you find him. Upvoted ;) It's probably easier to turn a beta into an alpha than vice versa, for instance. I concur. Find someone you like that has potential. I feel that a lot of men will naturally be that …
/r/RedPillWomen19/06/17 12:33 AM
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This popped up in my subs today - you might find it helpful: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OT-QNNePJdA
/r/RedPillWomen17/06/17 06:22 PM
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She's the one instigating the friendship. Do you feel that she just likes to lord over you or do you think she genuinely likes your company? If she's just wanting to show off, what I'd do is not feed into it. If she's the type that calls you up to tell you about her new Birkin, I'd suggest saying "that's nice" and don't elaborate or further the conversation. You're essentially removing water from a weed which it will wither and die. She'll either get the hint and stop connecting with you or she'…
/r/RedPillWomen17/06/17 05:01 PM
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Just no "spark" yet. He definitely deserves a few more chances though for that spark to develop. The spark was on my SO's side and it took a while for me to find him romantically attractive. I can't think of anyone I'd rather be with now.
/r/RedPillWomen17/06/17 02:07 AM
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Also if you are concerned with the money being spent why not during a date sneak away and buy him something? (e.g. at a movie sneak away and get a candy or something) This! My SO makes way more money than I do so it would not be feasible for me to pay for everything. He's also very traditional and outright and firmly said "No. But thank you." to my offer to pay. I do however make small contributions - art gallery? Wow, thank you! Can I cover parking? Or if we do something simple like coffee, I'm…
/r/RedPillWomen16/06/17 07:06 PM
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Came across this this morning: Jordan Peterson's Advice on Finding a Woman, Marriage and Having Children & Jordan B. Peterson - The Best Relationship Advice EVER! and thought you might enjoy. When framing it this way it becomes less about him, and more about you, and what is going on in your head. By thinking about it this way it becomes less about blaiming him and more about your mental state. I get you but I also don't get you. Let's say I'd like him to call more often, I'm stuck with somethin…
/r/RedPillWomen16/06/17 06:35 PM
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"bring your captain your problem, not your solution" This sounds really silly, but is there a template for this? I drastically over complicate things and I'm looking at bringing something up and I'm trying to do so in a tactful way. Your post says to lead with your feelings, however I find that a bit cringe? Women and their feelings! I tend to be pragmatic and unemotional, so I'm finding it difficult to express myself in the suggested way. (Probably from emotional abuse any time I was vulnerable…
/r/RedPillWomen16/06/17 05:09 AM
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I have a divorced friend who told me that in the two years she was married, her husband never knew she was pooping. She'd run the shower, while using the restroom and then bathe. That's insane to me... and it didn't save her marriage. That is me. Heh. I'm not grossed out about hearing other people pee, but I never want anyone to hear me. The other, my ex would make these horrible sounds which I didn't want to hear, don't ever want to hear and never want to hear again. Turn on the fan, runs some …
/r/RedPillWomen16/06/17 03:45 AM
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Check out this blog! http://www.therulesrevisited.com/2015/08/ugly-girls-dont-exist.html & http://www.therulesrevisited.com/p/list-of-all-posts.html /r/SkinCareAddiction is fabulous. I frequent it a lot. The great thing about being 23 is that you have oodles of time to start with proper skin care. When you're in your 30's and 40's, it's a lot harder to reverse damage. Check out some of the before & afters. I also suggest keeping the lights off in the bathroom. (No glasses if you wear them.) We'r…
/r/RedPillWomen16/06/17 03:27 AM
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I know I'm being entitled, and again I realize I was very lucky growing up and didn't have to worry about anything. Especially as a daughter. I see how much he does, for his future and for me. I love him for this. Sometimes I just worry but I'm trying very hard not to. Don't be so hard on yourself. The fact you can see and say this shows you have understanding which is far above the average person.
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/17 04:49 PM
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I concur. A lesser off man with ambition is much higher value than a well off man with none.
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/17 04:34 PM
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Both have the same acronym and I didn't catch it, fixed now!
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/17 04:08 PM
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Probably the same reason why there is TRP and MRP. RPW is for women who are married where RPW has a wider audience.
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/17 02:48 AM
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This account seems to have wandered in via TRP/AskRP where they're incredibly negative and NEXT!!!! any female that shows any inkling of of being flawed (like all people) with no self reflection on their{his} own actions.
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/17 04:20 PM
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My definition of Chad is very different to yours), but I get what you're saying! I'd like to think my SO is your definition of a Chad. :)
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/17 05:06 PM
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All they ever talk is how fucked up the modern society and women are yet their solution to this problem is pumping and dumping them. I read a thread in AskRP: the guy was dating a virgin and asking how to proceed. The response? Make her not a virgin. Saying it broke my heart to read it is a bit of an exaggeration, but I just couldn't believe that this guy was told to play this girl and probably break her into hair dye and problem glasses. Now, if you dig deeper and go past this crowd, you will s…
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/17 04:50 PM
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See, I get that. What my issue is that I don't see a sub where guys like you talk. I understand that men swallowing the pill will be bitter and I totally understand, however, that's all I see. I don't see a more mature place where RP guys talk about lifting routines, pranking their wife, comfort tests, and other such stuff. I am very loyal and I will never cheat my wife. But there is a very soft "plate spinning" concept that still applies, that is to make sure that you're still in a good enough …
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/17 04:42 PM
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I guess I didn't articulate my issue properly. Why are there not men like you and the others that post in RPW in MRP and RP? Why is M/RP completely bitter and reactionary, why is there not a large more rational group of male RP's like the guy that writes The Family Alpha? Women come to RPW to learn and to better themselves. Men in RP learn about spinning plates, no strings attached sex, nexting any girl that requires a minutiae of attention, relationships are laughed at ... it's stuck in this pe…
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/17 04:36 PM
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That's my issue - if we're looking for our "Alpha Captain", then we're wanting a RP man. The RP value system doesn't seem to care about long term relationships, comfort tests or if the man has side action (physical or not). And yes, I understand that a Captain will have both alpha and beta qualities - none of which are discussed having in MRP or RP subreddits.
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/17 05:02 AM
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Not all RP guys are bitter betas who think they swallowed the pill just three days ago. I get that. However, when you look this forum it will give a viewer a good idea of what RPW values are. The same can be said for RP and MRP and the few other websites that I read. Of course NAMALT, but the forums and websites still give the same values as my first post. If MRP had similar views as RPW, my point would be moot, but it doesn't; I've seen a few threads on men saying how they dread their wife; a w…
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/17 05:00 AM
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As you may know, I found this place after years of reading the the male side of RP and PUA sites. I was actually thinking about this today and maybe you'd be able to shed some light. In reading the male side of RP, cheating on the spouse is hardly frowned upon. Whenever a woman acts up, I read that the guy should next her. (And I'm not talking feminazi shit tests, just regular female anxiety.) There's no self reflection, no thought of what the male did 'wrong' and could fix; it's always her faul…
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/17 04:31 AM
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In the fantasy land in my head, I'd be a stay at home mom for the first years that require constant care. Depending on how far the school system has fallen, I'd either do part time school or completely home school them. When they're older and need less supervision, I'd either go back to school through distance learning or pick up a part time job. I can't stand my parents, but I definitely appreciate that my mom sacrificed her joy to stay home with us so we could have home cooked meals and a clea…
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/17 01:10 AM
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Reminds me of: https://www.louderwithcrowder.com/waiting-till-wedding-night-getting-married-right-way/ I figure the longer I can pee without having to close the door, the better.
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/17 04:40 PM
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Deal! I hope you enjoy your new hair style and hope to see you around. :)
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/17 04:35 PM
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That's exactly the point why women search for short-term mating. 9 months of pregnancy and 18 years of rearing isn't exactly short term mating.
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/17 04:32 PM
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I wouldn't try to assume what a woman is feeling during various points in the cycle Pro tip: every emotion in shotgun fashion. :)
/r/RedPillWomen05/06/17 11:15 PM
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I get that, I just find it interesting how you get new people writing up a thesis telling regular readers how things are.
/r/RedPillWomen05/06/17 11:13 PM
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If your hair is all one length, seeing a stylist can make a huge difference. It was so funny wearing the dress for the first time. I thought it'd be this big ordeal, but other than being aware of what the wind is doing, it really wasn't any different than wearing shorts. I think it's great you're going to keep your hair long. See a stylist and feel good about yourself. Your husband may not care how your hair is styled, but I'll be he'll notice the perk in your steps. ;)
/r/RedPillWomen05/06/17 10:43 PM
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I find it really interesting the juxtaposition between the female and male oriented RP subs. The men seem to love these analytical verbose theories where the women's side is questions and conversations.
/r/RedPillWomen05/06/17 10:38 PM
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and women accuse me of extensions LOL! On special occasions I will curl it and wear it down and although I feel very feminine and attractive wearing my hair this way I am not so sure it is appropriate. Why wouldn't it be appropriate? I wore a dress the first time the other week because I didn't think it was appropriate to wear a dress outside of a Christmas dinner. I got lots of compliments and actually enjoyed wearing it (it was so hot out and a dress is much cooler than shorts). If you don't t…
/r/RedPillWomen05/06/17 08:16 PM
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How can I get back that slice of independence that I badly need? Go out and do your own thing. Go have coffee by yourself, go for a walk, go for a bike ride, go to the library, go window shopping. http://freeintenyears.com/frugal-tips/100-cheap-hobbies/
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/17 04:57 PM
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Natural undyed hair, plucked eyebrows, lasered my moustache, three chin hairs, armpits, legs and keep my bikini area trimmed. My preference. If SO wants, I'll shave to pornstar bald, but he's never requested. I've done salon and at home laser hair removal. Anyone interested in it, I highly recommend the Silk'n products.
/r/RedPillWomen31/05/17 04:46 AM
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I had someone do that. Ditch me soon after sex after months+ of building up to it. I have to see him nearly every day. I act like he doesn't exist - I don't acknowledge that he's come into the room, I avoid him.. but I do so organically. If I have to interact with him, it's very short to the point but very polite. None of that high school drama and absolutely no talking about his actions to others. I think at first he thought I'd crumble and get back to him, but I haven't and he sees me laughing…
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/17 05:31 PM
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The Missing Tile Syndrome
/r/RedPillWomen27/05/17 07:14 PM
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If you both go to the gym, he's most likely aware of cheat days too ... so mention your cheat days are such and such and arrange ice cream on those days (and maybe this will give him new date ideas). As well, you can space it out so that you can recharge you batteries. :)
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/17 06:42 PM
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hugs I am trying to be civil and he is trying to get amusement out of this. I'm so sorry. Continue being civil, work on yourself, treat yourself and be the best you can be. If you want, please stay and keep chatting with us! Don't feed into his amusement. I'm not sure if you believe or not, but I do: karma will bite both of his butt cheeks real good.
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/17 08:20 PM
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I'm sorry you had to go through the miscarriage. With the papers you signed, is there anything written that you (financially) helped him through his schooling? If not, put that in there as I believe you should be owed. I'd suggest that outside of court appearances for the divorce, you cut all contact. If he tells you about the super! awesome!!1! lays! he's getting, I'd say "that's nice" and leave it at that. Have his phone number go to voice mail; put the ring tone to silent, set your phone on D…
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/17 04:11 PM
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Adding to this: “You need to understand that one of the very few times that a man gets to feel pure, unfiltered, and completely open physical love is during sex. A lot of the time for us it’s the only chance we get to feel some intimacy. To feel your skin on ours and run our hands over you. To be genuinely close and not just hear the words “I love you”, but actually FEEL them. To feel them in the way you hold us.” via A Voice For Men Would this desire from men not want them to get sexually intim…
/r/RedPillWomen23/05/17 05:09 PM
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You said: The number of cocks matters. How many cocks is the tipping point?
/r/RedPillWomen23/05/17 01:37 AM
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colleague invited me over for dinner when I got there she was feeding her kids while trying to prepare our meal invited person does not offer to help, rather sits on the couch There you have it folks.
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/17 06:56 PM
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So every woman who has had five different sexual partners is broken beyond repair?
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/17 05:05 PM
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Thank you - it was so helpful to be able to vent. Doing a bit more looking into the company, it seems to be similar to Mary Kay. I had friends who do/did Mary Kay and were able to make "some" money from it. It's still a ridiculous business model that sucks people in though. It's just mind boggling that he's into this make! $$$$!!! money! in! weeks!! get rich quick scheme where I know he understands hard work and having to grind at things. (He has an amazing body that took years of dedication to …
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/17 05:09 AM
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I'm not denying that, what I'm questioning is portrayal of a low N-Count better than a whore with an actual low N-Count? I don't believe it's the actual number of cocks in the vagina that matter, rather that 1) Does she act like a slut? and 2) What is her bonding threshold? (Is it 3 sexual partners or 10?)
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/17 04:58 AM
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"I am plating a married 42 year old HB9. I gave her 15 squirting orgasms and she called me Chad. rofl ! That's spot on. I also love in AskTRP you always get "I'm a natural Chad alpha and there's this HB8.5 girl that I really like but I lapsed into being a beta and she ghosted me how do I get her backkk?"
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/17 04:50 AM
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TRP is formulaic and ego based. This is why there are countless field reports in TRP because it provides a stable formula of AWALT while boosting the poster's ego (typically with no introspection because women).
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/17 04:23 AM
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I've only been asked once about how many partners I've had. Other than asking, how else is a man suppose to gauge what a woman's N-Count is? (Edit: and would he believe the answer?) For example, the man I lost my virginity to thought I was experienced, even though I had told him several times I am a virgin. Even then, he was still surprised at the hymen blood the morning after. I had to explain to him again that I was a virgin. (I really knew how to pick them back then!) For some reason, he had …
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/17 03:52 AM
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Does N-Count really matter or is it how you portray your N-Count that matters?
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/17 03:20 AM
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Thank you :) He asked for my opinion and I gave it in my blunt manner. I don't know how to tell him "you do as you wish" with out sounding passive aggressive, shrew like and disrespectful. I don't want him to fail but it's so obvious that this company is really shady. (Comments and ratings disabled on all videos; all "pro" company websites are from people hawking it. Lengthy videos that have lots of words but say nothing - like those dating coach sites that have a 10k word essay that essentially…
/r/RedPillWomen21/05/17 07:52 PM
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What he said was a very very covert form of low grade manipulation. This. Is he Red Pill or is he alpha? If he's Red Pill, the manipulation tactic game that they have going is bs and I personally wouldn't want any part of it. You can certainly do sushi, but make it so that it won't lead to sex. (Arrange that a roommate will come home, or a friend to stop by "coincidentally" to drop something off, anything.) He seems like a player and a smooth talker.
/r/RedPillWomen21/05/17 03:07 AM
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Hoff-Sommers is incredible. I've read a few of her books and recommend them to many people. The War Against Boys was released in 2000, so she was seeing this problem of "toxic boy" in the mid to late 80s. Saddening. Rubin has an interview with her as well: Christina Hoff Sommers and Dave Rubin: Feminism, Free Speech, Gamergate [Full Interview]
/r/RedPillWomen21/05/17 02:43 AM
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What do you do if your Captain is making a really bad decision, like getting sucked into a pyramid scheme? How do be a RPW in that situation? (We're dating, separate bank accounts, etc.) I can't believe such an intelligent man can be that gullible. I want to cry. Edit: After a shower and beer, I feel that I have more of a grip on things. How do I support him when I think the whole thing is a scam? I'm very blunt to the point person and if asked for my opinion, you get the unfiltered response.
/r/RedPillWomen21/05/17 01:21 AM
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Reminds me of a comic I once saw. A young man on a motorcycle, a swooning girl. He asks her if she wants a ride, she enthusiastically says yes! They get married and she nags him to cut his hair. Then nags him to sell the bike. Next panel is him, with pot belly, sitting in a chair watching TV and her nagging him that he's changed and she's leaving him.
/r/RedPillWomen21/05/17 12:14 AM
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See also: Christina Hoff Sommers: The War on Boys
/r/RedPillWomen20/05/17 11:12 PM
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Edit : This article is tongue in cheek but it still illustrates my point. https://qz.com/117519/how-different-cultures-say-i-disagree/ "I don’t agree (German)" My life now has clarity.
/r/RedPillWomen20/05/17 07:18 PM
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Lauren Southern is legally male.
/r/RedPillWomen20/05/17 07:12 PM
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After being woken up twice at night to clean up vomit, or dealing with a day full of screaming tantrums, or cleaning up poop smeared on walls, or having food thrown in your face, many parents find it a relief to go to an office and deal with calm, rational adults and be able to eat a hot meal without interruption. This gives me the greatest fears.
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/17 04:11 AM
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oly is a bit beyond me. I wish I could oly at my gym, but alas, I cannot. (Plus I always feel like I'm going to take my teeth out with hang cleans.)
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/17 11:23 PM
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TLDR: All-consuming crush on my personal trainer and low self-esteem. No idea how to manage this. Enjoy the butterflies and use it as experience. Definitely don't put your trainer in a tough spot by being overly personal/flirtatious/touchy. I'm sure he's used to having the attention as PT's usually get this. Don't beat yourself up over it and really just enjoy the fantasy. Congrats on the -9lbs and getting into lifting! There's a bunch of us here that lift, so feel free to stick around. :)
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/17 08:24 PM
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What do you think is a good way to deal with these situations? Dangerous situations - whatever it takes to be safe. I don't often get asked if I want a ride, but when I do, I simply politely say no thank you and haven't had a problem. For the gym, I let them stare. It's not harmful and as long as they don't start touching me or being forceful, I don't care. I had one guy get tunnel vision and after I was finished, I asked him how my form was and he laughed and said sorry and that my form was fin…
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/17 04:46 PM
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and stated that healthcare is a privilege and not a right. Every time: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=k1R53U9lNcM
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/17 04:11 PM
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How else are you going to be able to see the patriarchy so that you can point out all the problematic systemic sexism that exists?
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/17 04:12 AM
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Lindsay Lohan is a great example as RP itself is hyperbolic.
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/17 03:16 AM
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"housekeeping and other talents" Typically the woman stays home to raise the child, so being able to keep a house is something that a woman should want to be able to do. Yes, a lot is done by machines, but a woman can take a dwelling and make it into a home, something that machines can't do. Machines still need someone to tell them what to do. I don't have any fear being replaced by Rosie because I know that I am superior. (Just like I'm not concerned over sex robots.) and if you have an organiz…
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/17 05:41 PM
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"The wall" is a misogynistic term that suggests women have a use by date, I have to disagree that it's misogynistic, it's just fact. Using mayonnaise as an example is incorrect as a jar of mayo is static and not able to evolve like a person. It's simply put that if a woman puts all her value into her looks, she will not develop any dimension that makes her an interesting and worthy partner in her old age. A great example is Lindsay Lohan - she was beautiful but very, very bratty and entitled. No…
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/17 04:54 PM
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How do I strike a balance of being kind and open to other people but also stick to my guns for what I think is right for me? Who spends your money better - you or someone else? I recently bought a kitchen gadget and told a friend and he couldn't believe I would spend $$$ on it. He would have rather spent the money on a computer upgrade for gaming. The kitchen gadget works better in my life, the upgraded computer better in his. but then the downside was people walked all over me. And I had no min…
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/17 04:40 PM
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I think this is something a lot of men in the red pill don't seem to grasp. I think a lot of men that read the red pill think of women as disposable (re: plates) and are not looking for any actual emotionally intimate, long term relationship. I read that reddit and any time a woman remotely steps out of line, they hard next her, without any sort of personal reflection or understanding of the situation from the female perspective.
/r/RedPillWomen10/05/17 04:52 PM
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Adding some vintage advice I found, it's from a man's perspective, but still very relevant: http://www.artofmanliness.com/2016/10/16/secrets-healthy-sex-life-advice-legendary-bodybuilder-joe-weider/
/r/RedPillWomen10/05/17 04:16 AM
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How do you deal with the messages that certain things about you are not feminine, how do you stay feminine and not believe the hype? Read Cosmo and then read Sport's Illustrated. What women think men want and what men actually want are sometimes two very different things. My Mom loves Cosmo and I read a couple of years' worth of her issues and realized it was all the same shit, sometimes done on the same month. October would have "best oral sex month" how to's each year, though it may be as earl…
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/17 11:23 PM
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Nothing really to add but wanted to post these two YouTubes: He Wants You | PragerU Men and the Power of the Visual | PragerU
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/17 01:37 AM
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All those Instagram "models" and such look incredibly high maintenance, vapid and fussy. Following their specific fashion styles visually puts you in that group and that's how you're going to be first perceived. This is no different than edgy teens in the early 90's with the goth look; they wanted to live that lifestyle so looking it was also the part. You can try looking through a book like this: https://www.amazon.com/Science-Sexy-Unique-Figure-System/dp/1592402607/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=14942…
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/17 06:56 PM
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hugs I think you're doing just fine. There are going to be internal struggles to detox from the feminist kool-aide and there are going to be external struggles from those still drinking it. Take it step by step and learn along the way. Vent here, talk to your SO, take long walks, sip tea, it's all part of the process. :)
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/17 06:49 PM
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Yes! Have you checked out https://symmetricstrength.com ? (Caution - it's very humbling!) I'd be curious to know what your program is and your favourite lifts. :)
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/17 06:13 PM
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Both. Conventional I go heavy, and lighter on sumo. I also do lots of RDL and SLDL's.
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/17 05:57 PM
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drifting through life while following the crowd. This seems to be a common problem with a lot of people.
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/17 05:17 PM
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They just operate on a completely different level that men just don't understand. I can't find my way out of a wet paper bag, but my SO can navigate places like he's lived there all his life. It's ... almost.. like men and woman were made to ... compliment each other's strengths and weaknesses. This Us vs Them thing is so tiresome.
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/17 05:13 PM
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Honestly, start with Strong Lifts 5x5. It goes over the main five compound lifts that everyone should know and do. It's only three exercises each day: https://stronglifts.com/5x5/#Workouts and you should be done within 45 minutes. Your gym should have 2.5lb plates or even micro plates. Instead of doing 5lbs each week as suggested in SL5x5, just do the 2.5lbs or microplates. (Edit: Because you won't be able to increase that amount that quickly, so don't get frustrated!) I did an entire month with…
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/17 05:09 PM
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Trainers can be good. I have a guy that I work with that I trust; I've seen some really sketchy stuff (not including Crossfit) that trainers have advised their clients to do. Eeek. I actually befriended all the big guys at the gym, so I get plenty of free advice and form checks. As soon as the Big Guys knew I was serious by coming in every day and actually lifting weights (opposed to sitting on the leg press machine chewing gum and texting), they were more than willing to go out of their way. Fe…
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/17 05:02 PM
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It is intentional that I haven't measured BF% Ah, I didn't pick up on that. my Husband's preferences I hear you on that! ;) My SO loves my bottom and I was explaining to him my gym goals and he accidentally says "and your quads?", so I added in some extra quad work just for him. :P
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/17 04:57 PM
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This really bothers me because yes, higher IQ people tend to be men. Also, lower IQ people tend to be men. Women are in the middle of the curve. https://navigator1965.files.wordpress.com/2013/09/image1.jpg
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/17 04:30 PM
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You can get body fat callipers for a buck off eBay. It comes via the slow boat from China, but for a buck, you can't complain. My scale has a body fat thinger in it and it's pretty accurate. I started with Strong Lifts 5x5 [ https://stronglifts.com ] then 5/3/1 [https://www.t-nation.com/workouts/531-how-to-build-pure-strength ] Strong Curves [ /r/StrongCurves/ ] and now on a custom program. The biggest thing is: You. Will. Not. Get. Bulky. Weight lifting boosts your metabolism, makes your bones …
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/17 03:59 AM
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it sounds like I'm not vetting hard enough Try what /u/CptButtertits suggested and see if he can take the banter or if he'll crumble. Best of luck and have fun! ;)
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/17 12:46 AM
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If those are actual examples, I'd laugh too. Anytime I've been negged, I've laughed or brushed it off as I find it insulting. Don't get me wrong, I love banter and wit, but not "negging". I feel that negging is for non RP women and 1950's style male approach are for actual RPW. (Just like how I feel dread is unnecessary for RPW - because we shouldn't let the relationship get to the point of needing dread.)
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/17 12:00 AM
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In that case, I'd do the "tehee, oh you!" approach but don't escalate. Essentially, smile, eye contact, (no demure downlooks with a cutesy uplook) and some friendly banter but no touching, no uber personal details and don't escalate. A calibrated man will understand (they like no strings attached flirting too!) and leave it at that. Think about what a waitress would do.
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/17 11:44 PM
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My social network expanded more and I now have encountered some flirting. What is the environment? Is it work, cafes, bars?
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/17 10:56 PM
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It's been years since I've watched it, but maybe Babylon 5? It's science fiction and has a command structure similar to Star Trek (man is in command). Commander Sheridan and Deleen, from memory, have a pretty red pilled dynamic relationship. Ivanova, the Ex-O, follows commands without kicking up a fuss. (The episode with the human mating dance is hilarious.) The series Merlin comes to mind too. Maybe look into The Wonder Years and Maximum Bob Movies that if memory serves, have redpilled relation…
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/17 10:47 PM
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I think for him it was a bit of "love at first sight" and he pretty much pounced on me and asked me quite a few out there personal questions like: what topics I like to discuss, what foods I was allergic to, etc.. After about thirty or so minutes of conversation he asked for my number and I gave it to him and he called me that night asking me for dinner but I had to decline. He asked if we could do lunch the next day, at lunch, he asked if we could do dinner and at dinner he asked me to stay for…
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/17 10:14 PM
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Sounds similar to how I met my SO. If he's willing to book his own room and do dinner at a restaurant, I would say it sounds like fun, go for it. He's not pressured to stay at your place so you're not stuck with him if dinner doesn't go well.
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/17 08:34 PM
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One of benefits of Sharia law is I haven't had to worry about people stealing. Women leave their designer bags unattended at restaurants all the time. It's unfortunate that Western society doesn't carry the same respect. Maybe this is why Islam is being welcomed so fully - it's easier to start from scratch than try and rebuild (and possibly self reflect) the current society. It's also frustrating as I do think Islam has some good parts to it, but you can't criticize the extreme parts. No culture…
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/17 04:57 AM
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Fascinating. Also: very scary.
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/17 04:19 AM
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Hahaha. I've made up my mind that I want to see where the relationship will lead and him asking me for anal isn't going to scare me off of it. (Running my cat over might though!) I've just recently come across a few things that would suggest he's a lot more timid and puts on faux confidence and wanted some insight so I could try and understand him better.
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/17 03:54 AM
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I honestly really feel for the husband and the emotional damage this would have done to him. From the article: Within weeks of marrying Cuspert, Greene, 38, seemed to realize she had made a terrible mistake. I've also read a lot about middle class UK kids going over to fight for the cause and then realize there's no place to plug in their iPhones. I think the Islam extremists have this underdog feel which can and is being romanticized. Look at Linda Sarsour, the Sharia Law advocate that organize…
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/17 03:49 AM
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Oh, of course! I don't pry and I think I subconsciously know that it may not be something he's comfortable with. With your reply, it's more forefront now. I respect him too much to pity him and I don't want to fix him (because you can't ever fix someone, that's their battle, if they choose it), I just want to create an atmosphere where he feels accepted for who he is. (Which he is!) I think it's a positive step and a big one for him with him asking about the sex act. I just want him to know that…
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/17 03:38 AM
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Wow. I think the ROK's article has some truth to it. The feminization of Western men has left a hole which the patriarchal Muslim men are filling. I don't think it's as far that woman want to be raped by men, but just how the pendulum swings. A bit like how fat was demonized and then all food had to be low fat and then we realized certain fats are actually healthy for you.
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/17 03:27 AM
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Thank you very much for this. As I said, I just love getting different perspectives. I asked as my SO is incredibly direct in certain areas but then incredibly bashful in others. When he first saw me, he immediately struck up a conversation in which he asked me twice for my number. On the other hand, he's very shy about asking for specific sex acts and skirts more emotional/personal topics of conversation. (He's in the military, and my woman's intuition suggests that he doesn't want to tell me t…
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/17 03:23 AM
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The folly of men. Men do not communicate in a clear, direct, matter-of-fact manner when they are scared of losing something. They hope that by doing 'the right thing', eventually you will think "This man has now earned the right to [do thing]". Are you able to elaborate on that a bit more? I love getting male perspectives on relationships.
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/17 07:22 PM
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I'm sorry that I have no advice to give you but I wanted to say congratulations and I wish you and your SO a happy and healthy baby.
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/17 07:09 PM
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Disclaimer: it's important to remember that not everyone is willing to change. People don't change, they grow. :)
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/17 04:10 PM
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Can I be nosy and ask you what you normally cook? My cooking is embarrassingly spartan.
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/17 12:21 AM
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Scents can be overwhelming, depending on what you buy, you can have lingering scent on your clothes, your hair, your lotion and your make up. When you layer perfume on top of that, it's a lot to take in. Maybe your SO prefers your natural scent; I know I love my SO's natural musk. Have you tried oils? It's hard to describe, but perfumes and other cosmetic scents have this scratchy-ness to them were essential oils are really different. There's an Etsy store that, if I had the desire to wear scent…
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/17 12:03 AM
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I had the misfortune of having to read Pride & Prejudice in school and your list reminds me a lot of that era. Same goes for Little House on the Prairie. From memory, most of the women in the novels were well versed in music, singing, dancing and homemaking. I remember Laura talking about how Mary's stitches were perfect even though sickness took Mary's sight. It's very unfortunate that the desire to have these talents have been lost to preference of a BA in Communications or Feminist Dance Theo…
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/17 11:59 PM
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Bwahahahahah!
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/17 08:29 PM
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he feels the need to constantly know who I'm on the phone with or who's texting me. In the past its even gone as far as him going through my phone when I walk out the room. He's projecting his wrongs on to you. There I saw a message feed from this young lady asking him to come over to her house the following weekend. From my knowledge, the last time he went over her house she gave him head he claims he didn't want. With love, you should respect yourself a lot more. He certainly doesn't.
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/17 08:19 PM
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When buying a car, I always test drive it first to see if I like the handling, can deal with the blind spots and if the seats (and arm rest) are comfortable. I do lots of research before I even step onto the car lot so I've narrowed the vehicle(s) down to the one that I will be able to afford, has the storage I want, the clearance and won't slurp through my wallet for gas money.
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/17 06:04 PM
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Awesome! I'm sure they were very happy to see you. :)
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/17 05:41 PM
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When people gave him flak about it, and asked him if there could be a problem with this age gap, his response was, "I look at it this way, if she dies, she dies." lol. ROTFL
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/17 04:56 PM
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Always keep working on yourself. It'll infuse a passion into you which will attract others towards you. :)
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/17 06:12 AM
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I just came across this YouTube today: Why Feminism is Anti-God | Louder With Crowder: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UZ3Yz_uvj0Y
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/17 02:34 AM
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It's not something I've ever worried about it. I've been in relationships with larger age gaps. I had a very long relationship with a similar age gap to you. It did fall apart, but it wasn't the age that did it. I have a good crew of friends and I highly value their opinion, especially since I tend to wear rose coloured glasses. In the case of the age gap, they had their concerns, but once they met him, their fears were alleviated. When the relationship dissolved, I got nary a "I told you his wa…
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/17 12:44 AM
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Okay, if you say so!
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/17 12:33 AM
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and you can be certain that you're going to get "the glare" at one point or another of your relationship. Yup, but I have that in the context that my SO is a kind person; I don't have that context with a new person.
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/17 09:24 PM
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I think it's also a lack of self respect. A lot of orbiters and those in the friend zone are doormats. Doormats aren't respected, they're used and pitied.
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/17 08:44 PM
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A few have commented on how they'll probably be single forever and how lucky I am to have found my boyfriend. I know that it wasn't just luck. Introspection is hard.
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/17 08:42 PM
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I think you're doing everything you can. If you're not purposefully sabotaging the son's relationship with the biological mother, there's not much you can do about her views. If it were me, I'd make sure that there are boundaries so that the biological mother doesn't feel like I'm encroaching on her territory.
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/17 08:40 PM
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Makes me feel that you should never fully open up to the other person because they always have something to fall back on; you're not important, you never were and you are replaceable. Solid foundation to a relationship right there.
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/17 08:13 PM
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So what can he do to remedy the situation? He can better himself physically by hitting the gym. He can pay more attention to grooming haircut and attire. He can show her, by his actions and the reactions of (especially attractive) women around him. It's not that he's going to cheat, it's that he can cheat. How about: "It's not that he's going to cheat, but it shows he has value outside of the relationship." I was reading through the Family Alpha blog and forgot that he talked about dread in a ma…
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/17 08:07 PM
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(MRP especially is a circle jerk where the men constantly reassure one another that their wives will never be able to measure up to their greatness! This is rather humorous coming from a bunch of guys who are working their asses off in an attempt to get those same wives to resume sleeping with them, lol.) I laugh because they're always peacocking about how logical men are and how overtly emotional the women are yet RPW seems to be the most rational and level headed out of the three RP themed are…
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/17 05:42 PM
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I have few friends, but they are real high quality friends. 95% of my friends I've found through my work. I'm lucky that my work allows me a lot one on one time with my customers and get to know them really well. Age ranges from slightly younger to my parents' age. The other 5% are through the gym where I am a regular. It was a slow process, but well worth it. It starts with small talk and then you build up from there. Try being a bit random with your conversation. I was once asked how my weeken…
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/17 05:34 PM
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Do you have anything else I could try? I have some trust issues and abandonment issues. (Raised by an uncaring family and relentlessly psychologically teased by school peers.) I do a lot of self improvement but I eventually needed actual therapy. I had a really hard time acknowledging that I couldn't do this myself; I'm very independent and I figure things out myself. It sucks, especially if you have to pay out of pocket for it (which I now do that I've reached the cap of my health benefits) - b…
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/17 05:22 PM
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:) I find those two something to aspire to. (It certainly helps that my SO is very much like Gomez!) @ /u/alt0369 "well if the woman has to do this, then what does the man have to do?" I found this going through some my blog list and thought of you: https://thefamilyalpha.com/2016/01/09/sex-marriage/
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/17 04:46 AM
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Welcome! From the link: As I write that, 90% of it seems to fairly directly apply to men as well as women. And for what it’s worth, these women really do exist. Maybe not in vast numbers, but neither do they ride on unicorns or speak elvish. There’s quite a few on the forum. I think what will be different for men is that they're expected to have the drive and passion to be successful and the responsibility to provide for the wife and child(ren). More or less, it's boiled down to men's "value" is…
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/17 07:56 PM
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It's a saying, it's not doesn't mean that Louboutins are the be all and end all of shoes. It means that you can't act cheap (flip flops are $, Louboutins $$$) and expect to be treated expensive. Lindsay Lohan is a perfect example - she acts cheap, is overly entitled and difficult yet believes she should get the same respect as Rachel Weisz or Princess Diana or any other respectable woman.
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/17 05:00 PM
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won't work all the time, will spend time together (hiking, biking, road trips, won't go to bed alone, etc.) My last boyfriend would spend all day at work in front of the computer and then come home and spend the rest of the night in front of the computer. He spent the weekends in front of the computer. I went to bed alone pretty much every night. The beards and clothing things I believe are your ideal and not something you require so I think it is fine. However some women have in the past stated…
/r/RedPillWomen27/04/17 08:32 PM
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How do you feel your list matches up with mine and others? Do you think the list too niche and thus too difficult to find a partner or are the standards universally achievable?
/r/RedPillWomen27/04/17 04:39 PM
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I'm the same. I'm not chubby (19%bf) but I feel that my face is very chubby and I hate that I don't have a nice defined jawline like Sigourney Weaver or Kristen Stewart. I have the face of a Renaissance painting. :\
/r/RedPillWomen27/04/17 04:37 PM
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Can I suggest resource links in the first post? Like a link to Strong Curves and various online educational places like edX.org and KhanAcademy?
/r/RedPillWomen27/04/17 04:30 PM
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it's also interesting how you ladies put weight on such little details. Eyes are important to me because I get a lot of my information from body language and as they say, the eyes are the windows to the soul. Bruce Willis in RED is a good example. There are really subtle changes in his eyes when he interacts with Mary-Louise Parker and it tells me a lot about his intentions/feelings/emotions. The see through to your soul glare is very aggressive to me and I don't like it. However, my dear friend…
/r/RedPillWomen27/04/17 03:35 AM
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My SO travels a lot. I will put little notes in his suitcase and other various places. I once put a "nice butt xoxo" note in the back pocket of his pants. These have always gone over very well.
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/17 08:35 PM
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Kind eyes: Tom Selleck, Bruce Willis, Henry Cavil, Kevin Spacey, Jake Gyllenhaal I think it's not necessarily the eye or the shape itself, but not glaring. I find a lot of models or "hot" men glare at the camera and it's very off putting. Like this: https://s-media-cache-ak0.pinimg.com/564x/5c/d4/2f/5cd42fa4a5cf127584612626453e92bf.jpg / https://s-media-cache-ak0.pinimg.com/236x/16/18/f9/1618f9437db50a346bd3524f9f6fb549.jpg
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/17 04:26 PM
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Ideology may have been a better way of putting it. u/southernathena's post is perfect, far more eloquent than my own. I also think that you should read less of TRP and PUA. Quite possibly. I'm am reading less, but go back to it as I don't have any other material to read. RPW is only one place and doesn't always have new content. I'm also in the mind of learning as much as I can about the other side so I can "hack" my life accordingly. Let's say, I keep reading unfiltered men-talk that they wish …
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/17 02:54 AM
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Hmm... the post is all about how RPW is different than TRP. Absolutely. What I was trying to convey was how I see the flip of RPW - TRP. I'm seeing a lot of conflicts with TRP and RPW and I am trying to understand how they can be of the same movement when I feel the TRP is incredibly bitter and a little egotistical where I see RPW as wanting to understand and not bitching and writing long self important 'field reports' on how nasty men are, like I see in TRP. Human nature doesn't treat the gende…
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/17 12:31 AM
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I think it's equally important that we keep striving to be better women so we can deserve all that! Reminds me of the saying: "You cannot act like flip flops and expect to be treated like Louboutins."
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/17 11:35 PM
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Why? It doesn't really matter to me, especially if he ticks the above boxes. I could say I would only date Tom Selleck's body double, but then that would leave out a great man like Bruce Willis, so I don't confine myself to specific A/B/C looks, most of which are things that can't be changed. Tom Selleck or Bruce Willis, it's really what he does with his body (does he act like a gentleman, does he take care of what was given to him?) and his mind (is his mind open, does he like to further his kn…
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/17 11:29 PM
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The opening post: What would be the characteristics of the ideal man for you? I listed the characteristics of my ideal mate.
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/17 10:50 PM
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Yes.
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/17 10:46 PM
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I came here via PUA/male RP websites, so my links are male oriented but which I still enjoy: TurdFlinging Monkey is more MGTOW: https://www.youtube.com/user/MorgueToeTag RooshV: https://www.youtube.com/user/roosh4 Aaron Clarey: https://www.youtube.com/user/AaronClarey MyNameIsJosephine (more anti SJW/political correctness than RP): https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC89QtIAIY6xQgOhMYxMWXFA TommySotomayorLive: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCeY_Pjwyfc4btCaKJR5Ai0A (see also: https://www.youtube.c…
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/17 10:45 PM
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What's on your list?
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/17 10:38 PM
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Lol, I too have a list, about two years old, but still a good base to work from I think: kind eyes likes to cuddle intellectually stimulating ability to resolve conflicts in a mature manner has different passions to mine takes care of health (gym, eats right, proper hygiene, at least as fit as I am, etc.) won't work all the time, will spend time together (hiking, biking, road trips, won't go to bed alone, etc.) looks good with beard/has beard, looks good in flannel compliments my strengths/weakn…
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/17 10:15 PM
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I'm actually struggling with TRP right now. I'm not sure if it's because of it being spring or just me, but it seems to be more toxic. (I came here from PUA and RP sites and still browse them.) I quote: "Women make life decisions based on momentary emotions and aren't really capable of handling themselves. They always submit to authority but always challenge it to make sure that this is the authority that she should be under. Live your life for yourself, love it, and she'll be drawn in. Live it …
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/17 10:08 PM
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He most likely finds this very appealing and wants to see more. In essence I am submitting to his will, but as a result he is delegating some of his power willingly to me in context while in bed. This is how I play it in my head. I've never had to dominate a man in bed, but it was hinted at and I had to mull about how I would please him and while being a submissive woman. He wants me to dominate him, so I am doing this to please him. This is very different to me putting on a dominatrix costume a…
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/17 08:07 PM
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I dunno how to tell you this but, 2 or 3 times a year? He is most likely spinning a whole cabinet of plates. Keep your eyes wide open. Should we just all resign ourselves that all men will be unfaithful and we should happily accept that he can and will stick his dick into anything he pleases?
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/17 07:11 PM
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more sexual aggression/confidence What are your schedules like? Try and welcome him home in nothing but an apron and his favourite meal. He may be too tired to do anything at the moment, but maybe it'll start the wheels turning. ;) an increased focus on his own self-care. Do you go to the gym or run/etc? Try asking him to join you? I think if you start filling the RP role you desire to fill, it will give him space to be more dominate. This whole thing sort of reminds me of Lloyd: https://youtu.b…
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/17 04:08 AM
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Thank you for this! I have few female friends, so my ideas of how women talk about relationships is based of memes (funnily, I came across this this morning: http://memes.com/img/14397)
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/17 08:21 PM
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Likely you are doing what most women do and playing the wife without being wifed up or at least engaged. How exactly do you show you're a good investment without showing you're wife/LTR material?
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/17 07:54 PM
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Guys have big mouths, so word gets around. Really? Is this similar to female gossip which goes into intimate details or more brief "I slept with Suzie, it was great."? I'm always curious to what my SO might tell his friends.
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/17 04:38 AM
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How on Earth did you get proper paragraph breaks? I still don't understand the way Reddit formats and with my terrible eyesight, the minuscule space between paragraphs drives me bonkers.
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/17 04:34 AM
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What's the difference between a boutique yoga studio and a normal yoga studio? Haha, I was being a bit facetious. I'm saying there is a large population of wealth where the husband makes money and the wife has little projects to keep herself busy - like a yoga studio. I think the women were just snobby or very Stepford one dimensional (or both!). Luckily interactions aren't that extreme. I just thought the whole thing was funny as I ate my scrumptious food.
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/17 11:02 PM
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Have you tried making friends with slightly more "masculine" women - women who are nerds, who like talking about politics/history etc.? Oh, how I wish! I live in a very sporty, young, "tolerant liberal" bubble town. The demographics here are not the norm - there is a large population of young transient seasonal workers and then the older 40+ well off (run a boutique yoga studio for fun well off) married with kids or that DINK lifestyle. The young party until they puke and/or pass out in the bush…
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/17 08:10 PM
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NAWALT of course. I meet through friends, work and places like the gym and grocery stores where we have a similar schedule (and thus run into each other often). I have one female friend that I love to death and do dinners with. I have female acquaintances, but I wouldn't want to actually spend one on one time with them. The conversations are strained and contrived and there is very little common ground that I just don't care to bother. There is also gossip which make me uncomfortable. I have abo…
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/17 07:16 PM
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How would you reconcile this when all the women you know are catty and superficial and not into the same activities as you are?
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/17 05:48 PM
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Strong Curves would be a good place to start in the gym. https://www.reddit.com/r/StrongCurves/ Like Pxzib said, you won't get bulky. I've been going to the gym for years and can do weighted pull ups and I still have a slim frame. The heavy lifting has "toned" me and given my muscles nice shape. I'm complimented often on my body. (Pictures of female body builders that are ripped are typically on steroids and are photographed on their "on" season or before a competition where their diet is very s…
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/17 08:37 PM
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For every 7 text message I send to my husband I get one back and it's usually 'k'. I'm so happy I'm not the only one! I text things that are happening, photos, etc, and nary get a response. He's told me to text him but my hamster starts worrying that I'm pestering or he's not interested with no message back.
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/17 03:58 PM
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The point is that he's asking women for advice about how to text women. I don't read that at all in the opening post. I read that he's asking women how they use texting in a relationship, NOT how to text a woman, hence the "Do you ... " instead of "Should I text her x/y/z... "
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/17 04:31 AM
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Do you use texting exclusively for logistics, or for building attraction, setting frame, ensuring investment, etc. Seems pretty straightforward. Do the (redpilled)women here use texting just to set dates, or does she use it to flirt, talk about her day and/or build attraction as part of her vetting process.
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/17 04:25 AM
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"If a person has ugly thoughts, it begins to show on the face. And when that person has ugly thoughts every day, every week, every year, the face gets uglier and uglier until you can hardly bear to look at it. A person who has good thoughts cannot ever be ugly. You can have a wonky nose and a crooked mouth and a double chin and stick-out teeth, but if you have good thoughts it will shine out of your face like sunbeams and you will always look lovely.” ~Roald Dahl Attitude trumps looks.
/r/RedPillWomen16/04/17 04:48 AM
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Here's a video that goes over open ended questions. This will allow your interactions to be less like an interrogation and more like a flowing dialogue. It's a video geared towards sales and may seem irrelevant, but think of it as selling yourself and relationship (acquaintance, friend, romantic, et al.) with you: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=c65o74KwLfI If you're monotone, you'll have to work on your expression(inflection): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=f9986C19id8 Conversation is a dance …
/r/RedPillWomen15/04/17 11:43 PM
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I usually answer with a few words and the conversation just doesn't flow. That's a problem. Him: What do you want to do after graduation? You: I want to go into X. How is he suppose to respond to that? No wonder it dies. He's asking open ended questions and you're not giving him anything to work with and it seems that he is frustrated, thinks you're not interested in having a conversation and doesn't bother with the hassle. I'm needing to head out soon, but you can look up how sales techniques w…
/r/RedPillWomen15/04/17 06:19 PM
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It sounds like you don't know how to converse. Lack of conversational skills and closed off body language are death to any kind of pleasant interaction. Are you monotone or does your voice change pitch and speed? Can you give an example of a conversation? (What he says and your replies.)
/r/RedPillWomen15/04/17 05:10 PM
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I use a cup and sometimes I need a small crew to get it out + lots of time, which isn't really conducive to spontaneous sexy time. My oral skills need work, so I guess bjs will be on special a few days of each month. Anal sex is definitely best reserved for a man you love and deserves that level of intimacy with you. Yes, I'm an anal virgin. He's into trying it (I think he's a butt virgin too) and the dirtiness of it squicks me out. He put a finger up there once and after he said he needed to wa…
/r/RedPillWomen14/04/17 10:32 PM
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Questions: How do you deal with periods and sex? (Specifically using tampons or cups.) What if anal is something he likes? How do you stay clean and 'clear' so to speak?
/r/RedPillWomen14/04/17 07:14 PM
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This whole post is indeed creepy and weird. This saddens me because it only compounds the issue I see and hear.
/r/RedPillWomen07/02/17 09:37 PM
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I work in a job (and have been told "there's something about me") that allows people to open up. I guess it's a bit like how a bartender knows a lot of people's secrets. Women tell me plenty too, but I've chosen to talk about men and male performance issues here. Perhaps these guys do want to be more than friends, but I haven't slept with them, so there is a line. From my experience, there's plenty of men that get tired of the Toughen Up, Boot Straps™ and just want open up.
/r/RedPillWomen07/02/17 09:32 PM
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He's around your age and it's psychological. He's very masculine and not having his penis work as he wants has really put him in a tailspin. It's something he has to work on himself, but I want to know the best way to support him.
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/17 05:57 PM
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I was looking for advice on both, but mostly for sexually intimate relationships.
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/17 05:55 PM
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I appreciate your thoughtful answer. It seems a very romanticized segregation, but would still be incompatible with Western countries. I would guess you would be middle to upper class? My aunt lived in Qatar with her husband (white, Western, upper class) for many years and she had similar perspective on Muslim woman as you do. Does your country perform female circumcision? What are your thoughts on that? On honour killings? Are you able to vote and what are your thoughts on being or not being ab…
/r/RedPillWomen25/01/17 04:39 AM
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Are you able to explain to me the similarities between Sharia Law and RPW? What benefits does a woman receive in a country run by Sharia that a woman living in North America does not?
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/17 07:24 PM
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Critiquing Islam, an ideology, is no different than critiquing Feminism, an ideology. The problem is a large population of Muslims coming into Western countries and not integrating: when in Rome, do as the Romans. Sarsour wants to be able to practice Sharia Law in the USA, which is completely and utterly incompatible with what Western society holds dear. There are many and very serious cases that are not talked about because it's taboo to say anything negative or critical about Islam. It's very …
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/17 07:22 PM
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I saw Tweets with photos of the garbage in the aftermath of the event. Signs littered everywhere. I posted in a FB group, that had lots of people who went, the links to the photo and a screen capture of what percentage of women are in the garbage collection field: 1%. Edit: One of the organizers, Linda Sarsour, is a Muslim and an advocate of Sharia Law in the USA.
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/17 01:38 AM
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What exactly where they marching for?
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/17 10:26 PM
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Thank you. I was talking to a single male friend (32) and his date got drunk and I think she even passed out on him. He wasn't impressed. He said that most girls are not like myself: "mature" as he put it. I read a lot of male RP stuff only because there's more of it.* It makes me sad to think that these men would overlook me because I'm past The Wall though I believe I have superior domestic and conversational skills to my younger rivals. Edit: Wanted to add that Back Then, without social media…
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/17 09:07 PM
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Question about this - Does a 40+ year old man truly want to be with a 21 year old woman who is constantly taking selfies and whose favourite show is the Kardashians?
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/17 07:52 PM
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What are your deal breakers?
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/17 11:02 PM
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I came to realise it might be because of how I've been being pretty straightforward most of the time, I do that very much because of my anxiety, I feel more comfortable when I'm upfront and know clearly of what's going on. And because of my flexible work schedule and how much I'm driven by my life-goal, I usually made myself too available for all the men. Are you me? As I'm in the same boat as you, I don't have much to offer, other than I put my phone on silence when doing things, like going for…
/r/RedPillWomen01/01/17 11:22 PM
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Update: I was able to get him for a few hours. The first topic that came up was how I am "too nice" and that he sees himself in me and the mistakes he made from being "too nice". I told him I was selective to who I am "nice" to. He said I could be "tough" with him, even during this time. I replied that I was tough with him/put my needs first (something else he requested) and by me doing so, his response was to call the relationship off. He had no input on that, other than I was right. (I do not …
/r/RedPillWomen01/01/17 08:13 PM
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I have scars from razor burn. I can only use an electric shaver. I have this: https://www.amazon.com/Panasonic-ES8103S-Electric-Nanotech-Cordless/dp/B001DNE3KQ/ref=sr_1_1_a_it? And this to maintain: https://www.amazon.com/Philips-Norelco-Multigroom-attachments-QG3330/dp/B00ARF42H0/ref=sr_1_3_a_it? If you're light skinned with black hair, I HIGHLY recommend laser hair removal. It has changed my life. I have had both professional and at home. The professional is far superior, but I've had some luc…
/r/RedPillWomen01/01/17 07:48 PM
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Your reaction, to be as honest as possible, is why I feel most men will never tell most women anything even 100 feet within the range of vulnerability. If there was any semblance of "hope" within me about male vs female dynamics, just reading the opening post was like having it being hit with a baseball bat. Sorry, no other way to describe it. He's acting like he lost both eyeballs when he only has to wear an eyepatch for half a year. There's a huge difference in losing your actual eyes to maybe…
/r/RedPillWomen26/12/16 12:01 AM
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You've done more than anybody else who wasn't his mother or sister could do. Yes, you could be the healer in his life. You could be the person who would help him get back on the saddle. Ugh, that makes me cringe. It's hard to articulate, but I am always very wary about those who want to "help" or "fix" people. For those who I feel are worth it, I will stand beside, thick or thin. I feel uncomfortable being someone's crutch. I can't actually fix him, or anyone, they have to do it themselves. It's…
/r/RedPillWomen25/12/16 07:08 AM
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I know it seems cruel to leave someone while they are hurt and down, but if he didn't get back to his previous health would you still want to be with him? Fighting for his attention while he mopes? He treats me like an absolute queen; I feel like I'm in a past era novel. I don't think I'll ever find someone who will open doors for me, stand up when I enter a room, walk on the street side of the sidewalk. I'm fiery but also submissive, and I want to ensure I am with someone who will not take adva…
/r/RedPillWomen25/12/16 07:00 AM
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Going a week or more between texts doesn't really sound like a "relationship" to me. The last text I sent him was a bit of a sext (I guess that's the term the kids use these days?). When I said I was feeling ignored, he said it was the opposite of what he wanted and that he would read that sext often and think of me. His apology seemed very genuine. I personally don't mind going a few days between texts. Texts every day would make me claustrophobic at this point in the relationship plus I abhor …
/r/RedPillWomen25/12/16 06:51 AM
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Wow. May I ask what you saw in her at the beginning and why you married her?
/r/RedPillWomen24/12/16 11:55 PM
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Thank you for all the replies. I stressed myself out and with his radio silence (no correspondence for over a week) and so I threw myself head first and messaged him about his silence and my feelings. I was able to get some things about the future off my chest which I held back not wanting to add to his own life burdens. Telling him what I want in the future, he said, made his side of things less stressful. I'll be seeing him in the next few days and I hope we're able to sort out where we are go…
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/16 04:23 AM
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if you communicate that you want to be supportive and around during this uncertain time for him, he may be willing to discuss options for you both. I've set the groundwork for that already. He is going through a difficult time both in health and work and I told him that I would be there for him which he was very grateful. It's only been three months as well which is still fairly new for a relationship. I'm new to dating and have been told and read that you should let the other know what you're e…
/r/RedPillWomen16/11/16 09:27 PM
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There are some sex acts he'd like, but I'm mentally unable to do because they're too emotionally intimate for me. I was quiet the next day around him and then texted him a few days later saying that what he's asked is too intimate for me at this moment as I don't know where I fit in with his life. He apologized for making me feel uncomfortable and that he has no idea where he will be living or doing in the next coming months. I feel we're at a stalemate as I think/am projecting that he may feel …
/r/RedPillWomen16/11/16 07:27 PM
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I'd really rather not, especially after having so many things brought to light about myself. I am having enough trouble just seeing myself the way others do, the last thing I want to do is put myself on display like that. Why are you taking in only the negatives towards you, instead of the positives?
/r/RedPillWomen29/10/16 01:14 AM
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Thus, youthful promiscuity (or riding the CC as TRP calls it) tends to beget difficulty finding a good partner later in life. Also see: Lindsay Lohan
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/16 11:46 PM
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You posted your photo on the Internet asking for critiques, as such, I have faith that you can do a short belly dance for your husband. :)
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/16 09:47 PM
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Yes, candle light. One or two candles outside the bedroom or one in. The soft yellow glow is very flattering. Imagine what your husband would think! Shocked that he gets a private dance by the woman he loves!
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/16 09:20 PM
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It's partially for ethical reasons and partially because I have a lot of problems with digesting animal products. I feel so much better following a plant-based diet... and it's much lower in calories and fat too :) Awesome! I'm completely opposite. If I don't have red meat, I feel really lightheaded and ditzy. It's not quite concern trolling, but I hate when people force themselves into (fashionable)diets when their body doesn't want it. I have been light-skinned my whole life. I have resisted t…
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/16 08:32 PM
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Have you looked at a therapist? I used a therapist that specialized in EMDR and it was an extremely positive and perspective changing: http://www.webmd.com/mental-health/emdr-what-is-it
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/16 08:04 PM
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I can't go into the bathroom with the light on because I can't stand my face. I hear ya. Everyone has inner battles and me realizing this has helped a great deal with my self esteem. I look at you and I see a pretty woman. I would have no idea that you have a list of things that you hate about yourself. When you look at others, it's very doubtful that you would understand what their list is. How long have you been vegan? All vegans I know, save for one, are sallow and frail looking. Granted, I l…
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/16 07:56 PM
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Wow, certainly wasn't expecting such a pretty face after all the negative things you wrote. I had bags too and I changed my diet. I eat whole foods, nothing packaged. My body works really well with more meat and fat, some veggies and little fruit. Take a look in your cupboards to see if you think a change is needed. Creams and lotions are great, however, your skin is a barrier to keep the outside out. I have only one high quality day cream and one high quality night cream and that's it. I hate m…
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/16 06:28 PM
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Haha, when I read that it was very eery! It's not the same man as we're both older and he's not in school. So nothing to worry about! I'm very excited to see my guy as well when he comes back and that's why I have to make sure I'm independent, happy being alone and have hobbies to keep me busy. I very much like him and want to be with him, but I don't want to end up beholden to him. If it's the first time, I personally wouldn't make a huge deal about it, but definitely bring it up that it's upse…
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/16 08:00 PM
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I've been lurking here a few months and made this account to reply as I'm almost in the exact situation. Met him in August, 12 year difference, he travels a lot and is "go go go". He knows I am not seeing anyone else and he has said the same, though we have not had The Talk. He's also asked me probing questions about where I see myself in the future. He came back last month, we made plans for a Wednesday but never heard from him. I texted him the mid day Thursday, he had fallen asleep from doing…
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/16 05:49 PM
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