(Possibly NSFW) Penis Problems & TRP

MsSadieDunham · 2017-02-06T17:48:13+00:00

I'm not really sure how much you can do or what is appropriate for you to do if you aren't in a romantic relationship with this person. I mean, whats a friendly way to support a friend's erectile dysfunction? This really seems like a problem you handle with your doctor and your wife.

mwait · 2017-02-07T15:37:37+00:00

To start with, any woman whose "best friends are all guys", is not likely to be a conventional RPW. For a man who is RP, the "my friends are all guys tee-hee!! Women are just so catty lol!!" thing is a big fat red flag. That translates to "I have a bunch of beta orbiters who I like receiving attention and validation from". Or... "Ive been plated by a bunch of high value males and I don't care who knows it".

Secondly... As a RPW, your job is to provide support for your man. Not all your "male friends". If I was dating a girl and she asked me advice akin to your original post, I would laugh at her. It is not your job to make your guy friends feel better about their penises.

This whole post is indeed creepy and weird.

the-capitan · 2017-02-06T19:04:20+00:00

90% of ED related problems are stopped by the guy cutting out porn/masturbation. porn causes PIED and deathgrip (both forms of ED).

PIED is short for porn-induced erectile dysfunction... a chemical interaction where the huge on-demand variety of new beautiful women cause a dopamine rush that doesn't really happen with real women. even if the guy's real woman is a 10, she can't compete against the constant addition of new women. the dopamine rush is so intensive and addictive that lab testing with animals has shown that if they leave the animal with a single female, refractory periods get longer and longer with that same female. but if they keep introducing new in-heat females to the cage, the lab animals will literally fuck to death, ignoring food/water/cleaning literally until they waste away and die.

deathgrip is where the guy is beating off enough that his hand is too rugged and aggressive compared to a female's vagina, mouth, or anus. it causes desensitivity.

it takes a solid 10+ porn-free days to get over deathgrip. PIED can take much longer, and really depends on the woman he's sleeping with. i had a stint where i plated this chick who was a little overweight just to see (1) how far i could take it sexually, and (2) how i'd react to overweight chicks. the first 2 times, i was doing the most depraved shit to her that i've ever done to a girl, and i still couldn't even cum... just not attractive enough.

once the guy is porn-free, the girl needs to pick up the slack to make sure he won't be sexually tempted to take care of it himself.

TheWorldToCome · 2017-02-07T00:22:36+00:00

Cholesterol is the precursor to all sex hormones, eat 4+ eggs a day cooked with the yolk still soft or runny and that will help. I know from personal experience and from feedback I've given other men as well.

loneliness-inc · 2017-02-06T18:22:44+00:00

My best friends are guys and I have that 'thing' about me that gets them to open up about very personal issues.

Creepy and weird. But anyway....

Barring any serious issues, medical or psychological, for most guys it's just a matter of an insecurity. Gals are insecure about their weight/looks, guys are insecure about their height/penis. Not all guys and not all gals suffer from insecurities, but for those who do, these are pretty good generalizations.

Let's say a gal is insecure about her books or butt being too big/small. If her man agrees and says yea, they are really too big/small but I like you despite that, how would that make her feel? How about if he goes on to point out the sexiness of her big/small boobs/butt, how would that make her feel?

Just apply the same concept to penis insecurities. Treat (significant) others the way you'd like to be treated.

abdada · 2017-02-06T17:21:28+00:00

How old is the guy?

I'm in my 40s and if I am doing a diet cut, I expect sexual performance to drop a lot. It doesn't bother me because I know it's a stressor on the body and a lot of things get worse during a cut.

My LTR doesn't care, either, because she knows at the end of the cut I'm stronger and leaner and have more energy once I switch to maintenance calories.

If a guy is stressed, he's going to have performance issues. If he's under 25 with performance issues, I bet it's lifestyle issues -- alcohol, drugs, demotivational addictive behaviors, work stress, financial stress, etc.

meh613 · 2017-02-06T22:06:20+00:00

Premature ejaculation generally fades with "practice", so to speak, the more the bloke has sex, the longer the ejaculation time will be.

HobbesTheBrave · 2017-02-07T10:10:40+00:00

I've also sexually dealt with a man who had issues with his penis. I know that men put a lot of weight on their penis - the size/girth, whether it functions when needed, and sexual prowess in the bedroom. Having it malfunction, as I've seen, is utterly devastating to the man in question.

Guys are insecure about their small frames and their shortness too. However, those guys who respected despite their small frames or their shortness, they're the one's who choose to become masculine despite their negative 'whatever'. There's a saying that says 'the size of the dog doesn't matter as much as the size of the fight in the dog'. Take Napoleon, for instance. He didn't give a shit about how small he was. They mocked his Corsican, not-correct french, the fact that he wasn't a true noble, the fact that he was a peasant. And other things. And he probably got annoyed by other things about himself. Who knows, maybe he had a small penis too. However, that was never a good enough a reason for himself to let his insecurity hamstring himself. He kept fighting, despite everything. He let himself get full of himself. Read history, and you'll notice that he had his 'monk mode' too.

I've met guys with small frames and short bodies. Those who got respected, they're the one's who chose to fight harder and fiercer, because they still wanted to win. I've been the smallest kid at school, and I've had to fight more, in order to win.

Spazzy19 · 2017-02-09T00:17:58+00:00

My bf isn't the biggest guy, but while he's jokingly acknowledged his size on occasion, he's never appeared insecure. In any case, I always tell him how much I like it and that having sex with him is a fantastic experience... Because it is. I would never comment negatively about it even if I actually had a problem with it since there's nothing he can do about it anyway.

ED would be handled depending on the reason behind it. Medical? Porn? Other? Obviously performance anxiety enters the picture and starts a reoccurring cycle, so I'd aim to be patient, understanding, and compassionate.

FriendFrog · 2017-02-09T17:53:30+00:00

The first thing you need to understand is that premature ejaculation, erectile dysfunction, low sex drive, etc. all have physiological roots, not psychological. Blood pressure, circulation, hormone levels, stress, drugs/chemicals in diet & such, are the underlying cause of all these problems. Many of these issues are age related, affecting some men more than others the same way not everyone goes bald or gets gray hair. That NoPorn/NoFap nonsense is just a big placebo. Size is affected by these, but to a much smaller degree.

TheBunk_TB · 2017-02-10T00:54:42+00:00

Did anyone include SSRi use and drugs like it? Personal experience, it might be something that they might not be able to come back from.

Satorilotus108 · 2017-02-11T16:42:32+00:00

I am of high average size but still normal and unexciting. and have been insecure of my size since I started dating women. My first girl friend cheated a lot and would tell me about how big and how good the sex was with these other guys. I was young and naive and stayed with her. I went on to other relationships where girls would continue to tell me about previous partners and how big they were. I don't think women think much before they talk about these things. Especially when someone is opening up intimately with them.

I never felt the need to talk about past partners breasts. It hardly mattered to me. But these girls would talk to me like I am their best friend about how much they were enamored by large penises.

Now that you may be able to see where my anxiety comes from. I have had no success figuring out how to overcome the insecurity with women. Except to just put sex out of my mind and embrace a path or some what celibacy (I have interest in becoming a Buddhist monk at some point in time ).

At this point I feel the most relieved as content. When I no longer have to feel like I have to go through many different women to find the right one who actually accepts my normal sized unexciting penis size. And since the average girl my age will have had around 7 partners she will have had sizes far bigger then me.

So at that point it's a relief to just focus on other things in life than sex and relationships :)

Scurvemuch · 2017-02-11T18:23:43+00:00

The advice depends on the problem type.

Issue with size or girth- can't fix it- but if it satisfies you - show him. Don't tell him- Show him.

Issue with function- 9/10 times until like 40's it's psychological. Treat it as such. Specifics are person to person.

chrysanthemumtaffy · 2017-02-08T20:29:07+00:00

Would your future husband like it if he found out the frequency with which you've discussed your "best friends'" penises with them? You're not their girlfriend. Their dicks don't matter.

McLuhanSaidItFirst · 2017-02-07T00:26:18+00:00

If small size is a concern:

Size matters in a way. Karezza makes it irrelevant to a certain extent but more size is always nice for you both.

pegym.com has an overview of the effective exercises for increasing girth and length of the Hammer of Love. The operation is a dangerous waste of money because the gains are limited and exercises work better; there's almost no limit... some guys have gotten huge over the years, pills and lotions are completely ineffective.

the exercises at pegym.com also increase the quality of the erection and health of the penis (as long as he doesn't overtrain and try to go too far too fast).

Every guy on that site that has successfully increased his size, especially girth, says that his wife won't leave him alone.

Also, karezza is super-effective at increasing sexual satisfaction and compensates for smaller size and lower erectile quality. She's got a great book, too.

For premature ejaculation, a trainer like this Tenga can help him get used to the sensations without going over the edge.

And there is nothing "Creepy and weird" about you discussing this with your friends. It's great that they want to open up to you and get help. FFS please no shaming about sex.

Title	(Possibly NSFW) Penis Problems & TRP
Author	Cardiscappa
Upvotes	18
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Date	February 6, 2017 5:19 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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