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QUEEN SH*Tmiphasgraceful/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 01:55 AM
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FDS SUCCESS!miphasgraceful/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 02:53 AM
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QUEEN SH*Tmiphasgraceful/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 04:12 AM
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QUEEN SH*Tmiphasgraceful/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 06:52 PM
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LEVEL UPmiphasgraceful/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/21 10:32 PM
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PORN SICK, LIMP DICKmiphasgraceful/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 09:49 PM
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NOTHING BUT FACTSmiphasgraceful/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/20 12:28 AM
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FOREVER GF TALESmiphasgraceful/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 04:15 PM
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FDS RESCUE MISSIONmiphasgraceful/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 03:18 AM
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#JustLVMThingsmiphasgraceful/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/20 07:12 PM
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#JustLVMThingsmiphasgraceful/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 01:41 AM
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MINDSET SHIFTmiphasgraceful/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/21 10:02 PM
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REMINDER 👑miphasgraceful/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 07:04 PM
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PORN SICK, LIMP DICKmiphasgraceful/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 02:59 PM
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RANTmiphasgraceful/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 01:05 AM
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NAH, SISmiphasgraceful/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 04:53 PM
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Also with the rise of teletherapy. Most therapists will meet with you via video call, wherever you are. And most are willing to work on a sliding scale. There’s literally no excuse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/21 05:09 PM
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Having been in plenty of both kinds of relationships, I simply won’t date any man who isn’t currently in therapy, working on their own stuff. The comparison in quality of men is truly night and day. Therapy requires a level of humility and self-awareness that a lot of men aren’t willing to cultivate. So many will tote “self improvement” but won’t even touch any of the books they purport to have read. And reading isn’t a replacement for actual, personalized therapy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/21 04:52 PM
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Seconding this suggestion.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 07:56 PM
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I play them myself, but I quickly can commit some amount of time to them, depending on what else I need to complete in the day. Knowing this balance myself, I look for this balance in the men I date. Also, what someone plays is telling. Does he just like FPS (first person shooters) and get mentally high off killing people? Or does he like an eclectic mix of FPS and RPG (role playing games) and puzzle games? Can he differentiate real life from fantasy? Can he compartmentalize real life from the e…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 07:50 PM
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Tall girl here. When I’ve spoken to men about this particular preference in the past, men have literally told me (when prodded about the real reason) was that, “it makes it easier to do the sex acts I want to do.” Some have even made super inappropriate gestures, showing me how that looks in their head. Also, it’s super telling how porn addicted they’ve become regarding this: the smaller (therefore lighter) you are, the easier they can dominate your body/hold you down, etc.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 07:44 PM
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I think it’s been stated previously on FDS before, but still holds true: “you’re not asking for too much. You’re just asking the wrong person.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/21 02:10 PM
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“Stupid on purpose” Sis, I cannot 🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 07:46 PM
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How far we have fallen when a grown ass man uses bedsheets as a tissue. 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 07:25 PM
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Damn, you beat me to it! 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/07/21 07:23 PM
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Somewhat related: when I was with certain exes who were viewing porn, my own ED would flare because I subconsciously wanted to look like what they were jacking off to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 04:54 PM
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Jesus Christ, sis. I am so, so sorry. 💔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 04:51 PM
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I will never understand what’s degrading about loving, passionate “vanilla” sex. To actually see someone, fully see them, be vulnerable together. To take your time with each other. Tantra is absolutely beautiful and I never want to have soulless sex again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 04:39 PM
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When everything can (or does) turn into an innuendo. When they struggle to look you in the eyes. When you do reach the point where you feel comfortable having sex with them, they can’t stay hard, cum too early, try to pull your hair, or anything related to porn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 04:26 PM
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Can confirm. I once went on a date with a guy who only mentioned at the end of dinner that I’d be a “pretty thing on the side.” He already had a wife and kids at home.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/21 12:48 PM
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Disproportionate reactions to small slights “against” him: getting cut off in traffic, if the food delivered was even slightly off, etc. He felt this innate, insatiable belief that everyone owed him, including me. He would have these intense meltdowns and it was like I could see the fury coming off of him like actual steam. I just knew that would be turned towards me someday. ETA: anger issues are a huge sign.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/21 04:40 PM
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And the very second you say something or react at all, it’s straight up Gaslight City: “not that bad,” and “you’re overreacting.” These kinds of men can never take responsibility for anything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/21 03:45 AM
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Ooooh, well hello there, my type. 😘
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/21 08:54 PM
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Here’s my thing: I’m in full support of masturbation. It has a bevy of mental and physical benefits. However, you do not need porn in order to do it. Ever. Ever. And the risks to yourself, cognitively, physically, emotionally, and relationally… are fucking not worth it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/21 03:57 PM
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If you give a scrote rent money, He will demand it again for another month. When finding out you come from money, Suddenly everything is “unfair.” 🐁 If the scrote finds out you come from money, Suddenly, it’s your fault he grew up in poverty, It’s your fault he doesn’t want to be a man and pay for his own rent.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/21 01:37 PM
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My heart goes out to you, OP. I relate to so much of this. 💜 Some of my own that I’ll add: I should have left when we weren’t having sex, but you were neck-deep in your porn addiction, then defending it. I should have left when you began to isolate me from my family and friends, telling me that you were the only one who truly understood me. I should have left when you complained that I was “too fat,” then “too thin,” too anything, instead of manipulating my body to make you happy. I should have …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/21 01:14 PM
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😂😂🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 08:11 PM
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This also goes out to every mediocre man who has thought, “every no is just a yes waiting to happen.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 08:06 PM
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Here’s the thing: he’s been thinking this the whole time and the only reason it finally was exposed was because they were drinking. He finally felt mentally comfortable enough to air his truth. He just saved you more wasted months or years. Time to leave. ✌️ ETA: when he says, “prefer,” he’s talking his porn preferences, which is even more reason to say goodbye to this loser.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/21 01:11 PM
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I’m petty as fuck. I would free-bleed on his tshirts as payment for trashing my stuff then. I’m just in awe. When MAH PENIS is somehow in the same lane as tampons/Diva Cups, you cannot be saved. What a child.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 05:36 PM
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When your “husband” is more like an errant teenager who is only motivated by more allowance money… how fucking awkward to be paying your husband to do something he should already do on his own.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/21 12:30 AM
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Yessss, I love this tactic. When approached with a neg or unsolicited “advice,” throw it right back in their faces.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 03:09 AM
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Brilliantly articulated. And especially those scrotes with “dark” souls. Just run.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 03:07 AM
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I’d say you’re well on your way there, Sis. Remember, it’s not just a destination, but a way of living. 🥂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 03:06 AM
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Having plans scheduled with friends after the date also means you won’t be tempted to have him over/go to his place.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/07/21 01:32 AM
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This is the kind of phrase that makes me turn on my heel and run.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 12:10 PM
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That’s something that has always disgusted me with that sub. You never hear the woman’s side of things: how little he helps with the household, the children, and how contemptuous he acts towards her. All you hear is his sad sob story about, BuT MuH pEniS! Fucking save it, dude.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 06:20 PM
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Yes, they always come back. In my experience, generally after a span of 3-6 months. In a couple instances, it was after a few years. They generally will date 1 or 2 other women (who leave them, too) and then reach out to try to hook me again. Because I have a strict block and delete habit, they generally reach me through a) getting a new number, b) creating a new IG account and reaching out that way, or c) a combo of the two. So what happens is I’m forced to block them again. Too many exes of mi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 02:07 AM
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Agreed entirely. With phrases like “she was raped/cheated on,” it leaves the actions far too abstract. We need to keep the blame on the perpetrators and remove any trace of victim blaming. She didn’t cause the rape. He did. She didn’t make him cheat. He chose to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/06/21 02:01 AM
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Scrote: asks for a low effort coffee “date” Also scrote: why didn’t this platonic hang out turn into romance?! 😱💔 ETA: for all you lurkers, romance stems from romantic gestures. Women want to be wooed. If you ask us “out” for coffee, we’re only to assume we’re meeting as friends and that’s all. Don’t be surprised when we keep you in the box you’ve placed yourself in.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 04:17 PM
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Tantra: having sex with someone BDSM: doing sex to someone When I fully accepted this, I no longer wanted anything to do with bdsm. And after having several soulful tantric sex sessions, it’s all my body longs for. The tension, the level of vulnerability between partners, builds so much trust. The orgasms end up being explosive. You come away from tantra feeling closer to your partner instead of used.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 11:47 PM
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Yeah, I totally want the kind of sex where I’ll have to file an insurance claim & rush to the hospital. /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 01:57 PM
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I wish I could say it’s the former, but time is proving it’s the latter.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 02:12 AM
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I’m in this same headspace. It seems as I’ve raised my standards, the guys will parade as the HVM. So, I’ll get sucked in and feel hopeful again, only to be sorely disappointed and heartbroken again 2-3 months down the line. The mask slips and I can finally see the issues, the addictions, all of it. It’s extremely harrowing. I’m beginning to acquaint myself to the idea of staying single for the rest of my life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 01:10 AM
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I’m so glad someone is finally bringing this up. I’ve dealt with an eating disorder for most of my adult life, and recovery meant ditching the scale, tape measure, etc., and finally making peace with food. I’ve found activities to stay fit that don’t feel like torture, and don’t watch the calories I’ve burned. I’m there for the fun and mental benefits. The food part can be harder, as intuitive eating is something we have to relearn. Definitely speak to a registered dietitian who specializes in i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 02:41 PM
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Even more reason to get it, IMO.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 01:13 PM
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Age gap ✅ Baby trap ✅ Marriage after a kid ✅ He cheats ✅ Doubts if she should leave 🤦‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 01:05 PM
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I would’ve kept my head down and finished my education. I would’ve said no to the first dude I married (and the second!). I would’ve taken lots of trips on my own, exploring and seeing the world. Then, after graduate school, maybe would’ve peeked my head up in the dating scene.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 02:56 AM
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Thank you ☺️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 05:42 AM
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I dated a guy like this, and when asked about those spots, he said he didn’t want to “waste the toilet paper.” Dude, you fucking used the bathroom. Wtf do you think it’s even for then?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 10:21 PM
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This was, by far, my favorite podcast episode. The discussion was so productive and validating. And confirmed so much for me: we want more from guys because we know, if they wanted to, they could do better. I love Momma Gail.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 07:00 PM
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I swear by my magic wand to thoroughly warm up, and then continue with my favorite d*ldo and (ironically named) Womanizer clit vibe. Plus, sexy music, usually some weed or wine, and just taking my time, loving on myself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 02:08 AM
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Tailing on to confirm about the intense orgasms with edibles. 💥 It’s nice to get out of my head for a bit and be fully in my body.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 02:03 AM
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This speaks to my shy-Bi heart. One of my goals this year is to become more outspoken and assertive about asking other women out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 09:03 PM
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Even better: men who don’t need to be asked to do things for you. Instead, men who ask how they can help, and intuit things that will help you out by paying attention.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 09:02 PM
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😂😂💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 03:40 PM
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“Free meal” = I only want to get my dick wet and can only afford to get her a latte.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 03:36 PM
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Regarding the sporting event: how fucking selfish can you be? She now has thousands of people, staring at her, waiting for her to say yes (when she most likely is in shock and honestly wants to say no). Way to add extra pressure there, scrote.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 03:33 PM
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I’m proud of you for finding the strength in yourself to leave him. I know in the thick of it, you begin to question yourself and your ability to leave, as well as beginning to doubt how bad it really is. My heart goes out to you as you continue to heal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 05:49 PM
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Oof. And also, there’s not a day that passes where I don’t wish it was that simple.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 01:39 AM
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Imagine being so obsessed with some spongy flesh on your person, that you use it as a point of conversation any chance you have. For some of these guys, having grown a penis is the best thing they’ve ever achieved in life. The moment the Meat Sword Talk begins, I walk out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 12:44 PM
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And he’s only “sorry” because he was caught this time. I bet you anything he’s been hiding other stuff from her this whole time, and will continue to do so, if she makes the poor decision to stay.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 06:10 PM
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Great job, you disgusting POS. Ruining 2 marriages in one go. Another disgusting plea of, “muh penis!” I hope she listens to her gut and divorces him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 06:09 PM
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Eastern European here, and this question is the absolute worst, especially when it turns into an interrogation. The guy is very likely trying to rack up points by getting with you. Having sex with anyone “unique” gives him bragging points with his bros. I always use this opportunity to text my best friend our code word, and she’ll call me and help me gtfo of there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 01:13 PM
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YES! Congratulations! 🎉🥂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 01:05 PM
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If they weren’t guilty, they wouldn’t get defensive. Period.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 12:47 AM
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YES!! I’m so proud of you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 12:34 PM
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Absolutely! Steal away!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 04:40 PM
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Redpillers and MGTOWs will “flaunt” about their “plates,” yet can only afford a paper cup.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 03:42 PM
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Yep, I love this. Love isn’t how much we can accept, endure, and how much we can bite our tongue.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 03:39 PM
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It seems like the older I get, the less I give a flying fuck about the opinions of others, especially men. But I’ve given up many things/hidden things I’ve loved: flowery prints on clothes, pink things, sparkly things, “girly” drinks. At some point, I just stopped giving a fuck about being “basic,” and embraced all that I love. I will wear the heels and the flowery dresses. I will have the pink nails. And I will drink the girly drinks. Because that feels the most “me.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/05/21 03:37 PM
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In the same field as you, and the disparaging commentary gets ridiculous. I’ve come to the point where I honestly don’t tell them what I do and research until some solid time together.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 09:51 PM
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I’ve had so many scrotes in my inbox since I posted about my breakup this weekend and the subsequent PA signs post yesterday. I have messages and chats turned off, though, so none of them come through. But I’m enjoying the fan mail, knowing I really hit a tender nerve with so many of them. ✌️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 09:46 PM
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Looking back, so do I. But at least we know better now and can choose better men (and what to watch for).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 09:42 PM
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😂😂💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 07:40 PM
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You brought up so many awesome points here. In regards to the lack of cuddling after, it seems that when a man’s first (and maybe only) dose of sex education is porn, he doesn’t learn that healthy adults use sex (and the proceeding cuddling) to get and stay connected emotionally to each other. In porn, the guy cums and the camera shuts off. And so for PA, they only think, “end scene.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 07:21 PM
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There seems so be so much overlap between porn viewership and infidelity. I’d like to conduct a study sometime in my grad school studies regarding this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 07:18 PM
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Awesome articulation!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 01:59 PM
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Or if they mention wanting to take pictures or video during, and frame it in a sentimental way. No, dude, you aren’t keeping naked pics/vids of me on your device.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 01:59 PM
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Exactly. But it absolutely couldn’t be the porn, could it? /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 01:58 PM
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God, yes. I became squeamish over eating bananas in front of an ex because of this exact reason. Seems so innocuous, but they immediately imagine BJ scenes. 😬
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 01:56 PM
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I feel the same way. I’m just glad we both got free.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 01:37 PM
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Exactly. I tend to throw their gross judgment back in their faces with comments like that: “why is her weight our issue?” and watch them stumble on their words.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 01:02 PM
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Your whole last paragraph. I couldn’t relate more. I miss the loving, connected sex, too. I have hope that we’ll both have that again someday, but I’m making peace with the option that we might not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 12:53 PM
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Yes! One I didn’t even think of. Also... hair pulling. 😬
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 04:45 AM
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Yes! The speed in which they respond, and also the tone of the response. The nonverbals also generally give it all away.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 03:13 AM
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Totally agree.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 12:17 AM
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Having the lights on during sex would require him to acknowledge that you’re a breathing, living human with emotions and sensations of your very own. I’ve realized this one, too. Lights out takes the vulnerability out of sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 11:40 PM
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Yes! Especially so when the rest of their place and life is a total wreck. But their porn collection? Pristine, alphabetized, and categorized. The priorities are glaringly obvious. I remember working on homework a few years ago on one of my ex’s desktops and stumbled across one of his porn folders. I’m not ashamed to say I deleted quite a bit of it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 11:15 PM
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“How dare you snoop into something I know I shouldn’t be doing?”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 11:09 PM
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Oof, yes. The hidden folders that are so conveniently encrypted. And also the disparaging bed times.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 11:06 PM
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He did that as if to say, “this belongs to me.” 🤬
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 11:04 PM
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All of mine, too. Solidarity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 11:02 PM
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YES. Especially the turning of the mundane conversations to a sexual nature. 👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 11:02 PM
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Holy fuck. Imagine jacking off so hard and so often that you’re literally rubbing the skin right off. 😬😱 And yes to the “pooping” for an hour. Like, I have IBS. I know rushing to the bathroom. But an hour? Absolutely not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 11:00 PM
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Accepting all the hugs. Thank you for such wise and thorough advice. 💖
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 09:35 PM
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Yes we are. We absolutely are. 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 09:34 PM
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👸 Thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 06:09 PM
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It’s important to me (and to our cause) that we get as much lived experience and scientific evidence about this topic in order to help each other up. So, thank you again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 03:41 PM
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No worries! I’m going to create a much bigger post soon about all I’ve learned from past experiences in how to spot a PA.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 03:39 PM
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I realized he began taking his phone to the bathroom much more frequently. He became obsessive over keeping it on him, or when away from it, it was face-down. Little things like that would sit in the forefront on my mind, and so I became curious. That’s what led me to eventually ask him about views on porn. No one needs their phone (especially a dude) just to pee. Things just really began to feel a tinge sour and “off.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 02:23 PM
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Most likely. If he didn’t have the integrity to “own” his porn viewing, he will become much more secretive about it going forward. Especially since he didn’t see anything wrong with watching it in the first place. The hole runs deep for those who are in denial.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 01:46 PM
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Thank you. It’s taken me a long time to finally realize that the majority of their scare tactics are all just projection of their own worst fears.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 12:56 PM
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Congratulations! What a huge accomplishment! 🎉🎊
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 12:46 PM
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It’s my first day at a highly-competitive internship, so I’m pretty stoked for that. After that, work and school. Tonight, finalizing a summer vacation with my best friend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 12:40 PM
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Stick around. You’ll gain the strength needed to finally walk away. 💖
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 12:33 PM
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Don’t you dare apologize. This was a fantastic analysis. Thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 12:18 PM
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Hopefully she’s just as strong and stubborn as I am. We suffer no fools here. We will not settle.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 04:41 AM
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I’ll look back at this as part of my Spring Cleaning 2021.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 04:39 AM
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This was exactly my experience. Three months later and I walked in on him jacking off, supposedly after he’d “stopped for me” 👋🏼
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 04:37 AM
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I’ve been in that particular situation before, and the guy lied about stopping just to keep me around, so no. It’s the consumption and the defensiveness surrounding it for me. They know it’s wrong, or they wouldn’t need to defend their stance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 04:35 AM
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Gotta love those mental gymnastics: a full on cumer connoisseur, but wouldn’t dream of dating a porn star.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 04:32 AM
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Over 6’2”, dark hair, muscular but not super jacked, neatly groomed facial hair, can rock a suit just as well as weekend clothes, and that pelvic V is chef’s kiss 💋
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 04:33 PM
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Yes to all! I had an awesome professor that noted, “foreplay is everything that happens/is said after intercourse.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 01:49 PM
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I have always had a huge thing for Keanu. He’s essentially my gold standard of character to compare men to: humble yet extremely successful, good sense of humor, down-to-earth, keeps his life private.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 01:42 AM
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In the same position as you. I decided to take my mother’s maiden name for this reason.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 01:42 PM
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I am free. And that is a feeling I’ll keep nourishing and reminding myself of anytime I begin to think of remarrying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 12:27 AM
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I’ve now had two different guys give me glowing reviews and recommendations of Jordan Peterson, but I still don’t have a clue who tf he is. Can someone give me a brief rundown?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 01:57 PM
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In every single other animal kingdom on this planet, the male species are the ones who have to fret over being chosen, and so they go to extreme lengths in order to be picked, and therefore mated with. (Look up Birds of Paradise mating dance, for an example.) And humans used to follow this exact tradition. Somewhere along the line, men became extremely lazy with actually courting women, and somehow flipped the script as if it’s our responsibility to hold the man’s attention and to get him to cho…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 01:02 PM
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Been there, done this. Never again. ✌️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 03:57 PM
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It’s essentially a survival attempt to win the perp’s attention and affection. The whole trope of, “no, please, I’ll do anything you say.” Perhaps building up their confidence in attempts to sway them from attacking.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 01:43 PM
92

The flight/fight/freeze/fawn response is part of our sympathetic nervous system, and for the most part, is entirely out of our control. There’s no morality in the choice your brain and body makes in that second. But I know that all of us would easily choose to “fight” if given the choice. I think for this purpose, we need to keep things like stun guns, pepper spray in our purse so, no matter our reaction, we can attack back in some way. There’s a great podcast episode about this, with Brené Brow…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 01:36 PM
94

Imagine a life where you could go for walks or runs at night and not worry that you’d be stalked, raped, or killed. Imagine being able to wear what you like and not be ogled, followed, or harassed. Imagine being able to live your fullest life without constant fear.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 10:39 PM
97

Is it bad that the first thing I thought of was simply, “men who actually give a damn about looking decent”? Totally not catchy, but it’s so refreshing to see men who inspire lust, who care about their physiques. Or how about, “I would lick those abs”? Because Dad Bod is a way to “sexify” a beer gut. 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 08:59 PM
60

bE My oNly SouRcE oF seLf-eStEem! 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 01:23 PM
12

Also, let’s not forget the bias in surveying: did he ask women directly to their face? They probably didn’t feel comfortable explaining further, especially to this creep. Did he simply poll all of his FB friends? Ask random women on the subway? Plus, that’s hardly a sample size worth mentioning and not a fair assessment to create a statistic, anyway. This is all anecdotal, probably made up bullshit just to ease his own broken ego.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 01:21 PM
42

You don’t get any gold stars for trading one addiction for another one, then thinking it’s somehow a step up in morality. Especially not porn use.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 05:22 PM
32

Nice job in using a woman’s grief for your sick sexual pleasure. 😳
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 02:24 PM
228

I can’t emphasize the “silent” part enough. Besides putting yourself at possible grave danger when a creep LVM retaliates or begins to stalk you, there’s no point in debating your worth and boundaries with a man- any man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 11:01 PM
2

Because if they said how they truly felt about him, they’d answer their own question. If you have to reach out to an advice columnist, have to Google advice because of his behavior or actions, you already instinctively know it’s time to leave.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 02:43 PM
1

I did this before, and refuse to do it again, even if the guy is HV. Even in marriage, I am not someone’s property. A truly HV man wouldn’t make a fuss out of me keeping my name anyway.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 02:37 PM
37

This is so timely to me, as I finally (as of this year) found a gyno who approved to sterilize me. This has been 10 years, and probably just as many doctors, in the making for me. Every time I’ve tried to get sterilized prior, I’d be shut down with the following: “But what does your husband think about it?” “We’ll consider it after a kid or two.” “You’re still too young to be making a decision like this.” “We need your husband’s consent first.” 🤔 By the end of this month, I’ll finally be free. W…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 12:53 PM
82

I’m beaming with pride with her leaving. Here’s the part that pisses me off, though. How, at the end, he wishes he just never shared that detail to her. What, so she can go on thinking you still love and value just her while secretly wanting to fuck other people? Thank god the truth came out. She deserves to be free.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 02:03 PM
103

All great advice. I’m meeting some of the family this weekend, so I’m beginning to prepare for it now: fresh manicure, outfit and hairstyle picked out. That’s the easy part for me, always has been. Now, the challenge is to turn into the quiet observer and watch how they talk and joke and about what, and see if this is a good family match for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 12:51 PM
15

I know exactly this feeling. It’s truly infuriating, and honestly makes whatever you’re going through feel worse. What I’ve learned is to be a truly emotionally resilient person is having to experience the full gamut of emotions. And to never gaslight your own experience or emotions, but to sit with them, be ok with them. They don’t last forever, but they are real and need to be honored as such.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 02:35 AM
100

Meaning: “I want the appearance of a GF in public so I get all of the social clout and none of the tough, emotional burden”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 11:21 PM
36

What they get is exactly what you said- your silence. The point is to become so ruthlessly outspoken about your experience, sometimes at the cost of LV people, that the masses can no longer ignore us. So that we can eventually cause large, positive change, for ourselves, our sisters, our daughters, and our nieces.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 11:01 PM
198

A page from the narcissistic scrote’s playbook is to gaslight you into toxic positivity. Think of the guys who are always saying that women complain too much, or are too negative. Nah, scrote, we’re just telling you about our actual experiences. A brilliant quote from Dr. Susan David that I keep coming back to is, “toxic positivity is saying, ‘my comfort matters more than your reality.’” Reread that, again and again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 09:32 PM
89

This piece of shit is the very core of why I will never babytrap myself to any man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 08:57 PM
62

When I was still dating, I gave the guy no longer than 48 hours to get back to me, then I immediately moved it along. And in doing so, you don’t continue to romanticize the person for who they truly aren’t and the work they aren’t putting in, and you free yourself up to find the person who actually will put in that work and effort.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 04:29 PM
3

YES YES YES! And hello, fellow future therapist!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 12:16 AM
5

As someone who has had several therapists over the years, and is now in-training to become one herself, I think I might bring an interesting perspective to the failure of women and therapy conversation. 🙋‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 12:14 AM
12

I’m not one to ask for help, but it got to the point that I finally broke down and confided in friends, in my mom, just how bad things truly were. And when I realized that other people knew and had my back, I began to formulate a plan for leaving, but kept everything “calm” and “normal” at home. Once I had a secure place to go, I drove/ran away and had divorce papers served on my behalf. I only took the bare necessities: birth certificate, passport, a week’s worth of clothes (generally stayed wi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 02:25 PM
30

In my thirties also and I absolutely relate to this gnawing feeling of betrayal. I wish, more than anything, that anyone would’ve warned me early on just how bad it really is. I could’ve kept myself from marrying the wrong man... a few times. But they (media, the church I grew up in, my family) kept up the romanticism, and I bought into it. And I hate myself for that. But more than the hate, I’m proud of myself for having the strength to stand up and leave. Several times. At the heart of every P…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 02:06 PM
29

Therapy has been pivotal for me in processing the emotions of coming from a super dysfunctional family system, and later on, divorce and the abuse that occurred within that marriage. From personal experience, it wasn’t until I sought after a trauma-informed therapist when my mental health truly began to improve. The other therapists I’d seen where validating of my experiences, but it wasn’t until my current therapist where I have felt myself actually shift into forward progress. She gives me the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 01:27 PM
58

The very second a man refers to a woman as crazy, that’s your cue to turn on your heel and fucking run.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 11:12 PM
57

Something I’ve realized: they will use “females” when we become an obstacle to them, something to maneuver or push around. They will use “women” when we become a conquest, a trophy to obtain.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 11:09 PM
47

Like it was said in the podcast: “here for a good time, not a long time.” More like... here to waste your time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 11:04 PM
31

I second the therapy suggestion, but also... from the way you described your situation, it sounds like you’re neck-deep in grief, Sis. It’s so normal and something most (if not all) of us on this sub have to deal with and reckon with when we realize we’ve been settling. I’ve been where you are. Realize that you’re very much not alone in these feelings and that they are absolutely normal. Give yourself time to grieve what you thought you wanted, then get to work at making an escape plan. Knowing …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 06:32 PM
48

Replace every “we” with “me” and you’ll figure out his real story here. He’s off gallivanting across the globe, while she sits back and does the hard work here. $10K is scraps for what he put her through.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 12:52 PM
319

Is it any wonder that the majority of us ladies suffer from body dysmorphia?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 12:44 PM
120

That anal sex would strengthen the bond I have with my man. To keep “trying it out” even if I didn’t like doing anal, or anything remotely in the ballpark of anal. hahahahahahahaha No.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 01:54 AM
3

Sorry! Read the post and the question prior to coffee. Will be editing my post ASAP.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 06:57 PM
1

Exactly! And just like you, I often wished my dad would’ve died also while growing up. I saw how badly my mom was hurting and wanted more than anything to take that away... which meant him leaving the picture entirely.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 02:47 PM
32

This is all fantastic. I particularly want to speak to the “we have kids together” bit. As someone who was raised in a highly dysfunctional family, with a father who I feel could’ve invented and patented emotional abuse and triangulation, my mom still recounts that she stayed with him as long as she did because she wanted “to keep the family together.” Together for what? Experiencing hell? For her kids to grow up thinking what my dad did and my mom accepted was somehow ok? I heard a quote the ot…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 02:18 PM
329

Men: Wow, you’re gorgeous Me: I know 🥰 Men: shocked Pikachu face
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 11:02 PM
181

Reminds me of all of the Tiktoks and YouTube videos, teaching LVM how to neg women. Gaslighting 101. Thankfully, there’s enough of us smart enough to see it for what it is (you’re not witty, Adam, you’re just an asshole) and we swerve.👋🏼
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 10:57 PM
84

This is one of the most invasive, insidious parts of men who view porn: the lasting, horribly negative ramifications it has on their partner/GF/wife. He’s only thinking about his dick, but now her whole life and health and wellbeing revolves around and resorts back to his incessant porn use and affair. Men don’t realize the tiny seeds they are planting within their relationships when viewing porn, because they then begin to view their partners/GF/Wife differently. An unfair trade off doesn’t eve…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 01:11 PM
58

Trauma Bonding is one hell of a hard thing to break free from. I hope your sister can find peace and freedom from this man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 11:29 PM
177

You literally cannot win with men, so you might as well do exactly what makes you the most confident and mentally healthy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/21 02:49 PM
13

Having needs does not make you needy. And feeling (because his actions, not words, prove it) like a priority in his life is important. If he’s not making gestures to solidify the groundwork now to fit you into his life, it’s safe to say he’ll put work above you, above a potential future family together, and so on. Their actions tell us who they are, not who we wish they were, and not what they say. If he’s not actively setting aside time for you everyday, then you know where you stand. Does he h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 05:54 PM
97

And what they are really saying is: My pleasure > Your safety
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 02:21 PM
46

littarly
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 02:56 PM
53

My thoughts are that she’s actually afraid of his rage, so she wants to broach this subject gently as not to set him off further. I don’t know too many mothers who, when faced with their child being dropped yet again, wouldn’t go full Mama Bear and verbally slaughter anyone that dropped or hurt their child(ren).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 12:59 PM
24

Also, pay close attention to his semi-threatening “babe?” while she puts him on blast.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 10:23 PM
58

More than that: he deflects and says, “haha now let’s look at yours!”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 10:04 PM
43

Hold the fuck up. The photo used is one of our own sisters here, showing off the gorgeous ring she bought for herself. These scrotes know no limits.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 10:57 PM
25

That’s what I was thinking, too. I kept waiting to read the paragraph where he makes her bib him up and perhaps serves him his beer in a sippy cup.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 02:53 AM
107

Does he leave me on read? Is he someone I’d want my daughter/niece dating? Do I trust him enough to be vulnerable with him? Is he genuinely vulnerable with me, too?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 09:15 PM
45

Holy shit. Send her here! 😱
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 02:18 AM
32

Like seeks like. And once you realize that it isn’t a bad thing to be “high maintenance,” you’ll eventually cross paths with a HVM who sees your effort, matches it, and continues to build with you. I’d say the hardest part of this whole scenario is remembering your worth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 02:09 AM
42

A brilliant quote from one of my favorite books is, “just wanting to leave is enough.” And that has stuck in my head since. Your intuition is there for a reason, and I’ve noticed how much better and brighter my life and relationships are if I actually tap into it and listen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 04:08 PM
8

This is straight up in my top 10 favorite posts from this sub now. So many good reminders.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 04:06 PM
24

True on ALL of the levels. And like you, I’m 100% childfree, and every single time I’ve mentioned this, the dude has tried to debate my stance... or worse, has tried to fuck with my BC, and when confronted about it, it was “all an accident.” Like you, I have zero qualms over getting an abortion should need be, but I hate the whole premise of not owning my own body.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 04:03 PM
10

Congrats, sis! He and you have amazing taste in jewelry. This is the ring of my dreams.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/20 03:32 AM
30

Scrote Logic: No women are fucking me, therefore female sexuality doesn’t exist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 04:32 PM
14

Welcome to freedom, sis! Recently out myself. We know better now so we’ll do better. Cheers 🥂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/20 07:17 PM
213

I’m with you there. 24 was just part of the warm up for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/20 07:14 PM
142

Imagine telling on yourself like that, for the whole world to see.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/20 07:13 PM
11

Posts like this one make my eye twitch to think about ever marrying again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/20 05:14 AM
13

Bangmaid is killing me. That’s exactly what it ends up being!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 06:48 PM
16

I’m curious as to what the FDS Disciples say about this: what is the “right” amount of time before getting married? I’m sure it differs slightly from couple to couple, but there’s no way it could be years (plural) before knowing, right?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 06:38 PM
4

“A relationship is a merger not a compromise.” 🤯 Saving this forever. Thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 04:59 PM
3

How about your 10 favorite, in no particular order? I’d love to check them out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 03:39 PM
63

Thank you so much. This is all so wonderful. I’m going to screenshot it and keep it as my background for constant reminders. 💜
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 03:59 AM
8

I believe there are a few different terms that would fit, but Affective Emotional Transference is my first thought. AET works as a means to keep the victim(s) distracted by different objects, and feeling a kind of simultaneous fear/relief that it wasn’t them who was broken, crushed, or in any way hurt. AET still causes trauma, make no doubt about it, and anyone who destroys or uses force against objects is just as dangerous because it’s not a matter of if, but when, it will be you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 11:27 PM
4

My ex once got in an argument with his folks over the phone, left the house for a minute to get some air. Right after he stepped outside, I heard this loud crunch-thud sound, so I went running outside after him. Once I got to him, I saw that he’d punched a dent into the garage door. I’d like to say I packed up and left immediately after that, but I didn’t and I should have.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 10:58 PM
8

Came here to say that the thought of it is scarier than the follow through and aftermath. Once you’ve fully let go, you begin this great undoing and restarting of everything you’ve wanted, everything you truly deserve. It was worth the temporary pain and I’d do it again in a heartbeat.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 04:58 AM
2

Immediately added to my Spotify. Thank you! I love a good FDS-related song rec.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/20 04:53 AM
65

Another one for the Madonna/Whore Complex. Scrotes want us to be good in bed, but not too good. And heaven forbid if we’ve slept with anyone but the current guy. This is why your “number” is nobody’s business but your own. Btw, an awesome song that details this very phenomenon is “Body Count” by Jesse Reyez.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 04:51 PM
50

Something I’ve never considered. This is brilliant advice! Thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 07:22 PM
24

Redirect him to a Happy Lamp on Amazon to fix his cuffing season SADs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 06:45 PM
18

I’m CACKLING 😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 06:44 PM
47

That’s the part that breaks my heart. Romantic ‘ships come and go, but losing a long term friendship over his bullshit is heartbreaking. I’d much rather lose a bf than a good friend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 06:43 PM
14

This almost works as Queen Shit too. None of us will be second options for dudes anymore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 06:41 PM
124

This reeks of cheating. And she’s so right to be upset. Her boyfriend took her ex-best friend out on a date... several hours away from home. I guarantee they got out of town so they could fuck without worrying of being caught. Please, god, I hope this woman cuts them both off entirely.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 03:50 PM
4

You’ve got this, sis. You have all of us behind you and supporting you, and you know you deserve better. 💜
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 03:46 PM
19

Fuck that misogyny. He’s allowed to use a fleshlight behind your back, but criticizes you over having toys, too. 🤦🏼‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 03:21 PM
1

Karma is a beautiful thing to sit back and watch. I’m the same way, but the frequency is lessening with time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 05:41 AM
50

One of my exes always ran to his mommy after we’d begin a discussion. He was the oldest of a few kids and never stopped being coddled by her. She had the audacity to, before we wed, say “you better not break my little boy’s heart,” as if relationships only work one way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 02:13 AM
77

Jesus Christ. “Let me put you in risk of a deadly virus so I can see if you’re worth a few extra bucks.” 😳
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 05:23 PM
23

This has been my go-to for dudes when they express to me their sexual needs and desires. The very first thing I say is, “can I do it to you first so you understand the feeling?” And when they turn white and their penis literally inverts back into their bodies.... I know I’ve done the right thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 04:36 PM
34

A very timely post for me personally, thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 04:26 PM
29

Inspiring to read. I know the majority (if not all of us) here want this to be our end case. There’s just so much unlearning that has to happen first to pry us from our old pickmeshia ways, but this sub has been imperative to make us aware of those ways but also to console each other. I’m truly so happy for you, OP. I wish that kind of mature, authentic love for all of us here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 03:59 PM
2

SCienTifICallY aTTracTIvE 🙄 What the actual fuck, man?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/20 01:35 AM
1

There’s so much cognitive distortion to unpack here. Her bf can’t really be sweet and wonderful if he hates women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 03:37 PM
77

There’s absolutely nothing romantic or individualized about the way this guy proposed. I looked up the marriage proposal fail video where this clip came from, and it’s cringe all the way through. The way he corrals random people at the mall to stand by and watch (boost his ego), the fact he’s the only one dressed up, all of this shows me he’s more about appearances than wanting to marry this girl. And NO, you shouldn’t accept the ring only to return it later to save face. Y’all aren’t getting ma…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 03:00 PM
40

Same here. I think the thing that gets me the most is that if he doesn’t respect something so innately part of yourself and instead chooses to pull off some kind of big love gesture... it’s such a high level of disrespect. So, no, I don’t pity or sympathize with this dude’s disappointment. It was deserved.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 02:47 PM
229

If a guy did this to me (propose so publicly), I would have to say no because he clearly doesn’t know one of my fundamental personality traits- introversion. This feels like she’s been painted into a corner. Good for her for still sticking by her decision, even with the pressure of a crowd.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 12:38 PM
5

Holy. Shit. I’m so sorry. (Also, that would’ve made an incredible fire for roasting s’mores.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 10:59 PM
8

If I ever find myself in that situation again, (god forbid) I’m absolutely going to do that. You’ve gotta love that misogyny where women have to look and act exactly one certain way, but if us ladies share our preferences... we’re somehow shallow.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 10:10 PM
2

THIS. Exactly this. Men are this thing I have to tolerate while women are these ethereal beings that I’m too shy to even look too long at.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 03:40 AM
3

My ex used to be called “pussy whipped” by his brother anytime my ex went along with any of my choices. As if compromise was a bad thing in a relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/20 03:24 AM
10

The fact that he backpedals so fast with “but things are good now” and bringing up that she was quitting smoking (totally unrelated to the story, but to make the reader find some compassion with this dude). Just. No.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 10:09 PM
58

Please, karma (and the family justice system). Be swift and extremely firm.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 10:06 PM
6

“Kindness is not meant to be tracked.” GOD YES 🙌🏼
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 09:51 PM
5

I feel like this has been true in my experience. I give far too many chances, but once I’m gone, I’m gone forever. I’ve had plenty of exes come out of the woodwork, even after years, to “check in.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 08:35 PM
1

Came here to say this. Also, there is a fantastic online version of Cards Against Humanity (pretend you’re xyzzy) that I’ve been using with friends + Discord.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 05:36 PM
12

I needed so badly to hear this, especially today. I feel so helpless at times for not being able to do everything I feel I should be doing but cannot because of so many health issues. I just feel so guilty and look back at old pictures of when I was healthier and put together. I wish I was still that girl. But I’m learning to find patience.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/20 04:29 AM
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