“Just give him a week”

Twohagsover30 · 2021-04-26T15:11:06+00:00

Nearly all of the other relationship subs are trash misogyny always giving men the benefit of the doubt. I often have to unstick my eyeballs from rolling them so hard at the comments.

BTW, the over 40 sub is way better. There are a number of women commentators in that community that are absolutely ruthless.

NumberOneWetBlanket · 2021-04-26T15:11:16+00:00

As is said often on this sub: if he wanted to, he would.

cocojellygummybear · 2021-04-26T15:48:26+00:00

This happen to me at university, I started seeing this guy and he disappeared for two weeks!! No text,no call nothing.... He came back two weeks later. He saw me out with friends ( I'd stopped to do my laces up) I saw two feet stop in front of me and when I looked up it was him....know what I did, got up and walked straight past him like he wasn't there and got on with my life. He didn't get so much as a word from me ever again and we had mutual friends.

Other than my daughters dad I have no issues cutting people off, I'd cut him off if I could.

Girl, Block , delete live your best life.

Papaverinum · 2021-04-26T15:21:28+00:00

Who would give anybody a week, in the era of texting which takes few seconds to send? People are literally glued to their phones, don't be fooled by "they're just busy".

spinsterchachkies · 2021-04-26T15:58:34+00:00

Men don’t give women a week? Why should women give men a week? The hell is that nonsense

the_moocher80 · 2021-04-26T16:01:41+00:00

I time them to 48 hours & then cut them off! Previous experience has taught me that only the shady ones do a disappearing act.

donttextme_k · 2021-04-26T17:38:09+00:00

My mom’s advice was 24 hours because who does he think he is to think that we’ll be here waiting for him

haunted_vcr · 2021-04-26T19:01:51+00:00

Treat them like missing person cases - if they're not to be found within 48 hours, they're dead 😋

miphasgraceful · 2021-04-26T16:29:22+00:00

When I was still dating, I gave the guy no longer than 48 hours to get back to me, then I immediately moved it along. And in doing so, you don’t continue to romanticize the person for who they truly aren’t and the work they aren’t putting in, and you free yourself up to find the person who actually will put in that work and effort.

janeaustenfan99 · 2021-04-26T19:46:44+00:00

A man who is truly into you couldn’t go a week without being in contact.

drunkenwithlust · 2021-04-26T21:18:27+00:00

The person who responded "give him a week" was probably him. The newest COD is free to play this week.

Aocwannabe · 2021-04-26T18:39:48+00:00

I block after 3 calendar days.🤣😂 Story: after 3 days of not hearing anything, I blocked a guy from OLD on my iPhone so he texted me on my WhatsApp. The message was actually cute and thoughtful. He explained the he had been busy with work, isn’t a flake and was still hoping to connect with me but wished me the best if I didn’t care to respond. We exchanged some messages and ended up going on a nice dinner date. He picked a n upscale restaurant with an ocean view and was a gentleman. And I was actually physically attracted to him!

But I was getting confirmed bachelor vibes. I was initially hesitant to match with him because in his profile he stated “44 not 40” and usually those men are looking for women in their 20s so they fudge their age to not get filtered out.

Post date we texted for a bit and then I never heard from him again. He knows to not circle back because that boundary has been established so if he had been into me he would have gotten in touch a few days after the date. Blocked him just in case because audacity. 🤣

I highly suspect he is juggling multiple women and knew that I was “high maintenance”. A never married, no kids 44 year old man is almost always a Peter Pan that likes it that way but will lie to younger women about wanting children to get what he wants. Also, the nice thing as you get older is that you really begin to trust your gut.

I know of ZERO happy relationships that begin with an inconsistent man.

apple_cores · 2021-04-27T04:46:19+00:00

Yes ladies, give him a week to figure out if he wants you or the other 4 girls he’s talking to /s

I give them 48 hours after we match or meet to initiate conversation or reply. If we have been on 2 dates or more and talking consistently, I end things after 24 hours of no contact (unless previously discussed of course). Last guy, we dated for almost 3 months. I cut things off after not hearing from him for 36 hours, but he was active on social media. Nothing is a bigger flag in your face waving “he’s just not that into you” than a man who can go 24 hours or more without talking to you.

candyfox84 · 2021-04-26T23:22:08+00:00

While I don't believe in intense levels of contact, initially, I do think a man will show interest pretty early on. Context matters. At least a little text or something after a first date, within 24 hours, followed-up by a phone call within three days. I believe in "the rules" on that front, that if he hasn't asked you out by Wednesday, he's not in your plans for Friday. I also wouldn't want a guy to text me every day if we just met.

Chemical-Source-9600 · 2021-04-27T01:22:17+00:00

I had this happen to me before. A male friend told me to drop the guy because men take time out of their day for things or people that they want. I didn’t listen and once the guy contacted me again he gave be this big speech about having a family issue going on which is why he didn’t message me back. I believed him because imo we weren’t close enough for me to know that information but in the back of my head I thought to myself why didn’t he just give me a quick text or call letting me know he wasn’t going to be available for a couple of weeks. I didn’t listen to my gut and ended up going out with this guy. After our date he tried to hook up and I cut him off after that. Lesson learned

catandalady9 · 2021-04-27T12:54:34+00:00

I see a lot of 24 hrs and 48 hr averages, no judgement on what everyone is comfortable with - however - given how much everyone is connected to their phone these days. If I don’t get a reply at least after dinner time or next morning, ima respect the dead and move on 🤞🏼

2021-04-26T23:50:44+00:00

Don’t even give him a second. He ain’t it

anywaysheresrational · 2021-04-26T15:11:47+00:00

More infos needed/depends on the situation I'd say ?

I switch my phone off for days at a time. And in general can have very antisocial phases, being entirely under the radar for weeks or even months.

But yea, everybody is allowed to drop me, no grudges (I'm serious - people who don't know me think I'm pissed off or passive aggressive, when I just really don't care too much ? I reject people often and say No a lot because I need me time, so I'm not mad when others reject me. Anybody else here like that ?).

Title	“Just give him a week”
Author	Hateorade_
Upvotes	349
Comments	41
Date	April 26, 2021 7:05 AM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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