TheRedArchive

~ archived since 2018 ~

Annieandfish Archive

View 1 posts and 292 comments by Annieandfish on TheRedPill subreddit and various other subreddits related to The Red Pill community.
Search in:
In subreddits:
More
Filter by year/month:
Upvotes Comment on Subreddit Date (UTC)
11

The rules were all contextualized by the climate. Wool was probably just a practical fabric, or something similar. Every religious text should be viewed as a survival guide in some spots (like not eating pork because it’s not safe to store).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 01:29 PM
10

I knew a guy who pulled this off only because he had such a small penis. It’s too bad he’s decided to try to spread that gospel to other guys though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 05:04 PM
30

I’m convinced two conflicting articles were spliced together on accident. The transitions at the end just don’t make sense.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 04:51 PM
12

Thank you for being straight with me. I still need to grow in this respect (and not taking some things at face value).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 04:15 PM
33

Is it naïve to assume he won’t reach out again after this interaction? Obviously he’s a POS, but this seemed pretty straightforward, and ended with “Understood.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 02:26 PM
5

Oh, shoot. My fiancé pulls some of this nonsense with walking off as soon as we park, and driving before I’m settled. I know it’s an ADHD thing for him, but is it worthwhile to have to explain each new thing to him? He stopped walking ahead of me into the store once I told him, but it doesn’t seem worth it to have to have one or two talks for each “don’t pull out of the parking lot before I’m buckled/the gps is up” or “stop jerking the car forward at lights/in traffic. Someone’s in front of you,…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 05:27 PM
43

It’s aspirational to them. They have to build a male support network for degenerate behavior, or they’ll be left in the cold when they pretend their own rape was ambiguous.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 12:59 PM
2

The first article I read on birth control explicitly mentioned that girls primarily start on it for other reasons than its name. This was in high school, and women who take birth control in adulthood may be more likely to do so for that reason, but you’re absolutely right that it’s insane that we have a medicinal monolith for “girl problems” in birth control. Why wouldn’t we prioritize prescribing or using something safe that focused on fixing period discomfort, or hormonal issues?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 03:25 PM
2

No, this is specifically building off of a similar video about expectations for women that didn’t mention the possibility of financial abuse. Her videos follow the same philosophy, but aren’t in this style.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 03:10 PM
4

This comment is the spiritual successor to “The Second Sex.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 02:56 PM
32

Jesus, imagine making your significant other struggle to raise your kid because you want to live like you stayed a bachelor at your mom’s place. 🤢 To anyone opting to read this, your actions comprise your person. You don’t get to abuse someone and see yourself as a good guy. But if you choose to be generous with the people around you, you get that generosity back in your future interactions. At any income, and on any scale, it’s worth it. (Caveat: This is for people who act appreciative of and n…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 01:30 PM
7

Gotta use the power of public shaming, open a poll in your friend group about tooth brushing, watch the disgrace while you apartment shop because he doesn’t care about you, sis. Edit: addressed to the original person, who likely won’t see this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 02:13 AM
2

It was interesting, but I was put off by the tone choice for the poems done over music. It reminded me of how they describe mood altering presentation for cults. The content was thought-provoking, for sure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 02:10 AM
9

Ooh, where?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 08:54 PM
5

Thank you! It was a bit of a mind-blowing moment hearing that I could mark red flags as anything I wouldn’t do to another person. FDS got me to the point of holding other people to the behavioral standards I hold myself to, but that’s definitely not where we start nowadays.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 07:05 PM
13

The easiest framing that I’ve seen is “Would you be alright with your sister/friend being treated this way?” If it’s the position you’re willing to fill, you can tell your friend you’ll not think any less of her for changing her mind about the relationship, or venting but staying a little longer. It’s hard to leave an abusive relationship/situationship in part because that person tries to deny your value as a lovable human being. If she can start to see that this behavior isn’t okay for anyone, …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 03:06 PM
43

Abbreviation for red pill, an ideology that uses the matrix reference of the red pill to indicate they’re somehow understanding how the world really works by waking up to how women need to be subjugated or something. It’s tremendously hateful, probably not worth getting into specifically.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 02:48 PM
15

What an artful play on words!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/21 02:33 PM
5

So, who would he consider to be a fine friend of hers that also posts all of her nudes? He is entirely cool with his wife either being exploited or sending nudes to people outside of the relationship (and subsequently exploited), but he draws the line with her consent?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 02:50 PM
1

Thank goodness the FeDS were here to help her not be financially abused.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 06:20 PM
8

Not sure how to format on mobile, but: I think you’re a narcissist = you’re dating a narcissist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 11:54 AM
12

“That’s his girlfriend.” “No way dude! Are you paying her?”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 03:13 PM
6

My guess is that the screenshots are reposted from another sub. (Not OP though)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 07:13 PM
17

Anyone else planning to cover that the pinnacle of human achievement to one guy is being a little taller and opening jars? What’s his life? 5’10”, just a tad above average, and thank goodness! What would he be without grabbing the canning supplies he keeps over the microwave himself? God knows he couldn’t have someone else do it, especially because he’s got to preserve body parts like the serial killer he is. But high-key the equivalent is being able to reach the bottom of a Pringles can. Guys f…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 04:18 PM
37

How do you vet for reading “lad mags?”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 02:26 AM
2

Sorry for the confusion; it’s a book. Audio books just work best with my job, but this is one I’ll get post-pandemic. There’s a great post or comment about talking to yourself in second or third person somewhere in this sub (summary: imagine a person you respect/admire encouraging you as you go about your day). That can help with self-image issues. If you build your identity first on the things you do/learn/achieve, it’ll be less prone to damage from outside observers and the passage of time. An…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 04:31 PM
2

Listening to The Beauty Myth by Naomi Wolf filled me with the sort of rage that really wards off not feeling sexy, should it arise. Honestly, as an artistic person, I love drawing on my face with makeup, but to try to be your own observer is a torturous waste of time. Wear the styles, colors, and things you enjoy. You don’t need to spend any time speculating what makes you sexy to random people because it’s cleanliness and confidence, and it always has been.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 03:37 AM
9

It bites that this is the general FWB scenario. I had a really lovely FWB I used to hang out with for a few months. We’d clearly established romantic disinterest, participated in hobbies together, hung out with other friends, etc. The sex was fantastic, and when the “benefits” didn’t really fit our lives anymore, we had an easy mutual chat to say it was nice but it’s over. Up until reading FDS experiences, I assumed this was the baseline FWB experience. We wouldn’t have dated, but this was a ple…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 08:23 PM
15

Chant “vaginas are a handicap” to your parents one time, and it never comes up again. Mom always used to tell us when things “weren’t ladylike” until my sister did that and ascended past womanhood I guess.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 02:07 PM
4

That way he could call any woman he eventually married “his wife,” and get added respect for the longevity of the marriage, probably.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 12:28 AM
74

I would like to clarify: Fuck the men who would abandon their spouse to homelessness. But also, the system that lets this happen is clearly broken.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 10:34 PM
81

This article is a pretty succinct argument for why housing should be considered a human right, or one in opposition to the nonsensical belief that disabled people magically require less money to live. Obviously, where we are now it’s important to prioritize our security as we grow in life, but no human should have to live in that insecurity, especially one who’s already measurably contributed to society (by raising two children to adulthood).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 10:32 PM
37

One of my coworkers was ranting about a conversation he’d had wherein another guy tried to convince him you don’t really need to wash your hands every time you use the bathroom. I was grateful that there guy who practices basic hygiene was the one with a kid in that convo.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 08:00 PM
25

In case anyone wonders what it’s like to be a woman with those proportions, it runs in my family. In the 20s, my great grandmother wore a binder to fit in with then-standards for beauty. My mom was bullied for having “torpedo tits” in school, and I was likewise a target for porn addicts. My sister and I both got breast reductions before 23, and my youngest sister is thinking about it now before 21. The takeaway is that the women aren’t the problem, but the attitudes of men making us interchangea…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 08:35 PM
1

It’s not worth waiting to find out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 06:34 PM
12

These are some terrifying stories, but I would note that for people who enjoy playing these games from time to time, there are some players who are nothing like these guys. I dumped one ex who sat in my apartment and did nothing but game all day (League and WoW for her), but her personality was already deficient without the gaming, and it would have been awful in another way without it. I only “lost” her in that she took credit for the breakup a few days later. That having been said, I had a fan…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 06:22 PM
20

Likewise, “Oh?” Or “Are you sure?”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 02:43 PM
4

In a role reversal, the yelling would be more likely to be intimidating from the male partner, but the relationship is on its last legs either way because contempt has come into play. I would hope that if we heard from either person’s role as a woman, we would encourage her to get out and work on herself because that marriage has broken, otherwise the speaker could just mop up the dirt and apologize.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 03:10 AM
4

But you don’t understand, they really want to be that small pleasure /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 02:38 AM
3

I can’t imagine having just a line to say to someone, but a dating coach would be hard-pressed to just tell a customer (male or female) “grow a personality, then don’t settle.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 02:17 AM
6

From the NYT daily briefing: “ Lives Lived: Phil Spector was a pioneering producer who shaped the sound of pop music in the 1960s but who spent the end of his life in prison after murdering Lana Clarkson at his home in 2003. He has died, from complications from Covid-19, at 81.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 12:43 AM
10

I love the “I do. If there were humor here, I’d sense it.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 12:25 AM
1

Is that a thing? Jesus. “What hobbies do you have?” “Well, my body needs nourishment, and I’m desperate for attention.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 02:37 PM
4

When this overlaps with Valentine’s Day, you might come across salty (LV) friends who are mad you’re single (read: not dating them) because you can get a date easily, so your being single “doesn’t count.” I had one guy try to bs the metaphor of dating as eating at a nice restaurant where he couldn’t afford to eat at as nice a place and I just had some bad meals. Some men really don’t perceive the male portion of the dating market as deficient, but they know dating a woman is valuable and general…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 02:21 PM
25

A HVW knows what she’s capable of. The company might be irredeemable, but she might also have the skills needed to fix it. My great grandmother was one of the first female doctors and pediatricians in her area, and I was told male doctors used to send her kids they thought would certainly die. She knew kids weren’t smaller-scale adults and was able to actually help them. She was 90 in my earliest memories, so I don’t personally know more than stories, but she seemed a HVW. In regard to the glass…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 02:10 PM
1

It would make sense during the pandemic, but if she knew he drove out of pride and not for her safety, I couldn’t see that going well for him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 03:23 PM
8

You can also just have a trust that acts as a legally-distinct entity from you, protecting the money from lawsuits or divorce (if you’re the wealthier party).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 03:07 PM
13

That sounds like it would be kind of fun with friends or roommates, but for a date???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 02:54 PM
13

It’s quicker to look up whatever on the nearest phone. That would be so confusing, if a dude suddenly changed his phone password without saying anything, or got twitchy while I was using it to Google something because I left mine upstairs. You’d have to gaslight someone hard to hide your phone contents in a LTR.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 02:21 PM
26

Tacos are pretty universally loved, so it’s probably something about pretending to have shared “interests“ if little else about you is interesting, idk
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 02:03 PM
6

The starting point isn’t The Nice Guy (TM) if being done with it is just transitioning to a new way to abuse women who are unfortunate enough to sleep with you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 08:42 PM
26

This is all good, but especially the idea of a guy getting the same reward for using a tool. “Babe, wanna have sex? It’s been soooo long.” “Just fix the cabinet, Dave.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 08:39 PM
48

I had an ex describe to me this gaping whole in his mental state that could only be filled by a SO (🤢). I guess with a woman nearby, he could forget that his personality was weed and video games, and that he was as entertaining as peeling a potato. He got desperate enough to start hitting on very straight male friends after a while. I hope it works out for him with his therapist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 08:31 PM
7

It feels like all too often I see a dystopian story or policy attempt that just attempts to exploit or subjugate someone, when it’s so unnecessary to the situation. It’s always stuff like Handmaid’s Tale, where a resource becomes limited so some prick decides it needs to be ruthlessly controlled, but at the same time it was already a biological imperative, and it could have sooo easily been incentivized instead. Like “most people have suddenly become infertile, so we’ll offer a wealth of resourc…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 02:06 PM
17

Pre-FDS I had paid for the (small) groups’ meals when we’d go out to eat, partly to help out one of the struggling friends, partly to signal complete romantic disinterest in the others. They absolutely got the message, but I could have saved some money for sure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 01:39 AM
12

To the people who say someone’s “nearly legal,” rape is never legal. That is all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/20 01:07 AM
4

That’s absolutely fucked, but stuff on that sub is upvoted when someone’s a total POS. They’re doing the (Reddit) opposite of condoning snuff, presumably not jacking it to the video.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 10:19 PM
5

My first Valentine’s Day with someone, I gave him a pineapple, and he loved it. This was in high school, but I cannot imagine going to any length to do something more thoughtful for a guy whose mom bought me chocolate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 03:32 PM
12

And here I assumed it’s because they don’t know the words for it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 03:00 PM
71

Lol @ “Men are the stronger sex.” “You work a desk job, Steve.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 02:52 PM
2

Their friends should know who in their group is acting different. I had a guy ask what to do after the few months when he was no longer trying to impress a new SO not long after I met him. I have to get to know her better after COVID, but it sounds like his current girlfriend has done all of the pushing to advance in the relationship, and I will chew his ass out if he tries to maintain something he’s ambivalent about just to have a girl around while he balds. That having been said, there’s dumb …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 03:06 PM
4

“Would you be okay with a sibling accepting this treatment?”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 02:56 PM
3

“BM” is certainly one way to describe being in that position.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 02:52 PM
5

I’ve seen the correlation for sure, but the worst handwriting I’ve seen came from the sweetest kid I knew in high school. He went through enough bullying that his mom gave me a graduation present because apparently I’d been abnormally kind to her son. He probably has better handwriting after several years, though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 02:39 PM
21

Position yourself to benefit from any relationship you’re in, whether it lasts forever or ends tomorrow. Don’t waste your time investing in a man who isn’t part of tangibly improving your life because he could die (physically or just to you) any time. If he’s delaying or damaging your achievement, you’re not better off when that guy’s willing to commit. Any person who consistently works to add tangible value to your life isn’t waiting for the next best thing; they’re investing. And please don’t …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 02:18 PM
16

Watch whether they’re investing in the relationship (time, energy, money). If they’re lukewarm about it, they don’t care about you enough. Even when they’re interested in a lifelong commitment, you have to watch out for yourself in terms of “Are MY needs being met by this? Is it worth continuing in the direction this is going?” One of the most important lessons I’ve gleaned from FDS is that it doesn’t matter why he hasn’t done something, just that he hasn’t.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 02:10 PM
41

I read a post a while back about representing the voice of intrusive thoughts with a kid in the back of a car. An eight year-old trying to be mean feels much less serious than a meaner version of yourself. I’ll have to see how the inner coach thing feels too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 01:53 PM
84

“My love language is wasting your time by making you sit nearby and watch me do virtually nothing for hours on end” “Wow babe, great job defeating the boss, such quality graphics, wow”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 05:06 PM
7

It’s been a trend for a bit. One example: https://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2018/12/the-sex-recession/573949/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 04:51 PM
15

My sister’s ex tried to pull this so she wouldn’t share her opinions with him. He dumped her for telling him to clean up after himself. Bullet dodged, but she was never at that great a financial disadvantage that it would work.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/20 05:52 PM
5

But you could call OSHA anonymously to report uneven flooring, or tripping potential from wiring on the floor, poor lighting that creates a hazard, etc. Legally, doing so (in the US) is protected from employer retribution, and if you lose your job because you report a workplace to OSHA, you’re entitled to the lost pay because of it. It would be quite a lawsuit to watch as someone outside of the industry.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/20 05:47 PM
3

They sell dyes that wash out in 1-28 washed, depending on brand and type. I don’t know whether it would come in as vibrantly, but it’s a fun way to check the color.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 08:02 PM
2

Wasn’t that the business that was dealing with men deciding they needed to be there because legally they couldn’t have a women-only business or some nonsense?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 03:17 PM
1

That’s how guys interact with each other though. I think these are male friends who relate over mental illness or other difficulties when they’re down. Plus, they call the other person “bud.” I know 0 (zero) women who talk like that, and dozens of men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 03:01 PM
2

I don’t know if this is a generational gap, but the sort of hyperbolic humor of “we don’t like all the same restaurants? Guess the relationship is doomed“ just translates to “this doesn’t matter, we can find a different restaurant” amongst my peers (24). Obviously keep your boundaries. You know your relationships and interactions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 02:56 PM
2

They just need a good health class or therapy. Jesus
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 02:20 PM
18

If you’re at home for the pandemic, it’s a great time to try a temporary color. Bonus: if it corresponds with any sports team’s colors, that’s what male coworkers will assume it’s for.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 01:58 PM
24

Thank you for pointing this out. It’s like how marketing adoption is when slandering single mothers started, or how beauty products are marketed on the premise that you don’t start off good enough to exist around other people as a woman. Some people (read: corporations) will fuck over whoever it takes for money, and they would love if we scapegoated each other for it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 01:45 PM
4

Well, I’m really grateful to the lovely ladies who brought us this content. I don’t think I’d have ever really deciphered how to dodge abuse or set clear boundaries without them. It also feels like my relationship improves every time I practice something new from this sub.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 02:00 PM
3

If it helps, the pressure to forgive a cheater has started to go both ways gender-wise in some areas. When I was ending relationships in high school, some of my exes wouldn’t “let” me or wouldn’t acknowledge it until I’d moved on, and they were absolutely willing to forgive this “cheating” if it would bring me back. I’d much rather we just move collectively to a stance of dump any cheater, but at least some people have moved in an egalitarian direction for bad advice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 01:54 PM
23

It is really neat how the sub appropriates what he calls “the way Black Americans speak” though. It’s kind of awesome being in the company of queens, or lovely ladies, or sisters. Why shouldn’t we have beautiful, powerful wording to build each other and ourselves up?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 07:47 PM
7

Thank you! On top of the standard cheating, can never trust him again stuff, he has risked the lives of three stated people to have sex, and would absolutely do it again when he was more relaxed about her schedule and health.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 07:08 PM
8

If anyone has the link to the article on a fuck off fund, it basically goes here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 06:59 PM
2

Thank you for the analysis! I often get the assumption questions, like “What sport do you play?” from strangers, but I’ve also never had the conventional first date experience with a stranger (just because of my age and school timing), so it’s always nice to see the subtext posts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 02:16 AM
10

Sorry you went through that. I forgot my doctor gave me drugs, as she said was protocol, so I barely felt the IUD insertion.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 03:46 AM
18

MasterCard and Visa: We can’t be complicit in the distribution of child pornography. Paul Graham: We will turn to cryptocurrency to commit our crimes if that’s what it takes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 02:50 AM
7

Honestly, everything but the last one (two?) seems like someone trying to figure out what they have in common with you, where your priorities are, and whether they can relate their experiences to yours. I’ve never actually been asked any of these, so I feel like I’m missing something in the usual tone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 02:31 AM
3

I love this sub, but it cemented my understanding that staying up past midnight and waking me up doesn’t belong in my relationship, and it’s something we’ve already “worked on” before. But moving is such a pain. Aaaaggh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/20 09:10 PM
4

Have you run into the racial variation? “Yeah, I get why they protest police brutality, but why do they have to be rude to people/damage property?”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 07:42 PM
7

It’s kind of the vibe of giving a toddler a tablet to distract them while you do things, tbh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 01:11 PM
9

(Not saying this is an acceptable course of action) PS5s are currently reselling at about a 55% up charge. The best-case scenario is he recognized a $300 profit to get her a “nice” ring and replace his PS5 later. Depending on the person, a $300-$800 ring might be fine; I don’t set her standards. Worst-case scenario, he sold it, pocketed $750+, and bought a cheaper ring.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 01:08 PM
35

This is the comment I was looking for. You can’t abuse someone by 100% cutting them out of your life. I hate that every woman I was friends with in college could easily recall a sexual assault, but we’re abusing men somehow by not dating ones that aren’t worth dating??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 12:57 PM
8

The smartphone camera is pointed at a mirror. It’s moving enough to mess with the perspective. You can try keeping your hand still for a video at home to see the effect yourself. Have fun!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 12:48 PM
6

Porn fosters a lack of empathy towards women, so a pornsick individual wouldn’t really notice/care if they’re being rejected. They might verbally steamroll your rejections with nonsense like “but I love you, why can’t we be together?” when you’ve clearly outlined your boundaries. Only thing that works is blocking and deleting, like FDS says, unless you want to convince a former friend that you actually hated him the whole time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 12:39 PM
2

A guy I rejected has been telling our mutual friends that I’m an emotionally abusive sociopath that gets off on his suffering for...not dating him. If she cuts contact with this prick, her life will only get better, and she’ll watch him suddenly change his mind about only seeing her as a FWB candidate. “He’s not even that great tbh” means she’s already well on her way to moving on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 05:12 PM
117

Obsessing over someone who’s shown clear disinterest while rejecting obvious signs of rejection.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 04:32 PM
10

So, using this in the US, you would be potentially paying money to be liable for possession of child porn, and the win is what?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/20 02:25 PM
17

“I only ever wear sweats and logo tees, but it would be nice if strangers complimented me too”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 11:39 PM
2

That was exactly it, but this is a person who I’ve accidentally insulted in equal measure, so it’s chill
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 11:34 PM
17

Told a friend what I made for dinner one time and he said “Wow, you’re so homely!” Like it was a pick up line
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 02:30 PM
1

Silver lining, my life is way better now. The effects suck for a while, but eventually there isn’t mental space for shitty exes. It doesn’t hurt that I lucked out on my current SO. You know that “he’s a little confused, but he’s got the spirit” meme? He wasn’t dating during college because it was an intense course load, so we’ve had to have a lot of adulting conversations, since I graduated early and lived on my own first, and he’s been receptive to all of them. I won’t gush too long, but it fee…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/20 02:08 PM
3

Speaking from the experience of sexual abuse without domestic violence, it took me about two years before the flashbacks noticeably declined, but I don’t think the PTSD mostly subsided until recently, about 5 or 6 years after I was anally raped, and almost 3 full years after an entirely different assault. It takes a while to get back an internal locus of control, and that doesn’t come from dating someone better. It comes from getting in shape, or learning a language, or practicing the skill you’…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 04:13 PM
6

Dated a guy who “loved” gaming and driving, apparently. He would play games in the room next to where I did other things, and he was constantly pissed at the tv. He would talk about how he loved that game, and I would ask why he perpetually cursed at it. With driving, he would always offer to drive, but he absolutely raged at traffic, other drivers, any situation that complicated the open road. I don’t enjoy driving, but being in that passenger seat gave me anxiety, and I cannot describe the rel…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/20 03:10 AM
29

“Hey, remember how smoking used to be considered healthy, but companies kind of knew it was bad for people before they let on? Hooking up is in the same sort of in-between phase. It’s been successfully marketed, but people know it’s dangerous.” Maybe something like that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/20 02:41 AM
3

It’s a helpful pneumonic to remember: WRMWWGTMUWFGWMUSMMANTBOTFMIT. Followed by the equally useless, but much easier: DMWAS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 06:30 PM
2

It’s a bold choice to sit in front of someone who’s demographically most likely to throw up (motion and morning sickness) and in need of a seat. Apart from how selfish that is, I hope they get covered in vomit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 06:24 PM
3

Opening up too quickly can distract from actions that disregard boundaries by creating a false sense of closeness. Based on some other comments here, friends who get mad at you for being single on Valentine’s Day because you could be dating someone and it’s So HaRd for them to find love, which they have an emotional void without that needs to be filled by an SO. I I’d watch for people who open up completely unprompted early on, and people harboring a clear resentment for whatever situation they’…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 05:15 PM
1

Well said. I don’t know that professional beauty culture for women will be one of the post covid improvements, just because of how massively tied to the pandemic housing and healthcare are. If anything, it seems more likely to me that people will continue to ignore that we all have implicit biases than that we might create consistent pay grades in the private realm.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 04:37 PM
2

Trying to guess why people exhibit bias against a given group is a waste of time because which group doesn’t matter to them. Bigotry just needs fear and hatred and a place to project those. Any ethnic or age group or sexuality standing in their way can temporarily be held responsible for everything because they’re different, so it must be their fault.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 02:55 PM
2

Yeah, it just feels like such a difficult nuance to make. Like “how much of this is for me versus something I’ve convinced myself is my idea”? I don’t know how she does it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 02:48 PM
3

You’re right. A quick google search indicates a lot of racism involving Romanian people. I removed the comment so I’m not spreading disinformation, but if the poster says this boy is treated poorly for his race, I’ll assume they have some insight into local racism.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 02:46 PM
7

She’s absolutely a role model, but this routine takes an hour out of every day. Every year, she would lose two weeks to it. She is gorgeous and powerful, and spends 6+% of every workday mildly emphasizing the appearance of her face, inextricably linked to societal expectations, regardless of how beautiful she is and feels. I love drawing on my face as an art form, and I’m fortunate enough not to have to for work (teleworking), but there’s no way this is a practical expense outside of a patriarch…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 02:33 PM
94

Group chat with the dad
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 11:39 AM
7

“I’m surprised you didn’t notice it (I’m hard after a hug” -two different college “charmers”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 11:23 AM
7

My grandparents have cutesy cartoon icons of young female characters for the games they play (Facebook, poker), and they get hit on, and gifts from other players for voiceless, clearly cartoon avatars. As much as they think it’s just charming and funny, and they think it’s just about the funniest thing in the world, a cartoon icon is all it takes to start gender-specific behavior with strangers. I would die a little inside if one of them were on Steam as a “girl.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 11:21 AM
5

The first man is the person. The second is the primate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 12:53 PM
3

Just a guess as to how his wealth is distributed: if his investments are in a trust that acts as a separate legal entity from himself, (This is how mine is set up, even if I’m not “rich”) anyone who would divorce or sue him would have no legal claim to the trust itself. I could easily see a damages suit for making her sell her violin, but to someone collecting the money, he’s as poor as his writing career has him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 12:32 PM
8

Guy I dumped months ago: I heard you cheated on me. Me: We haven’t spoken in months, since I dumped you. I figured it was over. Guy: That’s fair. I still can’t believe he came to terms with it because it timed out, and wouldn’t when I broke up with him to his face.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 11:50 PM
15

Apparently, it’s just a terrible poster. The movie itself was made to criticize the sexualization of children. Kind of telling that they assumed an American audience would respond to this disconcerting picture, but this isn’t representative of the film that was shown at Sundance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 11:39 PM
52

I’ll wax whatever it takes to live in Chris Hemsworld 😋
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 06:57 PM
1

Babies taking a father’s last name is the parental equivalent of distributing participation trophies. “I helped!” “Sure you did, sweetie.” “I’m gonna write my name on it!” “Alright, hun.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/20 11:16 PM
2

You’ve gotta send it back lol (callback to a guy my sister messaged over OLD when my family had recently moved)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/20 10:59 PM
3

Why would we settle for “girl brain” when we have the incomparable “lizard brain” to use for lapses in judgement?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/20 12:56 PM
10

😘
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/20 11:38 AM
3

It’s not a porn/faithfulness issue, I’m mostly trying to assess where a person should be in managing things like ADHD before either of us is even 25. I know it adds some stress to my life while he sorts through symptoms like memory troubles, but I’ve seen him distinctly improve in a lot of it, and he’s open to anything I ask for. I know the FDS resources say having an unmitigated mental illness is LV, but this is something he’s been working on for himself for a while to solid improvements (like …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 12:58 AM
5

I’ve been having trouble figuring out what amount of improvement is sufficient when someone is concretely working on themself. Like, I can see the changes, and it’s not necessarily slipping up, but he’s still learning to manage his ADHD. I don’t know how far along I should expect him to be with it just coming out of college, and with him only recently learning that ADHD also affects adults. How do you ladies figure out what level of personal growth is worth waiting for when there is clearly effo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/20 09:02 PM
7

I have to doubt they actually understand the consequences for the victims. The lack of empathy is the only reason a person could live with themselves for traumatizing potentially several people. They would have to justify the actions as exaggerated in effect, right? I would take becoming destitute over knowingly causing someone to develop PTSD. It’s necessary that I believe, for the good of my sanity, that a rapist has to be ignoring the consequences to their victims, because otherwise they want…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/20 06:04 PM
5

He’s going to have trouble picking between a brain and personality if he ever gets to the wizard. God knows he thinks being in the military covers both to a potential partner, and he’s obviously lacking if he thinks someone can both copy his personality and message him first.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/20 04:45 PM
49

Well, yes but no. “Daddy issues” cause insecure children, which is great if you want to be a low-effort boyfriend. Single motherhood was antagonized to jump-start adoption as a concept, so children could be signed away from single mothers to more “stable” families. Specifically trafficking children by slandering women isn’t better than creating dysfunction in adults, but it was rooted in a higher likelihood that single parents would be the women who weren’t dying in wars and dangerous jobs, and …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/20 04:18 PM
5

The pdf: https://www.docdroid.net/py03/why-does-he-do-that-pdf
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/20 11:17 AM
56

Rapists don’t believe that gray area rape is wrong, they just know rape is illegal. That’s why you can get people to admit to rape if you avoid the word itself. It’s nonsensical.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/20 11:00 AM
63

Anything that expands your horizons. You might ask: Does he encourage you to grow in pursuit of your goals? Does he invite you to (outside of the pandemic) try new foods, visit new places, or experience new activities? Are you doing things you wouldn’t have on your own, and do you enjoy these new memories? For me, he likes to travel more than I have ever felt the need to, but I’m grateful for the places we’ve gone that I never would have visited myself, like some specific restaurants or theme pa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 05:41 PM
5

Maybe he doesn’t hit you, but whenever you say you don’t want to have sex on a given day, you find yourself having sex later that same day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 07:04 PM
254

“So I’m learning how to avoid abuse in relationships with a community of women.” “Yeah, I’ve been ghosted after buying coffee for a date, too.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/20 12:24 PM
6

This tip existing is dystopian.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 02:10 PM
52

At least his grammar and spelling are in the 14-18 age range 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/20 05:02 PM
32

You see, men also get raped, and therefore nothing is wrong ever /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 05:46 PM
14

*gets rejected “See, this is why you shit yourself”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 02:27 PM
1

Exercise, get the endorphins from working out. Figure out why you’ve been pretending for anyone. If you find things you enjoy, there will be other people with hobbies you actually like, but I can’t imagine pretending for people. Nobody really benefits from that on either side, and it seems like the cognitive dissonance would kill your spirit. Also, how lame are these guys that they’d fit into one of three “interests?” Of course being single isn’t anything, good or bad. It’s just un-influenced. T…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 05:55 PM
3

https://www.docdroid.net/py03/why-does-he-do-that-pdf
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 05:11 PM
2

Get a spray bottle if he’s going to act like an animal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 05:06 PM
1

“That’s nice.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 05:05 PM
7

My guess is he’s paying for the student’s education in exchange for commodifying her body. He seems the type to keep her in a financially-dependent situation to ensure access to his temporary sex toy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 04:45 PM
6

Most of the comments were “I don’t know how to talk about feelings,” or a paraphrased “I have no rich inner life, and often do and think nothing.” Why would you admit to your SO that you’re actually extraordinarily lame, and she’s been overestimating your mental capabilities and zest for life???
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 04:38 PM
4

I’ve read that a profile explicitly stating you’re a woman seeking to exclusively date another woman who is after the same can deter unicorn hunters, but I’ve never set up an OLD account to test that myself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 01:19 AM
3

You have to make the mental shift to being disgusted by certain behaviors. If something he does repulses you, it can snap you out of it so quickly. My ex was abusive, but the thing that snapped me out of it was the first time she picked her nose in front of me and tried to pretend it was endearing. Nothing from that point forward could get me back to being interested in her. Whatever his bad behaviors are, listed or otherwise, they’re below you, and not worth your time. The other important step …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 02:37 PM
2

It’s because living with him probably helped the ex move on
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 01:56 PM
3

One of the primary tenants of this sub is that there’s a greater demand to date women than men. It’s why everyone knows a guy that swipes on every tinder profile he can, and companies make fake female profiles. The man paying for a first date is a show of interest, investment, and fiscal stability. If a guy can’t afford a dinner at a nice restaurant for two, what does he offer me romantically? I have friends, hobbies, and pets already. I can alternate paying or split the bill with my friends. An…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/20 03:56 PM
12

Congrats on moving past your bulimia! That’s hard to do. If your husband’s just developed an incredible mood-destroying obsession with appearance, and this isn’t where you want your emotional state to head, you know how to leave and get out of the situation, or use the internet to figure it out. If you sense that his contempt for aging women could escalate to violence, please get out of there, to family if possible and healthy, and keep your location from him. Alert family and friends who know y…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/20 03:33 PM
-4

My favorite response is “Really? Are you sure?” I make unpalatable sandwiches as a hobby, but nobody’s ever wanted to eat one of them before.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 03:41 PM
4

I don’t think we should assume he contributed half of that $8k.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 03:13 PM
4

🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 03:12 PM
5

How much do you think buying all those awards cost OP?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 03:04 PM
13

If this is a woman, this is what her partner tells her when he ignores her. “You just said it wrong. I listen when you address me properly. I’ve listened to things in the past, so this is obviously true.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 03:00 PM
41

My younger sister’s friend told me I had excellent posture “like a princess” when my sister was in middle school, and I still think about that whenever I slouch a little
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 02:46 PM
10

I think her son was recently dumped, tbh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 01:03 PM
6

Oh my god, you have so much strength. I was on antibiotics for a couple weeks after a surgery, and I’ve never felt that nauseous outside of food poisoning at school.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 02:27 PM
5

Obviously, that’s terrible and I hope you make a full recovery. This is going to sound a little off-topic, but cranberry juice is really useful in preventing UTIs. It helps your private parts prevent bacterial build up, and I would recommend drinking it in general if UTIs are a concern. I got one before ever becoming sexually active, and also found out I was allergic to the treatment, yaay. But I haven’t had any issues since, and it’s kind of been a post-sex drink whenever that’s a concern.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 12:50 PM
6

Gotta respect that fry shortage. It’s not like more can be ordered basically anywhere
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/20 12:40 PM
18

“Good to see your eyes are working”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 01:36 PM
3

This guy: I would be a HVM FDS: No value is added by a noncommittal hookup. Dick is abundant and low value This guy: These poor, poor, black femcels FDS: ??????
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 01:32 PM
14

With an unambiguous rape, US police ask why you want to report it, don’t accept “because it’s a crime,” and come off as completely disinterested in helping, in my experience.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 01:08 PM
1

Match his effort between you two, if it’s just a generosity thing. And let him watch you spoil family and friends, while he gets the equivalent of what he gives. But these particular guys don’t sound worth dating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 05:05 PM
3

Quick non-dating ask: did they not prescribe nausea meds with the antibiotics? Your dad sounds like a dick, but it’s weird to me that the doctor’s office wouldn’t be offering the nausea patch or suppository at this point.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/20 07:52 PM
10

I do love the idea that he probably went 50/50 while he was earning more for the one year, and has had a drastic change of heart about fairness since she started earning more.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/20 07:44 PM
2

To add to this, FDS should still have that post on time, money, and energy in a relationship. Ultimately, it would come down to whether he invests other things that cushion the poorer gifting choices, and how important his flaws are to you (OP, not blue jeans).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/20 07:41 PM
1

Yeah, and that’s obviously good. That’s just why pedos want to be ungoverned
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/20 07:38 PM
5

Same, but they called me to ask how I solved my mental health problems like I’d miraculously resolved them and could pass on that knowledge to my sisters as soon as I’d left for college.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/20 12:59 PM
6

It sounds like his dad bought him a bike. Is this the same guy from your other bf post? He seems pretty financially uninvested in the relationship. Maybe a cheap necklace would be fine for a high school valentines gift, but this guy doesn’t seem worth dating to me. I wouldn’t want to bring someone up to speed from an average 16 year old’s level to 27. I can’t imagine biannually being disappointed in my partner’s choice of gift, and having to swallow that opinion to avoid being insulted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/20 12:47 PM
17

It’s hardly a high value quality to suggest rent will be income-based, then charging 50/50. That having been said, I wouldn’t be surprised to learn that he’s the one who suggested it “as a joke,” and expected it to just be the case when they moved. My fiancé has absolutely almost gotten us a cat by jokingly telling a relative several times that he wanted to keep their cat, with the relative believing him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/20 12:21 PM
2

Pedos don’t want to be governed by laws saying they can’t have sex with children. The only libertarian I’ve met though has given policy a great deal of thought, and isn’t a pedo.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/20 11:56 AM
64

I love that thought process of “guess he’s shitting himself to death or ditching me, better cover this one.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/20 11:53 AM
2

I don’t mean that you excuse abuse. I just mean that mental illness is a narrative that abusers use to avoid being considered responsible. Most abusers just aren’t mentally ill (According to Lundy Bancroft’s Why Does He Do That?, a book about various types of abuse in relationships). That does make abuse worse and more dangerous when they are, but it’s caused by attitudes of a partner having less worth as a person, and absolute entitlement in the abusive partner.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 11:46 PM
7

Most abusers don’t have a diagnosable psychiatric illness. That would definitely worsen abuse, but one of the challenges abuse victims face is that abuse drives them crazy (PTSD, anxiety, and depression can result from abuse for sure), but abusers can be composed moments after the act. The crazy abuser narrative helps them avoid responsibility. They’re still awful, and doing awful shit, but try not to play into the narratives they use to avoid being held responsible by letting them plead insanit…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 06:34 PM
29

Oh my god, yes. I accidentally broke a glass washing some dishes one time, and had no idea what it was from. He freaked out to exactly the point that I went “oh, it was sentimental,” and ordered a replacement. It was one of the random glasses his very much alive mom gave him when he moved out, and the sentiment was that he “likes that glass.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 06:14 PM
7

I love both of these comments, but the dignity jab has me in tears
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/20 01:48 PM
6

“No way! You also like to repair and donate old cars to the less fortunate?”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/20 12:46 PM
7

I physically shuddered at leaving smudge marks on the wall
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/06/20 12:20 PM
7

One of his books describes a black high school football star as someone who looks like a future inmate, while his self-insert is the butchest man to ever exist. Behind The Bastards (podcast) did a brief look through his story about Brett Hawthorn, Army badass. Edit: I don’t think Ben Shapiro is worth listening to or reading, regardless of his potential overlap with any of this sub.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/20 09:11 PM
24

Good to see we’ve reached the exploiting the reproductive organs of the poor stage of capitalism. Also this, but unironically: “By banning gestational surrogacy, we are saying to the LGBTQ community and those who struggle with infertility: You can’t have a child in your own state.” Sort out adoption ffs. If you can’t pass on your genetic material and you think that’s the only goal for your life, you’ve missed the whole point of being born into a species that can invent.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 02:12 PM
3

At most, give him a 👍, and block.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 01:20 PM
16

Have you seen pictures of the art display of what people were wearing when they were assaulted? I imagine the friendship equivalent would be the same type of jeans and a t-shirt “asking for it.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 09:54 PM
8

Gotta defend that right to make your acquaintances uncomfortable
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 01:14 PM
15

The whole article felt like “Jim is a POS husband and father. Can his gross negligence in every situation be heroism?? We sure think so.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 01:06 PM
9

“He said he is sorry that I am taking it so hard.” What the absolute fuck?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 04:04 PM
37

Even before covid, Time put out an article on the “sex recession.” That beautiful piece speculated why people aren’t having as much sex. Of course porn comes up because men are trying choking and anal without consent or communication, and women are being scarred for life. They attribute it to a lot of possible causes, but I don’t think the destructive nature of porn is given enough credit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 12:46 AM
6

Hear me out though: imagine he’s been cooking with jalapeños and no gloves, and he goes to pull this corkscrew bs when you feel burning because something from the peppers soaks into skin.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 12:11 AM
3

I looked it up and that’s a fucking coping mechanism for me. Why would anyone keep having sex with an unmoving partner??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 12:05 AM
9

Why would they want or need to know that? “Why do you ask?” is a good way to miss some of the ambiguous questions, but this isn’t something a guy should care about.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/20 11:11 PM
3

Laughing at them in person and walking away or blocking them on an app.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/20 03:10 PM
3

“Nice try” has one hell of a “Not today, Satan” vibe
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/20 03:08 PM
7

One guy goes straight to rape as a form of male agency in the comments for whatever reason with no regard for condoms as an option, wtf?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/20 06:25 PM
10

If you want to be going out to have new and exciting experiences together with all that money you’ll both save by not having children, you still don’t want to be the only one funding it because that will limit what you can do. But if you’re still in college, I wouldn’t worry about splitting as much as watching for character flaws.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/20 04:29 PM
3

“Oh my god, I’m so sorry. I don’t want to be like my dad.” He cries, she says it’s okay, and he gets to continue.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/20 05:09 PM
8

That felt too relevant to be 50 years ago.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 01:28 AM
2

Sounds like you dated my ex. He texted me after meeting someone else to apologize and blamed alcohol, years after we’d split. He still won’t talk to my boyfriend, and I’m low-key grateful he just stepped out of our lives after I blocked him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 12:55 AM
67

He abused and almost killed her and served 7 months.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 12:43 AM
8

Nobody has that combination of time and alcohol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 12:26 AM
5

Hey, when they tell you who they are, believe them. What an image diaperpants must cut 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 12:24 AM
32

Have they tried that most blessed communication? Maybe talk to their significant others to say “I like this,” instead of broadcasting a personal preference online to no one in particular. Idk, I’m just part of the female hive mind, but maybe you aren’t representative of all men?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/20 10:38 PM
36

‘I’m in charge because I say so’ is a pro shortcut to being laughed at
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/20 10:34 PM
23

Imagine seeing someone be satisfied and thinking “I need to get them down to my level” because you’re so subpar as a human that you’re unable to imagine they should be happy. I’m so grateful to love myself enough not to hate people for personal satisfaction.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/20 10:16 PM
0

1 Thank you for clarifying the life sentence bit. I thought it was referring to an abortion ban somewhere that I hadn’t heard about yet. 2 As someone who was raped, and had flashbacks consistently for two solid years with those exact sorts of days after, I honestly don’t consider PTSD a life sentence. STDs can absolutely have that permanence, but I don’t want someone to read these comments and fear eternal struggle, since recovery can do sooo much. 3 It’s kind of exciting to have a controversial…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/20 12:18 AM
-2

I did end that with “Rapists should be given the choice between death and a natural life sentence” referring to all rapists. That having been said, most of the people who have done it admit to rape if you describe it without saying the word, so we know that a small portion of the population that rape do so disproportionately. Others are obvious and caught early on, which doesn’t mean they stop willfully, just that they can’t from jail. Why did the victim get a life sentence? I’m clearly missing …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/20 08:27 PM
5

I could see it being reasonable if it’s been a drawn-out illness, or something like a coma, where he’s been grieving a while and has likely made peace with it. The exception to that would be men with younger/dependent children; it impacts the kids lives too much to make that transition quickly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/20 05:52 PM
5

Wow, it’s like nobody kept with “paying it forward” after school. Why add to the good in the world when you could rage at the lack of disproportionate reciprocity for the bare minimum?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/20 05:33 PM
-1

Oddly enough, I’m going to try and narrow that down to the repeat offenders, as a tiny portion of the population commit repeated rapes and sexual assaults, using social convention to avoid being caught. I think the people who do it once and are immediately caught should actually be punished just as severely. They would also repeat the behavior given the chance, they were just insufficiently discreet. I thought I was going somewhere else with this before I thought it out. Rapists should be given …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/20 05:16 PM
3

You can tell you have too much credibility when you make that joke and your friend goes “wait, does it really?” This guy tried to correct me on telling him he spelled a word wrong because of his pride, but he was ready to accept his dick could get smaller with each sexual partner 🤦‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/20 03:41 PM
5

He loves looking at me. He’s had a bit to drink and cried because “you’re so beautiful” after one cup of wine. We talk about improvement as people and what we like about ourselves and each other; he tells me he wants to be more like me in certain ways, and I want to cultivate some of the traits he has. He loves to cook for us, and try new recipes because they’re foods I will like. But he also wants to teach me about cooking because it’s a skill I want too, and doing it together is satisfying. He…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 05:36 PM
10

Imagine having your wife go “No, it’s cool, the couch IS exhausting” and telling every married woman in your country not to do that because you wouldn’t help with basic adult responsibilities in your own home.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 05:05 PM
3

Where do these guys even come from? Our apartment got too hot so I wore a bralette as a shirt one day, and my boyfriend was mystified by this new possibility like this is how torsos were always meant to be displayed. In my experience, men will order lingerie with you because that means it’ll exist on your body in the future, which is a blessing to witness. Like, who the duck are these people who feel entitled to dump on women like this?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 04:56 PM
15

Soft nos are plausible deniability.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 03:43 PM
46

Sounds like he needed a puppy instead of a wife.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 03:36 PM
38

That’s a real blatant “oh...you’re more invested than I am, and I’m not interested in changing that, sooo..”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 03:30 PM
13

Men will look for a golf ball?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 11:22 PM
17

Not that they had great odds of finding it before
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 10:27 PM
12

https://www.smithsonianmag.com/science-nature/the-truth-about-pheromones-100363955/ The smell of tears should decrease arousal. That’s got to be a response to female pain from porn use or something.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 01:19 PM
11

*I WILL DIE ALONE ON THIS HILL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 01:04 PM
8

That’s much more insightful than “we’re pretty sure it’s fine because we’ve researched IVF.” Thank you for sharing your experiences. I’m really sorry you’ve had to deal with the unregulated bs the US pulls.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 03:50 PM
13

Remember how women used to be incapable of advancing their fields or existing on their own because they forgot dicks in character selection? Weirdly enough the stigma against single mothers is more modern than you’re thinking. Men used to die at war all the time, so society couldn’t function for shaming a single mother. It sounds conspiratorial, but that was a sort of public smear campaign so Georgia Tann could acquire babies to “adopt” out. You can google her, but not if you’re wanting to have …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 03:42 PM
21

It shouldn’t be hard to convince other people below 18 not to distribute child porn ffs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 03:34 PM
2

So, it looks like they do want more research about the long-term effects, but the process is similar to the first half of IVF, which does have research into its long-term effects available, so some feel that’s sufficient evidence there aren’t long-term detriments to a woman’s health. IVF does not increase your cancer risk, and it’s unlikely that egg donation would. It’s not really not giving a shit, but it is weird to me that some people just went “this is good enough for me,” and decided not to…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 03:30 PM
15

Apparently $300-4,000, depending on whether it’s an anonymous donor or partner’s sperm being used. That might sound like a lot before recalling that egg donation is listed at $25k.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 03:06 PM
4

True, next time someone pulls that shit I’m punching him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/20 03:02 PM
3

Some people masturbate into condoms, so it could be that. Your intuition will clue you in on what’s going on better than our guesses might though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/20 02:59 PM
6

Sis, you’ve got to protect yourself a little. Why were you even in a fwb scenario in high school?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/20 02:54 PM
2

Imagine purposefully moving your child closer to Joe Biden 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/20 02:45 PM
1

But NBC is left-leaning. Much of the criticism of perversion on the left comes from the left. On the right, it has to be outsourced. With the 1993 sexual assault coming back to Biden, it seems unlikely that he would be the candidate the DNC runs this year. Part of that’s an optimism that the race isn’t just Trump v Trump Lite though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/20 02:44 PM
5

Powdered sugar mixed with syrup looks like that. Thankfully, that’s a childhood memory. It looks so gross now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/20 02:21 PM
1

The suicide victims one always gets me. It’s just because men are more likely to succeed in their attempts. Women are more likely to attempt with methods like overdosing, which often fail. It’s a telling reality that more women want to die.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/20 10:20 PM
1

Quick shoutout to the insecure dumbass who called my sister in the middle of a day we were hanging out to whine “You don’t think I’m smart?!” They had met that week..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/20 10:06 PM
3

Some men like to have the option of intimidating women out of talking, especially if it means they’re building up other women. I was called worse than a troll and terrible in real life the other day (on Reddit, obviously) for trying to say that as an instinct, I pay for meals when I’m out with a friend that’s starting to seem flirty when I don’t want to be. So, if a woman wants to split a bill, that’s a bad sign. This guy was pissed. Why not just “fucking tell” them, he asked, as if I wouldn’t d…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/20 05:11 PM
21

Oh my god, that parking space comment killed me 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/20 04:43 PM
14

Did anyone else get the impression he hits her elsewhere and she’s just used to it?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/20 01:40 PM
4

I make friends with people I can hold conversations with, so that’s been accidentally vetting disinterested/incurious people. The social context was school, so we had at least a few classes or other lectures together.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/20 12:16 PM
24

I feel as though the group of men that effectively empathize and want to learn about a partner are more likely to succeed at dating as a whole, so we would meet fewer of them in that context. I haven’t dated that sort of disinterested fellow, since I’ve been friends first with every person I’ve dated, but I’ve definitely met the sort of guy who only talks about himself and quickly runs out of things to say.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 05:16 PM
27

The averages given are still both pretty close to 5 inches for fertile (5.27) and infertile (4.92) men. I’d be interested in seeing the nature of the correlation if it were graphed, but this is a pretty shallow article.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 09:21 PM
4

Good for you! Life is so much better when you feel safe day-to-day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/20 04:50 PM
2

I’m sorry you went through that and hope you’re doing better now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/20 02:43 PM
43

Incidentally, pointing a gun at someone is definitively still a crime in the legal sense.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/20 02:28 PM
2

Us? Why tf is this person trying to get someone to send a boob pic to a group chat?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/20 11:43 AM
6

The first person to do it probably got a laugh, and men are socially-starved. Just check the questions about compliments on AskReddit constantly. I’m glad the culture seems to be moving towards shaming that nonsense.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/20 11:25 PM
32

Yes, but she followed with that she’d date none of those people. There were a lot of questionable parts, but it finishes off with optimism about HVM existing, and the very FDS principle of don’t be a pickmeisha and let LVM stay in your life, since that gives them the idea it’s okay to be a terrible partner. Overall, it’s a very optimistic, if purposely misguided, article. It seems like the author uses optimism about men to cope with trauma.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/20 11:13 PM
19

You don’t need to be available on his schedule like that. Go do other things on your time, and only tell him you were out doing whatever it is if he asks when you’re back. He’ll either start missing your presence, or you’ll both just have things to do independently. It sounds like he’s started taking your time and presence for granted, and you’re putting more thought into this guy than enriching your life, which would benefit both of you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/20 11:02 PM
32

I’ve been enjoying responding with “yeah.” It confuses people the first time, and it’s great.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/20 09:17 PM
6

This. If a guy expresses an expectation for you to pay for your meal or a coffee, that’s when you walk out by FDS rules. If you want to piece it together first, see how he reacts to saying “it makes me feel so special when a man treats me to dinner/puts effort into planning an evening together.” Drop hints and HVM step up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/20 04:13 PM
2

Oh my goodness. I had a friend injure himself masturbating in an unusual position. Not a clue why he told me about it, but that was probably the funniest reason I’ve stopped talking to or hanging out with someone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 09:49 PM
8

I would go with shaming LVM behaviors and praising HV ones as though it’s not related to him, like by talking about characters in a show or posts online. For the guys who think of women like a hive mind, that really drives home how he should act if he wants to be taken seriously in the dating world. I would also like to know about the cool novel.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 09:06 PM
9

There was only one moderator, and she quit by revoking her own mod status. She couldn’t instate a new mood because of it. Can someone remake it?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 03:49 PM
2

If you know them outside of OLD, these are the people you thought were friends before they thought “I’m surprised you didn’t notice” was how to address ignoring their hug boners in a coy manner.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 02:02 AM
9

It’s not irrational to get angry when someone blames the victim of a crime, especially in front of you casually. It would take a sociopath to ask “why didn’t they have less breakable windows?” or go “seems like he should have worked for a company that didn’t have someone embezzling from the pensions in it.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/02/20 11:36 PM
45

Hold up at “I behaved awful in the past and now she is doing the same to me.” This guy abuses her and thinks her not letting him come back is the SAME.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 05:23 PM
26

It sounds like he just wasn’t trying hard enough to get out of the suitcase. Maybe they need to work on communication.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 03:00 PM
1

This reminds me of an snl sketch: https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=vZRzJJcq6Rs
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 02:44 PM
24

Previous abuse. You seek out garbage people who would likely never leave when you desperately need stability.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/20 02:33 PM
18

My friend and I role play that nonsense when we eat out by pretending to be on horrible first dates. Turns out that if you confidently “explain” that a man’s penis actually gets smaller for every partner he has, he might think it true.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 02:24 AM
21

I have two sisters, but mom got on us about being ladylike until my sister chanted “vaginas are a handicap, vaginas are a handicap, I have a vagina, therefore, I am challenged.” Mom called her challenged once, but that stopped our gender-norm reminders. Joking can be a pretty solid way to snap people out of norms if you can get it to work.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 04:33 PM
3

Abusers never lose control. They consider certain behaviors acceptable under certain circumstances. Obviously it’s important to control angry reactions to a degree, but abuse isn’t a loss of control; it’s a combination of attitudes and beliefs that place your partner below you in a position where they need to be controlled through abusive acts (in the mind of the abuser).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 07:39 PM
7

You can’t change a LVM as a partner. You can only help someone like that as a friend (still without being an acting therapist) by pointing out LV behavior. If you’re dating, they can stagnate wherever they are because it was sufficient to initiate a relationship, so there’s no motive to improve.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 06:56 PM
5

I agree with your perception, but I disagree with the approach. I’ve always felt that if you want something to improve, you have to address it. Provided you have the ability, have an assembly at a local school with a male speaker or whatever you determine would work in your community. It’s been brought up on this sub so many times, but men will not do a difficult thing if they don’t have to and can pass off the difficulty (See: birth control posts). The issue of men harming women doesn’t appeal …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 08:54 PM
8

It’s definitely pessimistic, but I don’t believe men are interested in learning uncomfortable things, or fixing them. It’s not excusable, but change to improve quality of life is historically attributed to efforts taken by women. Men don’t seem to take initiative in my experience, when things are going poorly. It’s like they can’t imagine making life better for anyone, including themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 07:43 PM
6

It was more in response to the surprised men. You are obviously aware of male behavior. It’s not unreasonable to expect people to google stats, but it is unrealistic that they would unprompted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 05:00 PM
49

It helps to remember that most abusers are awful to about 1 person at a time, almost exclusively in private, and justify it to themselves. Unless they’re around them acting like their partners are less than human, I’d be surprised if it were obvious to a friend or casual acquaintance. Those assumptions are how we feel safe in the world before something makes it feel unsafe. They’re psychological, though audacious and inaccurate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 04:19 PM
6

I think he’s trying to show harassment isn’t real because he’s hot, or it’s sexless. But he really demonstrates how much safer men are than women in the same situations.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 07:34 PM
19

The idea that some men don’t address emotional difficulties, and then later blame them for inexcusable behavior. Example (based on multiple conversations I’ve had): Woman: “You need to respect my boundaries or this won’t work out.” Man: “I don’t want to be like my dad.” Starts crying Woman: ...? “You don’t have to be like your dad. You just need to respect my boundaries.” Man: Wailing now. “He was so terrible and I don’t want to be like that.” Because of the horrible experience in his past, he c…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 07:51 PM
24

“I can’t check off exclusive LTR on my taxes” comes to mind
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 02:51 PM
9

Looking for someone who has been groomed as a teen seems dubious at best. If you feel threatened by this person, consider going to the police or another occupation that deals with this on a personal level, like a therapist. Report your suspicion of this person’s grooming to someone in authority and get out of there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 02:26 PM
2

But the most important attitude change you need to make is whatever helps you find him repulsive. His behavior hurts you, and that should be enough. You have to think of yourself like you would a sister or friend; you wouldn’t put up with someone doing that to them, and you’re just as valuable a human as they are. Get angry at him because you’re inherently worth caring about.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 04:49 PM
2

If you have a male relative that could stay with you and keep him away from visiting your house personally, that could help safety-wise. If you’re concerned for your safety, seek out a restraining order. The advice to block in other comments is all good. You need whatever support system, be it therapy or family or friends, that you can go to that isn’t him. He needs to be out of your life altogether, or you will be stuck with him cyclically.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 04:45 PM
3

I might have read too much into this, but it seemed more to me like she was calling out her friend’s partner or expectations of one without outright mentioning him, or insulting the friend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 04:28 PM
4

They didn’t let me watch when I had it removed, but after less than 1 year, you’re unlikely to have one that’s bent or broken, so it should be a pretty quick/easy small incision and pulling it out if it’s like how mine was after a year. It wasn’t a long appointment, but you may be pressured to start another form of birth control afterward. My gyn would not rest until I was on the pill after having my implant removed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 04:17 PM
1

It gets uncomfortable in very specific contexts. They might expect you to meet a certain standard of appearance or not talk about certain things without letting on until it happens. One dipstick in particular touched a red spot on my face and asked “what’s this?” like it was unfathomable. He apparently had a crush on me for years, but we never dated because I wasn’t human enough for him to interact with me like one. High school was a trip.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 05:35 PM
3

Catch me up on computer technicians, I get the others I think
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 05:26 PM
21

“You got a haircut” “Yeah” “I liked it better long” ... What was he even hoping to do there?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/20 04:16 PM
11

I had an ex (high school), that called his two exes horrible names, which I took on good faith to be accurate. I dumped him because he was a trash boyfriend who seemed to just want sex. Surprise! I’m the bitch now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/20 11:46 AM
33

“He said she said” is bs. You experienced panic attacks in direct response to his actions. You may have record of phone conversations, at least, indicating how you told him not to come over. You exhibited a likely irregular behavior for yourself by driving to your brother’s after surgery for refuge. I don’t know how the legal system responds to that sort of behavioral evidence, but there’s not nothing there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/20 06:40 PM
4

I had an ex in your position. It never turned back into anything. I’ve worked on improving my life whenever something isn’t what I want, and while I’m still updating a fair number of things, it’s going well. He was stuck on that relationship while pretending to be my friend for about 5 years. We’re no longer friends, but apparently he’s still stuck. He expressed much of the same outlook on dating when I knew him, because he put an ex on a pedestal. It’s not worth it. And FDS doesn’t exist to tel…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 03:15 PM
5

Good thing he’s up for staying home alone on date night, because that’s the return on zero effort.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 02:50 PM
2

First choice: move on Passive-aggressive choice: change the locks and build an outdoor shower with clear signage that he will not be allowed inside smelling like that. Move on anyway though, seriously
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 02:03 PM
2

I liked it, but I wasn’t super invested yet. I don’t think I would have been comfortable staying in that objectified position. I could probably do a casual adult version of it now actually 🙂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 01:55 PM
7

I’ve legit quit coed sports after hearing about locker room talk from my then boyfriend. It just wasn’t worth it to me, even though the female friends I had there were incredible.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 12:36 PM
4

It’s barely any effort for a strong chance at roping in an advantageous partner with less understanding that she could just leave a crap guy. So for an initial effort cost of love bombing, with little sustained effort of bread crumbing, a LVM could derive years of benefit to the disadvantage of a woman that just wants to feel valued as a standard human being.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/19 08:46 PM
90

Tell him you’ll find someone else to peg lol I can’t
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/19 07:26 PM
12

This is my guess, so grain of salt, as I’m 23, but there are some ageless activities. In a given neighborhood, assuming that layout, you might be able to join a book club. Anywhere you can volunteer should give you a chance to meet people who also do, which can be tailored to personal causes (for animals, homeless people, nature preservation, others). Depending on your specialization as the only educated person in a 30-mile radius, there are likely Internet forums, potentially conferences or oth…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/19 04:00 AM
8

Oh my gosh, this. I see the age of consent come up in absolutely unrelated posts constantly. It reminds me of a creepy neighbor by my friend’s house that kept saying how close she was to being “legal.” I hate that I’ve had to yell “rape is never legal” across a street to a gross middle-aged man. Why would they even know those numbers off-hand once they pass 20/21, though?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/19 01:51 AM
16

Beautiful! Can I use that?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/19 01:38 AM
103

This man absolutely tried to get out of a relationship by subtly messing up, and was forgiven every time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 07:10 PM
24

To piggyback here a bit. Coordinate moving while he’s not home back to your parents’ house. Organize all of your things so you won’t have to go back. If you think it’s a risk, warn his parents to put him on suicide watch. Stay safe. Edit: He may promise to improve specific issues when you leave; it still won’t be worth it to go back to him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/19 07:18 PM
2

If you live on campus, there are probably some nice walking paths or park areas to chill and enjoy nature. I like taking a notebook to draw outside in nicer weather (maybe not relevant to December, but parks are nice much of the year)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/19 07:10 PM
14

Yeah, I get such weird vibes from Snapchat convos I’ve had. One dude I met at the gym in my apartment building while making friends was really pushy about talking on Snapchat exclusively and his gf not knowing about my existence, even though I was very clear that I was inviting both of them for tea as my neighbors, and was not interested in him. Trash boy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/19 07:08 PM
6

Mental health issues have to be addressed by the individual with them before they can hope to have a healthy relationship. It can be draining even just maintaining friendships with people who are struggling with depression. I had an ex who wanted to stay friends afterwards for quite a time, but his life was in constant turmoil, and he mistook emotional support for romantic attraction from several close friends, so I had to cut him off. Several mutual friends were still trying to offer support, b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/19 03:39 PM
3

That one was absolutely golden. I died
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/19 03:28 PM
You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

© TheRedArchive 2026. All rights reserved.
created by /u/dream-hunter