So triggering when men minimize the impact of leering... it makes me second guess my reaction. What do you all think about his statement?

gursky0 · 2020-03-10T04:10:59+00:00

I think abused women have the ultimate day in this and if I had to guess they would side with the woman.

Plenty of times I've caught men glancing but they look away and I can tell they are embarrassed or realize they're doing it.

Leering is saying "I know you know I'm looking and I don't care if it makes you uncomfortable. I'm going to do it anyway. "

whathisbastardid · 2020-03-10T04:23:14+00:00

The men who are writing this bullshit are not men who care about “trivializing real harassment”. They are the same men that are in moms basement trying to shove their crusty dick into their own asshole. 😂 That’s who is writing this type of comments

TheOGJammies · 2020-03-10T03:59:20+00:00

Nah, fuck him. Literally every mammal on the planet interprets unwanted staring and leering as a threat.

We know the difference between normal attraction and predatory stare. This is gaslighting bullshit.

radical__daphne · 2020-03-10T04:28:21+00:00

Sexualization refers to turning someone into nothing more than a sexual object. A thing. Only LV men think that is normal and acceptable. It does not mean being sexually attracted to someone. It does not mean noticing someone has a nice ass. It means looking at a whole human being and only thinking of them as a collection of parts to fuck and that can give you pleasure that you can use.

Tldr: men are liars

jetpatch · 2020-03-10T09:56:38+00:00

Men kill each other everyday because some guy looked at them funny but women aren't supposed to react to those aggressive stares at all. Is there any more extreme double standard?

HottPinkSlug · 2020-03-10T06:55:12+00:00

They're so fucking dense. They just never understand nuance or distinction. There are levels of a abuse. It's the same way they always think racism and sexism is only burning crosses and genital mutilation.

naiiad-bee · 2020-03-10T04:27:55+00:00

male leering i experienced as a child literally fucked my brain up beyond belief and made me try to convince myself i was a man to identify myself out of it. i would say that it did more damage to me than any emotional or physical abuse i experienced. this person is an idiot, and probably does the same thing to other young girls and women. hope he falls in a hole and never gets out

timetofliptables · 2020-03-10T06:05:58+00:00

You have to practice every day calling out lies and bull shit, not necessarily to the source but in your own mind at the very least.

His opinion is bullshit and it’s your job (all of our jobs) to recognize it for the bullshit that it is.

ModernDayOracle · 2020-03-10T09:50:44+00:00

I think my cat made better arguments in her litter tray. Appreciating an attractive person is normal and natural. Acting on that attraction is where it can become problematic. Let's be real - we don't know if the dude leering at us is going to leave it there, or if we need to start looking for a safe and quick exit. Being on guard all the time is EXHAUSTING, and that's without the situation being compounded by previous trauma or assault.

GlowInTheDarkSpaces · 2020-03-10T07:01:13+00:00

Leering by definition has malicious intent. When a man is intentionally doing something to intimidate or threaten, they don’t know if you will be annoyed or terrified, but it’s still inappropriate, creepy, and abusive. Harassing someone is always abusive.

w0manifest · 2020-03-10T11:26:51+00:00

in my nonverbal psych class, we discussed staring, and that it is both intended and perceived as an invasion of personal space. It's like ... psychological groping

NorthrnSwede · 2020-03-10T09:08:57+00:00

I think that the only time that guy pretends to care about "actual sexual abuse" is when he's using it to try to make a member of a marginalized group stop talking.

Muffcakelord · 2020-03-10T10:18:30+00:00

Replace "looking at her ass" with literally any kind of abuse, assault or harassment and you will find a sentence said by men every damn day. Nothing is "bad enough" to be "real harassment" to men but guess what? Harassment is defined by the victim, PER LAW in most countries so men aren't in the right place to speak. If someone notices you looking at their ass so bad they get uncomfortable, it's harassment. End of fucking discussion

2020-03-10T15:25:25+00:00

Infanticide is "natural and normal" in many places but it's also wrong. People who can only come up with that argument to defend something they like are intellectually and morally bankrupt.

summerspring_ · 2020-03-10T17:57:04+00:00

I was arguing with this fool and he literally just said quote "A person's body is an object", thus trying to defend his statement that it's okay to stare and gawk at a womans body.

Sick perv

Title	So triggering when men minimize the impact of leering... it makes me second guess my reaction. What do you all think about his statement?
Author	journey1992
Upvotes	75
Comments	40
Date	March 10, 2020 3:56 AM UTC (6 years ago)
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