This is horrible!!! let's try to help her!

buddingQueenie · 2020-03-26T01:21:42+00:00

Let me guess: is the main theme of the answers "COMMUNICATE"?

Such a vile man. Yes, caregiver exhaustion exists. That DOES NOT (!!!) mean you take it out on the person!

What fucking garbage. This post made me more angry than most on here. The fact that we women have to constantly question because we're told "wOmEn eMoTioNaL" is why this woman is posting this question.

I need a break

miz_nyc · 2020-03-26T02:42:23+00:00

I think the only people who can help her need to be professional. She's in extreme denial, he's literally waterboarding her which is considered torture and she's asking if she's over-reacting.

Radiant_Success · 2020-03-26T01:30:50+00:00

I wouldn't even know the first step to helping someone who is unsure about whether or not they're overreacting to their spouse punishing her by dumping water on her head and putting a wet towel over her face, pinching and hitting her multiple times per day.

She needs professional help.

CSardothien_1 · 2020-03-26T02:04:58+00:00

So he’s legit doing a form of water boarding on her. Mmk. Idk how most men arnt in prison tbh.

kdramapeach · 2020-03-26T01:25:42+00:00

“His behavior is fine otherwise”

Sure Jan

1Here4Bach · 2020-03-26T09:20:21+00:00

Reddit men: My wife took 5 hours to prepare a 3-course dinner but she let my mash potatoes touch my peas on the plate she made for me. How do I let her know I want a divorce?

Reddit women: My husband is literally abusing me. He cheats on me and embarrasses me in public. He’s fine otherwise—a really good man—and I love him. We’ve been together for 10 years and I really don’t want to throw the relationship away. Am I overreacting?

phantom_0007 · 2020-03-26T03:25:12+00:00

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timetofliptables · 2020-03-26T04:47:26+00:00

It breaks my heart every time a so clearly vile thing gets posted with the question “am I overreacting?”

People really don’t get how deep and strong gaslighting can go. And if you’ve never been there and don’t get it, consider yourself lucky. But please don’t doubt that this is real. This is basically how I see every abuse victim talk, no matter how bad their situation is.

phantom_0007 · 2020-03-26T06:30:20+00:00

Oh God he reopened her incision what the fuck? She needs to leave.

Alexamaria · 2020-03-26T01:19:38+00:00

Omg! 😥😡😡

gooddogtoo · 2020-03-26T02:18:05+00:00

Oh. My. God.

Deadgirl1888 · 2020-03-26T03:05:15+00:00

What an evil piece of shit. I hope she starts taking pictures and recordings so she can divorce his ass and have him pay alimony.

Neko-Rai · 2020-03-26T07:04:22+00:00

So so many things wrong with this. Something that came into my mind was he’s doing this now for something while she’s young. What will he be like when she’s old and needs help doing things?? But then I remembered she won’t make it to be old if he continues this abuse. It’s only going to get worse and will become even more life threatening and worse lethal. Girl needs help to GTFO yesterday! She needs to realize her worth and that he is worthless! I hope she like many of us here have, can do that before it’s too late.

bitch_not_it · 2020-03-26T09:21:56+00:00

“I’m unsure if I’m overreacting” ?!!???!???!?!! What is going on, is this a horrible satire? She just described how he dumps freezing water on her head as “punishment” for reacting in pain after he deliberately hurts her, pinches her incisions open or hits her incision on purpose to tear them

Lindapod · 2020-03-26T04:45:02+00:00

This is honestly scary, seems like the beginning of an abusive relationship that will escelate to even more extreme domestic violence or worse... Murder. I hope she gets help and gets OUT

timetofliptables · 2020-03-26T04:50:25+00:00

Did she delete it I can’t find it now. There are hotlines she can call if you can get the message to her.

appleadam123 · 2020-03-26T06:37:07+00:00

OMG..Why these girlies are in doubt that they are overreacting? And no he is not fine otherwise. Its straightaway abuse

2020-03-26T01:47:10+00:00

Yes, it's abuse. My mom used to dump water on me. It's just an empty person doing things to intentionally fuck with you because they are sick in the head 🦎🦎🦎

juliet-elia · 2020-03-26T09:55:52+00:00

He goes by the old trick. "If I do this intentionally very badly, maybe she will do this boring chore alone"

He is probably doing that so you stop asking him. So I suggest you dump him. Cause someone who doesn't even want to tend your wounds but causing them to reopen and maybe infect isn't someone to love.

ivy176 · 2020-03-26T04:47:30+00:00

Meredeen · 2020-03-26T03:18:19+00:00

Ohhh honey...

Chancedizzle · 2020-03-26T12:26:49+00:00

Nurture should come naturally if you love someone.

2020-03-26T14:32:53+00:00

u/throwawaythatSpider THIS IS NOT NORMAL BEHAVIOR! You are being abused! Please reach out to someone and I am sure any girls nearby will be glad to help!

saydeesalt · 2020-03-26T04:23:46+00:00

🤯🤯🤯🤯 I cant 😳 people like this exist

pliesandroses · 2020-03-26T14:28:19+00:00

This is torture and abuse, and I'm betting like most abusers, he slowly escalated so she didn't notice, and then as soon as she needed him for medical care, his escalation sped up

2020-03-26T15:18:47+00:00

This actually upset me. I cannot ever imagine doing this to my partner. I have no words

hoodyhoofo · 2020-03-26T18:39:29+00:00

She "can't for sure say he's trying to hurt her" Jesus take the wheel.....

2020-03-26T22:13:44+00:00

She could maybe contact the facility or doctor who helped treat her. They might be able to give her advice or connect her to a social worker who can help her.

rainfal · 2020-03-27T04:45:48+00:00

Uhh. Someone needs to send her a copy of "Why does he do that?".

Bitchkittenzz · 2020-03-28T09:05:06+00:00

How do we report this!? My heart breaks for her.

9penguin · 2020-03-29T22:07:27+00:00

Whenever a man hurts someone it's always intentional. Always. There's no exceptions.

Title	This is horrible!!! let's try to help her!
Author	mymotherisakaren
Upvotes	248
Comments	58
Date	March 26, 2020 1:12 AM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/fp2eai/this_is_horrible_lets_try_to_help_her/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/this-is-horrible-lets-try-to-help-her.679571 https://theredarchive.com/post/679571

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