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I like that, actually I’ve always thought to myself that a woman can have an n-count of like 2 or 3 or whatever, and could still theoretically be absolutely dogwalking her boyfriend in terms of disrespect and flirting with other dudes Though n count can be a predictor of those things it’s far from telling a full story. Like what’s a 5, anyway? Five girlfriends? Five hookups? Two situationships, two LTRs, and a hookup?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 11:32 AM
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Q4W: at what point would you consider a man higher-n, or someone who “gets around”? Not even in a negative sense, but just what would make you say “that’s a high number” (Feel free to adjust for age or circumstance should it feel warranted)
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 01:11 PM
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Definitely not
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 01:10 PM
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You know? It’s funny that I was literally just thinking about this and was like “maybe it just *is* shallow, and that’s maybe that’s just not an inherently bad thing
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 02:12 AM
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MOSTLY terminally online people, in your defense Albeit sometimes irl I do notice pushback against standards, especially ones held for women
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 02:03 AM
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It’s funny because the majority of girls I’ve been with have been blonde or redheaded, but both this girl and that coworker got the “alt-leaning white girl with dark features” category Which I’m a pretty big fan of, probably even moreso
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/26 05:43 PM
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So I was messing with this girl the other day, right? Well somehow I’m just now realizing how much she looks and sounds like this coworker I had a couple years ago, that I had quite a thing for. It was so bad the entire restaurant could tell I had a thing for her I guess life finds a way sometimes (It could be more of the phenotype than actual facial resemblance though, idk)
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/26 01:21 PM
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This reminds me of that post I saw a while back where it said something like how the slim pretty waitress? Her recommendation isn’t what I want, like nah, what does the fat dude washing dishes in the back recommend? Even being on the leaner side myself, that’s a pretty smart way of going about it if you ask me
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/26 01:17 PM
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Interesting take, not one that I fully disagree with. But I’ve noticed there are two different subsets of biases here Leftists are often the ones biased in favor of women, claiming or soft-claiming that it’s crazy to prefer women with certain standards of self-care and claiming that “big is beautiful” (though this *seems* less common now), and acting as though preferring women of high beauty standard is immoral More people who are conservative or seemingly conservative leaning are the ones who s…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/26 10:09 PM
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You get it. I agree with all this, pretty much Like when I see “I like tall men because short men always have a complex” or “I like (physical trait) because they have/lack (non-physical trait)” Like just don’t even put the performance on, all that moralizing just so some people don’t get their panties in a bunch. (Ironically often sounding even worse in the process). And just reinforcing the idea that preferences are to be justified I do think at a baseline people aren’t the biggest fan of when …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/26 09:50 PM
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I used to agree with “No one’s shaming you for your preference! You’re just being an asshole about it!” While in many cases people can understand looks preferences, I have heard a sizable amount of people trying to moralize about it and trying to lowkey shame others for it. Even if not aimed at anyone specifically, I’ve heard it out of nowhere before, disapproving the “only if you’re an asshole” notion. The notion women who like tall guys are promiscuous, or that men who like slim women are pedo…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/26 05:23 PM
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I can agree with your mindset, seeing it definitely works better for some people that way. (Who know, I might be underestimating how easily people get attached afterward) >Since when have women found losers attractive? This is often said performatively, to be fair, and in some cases done if the woman wants perceived control
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 10:52 PM
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You know, I can’t get mad at promiscuous women because when you think about it, both genders really are just incentivized to get more experience than not. (I mean also, they’ve been nothing but good to me, so…) This is inspired by seeing women say they want a low-n/virgin guy who’s a borderline loser, and it got me thinking about how it goes both ways Since when you remove the moralizing aspect from “you should wait to have sex”, then it becomes clear having more experience you understand dynami…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 11:35 AM
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That’s completely believable What guys don’t even realize, (or at least the ones who argue in favor of the looksmaxxing without much thought or masculinity) is this. If you just show up and look pretty it’s a good advantage to have But does not mean you’ll be treated the way you’re probably desiring and oftentimes puts you in position to be basically treated like someone’s bitch
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 10:15 PM
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>Men need to have a mission Fully agree. Luckily ADHD makes it that I cannot become an unproductive bum. I get far too restless and impatient. Hell, I barely even enjoy having days off sometimes. I’ve definitely become hyper (pun intended) aware of just how much the brain shifts toward needing validation once it’s given nothing else >Very cringe Mannn, tell me about it! And what scares me it wasn’t even that long ago for me! They can say “Be a man!” Is “toxic masculinity” or whatever the fuck, b…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 10:12 PM
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Interesting set of circumstances that I actually can’t even blame you for coming to the conclusion that you have, I’ll say. With that in mind, being aware becoming prettier probably is your best option, is pretty wise tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 09:31 PM
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I can kind of agree. Because honestly it just depends which direction “looksmaxxing” takes you in and it looks a *little* different for everyone So I do get what you’re pointing to. Because on *some* level it’s always gonna be a *little* performative at least, depending which route you take > make me pretty enough that I don’t have to pretend to be a man You got this, brother. Albeit I’m curious? Would you consider yourself in-touch with your feminine side? Or just masculine in a more reserved s…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 09:12 PM
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I agree with pretty much everything you just said > provokes a different karmic response They aren’t gonna like that one because it’s not empirically falsifiable, but I’ve had my thoughts that this does matter The body sends so many microsignals per second and small tells give *everything* away on a nervous system level. Not 100% infallible, but I’m convinced that needing validation from them is such a visceral disgust for women, and hiding your need for validation is a *hard* thing to do Everyt…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 03:10 PM
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6’4 and 240! Must be nice! > I’d rather have a woman complaint about my rough hands catching on her lady underwear than not getting women at all because I looked like a wimp Big facts there. When I see guys unironically talking about some “not getting too big” and “ideal ratios” it’s like I *see what you mean* but I’d genuinely rather have my lady complaining about me being too big or too dedicated the gym than complaining I’m not big enough for her; it’s really not even a hard choice (not that …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 03:01 PM
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Exactly what I noticed. Masculine-looking (and acting) men tend to have *better* options as well as more in general I’m by no means a naturally huge guy. I’m 5’8 and like 170 something. I’m not crazy rugged either, as I’ve long hair and a mix of soft/strong facial features But still things have gotten noticeably better as I’ve become considerably muscularly larger, huskier, and more masculine-looking over the last couple years. Difference is impossible not to notice.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 01:37 PM
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I’m still convinced being masculine and strong-looking is the best thing you can do for your dating life if you’re average or slightly above Now if you’re cooked, you’re just cooked, so I’m not saying this is get-out-of-jail-free card if you’re a nightcrawler. This isn’t about you guys It’s ironic given my username, but I really do think looksmaxxing prettyboys *can only do so well* (and a lot of them just become good-looking losers) But meanwhile short and normal-looking blue collar dudes be pu…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 01:12 PM
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While I don’t have a girlfriend or anything, I can safely say I know enough about being in kitchens to know this is 100% overrated Like nah, there’s nothing romantic about this; MOVE out the way!
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/26 08:46 PM
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You know, being someone with some severe ADHD (like “you could tell within the first minute of meeting me” severe), I can say that I completely understand refusing to date ADHD people Not saying I personally refuse to date other ADHD people (in fact that would MASSIVELY shrink my pool), but I’m saying I get it There’s just a whole different world
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/26 01:32 PM
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Have people been calling it misogynistic for real? Because if so then I would agree that’s dumb
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/26 01:02 PM
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I feel I’ve become more like Patrick Jokes aside, Squidward had many of the best jokes in the series because now they just hit like *damn* “We do this for forty years and then we die.” takes on a whole new meaning once you first start working
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/26 04:45 PM
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You know as funny as I think SpongeBob is, I most definitely understand parents not letting their kids watch it As a matter of fact, when it comes to extremely high-stimulation cartoons like that I understand in a general sense. Sure fast-paced humor isn’t a *bad* thing and sound effects can be funny, but what happened to the low-stim cartoons that trust in a child’s ability to follow a plot and to observe the moment without needing constant sound cues and music? I’m debating on whether my (hypo…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/26 02:23 PM
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Now that’s tricky because it jeopardizes the health a little more but I mean, the mindset being “my partner likes x, so living like that isn’t bad” definitely isn’t as lowkey disrespectful as the alternative
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/26 02:43 AM
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Agreed. This is where I’ve found myself and I can’t picture life without it
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/26 01:06 AM
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I know life gets in the way so not everyone has it in them to be a gym-obsessed fitness freak like me, or to be constantly appearance-focused but this is more about mindset If you fall into the mindset of “Oh I got the girlfriend/boyfriend/the spouse so I don’t have to care about looking good and can let myself go.” Then that’s lowkey disrespectful to your partner imo. When I see women and men out there talking about how a big part in their motivation to stay active is because they’ve got a hot …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/26 07:12 PM
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Less Hotter than me is pretty damn hot, so that’ll be pretty fun
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/26 07:07 PM
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It does feel a bit like it Albeit I’ve become quite used to feeling like a bit of a show-off My justification comes into play with “I didn’t build a physique and continue to working at it so I can keep it a secret” z
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 02:49 AM
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Yeah, well more like for me specifically. I tho my hat particular style looks good on me Albeit I could be biased because streetwear styles and baggier clothing aren’t something I’m a fan of wearing usually
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 02:35 AM
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In spite of my phenotype, I must say, boots with blue jeans and a cutoff shirt is one of my absolutely most overpowered looks Or maybe I’m biased idk
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 12:08 AM
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You *want* a heatwave? That’s a new one
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 01:27 PM
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I can relate My boss literally forbade me from coming into the building today because she’s saying I need rest, but knowing me I’m still gonna try to see if I can get in there today and work on our rig It’s especially tricky when you *don’t* have any chores left so now you’re like “WELL…”
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/26 05:53 PM
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It’s funny when I hear “you don’t have to do XYZ to date!” It’s like well no, they don’t. But one thing no one’s saying is yeah, they kind of DO have to do xyz for their specific target audience. Whether the feel-good advice is aimed toward a guy or a girl? It doesn’t matter Someone posted another thread (I forgot what user but if I recall I’ll shout out) but I agree with the notion that the guys and girls with options are *not* open-minded with partner selection. And considering most people wan…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/26 04:48 PM
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Yes It wasn’t conceived with that in mind but a lot of people do allude to that!
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/26 04:13 PM
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Oh yeah, man! And next year there’s still that opportunity to win World Champion
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 03:16 PM
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With World Ninja League Championships being over (well technically the event hasn’t concluded but my team doesn’t have anyone still remaining), I can proudly say that I’m pretty disappointed in myself while also being pretty happy with myself Because World Champion was definitely possible and I’m definitely a top 10 athlete in my division, but the execution was just not there for several reasons Next goal is to try and get on American Ninja Warrior regardless
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 10:58 AM
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Ain’t this the funniest thing? I mi was literally just talking on my story on Insta about how it’s never the jacked guys talkin about how muscular women aren’t attractive
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/26 09:44 PM
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So in other words, peak female physique (I mean I’m biased toward muscular women heavily, so)
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/26 08:17 PM
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I feel that. Interestingly enough I have strong legs and big glutes myself My wingspan being 6’3 means my arms were *noodly* before I packed significant muscle into them
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/26 06:22 PM
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Random question for y’all: How would you describe your own build? Though my legs and arms are on that longer side, my torso is quite compressed giving me that appearance where I’m kinda short and stocky…but not really? Anyhow what about you guys?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/26 05:50 PM
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This got a visible eyebrow raise out of me Well done
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/26 05:36 PM
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I hate how that’s *wild* but I genuinely can’t blame you, either
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/26 02:13 AM
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That’s what I’m saying I once was told lifting to get stronger was an empty goal akin to a dog chasing its own tail Literally anything in life is like that when you break it down….(technically anything outside of getting money that you intend to use for a purpose is like that)
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 02:07 AM
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I actually do have a little bit of respect for this Because this argument is pretty much “I don’t wanna” Which again, is actually *more* respectable in my eyes than the mentioned alternative
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 01:39 AM
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Probably true Which I still don’t get. Maybe it’s just me not liking baggy clothing, not sure
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 01:32 AM
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Decided to double down and talk about the gym again Another random take. I’ve seen this a few times (luckily not super common), but I must say when people try to make these intellectual arguments against lifting or try to philosophize that it’s a waste of time or a trivial pursuit of some sorts, I cringe so hard Literally just “I don’t wanna” is a better argument than trying this subtle superiority act (Which is funny when they try this while they’re getting mogged by the software engineer in th…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 01:31 AM
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Maybe I just wouldn’t know because I’m fairly short Also not huge (or at least not from what I think; who knows how skewed my own perspective is) but visibly filled out and strong I mean, how scared can they be before it can’t be neutralized and eased? (I mean I’m not *scary* per se but there are….other things that might cause some to give me the internal side eye)
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 12:35 AM
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That’s pretty valid especially depending how lean you wanna be
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 12:32 AM
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My gym people will know, and this is a random take Maybe this is ego talking but i think “sleeper build” is such a load of c*pe (we still can’t say that word, right?) In most cases, that just….means you’re still small. Maybe it means you’re lean but you’re likely still small at that point And maybe this is just an mindset difference because I say there’s literally no drawbacks to being both strong *and* visibly registrable as strong. So I don’t get “sleeper build”. To me it doesn’t mean much mea…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 11:42 PM
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Yeah I’d say similar sentiment When I say people have always loved me, that was also supposed to be in air quotes. By that I mean they’ve enjoyed having me around BUT again to the point you’re making, it’s funny how much that seemingly increases whenever I became more contextually competent, or seeming like it Agree with your point about allied. I’m glad that was one thing I realized pretty early on in life I’d one of the best things you possibly could have Even in the gym focusing on looks, I’d…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 09:57 AM
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Yeah that’s interesting you say this because I’ve always agreed but never really said it here In my own example I can say people have always loved me but people “love” me a lot more whenever I’m competent within that specific context. And then this applies to other life aspects as well You can hardly ever go wrong with becoming more masculine Interestingly. I also wanna ask you about this too. On this subject, would you say that the much larger focus young men have on looks today is feminine-lev…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 01:26 AM
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Had something similar happen at the last competition I was coaching at. I noticed the flirting off rip Yep, that girl was uh…not in my appropriate age bracket Even my colleagues said they thought she was about my age
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 01:19 AM
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What in the reptilian
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 01:14 AM
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Isn’t that the truth? I’m 23 I know a few people younger than me who are married and get some who’ve never touched a girl in their life My dad had already had a child by this point Crazy stuff
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 01:13 AM
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It just dawned on me that I have exactly two weeks now to get ready for the World Ninja League championship Goal is to be full-blown World Champion this time but this year is gonna be HARD to win, probably hardest it’s ever been
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My main job drops down to three days during this summer it looks like (some weeks an exception), so I’m genuinely gonna have to find a second job I actually get paid the same amount because salary is nice, but I can’t deal with having four days off per week. I’ll get entirely too restless
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This is probably a result of ADHD. I’m otherwise consider myself empathetic and don’t just step on toes to get my way (usually) <image>
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 03:54 PM
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True that checks out Then again I don’t know that my sport is objectively that much safer anyhow
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/26 01:02 AM
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I haven’t seen Jike Sulvowski in so long One of my favorite reaction style pics still
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/26 12:57 AM
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Even being athletic myself, snow sports kinda scare me
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/26 12:56 AM
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Yeah that checks out for most genuinely athletic sports
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/26 03:25 AM
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Right? I always feel just a tad regretful when I realize I don’t actually know what my athletic peak would’ve looked like because I decided to start doing sports as an adult
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/26 02:57 AM
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Oh which sport was that for you? I get pretty lucky in that I do enjoy this sport for its own sake, gaining new skills is fun, etc. and also I do have one thing in that I CAN win comps within the Adult Male division. I very much could technically have a shot at World Champion title But that’s because Adult Male isn’t actually hard. I’ll never be able to defeat the Elite Males or come out on top there Still wanna get on American Ninja Warrior though
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/26 02:25 AM
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So I joke about being old all the time despite being only in my early-mid 20s but I realized when it comes to Ninja, my main sport, that I am in fact old and washed up Only been in it about three years now but starting when I was 20 instead of when I was much younger has made me realize I fundamentally missed that window. Don’t get me wrong I’m damn good at it but will absolutely never be an elite-level competitor There’s just something physiologically different when you’re 13-19 (ish) that make…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/26 01:38 AM
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Yeah facts. Like whenever I would miss my shots, sometimes I’d think “am I aiming out of my league?” The answer has oftentimes been yes, but not because the girl in question was too hot, but rather she was not in the same echelon laterally speaking Meanwhile when I’ve had cuter girls into me they almost always are within the “echelon” that makes sense
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 06:39 PM
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You know, I think one thing that defeats all, is your general social echelon, moreso than how you look Don’t get me wrong, the latter is very important, but I can say I genuinely don’t ever witness people really date outside their social echelon (granted how you look usually IS tied into that pretty closely) But that’s just how it is You belong in a certain social sphere or world; everyone does. If you don’t understand your place within that pecking order, you’re cooked (not “belong” as in you’r…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 05:49 PM
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You know I’m glad you say this because I’ve always had a theory that yeah men get “alpha-widowed” too but in a different way The bar can and does get set ridiculously high if you’ve been in that circumstance before
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 05:27 PM
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I agree I mean I’ve heard “golden retriever boy” used to describe guys who do have some simp tendencies Granted that descriptor doesn’t only mean they’re a simp, but usually has the implication
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 05:06 PM
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I both love and hate how my algorithm knows how much I love muscular women. It’s funny that the “toned” woman who do cardio or Pilates is what people say they want. But they don’t realize you need muscle in the first place it even look toned… So I’m just saying. Girls who lift heavy win any day Rant over
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/26 12:34 AM
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Upper body strength relative to bodyweight. Most notably in pulling strength Most of the stuff I do as a ninja is also stuff the average person isn’t anywhere near strong enough to do but that’s so much harder to quantify so eh D’oh well at least I got something kinda cool
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/26 02:13 AM
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Man you’re spitting facts here Went through a “damn, I liked her for real” situation But it was like nah, not really, she was just the first promising talking stage after months of me deciding to be inactive (and was also the only girl I was talking to at that time- another mistake!) I always wanna tell people if you ever catch yourself thinking “I’ll never meet someone like her”, then it’s like you’re right….you can meet someone better (As in better for you; actual love in the sense that you sa…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/26 03:30 PM
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Yeah I actually just replied to something similar like technically, being resourceful and proving actual ability would be the real thing IQ? The more I thought of it the more I was like “yeah nah”
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/26 11:25 PM
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Yep, that’s my point. It’s so much easier that I believe it genuinely doesn’t require anything truly special or exceptional Hell, for relationships I’d even argue looks might become more important depending on the person (for sake of being the socially cooler option)
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/26 07:11 PM
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Which is funny My anecdotes don’t *prove* anything for sure but no matter at what level I’ve been, I’ve pretty much always seen it as easier to get hookups than it is to get into a relationship since I’ve been active in the dating world (multiple factors play into this so it’s not so cut and dry, but yeah)
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/26 05:30 PM
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That’s interesting and makes a very good point actually
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/26 03:39 PM
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Nah I thought about it and I was like Yeah in the past you needed to be more resourceful and somewhat smart and good with your hands But not necessarily be “smart” as we’d say with our modern definitions of it Upper body strength being one of the biggest predictors? Checks out. Didn’t know how much it checked out but I’m willing to believe it. (In fairness it’s been the single biggest difference that’s been made in my own dating life)
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/26 03:15 PM
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You know I used to think “natural selection, natural selection” until I realized that yes there are natural preferences for things But like, if it were truly all on survival, then high IQ would be considerably more attractive And upper body strength, while playing a decent role already, would have an even greater role
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/26 12:57 PM
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Agreed. Either you’re noticed and chosen or you’re just….not Nothing wrong with putting oneself out there; trying to impress though? Like c’mon
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/26 01:40 AM
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You know, from when I was a kid all the way up until now, one thing I’m glad I never did fall for was the idea of trying to “impress” girls At least I’ve always, since my single digit days, thought it was performative as hell and a waste of time People talk about “jestermaxxing” and I don’t always agree with it, but this is something I *would* consider being a jester. I say there’s nothing wrong with it if day, you’re just doing your thing and women are impressed. Otherwise, pretty stupid to me
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/26 12:41 AM
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Somethin like a month ago? Idk
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/26 04:07 PM
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Perhaps one of the most underrated aspects of a fight In a fight there’s some pretty dire consequences to feeling overwhelmed, or exhausted. And then context matters Like is the guy a confident aggressor who decided to attack a group of women? Or are they the ones jumping him? How angry are those involved in the fight? All being important factors
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/26 03:45 PM
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You know, hypothetical fight scenarios are one of my absolute favorite things to talk about That’s one thing that always changes the equation by…a lot. Numbers advantage is *hard* to beat for almost anyone. Every additional opponent increases the difficulty of “winning” that encounter *exponentially*, not linearly as people erroneously assume (and as you correctly point out in your comment here) I’m trained (though it’s been a while) and also considered very strong physically; even I wouldn’t wa…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/26 02:58 PM
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It’s got its own things where if you don’t get it under control it hurts more than it helps, but it does have a lot of good to lean into
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/26 02:32 AM
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I mean. Yeah? No? You go out and do more stuff? You talk to more girls? You’re a good time to be around? Yeah, I think that adds up to more overall results Don’t get me confused though. If you’re not even handsome enough at a baseline then you’re just choosing which thing you’d rather be rejected for
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/26 03:08 PM
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That’s just you making a bunch of assumptions that the person in question can’t ever lock in at all or like the person wouldn’t be aware of this and thus work on their deficiencies in the highlighted areas I didn’t say sex was all that matters, but that’s first barrier Geez, a whole essay written off assumptions > you got to jester for women’s validation a little Y’all and this “jester” thing. If you’re just you, and that’s on display when you talk to people, then is that really jestering? Or ju…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/26 03:02 PM
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It’s like this post was MADE for me If I lean into it wisely, it definitely gets me more girls than suppressing it or trying not to be does (Granted not if I’m so silly so as to be icky) I think it has to do with how if you lean into it, you’re more likely to just talk to anyone, you also can come off as more high-energy and fun/positive. The stoicism guys can say what they want, but being fun to be around gets you more shots at being laid.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/26 01:54 PM
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Anyone else heard of/watch that Hec Speaks guy on YouTube? I clicked on one of his dating videos thinking “alright what is bro yapping about” I didn’t regret it; that man is *funny* Better yet he’s funny in a way that seems so genuine Idk maybe I only say that because now that everyone’s got a platform the amount of truly unfunny people has multiplied
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/26 12:06 PM
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I’ve been saying this. The body sends of so many microsignals every second and every minute and we can’t even always consciously tell what we’re perceiving when it comes to this And it definitely makes dating a bit different
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/26 01:51 PM
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Not entirely wrong. I actually say one reason a lot of the “RedPill truths” or whatever the fuck didn’t cause me too much rage or anything was because a lot of it is general human nature shit and I’ve sorta always had the idea in my head that people kinda suck The way I act now in dating is honestly the way I think most would given my circumstances
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/26 07:18 PM
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Nothing awful. Mostly just noncommittal behavior (not cheating, but like early stage wish washy stuff), being unsure about what I’m even doing, stringing people along without even meaning to, occasional bouts of lying and being a general tool. Just a lot of the annoyances people talk about in modern dating (there’s others I missed but that’s what I can remember) Honestly, my main qualm with these dating apps is exactly this. Becomes hard to remember that your behaviors do have an actual impact o…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/26 07:08 PM
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You know, I just took a long look in the mirror and realized I AM everything wrong with modern dating A lot of the common complaints I realize I’ve been guilty of or continue to be guilty of
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/26 06:13 PM
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I don’t think you can really “know” these things from just consuming content and that’s my point Not saying someone who gives up is hurting me, just that I don’t believe that’s a good thing This can honestly be more applied to internet culture as a whole than just the pills specifically
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/26 01:47 AM
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Yeah I agree with you on that I just don’t think it’s great stuff to consume before you can even determine what of it applies to you Especially fort eh men who are a little more socially inept or logic-minded
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/26 01:44 AM
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No, I’m specifically referring to situations where this does happen, but not claiming all men who gave up are like this I even say in my post that honestly if the conclusion you’ve drawn from experience is that you’re better off not trying that’s more valid than drawing an early conclusion because of the stuff you’ve seen online Because it can and does happen that if you’re less experienced and are hearing that kind of thing early, your perception ends up warped Because notice i never disagreed …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/26 04:20 PM
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Exactly The more experienced I’ve gotten at dating the more I understand ghosting and soft blocking
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/26 04:17 PM
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You know I realized my problems with the red and black pills isn’t that they’re wholly wrong It’s that they’re worded poorly they “catch” people too early. You have guys hearing this shit about dating before they’ve even come to form their own conclusions. No chance to even build any type of positive (or even realistic) feedback loop. Guy who dates around and understands that shit happens (ghosting, they choose someone else, there’s just no connection, etc.) has a way better time mentally than a…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/26 01:40 PM
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You know? I think I can agree with this take. This is one of those “you can’t please everybody” type of things so honestly I get it Like when you’ve been in that situation where “damn, I don’t wanna have to tell this person to fuck off because that just seems extra mean.” it makes sense real quick (doubly so if the person might have an outburst over it)
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/26 01:12 PM
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It makes sense. I’m in the gym 4/5 times a week and am visibly muscular I still don’t care to talk about lifting for too long (conversations about general fitness and athletics get me going more though) Even with that I didn’t expect it to be such a positive point/ point of interest Also you’re correct in what you think you see; it’s so much fun. Competing in this sport was the thing I never knew I needed in my life
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/26 12:25 AM
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I was talking about Hinge the other day and two other things I noticed about it -this is the most unserious dating profile I’ve ever made and gets the most results (the PFP is probably doing some heavy lifting) -the fact that I do Ninja (the sport that’s like the tv show American Ninja warrior) has been a surprisingly great assist when it comes to these convos; I didn’t expect it to be that good of a convo starter
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/26 12:04 AM
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I Don’t hate Hinge; it gets me the most actual quality results (and recently more results overall) But what is it about Hinge that draws the most unoriginal people on the whole planet? Related note: is it valid to swipe left on someone who’s attractive because they just…seem like they’d be annoying?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/26 11:52 PM
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Oh yeah I only tell them when it’s a talking stage that seems like it might be pretty decent And for my homie I tell him sometimes if it’s a girl I just plan on uh…well playing hide the plantain with
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/26 09:28 AM
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What’s funny is like for me it’s like when people ask I sometimes can’t tell the full story Like to some people I can basically tell them oh yeah no relationship but I mess around with girls sometimes, other people I can’t tell them this directly because it’s more info than they need
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/26 09:18 AM
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Anyone else have people ask about or mention their relationship status (lack thereof I suppose) like a lot? Gets to a point for me where I wonder what’s up with it. In my circles it’s like someone mentions it every day in some form Some of my circle is quite invested in the plot
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/26 01:21 AM
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I thought about doing one again for the folk who hadn’t seen but it’s just not the trend it used to be and also…stalkers
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/26 09:24 PM
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I can believe this Stem nerds and being unable to talk to women seems to go together well
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/26 09:23 PM
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You know I don’t think we’ve interacted much but I quite like you I tell people I myself have improved a lot over time and I get excuses too And I’m like nah, if that stuff didn’t matter there’s be no difference in results pre and post gym Or no difference when I use game vs going complete sperg Signed off as a fella with some severe adhd here
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/26 12:58 PM
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Oh yeah It’s like putting something in the fridge to get it all cold and then coming back after forgetting you’d put it there Or something like that
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/26 03:01 AM
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Mine isn’t a mirror gym one but is definitely a pretty good gym pic. Another thing? I have a very firm look on my face, not a smile like some women say you should I feel you exactly on this, at a certain point it’s like bro
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/26 10:19 AM
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I be saying, the picture that has had the absolute biggest return for me on dating apps is one of me casually flexing in my gym’s locker room
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/26 12:29 PM
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I’m gonna go on a random rant but does anyone else think we seem to as a whole seem to put humor and being funny on a pedestal more than we should? Like I don’t know what it is but it seems like we have far more people who are unfunny, trying hard to be funny, than we do actual funny people I say this as a person who laughs way too easily and laughs probably more than anyone I know, but still Like some people people just need to know and accept they’re not funny and be okay with it (side note: p…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/26 05:05 PM
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That’s gotta be disappointing I remember i once knew two chicks with similar usernames and for a second I thought I had my shot with a hottie Wasn’t her; just a friend (without benefits) Just like you, this was also late enough into the night that I was sorta halfway here halfway not Sheer disappointment; almost as bad as waking up to find out you missed that “Wyd” text at 12:67 AM
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/26 01:42 PM
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Hedonism has taken precedence over morals nowadays I mean this always happened but now it’s just more visible and accepted
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/26 01:34 PM
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Delusional as I’d like? Taller side, gym baddie type with that huge, muscularly defined butt with great upper body and small to medium boobs Hair color doesn’t really matter too much; I do have a pretty apparent preference for white girls but this isn’t nearly as important as general prettiness and the physique I do tend to like my women slightly more muscular than many guys would otherwise
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/26 01:28 PM
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Love this take I always have believed something like this. Never shrink yourself. You are the main character of your own series; so embody that I actually say acting like the main character is honestly not a bad thing up until you start making it other people’s problem
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/26 02:34 AM
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When I think of the fact that this happened I’m never not laughing from the sheer amount of what-the-fuck And what gets me is the part where he was still thrusting on rhythm and she immediately recognized it And that makes me think of which beat pattern he was even- y’know what nevermind
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/26 02:04 AM
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I’ve always thought this No not everyone has a great fulfilling sex life where they can immediately call anyone up and have fulfilling sex But most people are having sex to some degree
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/26 01:43 AM
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Being in calorie deficits has both its drawbacks and things that aren’t too bad But it’s okay because in summer I should be thicker, harder, veinier Wait a minute….
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/26 05:39 PM
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Same. Even if I didn’t go to sleep early enough to justify this I often get jolted awake around this time 5 is more normal and 6 is at the latest
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/26 01:25 PM
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I can somewhat agree. It’s a trick that works pretty damn effectively even if not the only way (I mean me personally I view it as necessary but not just to “get” women in that initial phase; I say it goes beyond) All about maxing those features. I figure I’m someone who can add a LOT of muscle to my frame before it becomes off-putting and I probably won’t reach that without ‘roids
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/26 01:35 PM
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I won’t disagree with that I’ve really aged into my face; I wasn’t quite as good looking up until recently I mean i was pretty alright from 19-21-ish but not to that level And that’s coincidentally when I was sorta starting to get more serious in the gym so it’s hard to fully tell and separate (but I won’t deny that it plays probably a big role)
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/26 12:39 PM
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Sitting at 5’8; not particularly tall (and my Wingspan is 6’3 so I didn’t even get the short benefit there, which is the funniest cosmic joke
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/26 04:05 AM
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One thing no one told me is a strange thing that happens as you get physically bigger from muscle is that like I don’t know how to explain it but even though I’ve not gotten any taller or anything (so the POV is literally the same) it’s like other people become…smaller overall I guess? I can never meet the “gym doesn’t matter” crowd because it’s the thing that’s had the single biggest impact on the volume of attention received and perceived attractiveness for me
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/26 03:17 AM
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Steak, and my lunch had ground beef in it technically (okay so it was tacos)
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/26 02:01 AM
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Tell myself that this too shall pass even if it really hurts at the moment Either that or instantly get on with trying to find the next, yknow what I’m sayin’?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/26 10:11 PM
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Forget gay son or thot daughter My question is this Q4A: Unathletic son or ditzy daughter? (If you have any questions about what either entails, feel free to ask)
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/26 06:50 PM
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Now that you’re right about. People are pretty shit at defining their own actual standards
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/26 11:33 AM
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I suppose Performatively so, I believe, but that’s just my guess
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/26 11:32 AM
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Two random takes: A dating standard and a dating preference are not the same thing. (Some people seem to get up in arms about preferences; and let’s be real they’re only mad because it excludes them) Another take, one directed at more inexperienced men is that any standard you may think you have for women, or some “I would never act like this” mindset, is all just theory and conjecture until you’ve actually turned down an opportunity for sex
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/26 03:18 AM
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Hey nice. I had some shit on a bit earlier too Fairly simple polo that’s some shade of purple with some black pants and my boots, with my now signature cross necklace
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/26 03:04 AM
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Now I’m still on the app right now but not as involved with it for reasons. But what is it about Hinge that it seems to attract the same few copy-paste jokes and prompts? Like why? Is it something about the format or internal culture that brings in people who did not develop a real sense of humor? Or developed that sense of humor that’s just not quite there? But nah seriously you see the same few people run through a 3D copier repeatedly there, at least at first
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/26 07:17 PM
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I like “typesexual” and think it’s pretty on-the-nose If it’s not a certain look it’s certain behaviors and personality types; I’m pretty convinced it’s on a subconscious level down to the nervous system. Same goes for guys but I think men are both wired at a primal level less likely and consciously less likely to stick to a certain type
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/26 03:06 AM
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To be honest the moment bro died in jail, I was all in with the crowd of “Epstein didn’t kill himself.” Like I’ve always thought there was just no possible way And also since he died I’ve always thought this when it comes to conspiracies “Yeah some of these things are just loony talk, but not all of these theories are wrong.” I always had that suspicion sooner or later that were going to see something come to light
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/26 01:19 PM
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If only I don’t cook nearly as much as I ought to, but when I do I stick to what I’m good at (mostly different forms of meat; my chicken isn’t that great though) I make some good white ppl tacos though
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/26 11:20 PM
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Oh yeah absolutely. This probably goes down after some time (if I’m not too late!). I’m about 5’8-5’9
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/26 11:55 AM
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Oh yes for a good while now for me, girls who lift are basically the only ones I can entertain on a serious level now I talked about this on my story the other day where I more or less say that being a cardio bunny woman is propaganda, and muscular women for the win
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/26 12:13 AM
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Right? Everyone’s that until proven otherwise Hey, thanks man! I try y’know?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/26 12:09 AM
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Sometimes
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 11:59 PM
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So I had ChatGPT do that whole “generate a girl you think suits me” thing for fun I like it; ChatGPT kind of cooked with this one <image>
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 11:48 PM
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I actually love bouncing ideas and thoughts back and forth off ChatGPT, in a similar vein. It can reallly help contextualize things Some people say it over glazed and over affirms but the way I use it hasn’t been as such (but I agree you have to know how to use it)
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/26 11:47 PM
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Agreed 100% I always say as someone who is good looking that being so to a level where you can bypass social skills and needing to understand things is incredibly rare Even if a woman is throwing herself at you, you’ve gotta be able to see that and respond accordingly
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/26 02:22 AM
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Reaching that point where I’m actually pretty damn happy with my looks and appearance overall I mean don’t get me wrong I’ve still more plans to improve (but that’s just from being the type of person I am; not because “gotta looksmaxx”) but if you told me I’d reached my final ceiling, I wouldn’t be mad about it Idk, maybe I’m just a cocky bastard
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/26 01:23 AM
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You inspired me to do the same Don’t know what kind of prompt you used because mine more or less sort of seemed to use my picture as the base template for making this more or less (Okay I swear I had the pic and it disappeared)
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 02:27 AM
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I kind of wonder, is keeping the general spark alive what keeps the level of nerves/butterflies high?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 02:02 AM
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I’ve always thought this to some degree. Still getting that slight nervous feeling even years in the future sounds kind of peak though
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/26 12:33 AM
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I’m lowkey annoyed because I was sick this week and kinda had to hold off training (traps get super hurt when I’m inflamed enough) Now my energy is coming back and I’m clearing up And by the time I’ll be basically completely ready, I’ve got Wait even longer I’m hoping I don’t lose power though because that’ll be REALLY annoying at that point
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/26 04:04 AM
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I’ve been saying this shit in here and it shouldn’t even be up for debate. The spontaneous fuckin’ usually happens as a result of parties and whatnot Part of the reason hookup material guys are that, is because they have characteristics that put them into places where hookups happen Another thing people underestimate is how it’s quite often people having sex with people they already knew in some capacity. It’s why you probably wanna have that social life on lock
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 04:55 PM
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You know I’m thinking maybe one day I should get my diet together and try to compete in Men’s Physique Even if just for fun and to say I’ve done it (Side note, qualified for Ninja’s world championships again let’s go baby)
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/26 01:36 PM
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I both love and hate being an easy laugh-er I think I’ve never met a person who laughs as easily as I do and it makes me look mildly insane Then again it’s a huge positive for overall quality of life.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/26 05:54 PM
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I actually have a similar build to that with my torso being far too compressed and short otherwise
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/26 05:52 PM
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This is frying me more than it should
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/26 02:00 PM
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I used to have nightmares every night Strangely enough I had to sort of just…not think about it too much But two advantages I had there is that my nightmares weren’t awful, just kinda bad, and also I was (and still am) so physically tired at the ends of the days that I didn’t have a choice really
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/26 01:59 PM
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Same, I walk at quite a fast pace
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/26 10:05 AM
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Anybody else have those things in life where they become so habituated to them that they just forget that it’s not necessarily common? I swear I’m constantly overestimating the average person’s strength and level of athleticism for this exact reason (I’m a coach and athlete myself so it’s what I’m around) And also I don’t think this is about habituation but I swear I’m also always overestimating to what degree the average person actually thinks about why or how they do things they do
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/26 02:48 AM
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I agree with you on this That was my first thought. I mean sure it does happen sometimes but I promise you girls who were like that aren’t checking for you, unless you’re unusually good at coming off like a guy who gets laid And especially when it’s said in such a generalized way, like men as a whole don’t get laid and then the evil women are hunting them down to use them. (And they’d be surprised at how it’s not just women who are sometimes picking partners who they aren’t all that into)
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/26 03:29 PM
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I don’t smoke weed anymore but that honestly sounds pretty peak
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/26 03:00 PM
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While I’m a “carbs are the body’s fuel” kind of guy, I also must say that I sometimes be thinking I should add “is a girl who eats actual sources of protein” to the requirements list
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/26 02:49 AM
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I’m largely with you and I think this even feeds into it I won’t really notice much about a random couple in public unless they’re mismatched enough that it’s truly noticeable Which makes me think it’s even moreso apparent how uncommon mismatches in looks are because of how often you don’t see them
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/26 10:41 PM
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I’ve retroactively realized that one of the girls I made out with in the past was actually cheating on her boyfriend when she did it. Crazy work. (I was pretty close to that guy too, but didn’t know they were together. I put the puzzle pieces together embarrassingly late.) Also completely random take. I don’t buy the “I see ugly rat guys with hot girlfriends all the time!” Because I swear they’re almost always just both sitting around average. They usually look like a couple I’d see in Walmart (…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/26 05:48 PM
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I read this in Sam’s voice from atypical
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/26 12:02 PM
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I mean i may not be blue but they call me an avatar the way I can bend things (Wrong avatar I know)
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/26 01:21 AM
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That’s valid. You mean you’re like a 6 facially but then your presentation “boosts” you if that’s what I’m understanding here? (I ask mostly because I think presentation matters so much)
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/26 01:17 AM
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Man I tell you My weeks consist of “So flipping cute! I want like eight” “Man, can you imagine feeling this level of pride, but it were your own kid instead? I can’t wait to be a father” “I am never having a child” While I think I probably will be a father some day, I switch between these three at random (plus more)
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/26 01:16 AM
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Wait is generally making moves considered jestering?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/26 12:40 AM
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Follow-up question. This makes me wonder what do you personally rate yourself? No stake in whether you’re going for your looksmatch or not but now I’m ultimately curious
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/26 12:38 AM
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Oh yeah I’m feeling the same way I’ve coached a couple private lessons here and there while we were out so it wasn’t a complete stop for me But my “I miss coaching my classes” feeling is definitely gonna be gone by the middle of tomorrow!
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/26 12:37 AM
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Oh yeah I’m just fucking with you I believe in you Why thanks! It seems a lot of people do which makes it even more interesting
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/26 04:09 AM
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Wow, I almost don’t know whether to read that in a disappointed or annoyed tone! I’ll go with disappointed Uh…the answer to that question is unknown at the time; not being a whore has actually not been going over all that well for some reason Jokes aside I suppose it’ll happen once I find that fit girl who’s compatible but it doesn’t fall through for no reason this time
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/26 03:52 AM
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<image> What the actual fuck why did I almost score a perfect
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/26 03:41 AM
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No relationship. I have been on a bunch of dates, hooked up with some girls, but never been in an actual relationship. My dating life is kinda on-off right now though, and I’m at a point where I’d rather be in a relationship than have meaningless hookups. I consider myself RP aware and I guess you could say I apply it? But also I think it’s got a lot of bullshit in it too, and there’s a lot of the community aspects I don’t like I do like the internal aspects because a lot of them boil down to y’…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/25 02:21 PM
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Man I agree with you on that one! It gets genuinely crazy how incels see other incels as being enlightened and knowing the truth about women (that they’ve never touched and probably hardly interact with) And it’s also funny that they disagree so hard when I actually used to be one of them (sort of…) I won’t larp as THE slayer of all poon, but I will say I witness it so often where a guy who gets girls comes along and they’ve got all these objections and disagreements. I’m like how does that even…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/25 01:59 PM
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I agree Being on the other end of things I can say when I’ve ghosted, it’s been just me not really feeling it, but also we’re not close enough or serious enough that it warrants an explanation or a big message about how I’m not feeling it, and it stands to reason that this rationale stands for most ghostings And then same as you, I’ve ended up ghosted before by women who forced me to kiss them earlier on the same day (not like a violent kind of force but like you know what I mean. Not like in a …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/25 05:32 PM
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Nah, sounds insufferable The whole “she’ll always take the woman’s side” thing sounds like it speaks to an inability to view situations objectively Either that or she views them objectively, but will still choose wrong over right just to be “team girl” Both possibilities sound like she’s someone I’d not even want to acquaint with, let alone date
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/25 11:30 AM
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One thing I like about using my fitness account on Instagram is my reels end up full of muscular women (sigh I need to actually start hollering at girls again irl)
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/25 02:27 PM
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A little bit to a LOT depending on how bad the structural issues are for aren’t Interestingly I actually have slightly bigger front teeth with a gap in them Interestingly I don’t think it knocks me down super hard, If I had multiple crooked teeth and misalignments I think it’d be a much bigger hindrance Also this one is sadder but yes, it seems as though super prominent gums with smaller teeth is less attractive than a “normal” ratio (whatever that means)
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/25 11:29 AM
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Unless you’re born with a physical healthy issue or have endured some sort of physical hardship that makes this the case, then yes, most of the time what you say is true
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/25 07:37 PM
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Oh yeah exactly, seen this a bunch Is it a little strange I honestly can relate a lot more to the female side of this when it comes to it Not that options don’t exist, but that getting a relationship with someone I actually like is quite the different beast it seems (Meanwhile I actually genuinely find getting hookups to be easier than finding a relationship)
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/25 10:48 PM
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It’s funny when I see dudes with genuinely no experience with girls and whatnot, see normie guys, guys in relationships, and guys with female friends and accuse them of being simps and betabuxxers and “we’re right” and “Oh you’ll never see me being a jester for a woman’s attention” (I mean what they say can have a level of truth to it that some guys are whipped and genuinely getting played for fools out here) What gets me, and what’s “funny” about it to me though is that I don’t believe for a se…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/25 10:29 PM
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I might have a broken sense of humor but this was absolutely hilarious
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/25 08:01 PM
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Me either, though in a similar situation to what you’ve highlighted I’ve also had some gigastacies swipe on me who were trans Not my thing, but I could definitely see it being a cheat code if it were someone’s thing
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/25 09:24 PM
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If her being trans genuinely doesn’t bother you then yes, yes it is the cheat code
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/25 09:04 PM
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What’s crazy is I’m in half-joking with what I initially said. Even if not cheating, the flirting-behind-the-back and Shit talking I’ve seen is crazing Some of the actual cheating stories are diabolical as hell and grimy. Now the half-joke comes with that I do think if you really that guy and depending on how YOU move, there are ways you can select or get against it more Nothing’s perfect though, so mileage varies
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/25 06:28 PM
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I feel like I’m kinda genuinely insane knowing how crazy some girls move while in a relationship, but yet still wanting to be in one because hookups are just…empty and hollow for me I always say oh well though. If I get heartbroken it is what it is
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/25 06:06 PM
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It’s at this point I have to respectfully ask what you’re even on about
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/25 07:57 PM
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Breaking news: Having a robust social life and friends is harmful
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/25 07:52 PM
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I’m so dumb! Solution was right in front of me the whole time! Be right back gotta load up some FitXFearless right quick ya feel me
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/25 05:50 PM
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In terms of some- well yeah of course I do. It’s almost like I’m a guy or something In terms of trying to dismantle or maintain gender norms surrounding this topic or whatever? No, I don’t really care more than “this is what the field is like so if you want results you’ve gotta play it” And let’s be real, I think socializing more with women can teach one that they do approach and do make first moves. But again you don’t really learn that without exposure
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/25 05:21 PM
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I don’t “want” anything one way or the other here; we’re talking based on the reality of what things are now Right now you have a playing field where OLD is mostly a joke (even if it works here and there) and trying to DM girls on social media is about the same. And given this playing field what are we gonna do? Restructure the human libido? Collectively pressure women into settling on the apps? It seems a bit more intuitive and say….realistic to say “If you want to pull more girls you need to b…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/25 05:00 PM
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I was about to say the same thing That’s how markets and exposure work. How ya gonna get a girl if the girls ain’t there?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/25 02:43 PM
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Yeah for real, because my first thought reading this is “Wait what? According to commonly held notions, this situation would literally be the most possible favorable indicator that you’re desirable” And I don’t even entirely disagree with that notion; a girl who’s keeping you as a FWB isn’t exactly doing it because you have great words of wisdom to share
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/25 01:44 AM
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While I can’t directly agree because different reasons, I can say your reasoning is actually solid and makes you pretty damn real. Someone who can approach dating (and life) with that “they can try, but they ain’t me.” Mindset always does better than “but-but what about all the other guys?”
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/25 06:38 PM
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I agree with this so hard On its own it doesn’t guarantee anything, but man it definitely matters It’s one of those cases where even if the woman herself isn’t lying that she doesn’t like a lot of muscle, that’s still not a contradiction to the women swooning over muscle. And almost no man ever is genuinely going to encounter “oh you’re too muscular for me.”
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/25 10:10 PM
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I have a running joke with my friend about this Where one of us will go “What the fuck does ‘cool rush’ smell like? Wait, what even IS cool rush?!” Because seriously, it makes zero sense I mean the product I have in mind here smells good but one can’t deny the stupidity
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/25 02:41 PM
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Exactly, makes sense given everything I also made sure to “Uhm” and “uhh” a lot. Someone who seems to not even be able to form a sentence without being unsure, isn’t going to be a good choice for a jury either
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/25 03:01 PM
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A couple months ago when they asked me all those questions in the courtroom to see whether I’d actually make the cut for the jury, I purposely made myself sound as genuinely crazy as possible Worked like a charm; I was enjoying that too much
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/25 02:40 PM
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I’m not sure entirely how true what you’ve said is, but I know it’s definitely not 0%; there’s truth there for sure It’s further backed up by the fact that what’s funny is if you told a normal woman something that amounted to “women are these creatures higher than me and their opinions on the internet make me feel upset.” She’d look at you like you were crazy, and for good reason
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/25 02:25 PM
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This is hard to explain without showing an example (as I don’t have one to show at this moment), but basically there’ll be like a guy posting something about how he’s lifting this and that while his crush is being railed, or something that implies women don’t want him or choose other guys over him, with the sort of implication that he’s using it as fuel (The “crush being railed” one was a real thing that I saw, btw. Yeah, crazy.) It’s kind of in that same zone as people who make that terrible “l…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/25 08:16 PM
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It’s probably isolated to social media moreso or at least most of it is Even the rejection/breakup lift thing starts to border on “cringe” quite quickly Even if it’s not a bad use
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/25 08:01 PM
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You know it’s funny that you touch on that, because I’ve always said dude, going to the gym is genuinely not that hard Maybe it’s just the fact that I have a crazy excess of energy, but still
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/25 08:00 PM
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You know one thing that’s crazy about being a single guy who’s heavily into the gym and athletics and whatnot, is being adjacent to the weird dudes who invent cuck fantasies in their head and use it as “fuel” to “go harder” in the gym That’s truly one of the cringiest genres of people I can think of, because what are you even doing
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/25 06:58 PM
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Women do a lot of the so-called “slut shaming”, too
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/25 06:56 PM
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Had to lock in so hard not to laugh at this Truly did not expect to see this image this early in the morning (I definitely laughed)
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/25 12:05 PM
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Exactly. “Hint of misogyny” sounds crazy at first but you’re right in that it’s exactly what they need It speaks to me because it makes me wonder, if they can get this neurotic and wound up about that, then they’ll absolutely crumble while on dates or actually trying to get laid. Like you said, it’s unsustainable in the real adult world. Because what are you supposed to do? It’d make taking any actionable advice literally impossible, especially about dating I can’t believe so many guys have yet …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/25 11:35 PM
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Yes! Exactly! What wha-
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/25 09:57 PM
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I’ve never really said women are always in danger of rape, but can acknowledge the danger definitely exists and for it to be a thought in their heads isn’t entirely unreasonable I mean I think there’s levels for this, and there are ways one approaches that are much less scary-seeming I myself have never had a woman I approached IRL get freaked out by it, even if I certainly wasn’t her type There are things that make people unsettled or less unsettled, and that’s down to discernment and context
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/25 01:54 PM
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This is what I’ve been saying and I alluded to this a while ago when I said that taking the opinions of women on the internet you hear so damn seriously all the damn time is ironically putting them on a pedestal even if it doesn’t seem like it Especially when dudes drive themselves crazy with this whole “women say this but then women also say not to do that! So confusing!” type of thing. I’m like, has it not occurred to them how personal preferences and opinions work? I swear it’s like people ha…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/25 01:29 PM
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I agree on this I think to myself “damn, being a woman’s piggy bank seems harder to me to attain, than just shooting shots until someone thinks I’m hot”
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/25 06:59 PM
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See I’ve been saying this for a while even if I could never concretely prove it I know for a fact I’ve had more than one case where a woman was definitely attracted to me but either my height or….something made me the less socially cool option
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/25 11:38 AM
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Saying “Simp” in response to disagreements is just childish Especially because this is one of those cases where it’s like this Want a word to quickly lose its meaning? Say it when it doesn’t actually apply and use it as ad hominem whenever
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/25 11:37 AM
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I rag on how stupid it is but good god it’s hilarious and addictive
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/25 04:13 AM
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Hey that’s at least a little more based than the behavior I mentioned in my original comment
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/25 04:10 AM
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Nah, because that’s a fairly good thing to do Making videos and posts ranting about a woman in some video or who made some post somewhere about it, often isn’t. Because it often is whining about some performative standards a woman claims to have. Especially if the ire is directed solely at women who say dumb shit and never men; that quite often comes across “Holding women accountable for not giving me the pussy” Because I believe in holding people accountable, but if it’s not coming across consi…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/25 01:11 AM
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Agree For all the things wrong with simping, somehow I think being mad about the fact that women don’t want to put the pussy on you is even worse somehow (and yet again, they can’t even claim they’re so above it all because as far as I’m concerned, those women are still on pedestal!)
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/25 06:49 PM
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Damn I couldn’t have said this better myself I don’t even take everything seriously that my closest friends and advisors in life say, because I know they can, and will occasionally be full of Shit So then to get on the internet holding everything to that standard of interpretation, is asinine at best. (Also it’s crazy how it’s “watch what they do, not what they say” until it’s a woman saying something that gets them all wound up)
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/25 06:47 PM
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I’m like, bruh it might not be the typical “simping” after a woman or whatever, but it’s damn sure pedestalizing! And I’d argue it could be even worse possibly Because getting and staying so bent out of shape about that kind of thing is just so attractive!
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/25 06:38 PM
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You know what’s crazy? When you have a community who speaks of not putting women on a pedestal and whatnot But then always going around talking about some “A woman said this.” Or “women lie about this.” And other such things about the stuff women say and do (often on the internet) Taking all of that so seriously is a quick way to lose, and to me, that sounds kind of like putting women on a pedestal.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/25 06:29 PM
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I’m so in the zone today. Let’s hope it continues and I don’t get some random wave of tired in the middle of the day
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/25 02:22 PM
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You mean like in the sense that “losers” are like the guys who sort of made up society as in the common man who just sort of did the labor he had to do? Because I agree if that’s what you mean; in this case I specifically mean in a dating and social context. Regarding that, I believe it’s possible to be a loser with a good job, or a loser with muscles, etc. at least from a dating lens; it’s possible to be a loser in one aspect of life but a winner in others Just depends on what game you’re tryin…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/25 02:23 PM
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Random take: if you needed money and status to get the attention of women in the first place then you’re still ultimately the same loser as you were before you got that money and status Nothing wrong with leveraging it, IF you have the actual internal profile to match it. (plus past a certain level of status you can’t realistically separate yourself from it) Plus a lot of dudes do manage to get money and end up still dateless or getting disrespected by their woman All of this to say: working on …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/25 12:58 AM
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Oh yeah. I care about my body’s aesthetic a lot but the pure aesthetic bros can genuinely be so insufferable I mean even in my own case I started lifting primarily as an athletics thing
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/25 02:39 PM
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This is a general question for all of you people out there, so it can apply to women dating dudes and to men here can answer in a more general sense But in your own opinion, at what point would someone go from being “fitness-focused”/“takes the gym seriously” to being “insufferable meathead” for you personally?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/25 02:37 PM
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You may have to once or twice /j
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/25 12:09 PM
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Harsh but hey I can get why
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/25 10:26 AM
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Imagine a gibbon swinging off one arm from branch to branch Yeah, that
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/25 10:24 AM
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My sport, which has a lot of “pull” movements similarly to rock climbing, has also helped so much with accelerating the back gains it’s pretty nice (That sport is actually part of why I’m so unusually good at brachiation)
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/25 10:23 AM
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That’s strangely reassuring I unironically have a build that’s naturally really good at it (and I’ve done it enough so for it to be effortless for me) So hey, nice!
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/25 03:44 AM
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Question for the ladies, is it a turn off if a man is unusually good at climbing things and also suspiciously good at swinging like a monkey? Like presume it looks like second nature to him (I’m only half kidding, too)
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/25 03:21 AM
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Finally can land front flips semi-consistently (I’m still mostly ass at them) finally landed this one technique in Ninja that I was struggling with (pretty consistently), PR’d on weighted pull-ups, and got clean one-armed pull-ups Today kinda ruled I must say; no complaints about that How is that related to men’s day? No idea
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/25 03:47 AM
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Honestly, autist is usually so on-the-nose I say it’s worth keeping Coming from someone who has had his fair share of really autistic takes
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/25 02:30 PM
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I agree Now calorie counting has become second nature for me after years now of doing so (I was counting calories before I was even in the gym) But fully with you on the protein; I go so crazy on “eat red meat and eggs” that I don’t think about it much but I ought to if I want to optimize it more
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/25 02:27 PM
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Who I can pull IRL is more attractive on average than who matches with me on dating apps even if there is overlap
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/25 09:09 AM
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Now I look visibly bigger both in the mirror and in pictures I mean don’t get me wrong I haven’t looked small or like I don’t lift in pics for a while now, but now it’s like damn that’s even more noticeable It’s all coming together!
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/25 12:59 AM
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Man, I'm definitely feeling that meme where it says "I accidentally became important at work". Then again, this was foreshadowed to hell and back and was essentially inevitable, but it actually happening is like a "Damn!" feeling, both in a good and bad way On another unrelated note, I'm dipping my toes back in to the pool to see who's out there and sadly, they just ain't *her*. And what's more embarrassing is that "her" is a girl I was never even that far with. D'oh well, c'est la vie, I suppos…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/25 04:13 PM
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Similar to you here. Almost any platonic friend (that I’m actually semi-close to) I have of either gender could tell you I’m that way in general My mother would say I’ve been like that pretty much all of my life
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/25 02:23 PM
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That’s the spirit!
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/25 11:03 PM
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This made me feel validated not even gonna lie
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/25 10:45 PM
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I honestly kind of suspected rap was going to phase out of the mainstream (probably will come back decades later because trends are cyclical) Funny enough I actually do not like most rap at all but “Wobbly wiggly wobbly wiggly wobbly” has been incessantly stuck in my head
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/25 10:43 PM
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“DAYUM THOSE THINGS CANNOT BE REA-“
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/25 10:42 PM
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Yeah no I’m kidding, if someone I knew was doing that I’d definitely disagree with that behavior
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/25 01:25 AM
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“Introduce you to his Chad friends” is absolutely crazy but I can’t even hate on strategy I mean in the other hand you’re right because I know a girl who almost got either kidnapped or stabbed by one her orbiters And other subsavory stories that aren’t as bad but still aren’t quite good bedtime stories either
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/25 12:07 AM
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I agree to some extent I couldn’t tell you what measurably matters more but in terms of behavior even then I’ve noticed I have some pretty harsh filters that make it so that most women aren’t even passing minimum threshold I’m inclined to say they’re equal for me too overall though
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/25 10:12 PM
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Part of me thinks I should’ve tried to get out partyin’ last night and tried to well, y’know… I saw some NICE looking costumes here and there last night if you get what I’m saying But albeit I didn’t even dress up! I’m becoming an old geezer at such a young age somehow
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/25 06:45 PM
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The adorableness, I just can’t Kids just being adorable is still one of my favorite things about life
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/25 06:42 PM
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I think you’re spot on I’m not sure if this is just because or if it has to genuinely do with how my mind works; I think getting a hookup is easier than a relationship
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/25 01:47 AM
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That makes it actually even funnier, especially when I’ve known a dude or two who was just like this The best part is when they’re so unintentionally funny thus making it even funnier
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/25 06:02 PM
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For real It’s all too easy when you’ve known one too many person who talks like that Part of me has my worries people expect me to sound like that before I actually open my mouth…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/25 05:18 PM
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I’m not a woman but the Yeezy one has me genuinely hollering and hooting with laughter The visual in my mind is sending me
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/25 05:16 PM
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Getting me kinda jealous here not gonna lie, but not today, demons of lust and temptation! (Kill me)
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 06:35 PM
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Oh yeah I’m being tongue-in-cheek In no way was the girl I described actually crazy; just very able to match my energy (and considering I’m a fuckin’ weirdo…) Like I’m playing it loose with the word “crazy” here
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 06:34 PM
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Not wrong. I’m convinced they’re all crazy in some way but you just have to pick your crazy carefully Though honestly if I had to be limited to redheads forever from here on in I wouldn’t even be mad Which probably speaks to how crazy I am
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 06:28 PM
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I’m with you. Past Spread would’ve wanted that girl you just described all day, but no way I’d do it now; I’ve become boring (Ironically the girl I describe in my post is a Christian who didn’t even drink alcohol or cuss; I so wish that situation didn’t fall through) And here’s what’s crazy! The fact that her and I never actually got to that point where we were hooking up or anything but yet still she remains in my mind so much! Like how am I even selling this hard!?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 06:23 PM
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The last girl I more or less “dated” (I suppose it was a talking stage? Idk) was a redhead Now I have a thing for redheads and I can’t quite figure out if this is chicken or egg. Don’t know if she just exposed what I already liked or if I have that preference because of her Either way, I need to get a grip here; I’m losing my mind
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 06:03 PM
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Do you just mean brutal because it gets colder and darker than summer? Or for other reason? (Fall and winter have their charm but I’m definitely a little more baseline depressed during those seasons)
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 05:59 PM
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I work with kids. Oh no….. (I’m not super worried but it’s something to keep in mind for me)
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 05:58 PM
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It’s so flippin’ hilarious when guys come up in here seeming to want a guaranteed success manual or some shit I get thst playing the game can be hard sometimes but dammit you’ve gotta do something Even the “Chad” you lament about will actually get the results he wants moreso when he makes moves
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 01:30 PM
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Look at those nice, round, shapely vents I would engineer HER prompts all day!
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 01:25 PM
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When her lower body is elite but she also has biceps the size of mine> Makes me want to lock in twice as hard for both reasons if ya feel me
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/25 12:43 AM
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Right? That physique is supremo right there
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/25 12:35 AM
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Yes it was, I was mindlessly typing not realizing she spells it as Sh3bulk on her Insta handle
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/25 12:25 AM
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I’d say the point of being too masculine looking exists but she definitely doesn’t fit it( to me she’s extremely hot Those biceps, man
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/25 12:03 AM
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I ain’t the type to get celebrity or influencer crushes and think that’s stupid, generally But Sh3bulk is literally perfection
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/25 11:58 PM
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Word? Me too, man. It’s like to what end? I don’t even entertain girls now if I couldn’t see myself making them my girl The fun of a hookup doesn’t compare to the hollow feeling afterward for me
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/25 11:26 PM
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Sort of? I do see a lot of UMC women with scrawny prettyboys but then I also see ghetto girls with scrawny wannabe gangsters too so there’s that. (Also do you mean lower class economically?) I do feel the musculature activates something moreso in women who are looking for something short-term both scientifically speaking and in what my experience seems to entail. Especially given I don’t look like a provider type at all It’s hard to gauge, but I’d bet on the answer to this being yeah, lower clas…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/25 11:06 PM
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It was cheating because it was a machine and not a raw lift technically, but as of today I can deadlift 565 lbs. So where gym baddie girlfriend? Jokes aside this is such a great feeling and it feels kinda unique to possess that level of raw strength while also being in a sport where I’m swinging around on stuff constantly
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/25 02:04 AM
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Now hips on a dude is actually a pretty unique one that I can’t really say I’ve heard before
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/25 04:17 PM
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It might be getting a little concerning just how much I love women who have visible upper body musculature and nice arms/shoulders. I mean I’ve always appreciated a fit woman but recently… It’s not more important than the typical sought after features of a female physique but damn do I love it Something is seriously wrong with me, I think, but I’ll die on the hill that upper body musculature on women is top-tier
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/25 04:12 PM
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I just realized how much I am hard carried by my physique I mean it’s whatever; I’m not ugly or anything without it but I’m convinced that it is THE key difference for me. I don’t know if anyone else has felt this way but it’s enough to make one think
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/25 01:19 PM
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Not sure I’ll drop it yet but may in the future
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/25 03:00 AM
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I’m not entirely sure but my (quite unprofessional-looking) fitness page on Instagram is about to surpass my main one in terms of following and traction I like that feeling though. I think it’ll be bolstered even more if I end up actually getting on American Ninja Warrior
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/25 02:42 AM
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He does kinda look like one; always thought the same thing
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/25 02:40 AM
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I agree Ironically I’m actually quite extroverted and ADHD but still you get what I mean Especially in this place specifically. Lots of actual autism
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/25 01:42 AM
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For a fact for sure, I’m a few steps off being actually insane I’m pretty sure Oh yeah my flair is just sorta there right now, it feels like such supreme autism to have it and that’s why I’m keeping it
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/25 01:31 AM
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Yes sir, comp season is back in swing for me starting tomorrow It’s a double header event and I’m hoping to take double gold home with me (but we’ll see) Side and semi-related, even being slightly leaner feels so amazing; I don’t even know how or why I could perceive such small differences in weight
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/25 01:28 AM
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Can confirm Chad is a stretch, but I definitely would consider myself a good-looking weirdo I’m convinced if I’d just stumbled upon taking care of my looks and going to the gym normally and never happened upon any of this shit my life would be better for it But alas
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/25 01:25 AM
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Maybe one of these days I’ll be able to make a relationship work Maybe i shoot myself in the foot too hard with my own standards or somethin’ Either way I’ve to figure this out
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 06:20 PM
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I agree Even if someone is similar to you, it’s not enough that it makes up for the amount of differences in you guys’ life experiences and natural temperaments
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 04:03 PM
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I don’t watch that guy but i read that last sentence in his voice
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 04:00 PM
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Similar case here but not family I have a friend who jokes the longer I go single the more he starts to get “worried I’m actually gay” Tongue in cheek but it does make me think
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/25 03:59 PM
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I agree; and that’s even worse when it comes to just how stupid it is Someone’ll really argue that being technically able to get a date is the same as women actively wishing they had you
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/25 03:21 PM
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There’s a difference between being “dateable” as a baseline and “someone women actively would want to date” The line gets muddied I find and a lot of people confuse A for B and B for A when some people air their grievances
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/25 01:50 PM
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Like even though I have zero plans on trying to mooch or ask a girl for things, there are just so many benefits to even being around that type of girl on its own (plus they’re just generally hotter) If I can get her family likin’ me too then that’s even better
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/25 02:45 PM
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You know what? I actually intend to find out here soon because I have a suspicion that this town is the type of place that would have them
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/25 02:42 PM
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As long as they’re round in the right pla-
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/25 02:39 PM
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It’s just occurred to me that having now moved to a much more affluent suburb of my city, that the women ‘round here are both rich and uh…my type (if you know you know) I’d ought to start busting moves here soon and capitalize, ya hear?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/25 01:00 PM
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Depends, but there are a few ideas I might just be Batman at my workplace because I can’t actually dress scary, or a pirate, idk A friend and I joked about him being Mr. Incredible and me being Frozone
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/25 03:39 AM
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I agree I’m not at “gets free shit often” pretty privilege (though it happens sometimes) But albeit I do seem to get benefit of the doubt, a high baseline level of friendliness and smiles from strangers, willingness to work with me and be generous, etc. The fact that I walk around thinking “People are quite nice as a whole and aren’t that bad!” Is reason enough to justify my line of reasoning in my initial comment; I couldn’t imagine how much greyer things would feel without that baseline pleasa…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/25 07:03 PM
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You have to be a semi-insane person to want to become better-looking (or maintain your current looks) for the social benefits and pretty privilege moreso than just the women benefits It’s me, I’m semi-insane person Obviously the benefits on dating are good and to pretend you don’t care at all is probably lying to yourself, but I’d say even if I had a steady girl right now I’d have the same mindset (even though yes that would also be to make sure the bedroom Doesn’t die) (I mean also, in part my …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/25 02:08 PM
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Every time I see someone imply, or even outright say that women just don’t like sex I always think “Uh…who’s gonna tell ‘im?”
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/25 03:34 PM
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This is what I’m saying I said this a while ago. The assumption that these are good women who like those type of men is crazy, and I’m willing to bet that assumption comes about because the women are beautiful sometimes. But those women are often just not people of the type of moral fiber that the middle class dorkier types would want (Which nothing wrong with being that if you own it) Because I…look the way I do, I’ve had this type of woman interested in me before and it still happens sometimes…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/25 04:38 PM
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Random but I actually hate the word “rizz” Miss me with that bullshit; the term is “game”, and anyone who says the word “rizz”, automatically doesn’t have it (Yes I work with kids so I probably hear it more often than most adults would; end my life please)
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/25 12:01 PM
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I was about 15 or so when I woke up to this fact I thought to myself “people who try so hard to be unique and different are cringe because their claims that different=better are often unsubstantiated and just plain-out wrong. Something that’s popular, is usually popular for a reason.”
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/25 06:08 PM
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Slightly taken aback and think “Yo, WHAT?” But then promptly realize that’s probably something you don’t encounter very often, so hence time to make that work At least, assuming she’s physically active, but if I find her attractive, then she is
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/25 01:06 AM
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Meeting another man with his priorities straight, I see!
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/25 08:31 PM
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Don’t you just love getting mail? 90% stuff you can ignore, the other 10% will ruin your life or send you to jail if ignored
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/25 08:30 PM
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Me? I’m like 5’8-5’9 While it’d be cool to be taller, this is still a chill height
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/25 08:46 PM
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Oh yeah I feel you on the good and bad almost in a “pick your poison” sense Personally I like it. It’s a bit jarring at first to realize you pretty much won’t get the kid gloves anymore (especially when you hadn’t even realize you were getting them) But upon adjustment and learning how to act accordingly it rocks
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/25 01:13 AM
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Agreed. It’s like my whole league has shifted and I can feel the impact of being objectively hotter With that has also shifted the expectations and way to handle things And this is even if the shift from 20-22 hasn’t been massive by any stretch. Similar to you; I’m noticeably more muscular and again for some reason my face and jaw got wider and stronger, albeit I probably will never shave my head and I’ve got that patchier beard right now
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/25 01:08 AM
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Going from cute but unassuming and non-threatening in the looks department, to being good looking but more masculine way overall is an interesting feeling (not a bad one though), hence my flair change yet again Feels good though! But realize that I’m probably going to have to YET again change how I approach this game, who I pursue, how I do it, the whole nine yards. Any of my other fellas here had a shift like this that sorta ambushed them? On this note: I didn’t know your face could get wider a…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/25 12:29 AM
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One of my friends and I (shit, this guy’s actually my bro truly so, not even just “a” friend) are always hanging out just going to Walmart or getting into normal daily shenanigans This type of friendship is superior to any other kind of friendship I’ve experienced and I think we grow so close because we don’t need any superfluous pretenses to hang out with each other
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/25 03:56 PM
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Crazy take, errand date good Errand date good because it can tell you about person and gives much conversation opportunity Never been on errand date and wouldn’t ask for that, so just theory Theory exists because of experience with friends
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/25 03:55 PM
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Weird take of the day: Is it just me or do errand dates conceptually kind rule? There’s so much going on that there’s plenty to engage on and opens up the conversation so much, you can tell a lot of little things about the person and see how they move through this world, it’s relatively low stakes, Not that I’d ask a girl on an errand date (if it ends up there then that’s a different story), and logistically it’s probably not the best But then again, I’ve never done this as a date before but I d…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/25 03:44 PM
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Not really in a general sense. In my personal circles (mostly people I know from my sport and my work), nah not really. There is the odd attractive guy here and there but most are just average as is to be expected, but that being said I’ve noticed none of my friends are actually ugly barring maybe one or two exceptions of being overweight My closest/best bro is an absolutely good-looking fella though. He and I are usually among some of the best looking in a given room, albeit he even moreso than…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/25 09:19 PM
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You know, if I dated a girl who was out of shape or not into fitness at all, I think seeing fit couples in the gym or worse yet, on Instagram would make me want to actually die Yet another reason to keep that standard maintained
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/25 02:48 AM
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I’m taking about the dudes I see get laid the most or are known to get laid a lot
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/25 09:47 AM
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Oh I’m inclined to agree; there are multiple means to an end of the goal is just “get laid” without any specifics Hell, even in my own case I guarantee you I’ve been carried by looks before, and also my above comment does fail to mention how those two aspects do go hand-in-hand In my own experience, being charming and charismatic is ludicrously easy when people already want to like you
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/25 12:46 AM
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I won’t get up here and say that personality is the end all he all of the whole thing but I WILL say this From what I witness, I’ve never seen a guy who gets laid or is known for getting laid, who isn’t also pretty damn good with people in general and generally charismatic. They’re all great at getting people to like them, pay attention to them, and making friends, even if surface level sometimes. And i must say this is entirely apart from whether the man in question is a good person. The men I’…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/25 12:24 AM
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15" biceps, let's go! (Possibly more like 14.5; I don't know if they're just extra full today or what) Not huge or impressive but for me? Finally; took me damn long enough
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/25 01:52 AM
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Probably
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/25 11:09 PM
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Sounds like heaven Speaking as an athletic, extroverted, and energetic person myself
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/25 08:52 PM
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Q4A: Are you an energetic person? What about your partner, are they energetic? I mean in terms of both how much energy you generally have and how you express it I’m genuinely such a hyperactive person it’s kind of nutty. Even though I’m not always like “just had caffeine” wired or anything, the energy is still there almost constantly
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/25 08:20 PM
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Agreed on that The quickest way to not pedestalize women, or chase incessantly, or do stupid Shit in dating? Having something you’re locked into with intent; not in any “monk mode” shit but you get what I mean
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/25 08:18 PM
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Good reasoning, albeit this is not the typical case I was referring to
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 02:46 PM
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Literal monk mode, neat Was there a particular thing that spurred you into it? (Majorly I must clarify, I’m speaking from a male perspective which includes a lot of guys hiding their failures behind going monk mode)
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 01:57 AM
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Yeah I do believe “I genuinely don’t have interest in dating right now so I won’t do it” I’d a very real thing But then “I’m not getting the results I want with women so I’ll just fool myself into thinking I wanna be on monk mode for a while” is also real too, and as is “If I go monk for this arbitrary amount of time I’ll come out a changed man”
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 01:39 AM
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Random hill I’ll die on: going on “monk mode” or “lone wolf” type of shit is pure cap and BS Self-improvement is an eternal journey and I don’t see why assume dating and relationships are much different (this is why you’ll also see ke say it’s lowkey disrespectful to get into a relationship and let yourself go) Unless going that way is directly contributing to improving your dating life or there are genuinely circumstances that make dating less than feasible
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/25 01:04 AM
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Even if they stick to the topics they claim to be experts in, they still won’t be taken serious for a key reason It often can and does attract guys who fail with women and just…don’t have the firsthand experience to be talking anything about female nature or knowing how women work If I’d watched a million videos and read books on welding but never touched a god damn welding stick in my life, would you take my opinions on welding seriously? Even if you did, it pales in comparison to a guy who’s a…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/25 07:49 PM
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I’ve had more than one user admit that they literally want instruction that guarantees success During a discussion where I was saying dudes worry too much about trying to do everything right to a T It’s almost like that’s not how human interaction works
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/25 01:23 AM
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I’d rather be “not bad” if the alternative is being damn near undateable, but given the opportunity to make yourself have attractive qualities, it’s certainly worth taking It has been for me at least. For all my dating troubles, at least I’m never worried that it’s because I’m just chopped
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/25 06:17 PM
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That’s true I think I think furthermore a lot of them ain’t even physically unattractive but still may be average and not really all that noticeable Which again isn’t the worst but definitely doesn’t hedge your odds amazingly or anything
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/25 06:16 PM
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Part of the disparity in dating advice given by people and it not lining up is that a lot of the advice given is stuff that makes you baseline dateable or at least not the worst option in the room The issue is the guys asking for it want results that would come with being actively attractive, not just “not bad” At least this is my two cents on why it seems the advice just doesn’t do it; it’s geared toward a different goal.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/25 03:44 PM
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Oh yeah I’m terrible about it when it comes to validation; I’ve been working on going without it In these contexts of course I establish hard boundaries but you get what I mean in a general sense (it’s still adorable though) That being said, it also has moments where it sucks; a big group of kiddos that want your attention for one reason or other, can result in several hours of hearing your name called every two seconds
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/25 09:08 AM
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One of the most weird things I encounter regularly while working my job is the sheer amount of little girlies who crush on me On one hand it’s so adorable in the purest way, on the other hand, fucking Christ I have to be careful because this is crazy On the flipside though, the younger boys usually have quite the level of respect for how seemingly skilled I am and that’s never not flattering (not to self-glaze)
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/25 02:09 AM
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Interestingly I can somewhat feel you. I used to look more naturally approachable but I’ve just become bigger, huskier, more muscular, more mature-faced (still not massive, but visibly muscular) If I’m not smiling, laughing, or clearly making myself look no open to interaction? Not saying I’m super intimidating but there is a slight factor there
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/25 09:28 AM
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Resting Slav face is so real Every kid I coach that are of Slavic descent, have had some scary-looking parents
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/25 02:33 AM
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I hate to double dip but Q4A: Do you think you look approachable, generally speaking? Bonus question: how generally friendly/gregarious are you? Does it match up with how approachable you look?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/25 01:08 AM
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It’s over Not really, it’s over in like the best possible way But I’ve learned most of my friends, acquaintances, and coworkers agree I look like a fuckboy, and I’ve learned scientifically I apparently have features that correlate with short-term attraction cues rather than long-term ones This is hilarious because it feels like a bit of a flex yet also feels counterintuitive to get the kind of girl I need in my life, but maybe not; only time can tell
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/25 12:32 AM
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Due to my type; my friends would likely make the joke my relationship will probably look like this
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/25 12:29 AM
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I’m in a quite different situation than your typical “never had a girlfriend” type guy, given I’ve hooked up and gotten attention from girls for quite some time now (only seeming to increase no less) That being said? I think it’s a combo of: I don’t date just anyone; my personality and behavioral standards are ruthless. I don’t actually like most girls in a way beyond thinking they’re attractive (I think this is actually pretty normal if you aren’t a desperate guy tbh) Sometimes I just fumble De…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/25 01:36 AM
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I’m inclined to agree with this here
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/25 10:56 AM
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This shouldn’t have made me actually lose it laughing but it did
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/25 11:29 PM
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I begin to think I should start going back to church again; there’s nothing quite like it
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/25 03:11 PM
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Man that writing is just so top-tier Even as a kid I could sense something made the characterizations and plot-lines feel different The show’s so great you’ve got me thinking about watching it a 14th time
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/25 07:10 PM
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I don’t identify with the pills but if you take what I believe for the most part I lean like a less extreme version of red I’m fairly happy. Now granted my dating life has its ups and downs (and lefts and rights), but I’m doing much better than a lot of guys Yet still I’m not quite where I want to be yet.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/25 10:08 AM
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And that’s what counts
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/25 11:50 PM
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While big and toned is best, this is definitely a very close second and I’d argue what most women ought to aspire to since genetics for big and toned are only so common
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/25 11:16 PM
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It’s second best; hard work booty is best booty, but genetics are cool too (This is funny coming from someone who actually has fairly good genetics athletically speaking)
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/25 10:15 PM
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A big booty doesn’t count if it didn’t at least partly come from lifting (or some other active pursuit)
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/25 09:51 PM
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Athletic women are the elite
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/25 02:21 AM
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Agreed As someone who flowed up pretty damn hard, there’s no world where I regret doing so
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/25 11:37 PM
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Lowkey just thinking about doing a physique reveal at this point
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/25 02:51 AM
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Being into the gym and/or fitness at least somewhat seriously. It’s a road to resentment otherwise Oh and additionally? A sense of humor that can kinda go with mine well enough
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/25 02:51 AM
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Yeah you get me on that Which is funny because it sounds like I’m virtue signaling to say it’s not exactly fair for her, either. While I’m wishing she’d get off the couch and into the gym sometimes, it’s quite possible she’s wishing I’d take a damn chill pill Bad enough all around to not even be worth it
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/25 07:27 PM
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Exactly that! It’s hilarious that you being that up because that’s a category I’m in. Not in college and no intentions to go; so it’s a damn near perfect relevant statement And yet still it’s like yeah! Makes sense! I realized this one day while forming my own standards and was like “that isn’t even (entirely) about raw intelligence or earning potential, but about attitude toward the things one considers important. In a similar vein to how my attitude toward fitness is only partly about the look…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/25 05:26 PM
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I for sure agree on that Exact congruency isn’t a necessity (because it almost doesn’t exist) but but agreeing on the basics and core fundamental principles definitely is one I completely get you otherwise. The day I can set up a complete home gym that’s got everything I need, I’m probably done with public gyms (if that ever happens)
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/25 05:12 PM
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Exactly Like I have a couple traits that are straight-up disqualifiers for a lot of girls and that’s before we’ve mentioned traits I can actually control You won’t catch me saying to those girls that you have to have fair standards to include everyone
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/25 04:59 PM
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If a girl told me this then I’d say I was going for gold and got platinum (Assuming she actually uses those weights) Exactly. It sounds like I’m being dramatic when I say I’d end up resenting some girl who’s a slouch when it comes to her fitness, but it’s true I don’t mean to brag (yes the hell i do!) but I’m a world champion-level athlete in one of my sports; that’s a recipe for incompatibility if the girl isn’t even slightly on that wavelength of being physical
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/25 04:56 PM
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I remember talking about how I can’t date someone who doesn’t go to the gym or isn’t fit in some way and someone says “But not everyone has time for the gym” (heard that a couple times funny enough) Like what am I supposed to do? Give everyone a fair shot? Because that isn’t how that works And number two? Damn, it’s almost like being unable to make time for the gym makes someone wholly incompatible with me, or something! Shocker!
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/25 04:44 PM
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“What’s your type compared to who you actually attract?” More than one answer will be “I attract no one” as if they were the subject of that question. What’s crazier is I never understood the point, like are you wanting someone in the comments to get one of their friends to throw pussy on you? What do you gain by giving a non-response like that?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/25 12:13 PM
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I alwyas find it funny when this happens Two people are talking about dating strategy, or are talking about their experiences, or a question is asked that involves people talking about what their dating experiences Some dude: “This doesn’t work if you’re ugly/ that’s never happened to me/no one’s attracted to me.” And I’m like dude…that means no one asked you
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/25 10:29 AM
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No I get it. The person who has a septum piercing often, but doesn’t always fall into that sort of category. I find they often identify more with mental illness, liberal or left-leaning politics, being into more “unconventional” lifestyles and attraction cues, being less conformist overall, etc. That’s just my personal experience speaking really, I won’t say it’s indicative of anything real because who am I to make that judgement call? But I can move in the future based on what I already know We…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/25 03:25 PM
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You know what’s crazy? I see a false equivalence here with some dudes saying “normal” women and saying women who are psychopaths and criminals etc. as if there’s not a third category Dawg, I’m telling y’all a lot of these women who are going after the criminals and hood dues are still women y’all don’t want. I swear to god you don’t The girls themselves might not be literal criminals or psychopaths themselves but they’re still often either ghetto/hood women, trashy women, or women who probably a…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/25 03:15 PM
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I’m doing summer camps where I work this year alongside my normal coaching as well Summer’s gonna be interesting But hey, I like havin more money
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/25 02:53 PM
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My physique is reaching levels it’s never seen before AND my facial hair is starting to fill in more Official Tyronelite status here I come, baby! (Only lite because I am 5’8, but it is what it is)
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/25 10:35 PM
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I think this is our first time encountering each other here but I already deem you to be real as hell On that note you’re pretty good lookin’ no homo
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/25 10:27 PM
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Hard agree there Dudes be lookin any ol kind of way and be in relationships. Albeit their girl/wife is usually right around the same tier as them so it’s not quite the “ugly guys can get hot girls” narrative I’m promoting here And what was funny was that even back when I’d place myself in a more firmly “average” category I still could and did get attention from women so these dudes can miss me with that “the average guy never gets complimented or a shred of female attention” (Even one of their b…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/25 10:22 PM
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Agree There is not one of those concepts I can think of that solely apply to women by nature Some apply less commonly to men because they can’t get away with it as often because of the libido gap But in terms of desires and wants? Well shit, turns out humans can often be capable of greatly sucking wait that didn’t come out right
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/25 10:13 PM
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Been there before. On both ends
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/25 09:51 AM
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Fully agreed full stop. How you’re showing up and your presence/energy make so much difference Having “game” isn’t even about how smooth and suave your lines are, like some people want to think or like some people assume I mean when I say having game matters. And images definitely can’t capture a person’s whole energy
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/25 09:38 AM
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A lotta dudes i see I’ll be like “Wtf your looks aren’t the problem. It’s not because “Chad” or some shit.” Even in my own case I can say how I act or don’t act can change the vibe and how a woman responds so much Not even to say it in a “you have to be perfect” way but it was like somewhere along the way I lost the art of talking to women and hint hint: that made a night and day level difference
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/25 11:50 PM
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Agreed If you’re not just trying to fuck anythin’ in sight, it becomes immense evident it just…won’t work out with most women The only way to keep in the game is to see it that way, so I’ve learned. After all it’s still just a person whose energy you can enjoy taking in and being around
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/25 10:08 AM
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Nah that was still pleasant I mean, it seems she likes me so I don’t think that’s a bad result
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/25 02:12 AM
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Oh yeah no I get you if that’s what you mean, when that happens the date becomes a faded memory pretty quickly
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/25 02:05 AM
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What’s your definition of results here? Because I mean it’d be different if we went on a date and there was now a complete downturn But uh…as far as I concerned things are smoother than that (I mean for now…who knows) can’t be 80 As far as I’m concerned I’m stating I enjoyed a date I had not even a week ago, big dawg
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/25 02:02 AM
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The food was far from what I’d call “good” food (I mean…it was okay. It got the job done) The date itself was though, was one of my personal bests
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/25 01:57 AM
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I enjoyed that regardless I didn’t push for any particular outcome anyhow and the results definitely weren’t bad ones
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/25 01:56 AM
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I say I went on an impromptu-ish date earlier this week and despite its brevity and the fact that it was nothing particularly noteworthy we did, it probably was my best date I’ve been on. We literally were just getting some food together but it was just pretty much immaculate. Things are in an interesting spot with the girl right now just due to a lot of circumstances going on but otherwise not going bad. The girl is literally just like me but ginger and a woman instead
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/25 01:49 AM
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I agree It took having casual hookups for me to realize they’re empty and don’t actually do much for me, for one instance
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/25 06:20 PM
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I’m at an outdoor Ninja competition for the weekend and the culture of this comp (and for logistical reasons) equals wearing a lot less clothes Needless to say, I didn’t wear a shirt all day today and I don’t know if I’m bugging but I think people notice; the work on my physique has obviously helped I must say
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/25 01:30 AM
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I must ask Would you guys say you’ve always had a pretty solid perception of your own looks and how attractive you’re considered? Or did you have to sort of “discover” it upon realizing Bonus and related question- I wonder how many people here are people who’ve had big glow-ups (or downs)
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/25 11:06 PM
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Here’s my typical “ladies how you feelin” question for the day but Question for the girlies: how y’all feelin’ bout a guy who’s a generally upbeat, positive person? Think smiles a lot of the time, has a “happy” upbeat music taste, is easily driven to laughter, gets over negative emotions quickly, is confident and optimistic (Not that creepy fake upbeat. Not trying to force toxic positivity; he still can be visibly upset, sad, etc. but his baseline is definitely more “happy” than “neutral”. If yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/25 12:26 PM
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The kid isn’t even two yet but can pretty much understand and talk quite well; for being that young he’s really good at saying what he’s gotta say Ain’t that precious (It helps that the little guy absolutely loves me which ramps up the cuteness of it all)
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/25 04:44 PM
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One of my coworkers has a bunch of children. I’ve gotta say playing around with her infant son before work started gave me a special kind of serotonin boost for the day. As a single man it’s like hard to describe without sounding weird that you love kiddos, but alas I do Random and entirely unrelated note: I never realized before how often I get checked out or looked at but I’m just genuinely so oblivious (and the whole time I thought I was too perceptive to miss stuff like that)
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/25 04:30 PM
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The thing’s fun to talk to but damn that’s a crazy decision to be leaving to ChatGPT
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/25 12:07 PM
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Yo yo yo I mean uh…salutations there
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/25 11:24 AM
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My experience shows this is true.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/25 11:22 AM
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I swear I have a new random song obsession every few weeks and it’s always some oldie That being said, don’t know why Mr. Blue Sky has been being BUMPED by me recently. (Also that coda at the end is fuckin’ incredible)
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/25 09:31 PM
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Oh actual hell no
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/25 09:27 PM
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No. I’m actually quite the workaholic (when it’s a job I actually give a shit about)
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/25 05:56 PM
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Truth Did you also feel the type of attention you received was different? Like maybe more subtle but definitely more respect and more genuine sexuality behind the attraction?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/25 01:35 PM
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Truth I used to be a lot more baby-faced even relative to my age but now it’s like I’ve almost “caught up” in essence I can definitely say the type of attention I get is now a bit different than it used to be
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/25 12:47 PM
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Q4A: Do you guys think the skinny twink-ish but relatively less masculine pretty boy look is overrated in appeal? Or are people accurate about how attractive it is? Or maybe is it even MORE overpowered than people think? Another bonus question: do you think there’s any male look style/archetype that’s widely overestimated in appeal? (As in people in these spaces assume it works better than it does in real life) Go based on your own observations
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/25 11:46 AM
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Questions for you guys, how much do you guys reckon picture quality and type of picture impact a guy’s dating profile success? (Assume this is a regular ol dude or someone who’s decently enough good looking, not someone who never had a chance in hell)
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/25 03:21 PM
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Being able to get a woman so as compared to the type of woman you view as high quality (whatever that means to you) are two different skill sets Okay I’m exaggerating, but I think the distinction ought to be made. There’s overlap but pulling a woman is much more ridiculously easy than the latter Or at least it’s a bit different for me. Maybe I just play in too competitive of a niche
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/25 01:54 AM
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Why is it when I see people discussing dating. As in ways certain things should be done, even strategies, etc. why do self-proclaimed (or hell sometimes they just actually are) ugly dudes always feel the need to show up and say “But that won’t work if you’re ugly bro!” “But follow rules 1 and 2” etc. at least in spaces of this kind where this stuff is discussed Like dude, maybe no one was talking to you about about game plans if it’s not even a game you can play in Actually? I could roast the -c…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/25 01:48 AM
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I’ve essentially become part of a second family by working where I do I frickin’ love my life sometimes
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 05:47 PM
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I think you’re so so right about this. Not falling in is kind of a limiter Doesn’t automatically mean you’re cooked so long as you’ve still got good attributes but I could definitely see myself having higher volume if I uh..had different tastes and ways of speaking than I do
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/25 11:58 AM
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So yesterday I just had a shocking realization that never occurred to me but I realized I’ve been essentially starving myself/undereating for the last couple weeks to a months and it’s been killing me It’s a miracle I didn’t lose any muscle or anything but I for sure was experiencing the other symptoms of being undernourished I need so many more calories than I thought and it’s so easy to overlook the fact that you may need more food especially if you’re already lean and muscular
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/25 10:34 PM
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I’d argue I compete in that bottom of the “Average to attractive” SMP Things can feel tough sometimes (well to be fair this is also because of how specific my standards are) but I refuse to quit. Rather would go without for a while than settle with someone who I didn’t really want I’m not some Chad who’ll get like 30 matches in a day or something (to be fair I could probably get more matches with some pic tweaks but that’s not here yet, and still not that crazy of a number) but I’m certainly con…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/25 03:55 PM
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Agree hands down with this here Like I’m sorry but even if you’re conventionally attractive there are ways you really just ought not to behave if you want any sort of fighting chance People seem to act like behavior doesn’t matter because it doesn’t necessarily apply to ugly dudes as much (which is a strange line of logic but is commonly seen here) But oh it does matter. I’m not “Chad” or whatever but can say as a conventionally attractive person that yes, you just focus on more than just being …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/25 02:02 PM
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Astute observation, I find and concur with, my friend
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/25 02:32 AM
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Yeah I view it as part of my nature, like waking up early, or preferring spicy food, or liking big bu- You get the picture My original comment says nothing about moral failings of unfit people, though
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/25 02:25 AM
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Pretty much what I’m saying I mean I’m also a pretty different case that my life sort of revolves around my sports/physical hobbies so essentially that locks me out of seriously dating anyone who couldn’t even make it a slight importance in their life
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/25 02:00 AM
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“Muscles aren’t important to women” but yes they are if the only women you’ll even date are fit women themselves Don’t care about outliers or the “but I’m different” examples either, it’s just much more likely and that’s that
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/25 01:48 AM
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Random recent song obsession: but good hot Jesus fuck Human Nature is such an addictive song for me recently I mean i know who doesn’t like some Michael J, but this song especially is slapping extra hard to me
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/25 02:45 AM
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Assume he’ll usually be like “yeah sure I’m down”
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/25 12:59 AM
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are just dumb Probably so
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/25 08:40 PM
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I mean you could say his gym routine is dialed in, and the guy has mostly physical hobbies But his diet is more of a general “get the protein and such” but nothing much more than that and not in complete sacrifice of that good stuff
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/25 08:39 PM
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Question for my girlies here: Could you date someone where fitness is basically his entire life, pretty much? But his diet isn’t like some strict bodybuilder shit and the guy has physical hobbies outside of just lift heavy thing
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/25 07:28 PM
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Is it strange to end up in a situation where you know you’re definitely better looking and definitely get more looks and attention now than you used to, but somehow get less action due to some factor or another?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 01:38 AM
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Getting a plus one for this wedding is gonna be uh….interesting
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 02:57 AM
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Actually, yes, especially if your bosses normally wouldn’t take notice of such matters
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/25 02:41 AM
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I reckon it does have to do with charm and personality somewhat but I agree otherwise
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/25 03:01 PM
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For sure, like don’t get me wrong I make sure I’m not insufferable to be around but beyond that I make no attempts to hide my brain spiciness I’ve been recently wondering just how often this has shot me in the foot, and simultaneously just how much does the prettyboy-ness save me from it
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 12:17 PM
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I figured there are probably more of me in this place It probably has impacts on my dating life in ways I’ve not considered at all and have yet to even begin to grasp
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 12:00 PM
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Interesting I get results on the app but I’m not usually satisfied with them but yet I wonder how much this plays into it (I’m 5’8 but probably conventionally attractive)
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 11:15 AM
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I imagine It’s gonna act as more of a repellant/disqualifier in the eyes of women who are more commitment minded thinking “Oh he just wants some easy sex and nothing more.” (And I wouldn’t blame them)
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 10:11 AM
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You’re making me hungry and I already had my snack/dinner, dammit! (I won’t give in though)
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 02:19 AM
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I realized just how few of my dates/links with girls have been the conventional type of date that would come to mind More “let’s just link up and chill” scenarios than actual dates I’ve been on and actual dates feel foreign enough so as to say the idea of real dates still makes me a bit nervous That doesn’t bode well for a guy who’s decided he probably wants an actual girlfriend and not…well yeah
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 01:50 AM
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Exactly You can just tell when you dig around the argument long enough It sometimes can be formed/framed out of genuine concern or genuine belief that women don’t pick right But with the type of guy this is often coming from, it’s often a roundabout way of saying she was wrong for not popping that pussy on him
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/25 01:48 PM
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Choose better is guys literally saying, or rather, implying in a roundabout way “choose me”
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/25 01:34 PM
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I sort of wonder if there’s a psychological difference of sorts between women who prefer bigger/more filled out type of muscular guys vs the ones who prefer leaner or even borderline wiry guys after you control for age Same for guys who prefer small but shapely as opposed to the bigger, yet thick curvy type of woman
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/25 11:54 PM
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It is a spectrum, after all
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/25 11:49 PM
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I stand by the statement that the hottest big booty white girl you’ll ever meet is a Texas Roadhouse server
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/25 02:55 PM
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You know I was talking to my homie yesterday and we’re talking about a girl (recent failed talking stage of mine) and how there’s some new guy she went on a date with and how he’s this certain type of guy. While we were saying he and I are definitely different types of guys, my homie says “yeah you’re the type she’d want in the future.” To which I promptly agree You know what’s crazy though? In the past I would’ve mentally crashed out over this but nowadays I’m like you know what? That’s actuall…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/25 01:05 PM
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Exactly “You don’t get out much, do you?” is something most complainer types would definitely say “no” to Even I myself realize I probably got more action when I was more degenerate compared to my lifestyle now, even though I’m hotter now than I ever have been (albeit I do get more matches than I used to whenever I’m on apps) But minus that distraction, seeing it with your own eyes is what changes things
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 03:58 PM
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Agree with that full stop. It’s why I always raise the eyebrow when I see posts or comments from men that want a dating life but then mention a lack of any social circle in general. Like sure you could score a girlfriend without friends, but having them is how you ensure your mental health doesn’t completely collapse in on itself when she ghosts you one day or cheats on you. Or even if it goes well, it ensures you don’t have just one outlet of socialization
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 03:38 PM
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I agree with this take right here I mean make no mistake, I think to myself that I would want a girlfriend But it’s much more tolerable to be without, when I have people I consider brothers, than when I don’t. Even if we just chill and chat nonsense together, that’s far better if the alternative is constant solitude My current circle is one of my lifelines in terms of mental health for sure
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 03:28 PM
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unattractive dudes making things about themselves Hoo boy, preach! This phenomenon on this sub is common and annoying. When I see advice given, people talking about their experiences, etc. I see some variation of this shit. Not trying to shit on this kind of guy but a lot of em have a tendency to insert themselves into conversations they really just don’t have an actual seat in
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 10:32 AM
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I have a slight feeling of being the same way It probably explains how I fumble the bag so often That being said I don’t know if it’s more of a turn off or more of a “okay, something’s up here” feeling I mean not trying to play that pickme “oh shucks really, a guy like me?” Card, but her falling for me that fast would still just be a bit odd
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 10:29 AM
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This was some real shit here It’s why I can’t take the whole “women all band together like some hive mind and always have each others backs” narrative seriously It’s a sign someone probably doesn’t get around much women to me; hearing how these girls covertly shit on each other makes one go like “Yknow what? Maybes settling conflicts with fists is the lesser evil.”
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/25 01:54 AM
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Yeah this is what I was thinking
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/25 02:20 PM
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I’ll play it loose and say committed being anything where the two were considered exclusive for any sustained period of time Like presume the subject of the question hasn’t ever been exclusive even a little bit
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/25 01:40 PM
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Would you say it’s the norm for all those bodies to accumulate without a single committed relationship?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/25 01:31 PM
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Uhhh good question For arguments sake say mostly ONS and a couple short lived FWBs
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/25 08:16 PM
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Would you say it’s normal for all those to be outside a relationship entirely?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/25 08:14 PM
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Q4W: How would you feel if you were talking to/dating a guy who eventually tells you he’s relatively low n (somewhere in that 3-6 range) but hasn’t ever been in a committed relationship? (Assume the man is about your age) Actually, I suppose my dudes here can answer too though I think I have a pretty good idea of the consensus
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/25 08:04 PM
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Real shit there I can say A lot of dudes could use that mindset
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/25 08:02 PM
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being neurodivergent can be leveraged for “freak cred” This might explain why goth girls are so into me Niche wise I look like…not that niche’s type, but maybe they can sniff out the fact that I’m not quite right in the head
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/25 11:00 AM
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It’s like she’s almost my type but just isn’t really. That being said this is the type of woman where I’d meet her and know there’s a higher than normal chance she’s probably into me
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/25 12:43 PM
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Aight bruh
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/25 01:32 AM
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This question’s not about me by the way Do you think it ever happens to a guy who might not be the best looking but can pull girls hotter than he because he’s got c, y, or z about him? If so, could the reverse? Because I don’t see why not But this is all speculation and whatiffery
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/25 01:19 AM
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I think so too, but I asked the question because that’s not always the narrative on this sub Also it is possible other stuff can make it that he doesn’t ever hit at his level due to secondary factors and that’s what this question explores
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/25 01:14 AM
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He’s only getting women below his level Mostly because I don’t think there’s a such thing as a guy who could only pull hot women but not normal-looking ones
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/25 09:17 PM
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Question for y’all: how common do you believe is the phenomenon of a man who can get women, but can’t get the ones either on his looks level or perceives to be on that level? Bonus: what’s the reasoning behind your answer?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/25 05:28 PM
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Are you secretly me in disguise? Perhaps I am. It depends. You get double points if it was completely different in the past (when I was first into girls I wouldn’t even look in the direction of a basic blonde type chick, then after that I really did have no phenotype preference for a while)
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/25 10:36 AM
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Changed mine I’ll tell you that much (and I’m not even big)
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/25 09:54 PM
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I mean hey it’s all good with some self-awareness
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/25 09:54 PM
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I mean epidemic in a more relative sense As in there will be a good handful of dudes who try “gymmaxxing” (gay term but whatever) and realize it doesn’t work if they’re still social losers with no game Won’t be mainstream overall though I agree that much Ya feel me?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/25 09:43 PM
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I’m a huge advocate for going to the gym and finding physical hobbies, everyone knows this, but that shouldn’t be forgotten But for Christ’s sake I think we’re soon to have an epidemic of guys who lift weights and whatnot but still ain’t got no game at all or are straight up socially awkward weirdos In essence, people who wanted to become him but just ended up being a dork who lifts weights (which I think are more common than is believed, and probably growing)
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/25 08:24 PM
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It looks to me like the disagreement/qualm seems to occur with the claim that it’s all the same 20% of men when women mention this argument Not agreeing or disagreeing but that’s what I see
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/25 01:29 AM
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Athletic-looking girls with the typical gymnast or volleyball player physique. I used to think I didn’t have a phenotype preference but people have called me out saying I definitely seem to have a preference for white blonde type looking girls Facial shape wise I don’t think I know that well because I’ve been up and down that perspective (I myself have a long ovular face shape interestingly enough) My type used to be different in the past (I liked em chubbier or even downright fat, as long as th…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/25 11:03 PM
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I’m sorry this is just wrong Confidence very much can be grown over time or completely and utterly destroyed, and it’s some serious bias towards determinism to say it’s not malleable
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/25 10:55 PM
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The kids I coach think the signature right-eyebrow raise (think The Rock) is absolutely hilarious
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/25 05:21 AM
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I have an overly animated face too which can be of comedic value sometimes but other times I wish it weren’t the case
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/25 05:02 AM
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Oh yeah I have no doubts I’ll be back to my full gripping glory in no time (pt worked very quickly last time) and it’s only been a slight regression from where I once was so I’m not too concerned
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/25 02:32 PM
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I feel the same about having generally small wrists. Sucks doubly so having a wrist impingement that I’m gonna have to go (back) to physical therapy for in a sport that involves mostly grip strength
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/25 02:26 PM
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Yes. Yes you did I don’t blame em; validation and attention just feels good for real
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/25 03:06 AM
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You know it’s very interesting when you’re trying to date but then you realize the past experiences you’ve had no longer are as relevant to you now or barely “count” if that makes sense Whether it be because you glowed up, glowed down, had a big life change, changed your standards, or even fundamentally changed as a person, etc. Sometimes I think that’s what it’s like in my case and I have to keep reminding myself of it. Am I just crazy or anyone else gone through something similar?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/25 02:04 AM
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Hookup material: Just need to be attracted to her or willing to smash. This often is a girl who actually does carry girlfriend qualities but there are one or a couple hugely glaring red flags/flaws that would make it not work. For some guys this also may represent a girl who they perceive as being below their own level but she made it easy for him Girlfriend material: A girl where the match is there both personality and looks-wise, and mutual attraction, but there’s incompatibilities in the medi…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/25 12:34 PM
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I still stand by my argument that being good-looking doesn’t actually mean you have sex appeal Yes of course you have to pass a certain looks threshold to be sexually appealing, but I don’t often see it talked about here Honestly this’ll sound like a crazy think but I think a mid with good sex appeal who knows his audience, can get more action than a “Chad” who doesn’t have those things
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/25 01:25 PM
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When I was younger and still more or less a cel-adjacent, it was definitely encountering the occasional girl who did want to fuck me or would fuck me, that guided me into the light
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/25 05:21 PM
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Shit, good point!
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 11:15 AM
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Nah I say you’re right I didn’t even think about it till quite recently where I was like Yeah, I could’ve definitely smashed had i focused on both making it logistically convenient and setting a mood for smashing to happen Matter of fact I’ve realized how haphazard my dates have been in general and it’s probably not the best way to approach things…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 02:49 AM
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How common do you think the following are for men across the looks spectrum? women looking/glancing at Getting likes and/or matches on dating apps gettin’ flirted with smashin’ How common do you estimate/guess each of these occurrences are for: average-looking men, slightly ugly men, decent-looking men, ugly men, and hot men respectively? I have a couple guesses of my own but want to gather the opinions of the masses (might make a female version)
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 01:35 AM
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Reddit women seem to think sex is all about mutual masturbation only and PIV doesn’t exist I see it sometimes and it’s so laughable Like nah I’m sorry, most women I’ve seen do quite enjoy actual PIV and the idea of it. Tell them that the relationship won’t ever go past handy-land and you’d be metaphorically laughed out of that bedroom
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 01:02 AM
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In terms of actually attainable body shapes for women, this general type is one of my favorites I might have to howl
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/25 12:19 AM
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For better or for worse, it can in fact make a difference I’ve had moments where I saw a coworker or friend dressed a certain way and it sort of made me see them in a completely different light as if a switch was flipped in my mind, as weird as that sounds. I don’t know, it’s probably just me being a sucker for yoga pants, and certain types of shorts, and athletic clothing in general It hits a part of the monkey brain I can’t describe, ya feel me?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/25 08:25 PM
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I think it’s about both for me tbh Her mindset of fitness being unimportant would be turn off for an LTR for me Albeit yes that’s probably got a lot to do with Fitness being sexier and being more likely to maintain sexiness
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/25 07:09 PM
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I’m an active guy who can’t ever seem to stop moving. Tl;dr: very important. I will not date a woman who places zero emphasis on her physical health and figure. Both because it’s hot and it’s compatibility I go to the gym pretty regularly, I’m a competitive athlete, I coach that same sport, and also do combat sports (when I can) too because why not. I’d like to think I’m in noticeably good physical shape It’s among the highest priorities of things I look for in a girl. Matter of fact, it’s a dis…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/25 07:06 PM
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Old geezer lookin’ ahh (I’m just playin with you unc) You know what though? That reminds me that I remember a conversation I was in with some friends where they were sayin’ how only in recent times is it seen as somewhat normal to openly “have hoes” and to be somewhat judged as being not attractive enough if you can’t receive that And before then like you said it was considered more normal to just be sort of in a relationship here, another one there with some gaps in between I mean i imagine you…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 06:44 PM
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Nah, there’s definitely correlations there While these things don’t exist as autistically calculated numbers and data points, the vague idea is still there
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 06:18 PM
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Yeah no kidding In opposition what guys here often seem to think, I personally don’t feel it’s a flex I mean don’t get me wrong it’s cool to be not seen as a dickless dork (coming from someone who used to sort of be seen as one), but being someone who finds hooking up to be quite empty makes it moreso like “Shit, forget hooking up! If I don’t improve those secondary traits I might never find the quality of relationship I want.” (That and also there are uh…quality differences it seems so)
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 06:16 PM
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I might have asked this before and just be tripping now but I’ll just ask the dumb question anyway You usually hear complaints of the opposite, but does anyone else have thoughts that they actually might have a higher SMV than RMV? (Even if neither of them is super high or anything) I’m thinking this is probably the case for me (Whether it be because of just lacking the RMV traits to begin with or having certain traits that just completely nullify the good RMV ones)
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/25 06:04 PM
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It’s true; first worlders are privileged as all get out. I’d argue in my own case I’m even still more privileged than most first-worlders Even though I’m not a fan of the “starving children in Africa” method as a way to brush complaints and criticisms off, I think you can still see the lint
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/25 03:47 PM
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While I’m not the guy you were asking, if you’re in a position where “life is boring” is your worst problem? You’re actually doing pretty damn good relatively speaking This is coming from someone who goes mental if he’s bored; I still say it’s a pretty good problem to have
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/25 03:41 PM
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I think you’re overall valid I can see the equivalence I just wanted to be pedantic and point out how social awkwardness is a practical barrier that prevents you from even entering the game most of the time vs how being fat is like you can still play the game but it’s just on a much higher difficulty So many skills are just lost if you’re too socially anxious as a guy. Possibly can’t recognize flirting, flirt back, chain flirting into a real “thing”, or even be in situations where he’s talking t…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/25 02:43 AM
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I make it sound like I’m at a crossroads but realistically I know my brain won’t let me just stop unfortunately Mama ain’t raise no little bitch quitter, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/25 02:12 PM
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Is it weird if part of me wants to like stop dating but both my ego and libido make it that I refuse to? Idk, might kill me in the long run or something but I suppose onward I press
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/25 12:34 PM
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Yes and no There are some arbitrary measures people set not because of attraction, but because they “think” it’s how it should be. That’s arbitrary Outside of those, you’re attracted to what you’re attracted to Like for instance, I’m into fit girls, but if I started restricting based on exact weight or exact curve ratios, then that would be arbitrary and a new level of idiotic (because who can look and immediately know these things?) Or how a girl can be into tall dudes; that’s fine though most …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/25 11:23 AM
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It’s bad, pretty bad I’d say A lot of young people are stuck in this cognitively dissonant state where they take plenty of pictures of themselves and post themselves on social media which normally would indicate they find themselves attractive but in their minds actually struggling to find themselves as so on some days It’s interesting really. Social media and dating apps definitely haven’t helped matters in any good way
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/25 02:13 PM
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If it’s overdone in early stages yes it’ll kill it If it’s overdone in general yes it could kill it Being sometimes silly shouldn’t otherwise be enough to kill attraction completely Childish generally will kill it faster and harder though
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 10:10 AM
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I hate when people here -Anyone, men, women, redpill, bluepill, blackpilled, or whatever other descriptor fits them Acts like shallowness is something exclusive or done worse by one gender, or is exclusively done by “bad” people or is exclusively done by “people you don’t want a relationship with anyway” Wrong in every way, and the latter two sentiments are annoying because they’re clearly a way to help someone sleep at night Like nah G, it’s not that the team is being unfair for not picking you…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 12:37 AM
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What if the real looks-pill isn’t “Women only want Chad” but “Only Chad gets actual quality relationships” Not saying I agree or disagree but just putting that out there, like what if though
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/25 10:02 PM
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Oh yeah, my job is semi-physical being a coach and all, and of course while I’m at work I train That being said flexibility (and lower abs) are a quite notable weak spot for me, in spite of being quite fast and strong, as my contemporaries point out
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 01:31 PM
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I be thinking about doing yoga simply because it’ll probably increase my longevity as an athlete overall
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/25 12:45 PM
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Being out here playing the game be having me feeling some type of way sometimes for real. I don’t have it as bad as some dudes say they do but like damn. But at the same time I can’t just withdraw because well…obvious reasons Furthermore, to give up would feel like some weird admission that I’m unworthy or just couldn’t hack it and was too much of a bitch Maybe I’m just crazy for thinking that
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/25 01:31 AM
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One that people don’t seem to call out but it’s kinda the weirder you think about it People who talk about how they want their thug/gangbanger/hood dude but seem to want a fairytale ending with said dude (If you know, you know) Not to say it’s impossible, but it’s such a “Really?” moment Generally, anytime your preferences lack congruency it’s gonna turn out kinda weird in its own way
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/25 12:18 AM
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Generally would agree If you’re anywhere in that “pretty cute” to “regular hot” range it’s much more possible Anything above regular hot and yeah it’s really hard to fail at that point
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/25 03:30 PM
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I mean not gonna lie I’ve pulled out of meeting girls at last minute or just ceased talking to a few girls before because something or other told me “this won’t be worth the time/energy/gas/all of the above” This being said what’s strange to me is that being somewhat attractive now (debatably) is actually a recent development compared to the general span of my post-pubescent life so far (also becoming a somewhat different “type” of good-looking compared to how it was before, which definitely swi…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/25 04:18 AM
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You know, I didn’t really realize it till now but when it comes to dating I actually deal with some serious impostor syndrome and it fucks with my chances sometimes Leads to fumbles and all kinds of stupid shit that sends me down the wrong way Tough thought pattern to break I will say
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/25 03:13 AM
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Similar case of a dude at the restaurant I used to work at Good-looking guy and around 5’11 and very much could’ve had any woman he wanted to in that restaurant Didn’t pull because he like…didn’t make moves. Was also too oblivious to read flirting in general. While I don’t think it was autism he definitely was a little slower upstairs than most people I hate to say it because I love the guy, but it’s just true
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 09:15 PM
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I remember i had this discussion in a similar space a while back and now I’m remembering it But I wonder how common it is (or if it even happens) to have dudes who are good-looking enough in their own right but are socially too low-caliber, too dorky, or too autistic to actually get the girls they want or are on their level. (This relegating them to having to date down or be single entirely) Do you guys think this basically ever happens on any real scale? If so how commonly do you think this occ…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/25 03:59 AM
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Real shit I personally don’t feel as though I’m big enough as I’d like, but even having visible muscle tone with broad shoulders makes a difference I feel
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 05:58 PM
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It’s hilarious how one thing people overcomplicate us the mere fact that if people look at you constantly, or someone constantly, it means they’re attractive. It’s quite simple It might not mean that specific person wants you (especially because kids and babies do this a lot too), but it does say something good usually It could be striking ugliness, but that’s usually so evident it’s not a question if you truly were Honestly if you’ve ever wondered how attractive you are, this is the prime quest…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 01:49 AM
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It’s strange because I can simultaneously agree looks matter hella But at the same time acknowledge the spiraling about looks just ain’t worth the time or mental energy beyond “doing what I can to be hot as possible”
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/25 12:33 AM
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I’m not sure since I’ve never been in a committed relationship That being said someone who’s high energy as me probably works so long as it cuts off occasionally or they can turn it off occasionally For instance my current best friend and I are both high-energy and we kinda balance each other because it’s sometimes like we almost “take turns” with who’s being more energetic at that time
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/25 02:05 PM
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Oh how I wish it could be trusted But alas, the potential of great evil within is part of the allure, I suppose
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/25 01:53 PM
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You know it’s over when people say the fact that you have a lot of energy comes across even over textual format Oh well, where my girlies that like ADHD dudes at?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/25 01:16 PM
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but she had a big ass Tale as old as time for fellas
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/25 01:12 PM
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Agreed I was thinking to myself “this isn’t drastic catfishing but it’s certainly no longer a fair representation” Which to be fair I’d like to think I’m more attractive now than I was then anyway, so funnily enough it would almost be reverse catfishing
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/25 03:06 PM
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Oh yeah the pic quality itself isn’t an issue (at least….once I free some storage on my phone) Just posing, getting someone who can take good ones, and good situation-ing And then being actually satisfied enough with them myself which is the hard part
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/25 03:05 PM
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You know I’ve told myself I’m not gonna let myself back to Hinge or Tinder without a good amount new, high-quality pics Because I’ve come to a crazy realization that the pics I’ve been using, while decent enough pics, are no longer accurate. Those pics are about 20 lbs ago, with less “beard” and a couple less inches of hair on my head (That 20 lbs I’ve gained since those pics is mostly muscle) Now to go about actually getting them…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/25 01:31 PM
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I know what endorphins and dopamine are lmao This being said, I guess I was born fit or something? Idk I’ve always had the sensation of it feeling great, sort of…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/25 04:00 AM
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Where’s the fun in that? There’s inherent physical and mental pleasure in pushing myself physically Maybe someone who doesn’t experience that wouldn’t get it
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/25 03:32 AM
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Duh. Don’t wanna end up a gymcel looksmaxxing nerd who’s scared of women Im quite very against the idea that improving your objective stats is all you need. Nah if ya can’t talk to ‘em or navigate dealing with them, well, the results are likely what you won’t want My post above is just about calling out the people who try to moralize against improving your looks in the gym
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/25 03:29 AM
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Uh…duh
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/25 03:27 AM
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I agree with all this, pretty much Even the girls who are into fat men, are into fat but strongly built dudes Even girls who are into skinny guys, like the skinny athletic types
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/25 04:43 PM
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In light of my other comment being automod-ed, I can reemphasize this point here. Saying “Don’t lift for women because the women who’ll like you for that are just shallow and low qualityyy!” is such nonsensical bullshit. (It’d be a different argument entirely if you were arguing that it just doesn’t work at attracting women at all, but that’s not what I’m highlighting here. For the record, I think the argument that it doesn’t do anything is also erroneous) Like oh yeah totally shallow. I’m sure …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/25 04:03 PM
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They were delusional enough to believe people really don’t think about looks or that everyone gets equal treatment despite their outsides I mean maybe it’s just me; I always knew people were superficial enough that being not fat was gonna change how I was treated. Or at least since around late middle school I came to this realization I was never treated like complete shit, but I wanted better than just being “there, I guess” and well…when I saw how fit, muscular men are treated, it didn’t take m…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/25 03:47 PM
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Trust a low trust? I think NOT
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/25 02:43 AM
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I’m a high-trust looking person myself Some days can’t decide whether I love it or whether I hate it
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/25 04:04 PM
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Being good-looking and having actual sex appeal are cooperative partners; they are not one in the same, ya bums
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/25 04:54 PM
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Yeah not gonna lie it’s kinda funny seeing women be oh-so confident that they’d be a hot guy if they were swapped gender Or what’s funny is seeing “oh I’ve pulled girls as a girl so I’d do fine as a guy” And I’m like there is just no way it’s a 1:1 comparison or skillset needed
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/25 01:46 PM
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My job doesn’t have tons of manual labor but I can end up doing a lot of physical stuff in one day if I choose to If I’m going nutty then my appetite does get even bigger
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/24 02:41 AM
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You know, I’m not even that big or that muscular but for fuck sake, being 170 lbs of relatively lean* mass, while being young and active my appetite is usually through the roof Even on days where I’m just existing, I have to eat so much and so often just to not get headaches and shit (* I say “relatively lean” because I’m probably around 15% bodyfat, so I’m still kinda fat, but also I’m not exactly sure what the percentage is) Any of my other gym going makes be experiencing having an absolutely …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/24 02:27 AM
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The bubbly ones are just the best Can legitimately be a feeling of “you know, maybe shit isn’t so bad” when you’re going through it fr
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/24 02:24 AM
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Yeah I’ll say the basis is a bit erroneous but not entirely Dudes whining about women definitely are a lot less likely to ever get much, if any attention or action I mean It’s just conventionally obvious that someone who gets tons of action isn’t complaining about women’s standards in a market that they do qualify in just fine It’s possible to be successful and dissatisfied, but I still don’t get what whining does for you (Hell, I’m in a category where I’m similar in that a lot of dudes would sa…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 05:56 PM
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Those options you listed are encompassed in the options I said Unless one plans on continuing to whine while getting a dog, or learning how to please yourself, or traveling abroad
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 05:20 PM
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Right like I’m not a generally fearful person at all; generally I’m confident in my ability to handle direct confrontations But for fuck sake I don’t feel anywhere close to completely comfortable going over to some girl’s house if we don’t know each other well before that Even upon vetting her and being pretty sure I’ll be fine, there’s always that voice in the back of my brain (For the record this is also why I don’t bring girls over as often as I could; I make sure my ass is covered in those f…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 05:09 PM
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This ain’t that likely to happen Not to dismiss safety concerns or anything, but personally I’d be more afraid she’s a psycho who tries to stab me after becoming overly attached, or that she’s trying to set me up (ngl I’ve noped out on some potential hookups before because I was paranoid I was about to get set up and robbed lmao)
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 05:02 PM
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I mean, the question is, how’s it BS if there’s not really any other option? In a predicament where someone is failing to date how they want to or who they want to, their options are mostly Stop whining and do your best to get the results you want Stop whining and quit the game entirely to go do something else Keep whining and focusing on how unfair it is, to absolutely no avail*, thus wasting a load of mental energy for no reason (*the whining won’t magically make fuckboys commit, it won’t get …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 04:55 PM
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Man I can’t wait to get back into training MMA regularly again Just gotta wait till I’m making enough more money that I can afford it without even having to take a second look That being said balancing two sports, the gym, and work, takes a special kind of person On this note, what am I doing today? Working and probably training after work; also in a bit of a contemplative mood about how I’ve managed to fumble so many talking stages
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 02:38 PM
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That’s cuz weak men ick women out Even if the stronger more dominant ones have a higher chance to hurt them I don’t make the rules
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 12:03 PM
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So I will say there’s a difference, socially speaking Incels are weird and that lingo just comes off just real strange to a normal person. It definitely doesn’t help that they’re expressing resentment over the fact that no girlie has ever popped pussy on them While rappers come off misogynistic, they do it in a way considered much cooler and socially accepted (oh yeah and they also have money and status which helps). They’re bragging that they already have women You’d be surprised at the shit yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/24 11:19 AM
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Nah the types definitely matter from what I see and experience Take two dudes who are moderately handsome on the same “level” One guy styles and has the energy of a douchey fuckboy and the other one is a lot more of a golden retriever They won’t get the same volume of girls, or the same type of girls. Furthermore, their relations with said girls won’t have the same quality or length.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 02:42 PM
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This ain’t what I meant but alright then
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/24 02:25 PM
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Sometimes that happens where I’ll look and think “nah he ugly fr” But I have actually seen posts from alleged “incels” that are actually good-looking To presume all incels are correct in their reasoning and identifying it, is erroneous
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/24 12:59 PM
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There’s different types of “good-looking”, different types of “average”, and different types of “ugly”! Subtypes and differences within the general category of being hot, average, or ugly, are generally more of a difference maker than not This especially goes when looking for advice; telling the internet that you’re “average” or “fairly attractive” tells only some of the story
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/24 04:17 AM
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Yeah I’ve met some girls where I’d say damn they’re hot but they’re genuinely too annoying for me to actually see them on a light of being attracted to them
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/24 05:46 PM
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Oh yes absolutely. Why would I change your view if it’s just kinda very obviously true, as well as being backed both scientifically and by pure conventional wisdom? Looking the way I do definitely made me more aware of this since Presentation is the difference between me looking like a smart respectable young man or like I just might be ready to crash out (Or like a fuckboy, apparently)
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/24 04:09 PM
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A good bit, I’d argue It doesn’t matter as much as general body language does, but it ties in for sure; walking slouched and looking unconfident definitely ain’t gonna do you any favors I’d say gait matters maybe almost as much as fashion but not quite, and not as much as body language matters
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/24 04:05 PM
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Yeah; I generally hate it but have to live with it; I genuinely don’t think I can sound un-adhd I mean I can slow down to become more intelligible and not sound as hyperactive but don’t think I can ever remove that “vibe” from my voice
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/24 04:21 AM
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This is so cool! Why thank you! It’s one of those random things/tidbits I always like to drop when it’s convenient, especially because it makes no sense in context Also Swedish is so cool. How much would you say is a “bit”?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/24 04:13 AM
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That’s cuz my voice is generally funny-sounding Not helped because the cadence and pitch of my voice involuntarily shifts whenever I’m not speaking English; even my laugh changes for some reason
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/24 04:02 AM
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What? Forgotten that I’ve got this little trick up my sleeve?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/24 03:46 AM
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https://voca.ro/1eM2RY7b2ZoF Okay, so two things, I am sorta congested right now and this sound even more like absolute shit than usual, and also it comes out in shit quality for some reason so eh But I guess this is my voice reveal, featuring one itty bitty interesting thing about my speech patterns that I don’t really ever speak about here (If you need a transcript I can provide)
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/24 03:27 AM
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I have some days where I’m like “truth” and other days where I doubt it But even then, it’s like. If you take two identical-looking clones and one of them is great at flirting and the other is awkward, well…. (Especially being me; whose game is sometimes in the zone but sometimes quite egregiously bad, I can physically see the differences play out)
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/24 07:59 PM
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You’d be surprised at just how batshit crazy some of the takes I’ve seen about this are
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/24 07:50 PM
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I’d love to see the autists who say that game and ability to talk to girls doesn’t matter, actually talk to women and try to pick them up (And yes I’m aware there are points where it matters not as much and I’m aware game doesn’t magically turn a hell no into a yes. I know it’s not a magic bullet or anything)
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/24 07:42 PM
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Yes, just car accident stuff a couple months back
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/24 07:40 PM
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Makes sense to me tbh Tats are cool for sure but I have my doubts to the point that I doubt it’s worth it (because what if turns out I don’t like?)
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/24 05:54 PM
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Kinda sucks knowing if I got tats, dressed differently, and made some more stylistic tweaks it would probably dramatically increase my appeal Because that paints an image for myself that I definitely wouldn’t want and to be frank I’m iffy on the quality of whom that would attract But I might be full of it( who knows
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/24 05:32 PM
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Nice, I see your point I still gain nothing from “holding those groups accountable” or “blaming” them for anything and neither does anyone else I mean unless a brief sense of moral superiority is enough of its own benefit
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/24 05:26 PM
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Giving outside a pass for being an awful place If we run with the idea that outside is an awful place or whatever, then still, what other choice do I have than to give it a pass? There’s not a single person I can hold accountable or any specific entity that I can; outside is a nebulous mass comprised of different people, identities, cultures, mannerisms, etc Generally speaking I find improving oneself makes outside less awful but what do I know; maybe I’m too much of a “Chad” or whatever to know…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/24 04:40 PM
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Dorks usually haven’t got the balls to make moves and tbh that’s my main reason for assuming they ain’t getting any play But hey it’s always a pleasant surprise to be wrong in these instances
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/24 04:03 PM
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People say that because that’s realistically his only choice. His choices are continue to self isolate and stay where it’s comfortable, or to go outside If he does the former then he gives up the ability to complain about lacking social skills or dating ability, because the only way you can get better is by going through it and experience The latter is his only real option to do anything about it. Even if it sucks and is gonna be uncomfortable, what else is he realistically gonna do about it? Do…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/24 04:01 PM
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21, 4. I’m fairly certain it could be higher if I had a combo of lower inhibitions and lower standards (and if I drank and/or partied more especially) I occasionally think fuck it, screw a relationship, maybe I should just go out and try to get some left and right, but I’m probably not at a point where I need more empty victories and ego boosts. Something stable is probably the goal
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/24 02:35 PM
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You got anything to actually back that up or are you talking out the sides of your mouth here? That being said, if you reread my last comment you see why I said what I said; seemed OP wanted to speak on besides being ugly
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/24 03:50 AM
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The reason I didn’t go there is that he barred being ugly (I mean I know he said grotesquely but still) This isn’t something I need explained to me
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/24 03:26 AM
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Yes they exist It’s called having no game and/or generally being socially awkward Can also sometimes be from lacking that overall experience too (didn’t flirt in HS/college and thus becoming an adult without flirting experience even if social skills are otherwise good)
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/24 02:03 AM
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TRP has multiple issues and also some things it does right, but one unique problem with it that no one mentions much is that simply put, the target audience There’s just too many people in its target audience that will never have that dawg in them that the ideology says they should; they’d be wasting much less time by developing game catered to their own personal tastes, natural temperament, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 05:24 PM
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That’s where my logic goes. A lot of cases of the idea of gamer girls being one thing, but irl you remember reputations and stereotypes exist for a reason Dork-ettes aren’t always more appealing than their male counterparts, let’s just say that….
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/24 07:56 PM
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Fair; I’m probably just not enough of a gamer to understand the hype really
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/24 06:32 PM
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Thoughts, am I just crazy fellas, or does it seem gamer girls are greatly overhyped and overrated? Is it just me who doesn’t think it sounds all that great to have a “gamer girlfriend” moreso than a general girlfriend? On this note Q4A: What’s the most overrated niche/archetype of man/woman? What about underrated? (Spare me a speech about how people are more than just traits or niches; I already know that)
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/24 06:04 PM
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WDYT I think you’re wrong. Simply put, actions speak louder than words and no one is exempt from this rule None of the shit a woman says to virtue signal matters at all if who she dates in reality isn’t reflective of what she says. “Height doesn’t matter” but has a pattern of fucking tall guys? “Doesn’t prefer ‘bad boys’” but exes are all supposedly shitty? Yeah no one’s buying that and they shouldn’t be expected to. “Height doesn’t matter” and she’s dated all over the spectrum of height? “Emoti…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/24 04:04 PM
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No, I haven’t Not saying that’s how anyone should operate but it sure does throw a wrench in that notion that women are like completely unbothered being single or somethin’ of that sort
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/24 09:56 PM
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I used to follow that notion that women are okay single while men aren’t Seeing women who continue to choose to date men and be charmed by them, despite the experiences they have, told me otherwise
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/24 09:48 PM
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Just texted that one cheerleader chick I mentioned a while ago, who’s been caught eyeing me It’s strange that I was that nervous to shoot a DM because generally I’d say being nervous to even send a text is such weakness But alas, let’s go gambling! Update: Yeah I had zero reason to be nervous; I’ boutta go nutty
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/24 07:48 PM
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That’s a great idea, even if just so you have something funny you can laugh to yourself about later
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/24 07:39 PM
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The first scenario is strange but sounds to me like that money isn’t a big deal for that guy and it sound like some strange kink in their relationship more than anything The second would be a quick way to crush someone’s ego entirely. Getting cheated on while you’re paying her bills and letting her live in your house, is an entirely different level of betrayal. I could see even a level-headed dude crashing out over that That being said, what the fuck?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/24 11:13 PM
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I’m someone who works with kids. And I love kids when they aren’t being little devils, and they love me (usually) As you can imagine I fucking hate this line of thinking. (Responded to the wrong comment earlier but I’m leaving it up anyway)
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/24 03:52 PM
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Okay yeah I will agree that their bios and prompts suck absolute ass (idk how much better/worse men’s are cuz I don’t ever see them) but as for the pics? Yeah it ain’t that hard to look appealingly provocative to the male gaze Abso-fuckingly do Your imperative I suppose. There’s just no actual way I’m gonna see a woman get on a dating app looking a certain and believe she’s not doing it for male attention in some fashion.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/24 02:25 PM
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appeal to the male gaze It’s not that hard to do; most female profiles that put in effort do appeal to the male gaze in some fashion state that none of their make up and dressing…. And you believe that? On a dating app no less?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/24 01:33 PM
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I’m someone who works with kids. Love kids when they aren’t being little devils, and they love me As you can imagine I fucking hate this line of thinking.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/24 08:33 AM
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Being a gym-obsessed athlete myself, I can say BMI fuckin’ sucks; doesn’t tell nearly enough of the story Similar case for specific numbers on scales; everyone holds weight differently if we’re talking from an aesthetic perspective. (Someone with a very short torso, yet long limbs speaking here; makes the way I carry weight real weird) Personally I’m not into girls who aren’t active and generally even a fat girl who goes to the gym wouldn’t exactly be my choice; chubby could be considered if the…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/24 03:07 PM
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It makes sense It’s something I try not to think about but my voice somehow being both raspy but also a really strange pitch has probably blocked me from a date or two before It’s in this weird spot where it wants to be a deep voice and kinda is but also can be squealy/higher pitched and nerdy-sounding, depending on the affect I have going at the moment
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/24 01:50 AM
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Ah yes. The famed white girl; my type in which I kinda hate the fact that it’s my type
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/24 02:22 AM
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I can confidently say. Meeting someone who actually peaked in high school, and learning that it’s not just a movie stereotype, is actually the saddest thing ever Also I find that it’s funny how much this sub you’ll see lamentations about not experiencing teenage love or not having as much fun in your teen years But to me, high school was relatively shit compared to how life has improved since then. It hasn’t even been very long at all and I can say that I wouldn’t trade a single aspect of my lif…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/24 03:15 AM
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It’s usually one of the main determining factors of if they’re just approaching dating and dealing with the opposite sex in a logical way or need something to hold against women as a whole If anyone says that shit then argues “nuh-uh” when it comes to men, that’s how you know they’re full of shit
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/24 03:03 AM
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<image> Eh fuck it, face reveal and somewhat of a physique reveal (No I was not gonna clean that mirror just for this picture) Also I never know what facial expression to use in pictures
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/24 03:38 AM
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This face reveal/physique reveal train looks fun but I have my reservations. Part of me kinda wanna do it but I have my reservations, but also I don’t know Side but completely random note: as much as my love life completely and utterly sucks right now, at least I can say I’m currently in the best bromance of my life so far. Having genuinely close friends (on this level) is something else for real; bro and I are most certainly in love
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/24 03:20 AM
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Fair I’m decent enough looking but not a Chad imo My way of thinking has always been it’s at a point where I know guys who aren’t quite good-looking as me, but shoot many shots, have more social game on their side, and overall put more effort into it, so thus they get laid more than I do I’ve also met dudes better-looking than me who I know I know I could outdo because they just will not shoot shots, or even take the easy shots when given to them Being somewhere toward the middle gives perspecti…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/24 06:32 PM
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Nah for real and only on this sub (and before in certain cringe blackpill spaces) have I seen people disagree with this basic, common sense knowledge this often
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/24 12:55 PM
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False equivalence there; “might not work” doesn’t equal “completely pointless” imo Some guys go and get zero, some guys go and see a small increase, other guys make complete 180s when they started losing weight and gaining muscle But beyond that it’s rare I see a dude with some muscle mass to him, that gets zero female interest. That being said yeah if you’re gonna try go to the gym regularly you’d better make sure there’s a component to it besides just female validation anyway (because even if …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/24 07:00 PM
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I hate to triple-dip on the daily thread but fuck it I just noticed something funny. the past weeks where I’ve not had a car, my life has ironically gotten more socially active since then when I more or less assumed it would completely die Don’t know if it’s coincidence or not but I’ve been hangin out with friends and “gone out” much more this past month or so than I had for much of the year, and plus getting rides places means a whole lot more yapping going on. It’s a double-edged sword though,…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/24 06:57 PM
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Based Humans finding ways to stay fit, and lifting heavy things purposefully, has been something we’ve always done and continue to do The modern world full of schlubby men who think it’s okay to be weak, are far more of the outliers than those who don’t think this
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/24 05:43 PM
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Can lift and can do it with ease are a bit different Also comparing going to the gym with working a physical job is fallacious and not very accurate It’s not even remotely on the same scale and shows you’re not quite sure what you’re talking about
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/24 05:38 PM
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that you have no need to lift Gonna have to call BS on this one. When you can lift somewhat appreciably; normal life becomes much easier, you get a higher working capacity when there’s stuff that needs to be done If you do have other hobbies that involve moving around, it makes you less likely to injure yourself doing those it doesn’t make you healthier …Seriously? The level of which you’d be putting considerable strain on your joints and ligaments is if you were some sort of competitive powerli…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/24 05:02 PM
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Most other forms of moving ‘round, don’t do as well to strengthen joints and ligaments the way lifting does Makes the bod so much more efficient at everything it can do
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/24 04:45 PM
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I’ll slander the twigs every and all day
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/24 04:42 PM
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Cope; sedentary lifestyles are often way more harmful than being strong and conditioned
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/24 04:41 PM
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You know, I can’t understand men (usually blackpillers) who justify not going to the gym with “well some women don’t mind skinny/skinnyfat guys when they’re handsome” Literally as in I just can’t understand the thought process that would make someone okay with walking around as a skinnyfat schlub or some scrawny twig who looks snappable Regardless of the fact that yeah, of course some women, especially younger ones, don’t entirely mind scrawny guys and whatnot Still, just why would you accept lo…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/24 04:03 PM
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Not to mention when it comes to women who are chronically on the apps well….there may or any not be a couple reasons why she can’t get a date normally Either that if she likes the boost and attention from apps (possibly correlating with liking the boost and validation from casual sex)
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/24 07:03 AM
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I say some would think mainly because there’s a uh…certain crowd that almost seems to ignore that factor Mostly it seems just when the hyperfocus is on looks, some seem to forget that part. That part where shooting a lot of shots often can and does net results; more than just “being Chad” would
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/24 02:14 AM
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It definitely is because it’s easy to ignite the “But muh CHAD DOESN’T HAVE to put in effort to get laid!” Crowd Where I’m like yeah he needs less but the guys I knew and meet who got laid the absolute most? It’s a combo of low standards and having fairly low inhibitions, and this just kind of shooting their shot whenever they feel like it, as often as they feel like it Even if they’re good-looking, they don’t just sit there and look pretty
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 11:40 PM
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My first guess would be one of these The guy who is getting action, simply shoots more shots whereas the less fortunate guy just isn’t putting in as many reps. He could just be using more avenues and putting more effort into getting laid (this matters more than some would think) Other guy is more charismatic, around women in his social circles more, and has social proof, thus allowing him more chances to take high-percentage shots compres to blindly firing hoping to score a date If both guys are…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/24 08:25 PM
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I mean it seems you went out of your way to describe a partner who is not remotely stimulating and can’t even at the very least entertain anything interesting So uh…yeah it’d probably be over Unless I actually meet someone like this and I end up catching a case of love goggles for them*, I’ve no reason to believe I’d settle for someone this thoroughly meh (*which I’m not saying is impossible or won’t happen)
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/24 08:00 PM
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Fair enough. In that case I’d still be done in by Can’t keep up in “deep conversations” And Not interesting While I don’t consider myself particularly philosophical, profound or crazy “deep”; at least being able to venture beyond the surface level is the bare minimum imo
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/24 04:28 PM
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No gym Nope, automatic full stop without even needing to know the rest (since I’m assuming this also means no other hobby that focuses on keeping at least somewhat fit)
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/24 02:55 PM
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In my case I can confidently say the stereotypes are weird mix of hurtful and harmful But when it comes to me well….I can’t say they’re all entirely wrong (Though some are dead wrong when it comes to me)
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/24 12:47 PM
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Bruh. This does not happen wtf. I approached when I was babyfaced and skinnyfat; never had a girl make a big scene or fuss over a rejection
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/24 10:50 PM
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I’m not a habitual overfocuser on tone; here it seems pertinent to me though
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 03:01 PM
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No I believe it definitely does happen But i also believe that shit just comes with the game Idk maybe I’m just seeing things with the wording, seems like they wanna paint themselves in that “Me so shy and awkward” light to me
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 01:38 PM
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Whenever I see threads about how to flirt with men or something like that (asked by women) i swear when men reply with shit like “Oh I never would think she’s flirting, always assume friendly!” And/or “She could literally kiss me and I wouldn’t think anything of it” It seems like male pickme shit. Tryna earn points with some “oh no way could she be into me” type of attention seeking Drop your fucking nuts, god damn (Edit: and yes I know women who flirt for attention exist and that yes misinterpr…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 01:23 PM
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The more masculine guy has an edge here in that he’ll get more women that actually like him imo That being said, this is assuming he can afford to means to meet and date these women But if he’s meeting them he should do miles better than the other guy
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 01:20 PM
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I just might howl at the moon
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/24 09:11 AM
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Very interesting point made I myself am in a similar boat. Above average physique for sure (probably not top 5% of population depending on how we measure it but idk) and depending on who you ask, either an average or noticeably good-looking face
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/24 09:42 PM
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Uh-huh And what would be the case if he’s not sub5?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/24 04:29 PM
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How hard do you guys think it is for a man to pull his looksmatch? What about for women? (Assume both the hypothetical man in this scenario, and the women in her scenario, both want relationships) Oh and bonus question, how hard do you think it is for a man to ONS his looksmatch?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/24 04:17 PM
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It wasn’t very poppy; had elements of what felt like rock but maybe I’m wrong
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/24 12:39 AM
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Luke Bryan was our main guy Forgot the opening act folks but they were chump change compared to Luke man himself
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/24 12:19 AM
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I can believe this However a glance tells me the most popular time for dating apps are January and February and it’s honestly kinda hard to take SAD being the actual serious reason for this That being said it’s also possible my premise is incorrect altogether and that I’m not actually experiencing a difference throughout the times of the year
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/24 11:51 PM
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Part of me doubts it being that,even being someone who’s generally in a much lower mood that time of year. I do wonder just how common that is how though Now however if men all over reported a similar phenomenon that women seem to be a little colder during that time of year (get it, get it?) then I could believe this
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/24 11:44 PM
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True I felt notes of several other genres there
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/24 11:38 PM
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Two things One, I had no idea country concerts could be that cool, or that it’d feel so nice to dress like a cowboy again for the first time in like 12 years. My music taste now is just “everything” whereas it used to be “everything but country” Second thing: idk if I’m just seeing stuff or if it’s patterns or a coincidence or what but I swear if memory serves properly girls seem to find me more attractive during the warmer and brighter months compared to the colder and darker part of the year. …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/24 11:24 PM
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Jeez, it gets exhausting trying to figure out that balance of being sexually appealing enough to not come off as a wangless dork but also not to come off so much as a fuckboy to the point of only being good for fuckin’ Though the latter is honestly what’s a bit more difficult
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/24 04:27 PM
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21 and single, never been in actual committed relationship
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/24 04:16 PM
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A couple women wanting this or that doesn’t mean a guy would be out here failing to get any matches Also women who want relationships fall for fuckboys’ traps all the time; it’s how they got that nickname
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/24 12:38 AM
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Someone who’s hot is still gonna get matches, even if he gives fuckboy vibes No one’s inbox is empty because they look like a fuckboy
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/24 08:43 PM
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Now this I can agree with Looking like a fuckboy probably does come with slightly different expectations than usual
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/24 05:42 PM
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“Not everyone” would not equate to said guy struggling to get any matches at all Also fuckboys come in many forms aside from frat dudes, to be pedantic
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/24 05:34 PM
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You’ll get left swiped Not struggle to get any likes or matches at all
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/24 05:28 PM
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It’s supposed to be, but a guy wouldn’t be struggling to get swipes if he were attractive enough to even look like he could be a fuckboy When you see the types of guys who absolutely break Hinge; you kinda see through that notion that someone could possibly be struggling because of this
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/24 05:28 PM
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Exactly; like wouldn’t that literally be a requisite to look like someone who even could be a fuckboy?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/24 05:25 PM
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One of the absolutely most braindead stupid takes I heard somewhere, that I recently remember, was someone suggesting that a guy might not get a lot of Hinge matches because he looks like a fuckboy Be so fuckin’ for real, no one is having issues dating because they “look like a fuckboy”; that’s literally a contradiction. It don’t matter if “Hinge is more relationship-oriented”; hot people are still hot. Sometimes girlies be coming up with some really stupid takes when they try to make guesses ab…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/24 05:11 PM
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You know, I think past a certain point it’s interesting to reflect on not just “getting” girls, but like. Wanting to up the quality of what you get, wanting a relationship where the mutual treatment is a certain way, not wanting to put up with x, y, or z And imo, that’s where the challenging parts come in. From what I see, if it’s just some girl you want, then honestly they’re relatively kinda easy to get. (Yes even though that can still come down to luck and playing the numbers game) But narrow…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/24 02:23 PM
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5’8, unfortunately
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/24 11:56 AM
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My build is at a point where it’s kinda up for debate I frankly don’t consider myself big at all but certainly look jacked next to a normal person
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/24 12:25 AM
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That sounds like hell That’s more accurate to how tinder can be for my during a bad period
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/24 12:20 AM
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I- uh I mean the muscular black guy in question, definitely doesn’t have too much. Noticeably defined sure, and kinda “big” but it’s closer to an athletic build than anything
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/24 12:19 AM
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Saw some chick on the dating subreddit criticize men for wanting fit women, saying “what if they get fat” This take was just so profoundly stupid I didn’t even say anything because I’m not sure I’d be civil about how dumb that take is Sounded like some fat/chubby chick was mad she just got turned down by someone out of her league to me, but that’s just a guess
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/24 06:57 PM
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How we rocking with (semi) muscular black (kinda) pretty boys with braids? Asking for a friend, of course
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/24 05:49 PM
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Mine occasionally will switch between showing me the baddest baddies who probably wouldn’t even acknowledge my existence irl, the fatties concurrently with the generally less desirable women, and the baddies that actually might match me Seemingly at random though; I’ve no idea what triggers it and either one of those three can either continue for a while or switch on a whim
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/24 04:54 PM
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I mean It’s not tied to getting women, just tied to actually being able to pull the women I want (No that’s a joke as well; doesn’t matter how many women I get or don’t get, my self esteem will probably remain the same)
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/24 10:38 AM
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I however was half-joking. I’m certainly better physique than most people, and stronger and/or more athletic than most people too (until I’m next to amateur bodybuilders, in which case I look small)
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/24 10:24 AM
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No, they must be natural or else the girls will be able to smell that the dawg in me is just a chihuahua
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/24 01:16 AM
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My daily dose of brainrot, is my brain saying that the fact that I’m still single, is because my muscles are too small Forget face, forget personality, forget charisma, forget everything else. It’s only because muscles too small and lifts not heavy enough (This is half a joke, half not a joke. Save me)
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 09:53 PM
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Not the exact same but in a similar vein to you; art hoes are into me yeah, and I’ll say in my case tends to be girls who are stoners, partiers, clubbers, etc tend to be into me (which…not mutually exclusive from art hoes anyhow and often go hand in hand) Younger me who was a tad more of a degenerate would’ve loved this. But currently it confuses me because of how I’m borderline entirely sober aside from the occasional drink And compatibility wise there’s just a lot there that doesn’t work out f…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 01:28 AM
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Q4A: How common do you guys think it is for a man to have the problem of “Can pull girls but not the type he wants”? How uncommon do you think it is for men to have that struggle as opposed to just barely being able to pull at all?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/24 12:10 AM
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Won my first ninja competition, so it’s a nice distraction from how much life otherwise sucks right now (And by ninja i mean it’s like the similar type of obstacle courses you’d see on American ninja warrior)
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/24 01:46 AM
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Question for all (Don’t know if I’ve asked his before, there’s a slight chance I have) Do you guys consider yourself more “hot” or “cold” energy wise? (When I say “hot”, think of things like being louder,expressive,talkative, upbeat, etc. when I say cold, think of the opposite; more reserved, more serene as opposed to upbeat, more subtle expressions, etc.) And would you say the people you mostly attract are on the hotter or colder side personality wise?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/24 06:33 PM
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It’s crazy how genuinely good those movies are; hell I like em better as an adult than I did as a kid
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/24 04:38 PM
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Couple of points here Game is important I say, or at least it will be for a lot of the guys struggling in dating, but it’s not as much about weird specific techniques so much as general stuff to keep in mind. I won’t say more important than looks but it does matter I mean yeah It’s a nice thought to say the blackpill should motivate you to become someone actually attractive, but the actual end result seems to be that it attracts weirdos who want an excuse to fixate on shit they can’t control, an…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/24 03:52 PM
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Prerequisites to a good dating life? Maybe, but it depends on what you consider good If you’re just trying to fuck a bunch of girls and run up that score, then yes, it’s probably one of your better and more convenient ways to do it If you want a high-quality girlfriend (or even if you’re a girl wanting a high quality boyfriend) then no, it really is not a prerequisite; possibly even the opposite Hell, I myself occasionally have my lamentations that gettin’ laid a bunch is probably easier than fi…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/24 03:46 PM
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First of all, oh I genuinely didn’t know we could say it round these parts And second of all, all that advice is true but it’s jus that I consider that advice to be redpill
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/24 11:08 AM
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You know, I just realized that I don’t entirely disagree with the pill that shall not be named But I just think it’s moreso that “looks matter to women” or even “looks are the most important thing” has enough…substance for it to actually indulge in it often Like focusing on it and fixating on it is kinda crazy and does nothing actually good for you. While all the pills come with their own brands of autism, I’ll say active constant engaging the one that has little substance or actionable advice, …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/24 02:21 AM
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Video game music fuckin’ slaps and I listen all the time to it With that said it’s a thing I wonder if I’m gonna have to keep a secret my whole dating life sometimes Like, I wonder if any relationship I get into hypothetically, could withstand that level of tism Also never tried pumpkin spice latte before but I probably can save that to use as rizz sometime this fall
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 01:09 AM
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I don’t actively find a lot of soul music but it never disappoints
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 01:07 AM
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A lot, really, and for what it’s worth there is rap I like With that said my favorite genre is probably rock and some of the subgenres come with that
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 01:06 AM
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I mean to be fair when not in a tank top I dress quite plain with plain solid colors
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 01:06 AM
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It’s made even better by the fact that I’m in fact a muscular dude with braids on top of that And I wear a lot of tank tops That being said as soon as I open my mouth you could probably automatically assume I don’t really listen to rap
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 01:01 AM
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I hate to double dip on the thread but anyway Gotta say it kinda feels weird being someone who uh…looks the way I do but not being a big fan of rap and especially not liking drill or mumble rap at all Anyone else have that sort of juxtaposition from what they look like vs what they’re actually like?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 12:55 AM
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Which is ironic considering what strength training will do for fat loss (a lot more than one could think)
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 12:53 AM
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Super irrelevant question for y’all: after you get a number, how long does it usually take for you to save him/her as a contact usually? (Yes I’m talking about the number of someone you’re talking to, dating, or intending to date)
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 09:58 PM
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I agree I still got occasional attention when I was shorter, skinnier, had a rounder face, and shorter hair Now I mean it’s a night and day difference with the changes I’ve undergone but the attention still happened back then
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/24 09:08 PM
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I agree And it’s stupid when the counter argument is to argue about how hypothetical Chad can get women without social skills (that phenomenon is overblown imo) Because it’s like that sounds like making every possible excuse to sit back and not actually work on any social skills
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/24 11:07 PM
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Can’t relate
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/24 11:22 PM
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Sounds like you and I fundamentally disagree on what makes something feel “interview-y” Since I mostly mean the sort of rapid fire style questions sort of thing going on
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/24 11:22 PM
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Being actively judged is something literally unavoidable so I can’t even put this in the criteria imo
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/24 11:19 PM
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Speak for yo SELF, Ainsley
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/24 11:17 PM
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I agree it must be discussed; just not in a rapid-fire questions sort of way
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/24 11:15 PM
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Game is knowing how to make conversation in a way that this doesn’t happen
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/24 10:36 PM
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Not to toot my own horn but I guess it’s a good thing that I’m already past the “ask a bunch of questions” stage and now approach with the mindset of “if we’re not enjoying ourselves, then why the hell are we even going on a date?”
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/24 10:23 PM
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Doing it over phone or text is honestly way better (even if just for the sake of being more efficient) Imo dates are for getting to know each other but like let’s also have fun
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/24 10:21 PM
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In the latter case I suppose I could see that happening if she’s being absolutely persistent about the conversation flowing in only one way, and is not at all letting the conversation deviate from the things she plans to ask you (being that controlling of a conversation is probably not a good sign anyway) In the first case if a girl indicates she isn’t even gonna let the conversation go anywhere because she’s gonna respond with dead fish levels of enthusiasm, then at that point I shut up almost …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/24 10:19 PM
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You mean it gets less interview-y, yes? Or am I misinterpreting this? My reading comprehension is not on point today for some reason
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/24 10:14 PM
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Wait so are you saying you’d prefer the date to become interview-y? Or would you not? I’m having issue catching that rn because I’m dumdum
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/24 10:13 PM
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Question I just thought about. How whack is you guys’ game that your dates end up becoming like job interviews? (Heard some guys complain about this before, and the occasional woman) Like nah seriously, I’ve had some boring dates that weren’t very stimulating (this was my fault though), and I can understand just fumbling the bag on the date in some other way But I genuinely can’t even think of how do dates even become a game of 20 questions; how do you even let that happen? Is this just my young…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/24 09:43 PM
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Figured it wasn’t just me
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/24 02:38 PM
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So much internet brainrot that I read that as “mewing”
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/24 10:31 AM
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I didn’t say ideal
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/24 09:42 PM
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Everything you’ve written is correct and doesn’t change the fact that jumping to “surgery” before actually working on oneself is kinda insane If anything, getting a BBL reinforces insane beauty standards
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/24 06:14 PM
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That’s a muscular guy with a bit of extra fat lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/24 04:50 PM
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Better than the girl who just gives zero fucks in this regard, which is probably most (i mean…it’s most people in general but ya feel my point)
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/24 03:03 PM
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Anytime I hear the whole “Hey i like dadbods!/I like chubby guys/I like flabby men with no muscle” it makes me wonder “But what do you look like?” (Especially in terms of physique) Like is that actually something of note or is it just you playing in your own league?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/24 02:31 PM
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Fumbling a girl who’s got more eyes on you than the IRS during tax season can really have you sitting around wondering where your whole life went wrong Even if you’re not particularly upset about losing the option or the girl itself, it’ll still have you wondering just how stupid a person can be
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/24 10:03 AM
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This was weirdly enough a really good read The Superman is who I aspire to be in life (I might have to settle for being number four though but who knows)
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/24 09:59 AM
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Tank tops show ever so slightly more skin; a muscle shirt is more or less literally a regular tee with no sleeves
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/24 08:41 PM
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It’s more or less a regular ol’ shirt without sleeves
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/24 04:59 PM
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Q4W: Which looks douchier on a man, muscle shirts or tank tops? Q4M: which do you typically prefer to wear?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/24 04:19 PM
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It’s not intended to; the comparison was more intended to be a loose point to highlight the fact that people are lazy more than anything else and thus they disappoint me
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/24 11:02 AM
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I’m inclined to agree with you The worst of men’s locker room talk I’ve heard is them saying or implying the pussy/head was good or was bad. In women’s cases they’ve gone into a bunch of detail that I just did not ask for (and oftentimes no one else in the room asked for either) This being said women seem less inclined to tell me about their sexcapades now than they used to be, so I hope that has good implications with it
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/24 10:15 AM
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There’s not but most women can build a much shapelier figure going to the gym; seems more worth it to me than just going for a surgery Or are you being facetious here with me failing to realize?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/24 08:31 PM
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If you’re uber short maybe; if you’re kinda short then I still think you should get a decent physique before any surgery Also you’ve got some fuckwads who are like 5’7 or 5’8 talking about getting leg lengthening surgery, so not everyone who wants it has warranted complaints Changing the size of your butt has 0 relation to height I don’t think there was an implication that there was
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/24 06:28 PM
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Exactly. Like there’s just no possible way that that shit doesn’t just look…off in some way Especially as I’m a long-limbed individual (my torso didn’t cooperate with the message it seems), I’d have to be puttin my pants on like Steve Urkel if my legs got any longer
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/24 06:25 PM
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It is absolutely crazy to me that there’s dudes who’d get leg lengthening surgery, before they’d go to the gym And girls who’d get a BBL before going to the gym to build an actual nice proportional booty People disappoint me. If you aren’t building a nice physique then you have genuinely zero right to complain (assuming you are able-bodied) All the arguments against it are excuses and laziness
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/24 05:11 PM
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You’re not right You’re double right Get a good physique, dudes
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/24 05:03 PM
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I used to have that attitude of “eh, if the opportunity to actually date someone comes around guess I’ll take it but it more or less doesn’t matter to me”, and I daresay the only reason I at all tried to date in any sense was because sex drive Sort of wish I could bring that attitude back but it ain’t here rn I guess
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/24 07:38 PM
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Truth Like I’m fairly confident that if were willing to just gf anyone I’d probably be in a relationship and have had a few but it’s the fact that I say I am stringent about maintaining certain behavioral and personality standards for a girl I’d date I daresay the standards i have in that regard are more restrictive than my looks standards are ( a lot of people hear “high standards” and assume you’re chasing Stacy even if that isn’t what you mean)
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/24 07:35 PM
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It’s got some to do with content brainrot, other ways it feels like I’m playing myself, and idk why it just feels wrong to actively want one but it does Probably some shit in my mind to resolve or something idk
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/24 07:11 PM
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Damn I kinda wish I could completely turn my relationship drive off Not sex drive, but relationship drive; I’m brainrotted enough to feel like wanting a relationship makes you a sucker Oh well, at least it’s not so bad to the point that I’ll just gf anyone so at least I’ve still got some of my sense left
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/24 06:49 PM
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You know it’s interesting that at first glance, I thought to myself that it wouldn’t immediately seem like seeking dopamine would mess up your datin’ opportunities But I’ve recently realized dopamine-seeking behaviors can quite easily fuck up your chances with a lot of girls, and can even lead to the overall quality of woman you get being lower Now not entirely, because to sleep around a lot you kinda do have to be chasing that thrill to an extent. But even then, that’s quantity and probably not…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/24 02:29 PM
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I would be about ready to square up with both my parents fresh outside of the womb for that one
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/24 02:00 AM
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I didn’t know there were more than like two of us
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/24 01:54 AM
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6.5 It’s unique enough that I’m probably the only person you know with that name, but I also wouldn’t be surprised at all if you knew more than one That being said it’s a very simple two-syllable name that doesn’t have much to it; no room for “cool” factor on it It gets a 6.5 for being identifiable and not basic without sounding completely and utterly dumb (and also easy to spell), but can’t get much higher because it’s not inherently cool or anything
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/24 01:53 AM
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This is my thought process too Getting fit not to make pulling easier, but cuz it’ll mean you can fuck better is probably an underrated benefit of doing so
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/24 01:51 AM
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Exactly my reasoning that I thought of, especially being a combat sports enthusiast You become able to get away with much different strategies and gameplans as you get heavier and/or stronger Dating is no different as you gain more money, become better looking, or become more socially competent
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/24 02:03 AM
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Nah I don’t quite agree with that right there tbh Different shit works for different people because they may be abundant or lacking in x or y departments, and looks is no different
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/24 02:01 AM
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I think it’s so hilarious whenever dating strategies and game and whatnot are being discussed and someone feels the need to ring in with “this won’t work for an ugly person tho” I kinda wonder what the purpose in even saying that is. Like alright, and? No one said it was going to be some magic bullet for anything
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/24 02:33 PM
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Act completely clueless I’m already kinda ditzy/airheaded sometimes so it’s pretty natural for me
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/24 11:15 PM
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That guy is generally quite fascinating; I’d love to see what the inside of his mind looks like on an average day
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 01:00 AM
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I’ll take that as an indirect compliment, and a W Curiosity though, are you yourself of black or something else?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/24 06:43 PM
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You just described me minus some of these things, it’s almost uncanny (At least mainly in a physical sense you’ve described me)
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/24 06:19 PM
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Nah, muscles are great to have; those pictures get me more likes than I’d have without them, and more general attention from women Like obviously they’re not some absolute magic but uh…a buff average dude or slightly above average dude is going to outdo his flabby-physiqued counterparts Hell, even a buff dude who’s kinda busted, has somewhat more of a chance
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/24 06:05 PM
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Tell me about it I mean im glad this is the addiction I ended up with; but it’s crazy how different I feel from a few missed workouts or training sessions in either of my sports I guess I like to move it move it
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/24 05:58 PM
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Oh yeah, I’d notice whenever in a talking stage, that there’d be something I thought wouldn’t matter or I could ignore at first, but as it progressed I’d get more uneasy Realizing that this was because I realized I’d end up resentful and feel “stuck” with a girl who has traits I don’t like and I’m less than compatible with, which uh….at that point it would be unfair to her for me to even enter such a situation
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/24 10:51 PM
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No kiddin’, especially when your niche look, or just yourself in general for whatever reason, attracts a lot of behaviors that are like nope Realistically I try not to look at it as standards but just realistically knowing what I ain’t compatible with (it helps me feel less pretentious, if you will)
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/24 09:49 PM
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It’s dawned on me that having standards for which behaviors/actions would make you incompatible with someone, might shut out far more options than standards for looks will, at least within reason and assuming you’re a normal person with normal libido Maybe this is just me though, I don’t know Anyone else feel what I’m gettin at?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/24 09:06 PM
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It is normal, and it’s kinda strange that it doesn’t seem to be understood by many, or at the very least not taken into account
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/24 02:35 PM
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Oh I know those guys fail a lot and learned to deal with rejection. “You know what’s funny” is something I tend to use in a rhetorical sense, not so as to imply that what I’m saying is truly crazy or anything This however is a novel concept to the type of guy mentioned in the above post, who had maybe a couple fails with women and then sees fit to give all the way up They often begin to form narratives about Uber hot guys having harems and being able to pull so easily and whatnot, while not ackn…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/24 02:14 PM
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They won’t like this one The most common factor I’ve seen in dudes who get laid a lot, is that they approach a lot It’s just what they do, and they’re used to it, too. The familiarity of dealing with women helps then actually pull more too Like sorry but if you’re not the type of guy who can walk into a room and pull any girl he wants based solely on being hot, then you’re gonna have to do what you have to do (And you know what’s funny? Even those guys fail more than you think)
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/24 02:00 PM
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I think I’m 65% wholesome 35% degenerate A lot of room for influence though, which i best keep in mind at all times
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/24 10:40 AM
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In my own personal tastes, I must say 3-5 is an instant nah I’m straight The first two are side-eye territory depending on how much she does it but if she truly can keep it moderated then it wouldn’t matter much to me
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/24 10:36 AM
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In the real world? Not much, actually This is one of those things that almost always only matters in theoretical discussion but not in the real world
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/24 01:03 AM
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That’s an individual thing, really. Another user in this thread pointed out, that honestly this is more about ick/disgust factor than the likelihood of cheating or anything So it’s up to one’s own judgement to decide when that threshold of ew has been reached This being said, there are some points where the numbers get so ridiculous that there’s no defending it. Like if a girl has like 24 bodies at 20, then it’s safe to say she just likes getting around I can’t give an exact number because it’s …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/24 12:59 AM
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Below a certain amount and within reason, who a woman was involved with is almost equally as important as the number itself, methinks (not trying to say this info is necessarily easy to find out or that you ever will, but it rings true)
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/24 08:04 PM
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Exactly It’s weird because I probably otherwise give off that boyfriend type of energy for various reasons But ultimately the way the factors align seem to make me have more short-term value than long term value
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/24 11:33 PM
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My RMV is actually lower than my SMV. I don’t make tons of money and also live with family, nor do I even have a degree or any aspirations for the real high-paying careers. That being said, I have great social skills and can make people like me anywhere I go, and my flirting game is kinda dependent on the day to be real. Looks-wise I know for a fact I’m pretty good-looking. Not quite Chadly or anything but hot enough that getting interest from girls, at least initially, isn’t super hard. (Detail…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/24 03:56 PM
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So it’s not about wearing a skimpy outfit or two the gym, but a lot about it plus other things. Including Being provocative on social media (within some level of reason that I’d hold myself to; my social media presentation could be considered somewhat provocative myself) Outfits where you know what’s going on. There’s “showing a little skin” but there’s also showing with that intent, you know what I mean? Flirty behavior with people and/or acting in provocative ways Signs of being a party girl
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 01:33 PM
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Here’s mine Within a reasonable age range Isn’t a bum (this isn’t that hard to meet tbh) Is at least moderately active and takes fitness at least a little seriously Doesn’t present like a hoe (this is about more than just clothing; ask if you want me to elab) Is attracted to me (and vice versa. I suppose this is kinda obvious though) Isn’t an incompetent fool in real life or isn’t a baby/princess (aka doesn’t completely break down the moment problems start to read their ugly-ass heads) Sort of a…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 11:53 AM
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That stuff you mentioned falls into the “acting weird shit” that I mentioned The principles themselves, at least the basic ones, are what I refer to What is to be done with that info is where the hatin’ begins
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/24 08:35 PM
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Ayo I been sayin this for a while Normal people honestly don’t disagree with the red pill ideas and stuff, when worded normally. I even made an effort to test it out a whole back They disagree with the way dudes act weird as shit and decidedly use the most autistic terminology possible when talking about it (In the same vein of how being both uncharming and weird is probably the biggest bullet to the foot as far as personality goes) Hell, my own momma was technically the first person to teach me…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/24 07:09 PM
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So what I see is then stating that looming specifically for an insecure girl or yes woman is weird. And it is What you’re looking for is a homebody who is more agreeable, and I really can’t say I see anyone talking about that here. Looks to me like they’re talking about dudes who scope for traits to take advantage of
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 10:41 AM
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I have trouble believing this actually is happening without you wording it weirdly. Generally speaking people seem to understand how compatibility works Or the people in question being not quite very bright
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 09:40 AM
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“A crime” is crazy They just ain’t attracted to it that’s all
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 09:00 AM
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I’m an idiot; frankly if she’s dumber than I am then we’re both screwed so it’s probably better if she’s the smarter of us two
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/24 02:45 PM
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That shit’s so funny cuz it’s like Well if OLD is bunk and you have seventeen thousand excuses as to why you can’t approach irl, then wtf you want anyone to say to you? Seems like they want to hear some sort of validation that it’s hopeless or some type of magic trick t
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/24 04:14 PM
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Why I in fact think you’re right
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/24 04:11 PM
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Probably not A complete view flip would probably entail that I already don’t know much about the person
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/24 04:11 PM
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Yes. I’m gonna judge someone based on their partner, how compatible they seem, how they interact And yes, even their partners’ looks in comparison
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/24 02:29 PM
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A hot guy who get lots of girls and stuff Well it depends who you ask. Seems to be kinda varied ‘round these parts I use it to describe a typical good-looking muscular guy of sorts
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/24 02:14 PM
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Yes sir I’m at a point where I need to be more social myself; it’s been too long
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/24 10:29 AM
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Agreed Being able to have the “Lol I fumbled” or “She turned me down” conversations in a casual manner, instead of feeling the need to hide it, can actually be a big part benefit here. It can condition you, even if you usually take it personally, to begin to realize it ain’t that serious
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/24 11:59 AM
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Nah, it doesn't at this point, and I'll explain why in a few reasons At this point, I've gained enough positive attention and feedback to know that it ain't that serious. Encountering a woman who wants me isn't that difficult if/when I'm around women enough. I've had women make the first move on me before, too. I'm less worried about getting dates, and more worried about dates that aren't fun or are a waste of time (though it's partly my fault) I've been rejected by some women who were (nicely p…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/24 11:13 AM
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Nah, it doesn't at this point, and I'll explain why in a few reasons At this point, I've gained enough positive attention and feedback to know that it ain't that serious. Encountering a woman who wants me isn't that difficult if/when I'm around women enough. I've had women make the first move on me before, too. I'm less worried about getting dates, and more worried about dates that aren't fun or are a waste of time (though it's partly my fault) I've been rejected by some women who were (nicely p…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/24 11:13 AM
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Less than 10 second KO
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/24 12:54 AM
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Realest shit anyone’s said here
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/24 10:55 AM
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Weird can quite often be worked on and helped with some work If you hang around the wrong people (or no one at all) you can very easily fall into the trap of becoming a hoe-scarer, which isn’t quite the same as being born with bad bones or a deformity Now of course there’s also stuff like autism, which complicates things a bit more but even then there are workarounds And the type of guy who comes here is particularly susceptible to becoming a weirdo (I include myself in this “susceptible” catego…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/24 12:05 PM
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It’s why I be warning dudes that come to these type of places: it’s a lot easier to be too “weird” to pull girls than it is to be too “ugly” to do so
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/24 08:48 AM
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Reflective in one way is that someone has to be using the apps; and those people don’t appear out of the aether But the stakes, soft skills needed, methodology, and basically EVERYTHING needed completely changes between OLD and IRL A few examples/reasons here Someone who can craft witty messages to send and flirts well over text, might completely fold and stumble over his words in person (vice versa happens too but probably isn’t as big of an issue) It’s a bit harder to catfish irl than it is wi…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/24 01:33 AM
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Yeah This is why I also say it’s important to get around people who can be real with you about it Or try analyses and learn exactly where girls lose interest But yeah I know sometimes it’s just too hard to tell even if you do have those things
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/24 10:19 AM
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True Guys I know who are successful with women have told me several times, or I’ve seen it happen to them. Either directly or indirectly, they’ve more or less brought up how women will go hot and cold, and it may just….happen. It’s not worth sweating like that
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/24 09:50 AM
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I…don’t think that’s the case
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/24 01:23 AM
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I mean this is well thought-out but I also don’t think women getting the ick is even a common enough thing for one to worry about I don’t think it genuinely happens enough that it needs to be something we “speak out against”
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/24 01:18 AM
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Personally I realized this when I would see how some women like it when you don’t seem super eager to “get” them, it others may be turned off because you’re moving too slow or aren’t interested enough or how some like vague cat-and-mouse flirting where nothing is stated directly, but others would rather you be direct Made me start following “be yourself” unironically (But also there’s levels to it and there’s some stuff that most reasonable people get that should probably not be included)
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/24 01:11 AM
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I mean it is up to you what you do with the info, after all
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/24 01:08 AM
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If you keep losing then it isn’t “little icks” holding you back; it’s something bigger
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/24 01:07 AM
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You’ve summed up my thoughts exactly The idea that any “little” thing could be the wrong thing isn’t some big and scary idea; it’s a liberating realization if anything I once on here spoke about how I think a lot of guys here probably try to do everything “right” and I got some “well yeah of course” responses But what’s funny is from the sound of it, you can try to do everything right and still be wrong
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/24 05:41 PM
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Ain’t gonna happen, probably Unless you plan on joining a church AND getting lucky that she’s actually a virgin and not just a fair weather religious type
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/24 11:01 PM
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I second this motion
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/24 10:13 PM
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So I was getting at the fact that autistic men are quite overrepresented in spaces like this, and of course they’re gonna talk about it
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/23 11:50 PM
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You know why
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/23 04:45 PM
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Yes, I largely agree that a lot of advice generally focuses on the wrong things and quite often lacks nuance in more ways than one, and that you're largely correct By "more ways than one", I say it comes from all sides On the "too passive" side of things. This advice often comes from women or more soyboy type of men. The typical "be nice to her" and "be her friend" stuff that one initially thinks of. While it is great for making friends (duh) and being seen as generally pleasant enough to tolera…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/23 04:07 PM
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Depends on age ranges and demographics My guess is anywhere from 30-40 I could get initial interest from (HUGE margin for error though based on so many factors like the ones mentioned above) Actually get on a date though? Much smaller number that I’m not sure of; my guess is around 5-ish
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/23 11:55 PM
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The “a bunch of BJJ practitioners” thing killed me They’re a fairly diverse crowd come to think of it
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/23 10:24 PM
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I did it in the past to make sense of things Actually was a very good thing of me to do
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 01:44 AM
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Copery or they not even realizing how fat they actually are
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/23 02:11 AM
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Yes. That’d make me reevaluate my whole life to come to such a realization
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/23 07:25 PM
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I never said you weren't free to make your own decisions as to whether or not you wanna be betabuxxed Frankly, quite a few guys are more than happy to do so Me personally, I'd rather eat my left shoe than be in such a relationship
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/23 01:53 PM
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Dammit, you beat me to it There’s like a BILLION little tip-offs that will make you realize “Eyo something isn’t right with this chick” Frankly it should be realize-able fairly early in the relationship too, like mere weeks in you should be able to tell something’s up
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/23 06:36 PM
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I mean I am small, but not scrawny. I have fairly broad shoulders with a solid build, as well as a strong back and thick legs (other people’s words) In any case, yes though. This bulk is probably going to last a long time and hence why I have no specified length of time; my focus will be on building for quite some time
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/23 02:54 PM
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More accurately. It’s like a cut, but toward the middle-end of summer it’ll be a maintenance thing Actually cutting for that entire period would leave me as being wiry and weak haha, I’m already a fairly small guy as is
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/23 02:33 PM
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-Currently on a cut to have a better v-taper effect going on and get much, much better ab definition; in August I'll start focusing on bulking for an undefined period of time. Though my focus will be particularly on building useful, functional muscle so I don't become stiff and slow. -I'm planning to up my MMA game by taking my grappling more seriously, and quite possibly looking to get boxing/kickboxing matches and/or grappling tournaments under my belt. -I'm also heavily considering going back…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/23 12:59 PM
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Call me (Though I’m not swarthy per se)
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/23 08:48 AM
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Exactly hence why it depends on the type of guy you are overall Like if you changed the latter version of me to 200 dollars a week, but still managing to find some way have his fun, it’s all the same really (Semi-true story. I purposely cut down my work hours by a lot but was still going out and doing stuff)
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/23 04:06 AM
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It does and doesn’t It depends on your lifestyle, aka what you do with the money you do/don’t have Let’s take two versions of me in this little thought experiment One version has 10K saved up and makes 500 a week, and every check immediately saves every penny he can (These amounts don’t seem like much, but for a person my age, it’s pretty impressive) The other version makes 500 a week but also has a car, and plus wasting it on partying, stylish clothes he can’t actually afford, alcohol, and soci…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/23 03:46 AM
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The whole point of a “talking” stage seems to be specifically that we’re NOT yet exclusive , and hence, I might not necessarily want her to go and have sex with other dudes, and she might not want me having sex with other girls, but if neither her or I can make that clear, then all bets are off If you wanna be exclusive before the bf/gf stage, that shit has to be known, not implied I have, however met others who seem to think the talking stage is exclusive, when inherently it really isn’t, since…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/23 06:12 PM
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If I jumped out the window, it’s like 1 or 2 feet If I get up and walk? Probably 50 odd feet
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 03:00 AM
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The first step is improving one’s own mental and physical health to the greatest possible degree, brother. The opinions of “women” as a general entity shouldn’t even matter when it comes to mastery of the self
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 02:59 AM
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Single single single single single single single Hell I’d rather be single than even be in a “meh” relationship, let alone a shitty one! As soon as I realize she’s not attracted to me beyond being a provider, or as soon as she crosses me by doing something that I specifically asked not to, she’s out
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/23 03:31 PM
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Ew! That’s disgusting! vigorously scribbles on notepad
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/23 03:25 PM
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I’m talking about that They seem like in their pursuits of women they ARE trying to date, that they’re doing this “try to do everything right”
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/23 09:18 PM
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For the second point, they usually haven’t talked to these women. Just seen a handful of women saying these things (and it’s easy for the sample size to look bigger than it is because of their biases)
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/23 08:00 PM
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I’m trying to figure out how exactly this relates to what I said I don’t mean that in an argumentative way, but I’m just not seeing the connection
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/23 07:57 PM
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This applies in a general sense yes You should absolutely do things like work out, dress well, get ya money up, and groom yourself. Though these should be common sense imo Beyond that, no amount of “gotta say/do the right thing” really will work. Because the fear of her not liking you shows
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/23 04:30 PM
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In the first two stories, no amount of trying to do everything right would’ve helped. The second guy was overcome by emotion, and at that point his act would’ve broken apart anyway even if he had done everything else right And for the first guy? The shirt was not the problem, or rather, not the entire problem. And if it was, that woman ain’t shit. Also, on OLD, it’s particularly egregious because well, if you have endless options at your fingers, of course, she can pick out for the tiniest flaws…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/23 03:58 PM
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This too. Oftentimes their response to advice is “but that’s not a guarantee” or “but that’s hard though” And it’s like yeah, it is, of course it is. Absolutely nothing guarantees getting the girl, hence it’s a non-response imo
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/23 03:48 PM
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Go ahead. But I will say, I’m not yet that good-looking (though I have the tools that I realistically can become so) And I do in fact have stories where stuff has in fact gone wrong, but almost never due to a small mistake (but you first)
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/23 03:02 PM
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Yes, they get too worried about stuff they’ve heard some women say about “icks” and other type of shit
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/23 02:55 PM
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This has not been what I’ve seen. Personally I’ve seen more women putting up with way too much of guys’ shit, and occasionally my shit, to have this idea that women want perfection Women I’ve seen are always turned off more by “didn’t say anything offensive, didn’t try anything, thought everything over before he said it, etc.” They get the impression of “why’s he trying so hard to not mess up? That’s desperate, ew.”
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/23 02:49 PM
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I mean more like they’re worried about what a woman says or might say or think in a personal context Either that or like. They’ll see all these women talking about icks and stuff, and they let it get to them way more than it should But anyhow, that you’re saying is like a mix of true and false. A woman will say one thing, and the dude will internalize it in the wrong way because he’s missing context, or is autistic, but it’s not that the woman didn’t say it
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/23 02:40 PM
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Oh, you’re right, lemme correct that
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/23 02:30 PM
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I get the impression that most of you here put far too much stock into what women say/what they might say, and hence try too hard to do everything correctly when interacting with them. And it definitely shows up in a way that women can detect, as much as you might want to deny it. If you feel like this comment might refer to you, it definitely does
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/23 02:19 PM
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I’ll take it! Assuming I can still keep my jobs, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/23 12:50 AM
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The creation of the digital age as we know it was a genuine mistake
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/23 12:49 AM
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While I see your point of why you think you should. No, no, you absolutely should not take it that deeply Your "inferior genes" argument falls apart so quickly. If girl A doesn't want me, but girl B wants me, and girl B is conventionally more attractive than girl A, then what the hell does that say? Are my genetics inferior or superior? Because both situations are indicative of two dichotomous, mutually exclusive realities that cannot be true at the same time, if we follow your logic. Because th…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/23 12:37 PM
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Get someone mad enough, and they’ll just fling shit in every direction and hope it hurts Edit: actually what she said was closer to me seeing women as just bodies Regardless, still doesn’t really work.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/23 04:26 PM
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I’m a black guy and have somewhat of a preference for white girls Never really had a problem getting interest from them in general However this doesn’t mean I have problem with or that I won’t dare black, Latina, and Asian women. If she fine, she fine, regardless of race
/r/AllPillDebate24/01/23 05:00 PM
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Right. I’ve got an iPhone now, but the android slander still makes no sense
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/23 09:39 PM
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I’ve never been rudely rejected really irl The worst I got was a girl saying “Oh hell nah, you ugly as hell and don’t got an iPhone” (had a droid back then lol) Which still isn’t all that bad imo In reaction to me rejecting them? Called me all sorts of names and telling me I suck at relationships, and that she I’m just a bummy bitch who uses women for their bodies. The copery and seethery was real
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/23 06:48 PM
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-Drove for a decent distance for some pussy that I didn’t get (I arrived and was NOT feeling the vibe, so I didn’t even try) -Chafed myself while jerking it -Hit it raw (granted I wasn’t too unreasonable in this one; I thought she was on the pill and it just turns out she wasn’t)
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/23 04:06 PM
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Wealthy and no women No amount of pussy is worth losing on the opportunity to have so much money that u can do whatever the hell I want to
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 04:44 PM
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It always seems to be conveniently forgotten that men who rack up real high n-counts are almost always doing so because of a combination of low inhibitions and low to zero standards
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/23 03:56 AM
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Getting warmer
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/23 11:15 PM
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No. The Illuminati
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/23 04:52 PM
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Thread It’s so stupid when dudes complain about systemic dating issues but then point to “women’s preferences evil” as the issue instead of acknowledging the REAL enemy
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/23 04:27 PM
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I’m a fairly okay looking dude and I get a fair bit of interest from girls The rp moments occurred a lot just from hearing women talk and observing them. Nothing would’ve changed for me except I don’t think I would have had an RP rage phase
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/23 11:10 PM
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Dudes get wayyy too down about that sort of stuff None of these women ever follow their stated standards to a T
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/23 08:34 PM
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That last part killed me
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/23 01:53 PM
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Yeah true, in fact I’m 90% sure him being funny was his saving grace
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 09:38 AM
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Yu Yu Hakusho’s soundtrack within the show itself and the intro/outro songs go hard as HELL
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 01:26 AM
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You talkin bout Fat Papaya I believe I’ve spoken directly to the guy. We had some realllll interesting discussions about this topic Multiple times at that
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 01:18 AM
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I chuckled pretty hard at it ngl
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/22 11:38 PM
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For real. The harsh sides of dating success are rarely ever talked about Like people often ignore how high-n men end up like that because of low standards, alcohol, and sometimes manipulation Or how women who they view as “successful” have to wade through an immense amount of troublesome men and that it’s not nearly as easy as it looks
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/22 11:31 PM
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Dudes will make any excuse they can to show how their irrational fear of women is “Totally rational bro”
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/22 12:08 AM
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I think it'd go somewhat like this: Some of them would experiment with their options, realize they don't like hookup culture, and promptly go with the commitment route Some would take the commitment immediately and be happy, though some will take this option but part of them will always wonder about what it'd be like to be a hoe Some would begin to get bigger and bigger egos, driving "Chadlike behavior" Some would become jaded after having seen the light (or dark), and just not bother with commi…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/22 01:26 AM
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Would this imply cheddar eaters are beta? 🤔 In that case time to cut out the cheddar
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/22 04:48 PM
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Learning to fight will change your life I don’t give a damn about the “AkShUaLlY iN mOdeRn TiMeS tHeRe’S nO nEeD tO fIgHt” nerds Or the “FiGhtInG iSn’T aTtrAcTiVe” women I believe every man should learn at least the basics of how to fight
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/22 11:53 AM
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Not in particular, but replace facesitting with a kink and you’ve got an idea of what I’m sayin’
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/22 07:02 PM
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It's entirely about how the person in question would react to the kink A girl who don't want me would probably think "ew what a pervert" if she learnt that I wanted her to sit on my face But on the other hand, a girl who was super into me might be more concerned if I DIDN'T want her to sit on my face
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/22 06:56 PM
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Exactly, like I know for girls, sex is a thoroughly unpleasant, hell, possibly even painful, experience if they aren’t aroused by the guy
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 04:30 PM
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Makes sense. Girls actually have their own equivalent to people who they’d fuck but would not want to be seen in public with, just like how guys do Although, it’s rarer and and usually more about social reasons or behavior than looks
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 04:23 PM
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Exactly. That was my first thought
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 03:18 PM
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Q4A: How common do you think pity fucking actually is/isn’t? Personally I would imagine it to be so rare that it’s basically not a thing BUT I’m just one man with one perspective, and I’ve heard the term thrown around before, so it’s got me wondering
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 03:15 PM
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Autist Jokes aside, If the repercussions could be potentially dire or life-altering, I plan like a pessimist even if hoping for the best Otherwise I try my hardest to remain optimistic
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 10:08 AM
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AWALT can be agreed upon by normies, I’ve see. It I’ve seen it be said as “don’t trust these hoes” or “These streets are cold” Same meaning, but normie men and even some women won’t entirely disagree with the above notions I don’t know about the overgrown teenagers thing though
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/22 03:22 PM
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True. It’s in our human nature Another way this is easily visible is with money and how people upgrade their lifestyles when they have so much of it People might say they’d contribute to the greater good of society if they were given more money than they know what to do with, but if you gave most of those people that money, they’d fold harder than I do in Jiu-jitsu
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/22 07:46 PM
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For a fact they would I explain sometimes that dudes (especially the ones here) given the options girls have, would NOT be some moral upstanding citizens; a big amount of men would use the opportunity to its fullest Every time I say this, I get tons of cope and rationalization about how that’s not true When literally ALL you have to do is take a look at how men with options behave.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/22 07:35 PM
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I’d go insane! But still good stuff nonetheless
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/22 07:14 PM
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I tout nichemaxxing ALL the time The answer is dudes want to continue making excuses, because by all means nichemaxxing does require ingenuity and effort By telling themselves it doesn’t work, they give themselves a good reason to keep complaining g If you’re truly average-looking, you’re SOMEONE’S type. All kinds of people out there seem to be mutually attracted to each other
/r/AllPillDebate12/12/22 04:45 PM
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Alabama would like his idea solely for this reason
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/22 06:58 PM
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Usually not Not a huge detractor and won’t unattract me if the girl already jingles my bells, but nonetheless it’s not hot
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/22 04:56 PM
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I wouldn’t say lack of a job so much as crushing poverty in general
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/22 04:31 PM
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Honestly, life’s too short to give a damn about the opinion of reddit strangers who are likely not too well-adjusted themselves
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/22 11:23 AM
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I always say this. Autistically obsessing about some exact number is pointless. Watch her habits, it’s ALWAYS more telling about who she is, and who she’s capable of becoming if she’s not already there
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 02:22 AM
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I agree And the teaching isn’t always direct, but also happens in slow, insidious ways When women are the predominant authority figure, you’re taught that disagreeing with authority figures is inherently bad, AND sometimes mixed with direct teaching that girls are inherently “good” while boys are “bad” and well… the math does itself
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/22 08:42 PM
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Call me
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/22 05:34 PM
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Punching people in the face with padded gloves and also trying to slam each other onto the ground
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/22 04:31 PM
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Okay, as much as going to the gym is the greatest thing ever and everyone should do it, I must say this I don’t like how normalized it is in gymbro culture to have no personality or life outside lifting heavy stuff.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/22 04:27 PM
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The feeling would be kind of like “Dammit, but I understand and can respect that”
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/22 01:26 PM
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No. Rejection itself isn’t all that scary, actually
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/22 01:25 PM
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I'm decently above average, but I've been confident even when I thought it was just average. Though I'll say the newfound knowledge is/was a slight confidence booster, it's not a noticeable confidence booster
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/22 02:55 PM
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This might be the most based thing you’ve ever said
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/22 02:25 PM
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Yeah, agreed. "Talking to" multiple girls is a MUST Otherwise far FAR too much time wil be wasted
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/22 07:10 PM
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Exxxactly
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/22 04:38 PM
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That’s not even a question. Yes this would be the case. Tho I suspect those men would still cheat on their women because of the fact that they’ll still be horny enough to risk it
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/22 04:28 PM
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Prove it
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/22 04:26 PM
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The only reason I’d argue against it is because dating is not a video game with linear progression per se Sure it’s good and quite important to have experience, but I doubt that dating less attractive women and then “leveling up” to get a more attractive girl will work how you think it will If it works well, then you probably could have pulled the hot girl(s) anyway I say date around for the experience, but no need to limit yourself to “less attractive women now, attractive women later”
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/22 04:17 PM
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Yes, yes you would He would have had a deep and profound emotional impact on you, and it would directly impact any subsequent relationships following
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/22 04:12 PM
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I wouldn't know, but I just gathered based off his comment that he's referring to LARPers based on the fact that he said Why some of you pretend to be women
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 08:31 PM
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Uhh, I think he's talking about LARPers
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 08:28 PM
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It's an exponential curve as you move further from 6 feet. I can agree with that. 5'7 is actually the exact point where it'll start becoming somewhat of a detriment to you. I'm 5'9, which I say is also funny enough the exact point where my height isn't a problem OR a modifier (unless I put on some shoes that let me height fraud), but I remember what it was like being 5'7
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 08:07 PM
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How tall are you, in that case? Because I feel like what you're saying isn't of direct contradiction to what he's saying
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 07:56 PM
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Yep nope something sketch is going on, I'd be disapproving of that From my knowledge, if a guy and a girl are meeting to smoke together, just the two of them, that means either they're gonna fuck, or the door's starting to open to that possibility. I've seen far too many cases where the "friend" was in fact somebody to worry about. In fact, some of that stems from the fact that I've been the guy friend who he should be worried about. Meeting up one-on-one with a guy friend, supposedly at his pla…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 07:07 PM
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I agree. I've always beleived that if the red pill didn't sound so autistic, you'd even have women straight-up agreeing with you or they might even say it first The difference is night and day when you reword TRP principles in ways that normal people actually talk. I've even done it before as an experiment of sorts, and both the men and women around agreed with me.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 06:53 PM
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Trap bar is master race. And I think the average one weighs more than a barbell anyway (or at least the same) At that point, conventional deadlifts are basically pointless unless you plan to be a competitive powerlifter
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 06:47 PM
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I’ve got female friends but never went out of my way to pursue them. Usually I met them through social circles by association or through work. Occasionally they were situations that didn’t work out or girls who were interested in me that I just weren’t into. As a whole I do find interacting with female friends is not quite the same as interacting with male friends, depending on the individual, but I don’t consider it an inherently bad thing; both male and female friends come with their own pros …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 04:13 PM
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Exactly. The amount of bullshit she’ll put up with from a guy because he makes her feel things is insane sometimes Young women are desperate to some degree and want love too (or at least some twisted idea of it) Some men here point to women saying they’ve given up on men as an “example”, but the reality always seems to be that the young woman in question will say that, but then it goes straight out the window when another guy gives them that sort of reaction
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 12:30 AM
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You'd be surprised. As someone in that late teen/early 20s peer group, the women in this age bracket can be really naive Like really naive, and also blinded by their goggles of love and romance I think it's just something about after 30 years of life experience, you put up with far less bullshit and are much more willing to walk away from someone who you see nothing with.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/22 06:58 PM
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I say that if it’s one or the other, women will like you far more if you’re a cocky, delusionally confident asshole than if you’re “reasonable and modest” In fact I dare say that having a modest and reasonable temperament is one of the ways you guarantee mediocrity in life and relationships with people
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/22 04:48 PM
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That’savgood way to look at it That confidence will likely considered hot anyway In my case something vaguely related, the more confident I’ve become about being a weirdo in general and the less I worried I am about girls considering me “too weird”, the better I do with them Dudes in general could afford to stop focusing and worrying about why women don’t like them
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 07:51 PM
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I can agree… sort of On one hand, if you’re just tryna get some play and she doesn’t ask, then no need to say nothin imo But on the other hand there ARE a lot of guys out there who wear a whole mask because they’re afraid of any little thing they do being perceived a certain way by a girl And ironically this is in the same family of bitch-made behavior that turns women off
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 07:21 PM
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Yeah exactly; their strategy is wait, hope, then whine when it doesn’t work out the way they think They try to make ALL types of rationalizations (read: excuses) about why they don’t talk to girls or ask them out. But that doesn’t matter, because women just gonna see you as a little bitch, and that’s the absolute WORST place to be
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 05:23 PM
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A lot of the dudes who complain about the dating scene, while they may have legitimate concerns, also strike me as being un-masculine and weak-willed Which can partly explain their troubles
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 05:07 PM
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Just look up “Scientific Black Pill” Should be the first result you get. (And yes, I know the website name will be questionable, and the answer as to how I found that place is that I was quite a different person about a year or two ago)
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 11:56 AM
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And the best part is I still have like no clue how to feel about that whole thing
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 03:32 AM
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I always say that if a dude had no type of “experiences” in high school, then he has a small window after high school to start getting experience If he misses that small window (which encompasses college-age), then things will get crazy difficult. (even if you didn’t go to college, being college-age is a really good time to socialize and date around) Not saying it’ll be impossible, but experience is a good thing to have and makes the battle far easier to manage
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 03:29 AM
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That’s more of a people-pleasing tendency or anxiety-adjacent tendency If you can realize that you’re seeing chances and not acting on them, chances are you’re not (that) autistic
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 03:19 AM
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Once I was super bored and read the whole thing Fascinating stuff but also made me feel several emotions at once and I don’t even know how to describe any of them
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 03:15 AM
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I’m not the guy you asked but just look at how dudes who DO have hella options end up behaving Once you do that, the question answers itself
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/22 04:04 AM
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While it be a joke, it does show how some men believe self-improvement should go When reality is that it never ends, and that refusing to talk to girls until xyz happens just puts you further down the hole
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/22 02:47 PM
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Scientifically, big booty hoes make your testosterone higher and are responsible for greater cognitive happiness and function
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/22 01:20 PM
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Self-improving to get women is cringe Viewing women as PART of self improvement is based
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/22 12:22 PM
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I actually wrote a similar post some time ago And I absolutely believe that alcohol, and to some extent, drugs, have always been instrumental in the casual sex scene I say one thing, and it's that if you want casual sex with different women, no strings attached, the easiest way to do it is go to parties and get you some poompoom You constantly get several objections to this such as: "It's bad for your health" "That might not be very safe" "I'm not comfortable in that environment" "I tried it and…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/22 10:09 PM
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That makes sense if you’re inattentive and have trouble focusing Though my hypothetical issue with desk work might be due to innate hyperactivity as opposed to just focus issues
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/22 12:29 AM
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Yeah, seeing the results of your labour definitely makes a HUGE diffrence. I've been considering warehouse work, or preferably some type of work that involves a lot of picking up heavy things and moving them around or arranging things. Also, what do you mean by popcorn? Because I can't imagine you mean literal popcorn Or maybe so...
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/22 12:19 AM
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Yeah. I used to really think “Why they find drug dealers hot?” And some do, but for the most part, drug dealers are just doing another form of betabuxxing Also I remember for me I once had some weed I didn’t want and this one girl wanted to buy. The way that conversation went, it was implied she’d definitely have done some dirty stuff for the weed
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/22 12:13 AM
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Right. I think of the idea of sitting in front of a screen all day and I'm just like "Ew" I've not done white collar work yet, but when I compare how it felt trying to focus in school vs. how much easier it is to focus when I have a clearly defined, physical task right in front of me, I can make the reasonable assumption that a desk job is quite possibly hell on earth for a guy like me.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 11:56 PM
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Yes, that makes a lot of sense. I've considered the health problems side of things and decided that it's pretty much pick your poison (desk jobs come with diabetes risks, posture problems, stress-related stuff, heart attack, etc.) Though like you said, the difference is that if you catch bad enough health issues in a blue-collar field, then your ability to make money goes straight out the window. Though I believe I could start practice good enough habits now to lessen potential damages, there's …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 11:40 PM
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I’m thinking that blue-collar work might actually be better in the long run for my ADHD ass than sitting down at a desk for work would be All the concerns I would have about long-term blue collar work seems to have its own counterpart concern in office work I don’t entirely know though
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 11:13 PM
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Even if they aren’t getting directly stated discounts or free weed for some top, the girl might be trying to waggle her way into a deal or discount Hell, I know one girl I recently went and chilled with told me that she gets free weed just for walking down the block and lookin “pretty” (aka wearing a crop top and some biker shorts)
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 11:00 PM
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Way more common than I had thought at first
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 10:52 PM
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Not only is he more fun and is he more exciting and this causes women to feel the good stuff inside as others have stated But he’s also more likely to ACTUALLY go for what he wants, AKA he’s more likely to hit on women, because he’s not nearly as worried about what the rules say or about making other people feel uncomfortable.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 05:49 PM
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Oh I know I’m definitely not. Though I was never sure exactly how common this was
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 03:59 PM
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I have an issue of attracting women who are unwell. If a woman is attracted to me at all I automatically assume she has anxiety, depression, BPD, or some combo of that and more. Because this is how it’s been every time I myself am also quite commitment-phobic and somewhat avoidant, not a romantic person, and generally relationships make me nervous Tl;dr: lots of shit that needs to be sorted out
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 03:08 PM
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If I just ask, what were your high school years like? And the years following graduation?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 01:00 PM
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Would ass milk be chocolate milk?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 04:32 PM
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Too many social media followers or a skewed follower to following ratio Also, obese or overweight
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/22 09:45 PM
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I made a comment that explains this pretty well https://www.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/comments/xue3kb/daily_community_chat_megathread/iqxggt6/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf&context=3
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/22 09:09 PM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/comments/xue3kb/daily_community_chat_megathread/iqxggt6/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf&context=3 This comment I made a while back describes it pretty spot-on
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/22 09:08 PM
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I have a couple, but I want to focus specifically on a couple relating to style and poise I’m generally wary of any girl who has the “Instagram bimbo” look, “hot Cheetos girl” look, or the “dyed hair with tattoos and piercings” look Each of these are sort of archetypal styles a girl can have, but the girls who have one of these three styles always seem to carry problematic tendencies. They’re usually pretty hot but can make your life hell if you choose wrong. (I know this can apply to any partne…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/22 04:51 PM
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This is something guys should pay attention to One of the best possibly quality of life improvements you can possibly to a relationship is being her type
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/22 04:33 PM
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There’s a lot of space between “awkward virgin” and “man whore” though. And most guys actually fall somewhere in between there
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/22 11:24 AM
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I- you- Sigh..unzips
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/22 02:02 PM
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Well I must say that I have a habit of smelling sharpies for a reason
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/22 01:43 PM
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You WHA- You know what, as long as you don’t get caught, you didn’t do it 😌
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/22 12:50 PM
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Do what you gotta do on CUMpany time
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/22 12:43 PM
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The effects of religion and sexual shame on Gen Z likely need to be talked about more A lot of Gen Z are atheist or functional atheists (which is what I call people who claim a religion but clearly don’t take it seriously when you watch the way they act in daily life) But regardless of their current lack of religion, you can’t just easily undo religious shame surrounding something that already has a lot of shame surrounding it
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 08:51 PM
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You perfectly summed up what I’ve been thinking and trying to say for quite some time now
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 08:41 PM
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I went at around 6 this morning My goal had been to get in there by 5:30 though It makes work so much less of a slog to get through
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 03:43 PM
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You make a fairly good point I’m probably overthinking it considering I usually have fun at work anyway
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 01:17 AM
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Yes, it was in fact a Halloween one. I didn't dress up though. If asked who I was or why I didn't dress up, I'd respond that I'm already enough of a character. Also, totally super fun. I can totally see how and why people get sucked into partying as a lifestyle
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 11:56 PM
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Years ago I could've never imagined myself being invited to and going to a house party, let alone dancing in front of other people and having actual fun while doing so. Though I will say, the feeling of having to go back to reality the next day is just the worst. I know this is a weirdly long-winded way to say I went to my first house party yesterday, and enjoyed the hell out of it, and that no one really cares. But I felt like sharing
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 11:41 PM
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I can also agree with this. I'm not in general super paranoid about geting shot, but I do become aware of the fact that when so many people are in one place, the likelihood of some wackjob with a gun is much higher than usual.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 11:14 PM
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I must say between Astroworld last year and the Itaewon incident this year, my my fear of large crowds has been truly solidified. Frankly, getting injured or dying that way is such a terrifying thought that it makes me wish to avoid crowds entirely. I'll stick to get-togethers and parties, but anything where people are bumping shoulder-to-shoulder and/or able to smell each other's breath when they speak? Nope, I'm good, I can chill at home.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 10:01 PM
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Me neither. It was a genuine mind-blowing moment for me
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 09:12 PM
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I’m strongly considering doing it I must stop relying on the dopamine rush; also saps my motivation and energy Especially saps my motivation to talk to or link with girls
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/22 07:20 PM
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I've occasionally wondered if she's using my stepdad as a BB, but I don't think too hard about it considering that dwelling heavily on my parents' sex life isn't something I want to do in the slightest. (though overall my guess is that this is not the likely case ) I've also realized in a way, my mom is somewhat redpilled in her own way. She was one of the first to tell me that ignoring girls will get you disproportionate amounts of their attention in some cases. She's also said "Don't trust non…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 05:53 PM
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I’ll give credit where it’s due. Some do adapt Others don’t though; a lot of guys who talk endlessly about female nature on the internet are not adapting. Just theorizing and in some cases complaining Still, no disrespect toward TRP, but some of its followers make it look dumb
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 01:28 PM
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As someone who’s a late teen, almost no longer a teen, and knows a lot of teen girls. The way they talk about each other behind their backs is…quite a thing to witness Guys complain about women having it easier socially, but I’ve seen enough to know these friendships look way better from the outside than they actually are These girls are mean to each other. The contrast of how they act face-to-face vs what they say is like…holy shit why do you even pretend to like this person?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 01:26 PM
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They seriously do it to themselves. One thing that made me more or less stop listening to a lot of TRPers’ takes is the fact that half the things they complain about are a direct byproduct of the very ideologies that they follow
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 01:21 PM
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Q4M: What on earth are you supposed to say if a woman asks if you “have hoes” or something to that effect? This is one of the only shit tests I’ve seen that I have no actual clue what the expected answer is.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 03:52 PM
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Hypothetical q4m: How would you feel if your gf/wife had an orbiter that sent her money all the time just for existing? And let’s assume you know with 100% certainty that she absolutely finds him too repulsive to even consider fucking or dating him, but Is happy to accept his money. Occasionally he may send you money too What would you think?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/22 12:54 PM
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Exactly Truer words haven’t been said here in quite some time
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/22 12:52 PM
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Somewhat commitment-phobic Some level of ego issues that need to be sorted out. ADHD which can be accompanied by a whole host of potentially annoying personality traits, including: occasional hyperactivity, fast-talking, talkativity in general, and excessive laughter (my thoughts are funny, ok?) Not much of a romantic person in general. The idea of giving flowers, gifts, and showering with excessive Quite possibly avoidant attachment style
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/22 11:01 PM
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While I’m not much of a costume person, conceptually Halloween is pretty dope More importantly, it’s a good time to go to parties though and is probably the easiest time to get invited to them (already got two invites, one of them being preemptive) And I’d imagine probably the easiest holiday to get laid if you’re single for this very reason
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/22 10:37 PM
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On actual Halloween day? I've nothing planned yet aside from working. Leading up to it though I may or may not go to a couple of parties. Depends on if work gets in the way
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/22 07:11 PM
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An increasingly isolated society, less human interaction is “necessary” than it used to be, hobbies such as video games making it even easier to be introverted, parenting (or even lack thereof), and culture overall shifting
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/22 02:36 AM
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Tons of factors coincided at once and in the worst way possible that makes Gen Z, my generation, especially prone to being docile or passive as a natural state No excuse though, gotta work to be assertive
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/22 02:18 AM
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It's probably one of the most out-there revenge fantasies held on this sub Some people honestly think a bunch of dudes, many of whom are scared to even talk to people, are gonna rise up against the government, women, and "Chad" They cite that sexless men in the past became violent, seemingly forgetting the fact that modern society is designed on a loss; that is, most people won't be willing to sacrifice all their other comforts to uprise. Chances are, they'll live in quiet despair while trying t…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/22 07:58 PM
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Are you me? Because this is the exact same way I motivate myself to work-out, go to MMA, work more, go back to school, etc. The idea of being less than eats me up so much that I simply cannot allow or accept mediocrity or being "Good enough". For hat and other reasons, I similarly suspect I have some form of narcissism
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/22 11:13 AM
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I agree with you. It happens that these men are assertive enough to eventually get what they wanted. Also another correlationn is that aggressive men are higher in testosterone. And what makes you attractive to women? Yep.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/22 11:05 AM
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If it was my brother? I’d just be mad about the fact that I wasn’t informed but otherwise it’s nothing too major. He’s technically a minor, but hypothetical gf’s age probably would make it that this isn’t that weird If it was my sister? I’d be simultaneously upset about the situation, disgusted that my hypothetical girlfriend fucked someone who’s clearly far less mature than her, and I’d have way less respect for my sister having clearly cheated on her girlfriend. In any case, it’s a done deal. …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/22 08:17 PM
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I agree. That shit can run incredibly deeper than people realize
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/22 07:58 PM
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Probably. But he's also free. Tbh it's more about cherry picking which he chooses to follow vs. allowing himself to be controlled by them
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/22 12:39 AM
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Agreed. I've been in both the position of trying to do everything right so people will like me AND in the position of just allowing myself to be a weirdo without caring. It's a reeealllll big shocker which version of me actually is more respected and well-liked. Hint hint, it ain't the version of me who wanted to be liked.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/22 12:34 AM
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Exactly. I had been thinking about how these supposedly "average" dudes never saw any action, and I thought: "Wait wait wait, most people see some type of action in high school. Even if it's just a couple of sloppy makeout seshes or some awkward flirting that ends in some short-lived situationships, it's something. But meanwhile these guys have had no nothing" That leads to the conclusion that the guy is in fact, socially/developmentally stunted in some way. And therefore, not average. (And agai…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/22 11:35 PM
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Agreed. A man who is not controlled by the fear of social norms is a powerful and free man
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/22 10:38 PM
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Truly so As an MMA practitioner, I just didn’t realize how damn scared humans are of getting hit naturally until I had started sparring
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/22 05:24 PM
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Here's a take I've got. (warning, long comment) If you're an "average dude", and you got past high school without ever having kissed a girl, lost your virginity, been in a relationship, or especially if you've never even gotten attention from a girl in that way, you are by definition not average. And this goes double if you go to college and still nothing. Maybe you were socially stunted. Maybe you didn't hit your glow-up until you were almost about to graduate. Maybe you were homeschooled. Mayb…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/22 03:29 PM
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Well, I don’t know why, you can ask the women who personally really liked my face And what does that matter? Sure, Chad makes it harder to get a laid or get a gf but he doesn’t make it impossible But the point is. Being her type really does affect and improve your chances. It can take you from being a normal 5 to being a 7 in her eyes
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/22 12:12 PM
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Agreed. Dudes really think “Well statistically I’m average in several departments so don’t I deserve some type of female attention?” Nope. Doesn’t work that way. Women don’t think in “Oh he’s average and so am I, so I should date him/have sex with him” It doesn’t help that I’m willing to bet these guys aren’t as good-looking as they think For me the thing that collapses the argument is the fact that niches exist. If you reallly are average-looking, you’re definitely someone’s type
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/22 04:41 PM
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I can agree Flirting just to do it and to have it not have to mean something is a wonderful skill I think every man should develop
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/22 03:15 AM
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So I'm not sure why people don't focus in that instead of that number Because they're too neurotic and/or autistic to read people, so they want an easy mathematical way instead of putting in the work required to read context and nuance. What n-count fails to take into consideration is the how, and it doesn't take into consideration sexual encounters that didn't involve intercourse. Like if you take two girls with an n-count of 5, and the first girl has had 4 boyfriends over a few years and one F…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/22 05:11 PM
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For real. I assume at this point most women have fucked around at least a bit. So the trick is to find see how likely she is to continue trying to do so And the thing is that if she has a bunch of bodies, she probably ain’t gonna tell you that. Hence why worrying about it is ultimately unproductive
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/22 04:51 PM
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Finding out if she wants to fuck you vs how likely she is to cheat are two different ballgames
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/22 04:47 PM
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That’s what I am actually saying Things that are predeterminate of impulsive behavior are more reliable of a predictor of promiscuous behavior than an individual number (up to a certain point at least)
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/22 04:46 PM
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I do agree that getting a feel for her values is a good idea and should be done when it can
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/22 04:40 PM
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Most certainly
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/22 04:39 PM
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Ohhh Pardon my autism
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/22 03:20 PM
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Good luck finding it out tho. Meanwhile these other things can be figured out pretty damn quickly imo, and they’re pretty telling signs
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/22 03:13 PM
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Because these things can be telling way quicker and easier than finding out a woman’s n-count That is, good luck getting a straight answer about something like that. (plus they might be telling their own version of the truth that doesn’t match up with yours) For instance, I can know a female acquaintance is of higher likelihood of impulsive behavior (in this case, cheating) , because I’ve seen that she gets into fights all the time But asking her her n-count? The chances of a desirable result fo…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/22 03:11 PM
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Yo, it never fails to make me laugh when guys are so so obsessed about n-count when the truth is that there's no way to be sure that a woman is being truthful about it. (I mean, again, I think it matters more how the n-count got there than the actual number, up to a certain logical point of course) Instead, what you should look for is other telltale signs that she's easily swayed by emotions and impulses and has general hedonistic tendencies. And these things are much easier to find out than a s…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/22 03:05 PM
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Slap? Possibly if I get the sense she’s wanting a bit of aggression Grab, though, yes, most definitely no question that if we’re making out I will grab her ass
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/22 09:25 PM
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I’m 19 but my estimation will be probably mid to late twenties assuming I continue on the path I’m on now
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/22 03:49 PM
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I'm starting to think the reason you went bald is because the sheer amount of brainpower and intelligence was too much for your hair to handle
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/22 09:16 PM
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Single. I'm thinking the average is like 6 or something It's weird to say. I have friend circles that are both mixed, but the amount of times I hang out with these friend groups in a month varies wildly. Some months could be as high as 7, some as low as zero I'm betting on the average being 1-2 times a month The MMA school I go to does have female practitioners, but the average night at MMA class is gonna be a sausage party And lastly, I occasionally do things like go skating or go to watch loca…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/22 08:17 PM
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Yeah. As long as she’s wanting it and I don’t get the sense that she’s just “letting me have sex with her” Then frankly the frequency itself depends entirely on life circumstances
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/22 10:00 PM
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Probably shows strength of will in some way. A man who gives into a woman giving him any attention is weak. Weakness is unattractive A man who can ignore women and prioritize his life and goals is a man who displays strength and self-control. Strength is attractive At least, that’s my guess, as far as I know I’m talkin’ from my asshole here
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/22 07:36 PM
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There’s a noticeable difference in my mood on sunny days as compared to partly cloudy or overcast ones
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/22 07:34 PM
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There's a couple reasons: Desire for that trad lifestyle with a SAHM and a breadwinning dad (even though this lifestyle is becoming slowly more and more of an unrealistic goal) Just wanting a general feeling of masculinity or of having the power in the relationship Fear that the woman will think she's beter than him (which is actually a subconscious fear that she is better) They confuse women who have jobs with high-power career women who are bitchy by default in their minds I've said before it'…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/22 12:42 PM
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Exactly Frankly it’s not my problem if they believe that I should place my value on whether or not I have a romantic partner
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/22 02:41 AM
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You might be right but I don’t think I’m reaching too far Keep in mind o never said that they had the same agenda, but they just look eerily similar is all
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/22 09:50 PM
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For sure
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/22 08:05 PM
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Oh yeah it’s not anyone else’s problem but his own
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/22 06:33 PM
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Their minds are still stuck in the socially conventional ways of doing things. In some cases these men also figure that if they couldn’t have fun in their youth, it won’t get any better in the future (which may be accurate depending on the man)
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/22 06:30 PM
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Because the dudes who are missing out when they’re young are the ones upset, and they do NOT want to be settled with when they’re older It makes sense, too, as it’s kind of a shitty end of the stick.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/22 06:03 PM
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As well as a heavy preferences on...shall we say certain attributes And a very certain Austrian artist would probably be quite proud of these preferences and requirements
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/22 03:35 PM
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I see that you have returned from the aether (sorry, not relevant or anything, but I felt a need to say it)
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/22 03:32 PM
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I'd extend this to being able to code-switch well and being able to communicate smoothly between all facets of society is attractive too. In my case this includes even being able to speak another language. It might boost your "He's fascinating" factor. And not that I'd say it's directly contributed to my success (yet), but it has made me more interesting as a person, and likely will come into play sooner or later.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/22 03:31 PM
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It’s funny how many people in here swear have seemingly implied that this sub attracts the weirdest autists and weirdos while simultaneously implying that they’re one of the good ones or one of the normal ones. Wrong. Even if you have a social life or successful dating life, you definitely have to be at least somewhat weird to end up on a space like this.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/22 10:45 AM
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As someone who cleaned houses for a bit, this is so true. One of the ways I kept myself from from getting bored was by forming hypothetical, but semi-true narratives by what their house is like
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/22 10:32 AM
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Ultimately, the realization that some people will dislike you just for existing is the most freeing realization
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/22 05:55 PM
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It kind of does. Men who date out may be referred to as "traitors" or "self-hating" or some other shit like that And the end result? They (or should I say we) don't care
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/22 12:59 PM
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I need elaboration If you must dm me to elaborate, then do so
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/22 10:10 AM
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I’m sure that the most immediate effects would be we learn instantly who’s the most insane. Some people here put on a very good façade and others are a bit more open about their lack of any form of sanity I’m sure some closet racists would put themselves over time too. Oh yeah and if you take away spam filters, the amount of “cope” “seethe” etc. would likely make it even harder to have any legitimate discussion here
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/22 07:29 PM
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Question. How often do you practice MMA in the interim? I’m somewhat hoping to gain insight as someone who also does both
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/22 07:23 PM
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Push-pull-legs basic shit. I combine strength movements for each category with hypertrophy and/or endurance for each. Whenever I can’t make it to the gym I do calisthenics circuits I also go to MMA practice 2 or 3 days out of week and it’s relatively intensive. Sometimes I get cardio and calisthenics in on those mornings, but not always
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/22 07:22 PM
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Me me me. I’m also Stacylitesexual and petitebrunettebeckysexual
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/22 07:17 PM
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Ever since I could feel arousal for women I’ve thought women in their twenties were the hottest.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/22 07:16 PM
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I’ve got plenty of female friends/acquaintances and plenty of female coworkers who I get along with and talk to outside of work So…no /s
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/22 07:06 PM
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CimZim She vanished quite some time ago because of some spat she got into with some weirdo who I think was bashing on her relationship or something She was one of the chillest to talk to, one of my favorites I’m weirdly both depressed and amazed at the fact that PPD is basically its own self-contained social environment like that of a high school or workplace
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/22 06:53 PM
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5’8 and 3
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/22 06:49 PM
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I had Chad moment was when while me and a girl were chilling, and we have this mutual friend, right? She showed me his attempts to hit on her and talked about how he was being creepy. To be fair he wasn’t exactly the king of rizz, but it’s obvious that he was only “creepy” cuz she wasn’t into him In the same friend group ANOTHER girl also had/has a crush on me but rejected him Brutal for homie, two Chad moments for me Tho
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/22 01:16 PM
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Albania
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/22 02:10 PM
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Women aren't sex objects for all men. But they definitely want some men to notice them easier.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/22 01:44 AM
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Yep. You got a point And even if I am being picky. The fun thing is that it’s MY preference! And has zero bearing on THEM Some women I’ve seen do seem to get weirdly defensive if I express that I prefer single to being in any relationship for the sake of it, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/22 01:23 AM
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Is that the pretty-boy halo effect kicking in? Or the username telling the story?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/22 11:29 PM
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Wrong I peaked in middle school
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/22 10:28 PM
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To me it's the fact that they don't realize that they don't realize socially inept and/or autistic weirdos like them wouldn't have had it any better back in the day. Being the community "special" kid would not have done them any favors.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/22 10:27 PM
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3
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/22 09:58 PM
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Exactly. "But what if I get rejected?" "What if she laughs at me?" "What if she falsely accuses me?" The hurdle these dudes need to get over is realizing discomfort and momentary pain is not the end of the world and that anything you do has an inherent risk of going horribly wrong. Also there's the little, tiny fact that there's literally no other way to play the game. Again, the same dudes who complain about how OLD is impossible. So it's like, what are you gonna do then? If hobbies and social …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/22 02:20 AM
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Ask enough questions and suggest enough ideas and eventually you realize that they haven’t actually tried it and nor have a legitimate reason not to try it, but what they do have are excuses. You learn it’s that they just think it’s “too hard” and are way too neurotic about how wrong it’ll go. After you suggest all the ways to meet new people, they have every type of “but” about it. And those same guys are the most vocal about how unfair online dating is. You realize they literally are just mad …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/22 12:16 AM
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Usually moreso the white trash-y adjacent ones that give me the “Little head vs big head” dichotomy
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/22 10:16 PM
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Right? It’s so weird how it feels tough to describe because it’s just so easy to picture But then everyone can easily get a mental picture after being given a vague description This variant of girl especially makes it a battle between my big head and my little one
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/22 10:13 PM
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I’ve seen a “white trash adaptation” of this too. In that case it’s either the pajama bottoms or maybe even some short shorts that barely cover anything (almost look like boxer briefs)
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/22 10:04 PM
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They’re certainly a different breed if anything…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/22 10:02 PM
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The amount of girls who are into those dudes is a lot more than my more innocent and younger self would’ve thought I’m glad it’s a lesson I didn’t have to learn the hard way.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/22 10:02 PM
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The amount of girls who are into those dudes is a lot more than my more innocent and younger self would’ve thought I’m so glad it’s a lesson I didn’t have to learn the hard way.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/22 10:01 PM
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Basically it's kind of its own "look" but also a set of personality traits and you'll know them when you see them. Some common things involved in the look are Wearing pants with cartoon characters on them (don't ask, I just...when you see it you'll know it) Thrasher tees Accessories like noticeable lip gloss, a lot of make up in general, hoop earrings, fake lashes and nails, tongue piercing, done-up eyebrows If you want a good idea of the look, pictures do it more justice than a verbal descripti…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/22 08:21 PM
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For this comment I made yesterday in the Vetting thread, I just realized I've got a couple of add-ons Red/Yellow Flags: Vaping Drinking semi-regularly Being of the "Hot cheeto girl" type Glorifying trashy or ghetto shit Dealbreakers Gangbanging ex(es) Heavy drinking or alcoholic. Onlyfans or sex work in general Cheating on a previous partner Takes pride in fighting men It's not even about the fighting, cuz wassup then? But jokes aside, the reason is that someone who feels the need to brag about …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/22 08:01 PM
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I did Nazi that coming
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/22 07:39 PM
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I'M GONNA COOK YOU WITH GA- Wait a minute, I think Hitler would like to have a word with me if I finished that thought
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/22 07:35 PM
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YOU MEAN PROPER LIKE THIS?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/22 07:30 PM
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Food is shit before it becomes shit so by that definition is all food just pre-shat shit? And are restaurants jobs, by definition, to give a shit? Why is shit?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/22 10:58 AM
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Must-haves Good relationships with women in her life. Physically active Within appropriate age range At least some type of hobbies and life to engage in outside of me A job or be actively on the search for one. Some level of assertiveness and ability to speak her mind Enjoying talking about hypothetical and theoretical topics Must display the subtle signs of attraction (it's super important because they're very hard to fake) No problem with my tastes in media and music (the latter of which may b…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/22 02:01 AM
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As a guy who kind of falls in this category I can agree with you I was never really ugly per se, but I have a babyface case In HS I was a completely different-looking person and keep in mind I’m only almost 20 now but yet still, me at 17 vs me now at 19 is night and day In my 20s things will only get better. It’s not like I had ZERO interest in HS, but I wouldn’t blame them if absolutely no one was interested
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/22 12:35 PM
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In my case it’s always about “But what about your legacy?” It doesn’t matter when I doubt I’ll be mentally well enough to take care of kids and truly bond with them. And plus, I don’t mean to be that doomer kid, but in this economy? Nah homie, I’m good
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/22 12:06 PM
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I agree. I said a while back that if you can get fat girls, you can probably get thin women too. I forgot what my train of logic was in that comment but if I find it then I will definitely link or paraphrase it EDIT: here is the comment in question
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/22 07:50 PM
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I’d never trade this life of being a man. I’m spite of how guys here complain about how hard it is to be a man, I feel like it fucking rules Frankly you couldn’t pay me to be a woman
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/22 07:43 PM
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A lot of em don’t mind at all. Speaking as someone who used to be in that category, most of those types of dudes don’t mind a gut if it means she’s got a dump truck Often the ideal standard would be slim thick, but the guys in this category either feel like they can’t or realistically can’t attract a slim-thick girl
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/22 07:41 PM
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I’m not interested in blue collar men because it typically isn’t sustainable throughout their lives. There’s only so long you can do hard manual labor before your body starts to break down. This is why I decided against learning a trade. Reddit loves the "You don't have to go to college, just learn a trade, bro!" idea, and indeed it does work for some folks and sounds great up front But for me, that risk of injury and body complications makes it sound so not worth it. And plus, the money can be …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/22 01:05 PM
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Yeah I most definitely would. No question about it
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/22 10:47 AM
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I can see what he means though. Those are two vices that are particularly likely to Particularly because when you’re doing those things, they’re particularly likely to get you into a spiral and you’re having so much fun that you don’t even realize how much time you’re wasting
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/22 08:10 PM
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That would probably be the smartest way to do it. Same, an athletic, energetic, extroverted type with ADHD would be well balanced by someone with opposite traits that complement mine
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/22 08:01 PM
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I agree it's pathetic how a lot of, if not most men, are a slave to their sexual desires like this We live in a time where it's easier than ever to self-actualize and make a purpose for yourself in this life. We live in a time where we have more freedom of choice than ever to choose what is important to us. To rise above our base biological impulses. Yet some guys choose to stay enslaved to them On one hand, the amount of men who have chosen mediocrity makes it a lot easier to be not mediocre
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/22 01:49 PM
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While I'm not a guy who has given up and I don't have too many difficulties nowadays (..relatively speaking), in the past I was a bit of an i-word and even when I was getting none whatsoever, I still wouldn't have ever paid for it, and the reasons why haven't changed. So assuming that I was still involuntarily coochie-less and that it wasn't illegal: It doesn't actually substitute for genuine sexual attraction. Which is often what these said guys are after, moreso than just the sex, and it's sur…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/22 12:44 PM
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Intellectually I couldn't give a damn if someone thinks they're a better person than me. While I wouldn't consider myself too "evil" or a downright shit person, I wouldn't say that much of my ego is attached to being considered a good person, and I've zero qualms with being thought of as a bad person. (so long as it's not widespread enough to cause an actual problem to my safety or widespread social damage)
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/22 09:12 PM
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Oh yeah I can agree that those situations aren't a full-bown excuse; if you want to be a "good" person, then you have a moral duty to do what is right regardless of how it causes you to be percieved If you fold because of a bit of pressure, you cannot call yourself a virtuous person. At the end of the day, I know that I personally will put my own self-interests first (while trying to realistically avoid as much damage as possible), so I don't think of myself as a good or particularly virtuous pe…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/22 01:27 AM
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Ultimately, yes. For some it can be discouraging to try to do the right thing if you're still being thought of as an asshole. Especially if they see actual assholes being praised. But a truly good/moral/virtuous person is likely going to realize that not everyone is going to think of them as one and be willing to accept this. In many situations, there's no clear cut right answer. And that's what can make the ideas of "good" and "evil" hard to navigate Like for instance there's the cases where di…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 09:33 PM
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I can't lie. Your friend's a smart man. I've gone my whole life witnessing men characterized by women as "nice", "sweet", and "respectful" ALSO being characterized by women as being virginal and not a sexual being. So hence it makes sense why being characterized as the opposite of those traits would ultimately be a good thing. In my own case, "asshole" is a good thing because imo it means I'm doing something right. If a couple of people think you're an asshole, it likely just means you have an a…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 02:24 PM
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It's fear but also a lack of discipline and excuse-making. "Well...I tried to lose weight/start exercising but I didn't have time/it didn't work/it was too hard" It's a lot easier to just not put the effort in and demand everyone love you as you are. Funny enough, this ends up backfiring massively when the men they demand love from end up using them for sex or settling until something they're more attracted to comes along.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 02:18 PM
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I've started placing more emphasis on face than body personally and find that life has been a bit more interesting ever since doing so. Sure I might wanna have sex with the butterface, but I won't be as enthused about kissing her or other similar tender moments. A pretty face smiling at you is a joyous experience that can't be replicated.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 02:06 PM
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Most definitely. I've known for quite a long time that things like "you're such an asshole!" and "You're evil/a psychopath/ a horrible person" are some of the all-time weakest insults. If said person really is a shitty person, then they don't give a shit about being a shitty person until they get some real consequences. And name-calling ain't a consequence so much as it is a form of positive reinforcement to them. I know this mostly from being someone who the vast majority wouldn't consider a ba…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 02:00 PM
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Pretty much. PPD has its own lore I liken it to working in a kitchen where there’s its own insular social dynamic Seeing the PPD regulars being forced to work in the same environment would actually be very interesting…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/22 02:02 AM
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Nope. I’m someone who debatably has mental issues that can especially make it look like I’m stringing people along (I can’t lie and say I’ve never done it exactly…) That’s zero excuse if I know better. Which I do
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/22 11:25 AM
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Sooo I believe having a big friend circle can be one of your best keys dating success because of the sheer amount of width and potential you have for warm approaches. Compared to cold approaches and OLD, it’s a lot easier to do your thing in an environment where there’s a base level of social proof and familiarity of that. We all know why OLD just doesn’t really work for dudes and cold approach is a whole other beast
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 02:14 PM
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I say I say it is. At least have 2 or 3 people you can kind of call a friend It doesn’t have to be a huge squad (though if you have a squad, that’s a net positive) Why’s this? Because a woman who learns that you have no friends will inevitably see that as a red flag and may be rightfully worried that you’ll rely on her for all your social needs I say it’s important in general to be getting your social needs met outside the relationship too
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/22 02:00 PM
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Took me way too long to realize this. I've fumbled away too many opportunities because I just didn't seem into it. Well, more specifically I've realized my own definition of "seeming into it" likely will not match HER definition of "seeming into it" The key is always to match energy. I've learnt this trick helps not only with flirting but it helps maintain friendships, alliances, etc. Because someone feeling you're not into it will begin withdrawing from you subconsciously way before they've eve…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 10:05 PM
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I can attest. This is in spite of me being a quasi-autistic weirdo for all intents and purposes. I think it's just something about being funny that can stimulate latent attraction (or at leas that's what I call it)
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 10:02 PM
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Both have their own pros and cons I'd say, but ultimately I'd say born good. Being born evil, but having overcome it with great effort ultimately means the person has only done so to fit in or for the purpose of meeting a certain goal. But that means at one's nature, they're still evil at heart. That means when shit hits the fan and instinct takes precedent, the person is a liability to have around. Being born good means that the person is more likely to stick to their inherently goodnature, eve…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 09:57 PM
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It can be pretty tough on it depending on how smart you are about it. I'd imagine that employing these things makes it less tough on your back STRETCH. Do it before class. Do it after class. Do it in the morning after you wake up. Do it before you go to bed. Flow rolling more often than going 100%. Not that 100% is bad, but depending on your age, flow rolling is a lifesaver on your joints. Drinknig enough water, obviously I attend boxing/kickboxing far more often than I do BJJ though so I'm not …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 09:50 PM
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SWEET HOME ALABAMA
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 01:11 PM
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Subway Surfers
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/22 01:11 PM
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Q4M: how toxic is your masculinity?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/22 12:21 PM
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Damn straight💯💯 Like mf, self-improvement should be the standard
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/22 12:05 PM
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Easily. Because when it comes down to looks you might even be decent looking and be able to get initial interest. But then it’s like you fumble the bag every single time I would categorize myself as a former one.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/22 12:03 PM
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One of the girls said it’s “not out of choice cuz I have a list of requirements and I expect a girl to come and do all the work cuz I want the “one” handed to me”. And I’m just dumbfounded at the amount of reaching in that argument She’s most certainly just mad that I ain’t want her like that. We’re long-distance friends but she wanted a long distance relationship, to which I didn’t. And I guess to her me not wanting to do long-distance in her mind means I must be looking for a perfect unicorn. …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/22 10:25 AM
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