When it comes to dating/relationship/sociosexual dynamics, what's something you see talked about in this sub that you've never seen actually happen?

over348 · 2021-10-23T14:16:33+00:00

I keep seeing people saying a lot of short men are successful in dating. I live in one of the most populated cities and work prior to this job I worked cashier at a fast food place for two years so I've seen all types of walks of life. I've seldom saw a short guy with a ring on his finger or a with a woman that wasn't in a group. I've definitely never seen short guy and a tall girl.

Slyfer_Seven · 2021-10-23T13:02:39+00:00

Picky losers. I've never seen a dude who is unsuccessful with women not go for the first chick that smiles in their direction, regardless of all the "requirements" they have...

velvetunderground111 · 2021-10-23T14:12:48+00:00

I'm probably one of the older dudes on here, and it sometimes gets mentioned: the cope that 35+ year old men are in full swing and date hot young women if they have their finances together. Like the Richard Cooper cope? My friend is my age (early 40's) and got into a two story house and a decent new car: he can't get anything. You might have sex with a younger girl here or there, but nobody in college is dating guys my age. Sad cope.

I think most kids on here see through it, but if you are gunning for this in middle age, forget about it.

lulll · 2021-10-23T19:55:14+00:00

i have never seen the short ugly guy that has an endless rotation of hot girls, every argument here somehow ends up with this guy being brought up every time, its hilarious. the only ugly guys i have ever known got their pretty gf/wife because they had $$$$ and that was it

REEE_XD · 2021-10-23T16:17:58+00:00

I've never in my life seen:

A guy pretending to be "friends" with a woman just for sex. Literally no guy who's graduated high school is out here like "Ya know what? Lets be friends" when all he wanted was to fuck you. Most guys know this is a waste of time and they'll usually make that move pretty soon into the interaction.

What I have seen is countless girls in my area saying they want "friends" on tinder and bumble.

festethefoole1 · 2021-10-23T17:02:34+00:00

Men being the “gatekeepers” of relationships and only wanting women in general for sex but not commitment.

It’s total and utter codswallop. Most single men feel at least some level of loneliness and sexual frustration to the extent that they’re perfectly motivated to find a girlfriend.

Now, what you may encounter is men who find a girl attractive enough to have sex with but not attractive enough to fall for her as a girlfriend, but that does not mean that men are turning the girl down because they’re afraid of commitment, don’t like female company or don’t like relationships. It’s just that the girl in question is better than nothing.

Case in point, of the most recent dozen or so women I’ve had sex with since my last girlfriend, 10 of them were “OK-level” women who simply weren’t sexually attractive enough to be a girlfriend. 2 of them were absolutely beautiful and I’d have gladly halved my life expectancy to make them my girlfriend.

Men being willing to have sex with women but not girlfriend them is not because they don’t want relationships or women in general.

CriticalEscapeBike · 2021-10-23T20:28:59+00:00

I've actually never seen the word "sociosexual" used before.

abaxeron · 2021-10-23T14:29:34+00:00

50-year-old creeps hitting on early teenager girls. I mostly see the exact opposite IRL: the older men get, the less they care about women at all. Even my buddy who just as recently as 5 years ago couldn't go an hour without talking about relationships, sex, and scales of attractiveness, currently can easily go through several hours of talking without ever mentioning women in any context.

QuenchlessGato · 2021-10-23T18:08:28+00:00

I've never seen the 5'6 balding janitor that pulls women off of his charisma alone. Unless he is clearly into criminal stuff.

The balding janitor may indeed be charismatic and enjoyable to people, but he was always seen as a jester. People (or more precisely, women) were always like "You are a funny guy - entertain me more" and not "You are a funny guy - let's have a date sometimes".

Kentucky_Supreme · 2021-10-23T16:06:30+00:00

Online it seems like women purely go for looks, money, and status. Even online dating statistics support that. But it in the real world I've seen plenty of examples of decently attractive women with totally average (or even kinda chubby) guys.

And how people will say a guy needs to self improve to get women. And be his "best self". Meanwhile there's women that want to marry dudes that are serving a life sentence in prison. Or total pieces of shit with DUIs, can't hold a job, etc. Somehow they can still get women.

It's like a woman finding a guy attractive is completely random and purely dumb luck on the guy's part.

GridReXX · 2021-10-23T16:37:46+00:00

I’ve never seen a dude IRL who was at least bottom tier average looking (HB 4) be “incel” or never able to find a gf because of his looks.

The very few men I’ve noticed in my life who do seem to be in forever struggle mode are “weird” not “ugly.”

Weird = * untempered neurodivergence * non-sociable OR antisocial * severely high neuroticism and ego sensitivity * shut-in * high inhib * heightened diffidence * etc.

LePengwino · 2021-10-23T22:34:53+00:00

Most guys being relationship-less. That's clearly some sort of manospheric hyperbole, or a miscommunication, because lots of guys have an so. Plenty don't, but most guys aren't lacking in that way.

Strangely though, I worked at a place years back where most of the guys (including me) were not in relationships. That was an exceptional situation, however, due to the nature of the job.

Inf3rn0_exile · 2021-10-23T17:18:25+00:00

Never seen a below average or average guy "slay"

redheadbeauty15 · 2021-10-23T20:46:29+00:00

that girls my age are gushing for middle aged men, every time my friends talk about an older guy he's like 2 year maybe 3 years older, max 5 and I hardly see that.

DontwantaFairOne · 2021-10-23T13:35:25+00:00

I don’t know a single woman IRL that can’t get a relationship b/c “guys only want sex”

Most women learn after a couple pump & dumps unless they have mental issues.

redback-spider · 2021-10-23T15:23:11+00:00

Never seen a women go for a dude they outearn.

Despite the myth of women care a lot about looks seen bigger man having success with thin women. (and they weren't even that succesful / rich)

Never seen women make a real move on a man that goes beyond choosing signals.

Even man have here the right to take parent time as the mother, never seen the man take the bigger part in childcare.

Never saw a stay home man.

The more intelligent the man are the less likely they have a women. (maybe not disgussed so much here).

ragman75 · 2021-10-23T17:58:31+00:00

I've actually seen girls absolutely obsessed with dudes who were ok-looking at best or even a little dusty-looking

We all have, but the question is what options did those girls have? It doesnt really prove anything if they are 5s, hes a 6 and hes the best option in their social circle.

gofigure62 · 2021-10-23T13:39:00+00:00

I see ugly and happy people in relationships all of the time.

I see extremely short men under 5ft married with children all of the time.

I think this sub actively ignores looking at people, acknowledging people, or socializing with people that they consider "lesser" under pill rhetoric.

So while ugly and short men are out here living completely normal and happy lives, they don't exist to the red piller.

They don't see or acknowledge the existence of ugly women or women that don't fit their definition of beauty either. They'll swear up and down that these invisible women don't even exist.

Pickled_Tink_Tea · 2021-10-23T18:38:58+00:00

I've never known of average looking women going after very good looking men.

I've never known any woman who's been "pumped and dumped by a Chad" (likely due to the above).

I see hundreds of average looking women and men pair off together and be very happy together.

XtoDoubt · 2021-10-23T13:43:40+00:00

No one on PPD has ever met a red pill sperg in real life, meaning the kind of dude who would openly tell a woman about hypergamy.

TheOffice_Account · 2021-10-23T12:55:08+00:00

Many women will pick average looking, average wealth men, if they feel a genuine emotional connection and feel safe to explore thenselves sexually and emotionally. Safe enough to try scary things.

That people resort to transactional based interactions once they give up on a chance at authenticity. Most whores have been in love at some point and so have most pimps. Every gold digger has fallen for a broke man and said never again, and every rich sugar daddy does so to try remember his first love.

Many repillers would gladly take the bluepill if they could but they cant so they tell themselves they prefer the red

PlayfulLawyer · 2021-10-23T15:45:38+00:00

Second one first

Have seen: A lot of people on here like to swear that AF-BB is not a real thing, and I've seen it play out enough to know that it is a real threat if a guy isn't careful or just doesn't have any better options

Have seen: Despite the rise of online dating and things of that nature I've seen plenty of average guys do just fine and consistent in terms of dating, average height, some of them even a little overweight, hell I've seen some of the worst off Homeless looking dudes have girlfriends so I really have no patience for most of these so-called incels lol

Have seen: the majority of "slut shaming " being done by other women, and now they try to do the same kind of shaming towards us in other ways which is why when a woman uses terms like "predator", "power imbalance" and "incel" just write your local Congressman to start the funds for those women to be deported lol

Have not seen: a woman of legal age hypnotized into having sex, because I swear you bring up certain sexual Dynamics and all the sudden it turns into "she was gr0000med", "there's a power imbalance", etc.,

Mimoxs · 2021-10-23T18:50:37+00:00

Honestly the afbb thing in general in the sense of unhappy sexlessness or whatever. I do know a girl that dated more attractive men when younger and then got fat as she got older and married a fat guy, but unfortunately for me and everyone around them they are still very openly and shamelessly sexual and PDA with each other. I wish she was disgusted by him.

Also yeah being on a campus I see girls walking around holding hands with short dudes, neanderthals, fat guys on a daily basis. Usually the fat guys date fat girls, the flat out ugly dudes date mousey looking girls, etc

I have never seen a "Chad" as discussed here.

I've never seen women tolerate fuckboy behaviors or fuck a guy because of them or just bc he's hot so they ignore it, blah blah except for the selected and curated screenshots of OLD from places like this. I've seen a girl ghost/block men or tell them off bc of it and eventually found a sweetheart boy she now fucks on the regular.

RunsWlthScissors · 2021-10-24T05:19:58+00:00

I’ve never seen men that can talk to women fail to find anyone when motivated. Below average dudes in heights and looks hitting it out of the park seems like a norm to me. I’ve also never seen people that go to the bars as much as I do fail to find someone when they want to.

I swear to god, the people on this sub that bitch and moan incessantly don’t even step up to the free throw line. Acting like this is some impossible or hard task. Unless you have a legitimate reason that holds you back, like a medical condition like autism or down there’s no reason just about anyone can’t go out there and find something similar to what they’re looking for.

Mark_Freed · 2021-10-23T14:26:47+00:00

I have heard multiple times girls raving how cute it was that the guy asked for explicit consent. The “may i” isn't a turn off for many women.

Some girls do give good advice, once you are close enough they admit that looks matter in guys.

Some girls dont hit the wall in early 30s.

Most things blue pillers believe doesn't happen happens.

CatchPhraze · 2021-10-23T14:05:16+00:00

I've never known a woman who expected all dates paid by him and only gave gifts one way unless in a sugar relationship. All real ones where both ways.

Marino4K · 2021-10-23T14:36:00+00:00

I’ve seen some beautiful women with what I would consider below average men or average at best. This is on a fairly regular basis.

I mean like solid 7 or 8s females with like 5 on a good day dudes. I’m not sure if it something to do with me living near a college.

EDIT: I see it a lot to those asking, I live in RVA so it might just above normal here.

VastlyVainVanity · 2021-10-23T20:08:37+00:00

Men being intimidated by women who are successful. In my opinion, that's just a cope that 30+ yo women use to justify their choices of not marrying while they were younger, and now they have to compete with 20 yo cuties and it's easier to say that men are insecure/immature/pedos than to say that they've done goofed.
Women rejecting men who have slept around specifically for that reason. I've had a discussion with a girl here who insisted that women are as disgusted at men who are sluts as men are disgusted at women who are sluts, and I thought that was hilarious. I'm not a promiscuous man, but the promiscuous men I know have absolutely no trouble finding a LTR. The promiscuous women, on the other hand...
Double standards in dating being a bad thing. People complain so fucking much about double standards. "Why do men who sleep around reject me because I've slept around!?", "Why can women want men taller than them!?", "Why can men pursue women much younger than them!?", "Why do women feel entitled to dating a man who makes more money than they do!?", etc. It's a normal thing about heterosexual dating. Men and women have an asymmetry in what they look for in a partner, so double standards will exist as long as this asymmetry exists.

There are probably many more, but these are the ones that came to mind.

BacanaHeaven · 2021-10-23T23:33:06+00:00

A lot of people here talk about how women only go for attractive men. “The top 20%”, apparently. I can genuinely say I only know around 2 couples where the guy might even rival the lady’s looks. The fact is, 90% of the time the woman is significantly more attractive.

flowerwoven · 2021-10-23T21:15:32+00:00

Age gaps for sure. Literally no one my age (early 20s) is dating a 30 year old.

Ruben_the_Fish · 2021-10-23T15:21:59+00:00

I have never seen a woman marry a "Beta Bucks" that she did not love.

AggroWeasel · 2021-10-23T21:50:13+00:00

Honestly, most of the stuff I hear and see in this sub is painfully true in real life.

Women want and almost exclusively go for taller man. They care about looks to an overwhelming degree. They’ll bang Chads when they’re 20 but then try to settle with a provider when they’re 30.

It’s kind of astonishing how accurate a lot of the Pill stuff is.

NarniaFox · 2021-10-23T12:52:28+00:00

I know lots of women who aren't into casual sex and they've engaged only in serial monogamy.
I know lots of women whose husbands aren't that different from their exes in terms of attractiveness/financial/education levels. A few have better-looing or wealthier husbands, but I don't know much examples of "settling down".
I don't know any really average man struggling with dating. I know few men who struggle and one is morbidly obese due to an illness, another most likely has an autistic spectrum and the other is depressed.

Edit: and this comment got downvoted. Are you triggered because I don't know struggling average dudes?

syxtaly · 2021-10-23T13:17:18+00:00

Women don't care about looks as much as men here insist (they *DO* care about looks). But I think the men here are a little solipsistic about how female attraction works. I care a lot more about the kind of energy he exudes than his looks. Things like his posture, the way he walks and carries himself, the way he speaks. If a 7/10 man radiates a sense of masculinity and confidence I'll prefer him to the shy, wimpy 8/10. The intensity of attraction depends on his energy not his looks. (Men have to pass the looks bar of course, but the bar isn't as high as the men here think and quite dependant on the individual women.)

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Laytheblameonluck · 2021-10-23T22:49:13+00:00

Women valuing men for approaching them, umm, no you don't.

heyeveryonewhatsup · 2021-10-23T23:15:10+00:00

I’m like 5’4 and though I have my issues , social sense I lost weight and grew a beard/ fixed my wardrobe I do well in social settings with girls. I’ve gotten numbers but this has taken time after being the obese awkward but nice kid in high school. I genuinely believe you have to find a way to fake it/ really analyze the situation if you are inexperienced. I’m still not near fit and of course some dickheads will mention my high but it’s very rare. I’ve always been a natural extrovert, I just now know how to adapt to different environments and make a first impression that shows confidence and being bold. Issue is confidence comes with time and validation. You will fail a lot as your grow but you just can’t give in to rejection and you have to be determined not to fail. Easier said than done and I still don’t have it easy. But from reddit Stan point I should be a shell in incel (was close and I understand how men will fall down that path) who can’t be near women.

Edit: I do think people underestimate just how important social validation at a young age can make or break a person. I was looking to have great experiences In elementary. But middle school/high school really tested me and tbh I still suffer from what I went through in that time period but because I had a good support system I some how started to better myself. Now In college I’m getting social validation finally.

social_mule · 2021-10-24T01:52:37+00:00

Men who are obsessed with sex bots and artificial wombs.

WheelIntelligent1354 · 2021-10-24T12:06:32+00:00

I think it's because there's a difference between saying "I don't date fat women" and "I like thinner women", and some people can't see why one will be taken more insultingly than the other)

Yeah it's kinda like me(2nd gen immigrant) saying i get along more with "locals" vs me saying I don't really get along with other immigrants. Idea is similar but people take it differently.

Freelovehighway · 2021-10-24T13:45:09+00:00

I'm gonna say one thing is height. I think short women generally are happy with guys who are shorter, not 5 foot 1 short but short relative to other men. I don't think it has the intoxicating hold over women that it is portended to. I've even heard my ex say 'no that's just too tall for me' and the guys were like optimal height by my reckoning. Maybe she's with a 6 foot 4 guy now, I dunno but she was 5'3' and her ex before me was like 5'7''(I''m 5 '8' and she once asked me 'am I too small for you?' She was quite into traditional male female roles but height didn't seem to factor into it for her, more attitude.

Conversely, she didn't exactly make it seem that kindness was the most important trait a man should have, more like social charisma and dominance. But I don't think anybody really objects to this. Kindness to her mattered more than people's external view on my kindness. I remember once I held a door open for a family to a restaurant and let them go ahead and by doing so they got the last available seats, she went absolutely crazy!

On the flip side of height, while it doesn't matter I am thinking of good looking guys. A tall average looking guy is going to get a much hotter girl than a short average guy. Tall guys can be fat and still get cute girls. The girl will be the type that says 'looks don't matter' but what they love is the masculinity of the robust male.

flamingoinghome · 2021-10-25T11:01:57+00:00

I've never seen a woman marry a man who was both wildly different, and less attractive than, her exes.

I actually have both seen and experienced attraction sneaking up on you over time.

HideyourkidsForreal · 2021-10-23T16:14:40+00:00

The fact that every woman will ride the cock carousel. I know women old and young that do it. But it's far from the 90% of women that many subs claim it is. I'd say it's closer to the opposite

DeJuanBallard · 2021-10-23T16:01:35+00:00

Women choosing non Chads, dudes refusing to simp.

Every girl claims she doesn't choose the bad option. Yea ok

Every dude claims to not be a simp, then turns around and does simp shit.

LittyKitsune · 2021-10-23T15:24:34+00:00

Getting dumped solely for "opening up" and being vulnerable.

I have seen people irl claim that was the reason. Then you find out that no, the opening up itself wasn't the problem. The relationship was already on death's door, SO threw the "opening up" Hail Mary, when Hail Mary fails they blame the Hail Mary itself for the breakup.

monstera-delicious · 2021-10-23T16:36:04+00:00

That ugly men don't fuck. Not true.

That women have endless dating opportunities, not true.

Orange_Paisley · 2021-10-23T14:47:44+00:00

I’ve never in my life known a girl to meet a random guy at the club and fuck them in a bathroom stall 30 minutes after meeting him. And I spent a fair amount of time the 90s in dark smoky clubs.

BlueMountainDace · 2021-10-23T21:50:47+00:00

I've never met women who follow this 6-6-6 rule that I read on this forum all the time. The only thing close is one woman I know who had prerequisites that their partner had to go to an ivy league.

I've also never met women who sleep with dozens and dozens of men. Even the women who did sleep around more usually had FWB situations.

I also know too many average guys who meet plenty of women who aren't tall, rich, or anything.

BrodieDharma · 2021-10-23T16:59:40+00:00

I’ve seen a lot of dickmatizing & women experiencing and talking about having vaginal orgasms from penetration alone (like A-Spot and O-Spot; not only G-Aspot) in real life & women on here tend to pretend it isn’t a real thing to use the idea of men not being good at sex as ammo for insults when they don’t like a man’s opinion. In order to make arguments on why men should be financial providers, women have to push the narrative of the orgasm gap.

A lot of men who have issues with women with more experience is not only because they view most men as not being casual sex material, as far as having sex appeal and Penis power, but that some of the men a woman may encounter will have elevated their sexual palate to where a guy on their level may not have the same effect on her.

Women can definitely separate sex from emotions, but it’s equivalent to her ability to compartmentalize, the game of the guy she’s dealing with, and his sexual prowess.

I’ve rarely seen a woman experiencing her first vaginal orgasms with a man not behave in a somewhat feminine and submissive way.

Neptune-Jr · 2021-10-23T22:23:29+00:00

Let's see. I know tons of poor people who get tons of girls, Average height people in relationships, Women over 30 who are attractive, Men wo aren't obsessed with sex, and lastly no makes fun of virgins in my real life.

CimZim · 2021-10-23T13:23:31+00:00

I've never seen anyone, man or woman, specifically go for the abusive mates.

There's a bunch of victim blaming that goes on in both directions. "Women spend all of their 20s being used and abused by horrible attractive Chads!" "Men only want to date hot gold-digging bitches!"

Nobody actively wants relationships like that.

Willow-girl · 2021-10-23T23:50:15+00:00

I have never seen a woman marry a beta to whom she wasn't attracted at the time.

I think usually the attraction only fades after a few years of him acting like a spoiled man-child ...

lifeofbrittany · 2021-10-23T15:42:31+00:00

I know lots of girls who arent having one night stands or fwb and arent sneaking off to have sex with chad in secret.

throwawaylessons103 · 2021-10-23T15:37:52+00:00

I've never seen a man who is genuinely putting in the effort (to work on himself) have no quality mate options.

It's always been something else. Usually the main issue is they're only searching online and not socializing in person. In other cases, it's an unrealistic standards thing.

jasonology09 · 2021-10-23T15:05:40+00:00

Women actually giving a shit about all these gripes. At the end of the day, they're going to be attracted to whomever they're attracted to, and all this bitching about how unfair it is doesn't mean shit. The game's not going to change for you, so you need to change for it. So if you hate the way the game works, stop playing. But don't refuse to adjust for it, then bitch when it doesn't go the way you wish it would.

majani · 2021-10-23T23:00:31+00:00

I have never met a man with all the "Chad" attributes in one. All the handsome guys I've met were short or average height, and all the tall guys I've met either had weird faces or weird bodies.

I know the mythical Chads are out there, and I see a bunch of them on social media and in sports, but they're probably exceedingly rare.

TrueStorms · 2021-10-24T01:32:11+00:00

This is more something I do see all the time, that people here pretend doesn’t exist. A lot of men, the vast majority I would even wager, aren’t sexless and aren’t Chad’s getting a new chick every night. A lot of guys actually like LTRs and like getting sex that way. Not saying they’d never notice other women but a lot of them can’t be bothered to rack up numbers and are happy with regular sex from one person.

YveisGrey · 2021-10-24T06:14:10+00:00

I ain’t never seen no man in his 40s or 50s rejecting women in their 30s because “too old” but according to RP women in their 30s have “zero options” and men in their 40s are passing them up for women in their 20s who are all just begging to be with them 🤔

Reisiluu · 2021-10-24T07:55:38+00:00

Never seen a girl get with a guy because he is mean and violent, or leave a guy because he is too nice and safe.

Asopaso07 · 2021-10-23T22:55:22+00:00

I’ve never seen a woman use a man for his money. I have seen lots of men use women for money, to clean money through drugs/tax evasion and most of all, I’ve seen lots of men use their girlfriend as baby sitters, cleaners and cookers. My best friend is currently in a relationship like this. The other day she was beaming and praising her man for paying for a taxi which cost £100 to take her and her brother home from a night out. I asked what there was to be so grateful for? She takes care of his child (from another woman), she works and also does his laundry and other domestic shit for free! And the asshole has the nerve to go 50-50 on everything but when he doesn’t and pays for the occasional thing, she is so grateful. 🤦🏻‍♀️

In reality, women are used and abused but have absolutely NO awareness of it because it’s so normalised. If he turns around and calls her a gold digger for the handful of crap he has done for her, she would absolutely feel guilty and believe she is one. She, like most women, have no concept of emotional labour and how society has normalised men gold digging women.

tropicsGold · 2021-10-23T19:03:03+00:00

Actual Red Pill books like The Rational Male don’t say anything at all what shows up in Reddit subs. Nonsense like only the top 0.01% of men have sex. Dude some of these losers never get out of their mom’s basement. There are millions of short bald fat ugly guys getting laid, getting married, having short fat ugly balding children. It is so sad that so may guys just seem committed to failure and excuse making.

And any posts that blame or attack women are just stupid. Most of the attacks are just wrong, and the comments about female nature are pointless because to the extent they are true, that is just the way the world works. You don’t complain about it, you adapt, improvise, overcome (to quote gunny Highway). You might as well complain about gravity.

snowcakey · 2021-10-23T19:38:13+00:00

“Men age like fine wine” “young girls love older men”

Guys see famous older men who still look good and still get pussy, and then falsely believe this is true for ALL middle aged men.

Most men age like utter shit. Any time I see a couple in their 40/50s the woman looks somewhat preserved while the men look like balding fat slobs.

Huuuuge c0pe

Fabulous-Housing102 · 2021-10-23T15:28:28+00:00

I’ve never seen or heard of a man being turned down for not being tall.

Losvadanya · 2021-10-23T14:28:43+00:00

Have Had actually good Female Friends who were there for me when times Were tough and they Were in relationship at the time as well

This Subs really likes to take one specific case scenario or Study and Make it a generalisation of the whole gender

peachycreaam · 2021-10-23T19:21:57+00:00

Agreed with yours. That’s why I think this sub is made up of a lot of young neurotic white boys because grown women really don’t have these “Chad” standards for men. Even really attractive women usually don’t want a man who is physically as good looking as them because it’s intimidating.

Most real life age gap relationships aren’t 21 year old amateur models with 45 year old Donald Trump businessmen. Reddit seems to believe this. Most are between low to middle income unattractive people.

Not all women have lots of sex or relationship options or have men hitting on them everywhere they go.

Demasii · 2021-10-23T22:39:32+00:00

I don't see a correlation between positive social media comments about a woman's looks and how arrogant she views herself in SMV.

The women who seek attention on social media tend to be the most insecure people I ever met and relatively easy to date because they are advertising themselves as available.

The expections are when they are selling something and using their looks to boost those sells.

heyitsjeape · 2021-10-24T00:18:45+00:00

I haven’t seen most of the things discussed - probably around 90% of these things - because I have been almost completely shut out of female interaction my entire life. I don’t take the reporting here too seriously though. I know only certain types of people gravitate here and even fewer are vocal about their experiences.

neetykeeno · 2021-10-24T11:57:01+00:00

Working class men with any amount of occupational and financial competency having trouble getting a wife with a degree. Jeez guys, registered nurse with a degree married to carpenter who did an apprenticeship is like a fucking cliche around here. The entire allied health range of professionals who usually have degrees is breeding like rabbits with builders, plumbers, guys who work FIFO on the mines, guys who got a six month TAFE (like community college) certificate and now run tech support for a medium sized company etc.

Women getting more degrees than men is not a statistical emergency.

LillthOfBabylon · 2021-10-24T17:27:32+00:00

"Men feel love through sex". That's a lie said by men who wan pussy and will never call her back after he gets it. I've seen this happen to friends, friends of friends, and some relatives.

Christian_Kong · 2021-10-24T05:17:04+00:00

I once(and only once) had a discussion about the player/Chad that cries(not entirely sure it was literal or metaphorical) because he gets all these women but none want to commit.

I also don't really see the most women want/demand height thing. Pretty much every "Chad" I have known came down to having traditionally good facial structure and was anywhere from skinny to in ok shape. Sure height might be another plus but it isn't a golden ticket with women.

I also concur with the top post of picky losers.

rick-dicking-morty · 2021-10-23T18:23:24+00:00

Height and facial attractiveness really don’t matter for men.

throwawayforreason67 · 2021-10-23T16:47:57+00:00

People who pedal the "Confidence" one liner, never had to win over someone with "Confidence" themselves.

This also applies to any hypocrite who give dating/relationship "advice".

SaBahRub · 2021-10-23T17:06:31+00:00

Dating for 23 and under = all dating

Social media = reality

Lololololol

RahLyt · 2021-10-23T17:46:51+00:00

I never saw perfect women, outside of here.

Robotemist · 2021-10-23T22:55:19+00:00

Modern women who work just as much as the man and does all the cooking and domestic work.

Every, and I mean every, single couple I know the man and woman works but the woman doesn't know how to cook and don't clean either. All of the husband's including myself are very culinarily inclined and our wives can barely turn in a stove. And we're all domesticated, maybe more than the wives, and very involved with the kids.

iB_Rezzed_Out · 2021-10-23T18:48:25+00:00

Being obese ain’t the problem in dating, attitude is. Also it’s ok to have preferences.

I’ve seen tons of obese people in my life be with/hook up with average/skinny/super attractive people regularly. People on here don’t understand that it’s the connection that matters, no way can anything physical happen without that initial spark.

The only people who get mad when someone says they don’t want to date a fat person are fat people who’s personalities have held them back from being datable.

Source, me: I am obese but don’t like women anywhere near my size. I’ve been successful with women all my life of any size I’ve wanted, even been with some high tier 7 and above types. All it takes is being nice, confident and funny.

My fellow fat people y’all are ruining your own chances with the woe is me bullshit. Own your identity and people will want to be with you I promise.

Title	When it comes to dating/relationship/sociosexual dynamics, what's something you see talked about in this sub that you've never seen actually happen?
Author	Spread-Em-Plz
Upvotes	159
Comments	799
Date	October 23, 2021 12:43 PM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/PurplePillDebate
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