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Kittenkajira/r/RedPillWomen17/02/15 04:23 PM
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INSIGHTFULKittenkajira/r/RedPillWives14/04/17 11:01 PM
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INSIGHTFULKittenkajira/r/RedPillWomen25/02/16 06:48 PM
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INSIGHTFULKittenkajira/r/RedPillWives05/04/16 03:13 AM
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GIRL GAMEKittenkajira/r/RedPillWives10/04/16 08:42 PM
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Kittenkajira/r/RedPillWomen15/07/15 08:15 PM
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INSIGHTFULKittenkajira/r/RedPillWives18/04/16 06:10 PM
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CELEBRATION!!!Kittenkajira/r/RedPillWives25/10/16 06:15 PM
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SCIENCEKittenkajira/r/RedPillWives15/04/16 08:55 PM
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HOMEMAKINGKittenkajira/r/RedPillWives17/01/17 10:03 PM
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CELEBRATION!!!Kittenkajira/r/RedPillWives28/10/16 12:32 AM
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INSIGHTFULKittenkajira/r/RedPillWives09/11/17 10:27 PM
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DISCUSSIONKittenkajira/r/RedPillWives06/05/16 05:56 PM
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Kittenkajira/r/RedPillWomen09/09/14 05:55 PM
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Kittenkajira/r/RedPillWomen20/05/15 05:06 PM
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CELEBRATION!!!Kittenkajira/r/RedPillWives29/08/16 01:02 AM
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DISCUSSIONKittenkajira/r/RedPillWives06/04/16 05:42 PM
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FIELD REPORTKittenkajira/r/RedPillWives29/11/16 07:46 PM
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INSIGHTFULKittenkajira/r/RedPillWives09/04/16 04:50 AM
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DISCUSSIONKittenkajira/r/RedPillWives17/08/16 04:54 PM
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CULTUREKittenkajira/r/RedPillWives11/07/16 05:46 PM
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HOMEMAKINGKittenkajira/r/RedPillWives07/05/16 05:39 PM
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CULTUREKittenkajira/r/RedPillWives05/07/16 09:57 PM
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Kittenkajira/r/RedPillWomen28/08/15 08:46 PM
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Kittenkajira/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/14 09:43 PM
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DISCUSSIONKittenkajira/r/RedPillWives12/09/16 12:20 AM
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Kittenkajira/r/RedPillWomen03/11/14 04:49 AM
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When you get your belongings, pile the boxes in the rooms they go in. All the miscellaneous and decoration ones go in the garage. Unpack the kitchen first. For fun I'd move the air mattress around and sleep in every room.
/r/RedPillWives09/11/17 10:37 PM
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Love the idea of pictures before the house fills up! We have the biggest smiles and the house looks so large.
/r/RedPillWives09/11/17 10:34 PM
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The book is Buddhism for Mothers of Young Children - becoming a mindful parent, by Sarah Napthali. I'm only a few chapters in but so far it's a very good book.
/r/RedPillWives09/11/17 10:29 PM
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To each their own. That is the reason most give for wanting to birth in a hospital. Even in a hospital it takes 15-30 minutes for an OR to be prepped. If you live within a 15 minute range of a hospital, chances are the midwife can call an ambulance which will notify the hospital to prep an OR and you'll arrive about the same time. Many midwives are trained EMT's. And there are those who believe (myself included) that most of the emergencies you are saved from in the hospital during birth are one…
/r/RedPillWives24/04/17 02:00 AM
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Probably just a different culture. I hear lots of other cultures have female family and community members come together to take care of the new mom for a few weeks.
/r/RedPillWives23/04/17 04:29 AM
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Previous complications or c-section don't automatically negate a home birth. Check out ICAN and see if there is a chapter near you.
/r/RedPillWives23/04/17 03:10 AM
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That latching is tough! I had to get help from a lactation consultant and will probably go back a few more times. That was the cause of one of my temper tantrums... I was having such a hard time latching her right and it was hurting something awful each time I tried, baby was crying - in the midst of this my husband brought me the food he made. I was like "can you give me a moment alone?" Then he got cranky because my food was going to get cold. I legit screamed at him to leave me alone, lol. I …
/r/RedPillWives18/04/17 05:51 PM
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I don't know if it's something that happens with older babies, but ours doesn't mind loud noises and such. Just made all kinds of racket in the kitchen with her in a sling, and she slept right through it. :) Daddy cuddles are the best! There's a Facebook page called Don't Forget Dads that has a ton of heartwarming pictures.
/r/RedPillWives16/04/17 07:15 PM
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How exciting! Just keep reminding yourself that dads have instincts too. :) Skin to skin contact on dads is just as good as on moms, so give him lots of cuddle time. I'm grateful now because I can have a couple hours of me time while they hang out. Something a lot of new moms have a hard time with is getting touched out because baby only wants to be with them.
/r/RedPillWives15/04/17 05:43 PM
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We didn't have any naysayers. Some relatives were like "well as long as you're willing to go to the hospital if needed". But that's about as negative as they got! In early labor my husband and I were waiting for it to pick up after taking castor oil, and I had so many fears. So I sat next to him and just let it all out. I told him all the fears and what-if's going through my mind. I kid you not, the contractions picked up right after that and an hour later I was in active labor. Who knows what h…
/r/RedPillWives15/04/17 05:38 PM
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I haven't had a problem with him taking over a lot of the tasks. I was pretty out of it and focused on baby for a while, so that helped.
/r/RedPillWives15/04/17 04:22 AM
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That works! I could do yoga pretty good up until maybe 36 weeks. Then all of a sudden my body just wouldn't move right. So weird, all these moves I was just doing the week before were seemingly impossible. :P
/r/RedPillWives25/02/17 01:16 AM
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I've been doing prenatal yoga throughout this pregnancy and I really like it. :) It does help! At least until you are as pregnant as I am and the belly keeps getting in the way.
/r/RedPillWives24/02/17 06:52 PM
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I have been sewing like mad, which is great except there's still all these house things to do. I made some baby booties, a maternity shirt and skirt, and a waterfall cardigan (that did NOT go well and I had to give up on it - it was like a big lump of fabric on me). Currently making some cloth pads for postpartum use, just in case I need them. Tried out once-a-month meals last week. Did one of the mini-menus that is 5 meals, except every meal serves 4 people twice so it's actually like 20 meals …
/r/RedPillWives24/01/17 06:07 PM
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This might be because I'm hearing impaired and lip read, but I've been instantly turned off by guys before just because I don't like how their lips move. So weird! I joke with my husband about how he turns into this irresistible hottie when his hair is freshly cut. I really ought to trim it weekly. :P. Looove cologne, and the smell of leather.
/r/RedPillWives18/01/17 07:08 PM
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I think what the author is saying is that we complain in the guise of humor rather than admitting we need help or learning to do better.
/r/RedPillWives18/01/17 03:20 AM
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Loved this article! I've taken a few baby classes recently, one of which my husband went with me to. I didn't really know what a dude could learn from a breastfeeding class, but he wanted to go. To my surprise they not only had advice for how dads can help, they actually had a handout just for them! There's really important things he can do to help facilitate breastfeeding, especially in the first few days. Like keeping family out of our hair, and making sure I eat and drink enough. Men need to …
/r/RedPillWives17/01/17 10:17 PM
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Done!
/r/RedPillWives17/01/17 09:33 PM
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But it doesn't change the fact that it matters so much less HOW you meet a QUALITY man (I would argue it doesn't matter at all). What matters is how well you exude qualities that encourages him to stay and commit to you. The "how" is important. Obviously if you meet a guy on tinder, he's going to know you're the type who's into casual sex. You meet a guy at a swinger's bar, he's going to assume you don't want monogamy. If you meet a guy while you're married to another, he's going to assume you'r…
/r/RedPillWives17/01/17 07:15 PM
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I disagree with this. Dating is a kind of test for marriage. It's a dance of compatibility. You wouldn't just save all the good stuff for the day you get married and suddenly turn into Girlfriend 2.0. People get married because they think their spouse has good character and personality, so you'd want to continue with what you've been doing. You might submit in more areas, like with child-rearing or finances, but I don't think submission as a whole should be reserved for marriage - otherwise why …
/r/RedPillWives17/01/17 07:00 PM
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Being pregnant is good practice at letting go of control, for me at least. The extra bit of tiredness and crankiness is enough to have me gladly passing the torch to others. Plus you gain weight, weird things happen to your body, and you can't do everything you used to be able to - you just gotta go with it.
/r/RedPillWives30/11/16 03:17 PM
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It sounds like this is only just the beginning of many happy years of laughter, good food, and great company. Yes, I hope so!
/r/RedPillWives30/11/16 03:13 PM
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I didn't even really think about how risky it was at the time. By then we'd had so many curveballs thrown at us that I was just going with the flow!
/r/RedPillWives30/11/16 03:11 PM
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One thing that we hadn't expected was how much closer we felt after getting married, and how much fun it was to say "my husband" and "my wife". This part is so fun! :) And now that I'm pregnant, we're having a blast occasionally calling each other mom or dad. He changed my computer login screen the other day to say "mom", haha.
/r/RedPillWives08/11/16 03:20 PM
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I'm pretty obsessed with plum wine. It's so yummy, nice and sweet. I can't wait until the last couple weeks of my pregnancy where I can have a glass of wine now and then. I'll have to try this wine you speak of!
/r/RedPillWives05/11/16 07:24 PM
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This is something I struggle with a lot, especially at bedtime and in the car - those are the main times I babble. At some point I read that women (and children, too) can have trouble with "transitional times". Those are the times you're most likely to struggle with being overly emotional. Some examples: when you are leaving the home or getting home, going to bed, waking up, in the car. It can also apply to life changes like moving, getting married, babies on the way, etc. So I try and keep an e…
/r/RedPillWives01/11/16 04:09 PM
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I have a really hard time watching possession movies! No real-life reason, they just freak me out. I grew up on a family property that also had the original house on it, circa 18th century. We kids made up soooo many ghost stories based on that house, and loved to play in it. It was even filled with most of the original furniture and fixings! There was a super narrow staircase to get to the upper floor, which was basically a one-room attic with a V-shaped ceiling. Along the edges of the room wer…
/r/RedPillWives30/10/16 06:59 PM
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That must have been difficult with a full bladder! They press so hard on your belly with that thingy. We did get some pictures! One of them is a frontal view of her face, and it looks like the perfect Halloween picture. It's like creepy and cute all in one.
/r/RedPillWives28/10/16 04:08 PM
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Hadn't thought of it from this angle!
/r/RedPillWives28/10/16 04:07 PM
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Just put up the update post!
/r/RedPillWives28/10/16 12:33 AM
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I'm a bit late here, but I'm so grateful to be a stay at home wife right now! With selling one house and buying another, I've been having to do all kinds of phone calls and emails while my husband is at work. I set up the trusty household binder with all the various accounts' information, so it's been pretty easy to play secretary.
/r/RedPillWives27/10/16 05:53 PM
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Thanks for the recommendation!
/r/RedPillWives26/10/16 04:21 PM
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I've been feeling good, so maybe it's a girl!
/r/RedPillWives26/10/16 04:20 PM
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I think I've read that series :P
/r/RedPillWives26/10/16 04:19 PM
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For food cravings it's mainly been carb type foods and red meat. The whole pickle craving thing lasted for like a week, then I was over it. my husband would definitely be more in his element with a boy, doing boy stuff together. Yeah, this would be nice. :) My husband would love to have a little Daddy's girl, so a girl would be nice as well.
/r/RedPillWives26/10/16 01:00 AM
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We love the Celtic/Welsh names as well. One of the girl names on the list is Coira, and for a boy Brennan.
/r/RedPillWives26/10/16 12:58 AM
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Haha, we'll see! I'm not sure my instinct is right, because the website I use to look at the pregnancy week-by-week is always using female pronouns. Might have gotten it in my head that way.
/r/RedPillWives26/10/16 12:56 AM
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That's a pretty name. We have Ava and Eva on the list as well. The shorter names ending with -a all have a nice sound to them.
/r/RedPillWives26/10/16 12:54 AM
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Elise is one of the names on our list! :)
/r/RedPillWives25/10/16 06:51 PM
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I think it's a girl, but hoping for a boy. Seems like it would be better to have an older brother than a sister. Then again, it would be the first girl grandchild on both sides of the family, and my MIL only had sons - so a girl would be very welcome! My favorite girl names are Katherine, Ava, and Emeline. I don't really have favorite boy names yet, they don't seem as fun to pick (but we do have a little list). Damien is probably my least favorite name - wasn't that the name of the demon child i…
/r/RedPillWives25/10/16 06:19 PM
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I thought about doing this. I'm due in March, so by June (when we got married), I'm not sure I'll be able to fit all the way in it again. It will be fun to try! Likely the boobs will still be too big. :P
/r/RedPillWives25/10/16 06:07 PM
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It's How to Improve Your Marriage Without Talking About it
/r/RedPillWives16/10/16 02:47 AM
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Tumble dry on low. Better yet--hang dry. I know it seems like high heat will kill the smell, but it bakes it in. This part is so true. I don't dry the smelly clothes until I'm certain I got the smell out. Hang drying in the sun can cure smells, I hear. I want to put a laundry line in the yard so bad!
/r/RedPillWives14/10/16 09:24 PM
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I put the clothing in the tub with water and some laundry soap and let it soak overnight. In the morning I run it through the laundry. Works every time!
/r/RedPillWives14/10/16 01:09 AM
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Maybe it depends on where you are. The local BDSM and poly people around here are 95% fat and/or unattractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/16 11:48 PM
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"The white tornado" - I love it. Some coworkers nicknamed me the tornado because within 30 minutes of getting to work, I always had everything tidied up and in its place. Even if it wasn't my mess, haha. Just couldn't resist!
/r/RedPillWives05/10/16 03:21 AM
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A cousin of mine who smoked and took BC nearly died from a DVT. That's one side effect that isn't mentioned much, it's particularly dangerous if you smoke or have a family history of blood clots. I had no idea that BC can cause cells in your eye to die. O.O So I started BC around 14 for "heavy periods", but honestly it was because I wanted to have sex. I mean my periods were pretty heavy, but that's probably normal when they first show up. Fast forward 10 years, and I'd been on BC all that time,…
/r/RedPillWives04/10/16 08:10 PM
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I grew up in a house where the bathrooms were always unlocked, and they were pretty much a social gathering space. It was common to have one or two of us in the bath and someone on the toilet. When I moved away from home, I had the hardest time remembering to lock bathroom doors. It was something I'd never had to do!! Took years to get into the habit, with quite a few OOPS moments when someone opened the door while I was on the toilet. One time it happened on an airplane while I was adjusting my…
/r/RedPillWives28/09/16 04:44 AM
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I've tried this a few times, and every time I get pimples right where I used the razor. I'm about ready to just say F it.
/r/RedPillWives28/09/16 04:34 AM
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I do something similar! My husband pointed out that if I just do 3 periods of 45 minutes a day, then that's only 2.25 hours! I think of how much cleaning I can get done in 45 minutes, or how much sewing, etc. It somehow helps me get in the right mindset and avoid procrastination. So I decide what 3-4 things I want to do, set a timer for 45 minutes and get going on the first.
/r/RedPillWives26/09/16 05:05 PM
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I looove lemon cleaners. I have a bottle of essential oil that's really lemony. For standard household cleaner I do maybe 25% vinegar, lemony oil until it overpowers the vinegar, then fill with water. For furniture polish it's the same, but add a TBSP of olive oil. For floor cleaner I dump some vinegar, rubbing alcohol (makes it dry faster), lemony oil, and a couple drops of dish soap in a pail and add hot water.
/r/RedPillWives26/09/16 04:53 PM
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"does the house work really matter that much if it is making you miserable?" I love this part. Not being the perfect housekeeper has been something that drags me down on occasion. But with the house shopping we've been doing lately, I realized that our home is sooooo much cleaner than most. Sometimes you just need a little something to put things into perspective!
/r/RedPillWives24/09/16 08:18 PM
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“One time I made him a cup of tea. And he goes ‘Oh, this is such good tea!’ I was like ‘Jeffrey, it’s hot water and a teabag!’ But because I made it, he enjoyed it. And that’s all I ask for from somebody I cook for.” Aww, so cute! It's a good example of how women have trouble accepting complements. :P
/r/RedPillWives22/09/16 03:21 PM
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I watched the first clip, and she seems nice enough. Not really seeing this "smug" face. And that video with the pout! I didn't even see a pout in there. Do British have different facial expressions, or are these folks grasping at things not there?
/r/RedPillWives22/09/16 03:18 PM
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I discovered her a few months ago, and gosh darn does she do some amazing things. Would you say it's a feminine, or feminist thing to envy someone just because they appear to be perfect? I keep wondering why she isn't married at 34 - at least, she doesn't appear to be married.
/r/RedPillWives22/09/16 03:13 PM
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Rather than boyfriend/husband privileges - which no, I wouldn't dangle anything like a carrot - I think there are very fair boyfriend/husband boundaries. The two big examples I gave were purchasing a home, or having children. I'm sure there are a host of similar situations though. No matter my level of emotional commitment, I wouldn't put myself in either of those positions without first being married. While this is true, it's why I stated that you go over these things in the beginning while vet…
/r/RedPillWives22/09/16 03:02 PM
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Well first you vet, then at some point you accept that you found a good match and if he's willing, this is the man you're wanting to spend your life with. To me, that is the point you go ahead and throw your all in - even if you're not married yet. The time "to give them an incentive to get married/commit further" would be when you are in the initial stages of dating, and you express that you are looking for marriage/children/lifetime commitment. Otherwise you may end up giving your all to someo…
/r/RedPillWives22/09/16 02:50 AM
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I know this girl who has her whole wedding planned, down to the dress. She's always wanted to be married. Has three kids, and is no longer with the father. Has been dating a guy for around 4 years who is absolutely against marriage. It always makes me shake my head. You want a damn wedding so bad, why'd you pick this guy who's against marriage? (She's way low SMV, by the way.) I see cat lady in her future. Maybe her cats will get married?
/r/RedPillWives21/09/16 09:04 PM
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Oh, cool! Thanks. :)
/r/RedPillWives21/09/16 08:57 PM
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Some tips on having an inexpensive wedding: Ask for help and/or delegate! People love to help out. For example, I went bouquet shopping and was shocked at the $70+ price, so decided to make one myself. My mother in law is pretty crafty, so I asked her to take over that task. Turns out she decided to just buy bouquets, and they were beautiful! I made my own wedding cake for about $10, and mother-in-law brought mini cupcakes. I had the mothers do the set up at the wedding site, and some other fami…
/r/RedPillWives21/09/16 08:49 PM
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Ours ended up being about $2500, and that was what we budgeted. I had him decide on what type of wedding to have and how much he wanted to pay. It worked out for the best!
/r/RedPillWives21/09/16 07:55 PM
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Nope, can't say I've done that since I was a child playing in my mom's wedding dress.
/r/RedPillWives21/09/16 07:53 PM
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I'm having so much fun staying at home while pregnant, and cooking healthy meals. Sometimes I fix myself a glorious, massive salad for lunch. These are the things I just couldn't do while working - and with the added tiredness of being pregnant? Forget about it. Neat article, thanks for sharing! And congratulations on your pregnancy!
/r/RedPillWives17/09/16 04:51 PM
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This is a very long read, but worth it.
/r/RedPillWives16/09/16 09:35 PM
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Yes! I've learned recently that having children when older isn't as dangerous if you've had prior children. So you can pop out kids from say 18-38 and be fine, but you're in bad shape if you wait until 38 for the first.
/r/RedPillWives16/09/16 09:02 PM
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I'm quite hearing impaired, and most music lyrics and hearing aids just don't get along well. There are all these songs out there that I love, and sometimes a friend will be like "um, you might not like that song if you knew what they were saying". I consider it a pro - I can enjoy Coldplay without knowing what he's saying. Every now and then I get curious and look up lyrics, and then I just can't unsee it. Like Lorde's Royals song - those lyrics, I can't even. It was one of those songs that mad…
/r/RedPillWives16/09/16 08:21 PM
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Control + z is my favorite. It works in so many programs. Accidentally clear your Word document? Control + Z! I always have that little moment of panic till my brain remembers control + z. My husband taught me this key command that will reopen browser tabs that I accidentally closed. I swear I had to ask him what it was like two dozen times before I finally started remembering - and I'm young and pretty good with computers! You're doing great!
/r/RedPillWives15/09/16 03:03 PM
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For me it's not about their cost but the convenience, I really don't like inconveniencing myself and I only tried this one because it's literally in my building anyway so there's no excuse. If I do get into it I might try hot yoga, it's further away but still in the neighborhood. Which is why online would be great for me, way less hassle, my problem is actually following through. I'm going off your original comment here. You admit yourself that you have trouble following through. I'm sharing wha…
/r/RedPillWives14/09/16 11:25 PM
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Look, I understand. You find this great group of role models, suddenly see what a bitch you've been, and you want to spread the word and enlighten everyone about what you've learned. Or maybe you want to shout to the rooftops how much better your relationship is now. But the majority of people in real life don't want to change, nor do they want to hear how happy and perfect your relationship is. They just want to complain about how bad they have it. It helps to remember that they chose each othe…
/r/RedPillWives14/09/16 10:48 PM
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Why is it better to have "loving" something as reason to join a group instead of as a manner of external accountability in goal achievement, which is a valid reason on its own? Because in this case, the external accountability is an illusion. You have everything you need to succeed without having to rely on this external "something". It ties into "if only... then" thinking, such as "If only I had these people to keep me accountable, then I could succeed". So you show yourself first that you can …
/r/RedPillWives14/09/16 10:16 PM
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My point is that we overthink all of this exercise stuff, as you seem to be doing. None of that matters, what matters is moving and keeping your mind and body in good shape. The who/what/where/when/why is pointless, and focusing on that can be a distraction from the purpose of exercise. When you simplify it, make it a part of everyday life, it gets much easier to keep up with it. I'm not sure if I'm explaining this well enough. I used to think I needed a certain set of criteria to exercise. A gy…
/r/RedPillWives14/09/16 08:14 PM
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I love bubble baths and rather dislike cleaning, although I love being in a clean house and like you, having things sitting around stresses me out. Something about the bath just gets me ready for a big day. You can't really do anything productive in the bath. Can't make phone calls, can't do paperwork or pay bills, can't do any hobbies. It's like it forces me to slow down and accept the moment. Usually by the time I get out of the bath I'm so ready to go do things!
/r/RedPillWives14/09/16 06:00 PM
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My problem has always been following through with exercise. I found it doesn't matter how convenient the gym is, how cheap/free (or even how expensive), or having the best stuff at home. I was using all this external stuff as a possible substitute for self discipline. I will always try and talk myself out of exercise. For me exercise works best if I pick something, make a schedule, and mentally file it under the same category as brushing my teeth and showering - as in just freakin' do it. Even t…
/r/RedPillWives14/09/16 05:54 PM
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I am the same way, in wondering if they are exaggerating or twisting things. Pretty sure most who are traumatically raped are not telling their story to all who will listen, particularly if there is a lot of "woe is me" involved in the storytelling. Don't most rape victims experience a lot of guilt and insecurity afterwards? They're probably just trying to get through the day and cope. I've been in circles of women who start telling their assault/molestation/rape stories to near strangers, all w…
/r/RedPillWives12/09/16 12:25 AM
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Haha, that was great.
/r/RedPillWives11/09/16 11:50 PM
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They picked the most unattractive people for this video. I about lost it when she did the little finger quotes for "yes". There just isn't clearer consent than yes - what on earth are they even arguing that for?
/r/RedPillWives11/09/16 11:45 PM
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Here's another cringy video on consent.
/r/RedPillWives11/09/16 11:40 PM
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I sell things from thrift stores, auctions, and yard sales on ebay. Branched out to Etsy last year with vintage, mainly because this one thrift shop by me always has vintage clothing and shoes. It works, but you only get out of it what you put into it. Tough job for a procrastinator like me. It's a great side hussle if you just want to work 10-15 hours a week and make a couple hundred bucks. I started by selling extra things around the house I didn't need. I was constantly surprised at the thing…
/r/RedPillWives10/09/16 04:11 AM
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I just use an insulated soft-sided bag with reusable ice packs. They have ones with velcro closures which would be easier to use while driving. Throw a sandwich wrap in there.
/r/RedPillWives09/09/16 10:58 PM
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I have this magic man who always remembers his lunch bag. Even if I put nothing in it, he takes it. I think he likes using all the little pockets for work stuff. So perhaps if you buy him a nice lunch bag that has lots of external pockets for gadgets.
/r/RedPillWives09/09/16 10:57 PM
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That was such a great video, and the comments on youtube were interesting as well. It brought me to this video on her thoughts on transgender mania. I think I like this lady.
/r/RedPillWives09/09/16 03:34 AM
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Aww, how cute! I did something similar when preparing for doing my own wedding makeup, except I dragged my friend around instead of my husband. He doesn't much like makeup on me, even the subtle kind - but he does love it when I wear my hair in ways he likes. Disheveled pigtails are his favorite. Really any hairdo that's slightly messy, because he loves to muss it up (probably because I make that OMG STAHP face). He's definitely amused by all the girly things I do to my body, and I catch him wat…
/r/RedPillWives08/09/16 06:33 PM
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I wonder if it's different when they're yours. I feel awkward as heck around other people's kids, but I do still feel the urge to be a mother. My husband and I think that most babies look the same. Can't wait to see if that changes after ours comes!
/r/RedPillWives08/09/16 04:56 PM
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Haha, what a little brat! :)
/r/RedPillWives08/09/16 04:53 PM
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Aww, sad that the socializing thing won't work. What age can I expect to be able to leave the child alone with Daddy and go run some errands? How young did you start with the stair training? We're thinking of moving to a two-story house - I've never lived in a multiple-story house so it's really on my mind!
/r/RedPillWives08/09/16 04:52 PM
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I've heard it really confuses them when you keep asking them what they want to eat, to do, etc.
/r/RedPillWives08/09/16 04:47 PM
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This reminds of a Christmas morning video I saw when this toddler goes total ass over teakettle down the stairs. I mean there was a flip in there worthy of the olympics. She bumps down to the bottom and looks to her mom who starts cheering, haha. Still haven't figured out what the best thing to do here is. Maybe it's to not buy a house with stairs!
/r/RedPillWives08/09/16 04:44 PM
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All good to know! Thanks for helping me work through my thoughts.
/r/RedPillWives08/09/16 04:40 PM
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Fake plants can really liven up a room. I once had this retarded idea to put live ivy plants on top of the kitchen cabinets. "I'll just hop up there and water them" I told myself. Nope, they died. So I tore out the dead ones and bought some fake ones. Darned things looked better than the live ones. For both fake and real plants, there's this spray you can get that dusts and shines the leaves. Most grocery store florists have some on hand and will sell you a bottle. ;)
/r/RedPillWives08/09/16 04:23 PM
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Hydroquinone is a good over the counter skin lightener and scar treatment that's also on prescription. You can get it OTC in Porcelana or Nadinola, both are in drugstores. If you have any lingering darkening or redness to the scars, either of those products are great. Before going to a dermatologist, check with your neighborhood pharmacist and show them the scars. Most are really good at recommending OTC skin care products, and it's free advice!
/r/RedPillWives08/09/16 04:11 PM
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I like your views on childproofing. For the chemicals, I've just switched most everything to homemade and vinegar-based. So really the only worries are laundry soap (which is on a really high shelf), and the dishwashing detergent. If the kid drinks my vinegar and lemon-oil spray, I'm sure he'll be fine. :P For furniture polish it's olive oil, vinegar, essential oils and water.
/r/RedPillWives08/09/16 01:33 AM
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I recently read a book that basically said "burn this book, don't buy books on babies/kids, and just follow your instincts." Haha. (The Continuum Concept, if you're interested.) So far I've resisted the urge to buy parenting books. I think it'll be a lot easier to follow my husband's lead if I don't fill my head with "the right way" (I can be SUCH a know-it-all). So I've been reading books instead on birthing experiences and how to labor, since that's something within my control.
/r/RedPillWives08/09/16 01:28 AM
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But what if it's the use of baby gates that makes it so you have to monitor and teach a baby how to go down the stairs? As scary as it is for most to consider, maybe if they are unattended and can wander and explore the stairs on their own terms for a little while, then they'll teach themselves. We are basically taking away the puzzle of it, their opportunity to sit at the top of the stairs without fear and consider how it works. So they don't instinctively learn that laying on their belly and p…
/r/RedPillWives08/09/16 12:38 AM
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Some people have been giving me parenting advice, and in my head I'm all like "your child/children are stupid, I'm doing the opposite of what you say". Or this one guy, who actually has a smart kid, but he's not the world's best father. He's always griping about how awful the kid is, and how he doesn't do what he wants - even with the kid right in front of you. So embarrassing. Then if someone gives him any advice, he just gives the advice-giver a string of excuses of why that would never work. …
/r/RedPillWives08/09/16 12:27 AM
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But how is a baby gate on stairs any safer? They can climb those things and fling themselves over. I think it's the mom noticing the kid playing at the top of the stairs, then distracting them with the "be careful!" that makes them fall down. I'm pretty sure babies have depth perception.
/r/RedPillWives07/09/16 11:40 PM
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I think way too many parents revolve their lives around their children, where they should be revolving their children's lives around theirs. The kid's used to doing what you do when in the womb - why would that change once he pops out? When I see a kid in a restaurant with his head in an electronic device, I get all kinds of judgy. Those parents who plop their kid down with a tablet... It just feels lazy to me. I'm hoping by having all kinds of people handle our baby, I won't be one of those mom…
/r/RedPillWives07/09/16 08:10 PM
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I miss being in school. Used to love buying all those cute supplies!
/r/RedPillWives07/09/16 07:04 PM
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Haha, that's the way to do it when you're forced to go to a hospital! Show up at the last minute and squat in the lobby. :P Those local laws suck, though. I feel lucky now since it's allowed in my state.
/r/RedPillWives07/09/16 02:29 PM
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I don't use sweeteners in tea anymore, so that's probably why yours tastes good! I think the one I ordered was Frontier.
/r/RedPillWives07/09/16 01:08 PM
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I used to power walk at night while thinking of anything that makes me angry. I'd walk my butt off while planning imaginary retributions, haha. Always felt great and clear-headed when I returned home!
/r/RedPillWives07/09/16 04:13 AM
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My midwife recommended that tea during pregnancy. I tried some at a tea shop and I swear it tasted like dirt water. :P Just ordered some from Amazon along with a pound of peppermint tea to mix with it. Now that you're saying it tastes good, I wonder if that shop just had some crappy tea.
/r/RedPillWives07/09/16 04:10 AM
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I convinced myself that PMS might not be real, and that if it is, it's just something I'm responsible for dealing with like any other thing that may come up in daily life. Just consider this for a little while - if you grew up somewhere where your monthly flow was just like having a runny nose, and no one ever really talked about it... Would you even have symptoms aside from the physical? The symptom of a runny nose is snot coming out of your nose - it's no big deal, we all deal with it from tim…
/r/RedPillWives07/09/16 04:06 AM
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For online dating, make sure you have some darned good, recent pictures of you, both face shots and body shots. For guys who message you, keep an open mind and chat with ones that you may not think good matches at first (aside from the obvious bad eggs). Sometimes they are more attractive in real life. It can't hurt - if anything it will teach you how to turn down men after a bad date. I really like OKCupid because of the match percentages it gave, but you do have to spend a lot of time answerin…
/r/RedPillWives05/09/16 09:28 PM
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Haha, you guessed it!
/r/RedPillWives05/09/16 08:29 PM
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Thanks for linking that comment, it was a great one! Honestly, when I think of a man being emotional enough to say it first, I think of this.
/r/RedPillWives05/09/16 08:16 PM
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She's 32 and still has weight to lose. She may reaching for too much. The "right man" may have to be "a great guy who matches about 80% of my list".
/r/RedPillWives05/09/16 07:47 PM
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I said it first, and had knew for a few weeks. It was around 6-8 weeks of dating, and we had been spending a ton of time together. I've learned since then that he thought I picked the most awkward time to say it the first time (during sex). My husband doesn't think he would have ever said it first - everything he's been told or read says to wait for the girl to say it first. Most RPW say you should wait for the man to say it first.
/r/RedPillWives05/09/16 07:39 PM
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Some of those were so gag worthy! Now I'm wondering what graham bread is. Could it be like graham crackers but bread? Sounds yummy.
/r/RedPillWives02/09/16 02:57 AM
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I used to love them when I was a teen. Tried some last week because the calcium in them is good for pregnant women and they're low in mercury. I'm just not that into them anymore - so stinky.
/r/RedPillWives02/09/16 02:42 AM
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It's like people forget there were birth control methods before hormone pills and condoms.
/r/RedPillWives31/08/16 08:23 PM
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I disagree with the idea that avoiding negative situations all together somehow means that person doesn't 'have' valid things to contribute. This! For example, we used the withdrawal method of birth control for five years, successfully. I mention this to anyone and we are treated like some sort of lucky pariahs. Ran into a friend recently, told her the good news of our pregnancy, and she was like "Was it planned? Because I know you were using that method". (This very friend had an accidental pre…
/r/RedPillWives31/08/16 05:20 PM
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It really is. I've seen so many things differently since reading it!
/r/RedPillWives31/08/16 05:05 AM
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Ever since this post, I've noticed just how much women interrupt each other.
/r/RedPillWives30/08/16 06:59 PM
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On number 16, quite a few of the "other" responses said never! When you are running the numbers, how much money are you thinking it takes to raise a child? It doesn't need to be nearly as expensive as people think. Hell, you don't even need a crib, changing table, or stroller, among other things. You can get second hand cloth diapers (and in my area there is a charity that will loan them to you for one year), and family will be willing to pitch in with buying things. I'm assuming you have someon…
/r/RedPillWives29/08/16 07:10 PM
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I was in labor for 18 hours and by hour 14 I was like GIVE ME ALL THE DRUGS FUCKERS!!!!!!!!!!!!!! That's usually how it happens in hospitals. The more pain you are in, the closer you are to delivering. If you know this ahead of time, you might actually get excited when the pain gets bad, knowing that the baby is almost there (if you're not past thinking at that point). Even with natural births at home, there's usually a point where the mother thinks she can't take it anymore, and she has to work…
/r/RedPillWives29/08/16 06:55 PM
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To the 4 of you who don't know you're pregnant of not... take a test!!! Not always that easy! I was pretty sure I was pregnant before my period was due. Tried taking an early result test but it was negative. Ended up getting a positive one later in the week. Some women don't get the positive test until clear after their period would be over! For those of you who didn't use the drugs... what was the pain level 1-would do again ::to:: 10-holy fuck that was the worst thing I've ever experienced in …
/r/RedPillWives29/08/16 04:26 PM
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When we got engaged, he gave me this "temporary" ring - temporary because it's made of wood so not really designed for daily use. It has to be sent in once a year to be re-polished, and it was a few sizes too big for my left ring finger. But it was so special to me that I didn't want to send it back for another ring that would fit. So I kept it and was just careful with it. When we got married, I switched that ring to the right hand. It fits really well on that finger. Now I feel extra taken - I…
/r/RedPillWives29/08/16 03:31 PM
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The best advice I can give on pregnancy (so far), is to eat really healthily. So far my only case of smell aversion was a few hours after I stuffed my face with bbq Fritos. I seriously don't think I'll ever eat Fritos again. I've noticed my energy going up after a large salad or some freshly squeezed juice. I worked hard to be a healthy eater (our version of "healthy", at least) prior to having children, so my pregnancy has been fairly easy so far.
/r/RedPillWives26/08/16 04:56 PM
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I've been eyeing this bedside co-sleeper thing, and the reviewers of it say the mattress pad will fit a king size pillowcase. I think that's so cool - no need to buy expensive sheets, I can just use pillowcases.
/r/RedPillWives26/08/16 04:10 PM
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Results should be up this weekend. :)
/r/RedPillWives26/08/16 02:23 PM
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Her stuff is great! :) I haven't even looked at her material for years, yet I still do a lot of the tips (like cleaning in 15 minute increments).
/r/RedPillWives25/08/16 04:21 AM
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That Friday sounds fun. :) We usually have a lazy day either Saturday or Sunday - still haven't decided which one is best. If you do everything on Saturday, then it's over with and you can relax Sunday. But he's kinda tired on Saturday from a long work week, so maybe it's better to rest Saturday and do things Sunday. Sometimes we do things on Saturday and they end up spilling over into Sunday. Then sometimes we rest on Saturday and Sunday. Haha, can you tell we're undecided? Basically weekends a…
/r/RedPillWives24/08/16 07:36 PM
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I've tried a lot of different routines. The one I stuck with the longest was LetsCleanUp (a computer program). Honestly, I think I do best without a cleaning routine. Just cleaning whatever needs to be cleaned as I go. I do the laundry about every other day. Change the sheets early in the week and clean the toilets. I work best under pressure so invite people over when I'm behind on cleaning. I used to be an awful housekeeper until I started doing Fly Lady stuff. I got the whole house decluttere…
/r/RedPillWives24/08/16 07:30 PM
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It's a nice idea, I did something like this for a few months. Except I tend to forget about things on the wall, and it was a pain to take all the magnets off at the end of the week. So I just chucked it and went back to paper. If anyone is looking for a chart like that, Target usually has some in their calendar/office supply section.
/r/RedPillWives24/08/16 06:00 PM
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I love priority calling and use it often! It's great for when you want to take a nap. If you have problems with internet/computer distractions, there are programs that will block applications according to a schedule you set - Cold Turkey is one that I've used before.
/r/RedPillWives18/08/16 04:11 AM
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You're still good. I meant that for the childfree folks who don't have children and don't want them.
/r/RedPillWives17/08/16 08:02 PM
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Haha!
/r/RedPillWives17/08/16 07:37 PM
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You're welcome! It was fun. :)
/r/RedPillWives17/08/16 07:37 PM
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Sad that you're stepping down as moderator /u/lifterofthings, but it is understandable. Enjoy your little baby! I look forward to chatting with you on the IRC, and seeing your comments here. Hearing how happy you are with your family makes me excited for mine. :)
/r/RedPillWives12/08/16 07:35 PM
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My ex-husband came home one day to say he wanted a divorce. As I sat there in shock, he kept giving me reasons why, almost like he was trying to convince himself of it. After a good 5 minutes of it, I finally yelled THAT'S ENOUGH! All of the reasons were pretty generic and non-specific, such as "I love you more like a brother loves a sister, not how a husband loves a wife". I don't think any of it was constructive for me. Turns out he was seeing someone else, a dear friend of ours who turned him…
/r/RedPillWives10/08/16 04:17 PM
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Sometimes life as a wife is hard. Yesterday my husband said he's going to put our baby up for adoption with the mother included, all because I dropped a potted plant.
/r/RedPillWives06/08/16 08:09 PM
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high fives
/r/RedPillWives04/08/16 11:51 PM
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The first, and 8 weeks
/r/RedPillWives04/08/16 04:56 AM
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Thank you! I'm so excited. :-)
/r/RedPillWives04/08/16 04:20 AM
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I don't know about this one. Seems like taking classes together is more of a girly thing. My husband doesn't want to take classes on things, he just wants to figure it out on his own.
/r/RedPillWives03/08/16 08:46 PM
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OD on heroin night Lol. You threw that in there just to see if we're actually reading, didn't you? Cheesy RomCom night Save this one for the girlfriends.
/r/RedPillWives03/08/16 08:45 PM
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One of our favorite things to do for date night is reenact our earlier dates. So we go back to the putt putt golf place where we snuck out like fugitives after putting crab apples in the ball machine and broke it. Back to the Barnes and Noble where we discovered you can people watch from the balcony and see right down ladies' shirts (and our first make out session was in the medical resources section). We love to have dinner at the sushi restaurant where we first met - where I passed his first t…
/r/RedPillWives03/08/16 06:55 PM
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Woohoo! Thanks for the ideas. :)
/r/RedPillWives02/08/16 04:10 AM
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I'd love to see some pregnancy/being a mother threads! Welcome /u/Katiescarlett5!
/r/RedPillWives01/08/16 10:42 PM
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Hello, and congratulations on being pregnant! I'd love to chat about eating healthy while pregnant. I'm having a difficult time with it myself, since my energy is lower than usual. It's been overly tempting to go the fast food route. I'm due in March. :-) Stop by the IRC some time!
/r/RedPillWives01/08/16 10:39 PM
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I'm not looking to change the things that I like and wear and all of that just to fit into a specific thing, but I'm curious if you can still do all that, and vote Democrat, and be considered RPW, or if that's not ~true RPW~ or something. Redpillwives is not some exclusive club where you have to fit perfectly and wear the uniform. If you and your husband (if applicable) are democrats, then that's fine - just don't bring it up. You can still learn from and apply RPWi to your life even if you don'…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/16 05:12 AM
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I suspect I have been talking too much lately, especially about baby stuff. So I'm going to start bringing up conversations that aren't about babies, and shutting up while he talks. One of my hearing aids has been out for repair for a couple of weeks, and I finally get it back this evening. So that will be a nice reminder to listen more than I talk. This was a cute idea Sunhappy!
/r/RedPillWives28/07/16 08:30 PM
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How long will the survey stay up?
/r/RedPillWives27/07/16 06:26 PM
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Haha, I love it.
/r/RedPillWives22/07/16 03:57 AM
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I have removed the doors to my cabinets so you can see everything. I want to see a picture!
/r/RedPillWives22/07/16 03:51 AM
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Ugh. Maybe is too a yes.
/r/RedPillWives22/07/16 03:49 AM
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I've always said that sex sells. The better you look, the more people want to buy things from you. I was so annoyed at my last pharmacy job where the uniform was a white blouse, black slacks, and black shoes. So very blah. Yet whichever woman there had the best hair and makeup was the one customers thought in charge. It just makes you think "wow, she's got her shit together" to see a woman who has made herself presentable. After a few years at that job, I was thumbing through the manual and came…
/r/RedPillWives22/07/16 03:48 AM
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Yes! We married last month and got pregnant on the first try.
/r/RedPillWives17/07/16 10:59 PM
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Good to hear it's going so well. :) Congratulations!
/r/RedPillWives17/07/16 10:57 PM
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RemindMe! 9 Months
/r/RedPillWives15/07/16 04:07 PM
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That update was so heartwarming! I'm bookmarking it to reread after our baby's born. Girlfriend > Wife > Mother Never forget!
/r/RedPillWives15/07/16 04:01 PM
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Oh, god.
/r/RedPillWives14/07/16 08:47 PM
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Short, but true
/r/RedPillWives14/07/16 08:41 PM
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Yes, but they used to work with the children, especially the mothers. When the mothers were doing their daily work, they either had the child with them, they had a wet nurse at home (who was probably doing work as well), or they left the children together and just didn't go off the property. It really is just unnatural for a mother and infant to part everyday after just 6 weeks. Children (even infants) learn from watching their parents. What are they learning when mom goes to work everyday and l…
/r/RedPillWives14/07/16 08:33 PM
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Good on NHS for pushing that women should have children before 30. Often when I'm looking for health advice, I look at WHO or NHS rather than American sites. We seem to be way behind in healthcare recommendations. I'm 32, soon to be 33, and pregnant for the first time. The only regret I have is that I won't be able to have a huge family with lots of kids. I'll have to settle for 1-3 children. I've known quite a few older, infertile women who wanted children. It really is a disservice to tell wom…
/r/RedPillWives14/07/16 06:16 PM
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Aww, this was so cute and fun. That percentage of husbands that will cheat is scary!
/r/RedPillWives14/07/16 12:19 AM
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Yes! I have a panini press, and if my husband could come home for work I'd definitely make grilled paninis.
/r/RedPillWives13/07/16 03:45 PM
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Judging from the comments on the trailer, nobody so far.
/r/RedPillWives11/07/16 06:49 PM
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I only just learned today that the new Ghostbusters movie was all-female! What on earth were they thinking? Just watched the trailer, and of course two of the girls are fat. sighs I wouldn't be at all surprised if one of them ends up hooking up with Chris Hemsworth's character (not that I'll be watching). It's like they remade Ghostbusters into a stupid chick flick.
/r/RedPillWives11/07/16 05:55 PM
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I started belly dancing for the first time this year, and absolutely loved it. The feminine energy just permeates the room, and all the student-dancers feel so lovely and sexy. And the music! The music is so inspiring and makes you want to MOVE. My favorite part is learning to work with veils. The fabric slinks over your skin, and it's so calming to twirl around with it. She really does have the facial expressions on point! She looks so happy and confident up there, with occasionally seductive l…
/r/RedPillWives11/07/16 05:45 PM
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I was just reading a blog post this morning about allowing young children to go about barefoot if they wish, especially if the child throws off it's shoes when you put them on. Lo and behold, there were comments about how dangerous it is for kids to be barefoot! One lady claimed fire ants as her excuse, but I'm pretty sure they can climb shoes just fine. I can't believe something as simple kids playing without shoes can cause controversy. So many knee-jerk reactions from today's parents of "oh I…
/r/RedPillWives10/07/16 05:09 PM
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Yes! Fitness Blender rocks. I love how you can add exercises to your calendar.
/r/RedPillWives08/07/16 02:46 AM
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She put a lot of time into this list! That one about the birth control... Just wow. How do you even live with yourself after that?
/r/RedPillWives06/07/16 12:22 AM
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Totally agree! Doctors should not be fat or smoke.
/r/RedPillWives01/07/16 10:54 PM
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giggles
/r/RedPillWives01/07/16 10:46 PM
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Yes! Like roller coasters!
/r/RedPillWives01/07/16 10:42 PM
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We've only been married two weeks and I already have a plaque on the front door with our family name.
/r/RedPillWives01/07/16 10:38 PM
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For others who want it, there are some on ebay that ship from the UK. I just ordered some. :)
/r/RedPillWives05/06/16 06:12 PM
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There's a wife one as well!
/r/RedPillWives05/06/16 05:50 PM
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Haha. I love that they're bigger! That'll piss the feminists off for sure.
/r/RedPillWives05/06/16 04:31 PM
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Things women can finally do!
/r/RedPillWives04/06/16 07:06 PM
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Why do you think this account has such infrequent activity? Hmmm. Because you've deleted most of your history.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/16 12:37 AM
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Usually the gifts they will get on their own without a registry will be very thoughtful. Do you think those who really want to buy a gift would ask you what you want? You could keep a few wants in mind for when someone asks. It may get confusing if you request money in lieu of gifts, then have a small registry.
/r/RedPillWives02/06/16 04:27 PM
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It depends on your situation, that's for sure. We will be downsizing to a smaller house to save money while we try for children, so we definitely don't want a bunch of stuff. I would rather have a simple honeymoon, so didn't want to do the registry. So for us, money is the best, and we will have one of those boxes for the cards at the reception. If people still bring gifts, we'll be fine with that as well.
/r/RedPillWives02/06/16 05:31 AM
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I got that wording and idea from an internet forum. I see nothing wrong with asking for what you want, even if that is money. I went to a wedding a few years ago where they just wanted Home Depot gift cards. What the heck is this wedding website business you're speaking of?
/r/RedPillWives02/06/16 05:22 AM
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I'll comment more later, but I wanted to say that you can get a honeymoon registry through travel agents. They give you little cards to put in your invitations that have instructions for your guests on how to contribute to the registry. If you just want money from your guests, you can add that to your invitations. We put "If you would like to get us a gift, please bring along some dollars for our life together" on the bottom of the directions card.
/r/RedPillWives02/06/16 01:51 AM
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It's a girl thing, thinking that a variety of foods is best - the majority of men are actually happy eating the same thing often. My fiance likes the plainest sandwiches. Just some meat and lettuce thrown in the smallest amount of bread possible. No cheese, no sauces, no other veggies. Knowing that he doesn't like bread that much made me think of tortillas and flat bread, and it turns out he loves wraps. He calls them burritos, and insists that men need nothing but a variety of burritos. Over th…
/r/RedPillWives01/06/16 08:06 PM
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High fives
/r/RedPillWives31/05/16 07:21 PM
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This same supervisor then befriended this subordinate in order to gain rank. Imagine that!! Your boss trying to be your buddy to get a better position at work! I've seen this happen as well! This one boss I used to have, she would ingratiate herself to the new female employees to gain rank. Boss-lady would whisper with her like she was telling secrets, offer the best schedule, ask questions about her life... It was almost like she was bribing the girls for status. She had to be the leader of gro…
/r/RedPillWives29/05/16 08:06 PM
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It's because any RPW can read that article and realize that so much of it is profoundly true, yet you are questioning the validity of it all simply because it doesn't have sources - even after agreeing with me that evidence doesn't make something fact or fiction. The fact that you want so badly to discredit the article shows that it offended you in some way. Rather than discussing what exactly you do and don't agree with in the article, you are side-tracking the conversation with what is essenti…
/r/RedPillWives28/05/16 10:58 PM
2

I've seen Chobits and really like that. That's the one with Chi, right?
/r/RedPillWives28/05/16 06:54 PM
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Reading this article will make people-watching entertaining. I want to involve myself in some more female-only groups just to see it from another perspective. Too bad that my belly dancing is over for the summer! The subtle body language messages and social cues he mentioned would be neat to see in action, and I really enjoy trying to read between the lines when women speak.
/r/RedPillWives28/05/16 06:20 PM
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Haha, I love it. The women didn't have any defined rolls. I know it's an innocent typo, but I had a good laugh. :)
/r/RedPillWives28/05/16 06:16 PM
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Just imagined how well it would blow over if a feminist wandered into here claiming female/male social group dynamics always result in the abuse of the females, and then cited "real life" as their sole reason for asserting this. That is such a strange way to look at it. When I read this, I heard "we better only used well-sourced articles just in case a feminist waltzes in!" I find the topic interesting and incredibly insightful, but I would be even more engaged if what is being said can be suppo…
/r/RedPillWives28/05/16 06:06 PM
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Here's the article I linked him, it's about dominant introverts. This was the post that brought me to that article.
/r/RedPillWives28/05/16 02:59 AM
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I bought a three tier stand at Michaels! I'm making a cake, and his mom is making cupcakes and cookies. Our wedding will only have 20 people so there's no pressure. :) Thanks for the wishes!
/r/RedPillWives28/05/16 12:19 AM
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I'm having a barbecue this weekend, so this post is just in time!! His family always brings dishes that are assigned in advance, but this time I was too busy to plan so I told people that they don't need to bring anything. So I'll be making all the food, which I'm looking forward to! For desert, I'll be practicing this cake which I'll be making for our wedding in a couple weeks. I usually use my own icing recipe or store-bought if I'm in a rush, but this time I'm going to try their cream frostin…
/r/RedPillWives27/05/16 08:05 PM
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Thanks for all these suggestions! My SO likes Anime, but I've never gotten into it. I'll have to watch some of these girly ones and see how it goes!
/r/RedPillWives27/05/16 07:51 PM
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My SO knows, and often reads what I write over my shoulder - mainly because it makes me get all shy and try and hide the screen. Haha. I think I showed him some RP stuff back when I first came across it, and he wasn't too impressed with it (he really doesn't like generalizations). Some of the other things I've linked to him, he has liked - for example one of the links in that that introverted alpha post a couple of weeks ago. I do know that he has no problem with me reading about surrendering or…
/r/RedPillWives27/05/16 07:38 PM
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One of the interesting things about reading this article so far, is that the male social matrix mostly made sense to me and seems honorable, but when reading the female social matrix I started getting confused over how it works. It seems more intricate, unstable, and not at all honorable! A better conceptualization of all-female group dynamics is the Crab Basket Model (Bischof-Köhler, 1990, 1992). In a basket full of crabs, one does not have to put a lid on the basket to prevent crabs from crawl…
/r/RedPillWives27/05/16 06:45 PM
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I worked with a girl who was always telling me that men love controlling water. She'd often find her husband out watering things with the hose, even when they had a sprinkler system set up. Guess he just found it calming to go hose things off - I've noticed my SO likes to do that as well.
/r/RedPillWives26/05/16 07:04 PM
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My guy laughs with his whole upper body - it's so fun to see. Like his shoulders will be going up and down the whole time. He laughs more with his body than with sound. :) The other day he went from torturing the dogs with the hose by chasing them around with it, to changing the position of our trash can so that lizards don't get hurt when he moves it. He has this interesting juxtaposition of carefree teasing and caring protectiveness.
/r/RedPillWives26/05/16 07:00 PM
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Dang it. Why does everything RPW have to be so hard.
/r/RedPillWives25/05/16 03:52 AM
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Are straws allowed?
/r/RedPillWives25/05/16 03:47 AM
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The wall is at 24.5 years old, right?
/r/RedPillWives25/05/16 03:42 AM
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Triggered
/r/RedPillWives25/05/16 03:23 AM
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I shall start meditating on my doormat.
/r/RedPillWives25/05/16 03:01 AM
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But why can't I have both?
/r/RedPillWives25/05/16 03:00 AM
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Where can I get one of these miniature doormats?
/r/RedPillWives25/05/16 02:30 AM
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You can't drink sparkling water without a mini umbrella - it's just not proper!
/r/RedPillWives25/05/16 02:27 AM
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I'm about 1.5 years in, 90% of the way there, and I just want to be done with it already. :P "Bored stupid" is about how I feel!
/r/RedPillWives24/05/16 09:55 PM
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The difficulty of staying outcome independent when the outcome is in fact really important to you. Here's the problem with the whole thing - what you wanted was a vacation, or maybe to be surprised. 1) Is he ever the type to surprise you? Because that's not likely to change, so don't expect it when it's not something he ever does or is comfortable with. If he ever does surprise you, then you best make sure he knows how happy you are, and how much you love it. 2) Did you ever come out and just sa…
/r/RedPillWives22/05/16 07:44 PM
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I've started doing bodyweight stepups, and they sure are difficult in the correct form! For now I'm just using an aerobic step until I graduate to higher surfaces. :) Such a great whole-leg exercise - it really feels like it builds stability in the knees.
/r/RedPillWives21/05/16 07:55 PM
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In my belly dancing classes they taught to tuck your pelvis forward by activating your lower abs, slightly bend the knees, and roll your shoulders back. Apparently this protects the lower back so that you can move your hips and upper body all around without injury. So if I had a wide belt low on the hips, in my normal posture it would be slightly higher in the back and lower in the front - in the belly dance posture it would be straight all around. They also taught to practice activating individ…
/r/RedPillWives21/05/16 07:53 PM
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I've met a few in real life! I'm not as active on online narcoleptic boards as I used to be (those folks can be depressing) but I still have a few narcoleptic friends I keep touch with.
/r/RedPillWives20/05/16 05:03 PM
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Do stop by the irc! I'm a productive, happy narcoleptic and love to give advice. :)
/r/RedPillWives19/05/16 04:27 PM
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"has long arms" m>.>m
/r/RedPillWives17/05/16 06:25 PM
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Chickens are women too
/r/RedPillWives14/05/16 06:30 PM
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So glad you decided to let it go, and just turn off the stove. Nagging pretty much makes you a hypocrite, as I'm sure there was a time in your life when you accidentally left the stove on. If I happen to catch something like this while he's home, I just say "oops" and right whatever it is. It's not a battle - just looking out for each other.
/r/RedPillWives13/05/16 05:36 PM
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I sometimes ask SO what kind of evening he would like to have. More often than not, he tells me "quiet and relaxing". So when he gets home from work and has had a rough day, I greet him excitedly, then get out of his way for a while.
/r/RedPillWives13/05/16 05:30 PM
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A few IRC ladies kept recommending Nivea creme, so I tried it and my face seems to really like it.
/r/RedPillWives13/05/16 04:06 AM
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If you have body acne, change your sheets a couple times a week. Works for face acne too, only change your pillowcase every couple days. I cleared most of my face acne by training myself to not sleep with my hand under my face.
/r/RedPillWives12/05/16 11:34 PM
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I have found that there are times I just have to remove myself from the situation. This can't always be done, though. For example my fiancee likes to drive what I consider somewhat recklessly, and I can not just leave the car. If it appeared that he was about to hit a car, and I said "hey, watch out for that car", he would not be happy with me. He wants me to always assume that he knows what he is doing, and is capable of doing it. If you think about it, by worrying and begging your husband to h…
/r/RedPillWives12/05/16 09:17 PM
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In reality, when I'm around his family, I just feel so alone. I guess it was always a fantasy of mine that the family of a SO would kind-of replace the family environment that I never really had. Generally when you don't have your family around, anytime you are around a close-knit family you may feel loneliness, sadness, or even envy. I predict that you'd feel the same even if it wasn't your SO's family - say if you were at a friend's parent's house, or at a neighbor's. What is shining through y…
/r/RedPillWives11/05/16 06:45 PM
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I like Gabrielle Reece, she has a book and I just discovered a blog. Her book is packed with advice - mostly relationship, parenting, and exercise/eating.
/r/RedPillWives11/05/16 06:20 PM
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It was the Power of Now, but I'm hesitant to recommend it. The author is a bit full of himself, and makes it sound like it was all his idea. He doesn't give any sources to his credibility on the topic, just that a "profound inner transformation radically changed the course of his life". It's all very new-agey and woo-woo. I did like the way it was written - as a rambling text. He basically keeps throwing the same stuff at you in different ways until it soaks in. I agree with this reviewer and pl…
/r/RedPillWives11/05/16 06:12 PM
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You absolutely can still vet. You're not living together, and have no plans for marriage, therefore you are still dating in the eyes of most. Now is the time to be sure you are compatible, before you put more years into relationship that may not be right for you. If it is hard to breakup now, just how hard will it be in another year, or after moving in together? I'll let you know what I decide to do, but for now I just really need to think a bit more about what I want and expect from out relatio…
/r/RedPillWives11/05/16 05:56 PM
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First, check out /r/homemaking for homemaking advice! Also look at once a month cooking. That site sells menu plans, but you can just look at the individual recipes if you'd like. Having frozen meals that don't need much prep make it easier to eat on the fly, if she wants. If you do the paid version, it will help you learn to buy, prep, and cook in mass - all good skills to have. When I make dinners, I like to make extra and freeze some. I love having a freezer full of soups and main dishes that…
/r/RedPillWives10/05/16 09:48 PM
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At my last dance class, the teacher was asking one of the students about her friend who stopped coming to the classes. Apparently friend was always complaining about how she never gets to go out, so the student worked with the teacher to get friend a last-minute position in the class, and even paid for her class. The friend went to two classes, then didn't show up for any more, having an excuse each time why she couldn't go. Here was friend's opportunity to stop complaining and start doing, but …
/r/RedPillWives10/05/16 06:55 PM
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The girls I know with the "magical group of best friends" are either single, or in a troubled relationship. One of them (a family member) seems to be consistently choosing the friends over her husband and his family. I think the article in question just goes to show that modern, feminist women always want the opposite of what they have. If she'd done all those things she thinks she missed out on, she'd likely be complaining about having missed love - probably to all those girlfriends she seems t…
/r/RedPillWives10/05/16 06:47 PM
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Last week, my boyfriend said something like "I don't think I'llbe in a relationship in 5 years". This was pretty shocking for me to hear, because I thought we were pretty good and have been together for almost 2 years now in an exclusive relationship etc. It was shocking because it should have been shocking. I can't even imagine how much that hurt to hear - he's basically telling you gently that he doesn't see a future for you two, and that sometime in the future he is going to break up with you…
/r/RedPillWives10/05/16 05:24 PM
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Yes! I've been doing some practice with mindfulness, and the book I read had similar advice. When you feel a strong emotion, you stop what you are doing, close your eyes if necessary, and simply feel. Let it wave through you, without attempting to identify what emotion it is, what may have caused it, etc - just feel it. It takes some practice, but I've found it worth it. You want to practice on little daily emotions so that when life's large struggles come your way, you are able to quickly groun…
/r/RedPillWives10/05/16 05:05 PM
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I trust that he would tell me. I doubt he would say nothing if he was planning on taking me fishing and I came out in a dress and stilettos.
/r/RedPillWives10/05/16 04:40 AM
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Yes, I gained 50 lbs but if he loves me, he'll love my new size. This logic is so weird! I'll bet they wouldn't want their boyfriend to gain 50 lbs. Although it seems to be the thing lately - one partner starts getting fat and soon after the other follows. The more my eyes are opened, the more I catch these little sayings and advices that women have - it's like they're rationalizing out loud.
/r/RedPillWives09/05/16 07:28 PM
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I don't mind that one as much - I put them to work. :D
/r/RedPillWives09/05/16 07:22 PM
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I'm getting to be a pro at it now. I just ask him what time he'd like me to be ready at, and I make sure I'm ready at that time. If he's not ready, then I just go spend a few quiet moments to myself. I think he knows it's something I struggle with, because he'll occasionally make plans without telling me, then tell me to go get ready to go out. It's like the biggest test ever of STFU for me, and so far I've passed all of them. I'll have no idea of where we're going, who will be there, what time,…
/r/RedPillWives09/05/16 06:41 PM
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I once had a job that started writing people up if you were more than 4 minutes late, after years of them being pretty flexible with it. Gosh, but that turned me into a forever-prompt person. I still feel anxious if I'm running late to something, and I don't even work there anymore. I've had to chill myself out because J likes to show up to parties fashionably late.
/r/RedPillWives09/05/16 06:16 PM
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This was one of the things recommended in the article, so you're not alone in it! I do something similar when speed walking. :)
/r/RedPillWives08/05/16 04:45 PM
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In your post above, all the examples had him initiating conversation. So are you now saying that you are texting him several additional times a day with no response, or that he never texts you and doesn't respond to yours? You are contradicting yourself.
/r/RedPillWives07/05/16 11:36 PM
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Just that when its your whole interaction day after day, there isn't much there. Thats not substance or connection or anything. I mean if you can reframe how 4-5 texts like that every day can be a good relationship then I am all ears, truly. You are long distance right now. It's nice that he's checking in with you several times a day - most men who are that busy wouldn't. He's initiating conversation, and still telling you he loves you and wants to build a life with you. What more do you want?
/r/RedPillWives07/05/16 10:18 PM
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So since you're at J's place far from home, there isn't anything you could possibly go do right now that makes you happy? I don't buy it. You'd rather sit there and work yourself up to blow when he gets home. What is wrong with those conversations? If you want to talk about things other than work, then START TALKING ABOUT THINGS OTHER THAN WORK.
/r/RedPillWives07/05/16 08:44 PM
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First, since your hamster is driving you insane, get off Reddit for a couple of hours and go do something that makes you happy. Pick something that will keep your mind busy and/or entertained so that you can stop thinking in circles. Go shopping, call a friend to meet for an impromptu lunch, etc. After you're on the other side, then it's time to work through the doubts. Make a pro/con list about your boyfriend. I think you'll find that there are many more good things about your relationship than…
/r/RedPillWives07/05/16 07:47 PM
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1) Cooking. I’ve always liked eating things more than making them, particularly when there’s lots of chopping involved. To make it more enjoyable I’m going to try listening to an audiobook on my phone. 2) Vacuuming, steam cleaning, mopping floors. Next time I do one of these I’ll open up all the windows and daydream about how I might further landscape our beautiful yard. Focusing on the outdoors while doing a tedious indoor task will take my mind off it. Plus all that sunlight helps your mood! 3…
/r/RedPillWives07/05/16 05:41 PM
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These questions you've asked about seeking approval would make a good advice post. :)
/r/RedPillWives07/05/16 04:03 PM
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Aww. I often wonder how much I miss, being hearing impaired. For the most part I think I can tell from looking at his face. :)
/r/RedPillWives06/05/16 09:44 PM
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I'm hoping you open the book to see YOU CAN'T written on every page.
/r/RedPillWives06/05/16 07:42 PM
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Right on. Next would be marriage counseling and buying this book.
/r/RedPillWives06/05/16 06:59 PM
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It really does creep up on you! We were out of town last weekend, and will be out of town next weekend as well. For a moment we thought Mother's Day would be spent out of town, but luckily it fell right in the middle of our two trips!
/r/RedPillWives06/05/16 06:37 PM
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First and foremost, don’t compare your marriage to other people’s. This is such an important lesson. It's one I still catch myself doing, mainly just online. I am with a quiet man as well. He once told me "no news is good news", which he explained as meaning if he's quiet, then all is well. If I make an awesome dinner, and he says nothing but sits quietly and eats it - that should be taken as a complement in his eyes. So many will cook that awesome dinner just to get a pat on the back, and when …
/r/RedPillWives06/05/16 06:34 PM
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Best: We were on a road trip and stopped at a convenience store for gas and snacks. While walking in, J was giving me a tender look as I talked, and he ran into a pole. It was the best moment ever - like something out of a movie. He handled it like a boss, barely stumbled at all. He just kind of grasped the pole, looked surprised, then walked on like nothing happened. Horrifying date: I'd been chatting with a guy for a few days, maybe a week, on OKCupid. We had a good match percentage and seemed…
/r/RedPillWives06/05/16 06:16 PM
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I believe the author is saying to be up-front about your expectations before marriage. When you first begin dating, both partners are very tuned into the other, and want to be the best they can be. This is the time to positively state what you are looking for in a spouse, because your partner may be willing to meet characteristics important to you (or you may find that you are incompatible, and early on is the time you want to discover that). If you do not voice your expectations, all the while …
/r/RedPillWives06/05/16 05:57 PM
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It is very difficult in today’s world for a family to survive on one income. I'm not sure this is true. I have heard firsthand from some parents that after doing the math (including upkeep of two vehicles, traveling costs, daycare) they found that it was actually cheaper for one spouse to stay at home. I was just talking to a couple who has nine children, and they found she was contributing the equivalent of a bag of peanuts every week from her full-time job. All of that work, stress, and time a…
/r/RedPillWives04/05/16 09:02 PM
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For real - look at the Khan Academy for a good example. You can learn about all kinds of subjects at various learning levels for free.
/r/RedPillWives04/05/16 08:36 PM
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I got this one as well!
/r/RedPillWives03/05/16 08:33 PM
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After seeing how he reacts to a heartfelt apology, and seeing how it changes the atmosphere, it got so much easier for me to leave the ifs or buts off. The frustration just melts off his face, he adopts this "you know I'm always right" demeanor and stands taller. To see him go from defensive to confident and pleased means so much more to me than proving I'm right.
/r/RedPillWives03/05/16 06:01 PM
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Male or female? Relationship status? Female, engaged. What are your personal ‘red-flags’? Relationship with family is a big one. My ex had overbearing parents (plus mom is an alcoholic) and he was pretty much a doormat around them - it would have been a big hint had we not been teens when we met. The behavior carried into adulthood and created many problems in our life. This experience also made me avoid men who were a single child with no siblings. Nitpicking at your inherent traits could be an…
/r/RedPillWives03/05/16 05:47 PM
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I recently learned a tip for pet hair - while the garment is wet, put on latex or rubber gloves and rub over the item. The hair comes right off onto your gloves!
/r/RedPillWives02/05/16 10:23 PM
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I like to empty and clean the fridge just before going to the store. It feels great to make room for all the things I'm going to buy and make.
/r/RedPillWives02/05/16 10:19 PM
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I learned the laundry basket trick years ago from The Fly Lady, so you may have read it there! Now I do the same technique but without the basket. When I was first teaching my fiancee how to organize things, I showed him that trick as well! It's such a great way to tidy up and make sure everything has a home. Anyone know of cleaning rags/towels that will actually absorb liquids? I have a mix of old and new, and all of them seem to spread water around rather than picking it up!
/r/RedPillWives02/05/16 10:17 PM
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This reminds me of an experience I had last year at a family member's house in the mountains. No TV and sporadic slow internet had us all cosied up around the dinner table, watching a single flickering taper candle. The base the candle was in had colorful remnants of all the candles before it. We sat there and played with that candle for hours while telling stories. It really did start to feel like home. The hostess wasn't concerned with her cluttered and somewhat dirty house, and didn't offer a…
/r/RedPillWives28/04/16 07:32 PM
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I've tried some lotions, eye cream, body creams, and a lipstick from 100% pure and have really liked everything so far. I signed up for their email alerts and occasionally buy something when it goes on sale. If I could afford it, I would buy so much more!! They have some store locations, and when I'm in CA next month I'm planning on stopping by one and testing all kinds of things.
/r/RedPillWives28/04/16 05:55 AM
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I recently learned that those with hooded eyes shouldn't use shimmery eye shadows unless it's at the arch of the brow and inner corner of the eye for highlighting. Also if you're going to be photographed with a flash skip the shimmer!
/r/RedPillWives28/04/16 05:43 AM
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It would be very easy for me to meet people outside of online dating and things, but I'm so shy about talking to guys unwarranted that I freeze up and get awkward. This was so me. I have this instinct to hide when attractive men talk to me. Once I get to know men I'm very outgoing and lively - it's just at first I'm quiet and awkward. So online dating was so much better for me! Plus, I wasn't confident in my ability to pick a compatible man, so I freaking loved the compatibility rating OKCupid h…
/r/RedPillWives27/04/16 08:32 PM
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We were all so worried about you - so grateful that you took time to keep us updated during the upheaval. I hope you find some comfort in knowing that you handle catastrophes with poise and calm. Most people either freak out or freeze up, yet you did what you had to do. I am sure that M's presence and leadership helped. Looking forward to reading about being a good woman in times of crisis. We love you too!!! <3
/r/RedPillWives27/04/16 08:25 PM
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When I'm feeling down or lazy and need a a burst of motivation, I like to do a google image search for motivational quotes. You can switch to all kinds of different topics at the top! Just found this wonderful quote under the relationship tab.
/r/RedPillWives27/04/16 08:10 PM
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I love the look on the right - if you want it to be subtle/natural you can use a brown or gray eyeliner or shadow. I like to use a brow brush and eye shadow to add an accent to the outer corner of my eyes.
/r/RedPillWives27/04/16 08:00 PM
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She may like this book better than the Surrendered Wife. It's written in a way that many would find acceptable and realistic, whereas the Surrendered Wife has all kinds of things for a modern women to get hung up on.
/r/RedPillWives26/04/16 07:04 PM
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I've found that acting shy and embarrassed if it happens goes over best with my SO. He's always said that there will be no sharing bathroom time with each other - he would be livid if I ever went to the bathroom with the door open, or if I opened the door while he was in it. I grew up in a household where fart jokes were made at the dinner table, and one kid commonly went to the bathroom while the other was in the tub. It's gross, IMO. Keep your private matters private - this also goes for talki…
/r/RedPillWives25/04/16 07:23 PM
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NSFW Funny Plastic surgery Smooth guy Crazy FB lady I chatted with this week She was all up in arms over a sport's bra pattern for girls having the word "bra" anywhere in the pattern name.
/r/RedPillWives24/04/16 12:59 AM
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force childbearing against our will, and thereby gain control over our reproductive powers. Lol - reproductive powers!! Is this one of those gals who grew up in a crazy cult or with super radical, religious parents?
/r/RedPillWives23/04/16 04:59 PM
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I'm so glad I could help. I look forward to hearing how it works for you over time! Not only does it help shut you up and reconnect, but it hides your face if you're the type to show everything you're feeling. I usually just stay there until I remember what's important in life. :)
/r/RedPillWives21/04/16 08:41 PM
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Thank you for reposting! I've been building a household binder with nothing but google and homemade documents, so having all these tips and links again will help me so much.
/r/RedPillWives21/04/16 08:34 PM
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I get annoyed in romancey HEA books when they throw in conflict between the couple. Like everything will be going fine, then she'll overreact over something retarded, or find out he's been lying, and they'll have an explosive scene that ends with a separation. After much moping and sulking, they end up back together and it's even better! Are they perpetuating a myth that relationships must have passionate blowups in order to grow closer and survive? I've always had the idea that once you breakup…
/r/RedPillWives20/04/16 05:45 PM
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You're welcome! I hope you enjoy reading the book. :)
/r/RedPillWives20/04/16 05:16 PM
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As a bonus all the affection will help you manage your fears.
/r/RedPillWives19/04/16 06:18 PM
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If you have great trouble backing down enough to apologize or gracefully leave the room, then try hugging him. You can be all kinds of riled up, and just hug him - right there in the middle of it all. Something about it calms the mind and calls truce. Whatever you find that works in the moment, you eventually want to start doing before arguments happen. So if the hugging works to stop your arguing, then whenever you feel like you want to argue with him you would hug him instead.
/r/RedPillWives19/04/16 06:04 PM
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How very scary! I hope everyone is okay, and wish dearly that I could do more than just type.
/r/RedPillWives19/04/16 05:07 AM
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Aww, thanks!
/r/RedPillWives18/04/16 09:06 PM
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It was good times. :) I had no idea what to expect when I said that, or even why he suddenly disappeared after my saying it, so when he came back with those pillows I was like GENIUS!
/r/RedPillWives18/04/16 06:30 PM
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I really liked the message in the Power of Now (book), and I hear the audio version is delightful. However, the author goes overboard on the mysticism and it got rather annoying. He makes it sound like enlightenment is all his idea, and it's been around forever. I have a few other books on mindfulness on my wish list that an Amazon reviewer recommended. You may still enjoy it - I highlighted like half the book. :)
/r/RedPillWives18/04/16 02:47 AM
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Here is the post. It's a great book. :)
/r/RedPillWives18/04/16 02:25 AM
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I have the small passion planner. I liked it when I first got it, particularly the goal mapping and note sections in the back. I've discovered that I just don't like planning my days by the hour. I feel a lot of pressure when I do it, and thus rarely do what I write. It's like I get excited and follow my schedules for a couple of weeks, then get sick of it all. So instead, I've been using the planner as more of a datebook and journal and following a daily checklist I placed in my household binde…
/r/RedPillWives18/04/16 01:01 AM
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You may be able to build a nest egg by selling things in your home on Craigslist or by having some yard sales (advertise yard sales on Craigslist!). Don't present it to your husband as a way to make money - it will just make him feel like more of a failure. Present it as you wanting to downsize some, that you want to get rid of some things you don't like anymore, that you want to have a yard sale to meet the neighbors, etc. After the yard sale when you have a nice wad of cash, you can excitedly …
/r/RedPillWives17/04/16 06:52 AM
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My husband absolutely disagrees - he wants to continue with our current lifestyle, despite the fact that we cannot afford it and keep going deeper into debt, and does not want to talk much with me about our problems aside from casually saying that he will handle it, he will figure out something, and so on. So you should keep focusing on being a wife and mother, since it's what he wants. Debt can be very scary, but it's not the end of the world. He's not going to talk to you much about problems -…
/r/RedPillWives17/04/16 06:44 AM
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I think having the out-clause line of thinking is dangerous. You vet a man to be your husband, you trust him, know he makes good decisions, and at this point you know he's not an abuser. I believe that from the wedding day on, you put both feet entirely in the relationship. No thinking of what-if's, other than the spouse dying. Marriages do fall apart, but the success of your marriage is entirely in the hands of you and your husband. Just because others' have fallen apart, does not mean yours wi…
/r/RedPillWives17/04/16 02:27 AM
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If my SO is making all the money and is in charge of the finances, how comfortable am I going to be asking for money? Especially for things that are just for me, like clothes, makeup, lotions, etc. That would be a good opportunity to tell him what you want. It's the wonderful thing about having a husband who's in charge of the finances - you can tell him what you want (and I don't mean normal everyday "need" items), then when he gets it for you, or gives you money for it, it's like a gift! Plus,…
/r/RedPillWives17/04/16 02:13 AM
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Me, too!
/r/RedPillWives16/04/16 10:52 PM
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I got that one, too!
/r/RedPillWives16/04/16 10:46 PM
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Wow, I checked all but 4 boxes on that quiz. I giggled at the unpleasantly aroused one - does that mean what I think it means?
/r/RedPillWives16/04/16 08:10 PM
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But saying it simply doesn't exist is a little aggressive IMO. Why is it such a difficult thing to consider? I noticed in the first reply you did, you said "my PMS" as if it's a possession of yours. Perhaps some are attached to the label "PMS". Think of what I quoted in the OP - "The discourse is me, not me, my real self, my PMS self." To admit that it may not be real would be admitting that your behavior was for some other reason and within your control, and that can be difficult to confront. I…
/r/RedPillWives15/04/16 11:26 PM
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I don't think it's fair to ignore the profound changes our lady chemicals have on our bodies, which does include our brain and moods. Did you read this source I provided in the OP? "Surprisingly, a recent review of published articles measuring links between mood and women's menstrual cycles found that only 15% of studies provided evidence of an exclusive link between the premenstrual phase and negative mood." "The CIHR-funded Mood in Daily Life (MiDL) study examined the extent to which women's d…
/r/RedPillWives15/04/16 11:07 PM
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I mean, just things triggered from the physical side would be enough to throw me off my game. I know I would be socially withdrawn if I was having wretched cramps and I might be grumpy if I'm fatigued. Would this not fall under normal self-care? I'll just bet you're grumpy when your fatigued on any old day, not just during PMS. Do you allow yourself to be grumpy on those days? Do you socially withdraw yourself when you have a headache, a stomach ache, running nose that just won't stop, or say ev…
/r/RedPillWives15/04/16 10:04 PM
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The next day there is blood in the toilet and I'm calling HB to apologize for the PMS monster the day before. It's usually a good thing to me cuz I'm like "heyooo it's not actually the big deal I made it out to be..sorry babe". This is the kind of thing that popular culture is making out to be normal, and acceptable, but I don't think it should be. You can control yourself so that you don't need to apologize for being a "PMS monster". I did it through mindfulness and recognizing that PMS isn't a…
/r/RedPillWives15/04/16 09:55 PM
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How exciting!!!
/r/RedPillWives15/04/16 08:20 PM
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I would caution you, however, to avoid the common pitfall of being the “cool girl” who is so chill and above caring about that lame marriage and kid stuff. It’s very easy to not care when you’re young and attractive and have your whole life stretching out in front of you. My favorite part - I was so that girl once, despite always having wanting to be a stay-at-home wife and mother. Glad I got on the right track before it was too late!
/r/RedPillWives15/04/16 05:47 AM
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I found that my perspective on feminism changed, I wanted to take more care of the way I looked, and was happy making him happy and doing anything I could to make his life easier. These are all positive changes - no need to regress because you saw a writing. :) To be happy in life, you have to be good, whatever your criteria for "good" may be. That you don't want to go back to the person you were shows that you think that person was bad - trust your instinct there and stick with the changes you'…
/r/RedPillWives14/04/16 06:03 AM
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I'm looking forward to the quiz, and hopefully one for figuring out where the guy is on the scale! I had a hard time deciding where I fall - I have characteristics from both the low and high dominance categories (although I definitely have a high dominance threshold). I just can't express how excited I am for your next posts, and the quiz - IRC has picked the wrong night to go down!
/r/RedPillWives14/04/16 04:21 AM
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Yay! It's the best. :)
/r/RedPillWives13/04/16 06:59 PM
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Here is the post on the book, if you'd like to check it out.
/r/RedPillWives12/04/16 06:19 AM
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I want a campfire so bad!
/r/RedPillWives11/04/16 10:14 PM
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I have this recipe that everyone loves for chicken pot pie, and it's oh-so-easy to make in mass. Frozen pie shells, homemade pie crust, or refrigerated rolled pie crust (my favorite) Some cooked chicken (I've done it all - precooked rotisserie chicken, chicken breasts, thigh meat, roasted some chickens) Cream of chicken soup, one small can per pie (cream of mushroom works as well) A bag of frozen mixed vegetables Spices of your choice Roll out one of the pie crusts and place it in a glass pie pa…
/r/RedPillWives11/04/16 10:09 PM
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Also, some of the dating sites display a percentage of how often you respond to messages. I replied to each message not only for all the reasons you've given, but also because I wanted my percentage to be high.
/r/RedPillWives11/04/16 07:45 PM
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This sounds nice. :) I'll admit - I've never dusted my blinds. I consider myself a good housekeeper, but my home is far from perfect!
/r/RedPillWives11/04/16 06:07 AM
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Could I ask what your household routine is like now? Did you hire a service so that you can focus on other things? Or perhaps you accepted that you'll never have an immaculate house, and that's just fine with you and your husband. The point I am trying to make is: Find something you are good at that brings you joy and satisfaction so your time alone is not lonely. This is such great advice - thank you.
/r/RedPillWives11/04/16 12:45 AM
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"If you're bored, you're boring." I love this. Despite having left my career almost 2 years ago, I can't remember the last time I was bored. There were so many naysayers when I was leaving work - so many that predicted I'd get so bored. I must be doing something right, then!
/r/RedPillWives11/04/16 12:40 AM
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I disagree. Living at home while in college is perfectly acceptable for young ladies. Surely it beats living on campus, having obnoxious roommates who will likely be poor role models, and going further into debt. If you've got overbearing parents, then sure, maybe move out. But we don't even know that about OP.
/r/RedPillWives10/04/16 09:05 PM
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Sharing this old, but excellent article for those who haven't read it yet. It's a great insight into what men want. It's no secret why "sudden renewed interest in sex" is often listed as a sign your husband might be having an affair: a good GFE is like Popeye eating a can of spinach. You feel like someone really thinks you're worth a damn, even if you had to pay her to think it. And if that gives a dude enough juice to go home and royally take his wife to Pound Town, then if nothing else you can…
/r/RedPillWives10/04/16 08:46 PM
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I'm on my fifth month and really liking it! I started overweight and really out of shape, so I'm progressing more slowly than others. I've been taking progress pictures monthly (just for us), and every single month I'm losing 5 pounds and toning up more and more. My butt is lifting and getting really strong, but it's going to take more weight loss before I really have a nice shape (13 pounds to go!)
/r/RedPillWives10/04/16 08:01 PM
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This is how I am, too.
/r/RedPillWives10/04/16 07:07 AM
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Hahaha, you win!
/r/RedPillWives10/04/16 07:04 AM
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Hahaha. Good to know! How she managed to keep a straight face through that, I'll never know.
/r/RedPillWives09/04/16 11:12 PM
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"So that when you do start crying, on queue or on demand, that you still look pretty..." "There are certain ways you can change the shape of your face to make it look like you're the innocent person in this whole party" WTF. Wow, I got so many emotions just watching the first minute.
/r/RedPillWives09/04/16 09:35 PM
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You're next
/r/RedPillWives09/04/16 09:21 PM
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The curly/straight haired on is so true, and the same goes for a lot of physical characteristics - seems like women just want the opposite of what they were given.
/r/RedPillWives09/04/16 08:49 PM
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I've tucked leggings into boots, but not denim. The man really doesn't like denim on girls, so I avoid it unless I'm gardening and/or doing heavy labor. I keep wondering if he'll change his tune once I have an epic badonkadonk from doing strong curves.
/r/RedPillWives09/04/16 07:40 PM
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It brought back so many pleasant memories for me. We used to have family and friends over so often when I was growing up that I couldn't tell the difference between who was family and who was friend. Now when the doorbell rings we tiptoe up to it and look out the peep hole (unless we're expecting a package).
/r/RedPillWives09/04/16 07:34 PM
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Haha, "worst day ever" is so true!
/r/RedPillWives09/04/16 07:29 PM
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I love boots, but I pride myself on how I've never tucked jeans into them. Boots and dresses for the win!
/r/RedPillWives09/04/16 05:56 PM
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Those are the best! I laughed at every one.
/r/RedPillWives09/04/16 05:45 AM
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American Girls Be like - NSFW Saw in Michael's today When the doorbell rings today vs 20 years ago
/r/RedPillWives09/04/16 05:36 AM
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I have heard of this analogy before, but I'm not sure where. It may have been a blog, article, or even in a book. It's been a few years, at least - it stuck with me for a while. I recall the original author used white, gray, and black papers for the base of his/her analogy. I don't remember much else about the original, unfortunately. I'd love to read it again, if anyone here happens to know where the basic premise is from!
/r/RedPillWives09/04/16 05:32 AM
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I like nigiri better than sashimi, but I'll eat it anyway. :) It took some digging to figure out how to get good fish for home use. Turns out the fish company that sells to the sushi shops in my town also has a small public store, and they sell frozen sushi-grade fish. Recently I found a good Korean grocery store that has absolutely huge selection of sushi-grade fish. I put it in the fridge to thaw the night before, and if I don't use it all the next day then I either trash it or cook it, depend…
/r/RedPillWives09/04/16 04:08 AM
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And I love sushi haha. Was wondering, since you live on an island and all.
/r/RedPillWives08/04/16 10:58 PM
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What do you have against sushi? Who am I to say he can't be selective about who he dates? He wants to enjoy his favorite food with his girl - nothing wrong with that. We go to sushi once or twice a month, and I've learned to make it at home. And for the record, where we live has a huge sushi following - there are at least two dozen restaurants that exclusively serve sushi. I think you entirely missed the point I was trying to make - you may find a man who's good for you, but you may not be good …
/r/RedPillWives08/04/16 10:18 PM
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Thank you. :)
/r/RedPillWives08/04/16 06:50 PM
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Very disrespectful! It annoys me so bad when people talk like that, yet I've been known to do it myself when I'm really angry. It really takes a lot to get me that fired up, though.
/r/RedPillWives08/04/16 06:48 PM
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On a basic level, if you have attraction and at least some compatibility, and are both interested in the same kind of lifestyle, then it could work. I think you can vet men pretty fast, sometimes just within a few dates. It's important to do it quickly, before all the feelings start coming in (at least the basics). If there's anything at all that you're passionate about, either for or against, seek his thoughts on those subjects. (You may want to start making a list.) I did have deal breakers, a…
/r/RedPillWives08/04/16 06:33 PM
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Loved that article!
/r/RedPillWives07/04/16 10:56 PM
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So without sex, attraction, passion - what do you have? Those words you wrote could easily describe a father, brother, cousin, or best friend.
/r/RedPillWives07/04/16 09:19 PM
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I'm going to do my best to make it work because overall our relationship is really good. Tell me specifically what's good about him and your relationship, aside from him being a close, supportive best friend (which isn't any different from having a female roommate).
/r/RedPillWives07/04/16 08:30 PM
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It's the best. Even on days when I only have time or energy for one set of each exercise, it still gets me feeling sore the next day and I keep progressing. I feel like I finally found something that I can keep up with for a lifetime!
/r/RedPillWives07/04/16 08:18 PM
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Sometimes I'll dramatically playact a nagging wife and we have fun with it. :)
/r/RedPillWives07/04/16 07:06 PM
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Congratulations everyone! I'm 32, been with an awesome man for 5 years and we're getting married in June. I used to have a career as a pharmacy tech which I left a couple of years ago to work from home by selling things online. I've always wanted to be a housewife and stay at home mother, and it's finally happening - I'm so excited! I love sewing - have done quilting, clothing, and some random household things like pillows. I've lost a lot of weight, most of it before meeting my fiancee, with ab…
/r/RedPillWives07/04/16 04:31 AM
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In the real world, you likely wouldn't even be able to recognize someone in a relationship where one partner leads, not unless you were really looking for it. Most of the people in them are quiet about it IRL, it just looks like a happy relationship where the couple are respectful of each other. There's no need for me to vocalize that I made a choice and it's okay - our relationship is as it is and it works for us. I haven't had to defend our male-led relationship to a single person in real life…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/16 11:23 PM
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There's this sweet potato casserole I make that he absolutely loves. I usually only make it for the Holidays, but now you're giving me ideas. (I was going to share the recipe - but it looks like the blog is down! Look for one with all kinds of sweetness added, and melt some marshmallows on top just before serving.) I could really go for an elaborate holiday meal... Thanks for the idea!
/r/RedPillWives06/04/16 10:55 PM
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Just buy a standalone timer or use the stove. I have a little pocket sized one that we both love.
/r/RedPillWives06/04/16 08:09 PM
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Haha, I'll have to watch them again while looking at what she's wearing.
/r/RedPillWives06/04/16 08:07 PM
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Sounds like she's a sulker. So not productive! "I'll just act cold to him until he admits I'm right."
/r/RedPillWives06/04/16 08:06 PM
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I get that it's fiction and supposed to be funny but it mirrors what occurs in many relationships, and it reinforces the idea that this dynamic is acceptable. All too true. I saw several comments on the first video that were like "aww, they're just like us!" Like it's cute to be like that.
/r/RedPillWives06/04/16 08:02 PM
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Yeah, even with just 4 months to plan it's not at all taking over my life.
/r/RedPillWives06/04/16 06:38 AM
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I'm planning our US wedding and it's 4 months from engagement to ceremony. I went dress shopping a few weeks after getting engaged, once we'd figured out the date and secured the location. To my surprise, the dress shop wouldn't be able to have wedding dresses in time because they take 4-6 months to make. Insane!! Didn't matter to me, because I wanted to look at bridesmaid dresses in white, and those only take 8-12 weeks. They still acted like it was some big to-do that my wedding is so very las…
/r/RedPillWives06/04/16 06:28 AM
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Haha, I felt the same way. I made lots of notes while reading it, and ended up having to pick just a few things to work on first. It seems like it would also be a good thing to read for parents. That part in the beginning about the differences in raising children would make a good post on it's own!
/r/RedPillWives06/04/16 06:22 AM
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H & M and GAP are my favorites. GAP has a factory site that's awesome - especially if you sign up for their email list and catch a sale. Asos often has a really good sale/clearance section, and I love the catwalk videos.
/r/RedPillWives06/04/16 06:17 AM
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Welcome, and congratulations! I'm also engaged, so we can talk in the chatroom about wedding planning and being newlyweds! I'm assuming you're not in the US since it's afternoon where you are - I'd love to hear about how weddings and relationships are in your country.
/r/RedPillWives06/04/16 06:05 AM
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So happy to hear the book resonates with you as well!
/r/RedPillWives06/04/16 06:00 AM
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Welcome! Sounds like you're right in line with RPW, so please keep commenting. It's always great to talk to women who are experienced in long-term traditional marriages. I look forward to hearing more from you.
/r/RedPillWives06/04/16 05:44 AM
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I'm so grateful that I'm entering this marriage with no previous children between us, and good-natured, non-interfering parents on both sides. So if we avoid infidelity, we'll be well on the way for a happy life together. I was in a relationship previously with an interfering in-law, and it was the worst. She was constantly trying to get us to fight, and it got harder and harder to not provoke her as I filled with resentment over the years. It was like being with a man who had a little devil on …
/r/RedPillWives06/04/16 03:57 AM
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Lol, that drives my fiancee crazy - luckily it drives me crazy, too! Same with toilet seats... Both of us like them to be down. :)
/r/RedPillWives06/04/16 01:05 AM
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Right on with the "but".
/r/RedPillWives05/04/16 10:05 PM
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I asked for his help with this one. He's usually pretty laid back, and doesn't bring up complaints unless it's something that's really bothering him, plus he'll present it in a very direct manner. The times he's done it in the past, I think I was so shocked in the moment that I didn't get defensive. I really wanted to learn to not get defensive over little things, like when he suggests a way for me to do something - sometimes my instinct is to say why I do it the way I do, rather than just tryin…
/r/RedPillWives05/04/16 09:51 PM
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Wow, this article was enlightening. As someone who began a relationship at 27, I went through much of what he's describing, especially right around 30 - and it nearly cost me the relationship. Even women married prior to this phase will go through some variation of self-doubt, or self-pity in dealing with the hypergamic uncertainty of her choice (“Is he really the best I could do?”) That was precisely what I was thinking: is he really the best I could do? I felt like there was a deadline, like I…
/r/RedPillWives05/04/16 09:31 PM
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I laughed at the prostitute one! Can't say I've ever looked at it from that angle... I absolutely loved advice #1: Stay Married. "If he is not beating you or your children, sleeping with an army of skanks-on-the-side, or spending himself into an abyss of debt and taking you along, don't get divorced." Thank you for the time it took to organize this post! I'll read some more of them over the next few days.
/r/RedPillWives05/04/16 08:55 PM
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I recently found a friend in a place I hadn't considered looking - extended family. We were going to get married without a wedding party, because neither of us have very close friends. I asked his mom and his brother's GF out to lunch to talk about wedding stuff, and noticed that the GF really wanted to do all the girly stuff with me. So I asked her to be a bridesmaid, she accepted, and we've been spending a lot of time together. Since she's in the family, I'm extra careful to not badmouth my fi…
/r/RedPillWives05/04/16 06:30 PM
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If I take away my words, how the heck am I supposed to communicate? I once felt much the same! The one thing this book drilled into my head is that you can not talk about anything that may cause emotions unless you are connected first. You can still communicate with your partner, but it has to come from a place of peace and calm. Sometimes I've found that by connecting and reaching that place of peace, the thing I wanted to talk about no longer seems important. There's a tip in the book that I r…
/r/RedPillWives05/04/16 05:07 PM
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I hope you enjoy it!
/r/RedPillWives05/04/16 04:44 PM
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My staple meals are all simple to make, and the ingredients keep relatively long - I might have to pick up one or two perishables to make them. You can stick with routine meals and still change it up. He likes breakfast burritos, and I often change what's in the burrito. As long as he gets a breakfast burrito, he's happy. So if I run out of something, I can improvise - like last week I didn't have any hash browns so I roasted some chopped sweet potato instead. Take it slowly! Maybe start with on…
/r/RedPillWives05/04/16 04:44 PM
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Welcome!
/r/RedPillWives05/04/16 04:23 AM
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I got divorced from my high-school sweetheart at 26 and had no experience being pursued. My mom sent me that book "He's just not that into you" and it helped - only took a few months of dating to find a great match.
/r/RedPillWives05/04/16 04:22 AM
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We tried watching Fatal Attraction for the first time and only made it to the knifing scene before we decided to call it quits. It was so depressing and we kept being like "no, NO, NOOOODON'TDOITwhy doesn't he get it?"
/r/RedPillWives05/04/16 04:14 AM
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I haven't seen Ira and Abby or Amelie - they look interesting!
/r/RedPillWives05/04/16 04:10 AM
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I'll admit that it has really good examples of both what to do and what not to do - but gosh darn does Scarlett irritate me. I don't think I could sit through that movie again!
/r/RedPillWives05/04/16 04:04 AM
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Sounds neat! I've been wanting a new show to watch.
/r/RedPillWives05/04/16 04:02 AM
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Lol! I felt like that watching this video.
/r/RedPillWives05/04/16 04:01 AM
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Is there a quiz for the ways you express your love? Like the love languages quiz, but in reverse.
/r/RedPillWives05/04/16 03:54 AM
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Amazing how different we all are! I'm a huge talker, and would have a difficult time quietly sitting on a couch while he's watching sports. I'd last maybe 15 minutes before I either found something to do, like read a book, or start blabbing. Hope your dating is going well. :)
/r/RedPillWives05/04/16 03:52 AM
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My primary love language is Words of Affirmation, followed by a tie between Physical Touch and Quality Time. His is Acts of Service, followed by the same tie. I show love through service, so it works well. I do have a difficult time with touching - I love receiving touches but often get into my own world and forget to touch him (this was a good reminder!) As long as I get complements on the ways I serve, I'm happy and content. I do have issues with approval-seeking and fishing for compliments - …
/r/RedPillWives05/04/16 03:45 AM
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Using a snappish tone. I have a very short fuse and become irritable extremely easily – but my husband really doesn’t like it when I snap at him (big surprise). I’ve done a lot to try to keep my temper in check. I don’t let myself get too hungry or too cold (I fall into these states very easily); I try to keep our apartment in reasonable order, because a mess makes me crabby; when he tries to make a joke out of my temper, I try to laugh along; I try to control my voice to keep it light and cheer…
/r/RedPillWives05/04/16 03:03 AM
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Yay for losing weight! Some house dresses you can just serge/sew right up the sides and make them tighter (I'm losing weight, too).
/r/RedPillWives04/04/16 07:27 PM
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I do leggings often in the winter as well. I even made a pair that has cute kitties on it! Another thing I do for the winter is pair a sexy summer chemise with a long cardigan. He really likes me to wear over-sized shirts of his - there's this one I wear often and it's so big that I went a day with a sock in the sleeve and didn't notice until taking it off! I also keep an eye on my slippers, which I think a lot of women overlook. You don't want to be walking around in ugly, stinky, well-worn sli…
/r/RedPillWives04/04/16 07:25 PM
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A good reminder. I revamped my at-home wardrobe over the last year after asking him what kinds of things he likes. I noticed back then that I was leaning more towards frump at home, and didn't want to turn into that girl. I don't need to be dressed up at home, but I alternate between cute and sexy and everything is in good condition with no holes/stains.
/r/RedPillWives04/04/16 04:21 AM
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Check out nordic plates for classic plates with onions added - now you can blame your tears on the onions!
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/16 08:55 PM
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How exciting! I can't wait to see what movie you picked!
/r/RedPillWives03/04/16 08:18 PM
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I'll be heading to the new sub and I appreciate all the hard work it must have taken to get that set up in just 4 days!
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/16 07:04 AM
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I would never post negative things about him in a forum that our family/friends could see. Reddit was my outlet for help with the problems. The #1 complaint I hear from our family is that he's always changing his plans at the last minute and no one knows what is going on with the kids until he shows up at their door. He always claims it is everyone else's fault. It sounds to me like you're discussing negative things with your family. And judging by "he always claims it is everyone else's fault" …
/r/RedPillWomen29/03/16 06:12 PM
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I will also have to consider if he really is the best captain for my life. What made you pick him in the first place? Judging from your comment history, you have at least one child from a previous relationship (marriage?). What was so different about your current husband, that made you want to build a life with him, to have children with him? Have you fallen into the same habits that caused the other relationship to fail?
/r/RedPillWomen29/03/16 06:00 PM
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Always look your best when you leave the house.
/r/RedPillWomen27/03/16 04:05 AM
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Our sink/vanity is right next to the tub/shower, so he just uses canned air and shoots the hair into the shower. Works great!
/r/RedPillWomen27/03/16 12:05 AM
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Don't take /u/poorsay's advice and talk to him about your feelings, give him suggestions, or see a psychiatrist - it's bad advice.
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/16 04:30 PM
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If you're with a guy with any kind of active, interfering baggage it not only makes things difficult, but it could show that he's not the type to stand up for himself (this could involve ex's, family, friends, etc). If you're the least bit dominant in your personality, this could present a problem in your relationship with him. It's difficult to respect a man who allows people to create drama in his life. It also shows that he wouldn't be a good protector who will stand up for you. A lot of it d…
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/16 01:18 AM
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Things were progressing really well until about a month in I was blindsided when he told me that we needed to stop dating because of "external factors". The moment a guy breaks up with you is the moment you move on. Break contact and don't be friends. If he was really into you, he would not have broken up with you. You really don't want to be with a guy with a drama queen, interfering ex anyway. If he put up with that in the past, then he's not a good candidate for husband and father. Also keep …
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/16 04:07 AM
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I find the information on body structure more interesting than face structure, so I really enjoyed the second half. After reading this article last year I found myself looking at the shape of women's bodies more often. It's fascinating how one or two parts being masculine can throw a whole body off. The flat backsides on overweight women seem to be really common, even when they've maintained a hourglass WHR. Something I missed the first few times I read this article was the mention of WHR of .71…
/r/RedPillWomen22/03/16 05:30 AM
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I guess the best example was last night when I asked if something was bothering him and he snapped "You!". That was the first and only thing I said after he called the baby a fucker. Your tone and facial expression can have a lot to do with whether a person gets defensive or not. If you're coming from a place of peace and protectiveness (of your husband, not your child), and truly want to listen to what's bothering him, then you'll get a better response. If you're face is pinched, your tone hars…
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/16 07:03 PM
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When he gets defensive, stop talking and consider what you've said - 9.5/10 times it means you are wording things badly. People get defensive when they feel attacked, challenged, and/or criticized. Your husband should never feel any of that coming from you, especially if he has a history of others doing so.
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/16 06:03 PM
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Yes, just distance yourself and stop hanging out with them.
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/16 05:32 AM
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Assuming your actively dating and looking for a partner, you do the same as you would if you were in a relationship. It'll be less baggage upon entering a relationship. Don't befriend and have intimate one-on-one conversations with men who you are not interested in dating. You could end up falling for someone you're not compatible with, or he could end up falling for you. Read all the comments as well as the post - there's some good information there. It still applies to single women.
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/16 05:05 AM
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Read this post and the comments.
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/16 03:49 AM
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The guilt is unnecessary in this case because he's doing what he wants. He assures you he has it covered. If you start thinking otherwise then it's a way of questioning his judgement. If you don't want it to seem like you're taking advantage of him, then be sure to cook him some wonderful meals.
/r/RedPillWomen18/03/16 07:19 PM
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Here's a nice blog post about marrying young.
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/16 06:16 PM
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Since she had a good upbringing, it was likely that there was just not enough attraction to maintain that relationship. She got the relationship with all the attraction in "Brandon", yet that fell apart as well. The common denominator is her, and now she's an old woman with adult children who's mostly single. Also there's a big chunk of her childhood missing from the story - her parents. The story says she was raised by her grandparents but there's no mention of what happened to her parents. We …
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/16 05:41 PM
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I have a natural hourglass figure, my stomach will never be completely flat (and it's taken me a long time to realise that) and I will never have a thigh gap - not without major surgery. Oh, you'd be surprised!! I used to believe much the same as you. Getting a flat belly is hard work, but it is possible. You have to lose around 5-10% of your body weight before weight will start coming off your midsection. Assuming you are at a healthy weight now, you may have to get to the lower end of your hea…
/r/RedPillWomen16/03/16 10:28 PM
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When I had an obese BMI of 35, I still had a "healthy" WHR of .74, so I'm not convinced WHR is any better of a fat measurement than BMI. I was without a doubt too fat then. Perhaps this is what happens when we start using numbers to determine fatness and fitness, rather than our eyeballs.
/r/RedPillWomen16/03/16 10:08 PM
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Even in an expensive restaurant you could just order an appetizer. It's not a bad idea to have a snack before a date, just in case. Plus it helps you eat more slowly. When I was dating, I would just give the date the "how do you want to do this" look when the check came. Usually he'd make a decision, or give the same look back - in that case I would offer to go dutch. With my fiancee the first few dates were dutch, then we started rotating who pays, then he started paying for most everything.
/r/RedPillWomen16/03/16 08:02 PM
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I can understand that the 'BDSM scene' may look like this, much in the same way the 'gay scene' looks like a lot of open, unattached sex. But I think the relationships are not like this - a BDSM relationship to an outsider would look like yours or mine, what happens behind closed doors is none of our business. They are real and healthy, just with a fetish involved. I think you may be laboring under the assumption that I'm an outsider. The majority of people I know who are involved in BDSM relati…
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/16 06:14 PM
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Nowadays and stupid kid can graduate college - even as a doctor.
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/16 04:57 PM
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First a disclaimer: I'm a "things" person. I love buying a new gadget or gizmo, and have a robe for everyday of the week. However, I don't much like to get gifts. It's always a little awkward and uncomfortable, and I start wondering if the gift-giver can afford it. That's on me to deal with, though. My fiancee absolutely delights in holidays when he gets to give gifts, so it's something I had to first accept and later embrace. Do you get a lovely feeling when you get the perfect gift for a frien…
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/16 04:44 PM
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Without the feminist movement originally, women would not be allowed to go to college. I just did about 20 minutes of research, and it was enough to discover that this statement was false, as was the one about feminism being responsible for your PhD. The first female physician in the US was Elizabeth Blackwell who graduated in 1849. The male students unanimously voted to allow her acceptance, and her sister later became a physician as well. The London School of Medicine for Women was established…
/r/RedPillWomen15/03/16 03:41 AM
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It was a one-time special. It wasn't meant to be a series.
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/16 11:29 PM
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Subservient has so many connotations, it implies slavery, unwillingness, and abuse. I was simply trying to distinguish that submissive is none of these things. If my husband were ever to ask me to do something that went against my core beliefs (like cause harm to another living creature for example), then I would say no (not that he would ever would of course). I do not blindly obey, which is what subservient means to me. Your husband would never ask you to do something that goes against your co…
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/16 04:34 PM
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It's NOT about ONLY thinking of his happiness and forsaking your own. I don't believe there's anything inherently wrong with taking this stance. Often doing things that make the other partner happy will cause your happiness. And even if not, happiness is a choice. "Before I became a submissive wife, I was selfish. I thought it was about me, but now I realize that it’s about him. If he’s happy, then I’m happy.” This right here is bullshit. I don't think that's bullshit at all. There's nothing wro…
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/16 04:20 AM
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I can't imagine throwing kids into the mix! It's not like you can just not mention it and change all the clocks - I'm sure they talk about it at school and with friends. I don't even think I figured out the "fall back, spring forward" thing until I was at least a few years into adulthood. Apparently Arizona doesn't have daylight savings... But it seems like that state is a mixed bag of people loving it or hating it.
/r/RedPillWomen13/03/16 09:55 PM
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I did a search and found this post from PhantomDream that gives a good example. Team Woman is when girls start agreeing with whatever girls say, even if it's not at all true or good. You see it in action when a girl's like "OMG I look so fat in this dress" or even if someone told you that you looked fat in the dress - all the girlfriends start chiming in with "you look great, you're not fat", even if she absolutely does look fat in that dress. You see it often in relationship type subreddits whe…
/r/RedPillWomen13/03/16 09:48 PM
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Those trailers were awesome. I loved the "what's the time of death" part - hadn't even thought of that. You know, I was just getting the hang of waking up earlier and being productive right away. Now here we are eating breakfast at 1PM.
/r/RedPillWomen13/03/16 08:04 PM
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I'm so grateful I had that click early on before I headed too far into nagging land. I'd only just started to develop the same bad behaviors that were in my previous relationship when I came across this sub. Even so, changing my mindset and outlook has had great results for our relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/16 05:49 AM
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Now you both seem much happier and you can stop trying to mother him by explaining how to do something "properly" - especially when, add long as the dishes get cleaned, it really doesn't matter! This is so true, and I think it will help when we have children to already have happy household in place. When the children start doing the dishes, I'll already have practice with stepping back and accepting that it doesn't need to be perfect. It's so much nicer when you get help just for the joy of it, …
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/16 12:40 AM
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Most cookware and knives shouldn't be dishwashed, same with some accessories we have. Not to mention when you need the same item for multiple meals. Some items he requires me to wash immediately, such as the pizza cutter, spatulae, and ice cream scoop.
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/16 12:22 AM
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Good to know!
/r/RedPillWomen11/03/16 11:42 PM
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You're welcome. :) Good luck!
/r/RedPillWomen11/03/16 07:46 PM
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For one, he doesn't care at all about efficiency - that's my thing. He'd much rather do something slower, but right. I love to be efficient in all the things. But what is efficient to me may not be to others. For example, if I folded my socks in a fancy way that takes more time, it may be seen as inefficient - but what if it makes taking them out of the drawer and putting them on faster? The same could be said of your dishwasher example - perhaps from her point of view it's quicker to unload the…
/r/RedPillWomen11/03/16 07:14 PM
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I'd have better luck slamming my head against a brick wall then trying to convince this man that my way is better. So, yeah, I'm much happier now that I'm not trying to swim uphill.
/r/RedPillWomen11/03/16 06:47 PM
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I got rather lucky, or maybe just filtered well, because I found a good match in less than a month of online dating. I put a few days worth of work into my profile so that prospective partners could really get an idea of me. I wanted she-who-is-kittenkajira to really shine through the words on the page. Much like PhantomDream, I chatted with at the most a few guys at a time, and chatted extensively prior to meeting. At least a few days worth of long messages, really trying to get an idea of comp…
/r/RedPillWomen11/03/16 06:38 PM
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I occasionally show them in the chat room. I don't think I'll show them here on RPW or on Reddit in general - not until I get closer to my goals. When I said that we share progress, I wasn't referring to pictures.
/r/RedPillWomen10/03/16 09:01 PM
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I do believe it's better to have kids younger. Starting perhaps in 10th grade, I was dealing with an undiagnosed (and unrealized, really) autoimmune disease which reached it's peak around 23-24 years old. I can't imagine how much harder it would have been to go through it with small children to care for. Then again, maybe I would have sought help sooner if I'd had others relying on me. You really never know. My health quickly turned for the better after getting diagnosed, and I sorted my life ov…
/r/RedPillWomen10/03/16 07:49 PM
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There aren't "RPW approved" hobbies like darning socks and baking cakes. You just do what you like, whatever types of things make you happy. RPW hobbies will be the same as any other female's hobbies. We teach women to have hobbies because it's good to have time away from our husbands doing things that we enjoy.
/r/RedPillWomen10/03/16 05:05 AM
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I like to think them as routines as little as possible What's wrong with having routines?
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/16 06:12 PM
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I've been going over the standard template for our wedding ceremony provided by our officiant, and the "friend" thing was making me twitch. "BRIDE'S NAME, this ring is a symbol of my promise to always be your lover, companion, and friend." Like you said OP, it falls flat. When she talks about what it takes to build a successful marriage, one of the requirements is "a true friendship". Those will have to be reworded for sure! It's just so weird to think of him as a friend. There was dating with i…
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/16 06:00 PM
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We often talk about exercise and fitness in the RPW irc chat room. There are ladies in there who do specialize in various types of exercises. It's how I got into Strong Curves - someone mentioned it on RPW, then I asked the chat about it. I just finished up my 13th week. I often share my progress there, and some of the others do as well. Exercise is fun to talk about, especially when you discover that one type that suits you. Challenges and accountability from others don't help unless you alread…
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/16 05:33 PM
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I'm assuming the second, feel-good-after list will be mainly routine items such as cooking and cleaning, yard work, errands, showering, exercise, skin care, etc. I just call those items my to-do list, or daily routine (although many do feel good after checking off all those boxes - it's that lovely accomplished and proud feeling). If I was only doing these things because I feel good after, or to fix myself on a bad day - well, that just seems a silly way to go about it. I feel good after a hard …
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/16 07:29 PM
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The idea isn't to change your mood, it's to proactively do things that make you feel good so that you don't get into a mood. It's preventative maintenance for your well being. So you keep up with feel-good-during things, and sprinkle in some feel-good-after things so that you feel accomplished and proud of yourself.
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/16 06:43 PM
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That was the same reason I wanted to get my crap together. :)
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/16 06:41 AM
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Maybe not. I ordered pizza online one day and a cheese pizza came for mine. I like every vegetable under the sun on my pizza, not just cheese - there is no way I ordered just cheese. I called up the pizza place to complain and they were like "that's how you ordered it". It's another reason why you shouldn't flip out - you could very well make that mistake yourself one day and look like a big old hypocrite. Unless you are the perfect human (not likely), don't go expecting everyone around you to b…
/r/RedPillWomen06/03/16 08:15 PM
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Just a note that in Laura's new book, she changed self-care to encompass things that make you feel good in the moment, not just afterwards. So I made a new list with that in mind. The plan was try everything I put on my list and make sure that I feel happy as I do it. Bath. Stretching/yoga. Chocolate. Sewing. Funny videos. Fabric shopping for projects. Playing at the pool. Reading in the sunlight. Making a smoothie. Work on style ideas for post-weight loss. Meet with a friend. Dancing. Face mask…
/r/RedPillWomen06/03/16 08:01 PM
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In Laura's new book First Kill all the Marriage Counselors, she says specifically that cleaning is not to be considered self care. Things that you consider self care should ones that absolutely delight you, that you enjoy doing because they make you happy in the moment, not that they make you happy because you can cross it off your list or have been productive (during vs afterwards). It was a distinction that made me think harder about my self-care list.
/r/RedPillWomen06/03/16 07:53 PM
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I have let a lot of things go over the past few weeks and thought I was changing finally, but here is a situation that happened last night that I did not let go of, and I guess it’s because it really exposes my main insecurity or my main issue with him. What is your main insecurity here? What are you afraid of that's making you act this way? I like that you're reading the Patricia Love book. You're likely reading all about shaming men and starting to realize when and how you do it. I'm guessing …
/r/RedPillWomen06/03/16 06:58 PM
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You may be pleasantly surprised - everyone handles breakups differently. It may just be a few days of sadness before you're back on your feet and ready to find someone who's actually interested in a relationship. I had an online relationship for a few months, and was really sad when it ended. The frequency of communication had fallen off, so I knew something was up. Turns out he'd met a nice girl at his new job and they started dating, so obviously our "relationship" was over. A few days later I…
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/16 07:44 PM
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I once went on a date with a guy that I was looking forward to. From our correspondence online, he seemed like a good prospective. He did not have a car, so had to take the bus to our meetup at Starbucks and was late. Spent most of the time talking about how cool he was for being in college for accounting and staring at my modest cleavage. After interrupting him to tell him that "I'm just not feeling it", he then gets all sad puppy dog and propositions me. I back my way out of that mess and he a…
/r/RedPillWomen03/03/16 06:06 PM
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This looks like such an interesting read! Thank you for linking it.
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/16 04:15 PM
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I think it's acceptable if the guy wants to go on a date at a certain time but wants you to pick the location - it could be a way of learning what kinds of things you like to do and foods you eat. But if he just disappeared and stopped initiating contact with you, then that means he's just not that into you. You might try letting the guys know that you like how they are doing all the pursuing and date planning. They're more likely to continue doing what they're doing if they know it makes you ha…
/r/RedPillWomen29/02/16 08:04 PM
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But it has fruit in it! >.<
/r/RedPillWomen29/02/16 06:05 PM
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No kidding on the Cosmo advice being crap. I once read in there that you should lick your man's armpits. No way am I doing that! I assume by the TMI comment you're talking about pleasing him sexually. If you're inexperienced and have no idea what you're doing, that's a good thing. Guys like to teach!
/r/RedPillWomen29/02/16 05:07 PM
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Best way to get girlfriends is to do girly things consistently with the same people. So yoga, pilates, belly dancing, jewelry making, pottery classes, etc. Go to them and be open to conversation, don't just keep your head down and run out of there as soon as it's over. Hang around and chat, be confident. Also chat with your neighbors, I've made some good friends in the past by talking to neighbors - invite them over to dinner. Basically if you want a good friend, you have to see them often for f…
/r/RedPillWomen29/02/16 05:02 PM
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From what I've heard you just increase by 500 calories a day while pregnant. So you're not really "eating for two".
/r/RedPillWomen29/02/16 04:17 PM
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Now that I read it again, the list is full of more accepted/normal things, with some severe ones thrown in. That list was sad to read. It seems psychology of today is diagnosing many "normal" things as a condition. I'm pretty sure it's normal to get depressed now and then. It can be a sign that self-improvement and life-changes are needed, yet so many start taking anti-depressants instead. I was saddened by this when I worked in pharmacies - so many people on anti-depressants, and most were pres…
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/16 06:39 PM
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Thanks for clarifying. Assuming you're with a good guy and want to get married, have a family and all that jazz, you've got some work to do. You don't want to treat your future husband like that, nor do you want to treat your children like that. This is how you treat enemies and people you despise, not those who you love. I like to make a list of all the things want work on, all the areas I can improve. Then break it down into a goal flowchart (mine's in the back of my journal). This way if I co…
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/16 06:25 PM
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I'm not married yet and it helped me! If you're in a new relationship and new to RPW, then you might want to start with The Surrendered Single instead.
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/16 08:15 AM
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Actions will be stronger than any apologies or words. OP should use the guilt and shame she feels to do better, and save apologies for after she's cleaned up her behavior and mental health. I'm not convinced borderline personality disorder is as common as thought. I think many use it as an excuse to be a bitch. It's right up there with bipolar as the popular diagnosis right now.
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/16 07:23 AM
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If you do a lot of the things on this list, you have a long way to go. Are you married?
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/16 07:16 AM
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Have you cheated on him? That's a strange thing to google on a whim. That list seems to have some really severe things on it - it was written by a spouse of someone with BPD. It sounds like a horrible relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/16 06:48 AM
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I'll tell you about how I met my fiancee. We were both on OKcupid, and on there it shows you who looks at your profile. So I'm looking at this guy's profile who had looked at mine, and it seemed promising except it said he was into anime and video games - both of which I don't enjoy at all. (Come to find out I love video games and he doesn't watch much anime.) For a good week we keep coming up in the other's history. I didn't want to initiate contact, so I hit 'favorite' on his profile, which le…
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/16 09:59 PM
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You may find yourself having expectations about how you want him to react when you have a night terror. Then when he doesn't react that way, you feel disappointed and neglected. Keep an eye on what goes through your mind next time it comes up. Apologize for denying him and leave out the reasons and buts. Listen to whatever he says and accept it. Your mental health is your responsibility.
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/16 07:20 PM
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The one important thing about having health problems of any kind is that your partner needs a way to help you. You feel powerless when it happens to you - well guess what, your SO also feels powerless. They just want to help. Nookie may very well help you recover! I've had sex with a stomach ache, and it has cured it. Sometimes there's nothing quite like a distraction to take your mind off of it. Think of the reasons you said no. I noticed you said the night terror was during the night, and in t…
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/16 06:19 PM
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"Letting him" and "allowing him" implies that you still have the control, that you could take that back at any moment if you desire. I think it's a halfway measure to really letting go. It could be seen as a baby step, so it's not inherently bad - there's just better ways. When you see him in that silly orange shirt and your mouth starts puckering, you can think "I can't control him, I can only control myself". There's no allowing or letting there, it's just acknowledging to yourself that the ur…
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/16 06:00 PM
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You can't "help him realize none of that shit matters", because it does matter to him. Sounds like he wants to be a provider and doesn't feel fulfilled when he's not in that position.
/r/askTRP26/02/16 02:53 AM
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Lol. Three generations! TIL ants live 15 years.
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/16 09:34 PM
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Yay! I'd love to hear your thoughts after you read it.
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/16 09:20 PM
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It's just for 4 months, right? My sister-in-law is home alone for the last few months of her pregnancy because my brother was just deployed on a 6-month mission. My ex-husband was in a very competitive field and I went the better part of 6 years hardly seeing him. We're talking profound effects on his health because he was working so much, and wasn't even getting paid overtime (sometimes he didn't even get paid). Buckle up buttercup, four months is barely a blimp in time. Be grateful it's over t…
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/16 07:25 PM
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I do tend to overshare. He's been known to interrupt me and tell me to cut it out if I'm rambling and he wants quiet. What I've been trying is to open with something like "I was just arguing with some people on the internet" and watch his face. I can totally tell when he's not at all interested in hearing it. If he has that look, I just leave it at that. You could try opening with "I'm having some family problems" and see how he reacts. For the most part he loves that I get all girly and talk ex…
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/16 07:08 PM
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I like knowing that we can get second opinions before posting. :) Edit: How do you share what you want to post, by the way? Copy and paste? Or is there someway to save and share a post without submitting it?
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/16 01:12 AM
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Speaking as a professional what? One is not just "a professional", lol. You'd be much more likely to find success with a 25 year old (or a man of any age) that you don't work with. Sounds to me like you're telling OP to not pursue. Plus, six years is not even "significantly younger".
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/16 12:09 AM
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She should not make the first move and ask him out.
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/16 11:45 PM
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For the summer you can put the teas, herbs, ginger and such in a full water bottle the night before and put it in the fridge. The next day you'll have cold-brewed tea ready to go! I haven't figured out a good way to strain it, though.
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/16 11:26 PM
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I would be extremely reserved if I were him So now you're an expert on what guys think? How do we even know he's "much farther into developing his career than she is"? I doubt a 25 year old guy of today's generation is thinking that seriously of his career, then again I don't pretend to know what goes on in their heads. Dating an older guy is generally a good thing. People meet their future spouses at work/college quite often because they bond over common knowledge of their field.
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/16 11:12 PM
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I'm pretty shy, too. I spent a few months/years practicing eye contact with a smile. It really does help with being nervous and shy. I'd do it at work, the grocery store, even just passing people on the street. So when there's a guy you're interested in, eye contact and smile and hold it until they approach - if it's a guy you're not interested in, eye contact and smile then look away and keep walking or doing what you're doing. Flirting isn't so hard. Laugh at what he says (shouldn't be hard), …
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/16 07:19 PM
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When I was dating in 2011 tinder wasn't even around yet. If it had been, I surely wouldn't have used it. There were some other hookup sites, and 'alternative' ones that I didn't use because of the reputation. I imagine it would be embarrassing to tell people that we met on tinder, or a BDSM site - people are always asking where you met, and I'd rather not lie about it. I stuck with okcupid, and it didn't take long to find good prospects. My fiancee (squeee!) was on some paid dating sites like eh…
/r/RedPillWomen24/02/16 06:18 PM
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No one can attain their "ideal man", because the ideal is often an unrealistic fantasy. Usually a good man for you would have around 75% of the qualities you're looking for, just as you likely have your own quirks and imperfections. (Of course you may have deal-breakers like smoking or drug use, and that's fine.) Then be grateful that you found an attractive man who fits most of what you wanted, rather than trying to change what you think are his flaws so that he's the perfect man.
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/16 04:44 AM
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Just goes to show that you should control yourself and not flip your lid.
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/16 04:28 AM
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Her husband had never cheated on her and was a good guy. It was her insecurity, fear, and trust issues preventing her from having a good relationship with a good man.
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/16 04:25 AM
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Oh yeah, it's a great book. It's all about avoiding shaming your husband, and why, and how you may be doing it without even realizing it. It helped me see the difference between connection and communication. When chicks think they want communication, what they really want is connection and intimacy which you get more of from STFUing. Also learned not to mess with a man's morning routine. I plan on re-reading when we have children, because a lot of it is applicable to raising healthy children (no…
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/16 07:55 PM
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Plus you will almost always find something you don't like when you do because you're actively searching. When I was reading this book, the author told a story of a women who was chronically afraid of her guy cheating since it had happened several times in her past. She was snooping, found a condom in a drawer (they hadn't been using condoms in ages), and immediately went off on her husband over it. She accused him of cheating, saying she knew she was right and it would happen again - all kinds o…
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/16 06:31 PM
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That chick had me speechless! I wonder how she is now.
/r/RedPillWomen20/02/16 06:31 AM
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That's a fine list, and definitely applies to your husband, but I don't agree with all the points applying to all men in your life.
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/16 05:12 AM
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At first glance I thought this might be a good read simply because of the feminazis leaving sarcastic reviews. The description and back cover writing leave much to be desired of the author's writing skills. Looks like the url listed on the book is no longer up - this is her new website. She has expensive wife and husband summits/schools, yet doesn't really say on the book, on her FB, or on her website just what qualifies her to be an expert aside from this "worldwide study".
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/16 07:21 AM
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I had goosebumps and tears in my eyes reading this. You GO GIRL! To turn around your life after going so low - that's not a little thing at all, and certainly nothing that deserves chastising. I feel such hope for you. When you hit your low point in life, and survive to do well and succeed - there's just nothing like the feeling of pride and peace you have in yourself. You feel like you can climb mountains, surpass any obstacle in your way. Confidence in your ability to live your life the way yo…
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/16 08:02 AM
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Go somewhere in the middle where there's lots of ranches and get yourself a cowboy.
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/16 11:05 PM
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It took some hard work, but I've turned myself into a clean person. I change the sheets on Mondays, too! The hard part for me was moving in with the SO, who came with a ton of clutter. He's been slowly working through it all, and I've helped organize things. I find I'm more likely to clean, and enjoy cleaning, if the environment is uncluttered. The one thing I would add to what you've written here is to work on cluttered areas prior to starting a cleaning routine. Get rid of what you don't need,…
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/16 01:52 AM
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I've found having dinner ready late to be a good technique. I was getting so frustrated because I'd invite people over for dinner, or be hosting holiday dinners, and people would be late! I'd have dinner ready right on time, and people were on the way. My MIL said that I should always plan to have dinner done later than I tell people to account for those who will be late, and to just have a few appetizers out. I tried that over the last year, and it worked great! So don't use her as a role model…
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/16 07:43 PM
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Like, randomly get sad when you think you'll never have the relationship with your mother where she'll be able to be happy for you or your choices? Is it just a buck up buttercup thing? This makes me wonder how A's parent's are. Does he have a nice, non-crazy mom? You could potentially build a good relationship with her. Also, you can befriend respectful women who are your mother's age. It is sad that you'll never have that good relationship with your mother (I had to accept this with my father)…
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/16 06:51 PM
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I'm a fan of the placebo effect. In my pharmacy career, I was always fascinated when reading drug inserts and seeing that a percentage of those on the placebo drug (an inactive tablet that looks like the real drug, but is just fillers and/or sugar) reported improvement in the drug studies. It opened my eyes to how simply the belief in something working can be powerful. I like to make myself a healthy smoothie, and know that it's my "medicine" for the day. I'll take a b-vitamin supplement, and kn…
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/16 06:41 PM
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Rather than doing the pineapple, I just grab all my hair before lying down, then put it all above my head on the pillow. If I put all my hair in a ponytail pineapple, it messes up my hair and makes my scalp hurt when I let it down. Just putting it over my head with no holder seems to work well! I read it in Curly Girl: The Handbook - they call it "the geisha". To tame the frizz on the second day, I spray my hair with water that has a bit of conditioner added to it. Scrunch, and I've got fabulous…
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/16 04:07 AM
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I really liked that! He's funny.
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/16 05:26 AM
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I'm so happy to hear that you like it! That gives me some motivation to write some more. :)
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/16 07:06 PM
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Awww, thanks!
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/16 05:22 AM
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I've noticed that about some of Laura's posts, especially lately with her new book release. Thank you for the compliments!
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/16 05:22 AM
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Laura Doyle's blog has some gems in it. I recently started a blog. Not much in it yet! I'm hoping to keep it going through the journey of weight loss (then maintaining fitness), marriage, and children. I do a lot of cooking/baking, so will be adding some posts on that soon. I've tried finding some "women who submit" type of blogs to follow, but most of them are either too religious for my taste, or seem to be BDSM blogs.
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/16 07:01 PM
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"Have everything" should include your time and attention. If you're working so hard that you show love by how much you purchase for them, you're parenting wrong in my opinion. What's worth more - your presence, or new clothes and computers?
/r/RedPillWomen25/01/16 05:06 PM
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We do not have children yet, but one of my long-term goals has been to be a stay-at-home mother. It was something I expressed early on in our relationship, and he is okay with that. Years ago (in my previous marriage) I was laid off my job, and took a break for a few months before really looking hard for my next job. That was when I realized it's not that difficult to live on one income. When I went back to work, I looked for a part-time job so that I could continue to work on my health. When I …
/r/RedPillWomen24/01/16 06:16 PM
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Is this the same guy from two months ago? How long have you been together? How old are you? I feel like we need some more information. The way you've written it makes it seem like you're just a fuck buddy to him. When dating, if a guy isn't initiating frequent contact then he isn't that interested in you (and by frequent, I mean somewhere between daily and every few days). I'm not sure why you are putting so much effort into what seems to be a dead end. From the other post, it looks like you've …
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/16 07:09 AM
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This recipe for burritos is a hit with my SO. What you do is use a food chopper so that the veggies are in little chunks. Bonus points for this recipe making like 15 burritos, and they freeze well! You can add meat, and the rice in this recipe is delicious. Does he like sweet potatoes? They are healthier than eating white potatoes. I've found several recipes using sweet potatoes that my SO loves, and I always leave the skin on even if the recipe says to remove it. Another favorite around here is…
/r/RedPillWomen22/01/16 07:27 PM
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Aww. I'm so happy you liked it!
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/16 03:36 AM
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STFU (lol that is my theme for the week). Lol. I've started calling it stu-fu in my head. All this extra mention of STFU this week is like a constant reminder for me to STFU. :)
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/16 08:37 PM
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That's definitely something to work on! You can throw his whole day off by being grouchy in the morning. Keep it up, and he'll no longer look forward to coming home to you. Are you getting enough sleep every night? Are there times in your life where you feel really grouchy but you can't behave that way? Try putting yourself into that mindset. Have you tried having a steady morning routine that you follow? Sometimes it's easier to get by when tired if you are just going through the normal motions…
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/16 08:34 PM
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Have you ever been at work, and a customer/co-worker says something that really makes you upset or anxious? Like when the boss comes over and says "come to my office in 30 minutes", and your first thought is "OMG am I getting fired?" Now imagine that right after that your next client/customer walks in, and you've no choice but to put on your professional happy look and greet them. You can't cry, pout, or go spill the rage to your co-workers - you pull yourself together. When the going gets tough…
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/16 06:31 AM
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I wrote a blog post that may help.
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/16 03:18 AM
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I used to have a good friend who was a neighbor, and we would do normal daily chores together or make an involved dinner. I'd go hang out at her place and fold laundry with her, and she'd do the dishes while I dry them. It makes chores go by so much faster when you have a friend to chat with! We once took an overnight trip together a few hours away to go shopping at a popular outlet mall. Doing sunbathing at a pool or beach is fun in the summer. I have one friend who will come over and sew along…
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/16 10:00 PM
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In regards to supplements, try and pick ones that have the USP mark on them (if you're in the US). That shows the supplement contains the levels marked on the label, does not have harmful levels of contaminants, and is made using sanitary and good manufacturing processes. If you are concerned about your vitamin levels, consider doing some food tracking on Cronometer. You can see how many vitamins and electrolytes you are getting from your food, and even track things like Omega-3 and 6. You can a…
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/16 07:19 PM
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I'm looking forward to more discussion on the alpha types in part 2. While I've figured out where I lie on the dominant scale, I'm not so sure about the SO. I would love to learn more about how he works! She has to work on having psychological femininity, because he does not want a woman who constantly bucks him. I identify with that so much. Our relationship problems faded after I stopped fighting things and worked on being more respectful.
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/16 05:31 AM
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Did you end up talking with him about marriage? He doesn't want marriage any time soon, is still living the partying life, and y'all are fighting ("Most of our fights seem to revolve around going out"). It's good for guys to have male friends, and to go out with them. It's also good for a man you're dating to show effort in wanting to spend time with you. Sometimes things make you uneasy because they should. I can't help but wonder if he takes you or your relationship seriously.
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/16 06:40 PM
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Cardigans are the best! I agree with you on bras - they are the devil! I tend to wear one of those camisoles that have the shelf bra - paired with leggings, it looks as if I have on a bodysuit. I bought this long, comfy cardigan that goes almost to my knees. It's great for answering the door or walking to the mailbox.
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/16 06:19 PM
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Somehow I've ended up with more pillow cases than I could ever use. Must just be what happens when you combine households! I haven't heard of using t-shirts for pillow cases - neat trick.
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/16 06:13 PM
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Most guys don't know all the terms for the different lounge wear, so it might be best to have a few pictures up. Through going the picture route, I discovered my SO just does not like pants on women - especially denim! Go through google images, pinterest, or shopping sites and bring up different styles. Ask him something like "Do you find any of these outfits to be attractive? I want to have some new pajamas." He might pick some of the pictures as being attractive, or he might suggest other thin…
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/16 06:10 PM
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I asked a similar question a while back, you might enjoy reading through that. The first step is to find out what kind of things your BF likes. I was surprised to find out that my SO is attracted to yoga pants and leggings, and likes little skimpy dresses. He doesn't like ruffles, but likes lace and satin. He likes a mixture of cute and sexy, so I rotate between the two. You could stay in your work clothes until he gets home and changes - just use an apron in the kitchen. I purchased most of my …
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/16 06:43 AM
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That one with how much it costs to keep the DVR and cable box plugged in ($54.69) makes me grateful to not have those! I've heard the garage door opener is another of the biggest power draws because it's always on standby. I'm not sure of using an app to track goals - I rather like my planner for that. You can freeze eggs?
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/16 12:14 AM
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Example 1: Of all the things to use the whatever-you-think on, you pick the one that he's specifically delegated to you. Just put some food down in front of the man. Example 2: You didn't do it without complaint. You complained, then grudgingly went and did it. You want him to lead (ie, tell you what he wants), yet when he does, you have a "better" idea. Example 3: Help him work through it on his own. You do this by replying with questions, such as "what are the pro's and con's?" Just listen whi…
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/16 11:44 PM
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I like this DIY binder idea, even if it's just a section of the main binder. My fitness binder is for Strong Curves (look up the book - it's a great program for women). There are A, B, and C days - the binder will have the completed workout logs sorted by workout day. It will make it easier to track progression over time.
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/16 11:00 PM
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This is great. I have a recipe binder, I'm about to have a fitness binder, and we have a password/account information book. You've got me thinking about so much more now! We have a nicely organized file cabinet, but SO doesn't know much about where stuff is in there. An organized binder looks like a better idea.
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/16 04:21 PM
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I had similar problems with birth control pills. We use a more old-fashioned, controversial form of birth control - the pullout method. My SO was the one who recommended this method, as he doesn't like condoms, and doesn't want me to take birth control. I had a lot of misconceptions about it, and was initially hesitant until I did thorough research. There's also the family planning, or fertility awareness-based method. That one involves tracking your cycle and bodily changes to determine when yo…
/r/RedPillWomen06/01/16 05:18 PM
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I actually met his parents pretty early. His dad had an ATV accident and was hospitalized, that was just a couple of weeks into dating my SO. I met his dad for the first time in the hospital. I'd been dating him for maybe a month when I met his mother. SO was sharing a house with his brother at the time - we went over to their place after a date, and it just so happened that his mom was there visiting. Just goes to show the importance of always looking presentable! She greeted me warmly with thi…
/r/RedPillWomen05/01/16 09:11 PM
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I started over as well, eight years ago. My life is pretty normal now. :) Looking forward to chatting with you!
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/16 07:36 PM
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CHILL THE HELL OUT Haha. I love it!
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/16 06:38 AM
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That's quite a list! I'm a narcoleptic also, and have lost a lot of weight (I'm losing the last 25 pounds this year). I'd love to chat with you sometime, come by the irc chat room if you'd like.
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/16 06:36 AM
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I do something similar. I have a hidden list, and when I think of good gifts for people I go write it there. It makes buying gifts when I need to easier. I also keep a list of things I want in case someone asks me.
/r/RedPillWomen01/01/16 10:52 PM
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Look at Let's Clean Up for help with keeping up the house. You can assign chores to certain people, or set up a rotation - and print out lists for who has to do what.
/r/RedPillWomen31/12/15 10:34 PM
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A few weeks ago, I sat down with my BF and picked his brain. I wanted to know what things I'm doing that are important, and the things I'm doing that aren't. If left to my own devices, I basically turn into a perfectionist so I needed some direction so that I don't burn myself out. I actually learned a lot just from sitting there and asking him questions - like that he prefers the counters clear of crumbs over the dishes being done. I did some goal mapping in the back of my journal for my two ma…
/r/RedPillWomen31/12/15 10:29 PM
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This is the problem you get when you kind of fall into a relationship without thinking about it and determining if they would be a good match. An odd mix of friendship and hot sex, but neither person being on the same page or knowing what the other wants out of life. If y'all are already having a huge falling out only 4 months in - this relationship is just not going to last. The only good thing you have to say about this guy is that he's going to pick you up from the airport, and sent you some …
/r/RedPillWomen29/12/15 08:12 PM
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I saw a cashier last week who had the most lovely, feminine hair cut and I complemented her on it. It was shorter than her shoulders, curly, and layered. If you haven't already, strongly consider finding a curly-hair stylist in your area (do a zip code search). I did, and I'm so happy with my hair now. They take that curly mess and do magic. In the meantime use feminine accessories like headbands, barrettes, hair sticks, and bows. Try an off-centered part. With curly hair it works well to start …
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/15 08:01 PM
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The not coming thing happens, especially when he's feeling a lot of pressure or dehydrated. Don't make a big deal about it. Does he have any hot buttons (things you do that really get him going)? You can try those and see if it works. Sometimes it's best to take a break and get back to it later. I'll say that I want to get some water or pee or something and come back with a cold drink for him and some compassion. It's darn frustrating when you want to come, but can't seem to. Really think about …
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/15 06:08 PM
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I'm on my 4th week of Strong Curves and I really like it. My heart rate is getting into cardio ranges for around half the workout, and fat burn for the rest. It doesn't exhaust me like doing cardio does - it's actually invigorating and gives me a high afterwards.
/r/RedPillWomen18/12/15 10:00 PM
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Step aerobic videos will help you build a booty and strong legs, and it can be done at home. You can get aerobic steps on amazon for under $40.
/r/RedPillWomen18/12/15 09:58 PM
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Haha. Love it! SO had a headache last week, so went to get a Tylenol from the kitchen. He grabs the red Tylenol, and in the most serious, drawn out voice says "Kittenkajira, I'm taking the red pill." It was hilarious!
/r/RedPillWomen18/12/15 05:16 AM
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Thanks for the information on Vettix - I've never heard of them!
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/15 04:12 PM
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It's generally not a good idea to have male friends, especially when you are about to start dating. It can create friction when you do get a boyfriend. Also, some women have issues with leading guys on. They're completely blind to the fact that the dude is in love with them. Take all that effort that you're putting into this friendship, and instead put it towards a boyfriend. While you're at it, unfriend your ex on Facebook as well.
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/15 02:14 AM
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You ever been around a person, male or female, who you really wanted to have a conversation with? Maybe a friend of a friend who you've heard a lot of good things about. Or maybe a teacher who said things that really resounded with you, and you want to thank her after the class. It's likely that whatever body language you have when you go to meet that person is what would be considered an "open vibe".
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/15 02:02 AM
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My mother did a few things when we were young to get vacation money. She started a preschool on our property in the original 1800's house. It was a big project that she took pride in - she even painted the house red. A few years after, she worked at a craft shop where she sold things she'd crafted (mostly different wood items that she would paint). My earliest memories are of getting to go to her work and having a snack and nap behind the counter after school. I worked in a medical office once, …
/r/RedPillWomen12/12/15 08:46 PM
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I think what I was going for in the post was the idea that if a wife is shit testing at all, it's really out of a desire for the man to lead her. Well, there's a shit test, and there's losing your shit. It reads like your situation was more the latter. :) You really don't want your husband to ever see you as the crazy lady. What do you think is going through his mind when that happens? Usually something like "WTF happened to my wonderful wife, and how can I shut her up/fix this?" It is true that…
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/15 08:11 PM
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You've shown yourself that you can do that if needed. If anything, that should make you more likely to be vulnerable in the future. The worst case has happened, and you're doing alright.
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/15 07:14 PM
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Introspection is usually good, but beware over thinking your failed marriage. I've been there. I thought about it until I was running in circles and couldn't tell you who made what mistakes. I ended up having to cut off those thoughts, and focus on what I want, and if that is attainable. I was aware that certain failures from my marriage were causing me to never want those things again. But if you think about it, to never want those things again means your ex was the only one to benefit from the…
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/15 07:02 PM
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For sure!
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/15 06:29 PM
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I went a few pages in to near the start of her blog, and found this post She flipped out over him not controlling her spending and emailed him angry things while he was at work, but it's okay because she respects him and he can take it. She rationalizes that she flipped out because she's submissive. Say what?
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/15 06:03 PM
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I'm curious, did you have to go through and flair each post? That would be a lot of work!
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/15 05:41 PM
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A cut one! They are still alive, yes? At least for a few weeks! That's such a neat idea to get potted Christmas trees. I love those properties that have a bunch of trees lining the driveway, or along the edge. I think my mother puts the clove oranges in a bowl of holiday potpourri. You can also put them on top of garland.
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/15 05:27 PM
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MRP is not complementary to RPW. There is some occasional good advice there, especially about how to give girls the tingles and such, but for the most part they are at odds with RPW. Jesus, go poke around there. On the very first page is a thread where a guy got caught tindering by his wife, and the top comment says to spin it to be her fault/dread. Just look at the advice in this thread.
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/15 05:12 PM
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This is so great. I love how there are different colors! I appreciate you figuring it all out.
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/15 05:58 AM
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I suspected it may be satire, especially after reading her "about me" section. But many of her other posts are more serious topics, like this one or this one. So it's quite possible she's serious.
/r/RedPillWomen10/12/15 11:37 PM
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I like this, especially the cute cartoon format.
/r/RedPillWomen10/12/15 08:40 PM
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I don't think I'd ever had a live Christmas tree before I met my SO. He really likes them and wouldn't dream of having one of those fake ones. There's something about picking out the tree together, and setting it up - plus the wonderful way it smells in the living room. I'm getting excited just thinking about it! Last year he thought of a really good idea - rather than buying a large tree to fill up our bay window, he put the coffee table there and got a smaller tree to put on top of the table. …
/r/RedPillWomen10/12/15 05:41 PM
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It's not premature to discuss marriage and the future at 21. You need to know that you're with a compatible man, and that includes figuring out what both of you want from life. There is a recent trend with carefree living in your 20's, then deciding what you want from life when you are older. Don't buy into that. See this post. This blog post is a bit too religious for my tastes, but it says everything way better than I could.
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/15 10:50 PM
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Seems like I need to figure out his plans for the future and go from there. Definitely. It will be more awkward to get into the longer you're in a relationship, but it really needs to be done. It's something to talk about early on when you're determining basic compatibility. You should have a good idea of his, and your views on marriage, sex life, divorceable offences, religion, and children/parenting. It's one of the mistakes young people make - getting into a relationship based on their feels …
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/15 10:31 PM
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RPW supports young marriage. /u/Thisismyfulltimejob had good advice, in my opinion.
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/15 06:32 AM
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Since when is it pressuring to have a stance on marriage, and to speak about it logically when appropriate? She even said humbly.
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/15 05:53 AM
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I disagree. I think OP has legit concerns, and waiting around for commitment that may not happen will get her nowhere but older. How do you know she isn't already someone worth committing to?
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/15 05:47 AM
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It is best to stay out of it, especially with narcissistic types. I became confrontational with my former mother-in-law, and all I really did was put a big, glaring target over my head. Let him talk about it with you, it'll be a good chance to practice empathy by saying things like "that sucks" or "I hear you". Stick with phrases that acknowledge you're listening, but aren't judgmental or taking sides. The more he can talk it out, the more likely he'll come to some decisions (if he's the type to…
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/15 11:51 PM
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It's not really pretending to be less competent than you are, it's more not making a big deal of how competent you are. So you can be happy in how you always know where your things are because you're organized, but you don't want to see your husband as a lesser person because he doesn't. You can be competent, but don't make a big deal of it (which can be seeking external validation), and don't expect competence from those around you.
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/15 07:16 PM
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I think whoever knows more about a subject, or whoever cares more, should be the one to make a final decision. That ensures the best decision is made. This turns your relationship into a competition. Keep this up and you'll start having arguments over who knows more, if you're not already. Men like to offer solutions and fix problems. They feel good when you take their suggestions and advice without saying things that imply you know better. The impression I get from him is that he wants to feel …
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/15 07:03 PM
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Looks like the author just made another post of what to get your girlfriend for Christmas. Sadly, it's not any better. It is certainly a good reminder to be a good receiver this Christmas. I am the type to build mental expectations of gifts. I'll look at the wrapped gift, and try and figure out what's in it. By the time Christmas comes, I'm convinced I know what I got, then I'm disappointed when it isn't that. I've been working on that at the source - cutting off those thoughts of what it could …
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/15 06:30 PM
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I'm struggling mightily with the idea of deferring to him just because he's the man and I happen to be the woman. What are you so afraid of? What's the worst that could happen if you just let go and defer to him? Give it a try!
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/15 06:35 AM
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I'm in love with Budget Bytes. Everything there tastes good, is easy to make, and has lots of pictures. For baking I go to King Arthur. I learned to bake bread from their website.
/r/RedPillWomen07/12/15 04:32 AM
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He so confident in so many areas, leads our family, can fix anything that breaks, etc but wants me to be lead in the bedroom...and this turns me off. And once I am turned off, he isn't interested in me anymore. He gets hurt. I'm hearing "it's his fault because..." in what you're writing. Why do you turn off so easily, even when you know it hurts him? Are you expecting your husband to do things that turn you on the entire time you are having sex? Seems a bit selfish. I'll just bet that when he do…
/r/RedPillWomen06/12/15 08:11 PM
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Do you have a massage table? My SO bought one off Amazon for like $90. I found a video on massaging and watched it a few times. I think you could benefit from doing sensual massage for him. It really gets you focused on his body and how attractive it is. Tell him what you like about his body while you do it. He'll relax into your touch, and feel more desired. You can even do a "happy ending".
/r/RedPillWomen05/12/15 10:17 PM
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I think it's important to know what kind of gifts your SO likes. J likes fun and silly gifts - things he doesn't need but would love to have. Gifts that are more hands-on and bring out the geeky kid in him. I will often throw in a few useful things that he's been meaning to buy. I stay away from electronics because he prefers to pick those out himself.
/r/RedPillWomen01/12/15 05:20 PM
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I got divorced 5 years ago and did a lot of introspection (or so I thought) in an effort to have better relationships in the future. I decided that what I needed was a dominant man, and went on to learn all kinds of things about BDSM relationships (which has nothing to do with RPW). I honestly thought that finding that dominant guy would be the answer to all my problems. Well, I found a great man, then started having some problems a year in or so. If I ever asked the BDSM folks for advice, they'…
/r/RedPillWomen29/11/15 11:28 PM
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Many good tips here already, but I wanted to add that those with curly hair often have naturally thin hair - it needs volume and curl in order to look full. Curly hair can get really thin if you brush it while dry, straighten it, or use harsh chemicals. If you are curly-haired, spend some time on /r/curlyhair.
/r/RedPillWomen29/11/15 10:44 PM
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I drive 100 miles to see him and don't have a place there so it puts me in uncomfortable positions where I'm not sure what to do or where to go. Sounds like you want to control all the planning, and want it done your way. If you're driving there to see him, and have no other engagements planned, then why couldn't you step back during the planning? What is it you're afraid of? Being on standby? Well, go do something with yourself! If you're hungry, go eat at some cool looking place. You don't hav…
/r/RedPillWomen29/11/15 08:31 PM
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I let a lot of things get to me because everything worries me right now. I was talking over being too sensitive last night in the irc chat room. The ladies were saying that it's easy to take things too personally when it's coming from someone whose opinion you value. Sunhappy said to ask yourself "if anyone else had said it, would I be hurt?" That's how you find the difference between someone being mean, and you being too sensitive. I perceive everything as a threat to our relationship and I've …
/r/RedPillWomen29/11/15 08:15 PM
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Sounds to me like you're in the depths of the what-if's. Perhaps you could benefit from living in the present more, rather than analyzing the past and worrying over the future. I found this interesting blog post that may provide prospective. when D and R make plans, R will change or cancel at the last second regularly if it conflicts with C's schedule and always puts her first. D has made it clear to me that he won't do the same to his brother, so I'm usually on the back burner to C's plans as w…
/r/RedPillWomen29/11/15 07:55 PM
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I can't say I've ever been "barked to silence", but then again I don't do that to other people when they state their opinions. If I state something that is an unpopular opinion, I just quietly listen while they state the myriad reasons why that would never work for them. See, most people do a sort of auto-defense thing. You say something that questions their values, and off they go defending theirs. The real thinking happens later, if it ever does. I can't tell you how many things I've passionat…
/r/RedPillWomen27/11/15 10:34 PM
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You can try changing the subject. Hold on to that story you've been wanting to tell until the man-bashing is starting. Then interrupt them with something like "Oh! I have this funny story to tell!" People will usually be reminded of their own life and follow with stories of their own.
/r/RedPillWomen27/11/15 10:16 PM
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I spend a good amount of time on the internet, part pleasure and part work. I will often keep up with reading the posts here on RPW for a few days, then take a couple of days off. Sometimes I get too busy to internet in general. J and I both love to find funny things, so we'll often spend time sharing what we've found. I used to look at the male side of RP, but I stopped doing that. I find that the more I read the tips for men, the more I find myself critiquing J's behavior. I want to keep my fo…
/r/RedPillWomen23/11/15 05:54 PM
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I'm on a roll! Last week a few difficult situations arose, and I handled them well. In the end, it all worked out better than it would have if I'd opened my mouth. This week will be more of a challenge - we're going to two separate Thanksgiving dinners, one on Thursday and one on Saturday (both his family). I find it tiring to be social for extended periods, so I will have to work extra hard to stay engaging and pleasant.
/r/RedPillWomen23/11/15 05:34 PM
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That's a fantastic idea. I've got a few kitchen lovers on my Christmas list!
/r/RedPillWomen21/11/15 04:15 AM
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I always go to the King Arthur Flour Thanksgiving Guide for ideas. They had this tip last year that worked really well. It's for the things that you're going to bake that have dry non-perishable ingredients like flour and sugar. Put all the dry ingredients in a ziploc bag, and write on the bag what to add and the cooking instructions. You can even write the start time if you'd like.
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/15 11:10 PM
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Coughs have a way of lingering for a while. It sucks. Usually when I've got some sort of a virus going on I give J a heads up to avoid kissing me until the symptoms have been gone for a few days. He often does anyway. ;) Also check with your pharmacist for advice. Even if you don't have a pharmacist, you can call any pharmacy up and ask questions. They often have some good remedies, old and new. I like to still joke around and have fun when I'm sick, unless it's one with a fever because those re…
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/15 08:36 PM
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When he tells me to drop it, it's not for my benefit but for his, and then he stays upset anyway. So you drop it. What is arguing further going to accomplish? One of you is going to have to stand down. You drop it, then you go to another room or on a walk to practice calming yourself down and/or redirecting your anger. We have definitely talked about this repeatedly. So stop that. It's not getting you anywhere but banging your head against a brick wall. Girls want to talk about everything, guys …
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/15 08:26 PM
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Most guys just want to fix things. If you're feeling like a Negative Nancy, and he picks up on it, it's likely that his thoughts are revolving around how to fix your negative mood. It's in your best interest to go with his suggestions. It's not easy, I know. Remember that he just wants what's best for you, he's not actively trying to piss you off. Put your ego aside and let him be the hero that saves the day and makes you feel better.
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/15 06:26 PM
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I would refuse to drop a subject, and go on and on and on until he would get mad I used to do this as well!
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/15 05:59 PM
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I used to be the type to get too tired/cranky/PMS-y and explode one day. The explosion would consist of much frustration, grunting, and hollering. It was the type of argument that started as some real issue, and evolved into not really knowing what we were arguing about any more. I would be thinking "why doesn't he just do what I want" and I imagine he was thinking "WTF is wrong with this chick, and what can I say to get her to shut up". I thought he needed to learn better empathy and non-violen…
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/15 05:55 PM
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Her book was like the first self-help book I ever read. I got the whole house organized after reading it!
/r/RedPillWomen19/11/15 11:21 PM
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I've used Let's Clean Up for the last couple of years and I really like it. Poke around the screen shots and see if you like it.
/r/RedPillWomen19/11/15 11:19 PM
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I've gotten more excited about being a parent in the last few years. A lot of the negative stuff you hear about isn't really true, I think some ladies just like to complain. It all started with a friend of mine who had an unplanned pregnancy at 18 (the dad's a great guy, and they're married). After having her child, she still got all done up and looking pretty every time I saw her. She hadn't suddenly gotten poor after baby - she said it doesn't have to be as expensive as some people make it, an…
/r/RedPillWomen19/11/15 11:12 PM
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I met him in April of 2011, so wow... 4.5 years ago! Not engaged or married yet, but he speaks of it occasionally. He's waiting to marry until we're ready for children. I was 27 and he was 30 when we met (so 32 and 35 now). After about 1.5 years of dating he bought us a house, and we've been living together since then. Here's a post I made last month about being SAH. I overcame it by not doing all the things they thought I would, and by being happy! I don't even know those people anymore, so it …
/r/RedPillWomen19/11/15 10:46 PM
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Well, you can't do it all at once! Try a little notebook. When you're reading all this stuff and come across something you want to work on, add it to the list. Just work on one or two things at a time. When you master those, go back to the list. There will always be things to work on. I have always been insecure with myself physically and mentally. This is probably a good one to start with. For the physical part, you start to exercise and get to your ideal weight range. There was a post on fitne…
/r/RedPillWomen19/11/15 09:03 PM
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We've had a few conversations about our views, mostly after hearing of someone divorcing or after reading articles. I read a lot, so it's pretty common for me to be reading something on the internet and ask his opinion of it. I've been divorced once, and never want to divorce again, so talking about it comes more easily to me.
/r/RedPillWomen19/11/15 08:31 PM
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I know the answer to the downvotes! If you have RES, you can downvote with your keyboard keys. A is upvote and Z is downvote.
/r/RedPillWomen19/11/15 07:14 PM
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I just wanted to add that if you do decide to go the low/no makeup route, a big genuine smile and happy disposition can make you more beautiful. People will remember the smile, and how happy you looked - not the under eye circles.
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/15 03:33 PM
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That was hilarious, and awesome - as you said! Thanks!
/r/RedPillWomen17/11/15 09:26 PM
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I loved that blog post. The video is no longer on youtube. I'd love to watch it.
/r/RedPillWomen17/11/15 08:49 PM
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Just curious, do you remember what your reaction was?
/r/RedPillWomen16/11/15 10:32 PM
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I think gossiping is okay, with some boundaries. I think it's better to gossip with your girlfriends than with your husbands, however I don't think you should gossip to your girlfriends about your husbands. You can set some boundaries if it comes up. If a girlfriend starts saying bad things about her husband, I'd say something like "you start talking crap about your husband, I'm going to start giving you advice that you may not like". Girls bond through talking - even more by gossiping. It feels…
/r/RedPillWomen16/11/15 10:28 PM
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Regarding his financial situation, do you think I should actually sit down with him and walk him through the process of getting an investment account started? Or would this still constitute as "mothering" him? I think you've got bigger fish to fry before or if you even tackle this one. You're with a dude with the bare-minimum of financial skills. Of course he's not going to open up a Roth IRA or something of the sort. I don't know why you're expecting all of this from someone who hasn't shown th…
/r/RedPillWomen16/11/15 09:35 PM
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He wasn't raised to be financially self-sufficient or independent, and has had to learn a lot of basic life skills since moving out of his parents' house to be with me, at the start of our relationship. This was pretty much me when I left home at 18. I basically made a string of bad choices, got into debt, and start paying things late. Then I found a credit management company, which could have been yet another bad choice, but ended up being a good one. I got my crap together and got out of debt.…
/r/RedPillWomen16/11/15 06:04 PM
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I'll legitimately forget these things if I don't write them down, which in turn makes me anxious. This one time I totally forgot a baby shower I was supposed to go to. I had it all mentally planned - I'd go to the baby store first to get the gift, then head to the shower. I was so excited to see my co-worker's house! Woke up the day of, and completely spaced it. I remembered later on in the evening when it was done and past. Ugh. That feeling when you remember it too late! Now I put the really i…
/r/RedPillWomen15/11/15 05:36 PM
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I really like the way it looks! Help me out here - big one, or little one? I can't pick!
/r/RedPillWomen15/11/15 06:15 AM
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Is that book okay for those who workout at home? I use mainly body weight and dumbbells.
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/15 11:20 PM
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Here's a cute exercise video on exercising with a baby.
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/15 11:08 PM
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Whoa!! I'm so getting that. I hope he likes German beers!
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/15 11:05 PM
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I use MFP a part of the time to just monitor what I eat. You can link MFP with the Fitbit app (I also have the charge HR - love it). MFP has a recipe builder, and you can import recipes from the internet. Also, you can change the nutrition goals if you want.
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/15 04:30 PM
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They have a beer advent calendar? Or just a advent calendar? I'd totally go for either one!
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/15 03:54 PM
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SO sometimes reads my Reddit comments, so I won't give away any secrets. :) I just had to say that I love your idea! It's sometimes difficult to get him presents because he likes to pick his own electronics - and electronics are his favorite thing. Usually I figure something out! I keep a little hidden list of present ideas year round and add to it as I think of things.
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/15 03:40 PM
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I read this book once, a fiction novel that I can't remember the name of. The main character had severe OCD from an abusive relationship. Her ex had basically mind-fucked her for two years. After she left him because of the abuse, he would break into where she was living and move things around - just innocuous little things. She kept moving to more secure locations, and he kept breaking in. He'd managed to convince all her friends that she was the crazy one, and he was the good guy. He snapped o…
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/15 03:23 AM
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It's good that you realized what's going on and stopped it. When you're apologizing, don't explain, give reasons, or say "but". Just flat out take responsibility for it, like saying "I'm sorry I snapped at you".
/r/RedPillWomen09/11/15 04:57 PM
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I met my SO on OK Cupid. I was about 8 months out of my first marriage, which was to my high-school sweetheart. I was looking for a dominant-type man and I've always been what I'd call submissive and shy. So on OK Cupid you can see who looks at your profile, and vice versa. I noticed that this one guy looked at it a few times, so I look his over. I kept going back to it, because he seemed really handsome and had a nicely written profile. I was holding back from contacting him because it said he …
/r/RedPillWomen08/11/15 04:32 PM
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It has a section on long term exposure: "Long-term exposure may result in lung inflammation and permanent scarring, leading to decreased lung function. Symptoms may include: Anemia (low red blood cell count), Burning sensation, Chills, Convulsions, Diarrhea (often bloody and may be blue in color), Fever, Liver failure, Metallic taste, Muscle aches, Nausea, No urine output, Pain, Shock, Vomiting, Weakness, Yellow eyes, Yellow skin" That Mercola article actually has good sources that I'm reading o…
/r/RedPillWomen05/11/15 08:07 PM
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I did some more research on it today. I can't find any respectable sources on copper toxicity that show mental symptoms. The references of the article you posted are suspicious - the ones about copper toxicity are all "unpublished papers" from the institute that the article author founded (where he offers seminars and workshops on this topic that you pay for). Here is a symptom list from a reputable source.
/r/RedPillWomen05/11/15 04:00 PM
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Wow! I spent years in the medical field and never even heard of this. Good to know!
/r/RedPillWomen05/11/15 05:15 AM
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I made a post about it a few months ago. I've since bought a few form-fitting short sleep dresses, and when it gets colder I've been pairing them with leggings and sweaters. My BF really likes those tight yoga pants, so I've been wearing some of those as well. I bought this one pair in a thin rayon fabric that's practically sheer. He really likes those. ;) I've found most of it in the sleep section at Marshall's - like a Honeydew long sleeved shirt dress, and a fleur't chemise. That chemise is s…
/r/RedPillWomen04/11/15 09:51 PM
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Another thing I would really like to do is get up before him and gussy up for the day. This is going to be a hard one for me because I am squarely in the habit of staying in my sleep clothes well into the day. I work from home and don't "need" to get dressed. I have a routine going that might help you with this. Once J gets home from work and gets into comfy clothes (sometimes before he gets home), I get into cute and/or sexy lounge wear that suits his tastes. So I wear that for the whole evenin…
/r/RedPillWomen04/11/15 09:29 PM
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Three years seems like a long time - I'm surprised you even brought it up since it's been so long. The way you worded it in response to my post made it seem like you're currently pregnant and being abused. So to be clear - your daughter is 2+ now, you're not pregnant, you haven't been physically abused in at least 3 years by the man you're living with, and your daughter loves her daddy. Sounds like things are going pretty well in that regard.
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/15 11:31 PM
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I had a super-productive week last week. Whenever I have a really productive week like that, I wonder if I can keep it up the next. I'm going to give it my best again! I remembered to use my new corny little "fix it pot". It's a canister with fun-sized candies in it. When things seem like they're all going to shit, you go to the pot, grab a candy, think of a few things you like about him, then go give him the candy with a smile. I was in a cranky mood and had started to take it out on him. I tho…
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/15 07:00 PM
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Chasing you down while drunk, giving you a concussion, punching you, and strangling you seem more like abuse then defending himself. This blog post explains what I mean by men fighting back. "Here’s why it’s important to separate a physical abuser from a physical defender: All you have to do to be safe with a physical defender is not attack him."
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/15 06:49 PM
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It sounds like you're stuck on the past, both for you and him. Sometimes the Why's and Reasons and Diagnoses don't really matter. They just put you in the position of victim and make you feel better about the way you are. It's what you're going to do about it, and how you handle it that really counts. Everyone gets mad, sad, angry... What are you going to do with it? I have always been an emotional and passionate person, which has its pros and cons. I am sensitive to a fault, and have fears of a…
/r/RedPillWomen02/11/15 07:34 PM
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I have a few book recommendations. How to Improve Your Marriage Without Talking About It has great advice that I think is in line with RPW. My Foot Is Too Big for the Glass Slipper was recommended here on RPW, and I enjoyed it. There's lots of parenting and dieting/fitness advice. There's two parenting books that I've seen mentioned, but I haven't read them: Bringing Up Bébé: One American Mother Discovers the Wisdom of French Parenting and Positive Discipline
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/15 03:50 AM
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This is great!! I'll just accept all three job offers and see which one I like the best. Why shouldn't I be able to work 3 jobs at once - it's not like they'll be able to tell. I'll only put in half-effort for now just in case it doesn't work out. Once I get past the trial period I'll do more.
/r/RedPillWomen27/10/15 05:33 PM
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I just did some googling, and it looks like there's a risk of the glasstop stove cracking if you use cast iron. I might still get one and use it in the oven. I've got this recipe for pizza baked in a cast iron pan, and I've been using cake pans instead. I've heard you can bake some good casseroles in them, too.
/r/RedPillWomen26/10/15 09:00 PM
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I've made thrift store hauling into a career. :) Until about 2 years ago, I never really went into thrift/secondhand stores. Now I love them! I find about 90% of things for my business, and 10% for me. I've been so impressed with all the vintage things that I'm switching the focus of my business from modern stuff to vintage stuff. I just love having things that are really unique. So far my two favorites I've found are this little framed print with fairies around a pond, and a figurine of a kneel…
/r/RedPillWomen26/10/15 07:27 PM
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This week I got overwhelmed from trying to work on too many things. I received some good advice from the irc chat room and decided to just focus on two things for now - being positive, and looking good. The being positive includes all kinds of things, but it's easier to think of it as a whole rather than all the little things it encompasses. It's got me re-wording things before I speak so that they come out in a positive way, and encouraging and complementing J more often. The looking good is ma…
/r/RedPillWomen26/10/15 06:56 PM
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So much great stuff in there! I started doing that bro-split workout a few weeks ago. SO likes to do it right after getting home from work, so I'm doing it then as well. I found pretty short one (maybe around 30 minutes), and it's actually fun. I did some research and figured out how to modify the exercises for at-home with dumbbells and an exercise ball. I think the key for me exercising long term is that it needs to be something I can do at home. Once we get really good at this routine, maybe …
/r/RedPillWomen26/10/15 06:29 PM
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This one year I did pigs in a blanket, but I wrapped them to look like mummies. You can put little mustard dots for eyes. That took a whole lot of time, though! Like this
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/15 05:39 AM
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I like the cleaned up sidebar and the section of the wiki called "Essential Posts". I'll be sure to read through it all! How about a section with recommended books? I've read a few different books that women in this subreddit recommended, and they were all enlightening and helpful.
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/15 05:08 AM
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My instinct when I see a cute guy is to giggle and run away, because apparently I'm 5 haha. Haha, that's me! That's why I loved online dating so much. I can get to know them a little before the meet up, and know that they're interested in me.
/r/RedPillWomen23/10/15 05:54 PM
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Understand that no matter what you put in there, you're still going to attract men you don't want to date. Usually you can tell right away that he's not looking for what you are. You know, those messages like "oh bae ur so hot". Laugh it off and move on. If it's a site that tracks your message response rate and displays it, then just message back with a "no, thank you".
/r/RedPillWomen23/10/15 05:46 PM
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Sounds like you're figuring some stuff out. When I feel the urge to criticize, I now stop and think "what could I do about this?" You'd be surprised just how much you can do. Like the other day our dog got into the office trash can AGAIN. My first thought? "He forgot to put the trash can up high." Then I started to think about what I could do. There is like 10 different things I could do that wouldn't involve him having to do something. The first step is to be aware of it, and to start thinking …
/r/RedPillWomen22/10/15 10:24 PM
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The Amazon reviews for that product are pretty hilarious. One lady said you're better off buying Elmer's Glue. Hopefully that's just because Amazon doesn't have the authentic product. You'll have to let us know if you try it and it works!
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/15 04:59 PM
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I had the flu about two years ago, and there wasn't any cleaning or cooking - there was just surviving. I wasn't even reading books or watching TV. SO took two days off of work to take care of me. :) It was really sweet. As for doing things with low energy... You do things in little spurts, say 15 minutes here and there. Think of what you usually do, and prioritize what's most important - do those things first. If you really must do something that takes longer, then put on some of your favorite …
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/15 04:30 PM
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How many times have you rehearses a whole conversation with a professor, or boss, or someone you just plain don't like? I so do this. Not so much now that I have my own home-based business with no boss other than my SO, and have cut some people out of my life. I used to go on walks, and think like this - when you rehearse conversations. I'd get so fired up and start walking really fast.
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/15 08:59 PM
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Stop making your SO an imaginary person. I am guilty of doing this a lot. And what I mean is, avoid rehearsing a situation or dialogue in your head I just realized I do this. I can't think of a specific occurrence, but when I read what you wrote there, I got a distinct oh-crap cringe feeling that I well recognize as meaning I've got something to work on.
/r/RedPillWomen20/10/15 07:08 PM
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You break up - in person, with dignity and poise. Then you cut the contact. You can't be friends with someone you're attracted to, especially one you have strong feelings for. Unrequited love will hold you back from finding a LTR. You need distance from him to get over it, not friendship. If you've already had the in-person break up, then just cut all the contact.
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/15 10:18 PM
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That first one sounds really good. Do you have a recipe you could share for it? I've never made protein bars.
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/15 04:14 AM
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I know that he knows that I'm not really that into it. That's probably where the connection went. You can turn it around by being enthusiastic when he initiates. If you're showing signs that you're really into it, it will ramp him up as well. That's how you keep passion alive. If you're so far gone that there's no more initiation or touching, then it's up to you to get the ball rolling again. Wear things you consider appealing and sexy around the house - that will help you get in the right minds…
/r/RedPillWomen15/10/15 07:12 PM
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I decided to leave my part-time job to work from home about 18 months ago. I got a lot of flack from co-workers and friends for wanting to be a stay-at-home wife. We don't have children yet. Here's some of the things people told me: You're going to get bored and go back to work. I could never do that, I need to keep busy. You're going to get sick of seeing J all the time. You're going to get depressed being alone all the time. You're going to start eating all day and get fat. None of that happen…
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/15 09:29 PM
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Demeanor: I did have one big failure followed by success, I think. I said something stupid which got his hackles up. I realized that I was ramping up for an epic PMS argument and said something like "I shouldn't have said that. It's clearly something that I handled wrong because it made you start to defend yourself. I'm sorry, and I won't bring it up again." He said thank you and smiled, and all was pleasant in our household again. I keep catching things I've said that were a subtle dig or criti…
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/15 05:26 PM
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I found the men's side of TRP first. All of that stuff about AWALT hit close to home, because being a resentment-filled wife in a dead-bedroom relationship was my biggest fear (I've been there once). My point is if she wants to learn something and change, she will - all on her own. You did what you could. You can lead a human to knowledge, but you can't make him think. She might one day have an AH-HA! moment and revisit all that red pill stuff. Or she might continue on her current path and keep …
/r/RedPillWomen13/10/15 09:15 PM
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I've had a couple of sewing days with a friend of mine. She brought her project over to my place, and we chatted while sewing. I made a light lunch for us. She's pretty busy with school now so it's on hold for a few months. I'm thinking of making it an every Friday open-invitation type of thing and finding some more friends for it. Some type of exercise would be fun! You could meet up at a trail for a weekly walk. I read a good idea in My Foot Is Too Big for the Glass Slipper by Gabrielle Reece …
/r/RedPillWomen10/10/15 06:23 PM
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We have discovered that there are things he does actually like but just thought he didn't because he didn't like the way his mum cooked them. I have run into this a few times with my SO as well. For example, he said he hated chicken sandwiches. Turns out he thought a chicken (breast) sandwich was a chicken salad sandwich, because that's what his mom called it. I've lately discovered that men actually can be happy eating the same thing all the time, especially for breakfast. If you fix him a diff…
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/15 03:58 PM
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Glad I could help. Look into the PowerBlock adjustable dumbbells. I've never tried them or seen them in real life, but they look so handy! It's like a whole set of free weights in one set.
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/15 03:40 PM
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Thank you for the book idea! I'm ordering that one straight away.
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/15 11:26 PM
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It helps to remember that you would have to do all that stuff even if he didn't live with you. So you just do it. If you're feeling stressed out and tired, you're probably sulking around in a bad mood while you're making dinner and cleaning. He's not likely to want to be around you or help if you're cranky. When you come home, take a moment to relax, do something fun, and get yourself into a better mood. Then go tackle the to-do list and politely ask for help or just his company if you start fee…
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/15 09:04 PM
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A sewing machine, or a serger if you already have a sewing machine. Making clothing is much easier with a serger, and you can get the Brother 1034D for around $180. I also recommend the Kitchen Aid stand mixer, I love mine. Exercise equipment - like a treadmill or bicycle, or maybe a nice set of free weights? Or maybe buy a years' worth of a gym membership, dance classes, or yoga/pilates. You could also put $200 - $300 into a new hobby, because self-care is important. Is there a hobby you've bee…
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/15 08:52 PM
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Hydrogen peroxide does work for blood. I used to do phlebotomy, and we kept hydrogen peroxide around just for when blood got on fabric (usually the patient's clothing or the pillowcases we used in the office). We even used it on white leather jacket once. :) It may not work for fabrics that have been laundered and dried, though. I only have experience using it on fresh stains.
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/15 08:27 PM
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I feel you. I'm not that sure I should paint the whole house, because I want to get a bigger one. I'd hate to get even more bonded just to leave! For now I'll get working on that bathroom.
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/15 08:24 PM
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Yeah, it does overpower it sometimes. It's a delicate balance that I haven't mastered yet. Sometimes I water it down more, or add more oils after I use it if it's too strong. I oughta keep track of how much of each I put in there. :)
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/15 08:20 PM
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This trick works on sofas, too!
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/15 03:42 AM
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We purchased our house almost two years ago and most days it doesn't really feel like ours. I'm in the same boat. I think I'll try the painting as well! That trick really worked in the previous house I lived in, I just haven't felt like going through all that work again.
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/15 03:41 AM
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I use a homemade vinegar/water/essential oil cleaner for all my cleaning. Works extra good if you get some citrus essential oils like lemon or orange. For the shower, I find a magic eraser works the best and is easiest to use while showering.
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/15 03:18 AM
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Something my SO said helps me a lot: people are too focused on their own insecurities to notice yours. I think that's often true. Sometimes even those who appear put together and confident are having the same thoughts you are about themselves. Really believing people when they compliment you can go a long way. I've found those who appear confident are good at maintaining eye contact, which can also help shut your thoughts off.
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/15 01:31 AM
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I've already gotten heat for still using dairy and eggs for the sake of my marriage. You really should not care one whit over what one group of online folks says is the "right way". It doesn't need to be all or nothing. You'll not be stoned for not being a "true" vegan. I borrow aspects of all the various diets, because they've all got some good points. It's important to not get obsessive over any one diet. My SO and I watched some of the pro-vegan or pro-whole-food-diet films and decided to sto…
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/15 04:33 PM
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For the most comfortable and soft lingerie, look for modal fabric - especially the stretch blends. I've got one similar to this and it's my favorite.
/r/RedPillWomen10/09/15 04:19 PM
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If she has end-stage lung cancer, is home-based hospice care being looked into? With hospice, most of the doctor's appointments and medication reviews are done in your home. When I worked in pharmacy, I worked closely with the local hospice company and delivered medicines to the families - I was very impressed with how those nurses swooped in made things easier for patients and families. They were seriously some of the kindest, most empathetic people I've met. Many people wait too long to start …
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/15 03:06 PM
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INTJ-T. I think my boyfriend is ISTJ-A (can't remember for sure).
/r/RedPillWomen04/09/15 05:47 PM
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Who is it that you're fighting with? I doubt it's the people in your day to day life. I think you're projecting a past war onto current people, because you are still feeling pain from the past. I really like the way you worded that. It's a problem I've had to face. I had my "me against the world" goggles on rather than "us against the world", if that makes sense.
/r/RedPillWomen04/09/15 05:12 PM
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I think in cases like these, it's best to not offer advice unless they are initiating it by asking. If anything, lead by example. Put all your effort into your relationship and be happy. Just be a good role model, and perhaps one day she'll ask you for advice, or start wondering how you have such a happy and fulfilling relationship. Don't buy her books. The best you can do is carry your copy around for reading at quiet times, then one day "accidentally" leave it at her house. Quietly pick the bo…
/r/RedPillWomen04/09/15 04:52 PM
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Fear of abandonment is a tricky thing. On one hand, it can cause you to over-analyze relationships and question your judgement/choice of your current partner. On the other hand, it can cause you to stay in unfulfilling relationships as /u/southernRPW said. This book can help you learn how to stay connected and deal with your fears. One of the lessons I've learned from it is "connection before communication". If you try and communicate things when you're not connected (and y'all are most definite…
/r/RedPillWomen03/09/15 08:14 PM
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That was a great video, thanks! I'm putting her book on my to-read list.
/r/RedPillWomen31/08/15 09:47 PM
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I love the cat figures, and I'm absolutely in awe of that fairy lamp. How nice of him to give you your own little girly space.
/r/RedPillWomen31/08/15 12:21 AM
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This past week I got some fitness and weight loss advice on the RPW IRC channel, and that's working well. I figured most of the women here are keeping themselves fit, so what better place to get advice and support? I don't think I ever would have tried T25 without their encouragement, and I find I quite like the series. But, yeah. Women pat other women on the back for doing things that aren't that great. I saw a post in a Facebook group this week where the lady was saying her husband thought her…
/r/RedPillWomen30/08/15 02:36 AM
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I have the Charge HR and it's been really good at tracking my sleep. How strange!
/r/RedPillWomen30/08/15 02:22 AM
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This is fantastic, exactly what I've been wondering. I especially like the part about kids learning from mimicking.
/r/RedPillWomen30/08/15 02:20 AM
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Isn't that the truth! I see it a lot on social media. Seems like the same people are always looking for a place to live, a ride, and/or money. Those same people are the ones harping on about their woes and how bad they have it, and how it'll never get better. I'm always tempted to help, but I know no good will come of it.
/r/RedPillWomen29/08/15 05:48 PM
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I'm a firm believer in teaching all life skills as soon as possible. I really respect that. How do you know how young is too young? Like, how do you know when it's okay to teach them how to cut vegetables with knives, or to operate the washing machine? Is it just instinct once you're a parent?
/r/RedPillWomen29/08/15 05:38 PM
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Dominance and submission (since you appear to be into BDSM) each require active dominance and active submission. You have to actively submit in order to receive dominance. I get the gist that you are withholding your submission because he's not alpha enough, and are waiting for some sort of proving on his part to happen. You're basically holding yourself back, because who would want to dominate a person who doesn't submit? It's exhausting. My boyfriend recognizes my need to submit to him, and ap…
/r/RedPillWomen28/08/15 03:22 PM
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I've just started exercising and calorie counting again to get the last 40 pounds off. I'm cutting out profanity. I'm also doing all the housework now, and if he helps then it's a bonus and I thank him. Mostly I'm trying to step back, and get out of his way. So I'm thinking before speaking, and being mindful of my state-of-mind. It's going pretty good, but I often realize in hindsight that I could have done something better - that's a part of learning, and okay. I've been telling myself things l…
/r/RedPillWomen27/08/15 11:13 PM
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A physical one - a sea sponge that has a rough side. I've tried ammonium lactate before, but I can't remember if it worked or not. I haven't tried alpha hydroxy acid. I'll look into that!
/r/RedPillWomen26/08/15 10:09 PM
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I didn't know retinol can help keratosis pilaris. I've gotten mine way down by lightly exfoliating once or twice a week and applying almond oil and coconut oil daily. Thanks for the tips! Edit: Okay, maybe not. After doing some research on retinol, I think I'll be avoiding that one. I'll stick to eating my vitamin A.
/r/RedPillWomen26/08/15 04:19 PM
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I have a natural face free of makeup 99% of the time. I do know that he doesn't like obvious makeup on faces, and he doesn't like foundation and the covering of flaws and freckles. He does like me in this pink lip gloss I have, but doesn't like to kiss me in it. I have been thinking of just doing a daily routine of blush and mascara to highlight, and adding the lip gloss/stick when we go out. I never paint my nails anymore, because he hates the smell of nail polish and the remover. The darn stuf…
/r/RedPillWomen26/08/15 04:11 PM
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My mother had 5 children before 25 (4 survived), has struggled with her weight going up and down for most of her adult life, was married to an alcoholic for 10+ years, and has spent the last 15 years in sunny Florida. Yet she still has beautiful skin and could easily pass for early 40's. She's just turned 50 and has never smoked, and has until the last 5 years or so always been a wine-drinker. I'm visiting her next month and plan on discovering what she uses on her face and hands (I'm pretty sur…
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/15 04:52 PM
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Exactly. I said something like "I'm just not feeling it". There was one guy that kept pushing it even after I said that. He went as far as to proposition me to come over for sex. Ugh. I pretty much just said whatever I could to get the heck outta there (it was at Starbucks). You might also meet a guy and really feel it, but never hear from him again. That happens. That's another thing to keep in mind - you want him to be initiating contact. Usually if it's a really good date and there is mutual …
/r/RedPillWomen23/08/15 08:57 PM
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It wasn't difficult, surprisingly. I went on a few dates, and chatted with quite a few different men before meeting him. I was really nervous about having to deny further dates in person, but it wasn't so bad. It helped me to think of the profile's purpose as selling what I can offer. It's a bad way to word it, but you are essentially putting yourself for sale. Having nice pictures of yourself, then filling the profile with what you want from the other person is kinda a turn off to some. It puts…
/r/RedPillWomen23/08/15 08:27 PM
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I met my SO through online dating. I think it's best to leave your profile to what you have to offer a man, rather than stating what you're looking for. You know what you're looking for, and can determine if he matches through chatting and meeting. So if I wanted to attract a marriage partner that I would have kids with, and wanted to be a stay at home wife, I would say something like "I like to take care of the house, bake and cook, and have always dreamed of being a stay-at-home mother". That …
/r/RedPillWomen23/08/15 08:00 PM
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I signed up a couple of days ago, but didn't get an email. Should I have gotten one?
/r/RedPillWomen23/08/15 06:25 AM
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Wow! This list has everything he's ever told me he likes. I really like number 98, too - I'm going to try that.
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/15 06:47 PM
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We've just changed ours about two weeks ago, and are trying something different. It used to be that I did my business stuff during the day, leaving the evenings open to follow his lead. Note I work from home and the Boss works M-F full time. Here's the new routine. Monday is a "domestic day" where I do all the chores and in the evening we relax together. I cook a meal after he gets home that will have leftovers for the next day. Tuesday and Thursday I do my business stuff the entire day and even…
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/15 06:32 PM
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Like, 2 for $10?! Wow! They have some cute looking dresses.
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/15 05:01 AM
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I need a plaid dress in my life. That's going on the list for sure!
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/15 04:58 AM
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I'm liking the leggings under a dress idea. Now I've got to find some comfy leggings.
/r/RedPillWomen15/07/15 10:09 PM
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That's how I started, but somehow I evolved into comfy clothes all day long.
/r/RedPillWomen15/07/15 10:09 PM
1

I had a religious upbringing that involved lots of bible talk and church every Sunday. In my teen years I became less religious, then went back to being somewhat religious as a young adult. In the last 5 or 6 years, I've really embraced being irreligious - somewhere between pagan and atheist. I no longer support organized religion, and believe there are multiple gods if any. The Boss is about the same as me, minus the multiple-god thing. My mother cooked and cleaned, and was a stay-at-home mom f…
/r/RedPillWomen13/07/15 01:27 AM
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I think the best way to go about it is to follow the guy's direction each date. Assuming you're on a date with a guy with some promise, and it's going well (otherwise just split it and get outta there)... When the bill arrives and there's that awkward moment of staring at each other, just ask him something like "how would you like to do this?" or "would you like to cover the bill or split it?" I think it gives the impression that you like him to make the decision when eating out, which is good b…
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/15 06:11 PM
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I have a hard time with Gracefully Receiving as well, and I'm getting much better at it! I've had a few dinner parties lately where I've accepted help from the party goers. I actually kept a task or two in mind in case someone asked if they could help. I often feel like I need to re-read the Laura Doyle books because I tend to fall right back into old habits.
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/15 05:07 PM
1

I go on exercise kicks for a few weeks/months, then slack off. I have found throughout it all that gyms just aren't for me, at least not long term. The whole "going to the gym" thing just seems to expend more energy that could be used for exercising, and my energy is already in short-supply. Plus, when I'm in my slack-off periods, I start feeling guilty for paying for something I'm not using. Guilt only demotivates me further. At one point I had a membership at a gym across the street from my wo…
/r/RedPillWomen29/06/15 05:56 PM
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Mine was pretty equal between physical touch, verbal affirmation, and quality time. If I remember right, his is mainly physical touch and acts of service with some quality time. I make it a priority to touch him often, which isn't something that comes naturally to me. He loves it when I anticipate his needs. Like if I notice he doesn't have a drink and bring him one. He's pretty low for receiving gifts, but he really loves to give them.
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/15 08:59 PM
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Maybe, here is the link.
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/15 12:43 AM
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How exciting!
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/15 05:19 AM
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My ex-husband (my high school sweetheart) came home from work the evening before our wedding anniversary and said he'd decided he wanted a divorce. Had all kinds of reasons, which he just kept spouting as I sat there, numb and in shock - until I finally stopped him with "that's enough". I just said "okay", and he went to sleep in the guest bedroom. I had the next day off work, so I got right to looking for a place to live. I found a little apartment that I could afford, and put in an application…
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/15 02:29 AM
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I'm hoping that after she doesn't have to deal with lots of other people's children anymore, she'll have more patience for her own. I'm the type to get passionately angry over stupid stuff that seems really important in the heat of the moment. I've done a lot of rationalizing with my behavior in this way. Usually sounds like "It's just XYZ, after XYZ happens it will be all better." Nope. It kept happening, and it kept not getting better. What got better was both me and him being aware of the iss…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/05/15 03:34 PM
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That sounds like something I can use!
/r/RedPillWomen21/05/15 06:56 PM
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I hope it helps!
/r/RedPillWomen20/05/15 07:58 PM
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As someone with an autoimmune disease, I have similar constraints and trials. Try making a don't-do list alongside your to-do list. The don't-do list is made up of those things that you want to do eventually, but just aren't a priority right now. The tasks that could be delegated or are insignificant to your goals should also go here. Add things that you want to do, but need some outside circumstance to be able to do (ex: I want to clean the toilet but need to buy vinegar to make more cleaner so…
/r/RedPillWomen20/05/15 05:24 PM
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I think that my feminine demeanor extended to the workplace. I would often go above and beyond the necessary to find a solution to someone's problem. I would work on ways to look more feminine, like squatting from the knees rather than the hips, and trying not to look too rushed (even when I was). I had a career in pharmacy (I work from home now). I stayed friendly, and smiled genuinely most of the time. My goal was to treat everyone like they were my neighbor. I received many complements on how…
/r/RedPillWomen19/05/15 06:14 PM
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These ones
/r/RedPillWomen19/05/15 03:53 AM
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I'll definitely watch it then!
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/15 10:11 PM
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You can watch it on YouTube or Amazon for $1.99.
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/15 10:10 PM
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And lastly, chicken and tatertots do not a meal make. Learn to cook something for your poor husband. I giggled at this. I make all kinds of meals from scratch, and guess what the man's favorite meal is... (Vegan) chicken nuggets dipped in honey and tatertots. Thanks for posting a review! I really want to watch it, but don't have cable. Oh, apparently I can buy it on YouTube or Amazon for $1.99.
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/15 08:32 PM
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I unsubscribed from TRP because I didn't want to know about all the tricks he could be using on me. If I know the "right way" for him to handle things, then I feel more... entitled? I don't know how to explain it, but it makes me evaluate his behavior more than mine. That's why I prefer to stay on the women's side where I can evaluate and change my own behavior.
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/15 12:25 AM
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1) Work out at least 3 times, preferably more. Did this one! 2) More affection. Kept forgetting this one.. Going to keep working on it. 3) I'm trying out that bracelet trick posted earlier today with bitching/whining/complaining. Tried it, but it turns out I don't whine/bitch/complain much if any. Moved the bracelet on the first day, then not for the rest of the week. I think I'll work on cursing instead, which is more of a problem. 4) Finish the dress I'm making. Woohoo! Finished the dress and …
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/15 12:14 AM
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I could use improvement with all three! Now I've got to pick which one to start with.
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/15 07:59 PM
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How cool! Now I've just got to figure out how to watch it without cable.
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/15 02:13 AM
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I like to make it a multi-day thing. His last few birthdays have fallen on Saturday-Monday, so I've made it into a birthday weekend. Once when his birthday fell on a Sunday (I think...) I gave him his gifts on Friday after work. Then he had the whole weekend to enjoy them. I made the cake and special dinner on Sunday. Also, if he's the one that checks the mail - make him a cute card, then mail it to him a few days before. It makes it more fun! Wear that sexy lingerie while you're making dinner, …
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/15 04:22 PM
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It does scare me that so many are making the decision to not have kids. Mainly because those intelligent enough to think about and follow through with a decision like that are perhaps the very people who we want to procreate. If only those who are irresponsible or ignorant raise children, then what will our society look like in the future? I think there's a lot of misinformation about raising children. People love to bitch. They're bitching all over the place about the woes of raising children. …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/15 04:51 PM
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The most important thing to learn is how to follow a recipe. Start with simpler ones that incorporate packaged foods - Betty Crocker comes to mind. I like to have a binder for recipes with dividers and page protectors, and when I find a favorite I print it out and add it to the binder. (You can also add notes this way - such as "adjust the spice next time - too spicy".) One of the things I've realized about cooking is that you forget over time... There were things I used to make that were favori…
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/15 06:00 PM
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Or freeze them! Cookies freeze really well, and I tend to forget they're in there. It's nice having desserts on hand for a special evening. Just pop a few into the microwave, and you've got warm gooey cookies for desert.
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/15 05:51 PM
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Red Pill. This is pretty much my relationship as well. I've been a work-from-home partner for almost a year. We work through disagreements like most couples do, one at a time. In the past few years, I've been working on staying calm and somewhat logical during conflict, which is not at all natural to me. Pretty much all of our views are the same, as well as hobbies. I like having similar views on hot topics, because I feel closer to him that way. The few hobbies he had that I didn't share, I've …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/15 04:21 AM
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The two things I can immediately think of that most men want would be respect and to be desired by their partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/15 06:11 PM
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You might want to take a look at Once A Month Meals. They provide recipe cards, shopping lists, and prep/cooking instructions. You can cook and prepare your meals for the month in one day. I haven't signed up for their service, but I have tried some of their recipes.
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/15 02:45 PM
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He also made if very clear to me within a few dates that he had stopped seeing everyone else. Everyone else? As in, more than one? That right there would get my hairs up. If he's used to having multiple partners going on, why's he going to stop for you? Honestly, I'd be afraid if my boyfriend had a really good single female friend that he wanted to spend a few weeks with. Even if I trusted him, there's a really high chance that that girl has a mega-crush on your man. Traveling and experiencing n…
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/15 08:47 PM
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I met my boyfriend of 4 years on OKCupid. I liked the site. I filled out my entire profile, and answered a lot of the questions. I liked being able to compare the answered questions with potential partners. I wrote in a way that described what I had to offer, and what kind of person I was, rather than what I wanted in a partner. I also think it's important to have good pictures. You want clear face shots with smiling, and very light make up if any. Try and make it so that it's a good picture of …
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/15 04:55 AM
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I think the key to masturbation for both men and women is variety. If you always masturbate in the same way, or with the same toy, you can set yourself up for having a difficult time climaxing other ways. The timing can be important as well. Like, if you're masturbating every time your SO leaves you home alone. Although I can certainly see your point to masturbation without finishing.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/15 04:35 PM
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My man just can't resist a wiggling, naked butt. I'll do it sometimes after we get in bed for the night. Get on all fours with my bum facing him, and wigglewigglewiggle. I've done it in the kitchen while doing dishes. I just bend over some and start wiggling. /giggles
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/15 08:27 PM
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I'd like to add doing the same when you're apologized to. If someone apologizes to you for doing something, the correct response would be "Thank you. Apology accepted."
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/15 09:13 PM
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One one hand, you may have a duty to impact society, as he said. On the other hand, you could use your multiple college degrees to educate your children at home. I think it depends on what's going to make you and your SO happy. I was really good at my job, but I was unhappy doing it. I stayed in that career mainly because I felt that I had a duty to do what I was good at. When an opportunity to start a home-based business came up, he encouraged me to leave my career since I was unhappy in it. He…
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/15 09:05 PM
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I had a high sex drive when I met my first love. We married, and over the years we turned into a dead bedroom. Our relationship deteriorated into FUBAR. There were many arguments over my low sex drive, and on occasion I was called frigid. I tried to explain that I wanted him to take control and initiate, and he would whine about having already tried that. The more he whined, the less attractive he was to me. For most of the later years of that relationship, I honestly believed that I had a low s…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/15 06:35 PM
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what does a good strategy look like for a woman? I hear a lot of submissive women speak of past relationships in terms of "I had to be in charge. I had no choice so I ran everything and I hated it". They do have a choice, and that is to step back. I think many women hold onto control out of fear of failure. They're afraid that no one can do it as well as they can. That the entire sky will fall if they don't control every little thing. But they're not remembering that they weren't always good at …
/r/MarriedRedPill26/03/15 07:29 PM
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After a few days of chatting online, my SO invited me to sushi to meet for the first time. I just felt it out, didn't have an expectation or preference. The bill came, we kinda looked at each other uncertainly, and I offered to split. It's more common for us to alternate now, although it's mostly him paying. I actually like it better when the man controls the finances. I've heard that men will spoil you better than you would yourself. Plus, it feels like he's paying for everything when he's real…
/r/RedPillWomen25/03/15 06:48 PM
2

You are entering into a relationship with a person, and that relationship is going to be a physical one. Maybe not at first, but it will be one day. You WANT and NEED attraction from both parties. It doesn't mean you're a whore because he wants your body, it means that there is chemistry and attraction from him. That is essential in a relationship, and it's a good thing. It doesn't mean you have to have sex right then. It's perfectly fine to keep sex off the table for a while in a relationship, …
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/15 10:29 PM
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1) In some ways women are inferior, and in some ways men are. I think it's important to acknowledge and work with the differences, rather than trying to be equal in everything. 2) I wouldn't be against a female president, but it would depend on the person. 3) I'm all for women in business, if they are doing what they're good at and love. I would like to see more part-time or stay at home parents, either the female or male. So I don't really like seeing both partners in a couple with full, busy c…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/15 09:56 PM
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I was already living as a willingly submissive partner in a relationship when I came across RPW. It was like being a WoW gamer and coming across /r/wow. I was happy to find some people with similar interests to trade tips with. That's all.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/15 05:01 PM
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Maybe he thinks you want something if you give him affection? Or maybe he's so used to you stiffening and backing away, that he does it too? You do tend to get what you give... Try smaller, more innocent touches. Like reaching around him in the kitchen to get something so that your bodies touch, or running a hand along his shoulders when you pass him.
/r/RedPillWomen20/03/15 03:57 PM
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I would pick two things to work on to start, and give that a few weeks. Maybe keep a journal of how each day went. If you were working on giving him affection and cleaning up the house, your journal entry could look like: Affection: 5/5 (meaning you feel like you gave lots of affection) Chores completed: 2 I like having that nightly self-review where I can see if I'm making progress, and it feels more tidy and less overwhelming than trying to change everything at once. I'd also recommend doing o…
/r/RedPillWomen20/03/15 03:51 PM
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I have this problem, and at times it's bothered my SO. I've got all kinds of theories why, but I won't bore you with those. I've read that the best way to stay present in conversations and to listen to others is to maintain eye contact with them. It's difficult for your mind to continually think of things to say when you're focused on someone's eyes. Try asking questions more often than telling stories. It's also helped me to realize that it's not the end of the world if I don't get to say my pi…
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/15 04:31 PM
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You say he has no direction, yet say he's working on his art career. Is that not a direction? Have you discussed with him what his plans are for providing for a family? Honestly, a little poverty while young and trying to make it isn't always a bad thing. Sometimes it's necessary to reach future goals, and it can build good money management skills. Figure out precisely what you're scared of, then bring it up with him, followed by what you want. Narrow it down as much as you can, and try sticking…
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/15 08:08 PM
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I'm curious about the one that makes you smell like cake, my BF would love that! So you combine olive oil, sugar, almond oil, and vanilla? Or is it almond oil instead of olive oil?
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/15 09:37 PM
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Some make or buy wet bags, which is a washable baggie with fabric on the outside and a plastic liner (PUL) on the inside. You can also use a ziploc bag. You put the pad inside the bag and put it in your purse until you arrive home. If I'm going to be out for a long time, I usually use a menstrual cup. Those last up to 12 hours before you have to empty.
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/15 05:11 AM
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I make cloth maxi pads for periods. Not too hard to make yourself, and you just rinse or soak them after use, then throw them in with your laundry on laundry day. They are much more comfortable than the store bought ones, and a lot cheaper. If you're interested in making them, there are Facebook groups called Sewing Cloth Menstrual Pads and Preciousstarspads YT. In the files of the groups, there's a lot of information on what fabrics to use, and some free patterns. Also see this website
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/15 12:34 AM
2

I sometimes voice issues during sex. Such as: a knee hurts, getting nauseous (that happens sometimes with late-night sex), a charlie horse, maybe it's getting too rough and hurting some. My BF doesn't stop, if anything he might adjust position or grab lube. He often ignores me. I'm happy to report that I haven't died, or been injured yet. I can't tell you how many times I've had an honest stomach ache, and having sex has cured it. Unless it's the I'm-going-to-poop-on-you stomachache, I'd keep go…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/02/15 11:22 PM
3

The only post in there I'm seeing that resembles TRP advocating rape is the one that says "Basically they want to be raped by a man they are attracted to". However, if you read the context of that very post, it says "TRP never advocates rape" and goes on to explain. Even the one with "Welcome To Rape 101" written on it does not show rape unless you're assuming either having sex with your drunk wife is rape, or that she wasn't consenting at the time of sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/15 03:09 AM
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There are a few scenarios I can think of where I would risk my life for him. Of course, there's a possibility that I'm the type to freeze up when confronted with a life/death situation, as I've heard some people are. It seems one of those things you just can't predict until you've been in that situation. I do know that in the event of a possible home intruder, I'm more likely to escape out of a window and run to a neighbor than I am to stay and fight. That may change if there are other people in…
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/15 04:14 PM
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It ended up not being very expensive ($140), so I was glad that I didn't make a big deal about it. The best way I've found to discuss concerns without nagging is to state what I'm afraid of. So I would say something like "I'm afraid that we're not going to get out of debt". He does know my views on money spending, and we've had many conversations about it. After dragging myself out of debt in my early 20's, my biggest fear is getting back in it. I made sure to pick a partner who was financially …
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/15 05:32 PM
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That's so true! Stuff like this starts arguments, then they warp into being about things that have nothing to do with how it started. That leads to the he said/she said and who's right/wrong about what.
/r/RedPillWomen17/02/15 09:37 PM
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I have narcolepsy. My SO met me after I'd already been pretty stable on medication for a couple of years, but it does still affect me on a daily basis. I found the best way to be a better girlfriend is to involve him in my care. One of the hardest parts of living with someone with chronic illness is feeling helpless to help. I see many wives in support groups saying things like "he just doesn't understand", or "he tried to help, but I already tried that". I try and give him ways to help, so that…
/r/RedPillWomen17/02/15 07:49 PM
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Thanks! I feel special. :)
/r/RedPillWomen17/02/15 05:44 PM
2

We play lots of WoW, too!
/r/RedPillWomen17/02/15 05:42 PM
7

Try FitnessBlender.com. They have free exercise videos, many of which are very short. You could even do it with some of the kids. I used to love doing aerobics with my mom.
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/15 06:08 PM
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I too have anger issues, especially the ones when you start vomiting every problem that's ever been. Sometimes it helps me to just start talking about how angry I am, rather than whatever it is I want to get mad about. Like saying out loud "Wow, I'm so mad, like I can feel it boiling up from my middle all the way to my face. I just want to hit something. My whole body is really tense. I'm trying to control it." Sometimes my SO will go get a couple of pillows, and tell me to hit the pillows while…
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/15 04:53 PM
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Complaining often just makes things worse, as I'm sure you've realized. I watched a "funny" video yesterday involving a man on a pier wearing goggles and fins. He starts walking around the pier, and the wife starts harping on him about safety. Saying things like "that's not safe honey" or "don't walk around in the fins, it's slippery", and generally talking to him like he's a child. Well, then he slips, and after he surfaces in the water she goes "WHAT DID I JUST SAY? I KNEW IT!" I just looked o…
/r/RedPillWomen11/02/15 05:26 PM
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You are so right! I hold back often, and 9/10 times realize in hindsight that it would have been pointless to say what I had been thinking. Either I was wrong, or he did whatever I was thinking anyway, or however he did it worked just fine. Of course, I'm not perfect. Just yesterday morning the boss was cleaning up a pee spot in the carpet from the dog (we'd forgotten to uncover the doggie door). He wonders out loud if it would be worth getting one of those spot steam cleaners in addition to the…
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/15 05:49 PM
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When I met my current boyfriend, I had ~$5,000 left on a car loan, and that was it. My boyfriend had ~$40,000 in student loans and that was it (he was about to graduate college when I met him). In the four years since then, we've bought a house, I had 5-6 car repairs (about $2,500), and he bought me new hearing aids ($2,500). So we now have a mortgage that's less than renting, my car will be paid off in April, and we each have about $3,000 on credit cards. I was probably the better person with m…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/02/15 10:11 PM
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Hehe. I nap too, but because I have narcolepsy! Lately most of my focus has been on working from home, and dieting and exercise. The three of those are taking up quite a bit of time! Although the boss just started exercising with me, so that's making it more bearable. It's great that you have a routine down. We've been living together for 2 years, and we're still working on the routine.
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/15 05:34 PM
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Wow, I totally missed that! How did that nice article turn into a debate on oppression and the bible?
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/15 05:25 PM
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I like it. I need to work on cleaning and not cursing. I've slacked on the cleaning lately. I mean, our house is presentable, but I think it could be much cleaner.
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/15 05:22 PM
1

I wouldn't send one unless it was a committed partner. My SO has expressed that I'm not to send him X-rated pictures on the phone. He doesn't want to feel the need to hide his phone every time he gets a text, just in case. He doesn't mind me typing naughty things, though. The most risque I got while dating was a picture on my profile of me in a tight camisole and pencil skirt outfit. I was curvy and about 200 pounds, so I felt it important to have an accurate picture of my figure, while at the s…
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/15 10:11 PM
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I'm an agnostic RPW in a relationship with an atheist man. When I was looking for a relationship, I knew I didn't want a devoutly religious person. I found online dating helpful, particularly okcupid.com which is where I met my SO. If I remember right, there was a place where you could chose your religion, then directly below it could chose how seriously you follow your religion. It made it easier to know these things from the start. There are likely plenty of others like me out there. I must sa…
/r/RedPillWomen08/01/15 05:07 AM
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Wow, this gave me goosebumps! Thank you for sharing your story, it gave me a feeling of pride that I chose these women as my role models to being a good future wife.
/r/RedPillWomen21/11/14 04:43 PM
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I am in the US. I might try that. The Wahl I have gets the job done, but the hair's fuzzy like it's not cutting each hair at the same length.
/r/RedPillWomen03/11/14 03:06 PM
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I'd really love to do this, but I'm a narcoleptic and my SO has to leave for work at 7am. I always pack his lunch at night, and he wakes me up to say bye every morning.
/r/RedPillWomen15/10/14 05:06 AM
1

You can substitute the liquid in bread recipes with beer.
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/14 04:09 AM
3

I've been lurking for a couple of months. Married my high school sweetheart who decided he'd rather divorce than put any effort into our dying relationship. So at 27 I found myself single when I never thought I'd be. I wasn't anywhere near family, and most of the friends disappeared after the divorce, so I had lots of time to think. I started realizing in hindsight that I'm submissive towards men, and that the ex was likely submissive as well. I would instinctively look to him for approval/permi…
/r/RedPillWomen08/10/14 04:21 AM
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I often suggest a two-part 30 day challenge to women in your situation. First, for the next 30 days don’t say anything negative about your husband… either to him or about him to someone else. Not your mom, not your best girlfriend, no one. Let me repeat that, so you really ‘get it’: Say nothing negative about him. At all. And second, every day for the next 30 days find one thing positive that he has done that you can praise or thank him for, and tell him, and tell at least one other person. I do…
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/14 06:25 PM
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This whole consent movement is making me confused. There's this pledge that showed up on facebook that included "To create an environment in which sexual assault is unacceptable..." Well, does the "survivors" part include men? And, like, people who are rapists are going to rape. Creating some happy harmonious world peace environment thingy isn't going to stop rapists from raping. "My dress does not mean yes." Do they honestly think that men see a random lady in a dress, assume the lady wants sex…
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/14 10:41 PM
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Thanks!
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/14 12:54 AM
3

RYSPEP What is RYSPEP?
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/14 07:04 PM
2

INFJ, boyfriend is INTJ. The explanations were right on!
/r/RedPillWomen30/08/14 04:38 AM
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