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| 8 | We're eloping next week!We're eloping for practical reasons, not impulsive ones. We've been together nearly three years, I know all his family and friends, and vice versa. My family lives in another country, and neither of us are interested in the pageantry of a wedding. We will eventually have a small party for family and friends, but our goal right now is to make our relationship "official", for a multitude of reasons. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/12/19 03:40 PM |
| – | What's for dinner?I strongly approve of your rebellious mushrooming. :D I may try chestnuts in stuffing someday. If they're small enough and mixed with a bunch of other things, that would probably mitigate the textural issue... I'm planning on making acorn flour this year. ;) Just waiting for them to be ripe! What do you do with them? | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/09/19 04:25 PM |
| – | What's for dinner?I think it's more of a texture thing. The flavour is "meh" to me -- not bad, but not good enough to make me want to keep eating them -- and the sort of mealy texture puts me off entirely. The only thing I don't mind is making chestnut paste -- because that way the texture isn't noticable and I add lots of vanilla, so it's more of a "vanilla paste with some chestnut flavour" lol. But maybe you have a good recipe to make me love them ;) You're not allowed to pick mushrooms where you are? :O What n… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/09/19 01:01 PM |
| – | What's for dinner?I think my boyfriend and I must be the only two people on earth who don't like chestnuts. And yet here we are, completely surrounded by chestnut trees. :P I'm waiting for the ceps! | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/09/19 11:39 AM |
| 2 | Is it possible to be RPW and lesbian?This is like asking if it's possible for a straight woman to be in a RP relationship with a manly man if he also simultaneously takes care of his looks. Which is to say, your question is silly. ;) Of course you can! What matters in a RP relationship isn't the so much the extraneous stuff, it's the way you act. Looking girly or masculine doesn't necessarily have any bearing on a person's personality and behaviour, which are the two things that really need to be kept in mind when looking for a par… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/09/19 07:52 AM |
| 9 | Best feminine and classy beauty/style tips?I feel personally called-out by this :D | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/09/19 07:46 AM |
| – | What's for dinner?Oh hello, fellow forager ;) | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/08/19 10:50 AM |
| 57 | Gender EuphoriaThat feeling when you slide into bed with freshly shaved legs. How many men will ever get to experience that pure bliss? | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/08/19 06:13 PM |
| 10 | The Reason Red Pilled Fathers Are Needed: A Redditor on this site tells the front page that she posts nudes alone and cannot handle the backlashTo be honest this seems more like a publicity stunt than anything else. If she's selling her nudes and self-professedly isn't making enough money through it, doing something like this would give her more popularity and, thus, more money. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/08/19 06:14 AM |
| 4 | ProposalIn my experience (and I think this is particularly relevant to you, lol), pro-LTR/anti-marriage sentiment isn't very common in North America, outside a select number of men who have had bad experiences or are fearful of them. However, in France, my experience is that the majority of men are anti-marriage, pro-LTR (basically, unless they're very religious or traditional, they'll be okay with a PACS but that's about it). I think if a woman really does want to get married, she needs to bring it up.… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/08/19 12:25 PM |
| 4 | Are there any RPW rules which you don't "follow" or cannot accept for you?I would imagine as a liberal that submitting to your man is probably not something you’re into either. I'm not the one you're replying to, but political beliefs are not inherently tied to romantic relationship ideals. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/07/19 06:42 PM |
| 6 | Dealing with a sleepy (or dead) bedroom RPW styleIt's worth noting that masturbation and sex don't (always) scratch the same itch. There are some people (mostly men, but probably some women as well) who masturbate to relieve tension, to kill boredom, etc. There are a lot of people (again, mostly men) for whom masturbation can be something that just "needs to be done" before moving onto doing something else. This isn't to discredit your interpretation of your husband's sex drive, but I do want to point out that for many low/mid-libido people, m… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/06/19 02:50 PM |
| 18 | Is the goal of daygame always sex?Not ever instance of someone approaching you in the middle of the day is RP-style "day game" (where the intent is sexual and nothing more). If you like him, go out with him. But if you're not interested in sleeping with him, be wary of anything that may lead to such a thing (him inviting you to his place for lunch, for example). | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/05/19 02:45 PM |
| 7 | Does my bf seem into his ex?Is this a joke? Your boyfriend literally said he feels like your relationship is nearing its end. Whether or not he's emotionally invested in her or not (and frankly it seems like he is) is irrelevant at this point. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/05/19 08:12 AM |
| 3 | I don't want to be a housewifeI saw an comment of yours mentioning you've begun this farm life and have some livestock. I am in a somewhat similar position, actually. What animals do you have? Are you working towards autonomy (full or partial)? In any case this is well written and I agree wholeheartedly with all of it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/04/19 11:27 PM |
| 5 | Always Be Sure to Tie a Live Duck to Your Right Ankle.I know what ECs are my "favorite" I offer autographed portraits if that is of interest to you. :D | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/03/19 02:55 PM |
| 1 | Being a wife vs. being a girlfriend -- a small thoughtI've never heard anyone actually use the term "en concubinage" or referring to their partner as such, though I have seen it occasionally on documents and I guess it must be my English influence but I find the term pretty funny. :P I just use conjoint. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/03/19 03:19 PM |
| 5 | What is red pill woman view on dating outside your race?People can decide for themselves if they want to date outside their race or not. Imposing a set of rules on other people because they don't like race-mixing is far more "control freak" than me saying racism is bad. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/03/19 02:34 PM |
| 21 | What is red pill woman view on dating outside your race?Just because people have always been racist doesn't make it right ... and your DNA isn't lost from having children with someone from another race, because the same amount of your DNA goes into that child no matter what race your partner is. If you really don't want to lose the DNA, you could try inbreeding. But I've heard that doesn't tend to give the best results. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/03/19 02:20 PM |
| 8 | What is red pill woman view on dating outside your race?That's not too surprising, to be honest. It's easy to feel good about helping "the poor kids in Africa", because they're far from home and don't pose any "threat" to the family. It's basic NIMBYism, really. You see it often with parents who seem accepting of gay people in society but have meltdowns if their own children come out as gay, for example. It's unfortunate and probably more common than you'd think, especially because optically it looks good to not appear to be racist (so, helping child… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/03/19 02:18 PM |
| 37 | What is red pill woman view on dating outside your race?Your family sounds racist. You are free to date or marry whoever you like. The issue I see is more that your family may not be accepting of someone outside your race, and may end up treating them poorly (and if you eventually have children with this person, how would your family treat a mixed-race child?). Do you think you're capable of standing up to your family in support of your partner? | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/03/19 01:54 PM |
| 3 | I need some help from all the ladies. Any advice appreciated.Was the virginity comment made before the condom one? I can understand if she lost her virginity in the meantime, but it seems odd for a virgin to carry emergency condoms... | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/03/19 10:11 AM |
| 2 | I need some help from all the ladies. Any advice appreciated.I don't understand the context of this comment. Are these things the OP has said somewhere? | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/03/19 09:55 AM |
| 11 | Is it wrong for me to prefer Betas and judge Alphas this way?That doesn't sound like someone who's hurting. That sounds like someone who is angling for another date/hookup (more likely hookup, since he knows now that this is all you're interested in with him). | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/03/19 06:38 AM |
| 1 | Should we care about a man's sexual history?I think we're talking in circles. You made a broad statement that I attempted to clarify, and you agreed with my clarification. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/03/19 04:19 PM |
| 1 | Should we care about a man's sexual history?low n-count means he WILL put it on a pedestal. This is what you said earlier in the thread, which is what prompted my reply. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/03/19 04:06 PM |
| 2 | Should we care about a man's sexual history?I think it's perfectly possible for a guy to have a low n-count (like, under 5) and not be a thirsty pedestlizer, if he's got a lot n-count by choice. For example, someone who's very relationship-minded or who holds sex in somewhat more "high esteem" isn't likely to have a very high n-count, but if they can get laid and are just selective or prefer to be in relationships, it's possible to get low n-count non-thirsty guys. Yes, it is probably more likely that the low n-count guys are mostly the o… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/03/19 03:45 PM |
| 42 | How to maximize SMV and RMV in high school?Does me being black effect my SMV and if so, how can I get past this? Your race should never be something that you think of in a negative light with respect to dating, because anyone who would refuse to date you because of your skin colour isn't someone you would want to be in a relationship with anyway. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/02/19 10:28 AM |
| – | What's for dinner?I love vegetable steaks! I've done that a few times with eggplant in a miso glaze, it's really fantastic. I'll definitely give it a try with some other vegetables as well. I love pulses and don't mind beans (sometimes I find the texture a little offputting...), but my boyfriend's digestive system does not agree with them, lol! We made a whole lot of vegetable burger patties a while ago. I loved them; he ... had a difficult time. :P If you're open to a recipe I used that I thought worked really w… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/02/19 04:23 PM |
| 14 | So what do men think of a woman’s past and hook up?Unpopular opinion ahead: Aside from men who are either very staunch in their values (religious, traditional, etc) or insecure, wanting a virgin (or very low n-count) partner isn't common. Why do I list "insecure"? Great question! ;) This type of insecurity isn't necessarily a bad thing, nor is it a criticism. But a man who has had relatively few partners is more likely to feel overwhelmed, uncomfortable, insecure, or just generally worried when a woman has had significantly more partners than hi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/02/19 07:27 PM |
| – | What's for dinner?What sorts of things do you do with rice? I usually just serve it either as a side dish or as risotto, like I mentioned. But my boyfriend loves rice, so I'd be happy to take any recipes! French recipes are fine with me! I looked that one over and I admit I'm a little put off by the idea of apricots. :P Was the dish quite sweet? Do you have any favourite quiche recipes? | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/02/19 01:28 PM |
| – | What's for dinner?This week I'm very excited to make seafood risotto! I recently made shrimp stock, which I'll use for cooking the risotto, and I plan on topping it with browned butter scallops and fresh herbs. My boyfriend and I have significantly cut down on the amount of meat we eat (we'll buy one or two meat products per week), so I'm always on the lookout for good new vegetarian recipes to try out. Hit me with your best suggestions! I usually end up making a lot of different pasta dishes, stir-frys, and quic… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/02/19 07:40 AM |
| 1 | Jealousy, how to work on better yourself?I'm not the person you're replying to, but my boyfriend and I both point out people we find attractive. He doesn't point out other men, but occasionally I will, and he'll either agree ("yeah, he has a nice (whatever thing)") or disagree ("seriously?!"). We have very different tastes in attractiveness. Sometimes I'll point out a woman I think is beautiful and he'll be surprised, and vice-versa. Neither of us are pointing out these people in an overtly sexual or impolite way, so neither of us has … | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/02/19 06:45 AM |
| 3 | Is a woman's virginity will increase her SMV and RMV? Is n-count or number of sexual partners important for a woman?There is no "should" or "shouldn't". It depends entirely on the woman in question and the kind of man she is interested in being with. If being a virgin until marriage is only something you do because you think it will make more men like you, you are sadly mistaken. There will be some men who find that a virtue, but outside the very religious, most men don't want to wait until marriage to have sex. Should you have a low partner count and stick to sleeping with people if you're in commited relati… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/02/19 10:47 AM |
| 3 | The Image of Innocence or what to wear on the first dateI'm about the farthest thing from being blonde. I just don't think people should be changing their hair colour simply because it may make them more likely to find a partner. If someone has a rainbow mohawk, that's one thing, but blonde is still a natural colour, and if someone thinks they look better as a blonde, I don't think they should feel the need to change it just because some study said men think brunettes are better to marry. Until it comes out that men are actively refusing to date or m… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/02/19 05:34 PM |
| 5 | The Image of Innocence or what to wear on the first dateIf someone wants bleach blonde hair, that's their choice but it won't help you find a husband. I wonder if people marry less in Scandinavian countries because the women are too blonde... | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/02/19 05:18 PM |
| 14 | What is wrong with me f25 with m25Why are you dating him if you have no romantic connection to this man? | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/02/19 04:50 PM |
| 8 | The Image of Innocence or what to wear on the first dateTrying to cast a wide net is all well and good, but playing dress-up for a date because you want to look more innocent than you actually are, and dressing in a way you never normally do (and dying your hair, apparently...) are superficial and not only fairly irrelevant (men have different tastes), but also not a long-term plan. So you dress in a particular way for the first date, he loves it, but you don't. Do you keep up this charade because some guy thinks you look more innocent (regardless of… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/02/19 04:50 PM |
| 7 | Love LanguagesI think you might be misunderstanding gifts as being necessarily expensive or commercial. Bear in mind, gifts are not at all my love language. If you bring a friend the freshly-baked cookies you know she loves, that's a gift that very effectively displays you pay attention to what she likes, and that you care enough to give it to her. Or if you want a real-life example, I have a friend coming over tomorrow who mentioned she wanted to grow a bay laurel. I have plenty, so I repotted one for her. G… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/02/19 06:30 PM |
| 2 | Love LanguagesThis resonates with me a lot. I feel like oftentimes many people try to use gift-giving as a means of apologising or making up for bad behaviour. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/02/19 03:39 PM |
| 13 | Love LanguagesMy love language is overwhelmingly touch. I'm a fairly touchy person in general with people I like (platonically), but in a relationship I absolutely thrive on it. My boyfriend's love language is definitely quality time, thrown in with some acts of service, which makes it pretty easy to make him happy, because of course I enjoy spending time with him, and love making myself useful. My boyfriend does this thing where he'll give me hugs from behind when I'm cooking or doing the dishes, and that's … | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/02/19 03:37 PM |
| 3 | Love LanguagesI don't think it's really necessary to take the test in order to figure out "what you are", just think about the things you appreciate the most, and the things that you don't think you could go without in a relationship. That's much more telling than any test could be! | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/02/19 03:30 PM |
| 5 | Is it ok that he’s never asked me to be his girlfriend?So you've been exclusive for two years (I'm assuming he has also been exclusive with you?) But he refuses to call you his girlfriend... this is very strange to me. How does he introduce you to people he knows? To his family? Does he consider himself in a relationship? | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/02/19 02:10 PM |
| 17 | Beside the RPW stuff, why does your man love you?He really likes the fact that I care about nature and gardening and general "farm" stuff. He likes to say how glad he is that I'm not a "bourgeois city girl", and that I'm happy to talk to him about nature and that I care enough to make a lot of effort in growing our own produce and raising a few animals. I used to work at an agricultural farm and garden centre, so I know know a fair bit about plants. Whenever we're out planting things and I tell him some tidbits of information or explain where/… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/02/19 01:34 PM |
| 2 | What do YOU get for being super Wife /Mom on Valentines Day?OP has literally mentioned nothing about the kids or how she treats them. I'm not sure where you're getting this idea from. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/02/19 03:47 PM |
| 1 | Having a lodger as a couple, advice!?Didn't you already make another post asking pretty much the same thing? | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/02/19 01:36 PM |
| 4 | The discontented wifeI mean honestly any women who gets disgusted at another person for having bodily functions just needs to take a look in the mirror. :P Being sexy isn't "never having messy hair and holding in farts until you explode", it's accepting that people don't always look their best, but that the low moments are just there to make the highs even better. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/02/19 01:09 PM |
| 5 | The discontented wifeI like this post because it serves as a good reminder of things people in relationships should know already -- when you live with someone, you see them at their best and at their worst, and sometimes when someone is slipping into complacency, there are things you can do to combat this. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/02/19 01:06 PM |
| 7 | FR: The Mental Load: Why we shouldn't follow it and what to do instead.I completely agree with this. I thank my boyfriend whenever he does something that would have otherwise fallen to me -- even if it's something as simple and banal as washing the dishes. I'd much rather cultivate an environment of mutual gratitude than one where everything is taken for granted. And yes -- he does the same in return. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/01/19 05:07 PM |
| – | What's for dinner?That is awesome! I've been looking very seriously into getting rabbits, but I have absolutely no experience about raising meat animals, let alone butchering them. Are rabbits particularly difficult to handle? I have ducks and chickens at the moment (just for eggs, though I would eventually like to raise the ducks for meat as well). It seems like you live in a very warm climate. I can only imagine how amazing your mangoes must taste... | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/01/19 10:43 AM |
| – | What's for dinner?Do you have rabbits and chickens? What sorts of vegetables (and fruits) do you grow? | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/01/19 09:42 AM |
| – | What's for dinner?Neither myself nor my partner are vegan, but I recently discovered lentil tacos and I have to say they're fantastic. I don't even bother making "regular" tacos anymore, because the lentils are just so good. I gave the recipe to my parents (who tend to be more uncertain about trying new foods), and they told me they've started making it regularly as well. I haven't tried them with walnuts, but I'm sure you won't be disappointed. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/01/19 09:41 AM |
| 17 | Sending nudes?If you're reading this and are considering sending nudes, here are some things to keep in mind: There is always the possibility that they will get out some day, somehow. He could show them to other people, someone looking at his phone may see, etc. Never include your face or any identifying features. Whether or not sharing nudes is right for you depends a lot of your personality, his personality, and the status of the relationship. And I would strongly advise against sending nudes to someone you… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/01/19 08:57 AM |
| 3 | Am I allowed to ask for orgasms?Sexual compatibility is an important part of any relationship (as important as compatibility in other areas). This is why so many men are frustrated when they end up in sexually unsatisfying relationships. Divorce is an extreme option that I wouldn't jump to at this point (if at all). But it's clear that changes need to be made, because this situation is one-sided and unhealthy for you. It will only build further resentment as time goes on. You say you've already tried talking to him about this,… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/01/19 04:52 PM |
| 14 | UltimatumsOverly long relationships without engagement/marriage (if that is what both parties are ultimately looking for) are a bad idea, imo. (Almost) everything that you could need to learn about someone to know if you want to marry them, barring only things that may come up later in life or very well-kept secrets, is likely to be learned within the first 3 years of dating. If after that time a couple continues without getting married, and marriage is something they both want, then barring any extenuati… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/01/19 05:08 PM |
| 1 | Simple but pretty hairstylesI am generally not great with my hair, and have very little talent with braids (can't do fishtail, Dutch, or French), but I can do regular braids and so they make frequent appearances in my hairstyles. As another commenter said, side braids are great. Depending on the shape of your head, you might also want to look into milkmaid braids, which is something I do often. It looks like it would be complicated, but it only takes about 5 minutes from start to finish (maybe a bit more while you're still… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/01/19 04:42 PM |
| 4 | Looking to save money with homemade products!I have a bit more of an odd one, but I make my own laundry detergent using 100% natural ingredients -- water, and horse chestnuts! Actually, horse chestnuts contain something called saponins, a chemical compound that causes foam, like soap. It works as well as normal laundry detergent on any items that aren't extremely dirty (I haven't tried it with anything that is very dirty so I can't say if it would work well or not), and has the benefit of being both free and sustainable. I personally don't… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/12/18 05:49 AM |
| 6 | Boyfriend Asks how I feel about Open RelationshipsI just want to reiterate the fact that you should not jump into this. Even if you are more okay with a threesome/going to a professional, there are still a lot of things you need to work through. And as I said before, if you have no attraction to women, this is even less likely to be a good idea, because you're getting less out of it with the same amount of risk. Do a lot of soul searching and discuss this a lot with your partner before you decide to do anything. A threesome isn't necessarily a … | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/12/18 05:18 PM |
| 3 | Boyfriend Asks how I feel about Open Relationships/u/girlwithabike has said pretty much exactly what I wanted to, but I'll just add that there are good reasons to leave a partner - and abuse is a major one. But OP isn't in a situation where she's saying "oh god I am horrified and disgusted that my partner is interested in an open relationship!" If she were, I think everyone would say this is a fundamental incompatibility and they should split up. But instead she finds the idea intreguing despite her reservations. As such, the advice "leave him!… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/12/18 03:24 PM |
| 3 | Boyfriend Asks how I feel about Open RelationshipsPersonally I think new experiences together is definitely the safer way to go about it, because the experience is meant to be mutually enjoyed. That being said, if you're not interested in women, it may also still be a difficult or uncomfortable situation for you. You need to discuss this with him. A lot. And by that I mean, if you end up going through with this, you both need to know the boundaries you'll have in interacting with this other person. Will you be okay if you see your partner havin… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/12/18 10:18 AM |
| 16 | Boyfriend Asks how I feel about Open RelationshipsIs he specifically asking for an open relationship in the sense that he (and possibly you as well) are now free to sleep with other people, or is he asking for an open relationship in the sense that he'd like to try out inviting another person into the bedroom? If you have doubts about an open relationship, my advice is not to go through with it. If you're not 110% on board with the idea, the likelihood of having not just doubts, but intense crises, increases exponentionally. Even when two peopl… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/12/18 09:37 AM |
| 7 | How do I give him my attention without seeming suspicious?I have the exact same "issue" (if you want to call it that) in my relationship. What he told me he would prefer is if, when he comes into a room while I'm on my phone, I don't make an immediate effort to stop what I'm doing. This is actually quite hard for me, because I feel like I'm being rude, but it's what makes him more comfortable so I do my best. He knows the password on my phone but refuses to look through it, as we both feel privacy is very important. In your case, if you're out and need… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/12/18 08:27 AM |
| 5 | What did your mother do right?I'm female. I don't think my parents necessarily did everything right (I think often they made some rather serious parenting mistakes...) but I can appreciate the fact that my mother never tried to force gender roles onto me as a child. I was quite willful and boyish (not a tomboy, because I didn't care about sports, but boyish, because I liked swords and warfare) and I am glad that no activities or toys were barred because they were "for boys". I know she specifically tried to ensure that I had… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/11/18 08:48 AM |
| 23 | Are pretty girls not allowed to be funny?Not everything has some deep, secret reasoning behind it. Often the simplest explanation is the most reasonable. If people don't laugh at your jokes, it's probably because you're not funny -- not because they think you're too pretty or too thin. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/11/18 04:28 PM |
| 146 | Are pretty girls not allowed to be funny?Have you considered the fact that these girls don't get laughs simply because they aren't funny? | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/11/18 07:19 AM |
| 10 | My boyfriend is bored of having sex with me …Having sex three times a week isn't really "an awful lot" for many people, and if both op and her boyfriend want to have more sex, that doesn't seem like much of a red flag. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/11/18 04:58 PM |
| 2 | Hosting a Board Game PartyI fall into the camp of "no sweet tooth", but sweet snacks that have been hits for others are always cakes! Can't go wrong with a nice slice of cake to nibble on. I hosted my boyfriend's family last weekend and made a two-layer chocolate cake with a layer of chestnut cream in the middle and covered in chocolate buttercream. Nobody with a sweet tooth would say no to something like that if you did similar. :P | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/11/18 05:02 PM |
| 2 | Hosting a Board Game PartyPiggybacking off this to mention that if you can make your own hummus, you definitely should. It's incredibly easy and very delicious -- and everyone will be impressed! I generally make 3 different kinds of hummus: regular chickpea hummus (aka plain), red lentil and roasted red pepper hummus, and spicy green split pea hummus. This way you have some variety and different colours, too. The different legumes add slightly different flavours, and they're all really good. The basic recipe is always th… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/11/18 04:58 PM |
| 8 | BF hasn't said I love you...Some people (this isn't just a male or female thing) are more reticent to say "I love you" than others are. It doesn't necessarily mean he doesn't love you, but it is still a Big Thing, and not everyone is comfortable expressing such a thing easily. From what you say, it sounds like he does care for you a lot and his comments seem like his way of saying that he loves you (I would say similar things at the start of my own relationship). I'm not the kind of person who believes the man should alway… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/11/18 03:57 PM |
| 14 | Hosting a Board Game PartyI recommend having both sweet and savoury snacks, that way people with a sweet tooth will be happy as will those without. Some of my favourite games are Catan, Carcassonne, Boss Monster, Trivial Pursuit ... Exploding Kittens is also pretty entertaining! | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/11/18 07:36 PM |
| 3 | Discussion: Is saving the relationship always possible?While I feel bad using the word "luckily" for their situation, because it is really sad, especially since they both recognized that they still loved each other but their life goals were now incompatible, it is lucky that his ex realized when she did (late 20s) instead of trying to stick it out and make things work, only to realize years later that it was the wrong decision. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/10/18 11:27 AM |
| 4 | Discussion: Is saving the relationship always possible?Sometimes a person's longterm goals may have lined up with their partner's during the vetting stages and throughout a few years of marriage, but eventually one person may decide that something has changed in their overall desires. A friend of mine recently split from his ex-wife of five years because when they first got together and throughout the majority of their marriage, both had the same longterm goals (basically "lots of cats, no kids"). However, his ex wife later realized she actually did… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/10/18 09:58 AM |
| – | What's for dinner?My boyfriend and I have been trying to cut down our meat consumption for ecological reasons, so we've been having a lot of vegetarian meals lately. With the weather getting cooler, soups are becoming the norm! A few days ago I made a huge batch of Chinese dumplings that are now sitting in the freezer. We're going to be steaming them for when his family comes to visit this weekend -- it will be their first time eating my dumplings and I'm excited to impress them. ;) I also made quite the batch of… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/10/18 12:22 PM |
| 12 | The Conservative WomanBeing RPW doesn't mean being conservative. I'm glad you're happy about the fact that you identify as a conservative woman, but this isn't really the place for political discussion. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/10/18 07:08 PM |
| 5 | How can I tell my boyfriend that I want more contact?I have had girls ask me to give them more phone time, more of my evenings, etc. I dumped them all. You want a man that is important and busy, but then seek to monopolize his time. You're not her boyfriend, so I don't think your particular experiences are relevant. Most people in a longterm, serious relationship seek to see their partner more than twice a week and prefer to speak to them regularly. Not everyone has the same level of desire for time spent together, obviously, but if her needs are … | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/10/18 12:16 PM |
| 7 | How can I tell my boyfriend that I want more contact?"Keep being unhappy in your unsatisfying relationship and go get married quickly so you can continue being unsatisfied but with a ring on your finger" isn't advice. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/10/18 09:32 AM |
| 1 | So what have you all done or plan on doing this weekend?This link should work! Basically, the house is quite old and was uninhabited for a few years before we moved in, so there's been a lot to do everywhere. :P The kitchen is about halfway done at the moment (maybe a little less than that); all that's left is replacing the existing sink/counter/cabinets/stove. The plan is to finish that next summer, because what's left in the kitchen is useable ... just ugly. ;) We have a toaster oven that we use for all baking at the moment. I can't wait until we g… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/10/18 08:03 AM |
| 1 | So what have you all done or plan on doing this weekend?This link should work. I'm not sure how to access it on new reddit, but on old reddit there's a little chat bubble icon on the upper righthand corner that you can click in order to access it. :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/10/18 07:59 AM |
| 3 | So what have you all done or plan on doing this weekend?I love the idea of a little chat post! :) (there are a few people who talk in the rpw reddit chat as well, which may interest you.) I think it's fantastic that you take the time to read with your not quite son (if I remember correctly, he's your boyfriend's adopted son?). Today my boyfriend and began remodeling a bit of the kitchen -- it's an old house that came equipped with a stove that doesn't work, which was located in a hideous wall of cabinets. We removed all that today and it looks so muc… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/10/18 06:23 PM |
| 6 | Modern woman wants to learn to be more red pillThis is a fantastic comment. Succinct but perfectly encapsulates the ideas behind rpw. +1 star for you! /u/pearlsandstilettos | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/10/18 05:26 PM |
| 1 | The lost art of picklesI love this and I love pickling! I make a good amount of sauerkraut and one of the crowning moments of my glory was when my boyfriend and his family all agreed that the sauerkraut I made was better than the store-bought they usually used to make choucroute! I have made various differently-flavoured ones. I like adding mustard seeds and black peppercorns normally and I'm looking forward to trying one with dill seeds as well. One of my more recent endeavours was even better, I think. I made elderf… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/10/18 05:59 AM |
| 8 | Grey area consent issue in the RP worldWhether or not you decide to break up over this is up to you, but I think you are aware that a line way crossed here and he did not respect your boundaries. If you think this is something you can move past, then you should have a discussion with him (in a non-accusatory manner) to ensure this kind of situation doesn't happen again. If, however, you feel like something has been irreparably changed and you don't think you can maintain a healthy relationship with him (do you feel like you can trust… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/10/18 02:50 PM |
| 11 | What is something you love about your Captain?I'll keep it short, otherwise I'd be here writing all day ... One of the things I really love and admire about my boyfriend is how dedicated and hardworking he is. He's able to do anything he puts his mind to, and I know that when he says, "I'm going to do X", I can trust that not only will it get done, it will be done amazingly well. He has this incredible ability to learn how to do pretty much anything -- he's intelligent and motivated, and so even though we're doing a lot of renovations on th… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/10/18 07:36 AM |
| 17 | I was a blue-piller when it was considered disgusting, now that I've grown up I'm very, VERY grey area, and more redpill than most.Congratulations on being so different and ahead of the curve than everyone else. I'd give you a celebratory cookie, but that's probably too mainstream for you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/10/18 07:48 AM |
| 3 | First Mate in the First TrimesterCongratulations, and thank you for this very insightful post! :) And can I just point out that this: he came in and announced: “I realized I was heading in the wrong direction”. is absolutely the most adorable thing, like, ever? It sounds like it was taken out of a romance novel for how cute it is; I almost don't believe it's real. ;P | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/09/18 06:45 AM |
| 7 | My boyfriend is busy to talk to me but free to have sexStars are meant to show posters who have made valuable contributions to the sub. The more stars, the more notable contributions they've made. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/09/18 05:14 PM |
| 2 | What do you do best?Ooh, a chance to brag! ;) I think one of the great things we're good at is working together on renovations and various manual projects. We recently built a retaining wall out of stone - not brick - so we had to work together to sort out which pieces of rock could fit in what area, and then when laying them, one of us would pour the cement and the other would lay the stone. This isn't the first thing we've done together (we built a staircase in a slope outside, built a half-wall/bar in the kitche… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/09/18 05:35 PM |
| 4 | There is no one, objective archetype of the High Value ManI wouldn't particularly want to date any of these men either. But this isn't about personal preference so much as accepting that these are objectively the types of men that nobody, if you married one, would be saying, "ugh what's she doing with that beta schlub?" | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/09/18 05:23 PM |
| 3 | There is no one, objective archetype of the High Value ManThanks. ;) | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/09/18 03:26 PM |
| 16 | There is no one, objective archetype of the High Value ManI'm glad you enjoyed my post! I have found that there frequently isn't enough rational middle ground presented, it's either "it literally makes no difference to any man ever if you have a degree or not", or "actually, if you ever want to get a truly high value man, you need to have an impressive CV", but really neither one is 100% objectively true, because we're not all looking for the exact same type of man. In my case, I can say this -- I'm in the process of getting my PhD, my boyfriend has a … | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/09/18 02:19 PM |
| 29 | I’m liberally minded in my political beliefs, and tend to date more artistic guys who see the world similarly. Do I have hope at a RP relationship?I'm left-wing. So is my boyfriend. Our politics have nothing to do with how we act on a day to day basis. If you're running into problems with "artsy" guys, try looking elsewhere. Every leftist doesn't fall into the same stereotype of an emasculated hipster. ;) | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/09/18 03:15 PM |
| 9 | LTROpen relationships will work if both parties are 100% on board and have agreed to terms that work well for both of them. If you're not 100% on board with the idea, it isn't going to work for you. There will always be resentment, mistrust, and a feeling that he lacks respect for you and your relationship. Do with this information what you will. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/09/18 05:27 PM |
| 9 | How to handle a very busy partner?It seems more like the fact that he's busy isn't the problem, but the fact that he cancels things at the last minute. You can be a busy person who still sticks to plans, or a busy person who gives advanced notice when plans will fall through. Occasional last-minute changes are understandable -- life happens to everyone. Frequent or even constant last-minute changes can come off as aggravating at first and disrespectful if they continue. The thing is, though, I doubt he's doing this in bad faith … | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/09/18 05:49 AM |
| 2 | Not having children vs. not having grand childrenWhat peers does a 2 year old have? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/09/18 12:50 PM |
| 1 | Not having children vs. not having grand childrenPersonally I want kids because I like the idea of being able to teach them, and I want to help populate the world with more intelligent, hard-working, and kind people. I see it as being like a 24/7 teacher, and I love that. Whether or not my future kids go on to have more kids doesn't really matter to me. What matters is being able to mold young minds similar to pottery. ;) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/09/18 08:38 AM |
| 6 | Is your bf more popular and accomplished than you?"She needs to feel better about herself!" ... And ? Well, if you read my comment a little more thoroughly, you'll see that I told her to stop comparing herself to her boyfriend and give me a list of things in which she wants to improve Until she replies and explains what she wants to improve, I can't give her any more advice on how to do it. ;) | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/09/18 08:05 AM |
| 9 | Is your bf more popular and accomplished than you?From your own post: In practice, self-esteem is not like wealth (more is better), but like insulin: Too little will hurt you, but so will too much. In this case, she clearly has too little. Furthermore, while I do agree that society denigrates female virtues, and she likely is feeling insecure because she doesn't realize the value she already brings, there is no harm in a woman improving herself to be more intelligent or charismatic if she feels she's significantly lacking in those departments. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/09/18 07:18 AM |
| 24 | Is your bf more popular and accomplished than you?Okay, so I was reading the first bit of this and starting to think up a response that gave an apt comparison of my boyfriend vs me. But then I got to the end of and realized this isn't really what you need to be hearing. What you need is to work on your self esteem, because feeling disappointed in yourself and insecure next to your boyfriend isn't good in the slightest. Why don't you tell me some things you're good at, and some things at which you would like to improve? Also -- for the love of g… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/09/18 06:03 AM |
| 1 | Who/what exactly are red pill women?At least in the context of my own relationship, I trust my boyfriend to make smart decisions. We have similar values, interests, and goals, and I know that he has a history of making smart decisions. I happily let him decide on some major things (major purachses, for example), because I know that he isn't going to do something foolish. I don't second guess him. However this doesn't mean I never voice my opinion on things -- if he asks me what I think about something, or if I genuinely believe so… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/09/18 05:33 PM |
| 1 | Who/what exactly are red pill women?So, I'm someone who made one of the top posts on RPW about calling my boyfriend "the captain", and I put that term in quotes because even I find the terminology a bit strange. But I understand why some people like it, because it succinctly demonstrates a relationship where the man is making a lot of major decisions. That being said, I think the term is cringey (and if a bunch of other RPW want to come here and tell me I'm wrong, they're welcome to, but it won't change by mind. ;) ) That being sa… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/09/18 05:08 PM |
| 5 | Dealing with jealousy, part twoOh definitely, I'm not going to say that all the self improvement advice on TRP is 100% without the intent of getting female interest. But at the same time, I think it's rare that self improvement is done entirely for oneself and not at least slightly inspired by wanting to be a better person for others -- this isn't just for people you want to attract, but also in how you appear to your peers etc. That being said, I think the proportion of self improvement advice on TRP vs here is skewed much m… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/09/18 01:33 PM |
| 6 | Dealing with jealousy, part twoYes! This is a great comment. It's also part of the reason why I, for a long time, found TRP more useful to me than RPW -- because the focus there is strongly rooted in self-improvement for its own benefit (not to become better for your partner, but to become better for yourself). | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/09/18 02:22 PM |
| 15 | Last shot at making it work with bf [27]What kinds of things are you bringing up, generally? If they are actually major issues that need to be resolved, and he's unwilling to resolve them, that's clearly a big problem. If, however, they're just minor things that don't demand discussion, then here are some posts that should help you out: STFU, Bring your problem, not your solution, Making requests, Respect, Ending arguments, Dealing with jealousy. Finally, take a look at the sidebar in general, and see if there are any other posts ther… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/09/18 12:09 PM |
| 9 | Need help: Straight girl attracts lesbiansHey there, how you doin'? ;) Kidding. :D Can you give us some more info about your behaviour? For example, do you make a lot of eye contact with and smile at other women? This isn't a bad thing, but it can be mistaken for "openness" to other bi or lesbian girls. Likewise, if you only smile at or make eye contact with women, try doing the same with some men as well. This may change the ratio of male:female approaches you get. As for turning down women, just be kind and polite. I know it can somet… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/09/18 06:29 AM |
| 5 | Opposite Sex FriendsI have male friends. My boyfriend has female friends. This poses little issue for either of us because we are open about who we talk to, our friends are aware that we're in a relationship, and in many cases we have both met the others' friends. (And the only reason this isn't "all" of the friends is because many of these friends live far from us, not because either of us is trying to hide them.) We are adults. We are capable of understanding the boundaries necessary to ensure that friendships do… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/09/18 06:44 PM |
| 1 | Bought my bf a R-rated toy after I heard he had never owned or used oneI don't think there's anything wrong with men using sex toys. Fleshlights and other things meant to simulate vaginas (or butts? I'm sure that must exist too...) have their use, just like dildos do. I have a few things of my own, but I rarely use them because I live with my boyfriend, so they don't have much use. I think the same would be the case if I got him anything of a similar nature -- might be used once or twice, or when one of us is on vacation without the other, but that's about it. On t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/09/18 01:40 PM |
| 26 | How important is the physical beauty of your potential partner(husband/father of your children)?I think average looking people can have gorgeous babies, and vice-versa. So if you're specifically thinking, "I need a hot man to have beautiful babies," you may not necessarily get the perfect-looking children you hope for in that way. Some examples -- my best friend is very good looking, but her parents are (and always have been) very average looking people. Not necessarily "ugly", but nothing to write home about either. Or, on the other end of the spectrum, my boyfriend and his parents are ve… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/09/18 01:27 PM |
| 5 | Do NOT give into wondering “what else is out there” (AKA hypergamy). A warning.The plural of anecdote is not data. I have no idea what this was in response to, but this line cracked me up. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/09/18 01:05 PM |
| 2 | Weekly meal planningWith pleasure! This was the final product. I'm really into foraging, so if you don't have the precise ingredients I used, I'll note some easier-to-find subsitiutions. For the pesto: small handful of hazelnuts (untoasted) and beechnuts (toasted) (can use all hazelnuts or all pine nuts, depending on what's easier to get) small handful of basil leaves and a LARGE handful of wood sorrel -- you want a 30/70 split of basil to sorrel -- (leaves only, or subsitute "regular" sorrel that you can find at t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/09/18 08:42 AM |
| 6 | Please Help. Made my Boyfriend Cry Today.I believe it was /u/girlwithabike who said that women (sometimes) need to choose whether they want the man or the marriage. So -- which one is it that you want? Do you want to be with him, even if that means not having a man who is excited about marriage, or do you want to leave him and attempt finding another man who is as excited about marriage as you are? Which is more important to you? The man, or the marriage? | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/09/18 04:30 PM |
| 3 | Weekly meal planningI so admire people who make meal plans! I love to cook but I've never bothered with actually setting up a rigid plan for the week; my boyfriend and I go shopping together, get a few staples (we always have vegetables, some meats or fish, and pie crusts), and then if one of us has an idea for a specific meal we want that involves things we don't usually buy, we'll get that as well ... but nobody has ever bothered with actually making a plan. So really I have little to add, but I'm lurking this th… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/09/18 03:36 PM |
| 1 | What's for dinner?My boyfriend and I recently took a trip to the city (we live about an hour out, in the countryside) and decided to make the most of our time there by going to the Asian grocery store, since any kind of non-European food is ridiculously hard to find out in the middle of nowhere. We went a little bit crazy and ended up coming home with two big bags worth of spices and teas and oils and vinegars and every possible thing we could ever need. So last night, inspired by our bounty, we made pho! A quick… | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/08/18 10:13 AM |
| 5 | Own Your StuffWhat is it with men not liking soup?! I told my boyfriend I wanted to make soup this winter and he looked at me like I has grown another head.. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/08/18 07:17 PM |
| – | Homemaking: Tips, Tricks & QuestionsI do love orchids ... my boyfriend's grandmother gave us one a while ago, and while it isn't dead yet, it's only bloomed once so far... A few weeks ago my boyfriend was really gung-ho about us trying to grow vanilla orchids, but let's be honest, that would probably be a nearly impossible feat. :P | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/08/18 01:41 PM |
| 7 | Bf wants to take things "slow and casual"Yes, people can fix their mistakes. But a mistake cannot be fixed by jumping from one bad relationship to another. And a mistake certainly cannot be rectified and a relationship improved when one party of the relationship isn't interested in it. A relationship takes two people. Right now your relationship with Will is completely one-sided, and I think you know this. Nothing you can do can fix this, because it isn't something that time, effort, or love can fix. Why? Because the problem is your pa… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/08/18 01:22 PM |
| 7 | Privacy and vulnerability questionEveryone is entitled to privacy. Unless he has some suspicion that you're cheating and specifically asks in order to verify, I don't think you have any need to provide this to him. Likewise, unless you suspect cheating, you shouldn't really have access to all his private things. If at some point you get married, then I can understand each having complete access to devices, but that still doesn't mean he's automatically allowed to read your journal if you don't want. You are allowed privacy and b… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/08/18 05:37 PM |
| 13 | When he says I feel badI'm not sure what you seek to gain by complaining about him here. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/08/18 01:41 PM |
| 1 | Would you marry the ideal man... who wanted to be polyamorous?Sounds like a woman giving up a whole lot in order to get very little in return. If both parties are engaging in the same behaviour I can understand the appeal, even if it isn't personally for me. But expecting a woman to remain faithful to a man who isn't? Absolutely not. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/08/18 07:44 PM |
| – | Homemaking: Tips, Tricks & QuestionsOoh, that looks very pretty! I'll definitely be looking into it. I'm trying to get a garden going that will be in bloom all year long (minus the winter and late autumn, of course). But this seems like something that will be pretty even when not flowering, so I'm even more interested in planting it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/08/18 01:28 PM |
| – | Homemaking: Tips, Tricks & QuestionsI just wanted to take a moment to say that I removed what seemed like a whole damn bottle of red wine from one of my boyfriend's shirts yesterday, and I feel so proud of myself. :P The fabric was white, so I used a particular gel bleach soap that's sufficiently delicate to not ruin the fabric, and I washed the whole thing out by hand. It took a good 45 minutes ... Next time he's drinking wine I'll be making sure he's topless first! And now, a question: does anyone have favourite flowers to grow … | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/08/18 10:57 AM |
| 1 | My hamster is spinning out of control -- someone smack some sense into meGreat advice, thank you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/08/18 10:38 AM |
| 2 | My hamster is spinning out of control -- someone smack some sense into meThank you! This is a great comment and you explained things very well. Even if it isn't his full-time job, you are right that it is still a job that he has, and of course he wants to be able to put all the necessary effort into it without distraction. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/08/18 10:37 AM |
| 1 | My hamster is spinning out of control -- someone smack some sense into meThank you! I definitely didn't and wouldn't nag or complain, but you are right that the best thing I can do is give him a good experience before he leaves -- and I plan to do so. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/08/18 10:36 AM |
| 2 | My hamster is spinning out of control -- someone smack some sense into meThank you! This is a really great way of explaining things and I appreciate it a lot. While I have met the members of his band before, you're right that my presence would change the dynamic, and I hadn't even thought of that. Even if you know you would be low-maintenance, he'd still feel the need to ensure you're taken care of. I'd give him space to re-establish his performance rhythm. Practice probably put a lot on his mind, too, and he probably did feel he didn't have the capacity to exert ene… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/08/18 10:35 AM |
| 2 | My hamster is spinning out of control -- someone smack some sense into meHe pretty much explained it as exactly this when we spoke later. Thank you, this is one of the best replies I received. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/08/18 10:31 AM |
| 2 | My hamster is spinning out of control -- someone smack some sense into meThank you! This is exactly the kind of advice I needed, and believe me I have taken it to heart and read it quite a few times. I knew from the beginning, rationally, that he wasn't going to cheat on me. Frankly, a concert isn't even the best way to do that, even if he was (he is playing last, meaning he can't drink beforehand, will likely be spending the time stressing, and once the show is over will be exhausted and I have my doubts that he and the rest of his bandmates would do much more than … | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/08/18 10:30 AM |
| 1 | My hamster is spinning out of control -- someone smack some sense into meThank you! This was incredibly helpful advice. And I'm glad your personal similar experience turned out well :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/08/18 10:25 AM |
| – | What's for dinner?Let me know how you enjoy it and how it turns out - both your first batch and the future Skyrim ones! ;) | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/07/18 03:42 PM |
| – | What's for dinner?I love this thread idea! I've been doing some experimenting in the kitchen lately, and so far my experiments have been pretty successful -- I made rose petal jelly, elderberry cordial, and I'm in the process of pickling the unripe berries of my bay laurel tree. My hope is that they'll turn into little bay-flavoured olives, but without the pit. In terms of actual meals, I made pesto with a mortar and pestle for the first time. I thought this would be much more difficult and time consuming than it… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/07/18 10:12 AM |
| – | What's for dinner?Welcome to the wonderful world of fermentation... soon you'll be making all sorts of funky fermented things ;) Plain sauerkraut is great. It's also good with juniper berries, black peppercorns, and mustard seeds (but probably not all at the same time, lol!) | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/07/18 08:20 AM |
| – | What's for dinner?I love making sauerkraut! What do you plan on using it with? And what did you add as seasoning (if anything)? | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/07/18 06:33 PM |
| 21 | From Plate to WifeI think part of the reason this was a success was because you didn't go into this relationship thinking, "if I sleep with him, I will get him to commit!", which is where I think a lot of women who want to go from plate to something more are failing. They got themselves into that position because they thought they could naturally move up, but that kind of thing is hard to do, and isn't easily going to be done by what is essentially being disingenuous and playing games (sleeping with someone as a … | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/07/18 06:29 PM |
| 2 | What's new on RPWThis all looks so amazing! The chat room is such a lovely idea, and I've been happily perusing the new and improved sidebar with great pleasure. I also noticed that I appear a few times in there... Ladies and gentlemen, please be patient and respectful as you queue for my autograph. ;) | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/07/18 03:01 PM |
| 0 | Do you drink alcohol?Drinking alcohol fairly regularly isn't the same thing as getting drunk fairly regularly. If a man is repulsed by the idea of a woman having a glass of wine with a meal (for example), that is a very weak and ridiculous man. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/07/18 06:08 PM |
| 3 | Do you drink alcohol?I'm drinking a lovely anis liqueur as I type this, so I think that should answer the main question... ;) Here's the thing - a lot of people tent to think that "drinking" = "getting drunk", but this is often not the case. When I finish my drink, for example, I won't even feel a buzz, because that's not the point of why I'm drinking! (I'm drinking it because it's refreshing and tastes good.) But more to the point, there is nothing inherently feminine about not drinking. If it were inherently femin… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/07/18 06:05 PM |
| 1 | Meeting Men During Free Time?I have no experience with match.com, so maybe it is better quality than most others (because of the payment), but a willingness to pay for an online dating site does not necessarily make a man high value! It may just mean he is desperate, for whatever reason. OP should be aware that not everyone on a paying site is going to be high value, and some may just be there because they think that by paying they'll get more results where normally they would get none. That being said, I do agree that onli… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/07/18 01:57 PM |
| 12 | No more "no" JulyYes, that's exactly what I meant! Obviously if he's looking for input or suggestions about things, I'm not going to just say, "oh, do whatever you like!", because I think that would just annoy both of us. But I know that when he suggests specific things for us to do ("How about we watch a movie tonight?" "What if we made sushi?") it's because it's something he wants, but doesn't want to force me into doing something if I really don't want to. Sometimes I'll say no because I'm just a bit "meh" ab… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/07/18 05:33 PM |
| 2 | Thoughts on Abstinence?You're going to be famous, everyone will know and love you, your words will live on for all eternity, going down with the greats. Wow, thank you, I am so honoured. ;) | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/07/18 02:36 PM |
| 1 | Thoughts on Abstinence?Ooh, what's happening later? | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/07/18 02:24 PM |
| 14 | Thoughts on Abstinence?There is no objectively right or wrong way to go about sex. People need to do what feels right for them, but they also need to be aware that any decision they make has potential risks and repurcussions. Want to have sex on the first date? Go ahead. But be aware that there are a lot of guys who will judge you negatively for it. Conversely, if you want to make him wait X amount of time before sleeping together, feel free. But you also need to be aware that there are a lot of guys who won't put up … | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/07/18 11:32 AM |
| 29 | How do you know if you’re boring?Far more important than constantly doing new and exciting things are having a set of hobbies that you tend to regularly (if you don't have anything other than reading, cooking, and the gym, I'd suggest you look into something else as well to make you a bit more well-rounded; add something creative to the list, eg. music/dance/art/writing, and you're good to go), and being able to maintain an interesting conversation with people. If you don't have things to say, people will consider you boring! T… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/07/18 08:08 AM |
| 10 | Field Report: My first relationship since discovering RPW.Firstly, congratulations, I'm very happy for you! :) This was so sweet to read. Secondly, let's get down to business with your question. So, while I don't personally have a lot of experience with long distance, my best friend is in a long distance relationship at the moment, and so I'm going to give you some tips based on what I've seen work for them. Firstly -- you're right that you don't want to be bombarding him constantly with demands for attention. The best thing to do would be to set a sch… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/06/18 06:33 AM |
| 3 | Sex is currencygenuinely hilarious comment | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/06/18 05:39 AM |
| 3 | First Harvest! Grew them organically from seed.Just wanted to say -- if you have a lot of radishes, you can also let a few go to seed. The pods are edible as well, and are really quite tasty! | /r/RedPillWives | 21/06/18 01:24 PM |
| 4 | How would you over to a guy's place without sleeping with him?I once was out at a bar with a (male) friend of mine. He knew I was in a relationship and I had told him before going out that he couldn't stay over at my place because 1. I didn't have an extra bed or couch and 2. my boyfriend wasn't okay with it. (And even if he had been okay with it, I didn't particularly want him over anyway.) He agreed to this, said he'd stay elsewhere, and all was well. Until it started getting late in the night, the drinks were flowing, and he asked if we could go back to… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/06/18 10:14 AM |
| 3 | First Harvest! Grew them organically from seed.Looks wonderful! Growing from seed is always so satisfying. (And frustrating when things don't germinate ... but mostly satisfying ;) ) | /r/RedPillWives | 21/06/18 09:13 AM |
| 35 | How would you over to a guy's place without sleeping with him?Be upfront about the fact that you don't feel comfortable staying the night at his place/having him stay the night at yours. However, if you particularly want him to come over in order to do a particular activity that cannot be done elsewhere, then invite him over during the day. Don't just invite him over or accept to go over if the only "plan" is to "hang out". That's not a plan. If you want to invite him over for dinner, and not during the day, plan to do something afterwards that will take y… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/06/18 07:44 AM |
| 3 | How to be the hostess with the mostest?I just want to add a few things, because my boyfriend and I host a lot of grill parties in spring and summer: If you want a sit-down meal indoors, one of the easiest things to do if you have only a handful of people attending (as is your case), is to make steaks and/or sausages -- this way there's not a lot of fuss about hamburger toppings, and the meal seems a bit fancier if you're having steaks. ;) You'll obviously need some vegetables, and I find it's easy to pick a handful of good-on-the-gri… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/06/18 06:29 AM |
| 6 | How to be the hostess with the mostest?This is a very good point. OP should also be looking at whether she wants this to be more informal, backyard barbecue type thing, where people will be eating outside, drinking beers, etc; or slightly more formal, where the food will be cooked outside (maybe with some snacks and beers outdoors as this is happening), but the actual dinner will take place inside. An outdoor meal can involve standing around and eating, for example. An indoor meal may need, as other people said, specific place settin… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/06/18 05:15 PM |
| 2 | Ideas for work lunches/snacks for my husband?Just a tip -- if you're peeling and coring apples, save the remnants, boil them in a big pot of water with cinnamon, honey, and maybe some cloves, and it makes a really wonderful drink. You can do it ahead of time (while the cake is baking), then strain everything out and reheat it later. I do this every time I need to peel and core apples and/or pears, and it's just heavenly. Plus ... the smell! | /r/RedPillWives | 19/06/18 12:55 PM |
| 2 | Ideas for work lunches/snacks for my husband?If you like cookies, I'd be happy to give you my grandmother's recipe for susamelle. They're a traditional Italian Christmas cookie, but she makes them differently than most people (they're TRIPLE CHOCOLATE) and spiced. I tend to make more pies than cakes in fall/winter to use up all the apples, but I would also very heartily recommend this recipe, as I've made it many times and it is delicious. | /r/RedPillWives | 19/06/18 12:31 PM |
| 2 | Ideas for work lunches/snacks for my husband?Thank you! :D | /r/RedPillWives | 19/06/18 12:08 PM |
| 25 | Is this normal in the US?Is he currently working? No matter what the situation is, I don't believe anyone should be relying 100% on their partner at the time of marriage unless both parties are fully on board with this (eg. having a stay-at-home partner). Getting a degree in physics may be enjoyable for him, but in terms of job prospects, it isn't the greatest. If physics is his passion, there are many ways he can go about getting a degree while still working (part-time study, for example). If he needs a degree to get a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/06/18 11:34 AM |
| 2 | What is the point of this page?This post contributes nothing of use. Are you just trying to start drama? Are you that bored? | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/06/18 06:32 AM |
| 3 | Online dating has a problem when the most feminine and attractive woman in the area is a transwoman.I think there's far too much cattiness between women when there should be camaraderie--I don't like engaging in judging other women when we are usually our own worst critics. This is a great point, and well said (as usual). /u/pearlsandstilettos, I'd like to give a star for this comment; every comment I've seen from her prior has been great, and this is no exception. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/06/18 02:10 PM |
| 11 | Online dating has a problem when the most feminine and attractive woman in the area is a transwoman.There is little to be gained from a post that essentially amounts to a humblebrag about how much better looking you are than the majority of other women in your area. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/06/18 12:47 PM |
| 2 | Accountability thread! What did you do to make your home a better place today?I found this chart which may also be helpful, in case nothing else I've suggested works for you. | /r/RedPillWives | 18/06/18 11:34 AM |
| 2 | Ideas for work lunches/snacks for my husband?Well, we live in a pretty humid area, so it's possible that this helps keeps cakes moist for longer periods of time. We've never had a cake last longer than a week, though! At the start of the year, I decided I'd be baking a different cake each week, so at this point (plus the fact that I was still baking previously, albeit less often) I have a decent base of things that work well, recipes to go back to, and things that are on the "oh hell no" list. If you want any recipes, I'd be happy to provi… | /r/RedPillWives | 18/06/18 11:26 AM |
| 6 | Ideas for work lunches/snacks for my husband?What I do for my boyfriend isn't necessarily the most exciting or creative, but I do think it's the easiest and most practical. Essentially, I just make enough of the previous night's dinner so that he can bring it the next day for lunch. This way he's sure to be having a balanced meal, there's no need to rush to prepare anything in the morning, or anything extra the night before. And so far he hasn't been sick of eating the same thing two days in a row. :P (For example, last night's dinner/toda… | /r/RedPillWives | 18/06/18 08:07 AM |
| 5 | Hurt by husband: Where to go from here?I don't read this as him wanting an open relationship so much as him just wanting to be able to flirt without consequences. If they haven't discussed an open relationship, there is no open relationship (and if that is what he wants and he hasn't discussed it with her, he's going about it in the wrong way). Not to mention the fact that she isn't necessarily going to be interested in one in the first place. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/06/18 10:12 AM |
| 6 | Hurt by husband: Where to go from here?I’d take up similar flirting and relationships with other men, to make up for the lack of companionship. I understand where you're coming from here, but I don't think that engaging in this kind of behaviour would ultimately be helpful. Nothing is gained by sinking to his level. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/06/18 09:51 AM |
| 2 | Go To Kitchen Staples- What Ingredients & Tools Do You Have To Always Have On Hand?Ah okay. Most dairy products where I am aren't pasteurized ... I wondered if I was doing something dangerous by accident! | /r/RedPillWives | 15/06/18 07:38 AM |
| 2 | Go To Kitchen Staples- What Ingredients & Tools Do You Have To Always Have On Hand?I used to love drinking raw milk but now that I'm sexually active, despite the IUD, I just don't want to risk it. What's the correlation between raw milk and sexual activity? | /r/RedPillWives | 15/06/18 06:14 AM |
| 2 | Accountability thread! What did you do to make your home a better place today?If it's growing out of water, then we have 3 main options: either there's been a significant change in temperature, it's not getting enough light, or (probably the most likely if the plant is indoors) it's lacking nutrients. When is the last time you fertilized it? Likewise with the jasmine. I think your first step should be giving them some fertilizer and being sure the jasmine is getting the right amount of water. If the leaves are falling off the jasmine, you're probably right that it's the c… | /r/RedPillWives | 15/06/18 06:12 AM |
| 1 | Tarot Tuesday: The RebootThank you! | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/06/18 06:03 AM |
| 2 | RE: Fighting ResentmentI think many others have given great advice about how to get the ball rolling to have him contribute more/more consistently around the house. The only thing I will add is that when he does begin to do more, make sure you acknowledge it and thank him. Someone who feels like their contributions are being seen and appreciated is much more likely to continue being helpful! | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/06/18 01:00 PM |
| 4 | Accountability thread! What did you do to make your home a better place today?What kind of plants do you have, and what's happening to them? Yellow leaves often represent water stress -- either too much, or too little. Brown tipped leaves are a sure sign the plant isn't getting enough water. | /r/RedPillWives | 14/06/18 09:29 AM |
| 4 | I'm not really sure how to phrase this question so I guess I'll just ask for feedback on my situation.Let me put this very simply for you. He does not want biological children. His mind was made up long ago, and you cannot make him change it. He's had a vasectomy. Consider his decision final. You want children. You want children enough that you made a post asking for advice about how you can convince this man to have children with you. You cannot convince him of this. Period. There is no wiggle room, no "but maybe if I present things in a different light, maybe if we move, maybe if I give up all… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/06/18 07:21 AM |
| 12 | Getting too comfortable?If the reason you have granny panties are period-related, do what I do: toss those ugly things out, and use your old-but-still-cute underwear as the new period panties. Obviously you should become more comfortable around each other as time goes on, but don't mistake "it's okay if I don't always wear makeup when I'm just lounging around the house" with "I'm going to start dressing like a slob, forgoing showers, skipping wax appointments, and not doing my hair". Plus -- unless you were already in … | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/06/18 05:38 AM |
| 2 | I want to love my man's parents...but they bore me to death.Another commenter mentioned bringing a puzzle -- this is a great idea. Even any sort of (not too competitive, unless you find out they're into those kinds of games) board game can help provide entertainment and a bonding experience. I would also try to get to know them a bit better, perhaps by asking some questions about their particular hobbies or interests. Maybe you've already done this and know what they like, but if not, you may find something in common that will make these visits more pala… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/06/18 05:31 AM |
| 1 | Tarot Tuesday: The RebootCiao from your neighbour to the north. ;) Here's my question: What should I be working on to deal with insecurity within my relationship? | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/06/18 08:32 AM |
| 2 | Back to the basics - feminismBut now that they're as high as 60-70% of degree seekers in colleges, where's the concern about men? About equality? I find it interesting that you bring this up, because it actually is a concern within feminist circles in academia. It probably doesn't get as much attention from outsiders looking in, because that kind of "let's help men!" stuff often gets overshadowed by the extremely radical viewpoints we so often hear about. I work/study in academia and this kind of thing does get brought up. … | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/06/18 03:48 PM |
| 1 | tips on decorating a couple's apt/houseHave you considered the kind of "art" that you can make? Things that display small, interesting objects you've collected from various places, for example. I like to collect shells, so I found a deep-set frame and made my own "art" with the best of the ones I'd collected. This can work for pretty much anything that isn't too big -- feathers, pressed flowers/leaves, interesting fossilized things -- and it has the added bonus of being a conversation piece, because it's something you made. Old poste… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/06/18 06:02 AM |
| -1 | I can't get over that my GF was the "unicorn" to two threesomes.I don't think this is necessarily the right place to be posting this, so I assume the mods will be by soon to remove it. But before that happens, let me just say that, as with any other sexual act, most (healthy) people would go into it because it's something they find appealing. Maybe this was a long standing fantasy of hers that she wanted to fulfill. However, as with anything, you're allowed to decide what things are dealbreakers in your relationship. If this isn't something you feel that you… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/06/18 09:39 AM |
| 23 | 21, I'm still unable to find a relationshipDon't use your gender as an excuse for why you can't deal with rejection. I'm a woman. I've been rejected before and have handled it far better than you have. If someone says no to you, and you want to get angry and start saying "why? What's wrong with you?", just block him instead. Prevent yourself from acting this way. Try joining social clubs at your university. There is probably one for whatever subject you're majoring in. Use it not only to make new friends but to meet people with similar i… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/06/18 05:01 PM |
| 21 | Not college, not career... what else?This is exactly right. Also consider the fact that teachers have degrees in teaching. Just having a child doesn't automatically make someone a suitable educator. /u/prettyinpinkpill, if this is really what you want to do, you should look into early childhood education programs. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/06/18 04:47 PM |
| 52 | 21, I'm still unable to find a relationshipHonestly? You're not going about ANY of this the right way. You say you want a serious relationship but you're searching for men at clubs and on tinder. You say you want a serious relationship but you go on dates to clubs and bars. You say you want a serious relationship but you spend your time getting drunk with your dates instead of forming actual bonds and getting to know them. Delete tinder. Don't go on dates with men you meet at clubs. Try other dating websites if you like online dating. Tr… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/06/18 04:41 PM |
| 2 | Say it once, then let it beThank you so much for this comment! It put a huge smile on my face as I was reading. :) I absolutely agree with you --the fact of the matter is that for many people, marriage is no longer a necessity for longterm/lifelong commitment, and as a result, marriage is something that needs to be fully discussed and understood by both parties, especially if they both have differing ideas on its necessity. congrats on going after your master's! Thank you! :D | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/06/18 09:19 AM |
| 1 | Theory on Threesomes ?I think most other commenters have touched on the most important aspects -- make sure you're doing this for the right reasons, make sure you've thought thoroughly about all possible aspects of this (and what could go wrong), etc. So I won't go on repeating these things. Instead I want to give you a bit of advice, if you do go through with it, for picking the girl. Firstly, I wholeheartedly agree with /u/almostsurrendered that a professional is likely the best way to go about this. However, if fo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/06/18 09:14 AM |
| 1 | Say it once, then let it beI like to think I'm a pretty chill person, but not quite that much, haha! | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/06/18 12:26 PM |
| 1 | Say it once, then let it beI saw your other comment and I understand where you're coming from, so let me just preface this by saying that if this had been a more pressing issue, I would have handled things differently (more like how you suggested), but for the time being I still have a number of years here before I need to consider how I can stay in the country permanently, so being laid-back was fine for me. He didn't initially express much of anything, just accepted what I said and we went on with our lives. Because mar… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/06/18 11:55 AM |
| 3 | No hymen = No diamond.Maybe when you try to give us links that apparently support your positions, you should actually read them first, since this was the takeaway from one of them: Whether or not your current relationship will last has less to do with how wild your past was, and more to do with how pleasant, faithful, and accommodating you are in the future. And anyway, nobody is going to force you to marry someone who isn't a virgin if you don't want to. Your personal preferences have little to do with the rest of u… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/06/18 06:17 AM |
| 2 | Cooking/ Baking with Enticing ScentsI've done it with ginger and nutmeg, never added cinnamon to the mix as well. Perhaps next time! I don't make much soup anymore because my boyfriend hates it ("I'll eat soup when I'm old and don't have teeth anymore"), but one day when I'm indulging myself/he's not around... | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/06/18 01:41 PM |
| 2 | Cooking/ Baking with Enticing ScentsAnd ginger in the soup, depending on what kind it is. Pumpkin soup with lots of ginger? Oh yeah, baby! | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/06/18 12:37 PM |
| 14 | Cooking/ Baking with Enticing ScentsAs a general rule, aromatics are the things that add the most (pleasant) aromas when cooking -- things like herbs, spices, anything in the alium family (onion, garlic, leek, etc) are going to make whatever you're cooking or baking smell (and taste) great. This may be helpful for you. Baking with things like cinnamon, cloves, nutmeg, and allspice will add wonderful aromas, and these all go well with apples, pears, quince, pumpkin, carrots (so try making apple/pear/quince pie, pumpkin cookies, car… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/06/18 07:45 AM |
| 8 | Saying yes to sex even when you aren’t in the moodIf you're only having sex for 10 minutes and because you feel like you have to or he'll leave you, that sounds incredibly unfulfilling for both parties | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/05/18 08:46 PM |
| 2 | A high SMV alpha who prefers overweight womenYes, of course SMV is relative. But the point I'm trying to make is that if you make any decision to change yourself, it should be out of desire to improve. If you genuinely think that gaining weight/changing your body is going to objectively improve you (eg. if you lose fat but gain muscle), then go ahead. However, I strongly advise against doing anything that is objectively unhealthy just with the intent to get a man. I wouldn't recommend you pick up smoking because the men you like are intere… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/05/18 04:15 PM |
| 2 | A high SMV alpha who prefers overweight womenChanging yourself for one specific man who may or may not date you even if you do make these changes -- changes which you are aware are not necessarily healthy and go against your better judgement (hence why you feel conflicted) -- is not a good idea. Period. If you want to change yourself, do it out of a true desire to become better and improve yourself. Don't gain weight just because you want a chance with one specific guy who happens to like a different and potentially unhealthy body type. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/05/18 04:03 PM |
| 8 | Seduction in a relationship: how?How exactly do you try to initiate right now? It may be easier to critique your current technique instead of trying to give you a whole new way of doing things. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/05/18 01:57 PM |
| 1 | Dread for women...what? | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/05/18 10:40 AM |
| 5 | Close male friend vs emotional affairDoes my value as an EC go down the more my s-count increases? ;P | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/05/18 06:20 AM |
| 6 | Am I being soft nexted or hard nexted?This is not the kind of person you want to be in a relationship with. He's lied to you twice (about rather major things) in the span of a month and a half. This is the time when you should both be on your best behaviour. That being said, you are also not the kind of person someone would want to be in a relationship with. You seem overly invested, overly emotional, and clingy. When someone says they need space, give them space! You need to be working on yourself and especially your self-esteem, i… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/05/18 02:32 PM |
| 4 | Close male friend vs emotional affairIn fact this comment is so perfect that I have informed u/pearlsandstilettos that I would like to pop my star-giving cherry for it. :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/05/18 02:19 PM |
| 12 | Close male friend vs emotional affairThis is really the perfect comment. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/05/18 10:04 AM |
| 4 | Back to the basics - SMVI think it's a bit misguided to assume that someone with "fancy" nails gets them done at a salon/that they cost a lot of money. I have done some pretty intricate, detailed things with my nails; I do them all myself and I don't spend much money on them at all. I'm also not the only person who does this; nail art is quite a big thing and it really isn't an expensive hobby. It just looks like one. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/05/18 12:32 PM |
| 12 | Being feminine despite ... bodily urgesPeeing after sex is a must, peeing before sex is sometimes useful. If this makes you feel any better -- last night I interrupted some sex to go pee. ("This is great, but if we keep going I might pee on you; I'll be right back.") It's not a big deal, especially if you feel comfortable with the person you're with. As for your UTI, are you getting enough water throughout the day? I tend to have that problem come up if I don't drink enough over the course of a few days. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/05/18 10:09 AM |
| 3 | Dread for womenI understand what you're saying, and I tried my best in the post to subtly include the fact that not every women is going to be "charmed" by male dread, and that it can definitely backfire if done poorly. That being said, I'm not sure if the point is necessarily for a man to make the woman actually like him more, so much as for him to inspire her to put in more effort. For example, Dan and Jane are dating, and Jane notices that Laura has been flirting with Dan (and Dan has not crossed any lines … | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/05/18 06:03 AM |
| 2 | Dread for womenI'm not sure I could really speak to whether men find women more attractive if they've turned a lot of people down. It seems like it could be the case, but I'm not a guy so anything I say would just be supposition! | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/05/18 05:57 AM |
| 19 | Being one of the guys be and being feminine.RPW isn't a list of ways to act, what jokes you're allowed to make, what things you can find funny, what words you are and aren't allowed to say, how loudly you're supposed to speak, or whatever. If your personality is soft-spoken, never swearing, disgusted by bodily functions, and refusing to talk about certain things, then you do you. However that doesn't inherently make anyone feminine, and trying to change your personality to fit in with a certain group of people (either to act more feminine… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/05/18 05:54 AM |
| 6 | Dread for womenYes, you're absolutely right about that. However, the 12 levels of dread are generally more to be used in LTRs (failing ones, at that!). My post is more about women trying to attract and seduce a man initially, by trying to show abundance and practice dread (the kind of dread that starts at level 5/6). Of course, once in a relationship it's possible that a woman will feel like she needs to do something to make him recognize how lucky he is. But most of the time, it's women attempting to get a re… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/05/18 07:11 AM |
| 20 | Dread for womenThank you. Truth be told I speak from personal experience. I spent a lot of time on TRP (years) before I found this sub. And while some of the advice there is definitely gender neutral, some things, like dread game, are absolutely not applicable to women. I learned the hard way so the rest of you don't have to. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/05/18 05:55 PM |
| 2 | If it bothers you do somethingOf course! I absolutely agree with that :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/05/18 08:52 AM |
| 2 | If it bothers you do somethingSome might ... but it's not as if every man in the world is incapable of cleaning. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/05/18 08:44 AM |
| 1 | How to Weekend with Crush (who wants to impregnate me?)In person it will be too late, on top of that. You want him to be aware before the weekend, and before he sees you. Whether you send him a message or call him, it's whatever you feel more comfortable with. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/05/18 06:16 AM |
| 4 | How to Weekend with Crush (who wants to impregnate me?)Just be open and honest with him. There's no reason to be coy or play games. This is something serious and important to you (you even say you won't have sex if you're not trying to get pregnant), so don't lead him on (so to speak) by having him think you're interested in something that clearly isn't what you want to do. I would send him a message now, something along the lines of, "I have enjoyed our flirting a lot, but I want you to know something I consider very important..." and just tell him… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/05/18 05:55 AM |
| 4 | How to Weekend with Crush (who wants to impregnate me?)Um, I think you might be reading way too much into this. I highly doubt he is actually trying to get you pregnant. This seems more like sexual flirtation gone wrong. Be forthright that you're a virgin and not interested in having sex before marriage. Gauge whether or not you'll see him over the weekend based on his response to that (if he responds negatively or by trying to cajole you, avoid him, he only wants you for sex. If he responds positively/respectfully, go ahead and keep your plans). | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/05/18 05:35 AM |
| 10 | If it bothers you do somethingMen do not live in a state of perpetual squalor until a woman comes and decides to clean everything up for him. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/05/18 05:26 AM |
| 3 | Should men and women who are friends be alone together?He even gets territorial, you guys are just the cutest 😂 | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/05/18 05:07 PM |
| 1 | Should men and women who are friends be alone together?😏 wanna come supervise my boyfriend and I? | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/05/18 02:25 PM |
| 8 | Should men and women who are friends be alone together?If you're a man, you have to be crazy to be alone with a woman who you aren't married to. Are you advocating that couples don't have premarital sex, or that all premarital sex be orgies? :P | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/05/18 01:21 PM |
| 8 | Should men and women who are friends be alone together?There are no blanket rules on whether people can or can't spend time together, or how to do it, or whatever. It all depends on the context. I would say that generally if, as you're saying, both people are in a committed relationship, if they're hanging out alone together, that's fine provided both of their partners are okay with it. The closest thing to a rule I can give is that if one (or both) friends feels like they need to hide what they're doing, that's a sign they shouldn't be doing it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/05/18 12:56 PM |
| 8 | Can men and women be friends?I do believe men and women can be friends. I don't, however, believe that all men and women can be friends, just like all people of the same gender can't be friends, albeit usually for different reasons. I have a number of male friends, many of whom I've known for a fair number of years. I wouldn't say that any of them are my 'best friend', but I am definitely close to a few of them. We met because of shared hobbies and interests. I'm interested in some things that are typically 'masculine', and… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/05/18 06:00 AM |
| 18 | who should text firstIf you're trying to test your boyfriend to see how long it will take for him to text you first, it's a bad idea. Don't set up secret, covert tests. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/05/18 05:30 AM |
| 2 | Preparing to move in togetherThe fish recipe is in my opinion an example of something that's so much greater than the sum of its parts. It's just 5 ingredients, but every time I make it for people, it impresses. And on top of that, super quick and easy. Once you get the perfect ratio of dijon/cream/nutmeg for your tastes, you can whip this up in no time. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/05/18 06:45 PM |
| 2 | Preparing to move in togetherI don't think jeans are absolutely necessary, especially if you don't find them comfortable. Leggings can definitely be cute if paired with a nicer top or a casual dress (which, yes, get more of if you like them!). I think dresses are great because not only is a flatteringly-cut dress always attractive, it's also much simpler in terms of getting an outfit ready -- a dress, maybe a sweater over top, and you're good to go. As an inherently lazy person, I appreciate this. Plants are definitely enou… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/05/18 07:28 AM |
| 9 | Destroyed my man’s respect and attraction to meYou consider the fact that a man you're in a relationship with is cheating on you a normal thing? Was this something you came to an agreement on before, or did you just think this was something you had to accept in a relationship? If the latter -- honey, no. I saw your other comment where you said he wants you two to separate. I say good riddance. Work on yourself, be single for a while, and leave this man behind where he belongs. Then when you're ready you can find someone who won't expect you … | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/05/18 10:47 AM |
| 5 | Destroyed my man’s respect and attraction to meIt sounds a lot like you're having some mental health issues, inspired by, inspiring, or in tangent with what's going on with your relationship. Loss of appetite, high levels of stress, sudden weight loss, lack of self-care and self-love ... truth be told, I think you need to work on your own mental health before you start trying to work on your relationship -- especially because if the root of the problem is your mental health, improving that will improve the relationship as a result. You menti… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/05/18 07:45 AM |
| -2 | Study: Multiple sexual partners, cohabitation may lead to decreased marital satisfaction in womensort of believe that a good sex life is key to a good relationship/marriage (not the only, but incredibly important). Compatibility (in all areas -- sexual, mental, emotional, etc) is the most important thing in a relationship. Not love, compatibility. Because no matter how much two people might care about each other, if they're incompatible in one area or another, you best believe that relationship isn't going to be a happy one down the line. Without compatibility, one partner (or even both) wi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/05/18 07:37 AM |
| 14 | Preparing to move in togetherI think that's something the sub is pretty divided on, actually. But I wouldn't say the general rule is "don't live together before marriage!" so much as "if you want to get married, make sure you're both looking for the same thing before you move in together." | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/05/18 06:53 AM |
| 10 | Preparing to move in togetherFirstly, congratulations! This is en exciting moment and I'm happy for you! Secondly, I think I can provide some good insight for you, as I'm in a similar situation (right down to working from home as well). The main thing is that I want you to be aware that there will likely be a period of time where things don't go perfectly smoothly, and that's okay. You're getting used to living together, to seeing each other's quirks, to seeing each other even when you're in bad moods or not feeling well, a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/05/18 06:47 AM |
| 7 | Study: Multiple sexual partners, cohabitation may lead to decreased marital satisfaction in womenI don't think this comment should be down-voted, this is a legitimately interesting question and I'd be curious about the information as well. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/05/18 06:06 PM |
| 14 | Study: Multiple sexual partners, cohabitation may lead to decreased marital satisfaction in womenevidence supporting RPW advice against cohabitation Well, it provides evidence supporting advice against cohabitation with someone you won't go on to marry. Is there a study showing lowered satisfaction overall among couples who lived together and only with each other before marriage? | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/05/18 02:38 PM |
| 3 | Back to the basics - are women capable of love?I'm not trying to dispute the rule. I'm bringing up my personal exception for discussion. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/05/18 02:34 PM |
| 2 | Back to the basics - are women capable of love?I don't feel that way after fights, but I get where you are coming from. :-) Out of curiosity, how do you feel after fights? | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/05/18 01:42 PM |
| 4 | How you know when you're ready to start dating?Starting to date doesn't mean you take a break from working on yourself. It just means that you think you're at a place where you can be happy and comfortable in a relationship, while also aware that you are able to bring a lot of good things to it, not just baggage. If you're uncertain if you have enough to offer a potential partner, then just make a list of things you're able to provide. You can post the list as a reply if you like, and people here can try to help that way as well. Also, just … | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/05/18 01:37 PM |
| 2 | Back to the basics - are women capable of love?To be clear, I definitely don't think this is the normal reaction, but there probably are a few other people like me out there. I think it has something to do with wanting to use sex as a means of comforting him. It probably also has a lot to do with the reason why he may be crying. He's cried twice in the time i've known him, and both were as a result of very intense, emotional fights where the future of our relationship was uncertain. (Basically, he'd fucked up and he knew it. :P) I doubt that… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/05/18 01:15 PM |
| 6 | Back to the basics - are women capable of love?If a woman cries every day, it won't kill her man's sexual attraction to her. Perhaps not his sexual attraction, because she can still be physically appealing. But I doubt any other kind of attraction (emotional, mental) would escape this multi-day cry-fest unscathed. How many women will become sexually aroused from soothing their crying husbands? None. Well I'm not married but I think we can change that number from 0 to 1. 🙄 | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/05/18 12:17 PM |
| 10 | Managing jealousy. How do You do it?I'll just drop this here for your entertainment I've had to pre-emptively block people to prevent myself from going down this same rabbit hole too many times. It's not good for our sanity. 🙄 | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/05/18 12:10 PM |
| 7 | Managing jealousy. How do You do it?A lot of this seems focused more towards yourself than towards him. Suddenly you feel like someone else may be better than you, and this scares you. I understand this completely. In addition to various things you need to be sure to keep telling yourself (I'll get to those shortly), you need to make sure you are working on yourself as much as possible. Of course that may be difficult if you have young children, but you must try to the best of your ability to improve in all aspects of your life. T… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/05/18 11:42 AM |
| 4 | Improving communicationSince you guys both seem hesitant to discuss things, it might be even more crucial to ask that question and schedule a time for discussion. It will force you to have it rather than avoid it. This is pretty much the perfect advice, thank you. he was cooking sand in the oven I wanted to ask if this ended up being a delicious dinner, but apparently the sand was not for food-related purposes. ;P I appreciate you sharing this, it's all been incredibly helpful, especially your last paragraph. Just spo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/05/18 08:50 AM |
| 2 | Improving communicationThis is helpful! Sort through your thoughts before coming to him with the issue. This may be difficult because women process thoughts through speaking. However, to whatever degree possible, know what you want to talk about with him before you start talking. This is one thing I definitely don't need to worry about ... I never try to start a discussion if I don't have my thoughts already well sorted, which is part of why we have communication issues. I brood and don't want to discuss things until … | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/05/18 08:40 AM |
| 19 | Back to the basics - are women capable of love?What is love? Baby don't hurt me... Sorry, I couldn't resist This post is interesting but I think there is something important you've overlooked: Traditionally, men brought home the bacon and women turned it into a delicious and nourishing meal. If we're speaking solely of the context of hunting, yes this is true. However humans are obviously not only carnivores, and at the time when we were hunter-gatherers, the role of the woman wasn't just "stay home and take care of the children", it was als… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/05/18 05:56 AM |
| 5 | What would you do for your partner’s birthday?Has your partner mentioned anything in the past that he particularly likes, is interested in, or would like to try/do? For example, maybe he casually mentioned he'd like to try bungee jumping, or has been looking for a specific object. If you can think of anything like that, surprising him with something he's mentioned wanting before would be great -- it shows you're a good listener and that you're able to, in a sense, take care of him. He says he just wants you, but really he should be getting … | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/05/18 08:33 AM |
| 1 | Improving communicationI'm not sure where you're getting the impression that I'm trying to get him to open up and talk about his feelings, since I specifically mentioned in my post that the issue wasn't something to do with emotions. There is no amount of sexual polarity than can make either of us mind readers. And considering the fact that he is equally concerned about our mutual poor communication, it isn't really helpful to be insinuating that my apparent lack of submissive femininity is the problem. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/05/18 06:28 AM |
| 3 | Boyfriend doesn’t seem curious about my interestsI'm not saying he's a bad person. Good people are perfectly capable of being impolite. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/04/18 04:16 PM |
| 9 | Boyfriend doesn’t seem curious about my interestsBecause this is how conversations work. You have reciprocal discussions, not just one person talking about their interests and the other person's interests ignored. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/04/18 04:08 PM |
| 18 | Boyfriend doesn’t seem curious about my interestsWhile this may often be the case, I think it's important to outline the fact that while a man may not be extremely interested in a woman's hobbies, it's still possible (and generally good behaviour) to ask questions about her interests, learn more about her, and possibly be able to have conversations about said interests (if there is some overlap in hobbies, for example). In this case, they both have an overlapping interest (fashion) and she wanted to get his opinion on something. The fact that … | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/04/18 03:58 PM |
| 14 | What homemade gift should I (23f) bring to my boyfriend’s (27m) family when meeting for the first time?If they live relatively far from you, you could bring a "specialty" from the region you currently live in that may be difficult for them to get where they are. It's hard to go wrong with a nice bottle of wine (provided they drink), cake or cookies, or even a potted plant (possibly a bit more difficult if you're taking a plane). The fact that you need to fly makes this a little more difficult in terms of bringing a baked good, as it needs to make it safely through the journey. Honestly I think if… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/04/18 03:43 PM |
| 1 | What are your hobbies and passions?I would love to see your chicks when they hatch! I have three hens at the moment, and will soon be adding two peafowl to the mix (a male and a female). I wouldn't necessarily call them a hobby, but I do think it's nice to have them around -- they're cute and funny and it's great to have fresh eggs. My hobbies are mostly cooking and gardening, as well as foraging (plants and mushrooms), which ties into the other two quite nicely. I'm also pretty avidly into metal, grammar/linguistics, and am tryi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/04/18 09:08 AM |
| 1 | What are your hobbies and passions?You sound like a more productive version of me. :P What kind of cat(s) do you have? I'm thinking of starting my own sourdough starter at some point, but it would have to wait until the kitchen gets renovated...no point having a starter if I don't have an oven. :( How do you make kombucha? The only fermenting I've done is sauerkraut | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/04/18 08:59 AM |
| 3 | I have never enjoyed sex but I want to - Please Help!I'm hoping I can provide some relevant help. I'm not sure what disorder you have, but when I was a bit younger I suffered from something similar, albeit to a lesser degree. In essence, I had vaginismus (uncontrollable muscle spasms in the vagina that make penetration if not impossible then unbearably painful) until I was in my early 20s. I went from being completely unable to have sex, to able to have sex painfully with a lot of lube, to actually able to enjoy it. You've mentioned that you mastu… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/04/18 08:03 AM |
| 4 | I have never enjoyed sex but I want to - Please Help!Fill your mouth with a lot of spit before he cums. This will make it both less viscous and neutralize the taste a bit. Plus if you show him before you swallow he'll probably be impressed with himself for what looks like a giant load :p | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/04/18 05:46 AM |
| 2 | A "committed" vibeWhat would count as "constantly hit on" to you? I ask out of genuine curiosity. I would say if I'm out alone I get hit on about 50% of the time. That's not constantly, but I do think it's higher than perhaps what the average woman experiences, hence my comment. But I also wouldn't complain to my partner that, "oh I'm getting hit on so much whenever I go out alone!" -- that seems disrespectful and a not-so-sneaky way of trying to make him jealous. I definitely didn't mean to imply you think women… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/04/18 02:34 PM |
| 3 | Self-reflection time. Things you know you shouldn't have done, yet you did them/said them/thought them lately.Thank you so much for this response, it's very clear-headed and great advice. He has been more stressed than usual lately. I've been doing my best to make sure he has as little to do as possible when he gets home (with the exception of watering the plants outside, because he says it relaxes him) and doing my best to give him a lot of space. I think my problem may have been that I assumed that with the vacation drawing nearer, he would start to feel less stressed, but instead it seems to have had… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/04/18 10:20 AM |
| 2 | Self-reflection time. Things you know you shouldn't have done, yet you did them/said them/thought them lately.I've been screwing up a bit lately. I know what I've done wrong, but I'm having a hard time rectifying it. Maybe you all can help me. Some background: my boyfriend and I decided, at the end of last year, that we would have a date night once a month, where we would try a new, interesting restaurant, and we would alternate who picks and pays. Last week, we decided together (actually together -- I didn't delegate what day this was to happen) that this Thursday (tomorrow), being my boyfriend's first… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/04/18 06:46 AM |
| 11 | A "committed" vibeI don't think this is quite as hard and fast a rule as you're making it out to be. Of course, if a woman in a committed relationship is going out and giving off signs of being interested, that's a problem. But to say that the majority of cases of women being hit on are because she looks like she's available isn't really taking into account social and cultural differences. I get hit on a decent amount. Not a lot, but it does happen. I don't give off a vibe that I'm open or interested in being hit… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/04/18 06:23 AM |
| 12 | Self-reflection time. Things you know you shouldn't have done, yet you did them/said them/thought them lately.This 100%. Bring it up as an issue and trying to talk about it isn't the right way to go about it. Quietly getting to work on your own and letting that motivation inspire him will do worlds more without creating conflict. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/04/18 12:48 PM |
| 1 | When do you expect sexual exclusivity from a man you are dating?Not assuming someone is exclusive to you has nothing to do with men being "animalistic" and unable to control their desire to fuck. It has everything to do with not making the kind of assumptions that, if wrong, can lead to very painful situations. I would say the exact same thing to a man. Gender, sexual orientation, none of that matters, because the advice is universal: don't assume somene is being exclusive to you if you haven't discussed or decided on it beforehand. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/04/18 06:01 AM |
| 3 | When do you expect sexual exclusivity from a man you are dating?I disagree with your stance on waiting. I think it's perfectly fine to have standards in this regard, even strict religious standards. The key element here is that you're reasonable and consistent with your standards. Here are some examples. Yes, I agree with you here and with everything you said afterwards. Let me clarify what I mean, because it's not quite what you're thinking of. Of course, any woman can set a standard for herself as to how long she thinks is reasonable to wait to have sex/af… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/04/18 04:27 PM |
| 8 | When do you expect sexual exclusivity from a man you are dating?If you were to slip up and sleep with him before he commited to you, would you expect him to stop sleeping with other women at that point? No. You should never expect commitment without having discussed it first. That's a recipe for misunderstanding and heartbreak. If he does stop sleeping with other people at that point, it would be great. But you shouldn't assume he'll do anything just because it's something you want him to do, but haven't told him as much. Without explicitly deciding on exclu… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/04/18 04:20 PM |
| 40 | When do you expect sexual exclusivity from a man you are dating?You should never just "expect" him to give up on sleeping around after a certain amount of time. There is no set rule of "3 months means we're exclusive!" If you want to be exclusive, bring it up. If you don't bring it up, assume he's sleeping around because more than likely he's assuming the same of you. When someone is dating, they are dating around -- often more than one person at a time until they find one who 'sticks' well. There is no reason for anyone to be upset about this, because why w… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/04/18 03:45 PM |
| 1 | How class affects male preferences"I know you're an 8, and you're used to going out with 8's and 9's, but have you ever tried a 4? No? Well you should, you might like it more!" Said no one ever. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/04/18 08:20 AM |
| 9 | How class affects male preferencesI get a little frustrated because the conversation on RP message boards sometimes seems to imply that every 35 year old, good-looking, "alpha" corporate guy is going to commit to any his super hot cocktail waitress as long as she's virginal, super feminine, and plays her cards right If we take the "corporate" part out of this, it's probably right. If we're just talking about a relatively good looking alpha male in a low-to-middle income bracket, this virginal, beautiful, feminine cocktail waitre… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/04/18 08:03 AM |
| 10 | How class affects male preferencesPhysical attraction is definitely a key factor but it isn't everything, and neither is femininity. Personality traits (often tied to the kind of job a woman holds) are incredibly important as well. And while no man is going to be turned on by a woman's career choice, to assume that it's absolutely meaningless in 100% of cases is more than a little myopic. I would posit that the majority of men want a woman who is, all things considered, approximately equal to him. This doesn't mean they need to … | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/04/18 07:43 AM |
| 1 | Thoughts on graduate school?Look into scholarships. And if you do eventually decide on grad school, know that a lot of STEM graduate programs are funded, and that often you can find jobs TAing or RAing within the university once you're in your degree. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/04/18 06:39 AM |
| 4 | You are not a snowflakeOh definitely, a lot of people (male and female) think they can handle it and then realize during/after that they can't. If that is the case then you're right, it would definitely severely damage the person's RMV. But if this isn't the case and everything goes well, then within that relationship the RMV of the partner in question remains stable, and only once outside that relationship would it take a hit. Okay, thanks for clarifying that. I always assumed n-count necessarily included partners of… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/04/18 04:36 PM |
| 3 | You are not a snowflakeIt would drop the woman's RMV if she eventually ended up single again. Any kind of threesome can have the potential to do that (do men only count other men towards a woman's n-count?). But within a relationship where both parties are intending to stay together longterm, I don't think that would negatively affect her RMV within that relationship. I mean realistically, I don't think a man would want his girlfriend to do something if it made him view her in a negative light afterwards. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/04/18 04:10 PM |
| 10 | continuing a relationship after cheatingIs he aware that you found out about these texts? Have you discussed it? If he has made a commitment to remain loyal to you and only you, then you need to decide whether you trust him, and more importantly, whether you can handle being in a relationship with someone who crossed a boundary and acted disrespectfully. If you continue to flirt with other people and stray from him, you are no better than he was, and you would do better to leave him now rather than continue a relationship that is pret… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/04/18 07:29 AM |
| 5 | You are not a snowflakeHere's the thing -- you're right! We definitely can't base a sub on exceptions to the rule, because that would be counterproductive. The problem is that the rule isn't "never have a threesome". The rule is that a woman shouldn't engage in activities that make her feel devalued, that she's not comfortable with, or that she feels pressured into. Doing any of those things will add strain to the relationship and more than likely will lead to eventual breakup. But this doesn't mean "no one should eve… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/04/18 07:15 AM |
| 1 | Simple recipes for a beginner?What kinds of things do you generally like to eat, and what kinds of foods (meats, vegetables, starches) do you usually have in the house? Rice with lentils and vegetables is simple and relatively quick. Boil the rice and lentils together. While it's cooking, fry up some vegetables, season them, then when the rice is done, mix everything together. Add more seasonings if need be, and bam. All done. Pasta dishes are generally easy as well. If you have time on the weekend you can easily make a HUGE… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/04/18 07:03 PM |
| 14 | You are not a snowflakeI'm sorry, but just because you've had bad experiences with threesomes and non-monogamy doesn't mean that everyone will, or that every instance will lead to failure. No, people aren't snowflakes. People are, however, individuals with differing sexual interests. This is not to say that non-monogamy is for everyone. It isn't. It probably isn't even for the majority of people. But the fact that it won't work for everyone doesn't mean it will work for no one. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/04/18 05:32 AM |
| 6 | Need reassuranceNo one is 100% feminine or 100% masculine. And frankly I don't know where this idea that women aren't allowed to make jokes came from, but I can't really imagine what kind of dull, tedious man would want to be with a woman who has no sense of humour. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/04/18 11:55 AM |
| 19 | Need reassuranceBe yourself, in the best possible way you can be. You do not need to give yourself a new personality and cover up who you actually are. Not only is that likely impossible to do in the long run, any man who falls for the "new fake you" will eventually be shocked/annoyed/disappointed/whatever when he finds out you're actually a completely different person. You cannot be too knowledgeable. There is no such thing. Obviously, don't act like a know-it-all. But never stop trying to learn and grow as a … | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/04/18 11:23 AM |
| 2 | Dealing with jealousyThis is a great comment, I agree with everything you've said here! | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/04/18 12:13 PM |
| 2 | Not interested in a threesome. Boyfriend is?I just wish it wasn't so in his head that he'd ask it of me. The thing is, as long as he actually respects your decision afterwards (which it doesn't fully seem like he's doing at the moment, but maybe that will change when the initial disappointment dies down), I don't think there's anything wrong with a long-term partner bringing up fantasties. If he didn't know it made you uncomfortable before he brought it up, it isn't unreasonable to voice interests. In a relationship that's meant to last a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/04/18 09:15 PM |
| 1 | Not interested in a threesome. Boyfriend is?I'd have happily agree with exes in the past I take this to mean that if it had been brought up by an ex, she would have said yes, but it never was, so she didn't. Just because someone was promiscuous or is bisexual doesn't necessarily mean they had threesomes. But I guess the only person who can really answer this is /u/notdownwith3 ;) | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/04/18 08:47 PM |
| 2 | Not interested in a threesome. Boyfriend is?You can't make someone not have a fantasy anymore. Life doesn't work that way. You can, however, explain to him very fully and without reservation why this is something that bothers you, and why you don't feel comfortable doing it. If it's a matter of insecurity, you could offer to revisit the issue if at some point later in life you feel like you might be mentally and emotionally ready to do it. There is nothing wrong with not being okay with certain kinks/fantasies your partner has -- especial… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/04/18 08:43 PM |
| 2 | Not interested in a threesome. Boyfriend is?From what I understand, she didn't actually do this in the past, though. She may have been more willing to try, but if she never actually did anything, that doesn't mean she's actually holding back something she gave to others. Furthermore, if this is genuinely something she wouldn't be okay with mentally/emotionally, she has every right to take it off the table, no matter how "cruel" it may be. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/04/18 08:38 PM |
| 3 | Best friends with ex?There are a lot of reasons why someone might still be in contact with their ex, and not all of them are "he still has feelings for her". Do you know what their history was? Maybe they were friends who tried dating and decided they don't work well romantically. Maybe they broke up amicably and still have friendly chats from time to time. If he refers to her as a friend, it could be because he really does just see her as a friend. I have an ex I'm still in contact with, who I really do see as just… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/04/18 02:08 PM |
| 2 | Back to the basic - valueHigh education level doesn't have much value to men but it's also not devoid of value. I'd say yes and no to this. I think the average man probably doesn't put a huge amount of value on whether or not their potential partner has a master's degree/PhD/law degree/whatever. But for a majority of men involved in academia (in grad school or working in higher education), finding a partner with a similar level of education is quite important. In fact, out of every man I've met involved in academia who … | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/04/18 09:12 AM |
| 5 | Dealing with jealousyThe society you want to live in sounds very boring ;) You're right, I doubt we'll ever agree on this. Thanks for being open to discussing it nonetheless. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/04/18 06:57 PM |
| 2 | Dealing with jealousyI fail to see how that is a symptom of social disorder. Care to explain? | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/04/18 06:46 PM |
| 4 | Dealing with jealousyNon-monogamy is not just "cheating" or "having lots of partners". And if you think that conservatives or rich people don't cheat, you're sorely mistaken. The fact that you dislike non-monogamy is fine. No one here is trying to force you into it. But trying to lump it in with a bunch of other things you happen to dislike, because you watched some show about "white trash swingers" and think hippies are gross isn't a particularly good or useful argument. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/04/18 06:42 PM |
| 3 | Dealing with jealousyThe idea of "swinging" and non-monogamy has a history much, much longer than "American hippies". The typical conservative American is Christan. You'd be hard-pressed to find a very religious person who's interested in what you're describing. But equating it, as a result, to liberalism or "being poor" or whatever other nonsense is more than a little ridiculous, and very unneccessarily judgemental. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/04/18 06:34 PM |
| 3 | Dealing with jealousyIn fairness, I do think there is a difference between outright ogling -- leering or staring for a long period of time -- and just looking. Just looking is perfectly normal. Everyone has a tendency to look at people who look good, no matter the gender. Demanding someone not look at all is kind of ridiculous! But on the other hand, if your partner is actively ogling other women, in a way that's clearly disrespectful, then that's a problem. Likewise for a woman in a relationship actively ogling oth… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/04/18 05:03 PM |
| 2 | Dealing with jealousy:D Why thanks, you two! | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/04/18 03:49 PM |
| 2 | Femininity isn't superficialWhat on god's green earth is that "dress" in picture three? Haha, oh lord, save my eyes! | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/04/18 05:44 PM |
| 2 | When your SO opens up to you: what do you do?Ultimately I believe the right woman will accept a man with all his emotions. Obviously nobody should be spending their lives an emotional mess completely controlled by them, but I think it's harmful to the male psyche to be forced, essentially, to bottle up every emotion instead of being allowed to express them in healthy ways. Good luck to you :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/04/18 01:03 AM |
| 2 | When your SO opens up to you: what do you do?I'm sorry you have that experience. It unfortunately seems like something a lot of men have been forced to suffer with. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/04/18 01:00 AM |
| 33 | Staying polite after the honeymoon?Moving past the honeymoon phase doesn't, and absolutely shouldn't, mean that you lose sight of basic hygiene and politeness ... My boyfriend and I have been together for over a year now, and living together for almost one. We're significantly more comfortable with each other now. We make weird noises at each other, we're not afraid to be seen looking "less than perfect", etc. Previously I would have been uncomfortable with him seeing me without makeup, or not dressed perfectly. Now, although I o… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/04/18 12:52 AM |
| 2 | Are dating apps useful for a follower of RPW?Unfortunately I don't. Not because I know people who have tried and failed, but because I don't know anyone besides myself who has used dating apps, other than one friend who tried it for a short time and decided she preferred meeting people in person. I suppose that's more a matter of personal preference. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/04/18 12:34 AM |
| 15 | Are dating apps useful for a follower of RPW?Is it possible to find an LTR off apps like Tinder or Bumble? Sure. Anything is possible. I managed it. Is it likely? No. Not even remotely. If you're keen on using an app, my recommendation has always been OkCupid, because you have the space to mention things like wanting comittment, not being interested in hookups, etc. Furthermore, people who match with you on sites like that are more likely to be ones who share your values, because you can answer questions to rate your compatibility based on… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/04/18 09:10 PM |
| 4 | Hamstering versus valid feelings: commitmentThe majority of people I met in grad school were married or engaged, and they all seemed to be doing just fine. ;) The hamster is your unfounded fears working on overdrive. Your gut is that sudden instinct you get in a bad situation. Worrying about only having one partner or not being able to do well in grad school because you're not single are 100% hamstery. Ask yourself - would you really be happier if you were single? If the answer is no, then every other fear is just your mind working itself… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/04/18 03:22 PM |
| 10 | Being Red Pill but influenced by GutmenschentumBeing red pill has nothing to do with your political, religious, or socioeconomic beliefs. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/04/18 01:20 PM |
| 36 | Is it wise to let your date know that you read RP and RPw?You don't need to specifically mention TRP in order to discuss self-improvement or "rp truths". My boyfriend and I have similar discussions and he has no idea what TRP is, even though he often speaks in a way that might make one think he does. Just because someone seems aware of it doesn't mean they actually are -- there are "naturals". Plus, aren't men over at TRP encouraged not to discuss it with people, and especially women? I don't see why it would be much different for us. A magician doesn'… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/04/18 01:04 PM |
| 41 | RPW theory says women will always marry "up." Any stories about women marrying "down"?There's a lot more to the idea of marrying up than monetary assets. So don't think of it as marrying someone richer than you - think of it as marrying someone you perceive as "better". Money can be a factor but it doesn't have to be. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/04/18 12:13 PM |
| 1 | Femininity isn't superficialNot exactly the same concept I was thinking of, but that does tie in well. Thanks! I hadn't heard of this before. | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/04/18 09:47 PM |
| 1 | Need help. Currently dating a PERFECT match but there's only one issue....I'm not American and I've never lived there. My view of guns comes from an international standpoint, not an American one. Guns are legal to own in every country I've lived in, and all have been more "left leaning" than the states. If the left wing of the States is vehemently anti-gun I am clearly unaware of it because I don't live there. But the overarching leftist view of guns is not one of despising gun owners. Believing that is a bit simplistic. Especially since I know many leftists who own g… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/04/18 09:34 PM |
| 0 | Need help. Currently dating a PERFECT match but there's only one issue....I don't think the majority of the left demonized guns and gun owners. The only time I ever see people saying the left hates all guns it's coming from people who misunderstand or who have been misled about what the common leftist idea about guns actually is. Some people hate guns, sure. But the majority don't have a problem with them in and of themselves - the problem is with laws that make it too simple to own a gun. The problem is with the government, not the common person who owns a gun. I'm s… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/04/18 12:41 PM |
| 12 | Monthly GoalsAlright, I've got four main goals for this month: 1 - spend 2 hours in the morning and 3 hours in the afternoon working on my thesis. On days where I find it difficult to stay on task or get started, use the pomodoro method. On days where I don't manage to complete two hours of work in the morning, add the remaining time to the afternoon. 2 - dedicate 1 hour to exercise (running by the canal [weather permitting], stretches, squats, core exercises) each Tuesday and Thursday morning, approximately… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/04/18 12:27 PM |
| – | Simple QuestionsOne thing that helps me is asking, before I start the complaint, "Is this important?" If it is something genuinely important, try to phrase it in a way that doesn't come off as whining. If it isn't important, don't say it. And if you want to complain because you're having a bad day, for example, and want comfort, frame it in a way where you're not complaining so much as expressing the fact that you've gone through something difficult and are in need of emotional support. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/04/18 12:56 AM |
| 2 | Is my LTR too flirtatious with other girls?Near the beginning of my relationship, I was in a somewhat similar position. When I asked him about it later, after he had changed, he said, essentially, that in the beginning he was unsure if I was interested in the same level of commitment that he was. As a result, he decided to essentially keep his options somewhat open, and not give me a commitment he was uncertain I was worthy of. Once I had proved to him that I wasn't interested in some short-term fling/fwb situation and I actually took th… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/04/18 04:44 AM |
| 5 | Femininity isn't superficialYou are right. However, the point I'm trying to make is that you can be feminine while still being true to yourself. Not that you should indulge in bad behaviours (overdrinking, cursing to the point that you sound uneducated), but that you shouldn't feel you need to completely change your personality in order to attract a man. Self improvement is incredibly important. But often the advice to stop drinking, stop swearing, stop wearing pants, isn't coming from a place of genuine self-improvement. … | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/04/18 04:35 AM |
| 14 | Femininity isn't superficialA picture isn't an accurate representation of what a person is like. I'm not advocating being a "drunken fool", but no matter how much you abstain from drinking or swearing, if you act in unfeminine ways -- if you are overbearing, pushy, naggy, aggressive, etc -- you are not feminine. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/03/18 04:50 PM |
| 4 | He wants to make homemade pornThere are safer ways to go about exhibitionism, if that's his thing. Sex clubs, public sex if the aspect of danger is part of the exhibitionist thrill for him (you've mentioned you've done it in a car, but what about in abandoned buildings? Outside in a secluded area?), even just posting pictures instead of full videos. In pictures, you can carefully crop any identifying features. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/03/18 03:54 AM |
| 10 | He wants to make homemade pornConsidering how frequently she posts high quality content in this sub... no. | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/03/18 03:41 AM |
| 24 | He wants to make homemade pornIf the idea of making porn interests you outside the risks, then eliminate the risks - hide your face (film without it in frame, use masks, blur, etc) and any identifying features like tattoos or birthmarks. If the idea of making porn doesn't interest you, then tell him that, along with everything you've just written here. You could also offer to make videos that will stay just between the two of you, if you're willing to compromise and trust that he wouldn't use these to post online. Edit: ther… | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/03/18 02:59 AM |
| 11 | Should women drink?Being feminine doesn't have much to do with whether or not you drink. You could be an expert in whiskeys and be highly feminine. You could refuse to drink and not be feminine at all. If you have an addictive personality, a history of alcoholism, or just don't know when to say "no, that's enough for me", then yeah, you probably shouldn't drink. Not because it isn't feminine, but because it isn't healthy for you, period. Getting sloppy, black-out, vomit-everywhere drunk isn't a good look for anyon… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/03/18 02:53 PM |
| 7 | Ladies, I would like to hear the red pill reasoning on taking the last name of your future husbandAs long as a woman has the choice on what to do about her name, I think it's a non-issue. There are valid reasons on both side. Personally, if I ever got married (which is unlikely, as my boyfriend has expressed that he isn't interested in a traditional marriage, and I don't have strong feelings either way) I doubt I would change my last name. It has nothing to do with not loving my boyfriend enough, but quite honestly any new name would be a downgrade. My last name at the moment is an adjective… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/03/18 07:34 AM |
| 4 | Parenting disagreement - how to softly offer my opinion?Some children are like cats, and some are like dogs. That is, some want interaction on their terms, and will seek out adults or peers when they want it, and other will be happy to interact with most people under most circumstances. It sounds like your daughter is more "cat" than "dog", and I agree that it's probably not doing your husband any favours if he keeps trying to interact with her if she doesn't want it. However, it does seem a bit concerning and I can understand why he would be hurt. I… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/03/18 08:15 AM |
| 9 | Grooming DownstairsDifferent men have different tastes. There are even some men (a minority, I think) who actually prefer trimmed/not fully bare. I shave fully at the moment because it's what my boyfriend prefers. When I was single I generally had a "landing strip" because I thought it was cuter. Men definitely notice, but I think that unless he expresses a specific preference, as long as you keep things neat and tidy, anything you decide to do will be fine. I generally manage to avoid bumps and irritation by maki… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/03/18 07:50 AM |
| 1 | Cooking for your man...horror stories and favourite recipes?I hope you enjoy! Please tell me what you think. :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/03/18 06:59 AM |
| 2 | Cooking for your man...horror stories and favourite recipes?I hope you enjoy it! Typing out this recipe made me crave it, so I went out and bought everything to make it this week, haha. :D | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/03/18 01:23 PM |
| 5 | Gift Advice?That meal sounds delicious! I'm tempted to invite myself over for dinner. ;) I definitely think a small craft that you make with the kids is a perfect idea. You could even say it's their present to him, which would be quite cute. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/03/18 06:16 PM |
| 4 | Gift Advice?If you really want to do something more, have you thought about making him something, or doing a chore that's "typically his" to take a bit off his plate? That way you can still surprise him with something more, without having spent money! Out of curiosity, what have you planned for dinner? | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/03/18 04:04 PM |
| 3 | Cooking for your man...horror stories and favourite recipes?As promised, here is a recipe for boeuf bourguignon, fancy French beef stew. It takes a while to cook, but it's also pretty much impossible to fuck up, because you're not doing very much. You said you don't really understand recipes in books, so I'm going to type up a recipe here but define and explain any of the cooking-related words. :) 1 large onion 1-2 cloves of garlic 3 carrots 2 decently sized potatoes 3 stalks of celery a handful of button mushrooms a package of stewing beef a bottle of r… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/03/18 10:06 AM |
| 2 | Cooking for your man...horror stories and favourite recipes?Oh, thank you! :D I don't have links for any of the recipes, they're mostly just things I've come up with. I could definitely give you a link to a more standard orecchiette barese, but the one I make is pretty different, because I've never been able to find rapini where I live! So I'll just type up all of them :) Salmon en Croute (for 2) a handful of button mushrooms 1 small onion 1 leek, white only (optional -- can be replaced by using a larger onion) 1 hard-boiled egg 1/2 tablespoon dijon must… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/03/18 09:22 AM |
| 2 | Never Thought I'd Be Here...Haha! In that case I'll give you the recipe when I've got a bit more time on my hands! :D | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/03/18 07:23 PM |
| 13 | Never Thought I'd Be Here...Welcome, and congratulations for your upcoming wedding! :) I think you may be surprised by the number of self-described left wing and/or feminist women here, myself included. I know the theory often lends itself to being read as very conservative/right wing, but that isn't always necessarily the case. I don't think it's absolutely necessary to agree 100% about absolutely everything. In any case, it's probably impossible. But what's important is accepting the major points and working towards self… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/03/18 06:00 PM |
| 4 | Cooking for your man...horror stories and favourite recipes?So, my boyfriend and I both love to cook (and I like to think we're both pretty damn good at it ;) ). I haven't had any horror stories (so far?!), but he once made a lentil dish and added way too much salt, to the point that it was inedible. It became a running joke between us since then, where, while cooking, we say we need to add a couple lentils to our food, instead of salt. :P He has a few favourite dishes that I've made -- a modified version of orecchiette barese (orecchiette pasta with gro… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/03/18 03:10 PM |
| 1 | Casual RPW Oriented Communities?I ended up taking a chicken picture but I'm not sure if you saw it! | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/03/18 06:18 AM |
| 2 | Is he pushing my boundaries or am I over reacting?Congratulations to your friend! :) And yep, I'm not going to say it's impossible to find a serious relationship through it, but if that's genuinely all you're looking for, you're just making it harder for yourself when you'll be surrounded by people who aren't specifically looking for the same thing as you. Some of them may be open to it, some of them may even have a serious relationship as their main goal. But these people are going to be surrounded by a plethora of others whose only interests … | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/03/18 04:42 PM |
| 20 | Is he pushing my boundaries or am I over reacting?If you don't have any experience with men (and even if you did have experience), please do yourself a favour and avoid Tinder. While it is possible to find longterm commitment there, it is highly unlikely. People use Tinder to hook up. More often than not, if a longterm commited relationship arises, it's more fluke than planning. And I say this as someone who met her boyfriend on Tinder. Avoid it. As to your current situation, he is contacting you again because he's interested in sex. That's it.… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/03/18 04:10 PM |
| 1 | Casual RPW Oriented Communities?I don't think announcing one's gender is ever useful online so I wouldn't do that anyway. As much as I understand why it's not generally advocated for women to spend a lot of time perusing TRP, I do think that the general self-improvement advice given there is great, and basically gender neutral a lot of times. So I admit I probably spend more time reading posts there than is recommended for a woman. Thanks for the heads up! | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/03/18 03:29 PM |
| 1 | Accidentally mislead my boyfriend? How do I come clean?I'm sorry you've had such negative experiences with them. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/03/18 03:06 PM |
| 1 | Casual RPW Oriented Communities?I don't particularly like Discord, so if people actually used the IRC more often I'd be quite happy. The increase in privacy is just a cherry on top. ;) Out of curiosity, would I be allowed to participate in TRP's IRC channel? | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/03/18 02:59 PM |
| 1 | Should your man know your cycle?You learn about your partner's body through continued contact with it. You learn where they're ticklish; what part of their body to touch to excite them; the particular shape of and position of this scar, that mole... and in that way, a partner may know your body better than you after a long period of time, because they're able to observe reactions to things that you don't really pay much attention to. Maybe you always gasp when someone touches your ear, but never realized it. Maybe they've lear… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/03/18 02:53 PM |
| 9 | Should your man know your cycle?I don't think anyone should be keeping track of your cycle except you. If you two feel comfortable sharing that information, there's obviously nothing wrong with that. And if/when you live with your partner, I feel like it will be pretty difficult for him not to know. But the idea that for a man to "really know" their woman they need to track her cycle? That's obviously ridiculous... Edited to add: this might be useful if you're trying to have a baby, but that's pretty much it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/03/18 02:01 PM |
| 1 | Casual RPW Oriented Communities?If the IRC channel were more widely used, I could recommend apps you could download to access it on your phone. (Or clients to download for your computer.) As it stands, however, unless someone makes a discord server I think we'd do best just trying to use the IRC more often. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/03/18 11:31 AM |
| 3 | Casual RPW Oriented Communities?It's a shame nobody uses the IRC channel, as the others have said. I remember someone posted a while ago about making a Discord server as well, but I'm not sure if anything ever came of that. edit: I work from home, so I'm going to start leaving my IRC client open while I work. Maybe if people drop by and see some people actually there, it will encourage more active participation. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/03/18 07:50 AM |
| 1 | Accidentally mislead my boyfriend? How do I come clean?I'd be interested in hearing why you feel this way. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/03/18 04:47 PM |
| 11 | I may have ruined my future husband.....Stop playing this game. Stop talking to this friend (and for the love of god stop mentioning this friend around your boyfriend). Get offline, away from men and attention and flirtation. You need to seriously, seriously consider why you have been acting this way. Why is it so easy for you to get caught up in flirting while you're in a relationship? Don't say "oh but it's just fun". Yes, it is fun if it's harmless and consentual. But this? This is neither of those things. Ask yourself why it's so … | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/03/18 04:33 PM |
| 8 | Bisexuality and the Vetting ProcessI don't think anything should really change in how you act whether or not your (potential) partner is bisexual. If they're interested in being in a monogamous and heterosexual relationship with you, their bisexuality is about as relevant as if they said they also like blondes, but you're a brunette. Vetting a bisexual man should be no different than any other man. The qualities you're looking for are the same no matter his sexuality. I will say, however, that you should be cautious. A straight w… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/03/18 03:55 PM |
| 2 | Overcoming addiction to attentionI had a similar experience when I deactivated facebook a few months back! Not having social media has become so weird for people. I was very late in getting instagram (and I still barely use it), and I remember a while ago being asked by someone I had met if we could exchange instagrams ... he looked at me like I was some kind of eight-headed grandmother monster when I said I didn't have one. :P | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/03/18 11:40 AM |
| 2 | Overcoming addiction to attentionThis is a great point, and I'm glad you mentioned it. I had this in the back of my head as I was writing my post, thinking "I hope nobody thinks I'm discouraging people whose jobs are social media or artists who gain popularity through the internet". | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/03/18 11:37 AM |
| 1 | Overcoming addiction to attention:D | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/03/18 11:33 AM |
| 9 | Making friends with his friends gf.things I find gross and don't want to be rubbed off onto my bf. Firstly, if this is your boyfriend's friend and your boyfriend doesn't behave like him, I highly doubt you spending time with this girl will make your boyfriend act like him. And if you're afraid of becoming more like them, that seems unlikely, especially since you've already identified behaviors you dislike. Unless your personality is incredibly malleable I doubt you have anything to worry about. As to spending time with her, I don… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/02/18 01:52 PM |
| 8 | Announcement: Flair Updates and Star SystemI have a star! The people love me! Ahem. I mean, this new system sounds great. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/02/18 08:52 AM |
| 12 | False nails?I don't think there's anything wrong or necessarily "fake" or "unfeminine" about false nails. Some people can't grow their nails long naturally for various reasons, and many designs are quite pretty. Personally I don't wear false nails because I've never had trouble growing and caring for my own nails (and I know that wearing false nails for extended periods of time can damage natural nails). But I don't think there's anything wrong with women deciding to do that if they want to, and I don't fin… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/02/18 04:04 PM |
| 2 | Flowers: the little thingsActually, I did some research and there are two types of flowers with the name "geranium". The kind whose smell I can't stand are different from the ones you've described. My mistake! Yours sound like they smell lovely :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/02/18 03:13 PM |
| 12 | My boyfriend broke up with me because of jealousyExactly. Flirting, unless there's some agreed-upon non-monogamy going on, is too far. But just interacting normally with someone of the opposite sex should never be a cause for jealousy, and anyone reacting like this is, as you put it, putting up red flags for abuse. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/02/18 02:11 PM |
| 72 | My boyfriend broke up with me because of jealousyEverything you have described is ridiculous. You're allowed to interact with people like a normal human being when you're in a relationship. No one should expect you to forego basic ettiquette or decline work at your job because you need to interact with someone of the opposite sex. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/02/18 10:48 AM |
| 2 | Does your SO have influence on the way you dress?My boyfriend has a few things he likes a lot: white (and light colours in general), dresses, button-down shirts, oversized fuzzy sweaters, and red/dark lipstick. Luckily for me, these are things I like as well, so I just make an effort to wear the ones I didn't wear as often more frequently than I did before. Otherwise, my boyfriend is pretty anti-fashion. He doesn't care much about clothes, would never give me input on something I want to buy, and doesn't tend to place a lot of importance on cl… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/02/18 07:36 AM |
| 1 | Share Your Dating Stories!This is definitely the most adorable thing I've read in a long time :D | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/02/18 07:25 AM |
| 3 | TRP Advice on happiness for 20 year old womanI don't think anyone here would tell you that you can't identify as a Christian woman. But as it stands none of us know her religious affiliation, if any. If OP is a Christian than this advice is probably great! But if she's Jewish, Muslim, Buddhist, Sikh, atheist, or anything else... this advice probably isn't as worthwhile. Hence why it seems genealogy advisable to avoid offering specifically religious advice unless the OP has said she adheres to one religion or another. (I remember a post a w… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/02/18 03:32 PM |
| 1 | Flowers: the little thingsThat is really sweet! And also I find it funny that your husband likes the smell of geraniums -- it's one smell I can't stand, to the point that I refuse to grow them, though they are very pretty. :P | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/02/18 06:54 AM |
| 1 | Flowers: the little thingsThank you! Yes, I agree, and though I like cut flowers, they are my least favourite of all the things you can do with plant, specifically because they are so ephemeral. Gardening is one of my main hobbies (I'm currently working on a huge vegetable garden with the intent to become as nutritionally self-sufficient as possible), but keeping plants indoors isn't as feasible at the moment because the house is under a lot of renovation. The one room that's finished does have a plant in it, though! :P … | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/02/18 06:52 AM |
| 17 | Are women supposed to be/act emotionally unhinged to make their Cap... FEEL as if they're better equipped and "more rational" to steer the wheel of the ship?Most of the men posting on TRP or MRP are talking about relationships in crisis. A healthy relationship doesn't look like some childish woman throwing fits while daddy-boyfriend chastises her, and this isn't what anyone should be aiming for. Act like the calm and rational adult that you are, and you will attract calm and rational adults interested in having a healthy relationship. Don't throw tantrums to "make men feel strong". That is not only ridiculous but incredibly demeaning to both of you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/02/18 01:30 PM |
| 1 | I would like to find a girl / woman for casual hookupI can't speak to the rest of your attributes, but you are definitely funny. Gave me a good laugh, thanks. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/02/18 12:22 PM |
| 20 | Not the "Ideal" Woman ?Okay honestly, I've had a look through your post history, and I may get castigated for what I'm about to say, because the RPW way generally equates to fighting to keep a relationship, but you have been making posts about needing help in your 8-month-old relationship for FIVE MONTHS and nothing has gotten better. From the looks of it, things have only seemed to get worse. Why are you still with this man? You're 22. Why are you wasting your time and your youth on someone who seems to be a source o… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/02/18 03:49 PM |
| 6 | Not the "Ideal" Woman ?Ah yes, you're the one whose boyfriend cheated a while back, and you found this out on Valentine's day. So, I'm not going to touch on your anger issues, but I will talk about the sexual compatibility issue. I'm not sure if the advice I'm about to give is necessarily "red pill" advice, but this is my take. Sexual compatibilty in a relationship is extremely important. Obviously every partnership isn't going to be with two people who have the exact same libidos, kinks, etc. But being compatible in … | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/02/18 03:13 PM |
| 5 | How to be rough in bed with your guy?Has he expressed a level of dominance that he would like? If he has previously been dominant with you, I would start by imitating things he has done before. Otherwise, things like being in charge of what positions/when they change, dirty talking, holding down his hands/arms (while you are on top), light spanking, choking (do not try to actually choke him if you have no experience; just put light pressure on his neck, enough to show that you are there, not enough to cut off blood or airflow), hai… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/02/18 02:07 PM |
| 3 | Is there any right way to "ask a guy out"?Does she really want to date a man who is at best socially inept, and at worst playing the game? How does that fair 3 years down the line when he still can't tell when women are flirting with him? If he is too anxious about making a move, is he really the man she wants to be dating? He clearly doesn't think enough of her to get over his anxiety. That's a bad sign. Well, this is her choice. She seems to think he's a good potential partner. I's like to give her the benefit of the doubt since all w… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/02/18 12:09 PM |
| 4 | Is there any right way to "ask a guy out"?I strongly disagree with this, especially if she says he seems shy. I assume that if she is into him she's already putting out signs that she's interested. Maybe he isn't picking up on them, or maybe he is anxious about making a move. There's nothing wrong with a woman asking someone on a date, and I don't believe it sets a negative precedent at all. I was the first one who asked my boyfriend on a date, and I am in no way the "leader" in the relationship. The idea that all women should just sit … | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/02/18 11:32 AM |
| 1 | Is there any right way to "ask a guy out"?There are some guys who have a preference for being the ones to set the date, just as there are some girls who prefer being the one to set the date (albeit fewer). But if there is mutual attraction, then I don't think you can go wrong by asking him out, even if he does prefer to be the "chaser" normally. But in my experience, it can get frustrating for guys to always be the ones doing the asking -- especially because rejection from women isn't always done in the nicest way. It can be a breath of… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/02/18 07:07 AM |
| 2 | Try to lose the weight no matter what he saysI'm just replying to your comment because our usernames are so similar o_o But I am sorry you've had that experience | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/02/18 04:47 PM |
| 4 | How do you communicate your needs and encourage captain behavior when husband's beta traits are killing the marriage?So...have you actually spoken to your husband about these issues? I see nothing about any actual communication between the two of you, just you festering and brooding over things that he can't change if he doesn't know are a problem. You say you want to bring these issues to light, so why haven't you already? I don't believe you need a third party to have a reasonable adult discussion. Don't go into this pointing fingers, blaming, and being an emotional wreak. Speak to him intelligently and cons… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/02/18 07:54 AM |
| 2 | MeetupI find it really sad that you've had that experience. I'm not sure where you meet your friends, if that perhaps has an influence on their personalities. Even my "angry feminist" friends, as I do have some, are perfectly calm to me and other friends, and keep their strong opinions to themselves unless particularly necessary. We don't talk politics, even when we tend to agree on things. My best friend is a girl I've known for 17 years, and our circle of mutual friends is a small group of us who ha… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/02/18 07:31 PM |
| 1 | MeetupI don't think that male-male or female-female friendships are inherently better or worse than the other purely on the basis of gender. There are as many guys who make terrible friends as there are girls. The difference is generally the way that toxicity manifests itself, not necessarily the rate of manifestation itself. I think if people vetted friendships similarly to the way RPW insists women vet potential relationships, people would end up in far fewer negative situations overall. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/02/18 10:07 AM |
| 3 | College and dating advice for 18 year old!Firstly, I want to say that I understand a bit of where you're coming from; I went into university from a (small) private school background, and I definitely don't think I was as "prepared" for the social side of things, even if I was more prepared in terms of academics. (This is not me trying to say I was leagues smarter than my peers -- this is just the fact of somewhat more rigorous schooling previously.) A lot of things did come as a bit of a shock for me, and while I never attended an all-g… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/02/18 10:01 AM |
| 13 | Working on a research paper for college. Would love some honest input.I'll be honest here, this doesn't seem like a very sound method of presenting an argument in a paper. I'm not sure what discipline you're working in, but anecdotal evidence generally isn't worth much. If you really want to make this point, I would recommend first going to scientific studies and looking at data they have collected about things you're interested in (eg. male suicide rates vs female), and present that as your evidence. Of course, I'm not your professor and I don't know what the exa… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/02/18 07:11 AM |
| 1 | You prove women are PАTHETIC!How many times is this person going to make new accounts just to post the same boring old thing? | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/02/18 08:02 AM |
| 1 | How do you have fun when your partner is allergic to it?I did mention in another comment that I frequently do outdoor things with him as well. I don't dislike that in the slightest, but most of what we do is serious, sometimes dangerous, work. It's enjoyable in the sense that it's fulfilling and productive. But it isn't fun, and he doesn't see it that way either (he has said as much). | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/02/18 04:14 PM |
| 6 | Did I massively fuck up with my BF? He has not responded to my apology text :(I don't even know where to begin with this... Firstly, you didn't do anything wrong to your boyfriend. I would go so far as to say you made the right move by opting out of confronting him while drunk. But this whole situation is beyond ridiculous, and seems incredibly childish. Your friends, if they had a real suspicion, should have handled this better (although I guess the alcohol is a factor in how this played out). I couldn't say with absolute certainty why your boyfriend isn't responding, bu… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/02/18 04:10 PM |
| 2 | How do you have fun when your partner is allergic to it?I'm so glad you replied to my post; I frequently find myself agreeing with what you have to say and I'm happy to have your advice on this. We don't have children yet, but I can't imagine any scenario in which he wouldn't have fun and play with possible future ones. He's a teacher, absolutely loves kids, and talks pretty frequently about them/things we could do with them eventually. I think he just has a tendency to get caught up in the work he needs to get done at the moment, at the expense of o… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/02/18 06:59 AM |
| 2 | How do you have fun when your partner is allergic to it?I think this method of reframing "fun" is a fantastic one, thank you. I will absolutely try that next time! | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/02/18 06:46 AM |
| 2 | How do you have fun when your partner is allergic to it?The mention of refurbishing furniture actually gives me great ideas! Thank you! | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/02/18 06:44 AM |
| 2 | How do you have fun when your partner is allergic to it?I think this is a wonderful idea, thank you so much! I'm definitely interested in learning new skills as well, and I think "productive entertainment" is probably the perfect thing for both of us to enjoy. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/02/18 06:43 AM |
| 4 | How do you have fun when your partner is allergic to it?I don't find it exactly "fun", but I do frequently help him with various productive things he wants to do. Even so, I'll working with him but separately. For example -- yesterday he cut a tree that had fallen in our forest into smaller logs, which I then chopped into firewood-sized pieces. We worked together but completely separately, as he was in the forest cutting the tree, and I was elsewhere dealing with the wood. It's definitely enjoyable and I love being able to do these things with him, b… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/02/18 09:58 AM |
| 8 | How do you have fun when your partner is allergic to it?I'm not trying to change him, and if you read what I said, I made it clear I do not nag him. I do have fun with my friends, and I have never tried to control what he does, how he does it, etc. I am looking for advice on how to do fun things with a serious person, not how to make him change into someone less serious. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/02/18 09:37 AM |
| 1 | Moral dilemma ...I’m a virgin but also want to be good in bed for this guy I started dating.... he doesn’t know obviously that I’m a virginThat's not scientifically accurate and there is no evidence for such a thing. It happens in flies, not humans. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/02/18 07:22 AM |
| 6 | Moral dilemma ...I’m a virgin but also want to be good in bed for this guy I started dating.... he doesn’t know obviously that I’m a virginI was once in a similar situation as you, and similarly was terrified that I would be 1 - terrible in bed 2 - unwanted and weird for my lack of experience But truthfully, that isn't the case. If someone is put off by the fact that you're a virgin, the problem is with them, not you, because you have the right to make whatever decisions you please about what happens with your own body, for better or worse. If you want to "be prepared" ... I would recommend, if you haven't already, masturbating wit… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/02/18 07:34 AM |
| 4 | You claim to be redpilled, but do you actually realize that the genders arent equal?Genuinely one of the weaker attempts at trolling that I've seen in all my days on the internet. I'd say "gr8 b8 m8" but it's not actually. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/01/18 08:47 PM |
| 1 | A cake a weekThank you so much! This is such a great way to find interesting ideas. And I just took a look and saw there's also a version for cooking. Looks like I'm going to be spending a lot more time in the kitchen! | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/01/18 08:15 AM |
| 2 | Advice please, boyfriend cleaning too much?Some men may have a hard time "giving up control", so to speak, of something they're used to doing themselves. Especially if they have particularly high standards. My boyfriend for example confided in me that when I first started cleaning the house it was a source of stress for him because he didn't know if he could trust me to do it to his standards. He had never lived with anyone, male or female, who had previously cleaned to a level he approved of. It may be a similar case with your boyfriend… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/01/18 10:59 AM |
| 2 | A cake a weekEnjoy! I added about a cup of dried coconut, so don't worry about going sparingly with it | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/01/18 08:44 AM |
| 1 | A RPW Discord ServerDiscord is just a website you can chat on in real time with a username. Think of a giant Facebook group message, it's pretty much that. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/01/18 03:13 PM |
| 1 | A cake a weekDamn, I saw your comment too late and had already made the cake. But I'll take your frosting tip into consideration if/when I make this cake again. I actually ended up using dried coconut in the batter, and it tastes like the cake version of a pina colada. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/01/18 09:51 AM |
| 3 | A cake a weekDamn, I saw your comment too late and had already made the cake. But I'll take your frosting tip into consideration if/when I make this cake again. I actually ended up using dried coconut in the batter, and it tastes like the cake version of a pina colada. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/01/18 09:50 AM |
| 2 | A cake a weekOkay so I just looked up that recipe and ... oh sweet baby Jesus that is definitely intensive. I think it would probably be too much cake just for him, but it sounds so delicious that I think I'll cut it down (significantly) and make it soon. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/01/18 09:49 AM |
| 1 | A cake a weekThose both sound amazing. Do you have specific recipes you follow for them? | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/01/18 09:41 AM |
| 1 | A cake a weekOh I do love pumpkin! I've made pumpkin cookies that were divine and chewy, and pumpkin gnocchi as well! Thank you for that recipe. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/01/18 09:40 AM |
| 1 | A cake a weekI don't have a bread machine but I'm sure I could just knead it myself. Thank you for the recipe! I'll definitely be using it when we can start grilling outside again. As for the crackers ... that sounds amazing and I think I'm going to be looking into doing that as well. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/01/18 09:37 AM |
| 1 | A cake a weekIn that case I'll definitely be going with some recipes on her site! Thank you. :D | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/01/18 09:35 AM |
| 0 | Cathy Newman - Attacks offensively & Mis construes, Fails, claims victim hoodI'm not a fan of much of what Peterson has to say, but yes he clearly comes out looking like the much more intelligent and reasonable party when faced with an interviewer like this. But I don't quite see what the point is of this, especially of it being posted here. Whether or not the majority of people here agree with it or not (though it seems they certainly tend to err on the side of agreeing, which doesn't surprise me), I don't really see the relevance within the context of this sub - which … | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/01/18 04:05 PM |
| 2 | I have masculine interestsBlack and death primarily. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/01/18 06:43 AM |
| 3 | A cake a weekI'm glad you're able to fulfill all your baking desires now! :D Thank you so much for those two links. The list of things you've made so far all sound really interesting, and I'm definitely looking forward to checking them all out. Do the "healthy" recipes tend to taste like they're "healthy" -- I mean, does it seem like something is missing sometimes? I ask because they sound intriguing but if they didn't taste like a regular fatty, sugary dessert I'm not sure how much my boyfriend would apprec… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/01/18 03:59 PM |
| 2 | A cake a weekThat sounds really cool! Do you have a recipe for the hamburger buns that you could share? I would definitely love to try my hand at that. I'm sure there must be a lot of great ways to "customize" them that you'd be hard-pressed to find in any pre-made bun. How do you make crackers? | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/01/18 03:56 PM |
| 1 | A cake a weekTruthfully, if it's not savoury it's not really "for me". I don't do dessert (except maybe a tea with some honey, if that even counts!) because it's pretty difficult for me to find sweet things I like. I do enjoy carrot cake, though ... I hadn't even thought of that, it's been probably two years since I made one! Thank you! I'll look into some vegetable cakes (are there other ones besides zucchini?), but more for him than me. I'd rather eat chips if I'm having a vegetable dessert ;P | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/01/18 03:54 PM |
| 2 | A cake a weekI'm definitely not anti-pie (neither is my boyfriend, more importantly), but I figure the pies will come later in the year, when we have more fruits to work with (there are apple, pear, and plum trees). I tried a Japanese-style cheesecake once and it was definitely very light and different than what I was used to. I don't have a springform pan but that may be a good investment. Thank you for these ideas! I'm also happy for any pie ideas you may have (with any fillings, not just the fruits I'll b… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/01/18 03:50 PM |
| 1 | NEED ADVICE: What should I do?If you don't want a liar who doesn't take you seriously, then why are you with this guy? Frankly if he still has Tinder, whatever "excuse" he may give you for it, he isn't serious about you. You don't use Tinder to stalk a friend, it's not possible on that app. You use Tinder to hook up. Any other "reason" he might give you is a lie, that's 99.999% guaranteed. It sounds like he sees you as a hook-up/friend with benefits, not a girlfriend. If that's not what you're looking for, I suggest you look… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/01/18 01:57 PM |
| 14 | Losing my virginity [advice]Do not Look for men To lose your virginity to In internet chatrooms Do. Not. Do. It. You sound like you're eager to lose your virginity. I remember being a 19 year old virgin (6 years ago, an eternity) and feeling the exact same way -- torn between "I'm too old to still be a virgin" and "if I lose my virginity will I be unlovable?" And so I did what you did -- I met a guy online, and I tried to lose my virginity to him. I say tried, because (and this is the only time I will say that I'm thankful… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/01/18 07:08 AM |
| 2 | How to be feminineI think the word you're looking for is ooze. English teacher tip: the sound "oo" is made in English by either the letter u or two o's together. If you're unsure of how a word is spelled, but you know that sound is in there, more than likely one of the two will be correct. :) Ahem, anyway... I would recommend taking a look at women in your life you consider feminine, and trying to understand what it is about them that's different. Or, if you don't know anyone personally like that, then women you … | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/01/18 01:06 PM |
| 10 | Some RPW anxietyNo one is saying a career is absolutely mandatory. Not me, not /u/tempintheeastbay. We are saying that, contrary to your statements, it isn't completely negligible or, as you put it of zero or maybe even negative value when it comes to how men view you | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/01/18 10:59 AM |
| 10 | Some RPW anxietyExactly -- there's a big difference between having a successful career and working a job. Men with successful careers often (not always, but often) want to be with women who are at similar places in their lives, even if their eventual goal is that this woman will take significant time off work or stop altogether to raise children. An example - my cousin works in finance, and recently got married. I have met a few of his previous girlfriends, and not one of them worked a "job", they all had caree… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/01/18 10:51 AM |
| 21 | Some RPW anxietyNo, sorry, I don't agree with that at all. Careers aren't the most important thing, but they are not completely valueless in terms of relationships either. Would a man with a "high status" career be interested in being with a woman who works in fast food? Highly doubtful. Men are going to want someone who is on a similar level to them, not someone who reflects poorly on them. There isn't always a functional difference in a woman who waits tables vs one who works for NASA -- but if you have these… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/01/18 10:31 AM |
| 9 | Some RPW anxietyYou can't force yourself to change your personality, and you shouldn't try. If you are a soft and feminine person, there is nothing wrong with that, and nobody should try to make you feel as though there is. On the flip side of that, there's also nothing wrong with being a career woman/feminist. I would not say that career "doesn't matter". It just is not likely to be the main driving factor in why a man would choose to be with a specific woman. For example, a lawyer may be more interested in be… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/01/18 07:30 AM |
| 4 | Help! Need advice about my boyfriend. Long time lurker hereI know that a lot of posters here say not to move in before engaged or married, because doing so will make a man less likely to want to marry you. And I'm sure this is true of many men. But you also have to understand that not every man is against the idea of marriage. Many of them feel quite positively about it and would very happily get married one day. You need to find out what category your boyfriend falls into before making this kind of decision, in my opinion. If you have both talked about… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/01/18 07:18 AM |
| 1 | Hi I'm new hereI meant a visa for you to work in a country that isn't America. You'd more than likely have to return to the country for a period of time in order to get that done. If you're both interested in moving to an entirely different area where you can both find work, I think that would probably be your best bet, if your husband is interested in this, since it seems like it would be relatively simple for you to do so. :) I would recommend that, if he is as motivated as you to not return to America, he s… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/01/18 12:05 AM |
| 1 | Hi I'm new hereIf you and your husband speak Spanish, is it possible for him to find a job there? If you don't speak languages other than English, would it be easy for you/him to find work in other English-speaking countries instead? (Canada, UK) What are the reasons that your husband wants to move back to America? Is it solely because of work, or does he have other sentimental ties there? If it's just work, and work can be found elsewhere, bring this up to him along with your fears. If, however, he has ties t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/01/18 11:46 PM |
| 33 | I have masculine interests"Being feminine" isn't about loving cute frilly things, and makeup, and wanting to have a thousand rolly-polly babies. Thinking of yourself as masculine or unattractive to men because you don't fit into a stereotype of femininity isn't useful in the slightest. Neither is trying to change your interests in order to be "more feminine". Ultimately I believe that separating interests into masculine and feminine isn't useful. Men can have feminine interests. Women can have masculine ones. These thing… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/01/18 06:20 PM |
| 20 | A man who takes you seriously won't take you to a bar...I would modify this to say that a man who takes you seriously won't only take you to bars. It's completely possible to be in a serious, committed relationship with someone, fully involved in their life and with their family, and still occasionally go to a bar. I think it's a bit silly to say "a man who takes you seriously will never do x/y/z with you," when x/y/z isn't a clear red flag ... because while there are definitely similarities between the majority of men (and the majority of women),… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/01/18 01:00 PM |
| 1 | I want to be less biased, what do you think is best for any woman (not just RPW) emotionally to do regarding sex?I think before any of your questions can be answered, we need to define what "casual sex" is. Is it just the one night stand that you bang once and never see again, or does it include friends with benefits, who you have a longer-standing relationship with, albeit without commitment? Is it "casual sex" if you knew the person very well beforehand, decided to try having sex, and then realizing you're just best as friends? Perhaps you and others don't see much of a difference between these situation… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/01/18 07:53 AM |
| 9 | What are some nice things I can do for my husband from the hospital?I don't think it's really necessary to "do" anything more than tell him you love/miss him, and perhaps give him a call and have a chat, if he can't visit you. But if you really insist on doing something for him while you're away, it might be sweet to order him something small that he would like. A book he's interested in, for example. Nothing expensive or over the top, just a little something that will arrive at the house while you're gone, to show that you've been thinking of him. If money is a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/01/18 07:16 AM |
| 2 | What is your and your captain’s opinions on navel piercings?one-piece bathing suits exist, as do cover-ups not everyone goes to or cares about beaches. I've lived near beaches my entire life, and I haven't gone to one in a bathing suit (aka for reasons other than to be near the water and have a scenic view) in... probably about 4 or 5 years, long before I had my piercing. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/01/18 10:28 AM |
| 4 | Romantic Victories!!!!!!This past weekend, my boyfriend had his family (parents and brother) over to the house. This isn't the first time I've met them, but it was the first time I cooked for them. A few days before they came, my boyfriend told me that he would really love it if I made a specific pasta dish for them, that he happens to love and would be certain they would, too. No pressure, right? ;P Well, it went over swimmingly, everyone loved it, and his brother even took a big container of leftovers to eat during t… | /r/RedPillWives | 17/01/18 11:08 AM |
| 14 | What advice would you give your younger self?That it's okay to be a virgin, even late into your teens. That I'm not defective or unwanted for not having had any sexual experience in high school or the first few years of university. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/01/18 09:43 AM |
| 6 | Same day Bumble F-closeBlood choke. Press the sides of the throat (where the arteries are, and not too agressively, instead build up pressure slowly) not the middle. If you want to breath choke, it's generally better to cover the mouth and nose instead. It's too easy to crush the trachea if you go for breath choking via the throat. That will just make her cough. | /r/TheRedPill | 16/01/18 03:57 PM |
| 2 | Fiance's office messy, need adviceIf his office is the main source of light, perhaps you should think about installing a sheer curtain, if it would work with the overall décor. That way, you can pull it shut when guests are over. It will help block out the mess while still allowing natural light into the house. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/01/18 08:08 AM |
| 8 | Same day Bumble F-closeNot every girl is into choking. You need to check how she reacts to things like touching her neck and light pressure there (like you did) before moving on to actually choking her. A positive response when you do the aforementioned = choke her. Also, if you're going to do this, and especially if it's your first time fucking her, make sure you're both sober. If you're drunk, it's easier to misjudge things and accidentally choke her out. | /r/TheRedPill | 16/01/18 07:55 AM |
| 3 | What is your and your captain’s opinions on navel piercings?I think most people here already know this. OP isn't asking about tattoos and "radical hairstyles" ... she's asking about a piercing that will be seen by her and her potential partners only. There is very little attention-seeking about a body modification that doesn't get displayed. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/01/18 07:32 AM |
| 0 | New RPW Needs Help With LDRMy best friend is in a LDR. I am generally strongly against the idea, as they rarely work out well, but I have seen her and her boyfriend succeed for over a year. So I'll share two of the major things the two of them do to maintain closeness, as I think most of the other tips and more RPW-y things have already been covered by other commenters. weekly "date night" where the two engage in an activity together. My friend's date night, because her and her boyfriend both love to cook, is that they pl… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/01/18 07:20 AM |
| 2 | What is your and your captain’s opinions on navel piercings?I've wanted a belly ring since I was a child, ever since the first time I saw one. I think they're cute, sexy ... just overall very attractive. I got one for myself as a birthday present a few years ago and I've never regretted it. And on top of that, it's not a painful piercing to get at all! If one day you do find you don't like it, you can always take it out. As for guys, I've never met anyone who had a very strong opinion either way. I'm sure some do exist, but they would be a minority. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/01/18 07:08 AM |
| 3 | GriefI don't believe the boyfriend did anything wrong. She is, however, entitled to feel hurt by a lack of support during a time of extreme duress. Everyone is entitled to their emotions, and emotional reactions are valid responses. Problems only arise when people allow themselves to be wrongly guided by emotional responses. She is allowed to feel hurt, but if she were to start using that hurt to justify acting poorly towards her boyfriend, that wouldn't be right. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/01/18 03:31 PM |
| 8 | Dealing with low self-esteem/u/lunatic_in_the_hall is spot on. I would couple her advice with this: tell yourself you're great! While you're working on your physical/mental/whatever that you want to improve, don't forget to take some time to just compliment yourself. Look in the mirror and say "damn girl, you have amazing eyes! That nose? Sexy! And I love how smart and funny you are!" or whatever other thing feels right in the moment. Maybe a mantra, maybe you'll want to switch it up occasionally. Build yourself up with co… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/01/18 01:10 PM |
| 8 | GriefFirst of all, I'm very sorry to hear about your grandfather. I know this is a tough time for you, and I hope that your friends, family, and boyfriend are all there for you to provide the kind of support you need. Your boyfriend has hurt you, and I think the grief you're feeling only maximizes the feeling of being let down at this time. Take a bit of time, don't lash out at him because of your grief (it may make you want to do that). Remember that although you are hurting, other people can't put … | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/01/18 01:06 PM |
| 19 | Telling my boyfriend he's "the captain"I totally understand what you mean. When I get in bad moods, I have two versions: "help cheer me up" (the most common), or "everyone fuck off while I stew in my misery". And since I generally tend to feel better with the help of someone else distracting me, I automatically assumed it would be like that with everyone else, too. Luckily my boyfriend was cognizant enough to realize that we have different needs early on, and when we started living together he told me that sometimes he'll be in a bad… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/01/18 08:11 AM |
| 1 | About dependenceHa, great minds :P | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/01/18 08:36 AM |
| 7 | About dependenceI read it more as a post about the importance of vetting potential partners, not as OP being standoffish. Trust does need to be earned during the early stages of dating -- from both parties. If you go on a few dates with someone and realize you don't think they seem trustworthy, there's no reason to keep being with them, and even less reason to be dependent on them. You're right that trust goes both ways, but this is RPW, so I think it makes sense that she would be talking about the importance o… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/01/18 08:27 AM |
| 2 | About dependenceTrust shouldn't be given away willy-nilly to whatever man comes along, just because "he's a man, I should trust him!" | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/01/18 07:54 AM |
| 1 | Red Pill Theory has caused me (19F) to become obsessed/insecure with my appearance?My previous comment was deleted, but in it I said: As for him saying his ex was prettier than you ... well, I don't think that's the kind of question anyone should be asking However from my understanding the "is your ex prettier" question and the conversation over text were two different instances. In the first, I agree, she shouldn't have asked the question. But it's a bit too late now, and the fact remains that her boyfriend didn't provide the comfort she was looking for. I'm not saying one pe… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/01/18 07:15 AM |
| 2 | Red Pill Theory has caused me (19F) to become obsessed/insecure with my appearance?I'm definitely not saying OP's boyfriend should have lied to her. Nor do I think anyone is perfect or should be lauded as such. However this question is very clearly a comfort test (whether OP realized it or not), and her boyfriend also very clearly didn't pass it, judging by her post and comments here. It's possible to be honest while still providing comfort, it just takes a different and more gentle approach. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/01/18 07:04 AM |
| 2 | Red Pill Theory has caused me (19F) to become obsessed/insecure with my appearance?Okay, I'm very reassured that he's said that about you vs his ex! It's okay to recognize that someone was perhaps physically better, but overall not as great. The problem only arises when they're still pining after the "physically better but overall not as great" person. It sounds like he recognizes that he has something better now, though, and that's good. As for the disrespect in what he said, I would not bring it up in a big way. Mention it casually, without the intent of arguing, and try to … | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/01/18 08:13 AM |
| 1 | Red Pill Theory has caused me (19F) to become obsessed/insecure with my appearance?If you're with someone who really loves you, they're not going to talk shit about you behind your back. Everyone has physical flaws. Bringing attention to your partner's physical flaws in conversation with friends is incredibly disrespectful. It's not your fault for reading the conversation, it's his fault for having had it in the first place. As for him saying his ex was prettier than you ... well, I don't think that's the kind of question anyone should be asking, but he still shouldn't have sa… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/01/18 07:41 AM |
| 1 | Not sure if this is healthy or notIf he cared as deeply about you as you think he does, he would have stopped this behaviour immediately. Or at least tried -- and if it is like an addiction, tried to enlist your help, perhaps. Or fessed up and be completely honest if he "relapsed". Instead, he lied to you and continued doing something not only wrong in a commited and monogamous relationship, but also something he knows hurts and makes your uncomfortable. In essence, no, this is not healthy. No, this is not (or at least shouldn't… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/12/17 01:18 AM |
| 2 | Afraid of vulnerabilityI haven't had this exact problem, but a similar one. I'm not fully "recovered", but one thing I've found that helps is, however silly it may seem, reciting positive mantras for myself. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/12/17 02:33 AM |
| 1 | How long into a relationship do you wait to have sex?LOL. I love that description ... it sounds horrible. And I absolutely agree with you -- sexual compatibility is very important, and while it's definitely something two people can work on together, it's good to know before you get into something extremely long-term and committed whether the person you're interested in being with is, well, actually someone you could see yourself having sex with for however many years. | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/12/17 03:26 PM |
| 1 | How long into a relationship do you wait to have sex?I think the main thing is not to do things just because you feel pressured into it. If you don't feel comfortable kissing someone, don't do it. Don't feel comfortable having sex with someone? DEFINITELY don't do it! I know that many people around here advocate not having sex immediately, but there's no set-in-stone amount of time to wait. I've seen some people (not necessarily here, but around the internet in general) saying "never have sex before three months!" as if it were a definite rule. It… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/12/17 02:32 PM |
| 1 | Made A Cake.I think pies are generally easier than cakes! A pie can't collapse and be half-cooked in the middle but charred on the outside (something that has happened to cake of mine... yikes). What kind of pie are you thinking of making? I was planning on baking a cake today but we only have one egg left, so I may make a pie instead... | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/12/17 07:08 AM |
| 1 | Made A Cake.If the outside is burning but the inside still isn't cooked, definitely turn the temperature down! Maybe next time, try cooking it at a lower temperature than recommended. Good luck :D | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/12/17 11:56 AM |
| 2 | Made A Cake.What kind of cake did you try making and what temperature did you put it at? I'm by no means a baking genius (I prefer cooking), but I've been baking usually a cake a week for the past few months because my SO loves sweets, so maybe I can help! :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/12/17 02:59 PM |
| 33 | Do men respect women with a mission?I'll preface this by saying that I'm not exactly a 'traditional' RPW, so take my response with a grain of salt, and if others want to go ahead and tell me my answer isn't in line with RPW theory, I'll accept that. That being said, I strongly believe every person needs to have a mission in life. This isn't something that has to do with gender at all. A mission, a strong goal, a burning desire to achieve your ultimate something is essentially the reason for us to be alive. Perhaps a more tradition… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/12/17 02:56 PM |
| 2 | Bill C-51: Canadians, you should be worried about allegations.Canada never really elected a female PM. She was temporarily appointed prime minister because Mulroney stepped down from the position. When election time came around a few months later, she was not ("re-")elected. | /r/TheRedPill | 15/12/17 05:20 PM |
| 2 | Dealing with cheating, insecurity, and trust issuesI also checked your post history and girl honestly you are really gorgeous, I just wanted to let you know. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/12/17 01:47 PM |
| 2 | Dealing with cheating, insecurity, and trust issuesLol, sorry I completely missed the fact that you commented before. Derp! I've been checking out that sub like you recommended and I think it's really helping. Thank you! ❤ | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/12/17 12:04 PM |
| 22 | Lingerie questionWell... why not sleep naked instead? Instead of a routine of getting yourself dressed into something cute, how about a (temporary?) new routine of a strip-tease before bed. If money is an issue, maybe the collection could slowly begin restoration by buying more inexpensive lingerie online, until you have the money to splurge on "better" stuff. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/12/17 07:53 AM |
| 1 | Dealing with cheating, insecurity, and trust issuesHave you been in a similar situation? | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/12/17 07:06 AM |
| 3 | I'm overweight and my partner is not attracted to me. Please help...While I agree with you that being continually lost in fantasies when having sex with your partner isn't a good thing, I do think that in some cases, especially when orgasming is difficult, it's necessary to think of something else. Not being the partner isn't sufficient, but because thinking of the other person during that moment can, for some women, become more stressful than arousing. If a woman feels pressured to orgasm, if she gets lost in thoughts that "oh no, he probably thinks I'm taking … | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/12/17 04:08 PM |
| 5 | Dealing with cheating, insecurity, and trust issuesThank you. This definitely isn't what I wanted to hear, but I think it's exactly what I needed. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/12/17 04:02 PM |
| 1 | Dealing with cheating, insecurity, and trust issuesThe thing is, I know he isn't keeping her around as a backup, which is what makes this more difficult for me. She lives in another country, and there's quite a dramatic language barrier between them. I have a very hard time imagining her as a fall-back, considering the relative difficulty and expense just to sleep with her again for a few weeks, let alone actually create a relationship. I respect your opinion about male and female friendships, and I know it's one that is shared by many members o… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/12/17 04:00 PM |
| 1 | Dealing with cheating, insecurity, and trust issuesThey're selfies, very pretty ones. I don't know if I necessarily consider "exchanging nudes" as cheating, though it definitely was a breach of trust. I can be 100% confident he never physically cheated on me with her, as she lives in a different country relatively far away. My concern is less that he's going to leave me for her, or that he'll sleep with her. It's more the fact that knowing he clearly still has some attraction for her makes me uncomfortable and insecure. It makes me wonder if, in… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/12/17 03:54 PM |
| 3 | I'm overweight and my partner is not attracted to me. Please help...A set of small weight (5, 10, 20 pounds) should be sufficient. I don't know how strong you are currently, but if you're just starting out I would suggest starting with the 5-pound weights and slowly progressing upwards. If 5 pounds still feels like too much, or you would rather start even smaller, you can try 2.5 pounds. :) Motivation is great, but it's flaky. Force yourself to do things even when you don't want to -- that's the only way you'll be able to achieve your goals. And when you're feel… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/12/17 02:44 PM |
| 3 | I'm overweight and my partner is not attracted to me. Please help...Okay, in this case I definitely think the best thing for you to do would be to start with setting small goals for yourself. Set up a healthy meal plan, limit snacking (if you want to snack on something, make it a healthy something, like fruit!), and make an exercise plan. A small exercise plan. Don't kill yourself for an hour a day. Try taking a walk at some point, maybe do some stretches and light weightlifting when you get home after work, and go for a jog or do some other type of more "intens… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/12/17 02:26 PM |
| 28 | I'm overweight and my partner is not attracted to me. Please help...I think the first thing you need to do is rearrange your thought patterns. Getting fit and healthy is always a wonderful goal -- but doing it solely because you want to make someone else happy is possibly part of the reason you continue to fail. Not only should exercising and eating healthy, balanced meals be something you do out of an act of self-love, but it should also be something you find at least remotely enjoyable. If you're dragging yourself through weeks of something that feels like tor… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/12/17 01:38 PM |
| 3 | I'm afraid my depression is going to hinder me from getting marriedEvery person has flaws. The only way those flaws will define you is if you let them, by not working on yourself and doing all that you can to improve your health and situation. It seems like you're already doing that, so I honestly wouldn't worry that your depression will keep you from finding someone. No reasonable man (or woman!) should expect absolute perfection in their partner. It isn't realistic and it isn't healthy. Granted, yes, people will have differing levels of patience and tolerance… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/12/17 11:54 AM |
| 10 | Ever see something in the media and think, "I'm glad I discovered RPW before I thought this was a good idea"?It's even cleaner than a toilet, it's always nicely soaped up ;P | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/12/17 02:07 PM |
| 17 | Ever see something in the media and think, "I'm glad I discovered RPW before I thought this was a good idea"?The part that offends me most is the implication that it's wrong to pee in the shower. How dare you, Buzzfeed! | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/12/17 12:53 PM |
| 3 | Would RP men consider it a red flag if their GF asked for an FMF threesome with them?I've done this. Be very careful about who you choose to do this with. If it works out well it can work out very well and strengthen the bond between you and your partner. But if it works out poorly (because you get jealous, because one of you isn't into it, because he gets jealous, etc) it can work out very poorly. If you feel, however, that your boyfriend will look poorly on you for it, I don't know if the bond you have together is strong enough for such a thing. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/12/17 03:05 PM |
| 1 | Tips on how to STFU?Outside Québec, Canadian students don't really learn Québecois French. There's a bit more education about it, and we learn some terminology in order to be able to better understand them, but our primary education is in the French of France. So truthfully, I couldn't tell you much about the intricacies of Québecois, as it's not my dialect. Although I have been told that I pronounce certain words as if I were Québecoise. :P I think all language is full of those kinds of strange intricacies. It too… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/12/17 06:41 AM |
| 18 | Am I acting too masculine?More often than not, a guy isn't going to date you simply because of your intellectual traits. You need to bring more to the table than that. The same goes for a woman -- intelligence is wonderful in a man, but rarely is that the only thing a woman is looking for. If you put all the emphasis in dating and relationships on your intellect, then of course that's a problem. That doesn't mean your intelligence is unimportant or that men don't care at all about it. Men as a general group can be simila… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/11/17 02:14 PM |
| 1 | Tips on how to STFU?The ability to communicate better was a great surprise to me! Especially because I've always been a bit shy about coming across as dumb because it's not my first language. (Anxiety will do that!) I'm rather lucky in that I'm Canadian, so I've been learning French in some capacity my whole life. It's interesting to make note of the similarities between the languages, of course! I study linguistics so I've always found that a lot of fun. French and English are quite different grammatically but the… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/11/17 08:15 PM |
| 2 | Tips on how to STFU?I can also attest to the unexpected (at least for me) benefit of arguing or communicating in general in a second language. It really forces you to think clearly about what you're saying and to come into things with a better plan to ensure that you're well understood. I have to admit I'm a bit entertained because you're a Francophone having to communicate in English, and I'm an Anglophone having to communicate in French. ;) Opposite experiences but with the same effect! | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/11/17 07:40 PM |
| 4 | Tips on how to STFU?I used to be a bit like you, in that I would fight and argue about things in conflicts, talk until I turned blue, and only end up worse afterwards. Not just in relationships, but in almost every context (except work, of course). But for me, coming to the realization that it often doesn't help has aided me immensely in being silent. I don't literally bite my tongue, but I do take deep breaths, count (I don't have any specific number I go to, but never anything exorbitant like 739), and nod. Good … | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/11/17 07:37 PM |
| 7 | Girls Night Out revisitedGirls' nights out are rare for me nowadays, as I've moved to another country and only see my closest female friends a handful of times a year. But our traditions have always remained the same, as we all have similar loves of FOOD! We like to find interesting new restaurants and dessert bars to spend a few hours gorging ourselves and talking. ;) | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/11/17 07:31 PM |
| 2 | Is it possible to have too much sex in a relationship? Does it lose it’s value when it’s so constant?My pleasure, and best of luck to you both! :) | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/11/17 10:45 AM |
| 3 | What if I'm a great RPW but I'm scared of marriage?Everything doesn't need to be new all the time. If anything, continually trying to do new and exciting things will only get exhausting, for you and your (potential) partner. Being able to sink into comfort and routine is an important part of longterm relationships. Of course this isn't to say that after a time there should be an end to the new and exciting -- of course not. But things are only new and exciting insofar as they are out of the ordinary. If every day is an adventure, adventures beco… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/11/17 10:42 AM |
| 9 | Is it possible to have too much sex in a relationship? Does it lose it’s value when it’s so constant?Getting sick of the same kind of sex with the same person is a real thing, for men and women, if you're always having the same kinds of sex, and lots of it, with little variation. I would actually say that in my experince men are more likely to get sick of that faster than women are. (But that's just my experience and I certainly haven't slept with every man in order to know conclusively :P) edit: basically, if you're having lots of sex and doing other things together, just make sure that you bo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/11/17 08:02 AM |
| 7 | Is it possible to have too much sex in a relationship? Does it lose it’s value when it’s so constant?If it's come to the point that all you're doing is having sex, and it feels like your relationship revolves primarily around that and little else, then it's probably too much. Not because it will "lose its value", but because you both risk getting sick of it/each other if all you do is have sex and nothing else. If, however, you both just have naturally high sex drives and indulge in that while also doing other things, I don't see any problem with that at all. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/11/17 07:33 AM |
| 7 | What to do when guy keeps making things flirty/sexual before you're exclusive?I would say that the majority of the time, if a person is continually turning conversations sexual in a manner that is more than just joking and humourous, that person is interested in hooking up. Rarely would they be interested in more than that at that particular moment. Certainly it's possible to end up in an LTR with someone who started out as a hookup, but that's not always the most likely outcome. If you have continually tried to express your boundaries, ignore the sexual comments, and try… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/11/17 07:46 AM |
| 1 | When your SO opens up to you: what do you do?:( I'm sorry to hear that. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/11/17 04:05 PM |
| 2 | Who do you talk about your so to?I think it can be healthy to get outsider perspective sometimes, from someone that you trust. I know that sometimes I will overreact to things and it's helpful to have my best friend around to calm me down and help me understand that something isn't as big a deal as I'm making it into. You have to be careful and present things in an objective manner, though, in order to avoid badmouthing, which can be something people find difficult. But I think what's even more important than not badmouthing (o… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/11/17 12:00 PM |
| 3 | Is it okay to ask my boyfriend to hang out?If you ask him in a polite, casual way, it shouldn't come off as agressive. There's nothing wrong with being confident or showing that you have an interest in seeing him. But, as other commenters have said, just be prepared for the possibility of rejection. If he's saying yes to hanging out only from obligation then I don't think he's the type of person you should be getting into a relationship with anyway. That will build resentment in the future. However, if you're asking in a casual way, that… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/11/17 10:04 AM |
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