Parenting isn't just about the mother. And yet fathers are routinely shut out of their children's lives due to social standards, maternal gatekeeping, and unfair divorce and child custody laws.

  • We are not ATMs
  • We do more than earn money
  • We are not babysitting
  • We are not "visiting" our children
  • And we are not deadbeats

We are lacking a basic amount of respect, human decency, and civil rights though.

In legalese, one of the biggest things we need is a default rebuttable presumption of equal custody to our children.

If you want to get involved, check out the national parents organization and look up father's rights groups in you area.

And remember to say happy father's day on June 21.

Some resources:

NPO's 2019 shared custody report card (US). https://nationalparentsorganization.org/information-resources/2019-shared-parenting-report-card

Maternal gatekeeping and why it matters for children. https://www.fatherhood.org/fatherhood/maternal-gatekeeping-why-it-matters-for-children

“Yes, Dear”: Henpecked Husbands and One-Sided Relationship Dynamics. https://becauseits2015.wordpress.com/2016/12/11/yes-dear-henpecked-husbands-and-one-sided-relationship-dynamics/

An academic paper about social norms and family court biases against fathers. https://www.law.upenn.edu/journals/lawreview/articles/volume153/issue3/Maldonado153U.Pa.L.Rev.921(2005).pdf

A proposed logo for father's rights day. https://i.redd.it/grxu1d9zcg251.jpg