There's only one fact that applies to literally all homes with two adults where one person does more domestic duties than the other: the person who does the extra work consistently, is highly likely to score high for trait conscientiousness in a psychometric test.

It tends to be true that more women than men score highly on conscientiousness. It is true that as a person becomes more towards the extreme end of conscientious, they are more likely to be dictatorial, rigid and fanatical. The extreme example of the lack of conscientiousness is a heroin junky, just crashing life, lying casually, utterly incapable of being reliable.

But as you get more life experience you meet the couples where the man's the straight edge, and his wife's just a whirlwind of chaos.

The problem is that this is one of the big 5 personality traits. The ones that don't change much. That means that for individuals, a broad small improvement is the very best possible outcome. And there's plenty of men and women on both sides.

So any movement to compensate people for lazy spouses must also include compensation for the hundreds of millions of men in the world who spend life picking up after the woman they love. If we can't just be adult about it and trust the couples to find the balance that works best for themselves.

Highly conscientious spouses are often very hard to tolerate because they forever point out your mistakes without ever giving you a break. Highly conscientious people get dumped a lot.