tell me if i'm right

LadylikeElectricland · 2021-09-01T15:39:05+00:00

I think teenagers are more prone to a hive mentality than they are willing to admit. There is a reason why there is usually just this one boy and one girl that everybody wants to date and that's simply because a whole class/year have collectively decided that these two people are attractive. In reality, however, it's mostly a random decision that everybody just happened to go along (mostly because they simply do not know any better.) Once you get to college, you'll see that the dating scene will stop being so black and white.

lastly, these types of guys tend to ooze and drip with testosterone, the male hormone.

Dude, are you still talking about 15-year old boys here?? Jesus christ!!

The thing with confidence is that you have to decide for yourself that you are desirable and then carry yourself as so. In other words, you kind of have to believe your own bullshit, if that makes sense. It won't guarantee you a 100% success, but people will consider you to be 'confident.' Weirdly enough, you often have to tell people, through your acts and your overall presence, what they should think about you.

ZacKaizen · 2021-09-01T18:00:41+00:00

Like many young boys, you got confused over the term "bad boy". It never meant an toxic a-hole. Rather it meant "rebel", or "maverick" - a guy that is confident enough to do his own thing instead of following the herd. You'll learn this over the next several years: confidence comes from competence. When you become good at something, your confidence increases. The more you talk with girls, the better you will get with communicating with them and will gain confidence in doing so. No guy at 15 knows "the right things to say, all the time". Hell, no one knows the right things to say all the time, period. The charm and wit you see from guys in high school is almost always a façade; they are faking it while hoping they make it. They can get away with that in high school because most of their peers do not know any better. Once you get into the larger pond of college/real world, that mentality falls flat more often than not.

My advice: at 15, do not stress about girls. Focus on your education, your fitness, your life skills, your hobbies, figuring out what you want to do with your life, and having fun! If a girl comes around, great! If not, you are still enjoying life and getting the best out of it while setting yourself up for later in life. There are guys you will see that seem to have it all right now. Many of them are peaking at 15-18 years old, and when you see them at your 10-year reunion, you will wonder what you were thinking when you thought they had it all figured out!

jaredhasarrived · 2021-09-01T15:32:55+00:00

Here's the problem with a lot of guys. They think being a bad boy = being an asshole.

boyraceruk · 2021-09-01T15:38:20+00:00

You are correct, projecting confidence and being prepared to lie to tell women what they want to hear will get you far enough for some men. It's not a great long-term strategy and it definitely has too many drawbacks to recommend but there's a reason it's a cliche.

Toodleshoney · 2021-09-01T18:56:22+00:00

Some people also are alcoholics and meth heads. Many will do things that aren't good for them on purpose or because they can't help it. There are plenty of "nice guys" with girlfriends and wives. As long as your hygiene is good and you have a decent personality and aren't a shut-in, you'll meet women who are interested.

You should not design your personality and life around "getting women". That's where you lose. Biology will always bring the women. Just focus on self improvement, always.

Tarun_slayer199 · 2021-09-01T19:39:15+00:00

Its not 1+1=2, every person is different , boys don't have monopoly on confidence and charisma, shy/introverted boys and girls get pressured into going against their nature for being "socially accepted" as a confident and extroverted person, you"re obviously young and perhaps don't know that there are many extroverted and "bad" girls who are into shy boys as well, there's so much more to how we select our partners and it has many variables, each unique to an individual, don't judge or generalise, just be you and the right person will love you for it <3 :D

FraidyDogBrowse · 2021-09-01T23:07:30+00:00

I mean it also depends on the girl. Plenty of girls go through a phase where they like "bad boys" and plenty of girls like super traditional manly men.

But there's diversity in tastes. Just like some guys like really slender waifish girls, some guys like curvy girls. Some girls like big muscly guys, some like skinny hipsters, etc.

I've always been drawn to nerds, men and women. I like passion and intellect. Smooth talking, super confident guys have always been kind of a turn off to me, actually.

I'm not a cis straight woman though so my tastes are likely a little more off beat. But I've met and socialized with enough off beat women that I know I'm not alone.

Iamthesea95 · 2021-09-03T04:57:34+00:00

I thought the same thing in high school and to an extent as a young adult. Here's the thing though: confidence is the only part that matters. "Badboys" are just insecure people who project their problems onto other people, and other insecure people mistake that for confidence. You're far more likely to get on someone's good side by being a genuine, decent person with real confidence, not fake confidence that comes fron putting people down.

mustardmind · 2021-09-01T15:39:27+00:00

girls don't like badboys, girls like powerful men. and only powerful people afford to be bad, otherwise they will be crushed by powerful men. if you are one of the most powerful men in the room, that will pull girls like a gravity. power could mean physical, competance, money, infulance, genetics etc.

Title	tell me if i'm right
Author	Oistcute
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Date	September 1, 2021 3:21 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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