Traits and tenets of high-value women

ASeaOfQuotes · 2021-09-30T19:20:30+00:00

This is a great list. I want to add that seeing a list like this can seem intimidating to some, that you can’t be a HV person unless you have all of these checked off, but that simply isn’t true.

You have to look at this list as a guide of how you prioritize your life based on your current position. Everyone is starting from a different baseline in life, based on mental, emotional, and physical health. Based on your families ability to contribute to your goals. Based on your country of origin or religious beliefs. The list goes on. What that means is, look at this as a list of goals that will serve you and prioritize which ones you feel you should start with, which ones will serve you the most to lead you to others, and go from there.

A large part of being HV is consistency. If you are continuously striving to meet the goals that are most important to you, you are on the right path.

Noemie_Mathilde · 2021-10-01T11:20:07+00:00

Don't tell men about your savings. Ever.

daisy_0720 · 2021-10-01T04:44:06+00:00

I would also say a part of self-care is practicing self-compassion. I hold myself to very high standards and often need to remind myself that it's okay to take a break/have a lazy day every now and again. Women are under a lot of pressure to 'perfect', and while we should certainly strive to be the best version of ourselves, it's equally important to be kind to ourselves, the way we would to a friend or loved one.

sikulet · 2021-10-01T12:56:41+00:00

This is not a checklist. More on an operative guide on how to high value. It takes time to get things in order. Be kind to ourselves. The best is yet to come.

throwaway-fds · 2021-09-30T22:08:29+00:00

I really like this! One trait that I feel should be emphasized is certain personality traits.

Toxicity/hatefulness - This is not to be confused with anger. A lot of FDSers are women who are finally "allowed" to be angry or air their grievances in a patriarchal world without unnecessary male interruption. This isn't written for the benefit of a male partner, more like your every day interactions with anyone. A HV person is not hateful; they do not engage in bigotry (homophobia, fatphobia. I use these because I've seen posts like this in this sub). They are not unnecessarily rude in day to day interactions (being snarky, assuming, short tempered or unsympathetic)
Conceited - NOT to be confused with CONFIDENCE (A HVW trait that shows self-trust, love, and respect of your intuition.) e.g a male co-worker vents his frustrations during our down time at work. I don't say "well, you're just using me as a free therapist/wanna fuck, begone scrote!" because I assess the situation: 1. We are co-workers. 2. Past behavior has not indicated that he's interested in me beyond anything professional. 3. Work can suck sometimes, and people just need to vent. (I bring this up because of a past post where a FDS poster insisted that a scrote of the past was vehemently hitting on her and trying to impress her; Except it sounded absolutely nothing like that and other posters agreed.)

Basically this is not for men, this is for you. Be a good medium, understand when you are going too far and pull yourself back and analyze your behavior. Just as you are vetting a potential HVM, vet yourself as well so you can be the best version of yourself you can be.

eveloe · 2021-10-01T01:34:40+00:00

I ❤️ this list x

hensbanex · 2021-10-01T15:06:12+00:00

great list, it’s very helpful for self evaluation and seeing where we can improve

FI-REfox · 2021-09-30T20:04:12+00:00

Thank you for the list!

Some time ago, a poster had the great suggestion to turn a list of HV partner must-have traits into a colouring activity so you can more easily visualize whether a potential mate is measuring up. I have been doing this activity ever since using a gingerbread man outline and call this my Gingerbread BF test xD

I think I'm going to use this list to make a Gingerbread Self activity to help me focus on weaker areas I need to work on.

Title	Traits and tenets of high-value women
Author	jingks_
Upvotes	442
Comments	10
Date	September 30, 2021 6:31 PM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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