My boyfriend of 1 year "proposed" to me, or he is trying to mentally prepare me, I don't know, it's all so confusing, it's the first real red flag I see. We have a great relationship and I really feel loved by him, but:

Red flag nr.1: He ordered a package that arrived after he left the country for 2 weeks. I didn't knew if it's something he bought for himself or for me, so I didn't opend the package until he wrote back to me and ask me " So hows it look?". Inside there was a wallet for him and a diamond ring for me. I was pretty surprised at the begining, and seeing the diamonds I didn't understand if it's a gift or a proposal. I told him "I don't even know what to say"...sugesting that I don't understand it. He told me "The package it's for you...BUT...its meant for another, special moment...closer to the end of year...I wanted it to be a surprise...but it came too late....after I left. This was meant for christmas. It's supposed to go with something else I was going to ask you..."

Red flag Nr.2: At this moment I am very pissed off, because we discussed about this before, and I told him that becasue it is said that 'love lasts only three years' (it's a book about this) I want us to first get to know each other very well, and if we still love each other after 3 years, then I am willing to think of marriage. And also I told him that I expected something more romantic, to which, after he saw my annoiance he said " Just box the ring again. I will return it later."

Red flag Nr. 3: After I (I know I shoudn't have done it) asked him: "Even tough I told you before the term of me marying you, you chose to neglect it like I would have never said it. Why didn't you take into consideration this ?" he turned tables around and said "There is a misunderstanding, and I did take things into consideration, but I will not attempt to explain it here because text does not work for us and you are not in a good state towards me. But I do thank you for making things very clear about where I stand in the grand scheme of things. I hadnt seen clearly on how you perceived me until now and so this is very good. "

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I feel so hurt, confused and deceived. I tought he is a HVM, but in this scenario, he's acting like a child and who the hell is proposing while being away? Again WTF ?

Edit: thank you all so much for bringing light into this 🙏 be sure I won't marry him.