Would it be more accurate to say women want men who talk about their emotions rather than express them?

AbbreviationsNo7536 · 2022-03-07T02:59:57+00:00

Screaming and throwing objects in response to emotional stimuli is the behavior of a toddler, whose brain lacks linguistic sophistication, lacks fully developed empathy, and lacks the ability regulate his or her emotions. This is NOT normal behavior for an adult human, male or female. It IS normal for men and women to dislike this behavior in other humans.

doom_child · 2022-03-07T03:09:29+00:00

It’s not talk versus express. Your examples contradict your title question. Your examples show that it’s the healthy expression and processing of emotions that matters.

There are women who like unhealthy emotional expression because they are subconsciously conditioned to respond to it emotionally and to believe it is the right behavior. Trauma and culture. But everyone benefits from the healthy processing and expression of emotions.

dunndundun0601 · 2022-03-07T13:24:13+00:00

That's a people thing... I cant think of very many men who watch a woman throw tantrum, yes, scream and throw things at them and say "I freaking love her!" Because that's toxic af and unhealthy.

In the first scenario you just described a man taking his anger out on a woman.

The second described how adults communicate.

I'm not understanding your lack of understanding.

Randomguy34455 · 2022-03-07T03:20:16+00:00

Yes, but not only women

DrunkUranus · 2022-03-07T01:29:25+00:00

Uhhh.... yeah. In general humans prefer not to be yelled and screamed at.

n0name1026 · 2022-03-07T18:07:48+00:00

It can be a tricky line to walk. For some men, they don't want to express emotions because they actually no longer know how to because they've been performing conventional masculinity for so long that they've become alienated from their own feelings.

For other men, they were vulnerable once and it blew up spectacularly in their face so they decided to never open up again unless its to someone like a family member, religious leader or medical professional.

When women speak of wanting vulnerability, I think the question would be: "what would that look like?" Get her to try and visualize it and describe what the scenario shes expecting would look like. Some women think they want the man they're speaking with to open up and when he does, he reveals trauma or history that she is completely unprepared for and so she can end up judging the man and not being able to see him the same way. Some women don't respect boundaries and if you've said something very private and personal(e.g. a past suicide attempt or parents divorcing) she may bring it up in an argument to hurt him (e.g. You're acting just like your father, no wonder your mother left; it makes sense why you'd want to die. You make everyone around you miserable.) So vulnerability and expressing yourself emotionally can really just also mean labeling your feelings. A lot of men tend to tell stories without revealing how the events in the story made him feel personally. So that may look like "I almost got into a fight with my boss. He made me really angry and I had to step away and cool down before I did something id regret"

Tostitos153 · 2022-03-07T21:12:08+00:00

I think anybody would prefer for someone to communicate that they are angry compared to yelling and throwing things; that’s abusive behavior. Switch the roles and ask any man, I’m sure majority would prefer their women say they’re upset instead of yelling and throwing things. This isn’t a gender thing. This is an abuse thing.

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Title	Would it be more accurate to say women want men who talk about their emotions rather than express them?
Author	5MinuteMentalFitness
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Comments	15
Date	March 7, 2022 1:06 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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