12 years and it has become worst phase of my life…

SpiritualEnema · 2022-03-31T04:20:35+00:00

You know what you need to do, it’s been obvious for 7+ years man. I hate to be rude, but reach between your legs, find your nuts, and do it. She will never change, you’re hurting your kids being with her.

sicrm · 2022-03-31T04:49:23+00:00

you have to leave.

she knows how to push your buttons.

staying in this marriage will lead you to an early grave.

thefudmaster · 2022-03-31T04:43:27+00:00

My first marriage was 12 years as well. The last two years were for our divorce. Being free from that woman was the best money I ever spent. You will not regret it.

hkbk2011 · 2022-03-31T05:32:31+00:00

I have suffered 13 years of same thing. Now I found much peaceful life living in my own house with a gf . I see the kids everyday at ex house. It’s amicable

pegleg_legal · 2022-03-31T06:40:25+00:00

Indian divorce law is pretty rough. I hope you can get some support and find a way forward.

Falafelluvr1976 · 2022-03-31T04:38:38+00:00

I am really sorry that you have to experience such torture for such a long time. Even though it sounds difficult: You have to leave for your kids. Them seeing such relationship pattern will hurt them long term.

Besides, think about what kind of life you want to look back at in 30 years. For sure, it should not be permanent suffering.

lostcanuck007 · 2022-03-31T13:46:52+00:00

i have been researching indian divorce law a bit.

false allegations are a thing. be careful. get a lawyer. record everything. you are not safe. She is trying to make you start something. she is fully prepped and has something ready to use against you. She wants you to either hit her, scream or threaten her, and her revenge will start.

Currently you are in the presence of a "nagin". This needs to be dealt with care, involve friends and family(not her family) but don't be direct with her, go into a separate room or move out, but be sure you have recordings of the days before. India's divorce laws are so shit, especially on dowry and its punishments. you need a civil and criminal lawyer, you need to prepay them just in case or inform your family that you might need a certain amount of financial support.

get a copy of the police report that you made earlier against her.

do not fight. let this play out in her favor, let her leave you alone. comply with her demands as defensively as possible and only when you have people around you and ready to help you move, inform her then that you're leaving. there will be hell to pay, she will not know about the hidden recording and could claim assault, rape, and a whole bunch of things, to defame you infront of your friends. the fact that you eye witnesses and a hidden recording going on while moving out would be the best.

https://www.legalserviceindia.com/legal/article-4731-rights-of-husbands-in-dowry-and-cruelty-based-complaints.html

i feel so bad for you right now, you should have gotten help sooner.

warrior_up · 2022-03-31T14:14:42+00:00

Geeze fucking depressing, although I don’t condone cheating, typically that’s the females job but sounds like you’re truly miserable.

Just Do it with class, this women will always be involved in your life. 1.) fight to protect your visitation with your kids 2.) your financial future 3.) this women sounds crazy have a recorder on you at all times

More importantly, I regress so excuse my candid feedback here

Why do you give women so much control over your happiness? That’s the thing I’d be focusing on figuring out if I’m you

2022-03-31T16:26:16+00:00

Leave and don’t look back. I cut it off 1.5 years into it. She will not change. Things will not get better. It’s all about her and not you.

traveller1976 · 2022-03-31T18:15:38+00:00

Your first mistake was marrying this bitch. Your 2nd mistake was having kids with her. Your ongoing 3rd mistake is staying with her. The only problem is timing, leave the kids before the youngest turns 13 and they'll be scarred and will be taught to hate you. Otherwise fucking leave. As for her side of the family, they can fuck themselves.

AreaGuy · 2022-03-31T13:17:03+00:00

Made it 13 years with a dominating woman who lost all interest in sex and threatened suicide when I told her I was leaving her.

It’ll be officially dissolved in June, I’ve lived on my own since last summer, have 50% time with the kids, and my mental health hasn’t been this good in ages.

Physical-Pie748 · 2022-03-31T16:53:24+00:00

please please divorce her im not sure how much longer you can tolerate this. move out. but dont make the mistake of getting married again just because you love the new women.

crypto_keeper88 · 2022-03-31T17:19:12+00:00

Get rid of her ASAP! She is manipulating you and you are letting her do it! At least do it for your kids if you won't do it for your own peace of mind. Your wife is evil!

Funny_Wolverine_9 · 2022-03-31T23:44:59+00:00

Your kid will be fine....but your kid won't be find if you are miserable and end yourself.....

wheyter · 2022-06-03T06:32:53+00:00

Naturally 99% of the time mother will have kids custody. I don’t know what to do next.

What makes you say this ? Did you talk to any lawyer ? I am also from India and from what I have read online so far (haven't consulted any lawyer irl), in case your child is a boy, the father will get the custody provided the boy if of 5 years of age or older.

Title	12 years and it has become worst phase of my life…
Author	lazyassnail
Upvotes	21
Comments	20
Date	March 31, 2022 4:14 AM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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