"Finally, it seems, women are catching up – and in my opinion, it couldn’t have come soon enough. After all, it’s 2022: no woman should be giving up her own identity for that of her husband. We are not chattel." -- No woman should be changing her name after marriage in 2022

Reddit1984Censorship · 2022-04-19T19:57:19+00:00

Priorities: Name change > Divorce rape

OldEgalitarianMRA · 2022-04-19T20:20:47+00:00

A bunch of strange women. From the article:

A 2016 survey showed that 90 per cent of British women take their husband’s last name to replace their maiden name after getting married.

The real point of the article:
But questions around whether the tradition should continue have been hotly debated online in recent months.

Influencers failing to influence.

tenchineuro · 2022-04-20T00:04:10+00:00

It made no real sense at all: I was already a part of my (then) husband’s family, so why did I need to give up the name that had carried me since birth? And so, I put it right (or, as I see it: righted a wrong). I changed my name back by deed poll for the paltry sum of £36 – and immediately felt like “me” again. I would urge every woman to do the same.

But then...

I celebrate those who are trying to subvert tradition, such as Lewis Hamilton – the seven-time world champion announced in March that he was changing his name to honour his mother’s surname: Larbalestier. He said he made the decision partly “because I don’t really fully understand the whole idea of why, when people get married, the woman loses her name”. If only all Britons were so progressive.

So apparently it's bad for a women to take her husbands name and progressive when a man takes a woman's name.

Warder766312 · 2022-04-19T20:39:01+00:00

This is perfectly fine with me. If she doesn’t want the name, then there are a few other traditional things we should get rid of. How about the wedding ceremony in general? Make it just a trip to the court house. How about getting rid of the whole ring thing too since that’s practically a link of a chain signifying slavery.

3-1-3-mamma · 2022-04-19T22:44:34+00:00

Yep. Just keep your father’s name. Or your grandfather’s.

Wtf

hehimCA · 2022-04-19T20:29:15+00:00

Men should just not get married. Problem solved.

mikesteane · 2022-04-20T00:36:30+00:00

And instead of wearing white, brides should just have dresses made out of red flags.

sgt_oddball_17 · 2022-04-19T21:40:19+00:00

"We don't need to recruit!" --MGTOW

Sininenn · 2022-04-20T13:10:24+00:00

No one is forcing women to change their name.

Tradtions are normalized and common, yes, but nobodh enforces them.

This is a non-issue, and every individual couple should do what they feel best for them, and leave every other person to do as they wish.

NoBrick444 · 2022-04-19T23:52:55+00:00

How bout just getting rid of the ceremony too, and the white dress, cuz god knows you can't find 3 wise men or a virgin at a wedding.

springy · 2022-04-20T05:16:33+00:00

I have noticed that a lot of strong and independent women are simply selfish, with a "that's mine!" attitude. For example, "I ain't giving up my name for no man". Their attitude is quite different towards anything the man has, however. Just look at how many women believe "what I earn is mine but what he earns is ours".

Kindly-Town · 2022-04-19T20:43:55+00:00

Men with mass fortune won't tolerate your grandfather's surname. They want to keep their legacy going. Marry men who don't have this preference but they are not going to be extremely rich as a consequence.

asura227 · 2022-04-20T11:15:05+00:00

TLDR: If we end the practice of marriage, we will end feminism.

NO MAN SHOULD GET MARRIED! Problem solved. I've said it a few times and I'll say it again. The young feminist, "needs no man". So she stomps about, screaming, protesting, and collecting bodies. Then sometime after the wrinkles start to appear, life needs start to become more important. Then they want financial stability. Well gender studies doesn't offer much in the way of financial self-sufficiency. Most men who are looking to marry don't want a "public bicycle" or "bus route". Financial stability in this context is simply somebody else to pay for shit. When you see it for what it is, relationships with these women are nothing but a thin veneer for them having a man pay. If you pay attention (which is free) this only goes two ways.

The lucky ones find their ATM, the relationship sours over time and the man reaches the apex of what feminism plans for him; he has to give her money but no longer receives any benefit from the relationship. Now it's just another bill coupled with her disgusting actual attitude, not the sweet illusion who seduced the man in the beginning.

The unlucky ones don't find their ATM in time. They become undesirable and that makes them bitter which in turn makes them even MORE undesirable. These are the ones that feel they have the right to critique men's preferences. We can't prefer skinny women because these wall-crashers are mostly over weight. We can't prefer younger women because these wall crashers are on the verge of their baby factory closing or producing defective humans.

The need of men and the treatment of that need is quite literally the pendulum upon which feminists swing. To this writer it becomes evident that the only way forward for men is to put a total, 100% across the board moratorium on marriage, cohabitation relationships, and payments to women outside of legitimate business. Arguing won't work, you're a misogynist. Protest won't work, you're a part of the patriarchy. There is no other solution other than allowing these women to die alone. I know that no one will listen. At least now the readers of this little blurb can't say that they weren't told.

Do not marry. Do not live in the same dwelling because after a time it can be considered common-law marriage. Do not pay for women, not even "working girls". Do not charitably give them money.

SnooJokes1401 · 2022-04-20T13:09:29+00:00

Great job women! Now let's talk about condom dumping

Impressive-Coat-22 · 2022-04-20T13:49:42+00:00

And whose name will the children get? If they can't agree on a family name by marriage, they won't agree on it later, either. And that potentially signifies a much deeper problem with a relationship where people want to be independent in a family. That's not how it works and the idea is one of the leading causes of divorce. People aren't willing to compromise even the slightest and find common grounds, bad for everybody and horrible for the children. If somebody doesn't want to be married, just don't get married.

fear_the_future · 2022-04-19T22:56:31+00:00

I wouldn't want to change my name either. Would be nice if both persons could just keep their old name, but unfortunately the bureaucracy in my country can't deal with that in many cases.

AzLibDem · 2022-04-19T23:43:20+00:00

I wouldn't call it an absolute deal-breaker, but it's certainly a major red flag about how she views marriage in the first place.

BrokeMacMountain · 2022-04-20T08:55:30+00:00

I am fine with this. Of course women should keep teir own name. And lets not forget, Marriage is all about the woman. Its is her special deay that she dreamed about since childhood. She chooses the location, the style, the colour scheme, the dresses the guests everything. it is ALL about her, on her special day.

All the man does is pay for it. So, in the name of equality as weddings are all about the woman, i think women should pay for their weddings.

The idea that men should pay is old and archiac and possibly sexist anyway. So lets help empower women by letting * them* pay for their dream day.

/s

auMatech · 2022-04-20T03:54:50+00:00

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2022-04-20T07:32:04+00:00

It’s either nuclear family/marriage till the end or nothing at all.

Impressive-Coat-22 · 2022-04-20T11:06:49+00:00

"Be independent and keep your dad's name"

Sailbad_the_Sinner30 · 2022-04-20T14:31:37+00:00

And this is a problem, why, exactly?

Here in Brazil, we’ve been doing composite names for kids since, like, forever. Last I checked, we aren’t particularly noted for women being dominant in our society.

Also, what’s wrong with being independent in a family? That’s how mine have always worked and they work fine. A family does not have to be a little fascist corporate lock-step unit led by a mini Duce. There’s plenty of room in families for independence AND cooperation.

This is really weak tea as a “men’s issue”.

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