I’ve been redpill for about 5 months now.

5’11”, Attractive, successful ($300k+ per year). Leading family, on mission in church and neighborhood.

Lifts: Bench: 225lbs x 6, Squat: 225lbs x 8 DL: 295lbs x 6 OHP: 165lbs x 6

Diet is good. Active (gym 5-6 times a week, martial arts 2-3x a week).

Reading: NMMNG, SGM, WISNIFG, TSM, TMMSLP

My wife responds to me ignoring her. She acts super horny.

However, I hate ignoring her. I like to give her attention.

I’m not trying to get her horny by being distant. It’s just that being close results in me being very unsatisfied because the connection is lacking, so I end up being distant—I’ll just go work, lift, etc. and mentally disengage from orbiting.

I’d rather be doing my own thing, with the response of desire vs the alternative.

If I’m not distant doing my own thing, sex is usually starfish, bar me really pushing something non-vanilla. Happens at best 3 times per week, if I’m really pushing it.

Any idea what is going on here and if I should just get used to it? Or is there an approach to handle this better?