I’m a soon to be 29 yr old woman, who left her last relationship, an engagement and waste of the better half of my 20s over his cheating, revealed to me with weeks to go before the wedding. I find myself floating aimlessly around a very blue, high cost of living state with an undesirable culture, weather, and have long felt disconnected here. My parents have graciously let me stay with them after my engagement fell apart and I had no where to go and am drowning. I’d love to heal and regroup and get back out there But I don’t feel like I should find a man in this community I feel no kinship to or desire to raise a family in.
Moving seems like an impossible task now that my life has been detonated. But I eagerly want the life I dreamed worked and planned for to start. I can’t imagine where to start, or where to go. I wonder if I should move south, or out west, or even to Europe. I’m lost and alone. Terrified of time. My ex begs me to take him back. I wonder sometimes what tf I’m doing out here with no plan, fitting in no where and adrift. I know I could be a good wife. I’m sunny and fun, smart, feminine, musical, have lots of hobbies, fit, great with kids, kind and gentle. I’ve don’t everything I can but feel more terror with each passing day I’m going to hit the end of the road. Any advice please is appreciated.
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I’m also a 28 year old, feeling adrift. My fiancé just ended things with me due to his depression which has left me heartbroken, and lacking motivation as I dreamed of building a life with him. We were planning to move out of NYC due to cost. I feel drained from helping him with his mental health the past two years. I’d also love to move and start a new career (go back to school?) and build a financial stable, happy life with a wonderful family. I feel you girl. Sending you good vibes and thoughts as we go through this journey. Personally I’ve made a list of my top places and careers, my new non negotiables in a relationship (stable, honesty, handles conflict with maturity). While I don’t feel drawn to any and don’t know anyone in the cities I’ve listed, at some point I think I’ll just randomly pick! A decision is sometimes better than no decision, even if I realize “this isn’t the place for me!” and pivot after a year. Hope it helps knowing someone out there is going through something similar!
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Europe is beautiful. Austria is stunning landscapes, mountains, lakes, old medieval cities, culture, class and and high quality of living. You also have Italy, Germany next door and the beaches in Croatia only a few hours away. Stop worrying about time. It helps no one. See this time as freedom and a new chance for the best adventure of your life. You are still young - use it to enjoy life. Take a month long trip through Europe amd see if Fall in Love (literally or figuratively) with any specific place or fellow traveler? You can do work and travel till your visa ends. Check out Woofing as well. You can stay at farms for free food and board if you help out for 4-5 hours per day. The world is your oyster now. This is an incredible chance to totally switch the course of your destiny. Jump at it and don’t be scared. The only way to fail would be to freeze and stay stuck where you are.
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