Proving your a good father?

vo_boi · 2022-08-13T02:38:04+00:00

Fight for 50/50, don't give in to anything less.

Tell your lawyer you want 50/50. Get 50/50 during temporary orders. Walk away from anything less.

You working doesn't mean you should see your kids less. It means she needs to get a job post divorce.

Nobody-941 · 2022-08-13T02:35:49+00:00

A few pictures and videos as an exhibit. They dont even have to with you but from you. I am a good father and this helped me. 50/50.

Dwro1234 · 2022-08-13T10:57:36+00:00

When i started my divorce, my lawyer suggested that I start posting activities with the kids on social media (I despise social media, I only had my Facebook from back in college when it was only open to students). This has two effects: 1. I have proof of spending quality time with them 2. It shows everyone else and thus makes friends and family statements less likely to be just in her favor. I didn't end up having to use them as proof, but in hindsight its nice to have to look back on.

Nobody-941 · 2022-08-13T02:45:42+00:00

Good. Get your best ones and have them ready.

upvotersfortruth · 2022-08-13T03:46:37+00:00

Document activities and primary caretaking activities - lots of photos.

JennFezz · 2022-08-13T12:25:14+00:00

Know the names of your children's teachers, doctors and friends. Know some specifics. Quick story about me: I was very involved in my daughter's life when she was young. I absolutely knew her teachers and doctors; I often drove her to school and walked her to class; I took her to her first dentist appointments; I knew where her friends lived so I could pick and drop-off. I knew the parents of her friends. Ask me anything.

But I had to work overseas for a while (long story) and during that time, my wife moved our household to a new community. We separated while I was overseas and I never really had a chance to live in that new community. After my overseas work, I settled somewhere else. I still maintained a very close relationship with my daughter, but only through visits.

During our trial, my wife's scumbag lawyer started asking for the names of my daughter's teachers, doctors and friends. I didn't know -- but how could I? I was overseas working long hours to provide for the family. How does THAT make me a bad father? I was embarrassed and humiliated. The scumbag lawyer was happy to conclude that I didn't care about my kid. I wanted to rip her throat out.

Much later, I learned this is merely a well-known tactic, used to discredit all dads. No one really cares if you're close to your kids; you just have to know how to pass their fucking insane pop quiz. See for yourself:
(clip starts at 1:21:59)
https://youtu.be/th0R2nxva2w?t=4919

Lastly, you can learn the difference between "your" and "you're" (title of your post). Teach your kid.

Title	Proving your a good father?
Author	gtivr4
Upvotes	6
Comments	9
Date	August 13, 2022 2:24 AM UTC (3 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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