Girlfriend broke up with me over change of plans.

spliffgang · 2017-09-03T22:47:21+00:00

if she broke up with you for that small of a reason it means shes wanted to break up with you for a while and just looking for a "reason" to finally do it. shes probably cheated on you several times

VasiliyZaitzev · 2017-09-04T05:06:08+00:00

A. She's a nutbar

B. You're a young, fit athlete. The kind that girls like.

C. Her blowing up is not something that is going to be attractive, long term.

Verdict: Don't bother communicating with her anymore.

chachaChad · 2017-09-03T22:30:59+00:00

Sounds like you did the right thing. Remember, when you start composmising who you are for other people you lose control of your own life. I’m sure this all hurt but you’ll be ok and so will she. Move on. Be thankful for the good times and all you learned. Go out there and find someone even better but never stop standing up for yourself.

zboo1h · 2017-09-04T02:02:49+00:00

When she shows up at your door after you block her # and any other way she could communicate with you, remember how selfishly she treated you. That way, when you're fucking her throat and/or ass later you can really get rough with it without worrying too much about her.

[deleted] · 2017-09-03T22:36:22+00:00

I'd bet it wasn't the change of plans, that was probably just the pretext. Wash your hands of her and move on.

VladvonK · 2017-09-04T05:54:21+00:00

I don't think she's serious, just major shit show test. I guarantee she will be back if you keep doing what you're doing. But do you really want someone who behaves in this fashion to come back?

IJustTalkedToJesus · 2017-09-04T03:43:01+00:00

You're in a great position now. Time for you to get with better looking, more feminine women.

refusewool · 2017-09-03T22:35:27+00:00

You did the right thing and handled the situation well. Only other thing you could have done is ignored her texts altogether.

Cunt_Robber · 2017-09-04T02:01:24+00:00

Sounds like she blew up dramatically. You dont need that shit in your life. Walk away. Her taunting you by saying you wont even fight for the relationship shows what a bitch she is. Shes not one ounce committed to the relationship. Otherwise she wouldnt cause this shit drama and instead try to compromise with you on solutions. Thats what women worthy of committed relationships do. Dont worry, you learned a 5 yr lesson. Move on and re-prioritize your life, adjust as needed. Shell likely want you back, but if youre a man youll move on and seek better options.

[deleted] · 2017-09-03T22:54:59+00:00

Stop talking, man. Why does this shit even deserve the "ok". You are being reasonable and her shit is fucking batshit crazy.

Rudeyyyy · 2017-09-04T02:10:33+00:00

I woulda left her on read. Make her even more mad knowing she knows that you saw and opened her message and still choose to not respond.

causeandcorrelation · 2017-09-04T06:39:04+00:00

She made a nuclear power play. You didn't win. But you didn't lose. Sorry about the break up. Hard. But looks necessary. Don't go back.

SpinPlates · 2017-09-04T12:52:32+00:00

Jesus OP. By the look of your post history on Deadbedrooms and TRP, your relationship has been spiraling downward for the last 3 months.

You should have ended this sooner.

VenusHypergamy · 2017-09-04T02:21:49+00:00

This is just a massive shit test. If you ignore it she'll be back within a week and it probably won't happen again in the future if she knows she has no leverage.

Footyislife10 · 2017-09-04T00:53:27+00:00

So she accidentally sent me a voice msg that I can hear her discussing our situation with one of her friends 😂. What do boys?

Footyislife10 · 2017-09-04T03:52:34+00:00

How do I react if/when she hits me up again and probably wants me to apologize, obviously I'm not going to apologize and I'll maintain my frame. But how would you guys approach her reconnecting?.

FlyingSexistPig · 2017-09-04T05:30:51+00:00

What's the question here?

Ricardo2991 · 2017-09-04T07:37:06+00:00

Hard next and stop thinking about her. Do you want to date a girl who breaks up with you over text?

RepostGhostCst2Cst · 2017-09-04T09:21:48+00:00

I wish I did this....

renateco · 2017-09-04T10:01:03+00:00

She's probably looking for a Beta and you behaved as a Alpha. She'll come back begging

walawalawa · 2017-09-04T11:26:24+00:00

Exact same thing happened to me---mine was that she had a text meltdown because I didn't use the flyer she made. I thanked her. She kept pushing and pushing. I told her to chill. Then called her butthurt.

She flipped out (over text) got aggressive, called me a bunch of names, said I was worthless.

I never spoke to her again. Then a month later she showed up at that event with a box of the Christmas present I had given her and left it there was a crazy note inside--again telling me how worthless I am.

I ignored. That was 8 months ago.

Ghost her. This is crazy-making behavior.

It was one of the few times I totally went no contact with a girl...it helped me move on from the craziness because there are girls who aren't that crazy out there. Meet them.

You did nothing wrong dude. Walk away. This is a perfect opportunity to make a clean break.

Block, delete, ignore.

apollosapien · 2017-09-04T11:34:28+00:00

She's not girlfriend material, from the sounds of your commentary.

PantsonFire1234 · 2017-09-07T01:19:08+00:00

it's always been this way in our 5 years together

And you think she didn't know you prioritized footy? This bitch was getting bored and was looking for an excuse to get out. Five years is a dang long time man christ. You need to learn when you outstayed your welcome.

LordThunderbolt · 2017-09-04T05:52:32+00:00

Okay so why did u make this post? We don't fucking care dude. You did good. Now delete her number and text thread, delete her off ALL your social media, delete her closest friends off ALL your social media a well. As of right now she is dead to you. Ghost her for life.

Title	Girlfriend broke up with me over change of plans.
Author	Footyislife10
Upvotes	25
Comments	63
Date	September 3, 2017 10:25 PM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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