Back story: married almost 10 years before separation, two nonverbal kiddos, kiddos are in public school full-time, we were married at 19. Moved away from toxic family. More or less ask if you want. She asked for the divorce.

The main reason for posting here is to get anonymous advice(good, bad, or indifferent). I have ask the other parent(OP) the they need to start being financially independent after almost a year of beings separated. I know talking to attorneys the the voluntarily amount I am paying is is already more then what Child Support would be. I don't want to do anything that will negative effect the kids but I do want to move on with just sending the child support alone. Simply because I am still covering the light bill, the family car loan(which is in my name only), internet, and phone. She is still under my full time jobs Insurances (the kiddos are under this as well).

She reached out wanting me to fax only the voluntarily child support amount and the family car loan information to Social Security. She said it is to sign the kiddos up for disability and Medicare. I am not sure if I believe her, but if it is true she is planning on using the kids disability for her financial independence instead of getting a job.

I am struggling with the thought of her piggyback off of the kids, and really questioning her motives.

Not sure what else to really say, but if you have any questions or advice, I am all ears.

Many Thanks in advance.