Men are emotionally deprived, women most affected.

ramao__ · 2022-11-06T19:26:59+00:00

Today on "You can't make this shit up":

_BlueShark87 · 2022-11-06T18:55:02+00:00

Hmm I wonder why we don’t have male friendships after we have girlfriends or wives? Maybe it’s because you refuse to let us? Nah, just kidding, it’s all our fault.

HotaruZoku · 2022-11-06T22:59:08+00:00

All I could hear was

"Wah wah wah, it's super hard and totally unfair to deal with getting exactly what we've dedicated the last couple dozen centuries to making it clear we wanted."

It's "exhausting" to be someone's emotional everything, a fresh-off-the-press searingly hot take brought to you by the sex that INVENTED THE CONCEPT OF THE EMOTIONAL AFFAIR.

And let's not forget how blazingly self absorbed this article is.

"We'd REALLY like men to find intimate emotional support outside of just our relationship."

That's certainly thoughtful and kind of you, thinking of other people's suffering and wanting to end-

"Yeah, we want you broadening your emotional support not because it's healthy, not because it's good for you, not because it's a kind thing to want, but because we're really bored with doing the job ourselves."

In other words, you, the sex that claims near monopoly on empathy and sympathy, want men to improve their lives ONLY insofar as much as doing so would directly benefit /you/, and were our suffering NOT bothering you, you'd have no interest in said suffering one way or the other.

Check.

Got it.

AwfulUsername123 · 2022-11-06T18:57:44+00:00

The most feminists will ever do to help with men's problems is say "Well, maybe it also hurts women a little..." Most of the time they pretend they don't exist or fight against fixing them.

redditdawtcom · 2022-11-06T19:17:51+00:00

Holy crap, the menslib thread on this article is a dumpster fire:

https://np.reddit.com/r/MensLib/comments/bk4d57/men_have_no_friends_and_women_bear_the_burden/

Just a bunch of men going "gee, I wish I wasn't such a piece of shit".

It's sad how if you scroll to the bottom of the thread, there's no one arguing against them or trolling them like what we have to deal with. Why do all of the trolls target this subreddit and not r/menslib, where they could actually be doing good by convincing these men not to hate themselves?

rabel111 · 2022-11-06T21:59:04+00:00

Another feminist with a shallow and ignorant understanding of men and masculinity, femsplaining masculinity to men using hate speech better known for offending than informing.

This extraordinary sexist pig explains men's feelings, as if men feeling is limited to her unevolved experience of men. You see, men have feelings, they experience powerful complex and amazing feelings as witnessed by the great art, literature, poetry and music that is well known and studied by everyone, excepting feminist sexist pigs.

The reason sexist pigs like this feminist have so little exposure to men's feelings, is because of their lack of empathy and their brutal and callous attitude to men who express their feelings in her presence.

Men learn from a very young age that sharing their vulnerability and feelings in the company of some women is dangerous and results in challenges (how could you possibly feel like that!) and condemnation rather than empathy. The problem isn't men's feelings, it's women's lack of empathy, their brutal misandry and narcissistic bekief that they understand everything about men and masculinity without ever asking or listening to men.

PactScharp · 2022-11-07T02:06:51+00:00

I seriously don't buy this whole "men are so retarded they can't even express their emotions" narrative. And I find the idea that women are "burdened" by all this "unpaid emotional labor" (they call it "emotional gold-digging" in the article) to be absolutely fucking disgusting.

It is MUCH more common for men to be the default "emotional support" for their partners than vise versa. I'm not saying that men can't also rely on their partners (at least, I would hope so), but the idea that this is "only" or "predominately" a male on female thing is absolutely ludicrous beyond comprehension.

The difference is, men don't seem to complain about it. Because there's actually a biological basis for it. Men bond when vasopressin is released, which is a chemical that people produce when they are stressed. For women, it's the opposite, with oxytocin being involved with bonding, which is a chemical that's produced when they feel safe & relaxed.

In other words, what this article exposes is the blantant narcissism and disgusting lack of regard for men's emotional wellbeing, by the women in their lives... because the reason they are so "exhausted", if not disgusted, by men "using them as free therapists", is not because these men overburden them with impossible amounts of "unresolved trauma", but because these women flat out resent men for being emotionally vulnerable to any degree in the first place.

And what the fuck is up with this asinine idea that men "only" rely on their partners to "unload" their emotions? What a load of nonsense... Most men will relate MUCH more with the experience that sharing with their buddies is much less stressful & is far less likely to be dismissed, mocked or used against them (later on).

This article paints a picture of men as being emotionally infantile, if not parasitic towards women. It's a gross, vile, and unironically misandrist take on this issue... because the problem is not & has never been that "men are too stupid & fragile to express their emotions", but rather that NO ONE gives a fuck when they do talk, LEAST of all women.

As a man, if you don't have your close buddies, you are fucked. Period. Society won't care & whatever delusions these female writers have that women are men's greatest champions is nothing but a joke. Women are easily the biggest shamers of men's emotions & this article is proof of that.

For fuck's sake... I have friends who've opened up about feeling depressed & thinking of suicide to their girlfriends, only for these women to dump them a week later because "that wasn't very sexy". I've seen versions of this story countless times.... you know who was there when these men needed it? Their (MALE) friends... but that's all they had.

And all these lectures about "men avoiding therapy"... yeah, perhaps if therapists & psychologists (the article literally confirms this point) weren't systemically biased against men, maybe they wouldn't be so apprehensive towards it.

Clown world, we're living in. And you called it mate... men being more alone than ever? "WOMEN MOST AFFECTED". As per freaking usual.

Relativity_Star10538 · 2022-11-06T21:34:52+00:00

I wouldn't put much stock in what this woman says about emotions or relationships. She's a self-professed "elderhoe" who wrote an article about fucking 7 men on one trip.

redveinlover · 2022-11-07T03:30:43+00:00

"Men drain the emotional life out of women", just wow.

My wife was extremely jealous of anyone who got my attention instead of her, and felt threatened by everyone that I associated with. To try and maintain the "happy wife, happy life!" mantra that everyone kept telling me, it ended up costing me most of my male (and of course female) platonic friendships. And then one day she decides married life wasn't for her, and after 16 years together she said she felt that I had held her back from her true potential and didn't "let" her achieve her goals. For some clarification, she had severe social anxiety and couldn't hold down any kind of job where she had to interact with more than a couple of people (she could handle being on the graveyard stock team at Target, but as soon as she was to be trained as a cashier two years later she promptly quit without notice). She couldn't even call to order a pizza because she would clam up on the phone, I would have to do the honors each time. I couldn't spend time with my friends because for starters it meant I wasn't spending time with her, also she didn't like them. Looking back I'm not sure she "approved" of any of my friends, and said she always felt that she wasn't accepted by them. Well she never really gave them a chance to!

To think that this article is blaming men for unleashing their emotional baggage upon their female partners and having a detrimental effect on them as a result is just preposterous.

Maybe there's a bunch of severely emotionally stunted men out there who use women to dump out their feelings onto, but from my experience anyway between friends and coworkers it's largely been the other way around. I've had one relationship where my partner was fairly emotionally stable and available, and she discovered her dad had blown his brains out with a shotgun in the basement when she was 12. That's always puzzled me how out of everyone I'd been with, she was the most well adjusted.

r7anubis · 2022-11-07T04:34:45+00:00

Man : gets crippled after being attacked by a bear, and losing half of his body.
Wife : pays and gets surgeries done.

Man : I can't live like this, I want to die.

Wife : I am suffering, my husband is at fault. He wants to leave me.

sad-n-rad · 2022-11-07T01:05:07+00:00

Why is it always “men are the victim of this, but women have it harder because men have it harder”

Snippychicken22 · 2022-11-07T02:34:41+00:00

This thing men are going thru is aweful for them

Poor woman having nothing happen to them

Drougen · 2022-11-06T22:42:15+00:00

There's literally nothing women won't try and be the victim of, it's astounding. The amount of ridiculous things I've seen...

"I wish there was something like x-box for women (but not xbox) where we can just go and ignore our boyfriends all day"

IronJohnMRA · 2022-11-07T13:47:32+00:00

Toxic masculinity

There is no toxic masculinity.

40moreyears · 2022-11-06T22:59:58+00:00

They’re literally making shit up at this point.

Wylanderuk · 2022-11-07T03:45:25+00:00

I would give at least even odds she is controlling and worked to split him off from any support he had from his before her life.

AAAAAGGGGHHH · 2022-11-07T07:09:29+00:00

AINT NO BITCH GONNA KEEP ME FROM MY HOMIES.

2022-11-07T12:59:50+00:00

"Kelly’s story, though extreme, is a common example of modern American relationships."

That's basically saying an outlier is representative of entire population.

Literally mathematically false 🤣

Qantourisc · 2022-11-07T13:49:56+00:00

"Woman are paying the price" ? My god, NEXT

BigIglooUkulele · 2022-11-07T14:20:48+00:00

Oh no women have to care about the person they're in a relationship with. What has the world come to?

Ho6org · 2022-11-07T09:20:11+00:00

Last evening a beggar approached me asking for food. How more pressed can I really get?

Title	Men are emotionally deprived, women most affected.
Author	Impending_salami
Upvotes	395
Comments	76
Date	November 6, 2022 6:40 PM UTC (3 years ago)
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