CMV: An abundance mentality is delusional when there is no actual abundance

HazyMemory7 · 2023-01-27T04:46:28+00:00

Low effort

Capeninja · 2023-01-27T04:21:47+00:00

No woman thinks some average guy has heaps of options and if he acts like he does he just comes off as mentally ill.

Some women have stud tunnel vision and assume if you're not visibly ugly in some way you must be swimming in puss. All the men they actually interact with on an intimate level are doing it, and all the men their friends chat about are doing it, so clearly all men must be doing it. Basically they apply a "women are desperate for companionship, any single man must be fooling around instead" logic, not noticing how few men that women actually want the companionship from.

RP advice is basically to exploit every misconception you can in order to inflate your personal profile.

THHBHStT · 2023-01-27T03:48:43+00:00

No, women aren’t stupid and can assume if you’re able to get their attention you probably can get at least one of the thousands of others around, especially if you’re actually doing productive shit around town

What most men fuck up with is automatically showing their hand and giving the utmost attention and time to the few matches that they get, which to be fair, can work for a woman, if they’re both looking for something serious

Act like you’ve been here before, and then there’s no reason for her to think that she’s the only person you’ve talked to

Bmiller1550 · 2023-01-27T04:18:16+00:00

It doesn't have to be other women, you can have an abundant social life, an engaging career, fun hobbies that take up your life. The abundance can come from other places.

It's the ability to walk away if a girl is being difficult, or if she isnt 100% of what you want. Think to yourself "ehh I'd rather do X than deal with these games or drama." That's how I've always viewed abundance mentality.

Philip8000 · 2023-01-27T04:22:58+00:00

I happen to think "positive results lead to positive thoughts" more than the other way around. It's easier to keep going if you're making progress, even if you're nowhere near where you want to be. I've noticed the whole abundance mindset is mostly aimed toward upper-middle class people who want to be wealthy, not the genuinely poor.

For example: say you spend 2.5 years on dating sites. In that time, you've gone out with several women and a couple liked you enough to continue seeing you. No, you're not having sex right and left, but you had a relationship that lasted a couple months and remained on cordial terms. Perhaps you even had a brief sexual relationship with a partner. Sure, not what you hoped for, but it's something.

However, if you spend 2.5 years on them and all that happens is a single date that goes nowhere, hundreds upon hundreds of messages you put great thought into writing ignored, multiple dating sites, boosts, changing photos around, still with no improvement, adding to your profile, getting nowhere, it's a lot harder to convince yourself to keep going.

Positive thoughts might help, but most need to see some sort of tangible result to keep pushing.

PM_ME_YOUR_MUSIC4FB · 2023-01-27T04:23:39+00:00

I'm 5'5", average face, nice body. There's always another woman out there. Always.

TaxNegative161 · 2023-01-27T03:58:21+00:00

Lol. I'm attractive in the sense that I'm a certain woman's type. But I'd say at least 99% of women have zero interest in me physically. But 1% of 4 billion feels pretty abundant to me.

YasuotheChosenOne · 2023-01-27T04:38:49+00:00

You fail to realize that every man has abundance because, every woman is an option. I can choose to approach any woman I want. She is an option. Will it pan out? Who knows. Doesn’t change the fact the I, and every other man, have an abundance of options to pick from. For every girl that rejects you, there are literally an endless amount more to choose from.

Fit-Faithlessness149 · 2023-01-27T03:49:14+00:00

It's not delusional if he simply isn't desperate for your approval or a relationship. Men don't need to have tons of options to carry themselves with self-respect and to deny women of simping behavior.

howdoiw0rkthisthing · 2023-01-27T03:39:43+00:00

Fake it till you make it is a phrase because in general, it works. If you don’t put yourself in the zone of proximal development (AKA slight discomfort) you never grow.

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northernguy1970 · 2023-01-27T04:23:26+00:00

Female privilege is an abundance of men willing to do shit for them.

Male reality is scarcity. No woman wants him, and he has to bend over backwards just to get one woman to like him, and as an army of one, he's got limited time, money and energy.

The neomasculinity goofs that tell men to adopt the "abundance mentality" are just that. Goofs.

Title	CMV: An abundance mentality is delusional when there is no actual abundance
Author	TrueEnoughNewsViews
Upvotes	13
Comments	27
Date	January 27, 2023 3:22 AM UTC (3 years ago)
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