She finally moved out today....

Alatornio · 2023-02-19T04:35:29+00:00

I remember the day my spouse hired movers to get her half of the stuff out of the house. It was rough. I didn't want to be there for it. We agreed to everything obviously, but it was rough.

It wasn't about the loss of "stuff" it was the memories attached to the stuff.

Spouse took the TV I had in the basement. I worked for 2 years building the basement. I created a movie area for us, complete with a snack bar, seating the whole nine yards. No help from her, just in eating the food.

Today, my daughter was over and said, " Remember when we had a TV here for movie nights? That was fun ."

My bitch of an ex wife ruined everything. Fucking destroyed.

Ever-learning271 · 2023-02-19T05:03:14+00:00

I actually helped my Ex move out (when separated), she took most of what she wanted then returned for more (as agreed) when we decided to divorce. She is so evil, I see that now! If I didn’t have my beautiful son, I wouldn’t understand what all the hell was for….life gets better, joy and understanding does arrive for you…have faith….focus on self-care/you, meditate, exercise and peace will be yours…Good Luck❤️‍🩹

Forward-Transition-5 · 2023-02-19T04:54:31+00:00

It sucks but it’s part of the grieving process. When it happened to me I made some holes in some walls. I also destroyed a clock that she didn’t want me to get rid of that always drove me crazy so that was therapeutic but it was still a rough time. Dark thoughts and lows are a part of it. The trick is to not let them get the best of you. Seven years have passed since my divorce and I can’t remember much of what it was like to have her here with me in my house. I also can’t imagine sharing any bit of the space I’ve created with anyone other than my child. It gets better, it just takes work. Try therapy or weightlifting or maybe something as simple as moving things around in your place exactly how you want them with no thoughts of what she’d prefer. Surprisingly, altering your surroundings can really help. Maybe painting the rooms a color you like instead can help. Sometimes even the smallest things can make a significant difference.

Gleipnir9 · 2023-02-19T17:53:52+00:00

Hang in there. It gets much better if you allow yourself to grieve properly. After 6 weeks things really turned a corner for me. I’m a little over 2 months here and don’t miss her at all now. The house actually feels lighter without the tension.

What really worked for me was getting into a routine on the days I didn’t have the kids. Planning meals, doing the Costco run, doing the housework, calling friends and family, putting in extra time at work if needed, going to therapy appointments and group meetings.

DM me if you want to chat more offline.

Dantebay · 2023-02-19T07:12:35+00:00

Hang in there. I’m 3 months out from her dropping the bomb. The dark times come, but as other have said if you keep busy, they pass.

ranger69danger · 2023-02-19T07:26:08+00:00

Buddy. Are you sure you can live there alone?

Fickle-Function-881 · 2023-02-19T15:24:43+00:00

Hang in there, brother. My spouse moved out in early December and in that time I've lived in our empty home while trying to get it sold. It sucks. There are memories everywhere you look. The grieving process is a long one. Take some time for reflection and do some things that make you happy, whatever that may be. It gets better.

FindingMyPrivates · 2023-02-19T18:11:18+00:00

Mine just left a little less than two weeks ago. Shits been hard. She just took all her shit too and the stuff we agreed for her to have. It’s touch dude . Keep your head up.

wine_maker33 · 2023-02-21T16:00:18+00:00

When my ex wives out it was the saddest day of my life. Some friends of her came by, friends that I was used to have fun diners with and spend also some WE. I also had a very close friend of both. And I wanted to be there because we agreed that I could stay in the house for some time before selling it. So no way I would flee in front of this process. Well I helped move some stuff and it felt OK. But the stab in the back was all the friends leaving, looking at me and not even saying goodbye except our common friend that I guess was feeling shitty at that moment.

When the crew left to move in the truck in her new place, I was feeling Soo unloved and in pure I security. I couldn't stay inside the house, I walked and took a rope to hang myself... Well after 3 hours of walking I recovered and decided to take a shot and try to recover.

4 weeks later I really appreciate my solo time at home!! No more harassment from my ex, I can do my sport and hang with my friends. 100% liberty.

My feedback : let the storm pass, the sun will be back.

Title	She finally moved out today....
Author	outofleftmarriage
Upvotes	14
Comments	14
Date	February 19, 2023 3:46 AM UTC (3 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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