I know this sounds cliche but there is truth to it a positive attitude is what achieves greatness. I know life isn’t fair and every person regardless of gender, race, economic background whatever all have their own problems and struggles to deal with in life but it’s how they deal with those struggles that sets the path for their outcome in life. The best part is if you don’t like the path you are on you can always change direction. I know this all sounds like cheesy guidance counselor bullshit and you might want to disregard it because you see people that seem to live their lives on “easy mode” and yeah I’m not going to disagree that some people have more advantages then others so having a positive mindset is easier for them. But there are plenty of people out there average people that have a positive attitude and they don’t let their disadvantages hold them down instead they build up their strengths (everyone has some strengths) they know their worth and they set forward to create the life they want. Once you change your mindset and start achieving your goals life on “easy mode” starts to come naturally not that you won’t still have struggles or pitfalls but you gain the confidence that you can get through it. To continue with my cheesy cliches like attracts like if you have a positive attitude you will attract more people with positive attitudes and you will start to build up social circles and gain a real support system other people that believe in you and will help catch you when you fall and yes dating will become so much easier then. It’s kinda of the opposite of misery loves company miserable people will not try to build you up sometimes it’s because they don’t know how to do it for themselves but sometimes it’s because they want to drag you down with them and positive people avoid negative people so it becomes a vicious cycle. I know everyone wants validation and to be seen and to be accepted loved and appreciated but you need to start with seeing that in yourself first you have to find your own happiness no one can find it for you.