I feel like I'm pointing out the obvious, because water is wet, the sky is blue, and you probably didn't know these things already. Whenever I read any of these propositions that the manosphere makes about humans and their relationships, I just want to scream HAVE YOU EVER BEEN OUTSIDE AND LISTENED TO ACTUAL PEOPLE? During my late teens and throughout my twenties, I started to read well-written dramas and spend hours pondering on why the characters acted the way they did, what drove them, their motivations and hopes etc, because I wanted to improve my theory of mind. Eventually, I went to listen to interviews with people who went through all sorts of things, talking about their life and lived experiences, whether it be autism, homelessness, addictions, traumas, or just living an unconventional lifestyle. Suspend your judgement and accept that you don't know much at all. This is not some self-aggrandizing post, because I'm really not smarter than the average person when push comes to shove. The point is that these activities eventually helped me to see the humanity of other people, and not be a judgemental prick because something doesn't align with my preconceived notions on how things ought to be. It even made me a more pleasant person to be around, as my personal relationships have improved vastly over the years. Main take-away: make it a goal to learn about/get to know other people for the sake of it, listen without judgement.