All things else equalized. Let's say this dude in particular likes himself and is confident and has Hobbies but they are Hobbies outside of the masculine norm and are very much artistic. The world of art is very different from sports or working out or anything else because it's not a competition. You don't win gold and you don't really win anything outside of someone liking your art. Is very different from being like a normal sporty do because at least you could tell yourself that while you are working out and becoming better that it's not only making your hobby better but you're also being attractive to the opposite sex. That's what really separates other men from Nerdy men is that they have similar traits and confidence levels but one is going to be looked at as masculine and attractive and the other one isn't. So once again let's say you have the most confident and self-loving artistic dude but he is still in the starving artist stage. Would you date him?