I've gotten a lot of great responses from my previous post and it's helped the gears start turning in my head. I grew up without out anyone to teach me how to deal with feelings, no real example of love and communication. Throughout my 12 years with my wife she's known this and has always wished I was better at communicating. I've been getting better at this recently but when I do share my feelings, she'll get defensive, doesn't really take accountability. Am I being manipulated here. The way she makes me feel has me wanting to shut down and not share, repeating the same cycle. In the past I've shared my needs, wanting more affection/intimacy. It was always ,"I'm so tired" "I tried" even though she really hasn't. So now when I flip the script, not being intimate, being cold, im the problem. I want to leave so bad but I also don't want to crush my daughters heart.