It’s crazy how

No_Application_2807 · 2023-06-19T03:30:07+00:00

Hey buddy. I’m in the same position. I was willing to change and do everything, after 12 years - she didn’t want anything to do with me. I was willing to give her a foot, and she couldn’t budge an inch.

It sucks. I’m sorry your going through this right now. I’m about 3 months in, and it’s ups and downs. I’m starting therapy soon and I try to hang out with my family as much as possible.

I’m here if you need to talk or vent.

Edit - we didn’t have kids though. We went from December and the last few months to trying to have a kid. To her wanting nothing with me in April. It’s fucking crazy.

Reflog1791 · 2023-06-19T04:01:02+00:00

Get out a pen and paper and reimagine your life. Your ex is gone forever… good riddance. Your son is gone for now, it’s not permanent. Think of something, anything that will make you excited about life again that has nothing to do with your old life.

You have this one golden opportunity in life to reshape everything about yourself.

I would highly recommend hitting the gym hard. This gives you more self confidence and people will look at you and treat you differently. It is the first, easiest, and most obvious way to rebuild your life.

jgjg9999 · 2023-06-19T07:57:26+00:00

Sorry you're in this spot. In a few years once the dust has all settled you will look back and be happy she showed her true colors early on and you didn't waste half your life with her.

Luxtaposition · 2023-06-19T09:48:02+00:00

Narcissism is real

Certain-Line-6351 · 2023-06-19T06:29:56+00:00

You’re young. So I’ll tell you this. At least you’re learning young.

Never ever marry again. Once you do it’s a power grab for the majority of women.

Don’t ever put a woman on a pedestal, they need to want you more than you them.

Be direct. Make plans. Take the lead. Be confident.

Keep the majority of your emotions to your fucking self. The more mysterious you are the more she will stick around.

If a woman ever act like she wants to leave or starts acting in a disrespectful manner to you tell her to get the fuck out like she doesn’t matter. Do not simply do not beg nothing act like it doesn’t matter. It will drive them nuts.

In the meantime figure out how you can see your kid. Get your finances in order. I have a five-year plan. And stay in shape next 15/20 years are your prime don’t waste them.

Old-Macaroon8148 · 2023-06-19T10:49:47+00:00

When they’re done, they’re done. None of the many positive things you did for her during your relationship exist as memories for her anymore, only the bad. In fact the good things are now actually bad things in her mind. The bad things you did? Well those have now been magnified by 1000%, there’s no recovery possible.

Take comfort knowing this isn’t specific to you, many guys post on here scratching their heads trying to find logic in what’s happening. My guess is that you will eventually discover who your replacement is and that he’s been in around in the shadows longer than you think. I know that’s the last thing you want to hear but since you’re already at rock bottom might as well face the music.

Now is the perfect time to take a hard look at yourself because that’s the only thing you currently have control over. Look at your mistakes, acknowledge them and take responsibility. Work on your job, your health physical and mental. Don’t forget to eat. Get a lawyer and go for 50/50 custody of your child - no excuses. You can’t because you need to work? Stfu so does she. Fight for yourself and your child and be the best possible father and man you can be.

She’s gone and will say horrible things about you. Accept it. Don’t respond, don’t engage. Prove she is wrong with your actions from this very second onward for the rest of your life.

Objective-Motor2419 · 2023-06-19T03:55:18+00:00

Google light switch effect that women can have. My fiancée did the same thing. Went from super nice of I thought she was to her true colors of being ice cold and trying to get every penny she incorrectly thought she was entitled to.

Due-Ad4708 · 2023-06-19T12:10:37+00:00

The same. 20 days since she left me. 2 kids. Me 40 yo. 23 years together. I'm trying to focus on the future. Solve whatever I have to solve. You're not alone.

drakehfh · 2023-06-19T12:11:57+00:00

/r/theredpill read the sidebar and stop acting like a bitch. She's a whore and she was one since the time you first saw her.

You are a fucking man, start acting like it! Get your testosterone checked and start lifting. Fight for you kid!

Title	It’s crazy how
Author	Gemsix
Upvotes	12
Comments	13
Date	June 19, 2023 3:10 AM UTC (3 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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