It’s funny how life works sometimes, today July 17, 2023, marks exactly 13 years since I asked my STBXW on our first date and today also marks the day I got the divorce paperwork. Not gonna lie I was expecting already, we split 3 1/2 months ago and sold our home and split the assets did that whole thing and signed off on everything to ensure it was all split evenly and fairly. It’s not that it hurts or that she’s trying to pull a fast one it just feels so crazy and real now that it’s here, her asking for the name change and being legally separated and rid of me. I’m a usual user of this sub because I can’t talk to my family at times about how I feel because no one in my life has gone thru this, I honestly feel like a failure at times and have caught myself saying to my therapist or buddies, “I would’ve stayed and worked on it”. Even though I had been for YEARS, I have notes on my phone and videos where I am talking to myself about how I was treated and how I deserve better. The facts were all there I just didn’t want to fail. This whole time I’ve been a hermit, limiting my interactions with her and her family who reach out. I went out with friends a while back to dinner and a beer but nothing crazy. I usually go to work, gym, write, record a podcast about one of my hobbies and read. It’s just crazy cuz no matter how hard I tried, and treated her great she still chose this route. In previous posts other have said she may have had someone else, I was no longer a challenge, etc, and perhaps somewhere in there was the answer except I didn’t want to accept it. Likes today marks the beginning and the end. Full circle moment