Sadly, and I have been brought up to be responsible, we have twins, so it gets very complicated especially in California. Right now, after several months of pure hell, the SO managed to turn the kids against me so much, that they call me by first name, and any chance they get, insult me.. So, I am trying to stay mentally sane, but it is becoming more difficult as the insults escalate. Now SO left country, and second day after her departure, she texts back that the girls want to join her.. hhmm. I think, they realized they can't get away with all the crap, and basically want to run away from me - legally.. Anyway, sorry, this is more-less kind of a rant.. I used to have a therapist, but new job- new insurance, and I just cant afford it. Spending is another issue, I am the "bread-winner", new job, leave house at 6, get home about same, but have every other Friday off.. And since the official announcement, they (SO and daughters) are spending like crazy! Never asked her to pay for anything, but also, since she has a little craft business, I assumed, her OWN entertainment and whatever, she would pay on her own. I literally pay for absolutely everything, even her cell plan.. Finally, and what broke the camels back, is that last week (without warning - which I several times asked for) SO bought herself a flight ticket. It is not the first time for her just taking my card and treating it for her OWN benefits.. Now, she will be gone till end of Aug, so the divorce sits... I served her, and she counter-served, and week after she's gone.. Anyway. I am starting to feel , all this is calculated.. Her mom did a number on her! Now, she's doing it to the daughters... Sorry guys!! cheers