Embarrassment

azwildcat74 · 2023-08-02T17:27:53+00:00

I definitely cringe at who my ex has become at this point.

BrandoBLC · 2023-08-02T22:59:04+00:00

I divorced about 5yrs ago. I get that a couple times a year, but the worst was at a friends large BBQ a couple weeks ago. I met some new people, some of whom were talking about a woman they kept the BBQ a secret from so she wouldn’t ask to come. I had just met some of these people, so I kept my mouth shut and just listened. After about 2min of listening I started to wonder if it was my ex, and then I heard the name. After listening to the things they were saying about my ex, I was praying they didn’t know I was once married to her. The level of cringe I felt was off the charts. It amazes me how my ex runs around with people who openly talk shit about her like they were doing. It was some pretty terrible stuff. It was a solid hour of laughing and talking shit about her. Just spreading all her business to people they had barley just met. Needless to say, I won’t be hanging out with any of those people anytime soon. So yea, I cringe when I look back at who I was when I was married to that trash, and I cringe when I hear about how she has no self respect or dignity. I fully admit I was an idiot for marrying that thing. 🤷🏽‍♂️

cousinmarygross · 2023-08-02T19:55:04+00:00

Meh, whenever discussion occurs about my ex, both my parents and my wife consistently point out, "You married her!"

They're right. My bad.

hotantipasta · 2023-08-02T22:06:00+00:00

I feel this so much.

IceDue123 · 2023-08-03T12:58:57+00:00

I’ve had a couple of those moments. The last one was from a girl I was dating who worked in my dentist office. All the office girls said I was a gentleman and that ex was a bitch, which included an example where there was a huge blow up in the office and my ex demanded all her medical records and stalked off in a huff. I felt validated for a minute then realized everyone viewed me as a guy who was married to a bitch. LOL

Old-Macaroon8148 · 2023-08-03T10:10:12+00:00

Yeah, going through the same change in emotion myself. I just sort of laugh and shake my head.

Looking back at how I originally called the wedding off about 6 weeks prior to our wedding day. I knew it was a mistake, I knew the red flags and I knew it couldn’t last. But then I let myself get talked into it, the seduction and sex certainly clouded my judgement. Now 5 years and two little ones later it’s a nasty divorce after I uncovered her affair.

I’m embarrassed for her and I’m embarrassed I didn’t trust my gut.

Ruggiard · 2023-08-03T14:58:14+00:00

I fully understand your feelings and the shame that may come with it. It took me some time but I had to come to the realization that if you do something in your life, or something happens which you can't change anymore, it's not a mistake, it's part of your story now. You will always have that ex-wife and you once had your reasons for marrying her. Now you're wiser, but own your history. That is a chapter of your story.

Title	Embarrassment
Author	Lumptbuttcat
Upvotes	23
Comments	8
Date	August 2, 2023 4:53 PM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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