Time away from kid

captainchippsixx · 2023-09-17T00:18:59+00:00

You need to hang with a friend or take up a hobby or sport group activity. On non daughter days hit the gym!

You can use dating as a distraction when appropriate.
Just don’t take it’s serious, use it to work on your game lol , hookup, and try to laugh when your going through it (because you will have some gals that you will go suprise).

GreenUse1398 · 2023-09-17T08:29:56+00:00

Watch Louis CK talk about his divorce and having 50/50 custody. You're living the dream.

It might not help emotionally, but it's frickin' hilarious.

thro281 · 2023-09-17T16:37:08+00:00

I’m still going through the process but as I was planning for this I learned to golf. Golfing takes up a lot of time, it gets you out in nature, and it is a very social sport. Now that I golf my social life has gotten better and I bond more with coworkers. Golf is also a great excuse to drink beer during the day. Take up golf and you will fill your time. Another sport that is good is cycling. It takes a lot of time, you get super fit and when you go to other countries especially Europe it will open up a whole new world.

If you aren’t a physical person join a book club or find a place that has trivia night. I usually read non-fiction but fiction is really cool. And there are some women who find reading sexy. I’m a book worm, who also cycles, workouts and a little above average height so your results may vary 😆.

Do not resort to video games. They take up time but you get nothing but empty endorphins in the end. I have been doing that recently as well after not playing for 17 years and it is not get me out into nature, improves my life or help me meet people.

EmotionSix · 2023-09-17T12:14:35+00:00

I make sure to have a FaceTime call with my kid almost daily just for 5 minutes to say hi and tell a joke together.

another idea is to do something for the kiddo on days they are not around. Can be as simple as doing their laundry, tidying up the toys, plan your next outing, or even making some mail for them to receive at the coparents home.

Sometimes I just lay down, close my eyes, and think about a really fun day we had together. I might hug a pillow and get emotional but honestly it’s better than repressing the feelings.

WartimeDad · 2023-09-17T03:33:22+00:00

Learn to value the free time for self car and catching up with responsibilities so you can be your best present self when you have her. Shut the door to her room.

Affectionate-Pea-350 · 2023-09-17T00:53:11+00:00

This is the exact reason I haven't filed yet..dialysis for 4 years and I am still the stay at home dad.. I left for 4 days and I didn't even know what to do with myself. I missed him so badly. Try to find ways to be better while she is gone..or get on top of her school stuff and print out worksheets or just make it all about her still while she is at her mothers. Keep the focus on her. I am about to take this step and ive been so weary of this change. You can do this man!

Ecstatic-Hospital500 · 2023-09-17T15:49:13+00:00

Any kind of hobbies ? No support around you ever think about taking a class for something you might be interested in like horticulture

ivereadabookor2 · 2023-09-17T19:36:51+00:00

I’m in the same boat. Those first few months on my own were hard. I love my time with my kid but the off days are depressing and lonely. I’ve been try to reconnect with friends, leave the house and do something, exercise, and focus on my growth work via therapy and mens groups. Eventually I’ll dating again but I’m not there yet. So my goal is just to keep busy.

No_Pace2396 · 2023-09-17T23:37:43+00:00

Get a journal and start writing every memory you have of your SAHD days with your daughter. Just write, let her know how special she is and how dedicated you were to being there for her. Write advice, write ahppy times, write anything. When you run out of things to write, write your life story. You don't have to be a poet. Tell a friend about it so you make sure those journals get to her if you knock off unexpectedly. When she graduates from college give them to her. IDK about you, but my STBX is all about the here and now, the clothes and phone, staying up late to watch crap TV. One year she did a "memory jar" without me. At the end of the year she asked me to sit with them to relive their memories...there were maybe 12 in the jar. That was the day I started my journal. STBX never did that stupid memory jar again. I've been journaling almost 10 years. Right now my daughter has turned on me, but one day maybe she'll see how hard I tried for her, for our family, and for one stupid woman.

And walk and go to the gym. Feels good.

Signal-Dot2326 · 2023-09-18T00:50:57+00:00

Friday's and Saturdays are easy peasy, Sundays are awful in a quiet empty house

Title	Time away from kid
Author	Notreallyme7628
Upvotes	13
Comments	11
Date	September 17, 2023 12:08 AM UTC (2 years ago)
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