Hi guys. This might be a bit jumbled, but I'll try to keep it concise.

I'm a recently-divorced guy who has recently dabbled in the dating life. I'm talking like, two weeks ago. I want to acknowledge up front that this may not be the ideal sub for this post, but I figure my life actions/experiences lately are related to the spirit of this sub.

I've since been on three dates so far. One of them was so-so, we didn't have much chemistry. But the other two went really well. For the sake of keeping this concise, I will be talking about an incident that happened with the first one.

So we hit it off last weekend, got pretty handsy, and it gave me a well-needed confidence boost, with me being newly divorced and all.

We texted all week, and ended up meeting up again last night. We had a really "romantic" evening and ended up watching the stars by a lake. We eventually sealed the deal in the back of her car. While it was super hot fun, unfortunately I was experiencing some erectile dysfunction. IDK if it was because it was chilly out or if I was super anxious, but it was extremely embarrassing and a huge blow to my confidence.

I've spent all day ruminating on it. What's more, I've realized that I've placed all my eggs in this "game mindset". Like, I've been extremely lonely and horny since my exwife and I split, and when I finally get the opportunity to sleep with someone, I totally blow it. I feel like I'm back to first base - feeling extremely lost, lonely, and ashamed in myself.

I'm talking to other women, and I haven't even had the motivation to text them back today. I don't want the same thing to happen again.

And also, the other great date I had has been texting me nonstop, making her intentions very clear. But I feel intimidated and unworthy.

Some of this may have to do with the fact that maybe I'm not as healed as I should be from my divorce. I explicitly do not want a relationship right now, and maybe the prospect of sleeping with multiple women just feels so empty to me - and this maybe came to fruition through my limp dick.

I don't know, I said this would be jumbled. LOL. Thanks for reading and let me know if any of you can relate to this or have advice. I feel so lost.