How do you want things again

terrorist_giraffe · 2023-11-27T02:27:14+00:00

Reposting without the rule-violating stuff:

Sounds a bit like anhedonia, a symptom of depression. This probably isn't the right sub for this discussion, but since you asked:

Depression can be caused by shitty life circumstances, shitty thought patterns, or shitty wiring in your brain. If you used to be a happy, successful guy and nothing traumatic happened to change that, then it's likely you've got the third kind. Through no fault of your own or your environment, you've caught The Big Sad.

Where do you go from here? Therapy can be helpful but costly, and you may need to shop around to find a therapist that knows how to work with men without doing more harm than good. Medication is likely to work, but can have scary side-effects. Working out regularly has been shown to be at least as effective as the best medication after six months, and unless you're an idiot and injure yourself, there are literally no downsides.

Obviously working out is the best place to start, but if your BooHoos are bad enough that they prevent you from sticking to a regular exercise routine, consider some therapy and/or medication as a crutch to get you to a point where you can take care of yourself again.

Generally this sub preaches self-reliance, and while that's great for those that can do it, it's not the best philosophy for all people all the time. You're asking for advice, which is a good first step, but I recommend checking out other mental health subs.

lusdee · 2023-11-27T01:21:34+00:00

It’s all a feedback loop. I’m not gonna lie, it sounds like you’ve got some hard work in front of you but since you’ve had a taste of how easy life can be before, you already know what to do.

This feeling you have now is good, be mad at yourself - be so depressed you MUST change.

You need to dive in to the struggle head first and start doing the things nobody wants to do. I can tell you what’s worked for me but you might have to modify it to suit.

First you’re gonna kill that body of yours you are carrying around so a new stronger version of you can emerge. You will have to make the time to work out 2 times a day even though you think it’s impossible and not realistic, trust me- if you want this bad enough you will prioritise.

Go hard on the weights and run at least 4-5 times a week. You’re gonna get good at doing a 5k, if you’re overweight getting under 30 mins will be hard but your ultimate goal is sub 20. If you push yourself every day you’ll be within striking distance in 3 months which is likely how long it’s going to take to look good naked if not longer depending how fat you are today.

On the bright side if you train as hard as I’m suggesting your new mindset will start to form long before your body does so the confidence will begin almost immediately. Want to take this even further and become the strongest person wherever you go? Time to learn boxing or Muay Thai..

At first you will suck and be scared to spar but this is normal, stick with it and do it anyway, you will develop a mindset that can’t be faked.

Now that the physical is coming together you should find yourself more efficient at work/study so take the risks and learn to figure out another source of income, you need to be making atleast 6 figures TODAY. Learn finance learn to invest, understand crypto aswell as traditional finance.

It should go without saying but by now you should have your diet dialed in because you can’t hang at the top unless it is, sleep is crucial but if you’re doing what I’ve said that will take care of itself and you’ll find yourself waking up HUNGRY at 4am well rested ready to squeeze more into a day than is possible.

Now you’re untouchable and you will begin striking up conversations with everybody who crosses your path, the old lady, the neighbours, the hot chick everyone. And you don’t want anything from these interactions you are just outgoing and love communicating.

Now that you’re talking to 30 strangers a day you will notice girls that are playing with their hair or otherwise receptive body language you can start to flirt/tease but you’re just having fun you don’t care where it goes. Say goodbye, you might see them again you may not but don’t worry there’s more where that came from.

Ohh there’s that cute chick that was digging me from 2 weeks ago, chat with her again, now you may ask for her number and she will say yes because you have shown you are not needy so you must have options and by now you do because you’ve been collecting a few numbers this week.

Send out some messages and line up a few dates with no expectations just keep bringing that fun energy, you’ll get laid very shortly. Guess what? You’ve just proven how easy this shit is so you are now THE MAN.

This is where temptation will test you and try to bring you back to your old ways, stay fucking focused and don’t have too much fun! Set your goals, not just wishy washy shit but real goals. Go out there and get it done.

Better-Emergency-952 · 2023-11-27T00:32:50+00:00

Dude, it doesn't look like you're in a position to rely on wisdom from redditors. Seek help from a psychotherapist, psychiatrist or doctor.

autoeroticassfxation · 2023-11-27T00:51:27+00:00

If it's actual depression I can't help. I lived with a guy that suffered from bouts of depression (approx 3 months). He wasn't willing to wind down during his elevated periods and that would then lead to periods of depression. If he wanted to avoid the depression he needed to learn to cool his jets when he was running hot in my opinion. But nobody likes to give up the mania.

ChickenBalotelli · 2023-11-27T00:49:34+00:00

If you’re obese, you’re prolly eating like shit. Good look feeling good when your guts not producing serotonin.

BecomingABetterMan1 · 2023-11-27T01:42:25+00:00

I'm actually struggling with this a bit myself.

I used to do everything I did for sex... then I started getting all the sex I could ask for - and now I feel a bit lost.

OP, I don't have a cure for you - I also have ADHD and your post is quite similar to my own life through a different lense. What I can say is that when I stop training, I tend to slip on everything else too. I'm currently looking into dopamine detoxing and will be giving that a go. You may do well to do this yourself.

HereForaRefund · 2023-11-27T05:17:50+00:00

Start by changing your mindset. Instead of telling yourself that you have to do the thing, tell yourself that you WANT to do the thing, or that you get to do the thing. Far example: say "I want to make my bed" or "I get to make my bed, it's people out there without a bed. If I have it I'm going to take care of it.". By doing that I went from "crap, I don't want to do it" to feeling disgusted when I don't do the thing.

DearSail7885 · 2023-11-27T00:37:03+00:00

I think this might be a bit hard to relate to as people who are on this sub tend to be driven and passionate

You're right. I don't relate at all.

Start by getting your lard ass back into the weight room. Take an extended trip to Latam. Depression rates south of the border are some of the lowest in the world. I'm not going to get into why that is, but it suffices to say that it doesn't really matter who is President or anything when you're plowing into a big booty Latina

Percentage930 · 2023-11-27T01:13:27+00:00

There really is no short way to answer this lol.

Society lies to you about women right? Why can't they be dishonest in other areas? Another area society lies about is psychiatry.

This is a really rough thing to tell people because it's hard to convince them modern day psychiatry is bad. If given plenty of time and if the person is willing to read then it's possible to unplug them.

Best thing you can do is stay AWAY from psychiatric medication.

Idk how invested you are.. theredpill is the truth. Depression doesn't change the truth. The red pill applies to all people.

I have some good resources for depression but I don't want to type it all up if your going to not read it lol.

This coming from a unplugged man with a pharmd.

Pelon01 · 2023-11-27T01:21:25+00:00

Have you sought out professional help? From either a medical doctor or licensed clinical therapist? Because you’re describing quite a drastic change in your life.

Seven_Swans7 · 2023-11-27T03:06:59+00:00

Get in the fucking gym right now, that's step 1. Work the fuck out until you aren't depressed anymore. You are depressed because you are a lazy fuck with no outlet.

ypyt_cv · 2023-11-27T00:22:08+00:00

In the same boat looking for answer

RedPillUY · 2023-11-27T10:47:46+00:00

You are having what used to be called a spiritual crisis. Now consider this: that the “ancient fairytales” actually captured some truth we haven’t completely grasped yet, and they might help you.

littleblacktruck · 2023-11-27T02:12:34+00:00

This isn't an advice sub. Go lay in the freeway and count mufflers.

Dynamix86 · 2023-11-27T14:02:36+00:00

Magic mushrooms cure depression instantly. It did that for me, people I know and countless of others on the internet

El0vution · 2023-11-27T00:58:02+00:00

Give us more information. What happened between heading three research projects and almost failing out of college?

Fire_Stoic14 · 2023-11-27T05:55:50+00:00

Realizing that your value comes from what you create in this world as a man, and nobody really cares about your problems is a great start for your depression. Unless you're providing something useful for the world, no one really cares about you as a man. This is a pretty ugly red pill truth that not many men can handle, unfortunately. Some men kill themselves when they hear that they can't be loved by society unconditionally the same way a woman can.

Also, you're already accomplishing quite a feat in your academics and you say you're not obese, so not sure why you're feeling the way that you feel. Are you actually going to the gym everyday? If everything fails in life for you, at least keep the gym part active because working hard lifting heavy weights helps you to look forward to something to build. Men have a natural desire to overcome challenges, so lifting weights helps with that because you can't really overcome the gym, there's always something new to build for your body.

RedPillAlphaBigCock · 2023-11-27T09:45:03+00:00

Sometimes you have to do that work that leads to success FIRST , THEN the desire and juice comes back to life . It’s like putting in the wood before lighting the fire vs trying to light a fire with only matches

LordBogus · 2023-11-27T11:59:24+00:00

'The point is, ladies and gentleman, that greed, for lack of a better word, is good. Greed is right, greed works. Greed clarifies, cuts through, and captures the essence of the evolutionary spirit. Greed, in all of its forms; greed for life, for money, for love, knowledge has marked the upward surge of mankind. And greed, you mark my words, will not only save Teldar Paper, but that other malfunctioning corporation called the USA. Thank you very much.'

Interesting-Head9582 · 2023-11-27T12:21:02+00:00

How can i help you ? Well, you are into a new state / mind of set and blocked in it, that’s a new thing you discovered in life but the problem you are blocked in it, i’ll give you some hint that will lead you to the exit and at the same time the portal will always exist like when you discovered fire, you can use it whenever it’s time and in the right context ( keep going through this state comprehend it and i think you didn’t fully understand it, but you had the illusion because i s human when we get one thing about something we think we got it but actually we don’t keep going and discovering at the end you will find answers that will lead you to what you desire or want or both)

AA7 · 2023-11-27T13:06:21+00:00

You've already seen and experienced that the material world doesn't fulfill you, so the only thing left is spirituality. To start off, I recommend you read The Untethered Soul and The Power of Now.

burnyr · 2023-11-27T20:41:58+00:00

Man, can't help but relate. How can I want things, or have things I want to accomplish?

Any productive shit I do, I do it on the off chance that one day I wake up and randomly just want to live and do shit. But idk, if there was a pill I could take to make it so that I never existed, I'd take that shit in a heartbeat.

Title	How do you want things again
Author	Cadmus_A
Upvotes	36
Comments	52
Date	November 27, 2023 12:07 AM UTC (2 years ago)
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