32/ 5’8 170lbs / married 3 years, wife (33), 2 year old daughter

I’ve started my MRP journey about 4 months ago, focusing heavily on the pre-requisite materials like NMMNG, WISNIFG, and MMSLP. I was a pushover career beta for most of my life, but made quick changes in regard to recognizing and halting manipulation, putting my own needs first, and lifting. I emphasized a lot of my initial steps on establishing boundaries that were desperately needed against the disrespectful behavior directed toward me. Ive resorted to eliminating DLV behavior like DEERing by just STFU, and not reacting emotionally anymore to shit tests.

Wife seems to have been getting more and more angry at this new behavior, “you used to be such a yes man but you’re just a cold asshole now”. She has progressed to saying more and more disrespectful things which I sense could be out of frustration because I’m not DEERing like a child at her anymore. Example: I left my slippers in the middle of the hallway the other day, she reacts “wow I could easily trip over these and die and you would be a screwed single dad having to pay for a baby-sitter”, I responded by just giggling because I find it so absurd. The same day my daughter was whining for daddy and didn’t want my wife, I was doing some Sunday cleaning and was really dirty so I couldn’t get to her before bathing, “she wants you, idk why you don’t even give a shit about her or you’d have some urgency to attend to her.”

These are some just recent examples but I’m noticing the less I react or care about her stupid angry moods, the angrier and more unhinged she is getting with her responded, like she is trying to find a breaking point to get me to react with anger. Did I move too fast or is this a giant shit test on pulling me back into her frame.