Snoring boyfriend :(

RatchedAngle · 2024-01-29T14:02:15+00:00

He needs to see a doctor and request a sleep study. Snoring can indicate sleep apnea and sleep apnea can be deadly.

HVM take care of their health. No ifs, ands, or buts about it.

The “I don’t go to the doctor because it’s not manly” types cannot, by definition, be good protectors and providers because many of them will die when their families still need them.

pieorstrudel5 · 2024-01-29T14:56:05+00:00

My ex.... Woof. The snoring was awful. CPAP helped tremendously and I had to beg him.

Earplugs or earbuds with white noise and a Tylenol PM. Helped tremendously.

I used to think people with separate bedrooms were weird. There were times I would end up on the couch so I totally get the appeal now..

Wife_and_Mama · 2024-01-29T16:22:36+00:00

While it might be worth it for your boyfriend to see a doctor, some people just snore.

https://www.hopkinsmedicine.org/health/conditions-and-diseases/snoring#:~:text=Snoring%20doesn't%20necessarily%20mean,sleep%20disorder%2C%20including%20sleep%20apnea.

My husband used to snore much worse, because of a crushed sinus cavity. Apparently, when he was 12, he was kicked by a horse and his father, an old cattle rancher, reset it. That was it. No doctor. He had major sinus surgery and it improved, but he still snores sometimes, because he still has short sinuses. My one-year-old son is his clone and certainly suffers none of the risk factors. He still snores.

One of the things that helps my husband is not sleeping on his back or sleeping in an elevated position. Often, he snores seasonally, if he's sick or his allergies are bad. Right now, everyone in my house has RSV, so he snores. I use a sound machine. This one has numerous low toned sounds and is quite affordable and portable:

https://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B0865VQMH8?psc=1&ref=ppx_pop_mob_b_asin_image

It's not ideal, but if there's nothing to be done, a sound machine and earplugs are your best bet. Ask him to roll over in the night if he's snoring. See if he's willing to take an allergy pill or sinus medicine. You could ask that he wear sinus strips. You also just don't have to sleep in the same room. Some excellent men just snore.

LateralThinker13 · 2024-01-29T14:50:20+00:00

Two big contributors: being overweight and alcohol. Is he fat or does he drink? Either can make snoring a problem.

If he's a skinny tetotaler, then he needs a sleep study.

(I've looked into this. When I dropped weight from 255 to 225, and don't drink alcohol, I'm silent at night. When I gain weight or have alcohol, the train returns to the station.)

WhiteRose- · 2024-01-29T14:00:59+00:00

Does he ever stop breathing while snoring (like a 5-10 second pause)? Does he sometimes sound like he is choking or gasping for air? Does he actually get a good rest, or is he tired during the day? Loud snoring could signal a health problem like sleep apnea, or nasal polyps, deviated septum and so on. Perhaps there is something that can be done about it. Other than that I can recommend using ear plugs to block the noise. You can also ask him to lay more on his sides instead of his back and elevate his head with extra pillows. I know the feeling, my husband snored a lot before getting diagnosed with apnea. Using earplugs or sleeping in separate rooms is the only way I was able to get any sleep.

SpicyVermicelli · 2024-01-29T18:38:32+00:00

My husband wears mouth tape at night and I wear earplugs and it works fine for us

Key-Tie2542 · 2024-01-29T18:20:02+00:00

Hey! Not all of us Walruses snore!!!

Jewelry_lover · 2024-01-29T19:32:28+00:00

Omg this used to be me 😂 I eventually got used to it

xxGabixx · 2024-01-29T20:48:04+00:00

Ok, my moment has come (maybe?). My husband snores a lot and I am a light sleeper so it was a big problem. He used mouth tape for many months and it was fine. But then we arrived to a better solution: a diffuser/humidifier. I don’t know the mechanics of it; I don’t know if the actual humidity it generates helps his throat or nose, or if it works as a white noise for him. The thing is that we turn the diffuser on every night and 95% of the time he doesn’t snore :) Maybe it’s worth a try. I wouldn’t discard medical issues as a cause though (my husband went to the doctor because of the snoring and was told he was fine).

zurgenfloggin · 2024-01-29T17:12:22+00:00

Hubby here. He needs a cpap. It’s impossible for you to sleep with that loud snoring and he will benefits a lot from it. It’s very common but he might resist. Start with just a test. You can order them from sites like lofts.com. The results be make it easier to convince him.

AutoModerator · 2024-01-29T13:11:18+00:00

Title: Snoring boyfriend :(

Author -ladykitsune-

Full text: I’m in a new relationship and I stayed over at my boyfriends place for the weekend for the second time.

He is a very loving and attentive man but he snores like a walrus! It was an issue the first time I stayed over as well but I tried to ignore it throughout the night.

The second time I stayed over (last weekend) the exact same thing happened, and I wasn’t able to get any sleep at all. It unfortunately ruined what would have been a romantic weekend, as after the second consecutive night of no sleep I was really cranky.

My boyfriend had been apologetic about this but isn’t sure how to change this, besides me wearing earplugs to bed - I tried this the second night but it didn’t help :(

Does anyone else have a partner that snores extremely loudly at night? How do you get over that noise or has he been able to improve the snoring?

I am dreading the thought of spending another weekend with him and getting zero sleep :(

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meltilen · 2024-01-29T18:41:03+00:00

It is such a big deal for me that I was even asking my dates before I spent any night with them and became attached. I wouldn't start a relationship with someone who snores, but it's just me. Earplugs, white noise etc. are good help for some days, but not for every day. You can't do this every day.

If no problem would be found and the snoring problem is not solved even after seeing a doctor, I can suggest that he should practice nasal breathing techniques or even tape his mouth at night.

cbunni666 · 2024-01-30T00:32:47+00:00

My husband snores but he also has sleep apnea. I would recommend seeing a sleep doctor to make sure he doesn't have it. It can contribute to it. If it's not taken care of he could stop breathing in his sleep. I didn't sleep a full night for months because not only did he snore he stopped breathing so I slept lightly and nudged him each time he stopped. It wrecked my nerves.

Alphabet_Boys_R_Us · 2024-01-30T02:51:35+00:00

He should definitely get checked for sleep apnea, but as a quick temp aid breathe right strips do wonders for me. You could also look into custom molded ear plugs on your end.

Title	Snoring boyfriend :(
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Date	January 29, 2024 1:11 PM UTC (2 years ago)
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