These alphas are afraid of one thing…

ROBYoutube · 2024-02-21T20:23:57+00:00

They're also afraid of a lot of other things too. Like women, other men, literally anyone exerting autonomy and reminding them they can't control everyone in their life, being vulnerable, being made to feel like they are less than perfect, that evolutionary psychology is just a creative writing degree with a casual interest in some sciences, getting cheated on, getting beaten up, the entire concept of feminism, shit I could literally keep going.

ooa3603 · 2024-02-21T21:16:25+00:00

Disagree

As much as society likes to characterize men as dogs who would chafe at marriage, the majority of men (even "alpha" men) love the idea of being with a special person who truly loves you long term, if not marriage. Because most human beings want someone to love.

There are a number of emotions and beliefs driving alpha/redpill fears:

An incredibly negative and capitalistic worldview - If you ever talk to a redpilled or similar man, you quickly see that the way they see the world is incredibly cynical. To the point of ridiculousness honestly. They believe the worst of everyone and everything, and reduce everything to business analogies where human relationships are entirely transactional. Yes, relationships are not free you have to invest time, emotion and energy into the other person before love can be established. But this not because the love has a cost, but because the time constraints of mortality means people (men and women) need to be selective about who they give their love to. The mutual exchange of time, emotion and energy is you proving to the other person that they made a good choice. It's not a payment for the relationship. Notice how I said, mutual exchange of time, emotion and energy and not money. Money can be a way to save more time and energy for your relationships, but it should not be the focus of your investment in the other person. In addition, many men are not good about making sure the women they engage with are also mutually investing time, emotion and energy into them, so they get bitter and the most bitter of them turn to redpill ideologies when they should have been just more discerning in how they expend their energy in the search for romance.
Fear of never being enough - Many who are obsessed with the alpha male paradigm are insecure about their ability to be enough for the women they are attracted to because they are so transactional and cynical about relationships. They project that world view onto the women they are interacting with. They truly believe that unconditional love doesn't exist ... and they would be right it doesn't. But remember what I said earlier about time and energy? Those are the conditions for love, not socio-economic status. Now are there people who use socio-economic status as a standard for love? Absolutely, but they are playing themselves and they should be avoided. Anyways, this fear of never being enough is one of the fears driving the obsession over body count. They are afraid a woman with a high body count is comparing them to other men and finding them wanting. The hypocrisy lies in the fact that they are also comparing women. In any case, because there is always someone younger, richer, better looking, stronger, more alpha and their concepts of romance is holds no room for authentic love, they build an anxiety about love and the capability of a woman to desire to to stay with them.
Jealousy of women's power when it comes to sex, more specifically they are angry sex is the one place they cannot control women. Sure they can coerce, lie etc. But at the end of the day, they don't actually control whether a women has sex with them. That is completely her decision. Unless you rape someone, but the vast majority of men do not want to do that, so much so even the actual rapists lie to themselves about their rape. To men who subscribe to hypermasculinity like "alpha", a man is an entity only beholden to himself and he is deemed successful because he is better than everyone else around him. So the fact that such a man cannot have sex whenever he wants and only at the acquiescence of the women he deems beneath him in social hierarchy is constant point of anger.

There are of course other aspects that contribute to the redpill mindset, but in my mind these are the most common.

VisceralSardonic · 2024-02-21T20:21:19+00:00

Can you explain a little more about what you mean here?

GirlGazing · 2024-02-22T04:15:58+00:00

They’re afraid of themselves. Controlling people have a lot of inner demons.

Recent_Beautiful_732 · 2024-02-22T05:15:37+00:00

They do want marriage. It makes it much easier for them to control a woman.

BuddaJim2023 · 2024-02-23T20:06:37+00:00

“Alphas” are nothing but run of the mill obnoxiously insecure, incompetent male NPCs who watched a few vids and decided to slap a label on themselves and be the king…of their own lives?

Stupid.

Designer-Arugula6796 · 2024-02-26T00:18:07+00:00

I mostly disagree actually. From what I’ve seen, there are three major categories of redpillers. 1) Very young kids who are in the beginning stages of puberty or even prepubescent (like sneako’s fans at that basketball game). 2) middle aged men who are recently divorced and bitter who are reminiscent of Richard cooper. 3) guys who are in their late teens and early 20s who have trouble getting girls and listen to podcasts like fresh n fit as misogynistic ASMR to help soothe their pain. I don’t think being afraid of marriage is a major driving force behind redpill guys (which I am assuming you mean by “alphas”)

legend503 · 2024-02-22T09:50:24+00:00

Men love marriage with a good woman.

Men fear marriage with a toxic one.

CurrencyLatter2908 · 2024-02-21T22:46:38+00:00

They're not afraid of it. They're just not dumb enough and have no reason to do it.

shawninpa · 2024-02-21T21:36:50+00:00

That'd make sense if they are truly alphas. Why would they settle?

Evening_Crew_2873 · 2024-02-22T09:43:21+00:00

What's an "alpha"?

And what led you to a conclusion they are afraid of marriage ?

Title	These alphas are afraid of one thing…
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Date	February 21, 2024 7:59 PM UTC (2 years ago)
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