Avoiding the black pill makes me happy.

dulcepetaurodeazucar · 2024-02-24T00:56:48+00:00

You should read Nuancepill work. He debunks the blackpill nonsense.

mammajess · 2024-02-24T02:50:26+00:00

Short men are very sexy I think. There's nothing like having an intimate conversation with someone who is on your level, you can be in a private little world even in public and look eye to eye. My husband is only one inch taller and everything (😉) is better with someone who isn't a giant. He doesn't take up the whole bed and steal the blankets, which is something I battled for so long with taller men. Sounds like a small thing but it's super annoying. Also, I don't have to make a giant pot of food to feed us so he's even economical 🤣

(No offence intended to tall men)

meleyys · 2024-02-24T01:46:08+00:00

I don't have a lot of advice, since I've never been in your position, but I want to say I'm proud of you for staying away from black pill content. Keep up the good work.

(Also, just a quick anecdote that might make you feel better: I'm a woman and 5'5". I once dated a guy who was 5'4". I never gave a flying fuck about his height.)

coffeetablestain · 2024-02-24T17:06:05+00:00

It's very much relevant to this community to talk about how avoiding certain kinds of language helps your mental health.

I think some people hate the idea that they have weak mental health, when in reality we ALL have weak mental health and can easily get stuck in places that keep us miserable.

We watch the food and drink we consume, it's completely socially accepted to have diets and avoid some kinds of food, but when you tell people you're avoiding some kinds of entertainment or discussion, they often feel like it's some kind of weakness or that it's wrong to EVER avoid knowledge.

Look, reading dark shit that has no actual impact on your life other than to remind you of things to feel bad about, whether or not the messages are based in reality or not is not helping you.

Depressive states start somewhere, and the brain is JUST a tool that invents stories to explain your emotions. Why feed the disease? Close the computer, close the dating and relationship subreddits, and literally find something in your brief, delicate existence to appreciate, because it's going to be over blindingly fast. You will look around and 40 more years will have passed, and all the life experiences you have along the way will be evaporating as fast as you had them. It won't matter what you did or not, what you accomplished. At the end of the day, all you have is how you trained yourself to feel about the short ride.

Even if you feel silly, even if you are against "faking it" look around at your life and list 3 things that you enjoy having, things that make you happy, even it's escapism or stupid things, it doesn't matter. The goal is to spit out "pills" about the world and live in a moment and give your brain and emotions a break from constantly trying to invent stories to keep you unhappy. Get in a habit of this short, private exercise. Stop ruminating, start living life.

Leather-Reality · 2024-02-24T15:48:29+00:00

On the contraire to what you said, the black pill saved my life because it helped me become stoic about many things, found peace in objective reality, helped me pursue hobbies and skills rather than human affection that will never truly be genuine or possible, and made me realize that we should not blame ourselves for things that are truly out of our control. It was never you to begin with. I learned to love myself and not hate myself for losing the lottery of life that goes beyond just genetics (economic upbringing, bullying, abuse, negative feedback, ect). I hated myself for being used by people who I thought were my friends and never being able to attract a woman. I thought I was an evil piece of shit and gaslit to believe I was the problem. This has affected my self esteem and to this day I still have difficulties accepting compliments from people and think theyre just trying to make me feel good about myself.

Been closer to my family more than ever because in the end they still love me for who I am and im blessed to have them in my life. Not everyone gets to have this, which is why I dont project myself onto others and set expectation for people. We are all in absolutely unique circumstances. People on both the red pill and blue pill side will think im pathetic, but I feel free from the rat maze for the first time and couldnt care less what they think of me.

You probably never learned how to come to terms with these things in a healthy manner and felt the need to dwell on these thoughts since you weren't actually black pilled to begin with. You can be done with it, but it wont be done with you. Rings absolutely true.

Top_Radio_9436 · 2024-02-24T16:15:31+00:00

Less experienced with BP'ers than RP'ers. The guy I suspect is blackpill, whom I know, is a biological determinist. He talks about bone structure, evo-psych and has said some weird pseudoscientific bullshit that reminds me of the Nazis.

Maybe this isn't true for you, but for him its almost like a tool of self-harm. Like this shit hurts him and causes him pain but he keeps going back to it. It's like he wants the negativity he feels about himself to be true, even if it isn't, and he is seeking conformation. If there is an element of self-harm to it, you might want to treat it as such and approach it from that angle. Do you see a therapist?

As for being short, my best friend in HS was like 5'7" and had allot of girlfriends some of whom were taller than him. Another guy I know who is like 5'4," same thing. I think these relationships would be impossible if these guys were in a BP mindset. I think the big secret is that they don't worry too much about their height. It really has allot to do with a person's confidence and mindset. BP is self-imposed doom, it will preclude this from ever happening.

I think those worries become a self-fulfilling prophecy once they influence how you act. BPers and RPers are getting "psyched out" of dating by influencers (who don't want them to get better) and self-sabotaging. I think using their own terminology, most incels/BPers and such are actually "mentalcels" whose own neuroticism is getting in their way. They are driving themselves crazy with content that's designed to make them insecure and destabilize them.

JadedVersion2594 · 2024-02-24T02:32:41+00:00

May I ask what black pill is?

larry_tron · 2024-02-25T16:49:53+00:00

Good on you for getting out of that cult and mindset. I wish you well on your road to recovery and bettering your own life

The entire manosphere is predicated on making you feel bad so they can exploit you for money and clout

ImmaDrainOnSociety · 2024-04-14T19:57:29+00:00

This sub IS largely about the black pill. That and PUAs. Like most in the anti-redpill sphere, and even in the redpill sphere, r/exredpill frequently confuses black with red.

Every time I wander through topics here I end up muttering to myself.

"No, that's a blackpiller"

"That's a PUA"

"No, that's a blackpiller"

"That's a PUA"

"No, that's a blackpiller"

"My brother in christ, incels are inherently blackpilled. Stop it."

"No, that's a blackpiller"

"Oh ffs Tate is not a redpiller"

"No, that's a blackpiller"

"That's a PUA."

etc

DEZOLLL · 2024-02-24T15:54:37+00:00

Hey dude, just wanted to comment, because I recently left the Redpill community, and being a tall-ish person, I thought id comment, I'm 6'1 and it has helped me in my dating experience exactly ZERO TIMES, I am still in highschool, and most guys at my school are shorter than me, but lots of people were in committed and healthy relationships with girls at their, or even above their height, so the idea that like height is a huge advantage in dating isnt really true. I also do know a few girls at my school that really care about height, but they're also definitely NOT the people you want to date, they usually are a bit entitled and think they deserve someone way above them, when they really don't bring that much to the table themselves. They are also usually the same girls that care about the 4 6's. 6 feet tall, 6 inches long, 6 figures, and a 6 pack, but these are NOT most women, and you should NOT be looking to date these people. IDk if this helped at all, if you would like to talk more, you can DM me

Title	Avoiding the black pill makes me happy.
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Upvotes	39
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Date	February 24, 2024 12:15 AM UTC (2 years ago)
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