I know a lot of guys on here are under the assumption that you can't ask a woman's bodycount because it's against societal norms, and that she'll just stop talking to you if you do.

That mindset is beta and cringe.

You shouldn't give a fuck what any woman thinks about your standards. Ask women directly what their bodycounts are (obviously after you've gotten to know them a bit, not like day 1), and if she doesn't meet your standards, you can drop her right there.

Closing your eyes & ears because it might gross you out is the most cringe you can possibly be as a man. If you don't like something, be direct and up front.