Where can I go as a high value man to meet high quality women (wifey material) or is online dating the only option?

Rumi4 · 2022-10-28T20:44:17+00:00

This is a good question. In my experience, I’ve met high quality women through the social circles that I’m a part of due to my own high value. For example, law school friends, colleagues, etc. Also older cousins who are high value men and have married high value women, who in turn have friends, cousins, etc. I’ve had some luck with dating apps, but you really have to parse through matches to find equivalent value.

Just out of curiosity, tell us a little about your investments and business? Always fun and instructive to learn how others have obtained success; everyone’s path is different!

Beneficial-Tip-4044 · 2022-10-28T21:52:32+00:00

you may be confusing yourself as a high-value man when really you're a high-earning man. Different categories, but still a great place to be.

Now question is, do you want someone to love you for you or are you fine with being used? If the latter, feel free to post your lavishness on dating apps and flaunt it everywhere you go.

If thats not what you want, make sure to keep your lifestyle more hidden.

As to your question, well truthfully I think every guy would like to know the answer to that as well haha. Best bet, school, gym, library, yoga classes, book store, cooking class, places where a girl like that would be attracted to. Good luck brother

-Tinderizer- · 2022-10-28T23:13:22+00:00

Go to where your interests lie. Evaluate your hobbies and see if there's a group or club and go from there. You're much more likely to find someone who not only shares your interests but is confident enough to pursue them.

2022-10-28T22:04:22+00:00

Business events, coffee shops, church are decent bers.

Online dating? Probably not.

5_7pickup · 2022-10-29T10:49:49+00:00

I mean what makes you high value? Just because you got money? That seems to be the only perk youve mentioned. 5 7 isnt tall and reasonable fit isnt that impressive.

OLD probably wont work well for you. I recommend you use your money for a personal trainer, professional photos, and a dating coach. Try meeting women IRL.

pablitosocool · 2022-10-29T17:06:23+00:00

It's so cringey to call yourself a high value man, that's determined by the men of value around you and your access to women.

hotdoogs · 2022-10-28T20:56:44+00:00

at the gym on a friday night

FrankenBeanTheGreat · 2022-10-28T21:35:57+00:00

Dating apps aren't great for anything beyond hookups.

As for wife material, you have to know what specifically you mean when you say that. You have to know what traits you are looking for because that will correlate to where you look. If you think nuclear family with the cooking and baking and down to earth nurturing vibe, you won't find her amongst high earners or big parties or dating sites, look for family friends, people from families you admire, down to earth level types. People who like animals and nature and such.

Dating apps will find people who can work the aesthetics angle, higher maintenance types looking for short term situations.

Hobbies are also a great way to meet people.

ef2111 · 2022-10-28T21:55:47+00:00

Social circles are good. Country club (and other private clubs like a racquet club, etc.) events or singles mixers are good. We're coming up on gala season for foundations and non-profits and those are always good spots. You're looking for exclusivity, and dating apps as a high value man (or man in general) is a complete shit show. Do you volunteer on a non-profit board? Those are good in that you'll find someone you share a passion with.

You're going for quality, and apps are for dumpster diving.

stick7_ · 2022-10-29T00:37:51+00:00

Libraries, book-stores, volunteering organisations, university.

No guarantees but a definite increase in chances of finding higher quality women.

Anything that's a one-off event isn't something to pursue. You need something reoccurring (i.e. you got to go to it on a consistent basis).

fazzavich · 2022-10-29T02:40:21+00:00

Stay off the dating apps man. Its chicks getting validation and not even looking at meeting up and single mothers who have hit the wall but still want a top tier guy. 90% of women think they are above you, even the ugly ones. Just stay away.

RulerK · 2022-10-28T21:52:15+00:00

Charity events

Calm-Witness-3083 · 2022-10-29T02:38:18+00:00

Dancing lessons are a fun way to meet single women. I've done this as a single woman and it was fun. Also, I second the others' recommendations of hobby related events. Joining a country club and attending their events is another idea.

Maybe you could find an established, well reviewed matchmaker to hire instead of wasting your time on dating apps.

Good luck!

distawest · 2022-10-29T07:56:21+00:00

Online dating is full of trash

You may lose valuable time there

losingstreak999 · 2022-10-29T09:08:47+00:00

Hi man,

Here is the thing, meeting women (high-value or otherwise) is a skillset. Relationships are a skillset in some degree. It comes naturally to some. You're not one of them.

I won't tell you to become a master PUA. But I will tell you to treat it like a project. Use Agile development. Let yourself get good with women 1st, without committing, and then worry about a high-value one. Otherwise your risk of becoming a meal ticket is massive. Avoid leaning on your money- keep that shit on the dl.

The answer is professional, social circle and hobbies. But in these settings, it's nice to have a relatively high chance of making a shot you go for. How do you get better at taking the shot? OLD, singles events and maybe even cold-approach.

Good luck

No_Drama7787 · 2022-10-29T10:45:30+00:00

Most of the most value girls don’t have time to fuck around online dates. They are just as busy managing their own shit. Social circles, classy bars probably, business meetings and so on. IMO.

All of the high value women I’ve met have been through friends from friends. They do like to party and shit. Insta might be something to try out.

Dstar538888 · 2022-10-29T16:26:34+00:00

if you still struggle to get women despite self-proclaiming yourself as "high value" then you're probably not as high value as you think tbh...

brickhead1 · 2022-10-28T20:58:42+00:00

If you really are an attractive dude (which i'm not doubting btw) then the reason you didn't get the matches on apps is bad pictures

Having good quality pictures is a huge part of a good OLD profile, plenty of guides on here that show what sort of pics to include

JGoonSquad · 2022-10-29T00:05:20+00:00

Bro, have you seen the state of women in 2022? Women globally are corrupt. No thanks to the internet and the media and schooling indoctrinating them from a young age. If you really want to find a good girl I'd look for one in a church or perhaps a girl who does volunteer work or something along those lines. I would certainly avoid party girls, women with tattoos, multiple kids from many baby daddies, women with lots of piercings, women who don't have good relations with their fathers. If you look hard enough you might find a needle in a haystack. Good luck brah!

Canadian-Seductioner · 2022-10-28T21:55:32+00:00

Sounds like your profile isn't optimized. Feel free to send it to me for critique if you like. OLD has been amazing for me.

Wander1900 · 2022-10-31T03:43:34+00:00

To be honest in my own humble opinion we are already an online society... Online is the only way... it's useless trying to socialize or go to a bar...

rachelgarner4 · 2022-10-29T09:59:20+00:00

Since you're financially well off you can use the best, fastest working hack to learning good game - and that is to learn game at strip clubs. It's the best, fastest hack. Don't use money to buy dances and bottles left and right but become a regular - sort of a friend of the strip club. Go in 3-4 times a week even if for 15 minutes to show your face. Talk to all the strippers. Remember their names. First 2 weeks will be hard, girls will give you shit for being there and not spending, will ask you wtf are you doing here, etc. After 2 weeks you will be perceived as now a regular part of the club. They will become friendly. The more friends you make with the staff the better as well. It works very well as well to have a "bridge" event to invite the girls from the strip club i.e. organizing a photoshoot. You don't have to be a photographer - you can act as the producer - you will organize photographers, venues, etc. It will cost you $500 and it will be the best party you ever been to - it's cheaper than getting a table at many night clubs and gives you way more opportunity to become friends or transition into dating a lot of the girls.

Many strippers are trashy women - that's okay, with those you can just be friends with. But I'd say at every strip club there is 5% girls who are very driven, accomplished, beautiful women just waiting for the right man to add to their lives. Believe it or not but for strippers it's extremely hard to find a guy that will accept their lifestyle and job, not be a jealous type. It really shrinks their pool - on top of all the other qualities they look for in a man just as any other girl. Additionally, many men make less than they do - which makes you stand out.

What's important here is being very supportive of their job, lifestyle, her reality of dudes salivating over them all the time. Once you start dating a girl like that you need to make sure you fuck her very well. If you don't know how to do that, there are definitely resources on how to up your sex game. You need to give her a mind blowing experience. Something it will be close to impossible for her to find somewhere else. Especially in the context that she is around creepy men constantly. You want to give her what she really wants, because everybody wants sex from her all day / night.

Also a healthy attitude towards strippers would be very important here: for a girl 9+/10 being a stripper is one of the smartest things she can do with what life has given her - meaning has exceptional looks. Don't get me wrong - she might be super intelligent and extremely fun personality - but let's be honest - those things can be found in many women. It's the looks, personality and sense of humor combination that is so unique. So, if a girl is like that and she is not capitalizing on this fortune, it's just a suboptimal choice in most cases. It takes a lot from a girl to sustain social pressure, have the courage and everything else to be a stripper. So you really need to look at them as extremely smart women.

Of course there is also a big chunk of strippers that are trashy and are dancing just because rent is due on Friday. They get high / drunk on the job and really just surviving. Again, those you can just be friends with. Them being around you will definitely build preselection - but you don't want to date those. You want to go after the 5% bad bitches that are rolling up to the strip club in a Benz

thestanimal86 · 2022-10-29T02:56:59+00:00

Networking mixers and broker opens. These girls are hard to pull because they're usually high value too.

sleepstages · 2022-10-29T05:04:32+00:00

Library

TheCultOfGrogg · 2022-10-29T06:40:04+00:00

Asia and non-westernized Latin America. Good luck. You can go to Africa but physical attraction to the women down there might be an issue, and you can go to the middle-east and india but you make come back in a body bag…they guard their women heavy over there from foreigners and have a very overt in-group preference. Other than that, I really don’t know what to tell you. The West is fucked as it pertains to dating

If traveling seems too extreme, and if you must date western women, stay as far away as you can from liberal women. I’m telling you, I’d have greater faith that if I threw a ball up it wouldn’t come down than I would that I liberal woman wouldn’t absolutely wreck whatever family you built with her. The divorce rates for liberal women are such that it almost seems the point of marriage is divorce - like divorce is on a to-do checklist lol.

rumblingtummy29 · 2022-10-29T09:53:53+00:00

This is a good site to find out how others view your dating profile photos. Highly recommend checking it outhttps://www.photofeeler.com/

Professional_Ad_78 · 2022-10-29T14:21:46+00:00

I forced myself to go to a nonprofit “black tie” event last weekend. I threw on my Armani suit that’s almost too small for me at this point. I was super nervous, but just like going out to bars or clubs, you start to approach, and get into a flow state. I made sure to schmooze with the organization’s founder, and top VP’s - made sure the women saw me interacting with them. But I also made sure to visit the photo booth and dance floor, and show a silly side. I had good conversations with about 15 women, and there were many more than just that. Half of them I was attracted to, fun to talk with, and had a good careers. I got a one #, as well as connected with a few on Instagram. (Might’ve got more numbers, but I’ll continue working with this org, so didn’t want to be seen being a PUA).

I’d suggest researching your local nonprofits & fundraiser events, and pushing yourself to attend! Good luck!

fapstrogotshellanutz · 2022-10-29T15:23:32+00:00

Church bro.

Breakinz · 2022-10-29T15:31:03+00:00

Instagram my friend, also you’ll get an idea of what she’s into and what kind of people she follows

Hermit41 · 2022-10-29T17:37:25+00:00

As for OP I think it depends where you hangout, go to nicer venues join classes like dance classes yoga classes spiritual retreats etc. These have high quality women forsure

ohcontrary · 2022-10-29T20:14:21+00:00

Huh I also have the same question from the other end lol. I am 32 single have my house and job organized but want a man in my life to continue accomplishing things and keep moving forward. It's hard to find someone in general and now and I often feel forced to go online with no luck. I going to try to do activities or find groups of people in hopes I can meet other ppl who like the same things as me. I have no secrets but i wont get noticed my anyone staying in my house so i woild say just grt our there and generally socialize. Good luck out there I hope you find your wifey some day soon.

Title	Where can I go as a high value man to meet high quality women (wifey material) or is online dating the only option?
Author	Chris_P_Bacon_Jr
Upvotes	18
Comments	81
Date	October 28, 2022 8:32 PM UTC (3 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/yfzs8b/where_can_i_go_as_a_high_value_man_to_meet_high/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/seduction/where-can-i-go-as-a-high-value-man-to-meet-high.1247538 https://theredarchive.com/post/1247538

Comments