There are multiple increasing compliance tests w.r.t. having sex with a woman you just met.

One of the toughest compliance tests is getting back to your place. Its a big step from being in bar/club, chatting, flirting, dancing, kissing - to saying "come back to my place". "Come back to my place" is codeword for sex and many ASD triggers kick in.

"Netflix and chill" become a trope. Why? Because it was super effective. Everyone loves watching some top tier tv. It was ultra effective before it was a meme because (1) You could only watch Netflix at someones home, (2) talking about a TV show then transitioning to "we should watch it together" was super easy, and (3) watching Netflix is non-sexual so no ASD.

"Netflix and chill" was a decentralized discovery by fuckbois in the dating world. Tens of thousands of men independently found a local minima in an important cost function. It was not pumped out by any centralised PUA authority. Fuckbois everywhere came across it by chance or reverse engineering (less likely), then they told their friends, and the girls told their girl friends.

As a result the phrase "Netflix and chill" rapidly became synonmyous with sex. If you used it now you would be either laughed at or the girl would be insulted. Its a faux pas. You might even talk about watching Black Bird on Apple TV+ together and she will shit test you with "Are you asking to Netflix and chill?". Clue: saying "Black Bird is on Apple TV+ not Netflix" wont help you bro

What can you learn from this?

You should increase your conversion rate on the hardest most critical point of failure - taking a girl home after everything else has been established (attraction, comfort, youve kissed, talked and connected and vibed etc). You should have a plausible deniable excuse to get back to yours so it doesnt feel slutty for her to accept. So that when she tells her friends of the story of how it just happened she never went from just kissing a guy in a venue to Just Sex. Solutions to this obstacle are:

  • Live super central near a first date location. As a few minutes as possible away from date location. <2 minutes is very helpful. <10 minutes is borderline essential. And live a <30 minute Uber away from a club.

  • Have non sexual activities at your place. If she smokes weed its a non brainer (Ive never used this) as you smoke weed in private places. My friend has a hot tub and sauna at his place but IMO thats too sexual IMO.

Years ago my flatmate had an electronic drumkit and I remember getting many dates back by talking about how her body moved so rhythmically when dancing then transitioning it into talking about drumming, then telling her I can teach her the drums in just 10 minutes. That was great and I didnt realise why it worked at the time - I was just following my gut.

My advice to you is to have 1-3 unique interesting activities/activities at your home. It could be a great view from your balcony and you can sell that view. It could be you are into plants and have some exotic plants. You could have ghost peppers in your fridge. You could have miracle berries and sour food in your fridge if she is a foodie. You could have rare wine (but going back to just drink more will get ASD, you need appropriate context). You could have a Pelaton if she is athletic. Find some things that are congruent both to you and the women you are into and that are congruent to have in your home.

Afterword: The example I gave was I used an electronic drumkit. I have many others Ive used but trying to keep this short. I've never played drums in all my life. Every time I took a date home with that excuse by the time we arrived: I would reframe as pretending they were going to teach me drums and I would accuse them of leading me on - they would be impressed by this audaciousness. I would look at them smiling and fake some facial expressions of outrage. They would shit test me then I would just kiss them. Whatever she might say afterwards I would simply respond with "I really wanted to take you home" and provided you had sex its all good. If you dont have sex then you fuck up big but I never really experienced that. You need a lot of experience with context and which rules you can and cant break so I dont recommend having fake-reasons-to-come-back to 90%+ of you. I only mention this so you can infer what matters and what doesnt. Have a plausible deniable reason thats real. Ultimately the obstacle is how she can come back to yours with plausible deniability that its reasons other than sex; then once you are there as long as you are super comfortable (never block exits or pressure her to stay or creepy shit) and she is into you... the rest is trivial.