I Can Never Get Second Dates

MO_drps_knwldg · 2022-06-21T18:40:34+00:00

Although it was kind of bitchy, the girl who you had sex with gave you an important insight. They probably find you boring. You’re not sparking something in them, you’re probably playing it too safe and not being polarizing enough.

I would recommend a two part date if the vibe is there. Instead of just having drinks. Get a drink, then go for a walk somewhere. Walking and having a conversation is bonding. It sounds like you’re having trouble bonding with these women.

Or do a date where a light activity is involved. This is a way of bonding and having a shared experience: play pool, miniature golf, throw darts, axe throwing (sounds intense but is light), then grab something to eat. Be more bold and unapologetic with who you are

ShiftReasonable4066 · 2022-06-21T19:08:52+00:00

It can depend where youre meeting these girls off from. But usually the problem is never with you. Majority of girls arent going to come back to "your place." The majority of girls wont see you again after a meet up. The majority of girls arent even going to be repeat customers after a hook up

I guess the only problem you have is that you dont understand that. But thats how it works. So you shouldnt be taking any blame. Theres really not much you can do about it. Its out of ypur control. So hopefully that gives you a piece of mind instead

To answer more of your misconception. How date 2s and hook ups actually happen is in waves. You have to give it months or a year. Then out of nowhere you'll see a lot of girls just suddenly all want to hook up with you. A lot of them also will put themselves on standby for you for that second date

You have to look at it in the macro. These things fluctuate. And it always balances out

There's guys that say that you have to "work on yourself. Having real value." But thats further from the truth. That's not even close whats actually happening. Its never a repudiation of you. And thinking like that means you're not a confident guy. Youre that insecure you have to prove yourself to a random girl by working on yourself in your own time

poorwardobservations · 2022-06-22T02:38:35+00:00

You sound boring as shit. Here’s what you do. Fuck your life. Call your local army recruiter. Tell him you want an option 40 contract. Do that for a few years. Get the fuck out of the army.

Then try again and a report back.

Okcurveball · 2022-06-22T00:48:38+00:00

Just to give my two cents. You mentioned you just talk about mundane shit on your dates. This is not going to make anyone want to fuck you.

You have to talk about things that spark emotion. If a girl is even the least bit attractive, she goes on her fair share of dates, and unfortunately for them, most of these dates are with boring guys who talk about boring things. However, this is fortunate for you because you can be the guy that doesn’t talk about boring shit.

Girls are way more in tune with their emotional side. They aren’t going to sleep with a guy just because he’s hot, some will, but most won’t. They need to FEEL something. They need to feel attracted. You can spark this by talking about interesting topics, touching her in a socially calibrated way and escalating this as the night goes on. Saying things that spark emotion and show that you’re interested in her as an person and not JUST someone that you wanna fuck. Girls like sex too, but there needs to be an emotional connection for them to feel good about fucking a guy.

I’ll give you something I do that works for me on dates. I play the “question game.” If you follow James Tusk you may have heard him talk about this before. Basically it’s not a real game, but a way to 1. Not run out of things to talk about 2. Lead an interesting conversation and 3. Lead that conversation to sexual or more intimate topics.

Basically you each have a chance to ask each other questions. The other person answers truthfully, and then answers their own question and then the other person asks the question, and it just keeps going like that. You can ask pretty much anything you want and the conversations can get pretty interesting. Start off by asking normal questions to build a little comfort, then I like to ask things like “what are your favorite smells?” “what are your favorite places in the world?” then as you go the conversation just rolls on. If the conversation dies out, just ask another interesting question, or if it’s her turn, she will. You can lead the conversation to sexual topics and throughout the date be touching her every time you make a point or make her laugh. Hope this helps.

If you wanna know more interesting questions to ask, just let me know.

Designer_Ad_881 · 2022-06-22T01:49:06+00:00

I usually troll girls (treat her like if she is your annoying little sister). Just be an idiot, you are too serious and boring jeez. She would have netflix and chill alone if she wanted to be bored. She want out for entertainement.

Sometimes i bring girls to a strip club but would not advise if you do not know that area well.

Title	I Can Never Get Second Dates
Author	shittyfuckdick
Upvotes	10
Comments	21
Date	June 21, 2022 5:50 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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