Height insecurity in college

changthaiman · 2022-04-02T00:01:24+00:00

Stop watching Tik tok. That Shit is way over exaggerated

Impressive_Sport_713 · 2022-04-01T23:18:01+00:00

Its all in your head. Im 6ft and tower every couple for the majority of the time anywhere im at. And theyre with some amazing looking girls. No one cares about height. Its just a plus like with girls having big breasts

Lord_Bendtner6 · 2022-04-01T23:50:07+00:00

Stop thinking what other people think about you. You are yourself and be confident in your own skin.

VDKay · 2022-04-02T00:01:24+00:00

And I can't really approach women the same height or taller since I know they're looking for taller than that

This is a hell of a generalization. Also, how do you know that?

iclap2fap · 2022-04-01T23:17:59+00:00

If it makes you feel better theres guys that are tall and fit with small penises and women cant get jiggy with that then there’s guys that are shorter with big packages laying down the pipe boosts my ego everytime lmao 😂😂🦍

ImpulsiveTeen · 2022-04-01T23:47:55+00:00

doesn’t matter

HunterOk3550 · 2022-04-02T00:40:07+00:00

Im a very tall north European woman, and I tell you that majority of North German and Scandinavian guys fortunately are below 5'11, my husband is 5'11,5 and the tallest I'd ever been living with. I'm 6'8 and find that especially very tall guys feel intimidated bye my height, while no shorter men or avarage height guys have an issue with my height. I love to dance and chat with men way shorter than myself, and I'd thought our girls ( who are ekstremly tall too)to try to mainly date avarage and shorter men, after all men shorter than us are by far the most attractive and coolest guys whe it's very difficult to become attached to talker guys, they seems to lack confidence and personality. It's a thing I'd noticed to be very general, as most of my also tall girlfriends have the same experience, and tend to date shorter guys too.

Nullroute127 · 2022-04-02T00:57:31+00:00

Some girls are genuine height supremacists and will categorically refuse men below a certain height. Some are height preference, where they prefer tall(er) men, but would consider a man who has other things to offer. Some women it doesn't even register on their radar whatsoever.

The first category is actually pretty rare.

What you should try at some point is just hitting on girls that are 5'11+. I'm the same height as you. Most of them the fact that you're a short(er) man causes you to register on their radar. They instantly assign you confidence and charisma points. I've had women say they wish they were shorter so that their dating pool of men was larger. Some of them feel like only well above average men talk to them, and because those men are so sought after they can't get a committed relationship from them. So, many are VERY open to shorter men with the guts to talk to them. Which, is unfortunately for most men bad for them, but you armed with this knowledge opens a world of opportunity.

If you need motivation, just think of the legs for days. =D

Also my mom is two inches taller than my dad, and yet here I am. Shoot your shot.

CompetitionFair7686 · 2022-04-02T01:00:09+00:00

Dude, that’s because you don’t understand how the game works.

Yes, height matters to some extent but the point of game is to compensate for those kind of “flaws” by having a confident attitude and humorous personality that distracts girls from those flaws and instead puts their focus in how they are feeling around you.

What matters most with a girl is the feelings you make them feel, if you make them laugh, if you make them feel good when they are with you they will look past your height…

And yes women initially will shit test you about your height, to see if you are comfortable in your own skin, or if you have an inferiority complex, and take yourself too seriously.

They wanna see if you easily get embarrassed of yourself, or if you just accept yourself completely to the point where this things do not affect your vibe at all.

You just need to keep the frame, aka the narrative, that your height is actually desirable no matter what women say, and that it’s not something you should be embarrassed of.

She: “I don’t date short guys”
You: “Well, don’t lose hope. One day you’ll be lucky enough to date one”
She: “Aren’t you a bit short?”
You: “Sorry I can’t hear you from down here, bend over and tell me again”
She: “I said if you aren’t too short for your age”
You: “I know right!! thank you so much!!! I’m sexy and i know it!! (start singing the song)
She: “Sorry you are not my type, i only date taller guys”
You: “Good i was scared you were gonna propose to me”
She: “Why are you so short?”
You: Well, the school priest warn me that if i went out with girls, i would never grow tall, so maybe he was right”
She: “I just happen to like tall guys”
You: “Girls only want about one thing, and it’s fucking disgusting” (imitate a feminine tone of voice and say this line in an exaggerated way to show you are not taking it seriously and that you are just choosing to laugh and joke about it).

Notice what all of this answers have in common?

They are not reactive, they don’t let her set the narrative of “being short = something bad”…

Instead you are the one setting your own narrative that what you are is sexy, desirable, attractive, and something to be proud of.

You are convinced no matter what she says that you are attractive the way you are and that you are the prize. And you never let her affect your mood, you put your ego aside and show that it won’t affect your mood or happiness no matter what she says.

This is game and this attitude can easily compensate your “flaws”.

2022-04-02T01:19:07+00:00

If you are above 5'5, you should not be worried about your height.

Nemlangnese · 2022-04-02T01:38:48+00:00

Stop caring about your height. Even if you don’t talk about it, your insecurities will start to show which is a big turnoff for women.

If it makes you feel better, I’ll give you a personal anecdote. I’m 5’3” and in a relationship. Prior to that, I had a hookup with a woman taller than me and talked to a couple other girls.

If you consume the wrong media, the heightism shit will get to your head. You just need more confidence and self-esteem and less of the comparing-yourself-to-others BS. Additionally, you can make up for your lack of height through other means like the gym if it still bothers you.

It’s better to be a short dude with a good personality than a tall guy with a dry af personality. Good luck.

713Alief · 2022-04-02T01:46:08+00:00

In words of Steph is cold “if your short as fuck g you gotta get swole” 5’7 im 5’6 not swole but know I should be

igotthechinesevirus · 2022-04-02T00:13:27+00:00

I got me an amazing pair of boots (Thursday boot company) and it turns out they make me a couple of cm taller, so find some discreet shoes that give you a boost, maybe Korean shoes or I don’t know. Asian shoes in general.

BangaiiWatchman · 2022-04-02T00:11:33+00:00

Get some elevator shoes

witchminx · 2022-04-02T01:58:43+00:00

i'm almost 5'7", and in college i dated a range of guys from 5'4" to 6'7". height doesn't really matter much to plenty of women! not all women, but really, plenty of women.

TheCollector228 · 2022-04-02T02:02:13+00:00

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Stujitsu2 · 2022-04-02T02:16:47+00:00

Two of the best guys I know with women are 5'4. I am 5'6. I got a hot bartenders number she is like 6'. A girl I used to work with a while back had a crush on me she 5'11".

Since bartender was somewhat recent ill share story. I see guy getting her number. I wait. I walk and say did you get yourself a date? Nah it was a fake number. Would you give me a fake number (smile)? Ask me and find out! Whats your favorite food? Sushi. Dinner then? Smile...I'll have dinner with you. Great lets exchange numbers!

Yes some women are absolutely going to reject you because you are short. But I know a male model who got rejected by a hot friend of mine because he didn't have any tattoos so who gives a fuck. Its a numbers game for us all!

ShameAffectionate15 · 2022-04-02T02:48:59+00:00

this mindset became popular because of dating apps. Its not reality. Your saying girls care alot right? Did anyone tell you that??? Nope right? So how is it coming into your head? Social media. Im not a tall guy but i do better than most guys and that includes 6'3-4 guys. Some girls dont even acknowledge them around me. I think its a preference for their "ideal" man.

CocoBabeNYC · 2022-04-02T02:53:06+00:00

What difference does it make? You have already dry blade up your mind you are worthless.

Eastern_Meaning2278 · 2022-04-02T02:59:15+00:00

If it’s really bad and these are girls at the club that your just trying to get with for a night you can get shoe inserts that add an inch or two

TheCollector228 · 2022-04-02T03:35:21+00:00

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Title	Height insecurity in college
Author	TheCollector228
Upvotes	17
Comments	61
Date	April 1, 2022 11:12 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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