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CompetitionFair7686 · 2022-03-13T23:49:48+00:00

You don’t need to wait 3 days to avoid coming across as desperate.

Whether you are desperate or not is not based on you texting her that day or the next is whether she leaves you on seen all the time and you keep texting her even though she ain’t replying.

It’s perfectly fine if you text same day, she won’t judge you like “oh he didn’t wait 3 days to text me… I guess he is desperate” people don’t think like that.

Also, your conversations with those girls were most likely dull, and generic. I can tell based on that message you send them. If your text is like that your conversations with girls are probably similar, boring, dull, humourless and unexciting.

That would explain also why your conversations with them lead nowhere.

Sawt0othGrin · 2022-03-14T01:36:14+00:00

Man toooooons of women will give their phone numbers out(real or otherwise) because they don't want to come off as rude. Not every guy handles rejection well. As soon as you're gone though she has no interest in ever actually talking to you. You need to gauge her level of interest in you when you're talking to her. If she isn't in the "F*** yes!!" Category of interested just assume she's a no.

Calamity__Bane · 2022-03-13T23:51:03+00:00

a) Bar numbers are meaningless, the point of a bar or club is to close women on the spot.

b) If you’re going to get a number from the bar, pair it with a follow-up night out, and start texting either that exact evening, or the next day. Don’t wait days at a time to text back.

Lord_Augastus · 2022-03-14T02:16:01+00:00

If you dont connect on anything, and just get the numbers from a basic open and got some numbers, then yeah...ofc they eithe rgave you fake numbers, or they didnt get anything form you to even remember who you were you texted back...

The idea is to latch at least one common thing, you know, to just not come off as a pick up artist, or a guy that is playing the numbers game to get laid....

People with covid had a lot of time to think about what they want, and people dont want to be alone for the most part, and girls get guys constantly orbiting them anyway, if you dont provide something other than presence and a number, then ofc they are not going to text back, you said so yourself, you are average looking.

Try to get your social skills up, leard to get to know people quicker, try to share something of yourself. SO that they can know and remember you, and you have some connection..and yes it can work from quick interaction... Just be upfront about your intentions and dont lie to yourself. You are playing the numbers game already, at least improve so you find people you can connect with.

Important-Quote9544 · 2022-03-13T23:10:28+00:00

You shouldn't be waiting 4 to 8 days to reach out. They will forget you by then.

Important-Quote9544 · 2022-03-13T23:35:40+00:00

Cold approach most ineffective way to meet women.

MegaManXanax · 2022-03-13T23:47:04+00:00

Because you met them at a bar. Text them the next day. Expect nothing though because these girls meet tons of guys every weekend and probably go out just to meet guys. Finding one that actually wants to date a guy she met at a bar is a crapshoot.

GKoala · 2022-03-13T23:13:47+00:00

Always always follow up with a text the night you get their number with just your name and a smiley face or something simple.

This serves two purposes, it keeps you in their mind and gives them a second opportunity to learn your name because could've forgot and this saves them the embarrassment of having to ask should they keep talking to you

cronasminate · 2022-03-14T05:18:56+00:00

Lol 3 days. I don't even remember what I ate for breakfast 3 days ago. The whole 3 day rule was back when dinosaurs roamed the earth. It's a fast-paced world out there.

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