Going to my first date ever tomorrow

ArtofWar2020 · 2022-02-04T22:31:46+00:00

Don’t forget to keep it light and fun, and escalate verbally and physically.

Don’t think about your height, she knows how tall you are and already accepted it

caysi0207 · 2022-02-04T20:39:04+00:00

Dont put the p on a pedestal. Be yourself, do lots of listening and nodding. :)

AloofusMaximus · 2022-02-04T20:46:06+00:00

So first off, congratulations!

Now as for the important stuff... Well just have a good time. Don't put too much pressure on yourself.

ACTUALLY listen to what she says, learn about what makes her interesting.

It really doesn't have to be more complicated than that. You're just spending some time with her, to figure out whether you want to spend more time with her.

BlinkinparkKrasus · 2022-02-04T21:16:15+00:00

*OBLIGATORY WALL OF TEXT WARNING* *Thanks for taking the effort to read! <3*

Hey, the fact that she's taller than you shouldn't be an obstacle at all.. in fact, with a bit of creativity it can even be a way for you to show off your sense of humor, throw in some light teasing about it, without projecting insecurities about it (if any, of course!)...

In a cheeky manner and with a confident smile, you could say something like "You know, as I was getting ready tonight, I was debating myself whether I should bring a little footstool with me" - say this the first moment you guys meet up, when she approaches to hug you (obviously this is just how I envision the situation cause I'm very physical with most girls that ever reach the dating stage - by that point I've built up sufficient trust to get rid of all the social awkwardness when touching is involved; maybe she's not the hugging type herself, you'll need to judge this for yourself, either way, the line stands on its own).

Then again, you could come up with some of your own stuff too, just make sure not to overdo it, cause harping on the same joke premise too much may cause her to suspect you're insecure about it. In the same way, if she's too forward and asks questions about your D, one simple joke with an "average size" premise will make her laugh and displays your confidence in your own body, two-three in a row and she might suspect you're insecure about it.

Keep in mind that any information she shares with you can (and should) be used to keep the conversation going - and if you can pull this off while throwing in some cute/fun story to go with it - the better. Just make sure you don't do MOST of the talking total throughout the night (some people say you should only do 10% of the talking, but that's a bullshit number, it comes down to personal intuition of the situation) - if she likes you, she'll be the one to share a lot about herself, and that's good.

As for date ideas, you'll have to figure that stuff out on your own, brainstorm ideas, tailor them to your style and take her where you'd most like to go with her. Never ask a girl on a first date where SHE'D like to go. Be confident enough that your company is enough for her to enjoy spending time with you no matter where you decide would be fun to go with her. Personally, I go with something goofy and original - I've had tons of fun where I simply took a girl out for a walk by the river bank, and eventually I'd talk her into having a stone-skipping contest with me (think about it, how many first dates did she have that were this original??) This gives us ample opportunities to bond together, to laugh, to talk/get to know each other, and to tease one another...

I've already touched on this for a bit (pun totally intended!), but physical contact is what I place the most importance on. Whenever I'm on a date and really interested in a girl, I make sure to place myself in situations and/or make up funny ways that would remove all the awkwardness from us touching one another. For example - we could come up to a street crossing and I'd take a goofy, deep bow, say something like "Milady, allow me this honor of walking you across the street" as I hold my hand out... Silly? Yes; Funny? Check; And yet, by itself it can be considered awkward/crazy enough that it would remove all the potential awkwardness that her giving me her hand to walk her across a tiny street would present. I hope you're catching my drift here. And if you're the more bold type and not shy about going one step further, you can also try to put on the silliest "blind person" act just as you reach the intersection and address her as a total stranger (this little act again is something meant to make her chuckle at least) and kindly ask her to walk YOU across the street; as she does it, compliment her on being "such a gentleman!" I'm not going to go too much into detail why this works like a charm (especially if she's already into you in the first place), but just trust me (a random person on the internet lol) on this.

Also, while I'm on the subject of physical contact, don't hesitate to brainstorm ways to make shorter contacts with her every once in a while all throughout your date - stuff like briefly putting your hand on her shoulder if you're trying to make some kind of a point in your story (especially if said story is emotionally charged), or even innocent things like high-fiving her if she makes a point you agree with / or she agrees with the point you're making. Again, if you're not the shy type, you can also ask her to use her fingernails to gently scritch that sensitive inner part of your forearm (works best if you're watching a movie together, or some other private setting); and after a while, reverse roles, in a silly manner tell her you're gonna show her how to do it properly, and then you start scritching her forearm... There's a certain hierarchy to these types of touches, I'm not going to go into detail about that, mainly cause it would make my comment even longer, but more importantly cause I'll assume you have the common sense NOT to start your date by asking her to scratch your forearms.

Good luck on your date bro! Sorry for the wall of text; hope it helps!

Subject-Craft5870 · 2022-02-04T20:40:19+00:00

Oh man! Congrats! And dating a tall girl! I love tall women! So attractive! Be yourself. She’s obviously attracted to you so that’s awesome ! Congrats buddy! Thing is your a couple years older so that’s cool - she’s a little taller. It all evens out lol. Just be yourself. Be confident. Did you plant the date or did she? Who got the museum / Restaraunt thing planned? Your the man, so gently lead , take her hand and walk with her and just keep the conversation natural!

neondaroo · 2022-02-05T02:41:45+00:00

Have fun. Have fun. Have fun. Make sure she has fun. When you talk to her, make it about her and learning about her as much as you let her get to know you and get comfortable with you. You're both young, awkwardness is gonna happen. She has no idea wtf she's doing either. Enjoy how new all of this will be for the both of you. Don't be embarrassed by weird/awkward stuff, it's just cute moments you're both sharing together and will bond over about.

Euphoric_Clock9394 · 2022-02-04T21:04:37+00:00

Stop the height makes this even better! I wish you the best of luck:))

2022-02-04T22:01:52+00:00

Good luck bro. Don't clam up like I did on my first date with my gf.

namelesspayless · 2022-02-05T02:09:48+00:00

Quick question, did you meet her in school classes or like acting classes outside of school?

little_asian_man_89 · 2022-02-05T02:39:18+00:00

Well bloody done mate.

If you ever think that height is an issue if you want to kiss, a thing I did was to get yourself and the woman lying down.

Last time I did that, was on the second date and we were lying in a garden bed looking at the stars.

She was much taller than me, and this helped with my initial insecurities.

thurmanmermen · 2022-02-05T09:13:23+00:00

Many people including myself tend to put unneeded pressure on themselves by thinking patterns such as:

“I wonder if she will find me interesting”

“Will she wanna go on a second date with me?”

Instead, put yourself FIRST. Turn the questions around, like this:

“Do I find her interesting?”

“Do I wanna go on a second date with her?”

A lot of people give too much of a shit what their date thinks of them. Whatever they think if you, it doesn’t matter, because it’s out of your control. What you should really do is just have a good time getting to know her, then deciding whether or not you vibe enough with her to ask her out again. Have fun my dude

79914022 · 2022-02-05T13:34:15+00:00

Wait isn't she a minor?

Altruistic_Flow_9253 · 2022-02-05T06:31:55+00:00

Don’t be afraid to break the touch barrier bro, do it in smooth ways for instance if she’s wearing a nice dress be like “Wow that’s a nice dress” while you put your hands on her hips and look at her down & up. Little things like that. Don’t be afraid to push her slightly, pull her close playfully, or shake her playfully while saying something the likes of “What are we gonna do with you (insert name)”. I say this cause touch barrier can go so overlooked at times

labyrinthlilith · 2022-02-04T21:05:07+00:00

That sounds like a really fun first date! Just be yourself. She’s probably worrying and nervous the same as you so just keep that in the back of your mind from the beginning. Be polite, open the car door for her, smile a lot(in a natural way lol), make eye contact, try to hold her hand. Be interested in whatever she’s talking about or at least try to seem like you are.

I don’t think it would be too forward to kiss her since you’ve been talking quite a bit. I wouldn’t try to suck her face, maybe just a peck on the cheek or lips and see how she responds. Good luck! Come back and update us!!!

2022-02-05T01:01:58+00:00

Ask her questions, and really listen to the answers. The #1 complaint of women is that men talk all the time about themselves, and don't listen. Don't do that.

classroomdaydreamer · 2022-02-05T05:17:18+00:00

Congrats on the first date. Look at is as a learning experience, and if you guys end up clicking, that's an added bonus! You'll have many more dates in your life, so don't take it so seriously :)

incognito3107 · 2022-02-05T05:53:42+00:00

Get to know each other, escalate touch, don't elaborate about emotionless bullshit, do something unusual together, tease her a bit, lead the entire meeting, stay grounded and confident.

Sup3rHD · 2022-02-05T06:29:12+00:00

Dont be too nice, be dominant, dont treath her like a friend, touch her a little (shoulder, hips ), Chill and look her in the eye

blackchivalry · 2022-02-05T11:43:59+00:00

Just fuck the lights out of her Small guys with lots of testosterone

Fulk0 · 2022-02-05T12:17:35+00:00

Ask questions. People love talking about themselves. This is good advice not only for dates, but also for meeting people in general.

Don't stress it out. Be yourself, don't play a character. Be genuine.

Don't be a creep, but if you like her make that clear. Compliment her about her hair, or what shes wearing, or how funny she is... If you don't make any kind of move she might think you are just friendly.

Just have fun. If it doesn't work out don't stress about it, you will have other opportunities. She has a date too and she probably also has some kind of expectations and insecurities about it.

Robofrogg1 · 2022-02-05T12:43:37+00:00

Number one thing: Don’t sweat it!! You’re going to mess up. No one is born knowing how to date and that’s ok. Just laugh, make her laugh, and don’t take yourself too seriously. As long as you don’t make anything a big deal, she won’t, either.

Number 2: Woman are emotion based. She will associate how she feels with YOU. So be cheerful, funny, optimistic, and don’t speak negatively or complain.

You can forget everything else and just follow those TWO rules, and you’ll be far ahead of almost any other guy your age. Have fun and good luck!

Disturbed_Aidan · 2022-02-05T14:57:53+00:00

Good for you. I wish I could say I was doing the same thing.

Mysterious_Volume_32 · 2022-02-05T15:27:09+00:00

Be bold, grab her ass

Theory_Agile · 2022-02-05T15:41:00+00:00

Definitely kiss her at the end of the night or if you find a nice moment with some eye contact, thats a big difference in height so dont be afrad to kiss her on a staircase, say something " now that i got you here" while being eye level with her and plant a kiss on her. If she for some reason doesn't reciprocate its all good bro as a man you build a tolerance to rejection we all get rejected 9/10 times especially us ugly ones haha. Good luck post a update

dametime223 · 2022-02-05T21:16:09+00:00

How did it go?

Title	Going to my first date ever tomorrow
Author	KevinABV63
Upvotes	195
Comments	67
Date	February 4, 2022 8:37 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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